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Saturday, June 27, 2009

I went shopping with s.i.l. yesterday. All she did was whine how fat she is at a whopping 135 lbs. I love her to death and I know she doesn't realize it but it makes me feel horrible. Then today I went looking for shorts or a skirt. Everytime I looked in the mirror I felt like a fat cow. I didn't realize how much I hate my own body. I bought shorts last year before vacation and none of them fit. My husband and I have had sex in over a year. I can't help but think that it's because of my weight gain. He says he still finds me sexy but he never does anything to show it. He buys stuff for me but that's not what I need. I know he loves me but I hate the way I look. I have nerve damage and it hurts tremendously when I excercies. Hell it hurts when I do anything. I am just going to makes sure I take enough meds and push through. emoticon

  
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SFLEMING3 6/29/2009 7:13PM

    Good to see you blogging again!

Some people know how to say the most hurtful things - sometimes on purpose and other times because they just didn't THINK! I always count shopping as walking exercise!

Just concentrate on the baby steps and stick out your tongue at your s.i.l. emoticon
SF

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ALEXSGIRL1 6/27/2009 7:41PM

    it's easy to get down on yourself but you shouldn't you have a medical reason for the way you look. your husband understands and you should more.just because someone is on the heavy side does not mean that they can't dress nice and let the love shine through. your sister is insensitive . maybe you husband is afraid he will hurt you. you have to lead the way.you can learn to love yourself more, it takes practice. you and your husband deserve it. emoticon emoticon

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FROMTHICK2TONED 6/27/2009 6:00PM

    I understand how you feel. Don't you hate it when friends or family complain, "I'm need to lose some weight" or "OMG I'm so fat", It's like damn, then what do you think of me! Just stay focused & if you need some support or motivation just HOLLA!!! lol

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I've been busy!!!

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Well I haven't been here for awhile. I have been helping with my daughter's play. Working the mics, getting people on stage when needed, fixing makeup you name it I did it!! I have posted some pictures here but most are on my flicker account. Here's the link

www.flickr.com/photos/27720895@N08/s
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MAHHCHU 8/17/2008 11:21PM

    That makes me miss being a teenager. I think that I would have enjoyed it so much more if given a second chance!

I hope the play went well!

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what should I do??

Saturday, August 09, 2008

I have been watching my weight for almost 3 mths now. I have been using this site for 2 or 3 weeks. (could be more I lose track of time) I haven't changed my weight in 3 mths. I weigh the same as I did when I was eating crap and not watching as I do know when I make sure that I stay within my calorie reccomendations. My husband is making sure I don't binge more than once a week. Should I talk to a doctor? I had my thyroid a couple of years back it everything came back fine. I just find it frustrating I am eating better, I feel better but nothing weight wise. I know I need to start working out but you would think that cutting back on calories and eating healthier foods would have helped me lose at least 2-3 lbs

  
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MEMRYLAPS 8/12/2009 7:00AM

    Adding exercise is probably the ideal way to go, but I also imagine you face a lot of the same challenges as I do, between the neurostimulator and the pain that causes us to need them to begin with.

I would suggest taking a good hard look at that once-a-week binge.

I used to have what I called my "Friday-off." I told myself that if I allowed myself to eat one "junk" meal per week, then it would help fend off the cravings. I also made it contingent on sticking to my plan all week. I also turned it into my "family time," so I had it all frame up in my own mind as positive thing all the way around - quality family time and my weekly "prize" - just a grand celebration!

My favorite place to go for junk is Sonic, so we'd go there every Friday night and I had my "standard order" - a Super Sonic cheeseburger with no tomato, Sonic size onion rings, a large strawberry lime aid, and a regular banana split with no nuts.

I was tracking breakfast and lunch on Fridays, but leaving dinner off my tracker - probably because a part of me knew my "prize" was not as positive as I was talking it up in my head and I really didn't want to see the actual numbers on the screen in front of me.

One day, on a lark, I actually looked up all the values on the Sonic website and put my standard order into SP. I knew that binge was bad, but when the numbers were in front of me.. well, I just really had no idea! That single meal was costing me 3,054 calories and 180 grams of fat. On top of my proper breakfast and lunch, it brought my total "Friday-off" intake to ~3750 calories.

*Everything* I accomplished by sticking to my plan during the whole week was wasted on *one* binge meal, on *one* day. Essentially, every week, one pound I lost was immediately offset in one single meal. Definitely not the "reward" I had convinced myself it was.. emoticon

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MAHHCHU 8/10/2008 8:50PM

    I know that the scale not moving can be frustrating, but I'd like to point out that you said, "...I am eating better, I feel better but...". I didn't really put the two together until I started keeping track of WHAT I ate.

Everyone has given you some great suggestions on the lbs. side, but I suggest that you focus on how you FEEL. At the end of the day, if YOU feel better, than who is your scale to tell you otherwise?

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NEWKATHY4LIFE 8/9/2008 11:57PM

    I agree with Deuce, exercise is definately the key, I do the same as well, I will remain the same weight no matter how much I change the way I eat, if I don't move!!

Got to move it, move it!!
Good-Luck!!
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Kat

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DEUCE119 8/9/2008 7:00PM

    EXERCISE-EXERCISE-EXERCISE- NO MATTER WHAT KIND OF EXERCISE YOU CHOOSE, IT WILL START THINGS MOVING. CARDIO WILL BURN FAT AND STRENGTH TRAINING WILL TONE THE MUSCLES. START OFF GRADUAL AND WORK YOUR WAY UP. DON'T BURN YOUR SELF OUT ON JUST ONE EXERCISE.

I THINK IF YOU GIVE IT A TRY YOU WILL BE SURPRISED. READ THE ARTICLES THAT SPARK HAS ON CARDIO AND WEIGHTS AND LEARN WHAT YOU CAN. JUST START OFF WALKING AROUND THE CORNER IF YOU CAN. WALK FROM ONE ROOM TO ANOTHER ANYTHING TO GET MOVEMENT STARTED.

YOU PUT ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF ANOTHER AND SOON YOU'LL BE WALKIN' OUT THE DOOR!!! THAT WAS FROM ONE OF MY FAVORITE SANTA CARTOONS. ONE OF THE OLD ONES.

YOU CAN DO THIS , DON'T GIVE UP. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WHATEVERHOBB 8/9/2008 4:43AM

    I think adding in a little exercise could spark up your metabolism as well.

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SPALISA1 8/9/2008 4:12AM

    I used to have a great deal of trouble losing weight until I finally realized I wasn't eating enough! My body was hanging on to every calorie I took in because I wasn't giving myself enough to live on. Now, I eat all day and I have lost 41 pounds since January. I'm not saying my diet is perfect, I do have bad days and sometimes suffer the frustration of not having that scale move for days and days but for the most part, I'm doing pretty good. I suggest you see if you are eating enough of the right foods to rev up your metabolism and provide energy. If you would like, I will gladly send you a sample list of my diet for you to try. I don't eat anything fancy, can't afford it, but I try every day to give my body the right nutrients...Lisa

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Tropic Thunder

Saturday, August 09, 2008

I'm sure most of you have heard about the new movie coming out with Jack Black, Robert Downy Jr, & Ben Stiller. Well E! did an episode of True Hollywood Story like it wasn't a movie but actual people. Not as Jack Black but whatever character he played in the movie. (There is one guy called Alpo Chino) It was pretty funny. I can't sleep so here I am watching crappy tv and blogging here. I need to think of some of the songs that I had on my other ipod. My husband is going to put them on for me. Crap it took me like 6 mths to figure out how to use my ipod. Goddess only knows how long it will take me to figure out this one!!! I won 100 pts the other day from the log in spin wheel thing so I bought me an on line mp3 player.
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WHATEVERHOBB 8/9/2008 4:14AM

    Ha ha.. Cool. It took me a while to figure out my Ipod but now I know how to use it very well. I think I will wait to rent Tropic Thunder I don't know how much I will like it.

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My sweet hubby

Friday, August 08, 2008

It was so sweet of my husband. I lost my ipod (I think it fell out at my sons soccer practice) So even though our anniversary isn't until Wednesday he gave me my gifts this week. he got me a new mp3 player and the last session of the X-Files. I don't know what to get him!!! He says he doesn't need anything but I want to give him something he always thinks of me.

  
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DEUCE119 8/9/2008 7:04PM

    GIVE HIM A DAY THAT IS ALL HIS. A DAY FOR HIM TO DO WHATEVER HE WANTS. GIVE HIM A 'ME' DAY!

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