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A collection of some findings

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Hello, Spark Community. These are some things I've been learning as I continue on my journey. I'm so grateful because I feel I learn something new everyday. How and where do you learn?

I try to remember that every step is a step in the right direction. May God keep your path illuminated as you travel onward.

Shine on, friends.

...Findings to encourage Love in every day of my life...

*Balance, always.

*Intuition is a gift from God. Trust it, and let Love reveal itself.

*Health is beauty, beauty is Health.

*Perfection is not a goal worth having.

*Gratitude is always worth expressing.

*Respect the process. Keep going, it will get easier.

*Think toward Love, think away from despair.

*Be generous with Love.

*The only bravery in this world is the choice to Love.

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IRON_RESOLVE 4/29/2011 9:05AM

    Wow, all of this was very powerful. I have copied it and pasted it into my journal, so I can refer to it again.
I am keeping insights that inspire, and today, I will post
*Respect the process. Keep going, it will get easier.'
In fact I think it will become my mantra.

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It's not about the weight...

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Think we're on SparkPeople just to lose weight?

We're not.

It's possible that some people are, and that is fine. We are worth every inch of ourselves as individuals as we travel on our own journeys. But chances are, you're on SP because to you (as to me), a struggle with weight loss is the result of something much, much deeper.

The most important thing I've learned: it's not about the weight.

Remember that scene in the first 'Sex and the City' movie where Samantha shows up at Charlotte's baby shower, and we get an unflattering shot of Samantha's new (still rather slender) figure? Her friends' faces look aghast, and Samantha reacts with some shock.

They confront her and ask how she could let this happen. I remember being really put off by this scene. 'But she's still skinny!' I thought. This was in 2008, and I was still two years away from my own weight loss success. All I could see was the outside.

Now, however, I get it. Her friends were looking at Samantha as the individual she was. They didn't care about the way she looked. Carrie points out that the weight was symptomatic that something was not right with her dear friend.

So far in 2010, I've lost a total of 30 lbs. None of it came off from a conscious effort to lose weight. The changes I've seen and the success I've had in this particular area of my life have been the result of a strong desire to love myself, and my lifestyle has naturally evolved into a reflection of that. Having been unhappy (and unsuprisingly overweight) for all of my teenage years, I finally decided last spring that my habits of self loathing were not working for me. I simply acknowledged that I wanted to be happier, and I was going to try something else. Now it's November, and it's been a hell of a year.

I can honeslty say that all I did was choose 'yes.' I chose me.

It's not about the weight. My weight loss has been largely incidental. Do I now wear a smaller size? Yes, but that is not the essence of me. I seek to take care of my spirit first and foremost. From there, I make informed choices about food consumption and how to cultivate healthy eating habits that will promote the emergence of my slender self.

My weight loss success has been secondary, however, to accepting that I'm smart, strong, kind, and capable. This acceptance has been the best part. Realizing that I can be exactly who I want to be is a phenomenal gift.

I'm still working on my relationship to food, which has been troubled in the past, but has improved immensely this year. I don't want to feel powerless to it anymore. Period.

Knowing what I want is the key, and what I want is a peaceful balance between mind, body, and soul. If weight loss is the result of that, then fine. We'll get there when we get there.

There are no deadlines here, and there is no template. However, I'm moving to Jordan for four months in January, and I want to understand these issues more before I leave so I'm not dealing with them (or at least I'll know how to deal with them) while I'm abroad.

When I say that we are all beautiful, I mean it, because we have the capacity to love. Love yourself and see what happens.

I can already say that the miraculous awaits you.


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FITGRL124 7/7/2011 8:19AM

    Excellent post! Thank you for sharing!

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    I'm 51 and still struggle with self-image and acceptance. Being an obese child has left it's mark on me, for sure. One day at a time! Thanks for the insightful blog. Pat

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IRON_RESOLVE 7/6/2011 6:43PM

    You know, I come back to this, as I still think it's one of the best posts, on accepting yourself, and allowing the journey to happen. I agree, that no deadline, and no template is a good plan, so you regroup as necessary, and allow the changes to settle in.
Thanks for sharing. I look forward to more of your insights.

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IZONPRIZE 11/14/2010 6:38PM

    Yep! THAT IS exactly what I have discovered along this journey. It is NOT all about the weight loss but what I have learned about myself and about God and my faith along the way. Thanks for sharing and may God be with you in Jordan.
Peace and blessings. emoticon

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BUDDHABOI 11/13/2010 10:45AM

    Thanks for sharing! your perspective! emoticon Best wishes for SUCCESS in your journey! emoticon

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SUNFLOWERGAL40 11/13/2010 10:33AM

    Great blog! I think my favorite part is that there is no deadline or template. I need to keep that in mind as I make changes that are leading to a healthier life and weight loss as an added bonus!

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