Wednesday, July 14, 2010
As some of you know, I was on vacation in NH with my family last week. It was to be a time of visiting many family members. It started out wonderfully. We had a great time at my uncle's house on July 4th. There were probably about 50 people there. Some I hadn't seen in years. Great start to the week.
Monday I spent several hours on the beach. I really enjoyed seeing my grandsons enjoy their first experience there. They truly enjoyed it. When I got back to the cottage, I wasn't feeling well and decided to lie down for awhile. After a short rest things got better. Later that night, I started to feel bad again. I didn't know what was wrong...I just didn't feel right. It was at that time that i started to have a bad headache, jaw pain, and back pain around the shoulders. It was at this point that we called 911. I'm sure those of you who recognize the symptoms know that I was having a heart attack. I had several incidents in the next few hours. They did a heart cath and found no blocked arteries. What they found was what is called the "broken heart" syndrome. The top part of my heart works fine compressing and expanding, but the bottom part only balloons out. It's treatable with medications and cardiac rehab. I spent 4 days in the hospital there away from home. It was a scary situation. I have already started medication. I have an appointment with a cardiologist and will find out what is the next step in my treatment.
I am writing this blog to advise everyone to know the various signs of a heart attack for both men and women. They are different. My husband knew and got me taken care of quickly. I am truly thankful for his quick actions. Without them, it might have been worse. I'm not sure how active I will be on Spark during this time, but I will try to check in regularly. My energy level is low right now and I am not spending a lot of time on line. Hope to back in full swing soon. I will try to answer any e-mails or comments when I can.
Monday, March 22, 2010
Stress can sure make this journey more difficult. I never knew you could have so much stress at one time. My life has taken an interesting twist since the first of the year. Last year we had to move DH's mom and step dad into an assisted living apartment. It was not what they wanted, but the doctor had deemed it a necessary, because of his mom's alzheimer's and his step dad arthritis. They really couldn't take care of themselves Eventually they agreed and it proved to be just what they needed. Living 400 miles away, we didn't realize just how bad it had gotten until we started to clean their house. There were bills that hadn't been paid in months and just so much not dealt with. After several weeks we got things straightened out. All went well for several months.
In the fall his step dad started having stomach problems and couldn't eat. He was in and out of the hospital for two months before having to go into a nursing home. He continued to deteriorate until January when he went into the hospital. He passed away in February. We were there for the last week of his life and spent many hours by his side during that time. He was retired military and as such had everything pre-arranged which was a blessing. Telling his mom was so hard because she didn't understand. She finally understood when she was at the visitation and saw him in the casket and when she was presented with the flag at the funeral. We remained up there with her for awhile. We continued to go back & forth quite often.
We had a trip planned there to celebrate some family birthdays and spend time with her when we got the call that she cannot stay at the apartment anymore. She needs more care than they are licensed to give her. So we went up there several days early and talked to the nurses there. His mom has really gone down and it was heartbreaking to see how much in the two weeks we had been home. So we spent several days visiting places to move her to. It was such a difficult decision, but we have found a wonderful place. It is bright and sunny and they have a lot of programs to help her. It also came highly recommended by people we knew. So now we are in the process of making the necessary arrangements. We now have to explain all of this to her. That is where the real stress will be...making her understand. She gets confused so easily.
DH retires on April 2 and we will not move her until that next week. That way we can spend some time with her helping her adjust. But we will also have to go home to start getting things ready for our move back there. Since we will be moving into their old house, we have a lot of work to get done to prepare it. I am not looking forward to the next several months. Between all the work and the traveling back & forth and taking care of her, it will be chaotic. She has been a part of my life for 37 years. She is such a sweet lady and it is so hard to see her like this...like a child in so many ways.
So now I hit a plateau...not losing, but not gaining. I know I need to work harder to make sure I eat right and get the necessary exercise, but some days I just want to crawl back in bed and put the covers over my head and let the world go by. Unfortunately that isn't possible. They say the tough times will make you stronger, I sure hope so. My grandmother used to tell us that God never gives you more than you can handle. I wish He didn't trust me so much.
And so another day goes by...
Friday, January 08, 2010
This was sent to me and I thought it was interesting. Hope you do too.
Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:"
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month..
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God.. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else..
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ''In five years, will this matter?".
26. Always choose life.
27. Forgive everyone everything.
28. What other people think of you is none of your business.
29. Time heals almost everything.. Give time, time.
30. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
31. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
32. Believe in miracles.
33.. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
34. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
35. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young..
36. Your children get only one childhood.
37. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
38. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
39. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
40. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
41. The best is yet to come.
42. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
To make each day better:
Always try to help a friend in need
Believe in yourself
Always try to see the glass half full
Meet new people, even if they look different to you
Remain calm, even when it seems hopeless
Love your friends, no matter who they are
Take an occasional risk
Try to have a little fun each day...it's important
Share a joke with friends
Fall in love with someone.... and say 'I love you' often
Express yourself creatively
Always be up for surprises
Love someone with all of your heart
Share with friends
Things will get better
There is always someone who loves you more than you know
Exercise to keep fit
Live up to your name
Seize the Moment
Hold on to good friends; they are few and far between
Indulge in the things you truly love
Cherish every Sunday
At the end of the day... PRAY
And close your eyes...And smile at least once a day!
Monday, October 19, 2009
Monday October 19
Cat Lover's Rules---
1) The cat is not allowed in the house.
2) OK, the cat is allowed in the house, but only in certain rooms.
3) OK, the cat is allowed in all rooms, but must stay off the furniture.
4) The cat may get on the old furniture only.
5) Fine, the cat is allowed on all the furniture, but is not allowed to sleep
with the humans on the bed.
6) The cat may sleep on the bed, but not under the covers.
7) OK, the cat may sleep under the covers by invitation only.
8) Well, OK, the cat may sleep under the covers every night, and on the pillow.
9) Humans must ask permission to sleep under the covers with cat; only the cat
may sleep on the pillow.
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