LADYNLI   31,269
30,000-39,999 SparkPoints
LADYNLI's Recent Blog Entries

Not the Vacation I Had Planned...

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

As some of you know, I was on vacation in NH with my family last week. It was to be a time of visiting many family members. It started out wonderfully. We had a great time at my uncle's house on July 4th. There were probably about 50 people there. Some I hadn't seen in years. Great start to the week.

Monday I spent several hours on the beach. I really enjoyed seeing my grandsons enjoy their first experience there. They truly enjoyed it. When I got back to the cottage, I wasn't feeling well and decided to lie down for awhile. After a short rest things got better. Later that night, I started to feel bad again. I didn't know what was wrong...I just didn't feel right. It was at that time that i started to have a bad headache, jaw pain, and back pain around the shoulders. It was at this point that we called 911. I'm sure those of you who recognize the symptoms know that I was having a heart attack. I had several incidents in the next few hours. They did a heart cath and found no blocked arteries. What they found was what is called the "broken heart" syndrome. The top part of my heart works fine compressing and expanding, but the bottom part only balloons out. It's treatable with medications and cardiac rehab. I spent 4 days in the hospital there away from home. It was a scary situation. I have already started medication. I have an appointment with a cardiologist and will find out what is the next step in my treatment.

I am writing this blog to advise everyone to know the various signs of a heart attack for both men and women. They are different. My husband knew and got me taken care of quickly. I am truly thankful for his quick actions. Without them, it might have been worse. I'm not sure how active I will be on Spark during this time, but I will try to check in regularly. My energy level is low right now and I am not spending a lot of time on line. Hope to back in full swing soon. I will try to answer any e-mails or comments when I can.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

HARPLUTE 7/21/2010 7:07AM

  OMG. Nancy. I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm so relieved that you recognized this right away. It's the first hour that is critical. My DH had a silent heart attack, and by the time he went to the doctor's...a few months later... the entire front of his heart was scar tissue and he had only 25 % function of the heart. They put him on meds and cardio rehab, and put in a pace-maker/defibrillator. He's doing great now.

Lots of love,


Report Inappropriate Comment
FISHINGLADY66 7/15/2010 12:06PM

    I'm glad your husband knew what to do. I am so sorry about your episode, especially on vacation. Thank God your alright. Your in my thoughts and prayers.
God Bless

Report Inappropriate Comment
RLMCCUE 7/15/2010 11:56AM

    Oh, Nancy, I'm glad you're alright, that's so scary! I wish you the best and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Report Inappropriate Comment
JEANNE229 7/15/2010 8:43AM

    Oh my dear! I am SO glad your DH recognized symptoms and got you help. Please heal fast and take care of YOU. I am so sorry this happened at all, but happening on vacation is even worse!


Report Inappropriate Comment
LILYGAL 7/15/2010 7:35AM

    Just take care of yourself! You are what is important. Do what your body tells you.

Report Inappropriate Comment
LKWQUILTER 7/15/2010 6:48AM

    Take care of yourself and do what you have to do. SP will be here when you are feeling stronger. You have a wonderful dh who recognized what was going on and got help for you. ((HUGS))

Report Inappropriate Comment
--KREN 7/15/2010 4:18AM

    Wonderful to have an attentive husband and family with you! You're in good hands. You'll get lots of support here and be able to focus on YOU and YOUR HEALTH. A little wake up call to remind you how important your body is to you. Karen

Report Inappropriate Comment
HOSTALADY 7/15/2010 12:25AM

    Thank you for sharing and I am praying for you my friend. Thank you to your husband also for his quick action and his love for you. Very relieved to hear you are getting taken care of.
Very happy you had a great time at your Uncles on the 4th and you were able to see so many relatives too! Good thoughts and memories to get you through this rough patch in the road right now.
Take care and be good to yourself, cause that is what really counts.
Love ya
emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
JUDY1676 7/15/2010 12:14AM

    So glad things turnd out on the good side--at least you ar finding out what you need to do. Prayrs will b with you.

Report Inappropriate Comment
GOALIEGRANDMA3 7/14/2010 11:28PM

    I am glad you had people around, and a smart husband to recognize what was happening to you.

Report Inappropriate Comment
MOOKBALL 7/14/2010 11:23PM

    While I wouldn't want to spend my vacation in the hospital you were lucky that you were with caring family and that you got to the hospital in rime.

But don't give up the fight to lose weight. You will need to monitor your foods and get that weight down now more than ever unless you want to have that experience all over again.

Hang in there. Spark's here for you.

Report Inappropriate Comment

Life Can Be So Stressful

Monday, March 22, 2010

Stress can sure make this journey more difficult. I never knew you could have so much stress at one time. My life has taken an interesting twist since the first of the year. Last year we had to move DH's mom and step dad into an assisted living apartment. It was not what they wanted, but the doctor had deemed it a necessary, because of his mom's alzheimer's and his step dad arthritis. They really couldn't take care of themselves Eventually they agreed and it proved to be just what they needed. Living 400 miles away, we didn't realize just how bad it had gotten until we started to clean their house. There were bills that hadn't been paid in months and just so much not dealt with. After several weeks we got things straightened out. All went well for several months.

In the fall his step dad started having stomach problems and couldn't eat. He was in and out of the hospital for two months before having to go into a nursing home. He continued to deteriorate until January when he went into the hospital. He passed away in February. We were there for the last week of his life and spent many hours by his side during that time. He was retired military and as such had everything pre-arranged which was a blessing. Telling his mom was so hard because she didn't understand. She finally understood when she was at the visitation and saw him in the casket and when she was presented with the flag at the funeral. We remained up there with her for awhile. We continued to go back & forth quite often.

We had a trip planned there to celebrate some family birthdays and spend time with her when we got the call that she cannot stay at the apartment anymore. She needs more care than they are licensed to give her. So we went up there several days early and talked to the nurses there. His mom has really gone down and it was heartbreaking to see how much in the two weeks we had been home. So we spent several days visiting places to move her to. It was such a difficult decision, but we have found a wonderful place. It is bright and sunny and they have a lot of programs to help her. It also came highly recommended by people we knew. So now we are in the process of making the necessary arrangements. We now have to explain all of this to her. That is where the real stress will be...making her understand. She gets confused so easily.

DH retires on April 2 and we will not move her until that next week. That way we can spend some time with her helping her adjust. But we will also have to go home to start getting things ready for our move back there. Since we will be moving into their old house, we have a lot of work to get done to prepare it. I am not looking forward to the next several months. Between all the work and the traveling back & forth and taking care of her, it will be chaotic. She has been a part of my life for 37 years. She is such a sweet lady and it is so hard to see her like a child in so many ways.

So now I hit a plateau...not losing, but not gaining. I know I need to work harder to make sure I eat right and get the necessary exercise, but some days I just want to crawl back in bed and put the covers over my head and let the world go by. Unfortunately that isn't possible. They say the tough times will make you stronger, I sure hope so. My grandmother used to tell us that God never gives you more than you can handle. I wish He didn't trust me so much.

And so another day goes by...

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

GABY1948 3/22/2010 8:22PM

    I agree with the others about your weight issues. You are doing everything you should in such stress...and it will work out when you become less stressed.
As for your mother, my heart goes out to you...I was in almost the exact scenario in 2004 with my mother. My dad had died in 1999 and he had hinted she was showing signs of Alzheimer's but I was in denial (I had watched my grandmother...her mother...gradually succumb to the disease in 1986). The worst came about and this time I was in charge. Somehow it does end. You will make it through. I believe that Alzheimer's is one of the most cruel diseases one can have. Take care and remember you CAN do it!

Report Inappropriate Comment
FISHINGLADY66 3/22/2010 8:19PM

    Never Give Up. As long as you are eating healthy and getting the rest you need, your body will thank you for it later. As someone else said: This too will pass. You are in my prayers.
God Bless

Report Inappropriate Comment
HOSTALADY 3/22/2010 6:54PM

    My prayers have been being said for you for a while and they will not stop. You will get through this one day at a time. Nobody promises easy just that we make it through these difficult times in life. You are doing awesome with your exercising that you have gotten in and then to be able to maintain is awesome. Right now it isn't about your journey here except to eat as healthy as you can, to keep yourself healthy. The nerves stressful energy has to be burning calories all the time for you.
My heart goes out to all of you!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MOM2ACAT 3/22/2010 3:05PM

    I agree with Karen; I think that NOT gaining in the face of all that is an accomplishment. Keeping you in my prayers that things move along as smoothly as possible for you.

Report Inappropriate Comment
--KREN 3/22/2010 2:39PM

    NOT GAINING is a wonderful achievement during all this stress! You are really doing great. You WILL come out the happier, easier side in the near future. Hang in there! Karen

Report Inappropriate Comment
LKWQUILTER 3/22/2010 2:32PM

    And this too will pass--a favorite saying of my mother's when I got "stressed." It sure doesn't seem like it will pass or all come out in the wash but it does. Take care of yourself and even if you just maintain, that will be great. You can get back on track when things calm down.

Report Inappropriate Comment

Lessons of Life

Friday, January 08, 2010

This was sent to me and I thought it was interesting. Hope you do too.

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:"

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month..
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God.. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else..
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ''In five years, will this matter?".
26. Always choose life.
27. Forgive everyone everything.
28. What other people think of you is none of your business.
29. Time heals almost everything.. Give time, time.
30. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
31. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
32. Believe in miracles.
33.. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
34. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
35. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young..
36. Your children get only one childhood.
37. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
38. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
39. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
40. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
41. The best is yet to come.
42. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
43. Yield.
44. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

GINGER_LOSTALOT 1/14/2010 5:09PM

    Thank you for putting things in perspective!

Report Inappropriate Comment
FISHINGLADY66 1/11/2010 3:47PM

    I've heard a lot of these and they are all so good and true.
I don't know why I haven't been reading your blogs. I will check in from time to time.
God Bless

Report Inappropriate Comment
RLMCCUE 1/9/2010 8:40AM

    I really liked this, I have never seen it before. Thanks for posting it. I'm going through a rough time right now and a lot of what she wrote really hit home for me.

Thanks again!

Report Inappropriate Comment
LADYJANE30 1/8/2010 6:41PM

    Some very good advice. I probably saw this in the Plain Dealer long ago, but it's good to read now and then.

Report Inappropriate Comment
LILYGAL 1/8/2010 1:17PM

    I've seen this before and I copied it and kept it. Very timely.

Report Inappropriate Comment

Simple Words of Wisdom

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

To make each day better:

Always try to help a friend in need

Believe in yourself

Laugh often

Always try to see the glass half full

Meet new people, even if they look different to you

Remain calm, even when it seems hopeless

Love your friends, no matter who they are


Take an occasional risk

Try to have a little fun each's important

Share a joke with friends

Fall in love with someone.... and say 'I love you' often

Express yourself creatively

Always be up for surprises

Love someone with all of your heart

Share with friends

Things will get better

There is always someone who loves you more than you know

Exercise to keep fit

Live up to your name

Seize the Moment

Hold on to good friends; they are few and far between

Indulge in the things you truly love

Cherish every Sunday

At the end of the day... PRAY

And close your eyes...And smile at least once a day!

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

FISHINGLADY66 1/11/2010 3:44PM

    Wonderful Works of Wisdom!

Report Inappropriate Comment
JULIE_MAE 10/21/2009 4:32PM

    emoticon.........What a nice list. Thank you for posting.

Report Inappropriate Comment
SUEJENN 10/21/2009 3:01PM


Report Inappropriate Comment

Cat Lover's Rules...(joke)

Monday, October 19, 2009

Monday October 19

Cat Lover's Rules---

1) The cat is not allowed in the house.

2) OK, the cat is allowed in the house, but only in certain rooms.

3) OK, the cat is allowed in all rooms, but must stay off the furniture.

4) The cat may get on the old furniture only.

5) Fine, the cat is allowed on all the furniture, but is not allowed to sleep
with the humans on the bed.

6) The cat may sleep on the bed, but not under the covers.

7) OK, the cat may sleep under the covers by invitation only.

8) Well, OK, the cat may sleep under the covers every night, and on the pillow.

9) Humans must ask permission to sleep under the covers with cat; only the cat
may sleep on the pillow.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

GOALIEGRANDMA3 10/21/2009 1:50PM

    Only a cat lover would really know how true this is. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
JUDY1676 10/19/2009 10:37PM

    Cute!! (And so true!) emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
JANET1012 10/19/2009 8:52PM

    This is SO true in our house! My DH is always telling me not to disturb the cat [who is under the covers] when I go to bed late!

Report Inappropriate Comment
LKWQUILTER 10/19/2009 6:43PM

    That is so true. Cats rule the house. lol

Report Inappropriate Comment
BIKERBABE2BE 10/19/2009 5:43PM

    Too true and too funny. Thanks for sharing!


Report Inappropriate Comment
GMAN1952 10/19/2009 2:24PM

    I have 3 cats and this is how it is in my house. I rescued all of them from a farmers barn, up the street.

Report Inappropriate Comment
WILLOW49 10/19/2009 2:20PM

    I am owned by 4 cats! Wouldn't have it any other way :) emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment

1 2 3 Last Page