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Gratitude

Tuesday, August 13, 2013



I've been very depressed lately. That would surprise people who know me personally; I'm actually a friend who lifts the spirits of those around me. My depression has come from my own inadequacies and the fear that I am, by nature, worthless. I know.... sounds really dark, but it usually doesn't last too long.

Because of SP coaching today, I'm to list three things I'm grateful for. I've kept gratitude journals in the past, but seemed to get stuck on a group of things to write down and it got too repetitive. Hence it really wasn't heartfelt gratitude.

Today, however, this is what I'm grateful for:

First, my husband. He's out of town right now, but before he left, he not only did work to prepare for the interviews he'll have this week, but filled up my car, got it washed, and straightened the kitchen, which I'd left messy the night before. He welcomes me with a hug every morning and sets an example of hard work and diligence for his somewhat more lazy wife.

My home, which consistently makes me feel good. It's well designed, kept cool in this Dallas summer heat, and because of my organic gardening habits has soil that is rich and friable.

My good night's sleep. I'm trying to establish a better sleep routine, and though last night I didn't get the 8 hours that is my goal, I feel rested and ready to work today.

Those are biggies, of course. My wish is to start noticing the little things, which is my nature, but I don't remember them long enough to write in a journal. Things like the coolness of shade on my morning walks, and the pleasure of seeing plants that are healthy and well nourished. Another blog, perhaps....

  
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IMAVISION 9/16/2013 5:51PM

    I enjoyed reading this blog. Your husband sounds like he could be a "twin" to my beloved MrV. We are blessed to share our lives with such good men!

God bless!

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8HABIT 8/15/2013 3:12PM

    Thank you for sharing this with all of us. I sometimes feel like I am not sure how to move forward since I retired and the best time of my life is over.

But I read once about a young woman who lost both legs in an motorcycle accident and she said what she missed most was the feel of a cool, bare floor in the morning. Every morning when I make my coffee and feel the cool, bare kitchen floor, I thank God that I can do that still.

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TRUCKERSMRS 8/13/2013 4:15PM

    I know that dark place and the feeling of worthlessness, despite any achievements. It does pass quickly but I've not found a way to get rid of it totally.

We should all remember our blessings as there are many who are not as lucky in either health, career, relationships or life in general.

I have a larger than life friend who, in her early 40's, suffered nerve damage to the top of her neck which has left her paralysed and, some days, with poor speech which makes her frustration level rise. There was no accident, it was just a breakdown of a major nerve junction box between spine and brain.
She no longer works, can't drive and is reliant on her family and external carers to do the most normal everyday things.

When I start to have a dark period, I think of her and remind myself how precious the smallest things in life are and how blessed I am.

I hope your mood continues to improve and that you feel chipper soon.
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Second Day

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Of the "Consistency and Maintenance" group with Spark Coaches. Today we're supposed to plan tomorrow's meals, and we're leaving tomorrow on a short two-day trip for my husband's business. I know the first meal of the day will be two eggs and a sliced tomato, and dinner will be roast beef at our favorite on-the-road restaurant, so I need to be thinking about any food we eat in the car and tomorrow's supper. Yes.... supper. I'm from the Midwest where "dinner" is at noon [promptly!!] and supper is in the evening. From all the other places I've lived, "dinner" has come to mean evening meal.... but I use the term now to mean the biggest meal of the day, which adheres to both the midwestern farmland and "big city" use of the term.

You can see here my nerd-ish tendencies. Sigh....



On a totally different matter, the skirted clown to the right is the choreographer for our chorus. The other clown is her husband. Both of Becky's parents are professional clowns as well. It's fascinating to me to see the varied jobs within our chorus. We have many teachers and nurses, several attorneys, an ObGyn, a pilot.... and those are only the ones I know about. Our director is not only a world renown chorus coach, but is on the Sweet Adeline Board of Directors and, in her "off" hours.... a Nurse/Manager.

If you like to sing, look up your local chapter of Sweet Adelines and give it a try. It's another world.... and so much fun.

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8HABIT 7/31/2013 8:12PM

    What Fun!

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Goal Setting

Monday, July 29, 2013

Goal setting is a real challenge for me. The minute I make one, I defeat myself, knowing I will not meet the goal. Consequently, I avoid goal making 95% of the time. There ARE a few I've made that succeeded, and there's a change in the way I think about it them. Mostly, it's that the goal was MINE to choose, and wasn't in response to a goal I thought I SHOULD choose.

The biggest example of this is the fact that I've actually gained about 5 lbs. the 3 years I've been on Spark People. I comfort myself with the thought that without SP, that gain could've been 50 lbs., easily. However, I'm still nagged (by whom?) with the thought that I'm supposed to be losing, not gaining weight.

My life is full of changes. Not only do we travel a lot, the nature of my husband's work (and I'm his "First Assistant"), dictates that we have weeks at a time of intense activity then time when we have no work responsibilities; times when he is gone a week at a time, and times when he's home months at a time. Given my nature that gets bored really easily with routine, this should fit in with the way I like to live my life. However, to lose weight means consistency.

We have no help, other than lawn care (and they do no weeding). No housekeeper, no exec. sec. to make reservations for us, no financial advisor. Consequently in between times of travel we have to keep up with the minutiae of daily life. We attend church services 3 times weekly, and I now once again have weekly rehearsals.

Looking at that, it feels like we are really busy, but I know it doesn't compare with others who have successfully lost weight.

I'm just writing this down, trying to get hold of what is really keeping me from losing weight, in the mental and emotional arena. At 69, I know my age is a factor, and also my sedentary ways, although I try not to sit too long at a time. None of the advice to cut out junk food is appropriate; it's been out of my life for a long time. I've never weighed over 180 lbs., so I can make the excuse that I'm just getting the grandmother pillow soft thing going.

Do I sound like I'm just making excuses? What have some of you done to get off your duff and actually accomplish something? And goal setting? How do I prevent myself from immediately branding myself a "loser" in that department? Your comments are welcome.

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SEWINGMAMACDS 7/29/2013 7:28PM

    You haven't quit and that is a BIG step. Decide on one little thing that you change and implement so as not to overwhelm yourself. emoticon emoticon

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8HABIT 7/29/2013 7:27PM

    Once there were two cat burglars in Paris. As they made their escape from the police over the Paris rooftops, they came to where it required them to jump high to get to the next roof. The first burglar jumped and missed the second roof and slide down to the ground. The second jumped and made it to the second roof. Later they met up, and the first burglar asked how the second burglar hit the roof. "I aimed higher than the roof" was his response.

Sometimes we set high goals and even though we may miss them, we still end up higher than we would have if we had no goals.

What I have found in my weight loss/control journey is to set goals (even though I miss them often), but it helps me to stay focused. Watching my calorie intake eating out is really important because even salads in restaurants can be full of calories. Being active is important for health, but not necessary helps with weight loss (for me).

The important is to enjoy your life! This is all we have.


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CHERYL_ANNE 7/29/2013 6:38PM

    You actually sound like you're brainstorming how to accomplish your goal...

You stayed with it even if you gained. You did not give up. You did not quit. So you're definitely not a loser!

As far as goal setting, I let SP determine the amount of weight I should lose and the time-frame in which to accomplish it.

My part is simply to be consistent and do the following every day without fail:

- Moderation, not deprivation.
- Healthy fuel (food) for my body.
- Eat within my caloric limit.
- Low sodium.
- Portion control with digital kitchen scale and measuring spoons.
- Drink at least 64 ounces water daily.
- Nutrition and Water Tracker each day.
- Move my body.
- Be consistent.
- Focus on solutions instead of problems.
- Practice mindfulness.
- Treat my body with respect.
- Express my feelings as opposed to eating them.
- Support and encourage others.

I wish you much success on your journey to becoming the healthiest you can be!
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LAWANDMUSIC 7/29/2013 3:40PM

    AH, to have such a busy and fulfilling life!! Take one step (minute, really) at a time. Celebrate the good stuff you do for your health. I will say that again, CELEBRATE the good stuff!

ONWARD!!

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TRUCKERSMRS 7/29/2013 3:00PM

    Being busy is a frequent downfall for me too. I'm just trying to work on this one day at a time. I have my overall goal - in the distance - but each day I just try to assess what I "have" to do and then plan in exercise and (dare I say it) housework around that. I try to ensure the exercise takes a priority over housework - actually that is not too hard!! Hmmm Wii tennis or washing the utility room floor - no contest really. emoticon

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Another lesson learned.....

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

After fitting in walking so well on my trip, I have yet to take a walk since I've been home. My epiphany this morning was that maybe when you have too MUCH time, it's easier to procrastinate. It's true also that the first day home (Monday), I was pretty tired but I've found that you can walk through any amount of tiredness, and feel better for it.

I also have to fight my tendency to never be satisfied. At the end of the day my mind dwells on the things I did NOT get to rather than what I did accomplish. Eating more than you need is a syndrome with lots of hidden [negative] motivations, isn't it?

More kudos to my friends who've actually lost weight. I'm healthier and more fit, but the weight is not leaving. I'm tired of being the "fat" sister in my sister photographs.



The mother of the bride is on the right, youngest sister on the left.



The first picture was not good of Cheryl. Here's one the day before, as she waited to blow bubbles at the bride and groom as they left the chapel.

  
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TRUCKERSMRS 6/24/2013 11:09AM

    Lovely photos of you and your sisters.
I have a lot of spare time this week being off work but am trying to ensure I do as much, if not more, than normal especially as I am likely to be eating more!
Bikes for each of us will be arriving tomorrow so I can add a new exercise in with the walking and jogging.
The fact that you are feeling so much better and fitter is a major win. I'm sure the weight loss will follow too.
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SEWINGMAMACDS 6/20/2013 10:57AM

    I totally understand about too much time. It seems like I get less done on my days off than I do on normal days.

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8HABIT 6/19/2013 9:32PM

    I don't know if it is the warmer weather or what, but I can't seem to get as committed to exercise as I was a year ago. Maybe it is because I am relaxing after a year of being retired and lost my self-discipline.

But every day is a new day to start over.

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LIVERGIVER 6/19/2013 11:27AM

    I know exactly what you mean about too much time. I seem to plan much better and fit more in when I have a lot on my plate. Keep up the good work. Don't forget to track food and exercise daily. Healthy living has many rewards, and the scale victories will come, as well.

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KACAR51 6/19/2013 11:13AM

    Getting healthy is the most important part of this journey! The weight has to come off some time! Slow but steady! emoticon emoticon

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Walking when you can....

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Just back from a beautiful Alabama wedding, but the trip itself was hard.... 12 hours both ways; left Friday morning, home Sunday night.

Saturday I did a "hotel parking lot walk" with two different groups... racked up just over 2 1/2 miles, in 90+ temperatures. Did NOT take advantage of the hotel workout room; being with my family was more important. Two family members participated in a 5K Charity run, so the fitness bug is spreading!

Traveling there and back.... walked at least 10 minutes at rest stops, 3 times. This does an amazingly good job of waylaying the stiffness from hours in the car. Yoga all three mornings.

Leaving again this Thursday for granddaughter's graduation and a crazy quilt retreat, back by July 4. It's a lovely area to walk, if I can get out of bed to beat the heat. Here goes....

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SEWINGMAMACDS 6/19/2013 11:02AM

    Great at fitting fitness in even when you aren't home!

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TRUCKERSMRS 6/19/2013 4:45AM

    Great that you took the opportunity to walk when you could. I hope your Granddaughter's Graduation is a beautiful day.
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8HABIT 6/18/2013 6:27PM

    I can't imagine making the trip you made in 3 days! Wow! I am impressed.

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JO88BAKO 6/18/2013 3:38PM

    Sounds like fun!

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