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SMART Goals update and TWEAK

Monday, February 24, 2014

What has stayed the same? What has changed?

My SMART Goal is to be at 299 by August 15th. That has not changed.

What has changed is my approximate numbers a month because I just don't know.

A few weeks ago I lost 17 lbs in 2 weeks. Then the scale went up 10lbs in a few days (it is impossible for me to gain that much weight with what I'm eating and the surgery) so I know I'm retaining. But why?

Now, the scale is starting to slowly creep back down to where I was before and I know I'll start losing again. This in between time is frustrating because thoughts keep going through my head like:

Did the surgery work?
What if I gain it all back?
Why keep being so diligent if it doesn't mean anything?

BUT...I am staying diligent. I am on Spark every day. I track everything. I am drinking water. I am exercising (need to do more), and I am very conscious of what is going in my mouth.

The blessing for me is that I have had the surgery. This doesn't let me get too out of control, especially when I am being so mindful.

Today two people told me I look great. One told me I keep shrinking. So maybe other people are seeing it and I'm just not...right now. That's okay. Perseverance is one thing I do have. Especially now. This is just temporary. Like all plateaus, they do come to an end sometime.


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CFMOSS 2/24/2014 12:38PM

    Perserverance - painful as that sometimes seems. Keep up the good work even through the dreaded plateau. You ARE doing great.

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Scarlet Seals- Weekend Challenge Report to the Community

Monday, January 20, 2014

Scarlet Seals- Weekend Challenge Report to the Community

Our first Weekend Challenge was to start off 2014 on the right path. First we had to set our SMART goals. Then Organize our space for success. Then choose any ONE thing that is holding us back from reaching our goals. And finally, have 4 servings of Vegetables a day. Here is my breakdown of each of these mini-challenges, culminating into the complete Weekend Challenge:

2- Make SMART Goals

1.) My Goal:
I am going to be down to 299 by the end of this summer.
2.) My SMart Goal:
I will lost 63lbs by August 15th.
3.) My SMARt Goal:
To do this, I will lose 10+lbs a month.
4.) My SMART Goal:
I will have to lose over 2lbs a week to achieve this goal.

My SMARTS Goal: why do you want it? Ask yourself the “5 Why’s”

1.) I haven’t been to 299 in over a decade. It’s about time.
2.) I will be able to go to Boston, NYC, maybe even Paris.
3.) I will be into lower size clothes.
4.) I will feel better about myself.
5.) I will make myself proud of my accomplishment. That would be 156 lbs in one year and 192 lbs all together.

Behavior goal 1: I will track everything that enters my mouth every single day.

Behavior goal 2: I will workout 5x a week.

(okay, maybe not this intense)

Behavior goal 3: I will go to OA to continue my healing.

More Strategies for Successfully Achieving SMART Goals:
1. Spread the word – who will you tell? Peter, Lori, Amy, Andrea
2. Be accountable to at least 1 other person – who is your “accountabili-buddy(s)”? Peter

3. Set up a reward system – what will you get if you do your behavior goals? What will you do if you don’t do your behavior goals.

• If I track everything I will reward myself with one “expensive” book a month. If I don’t track everything I will buy a book and donate and put it on the “take a book shelf” at work or take one of my favorite books from home and put it there.

• If I workout 5x a week I will reward myself with one day off a month. If I don’t workout 5x week I will not allow myself to take a day off.

• If I go to OA meetings I will reward myself with a movie a month. If I don’t go to OA meeting not only will I internally know I am not helping myself over the long term, but I will also not be able to go see any movies. If you know my love of film, this is a completely understandable negative reinforcement.

4. Commit to less –
Our natural tendency is to OVERPROMISE and UNDER DELIVER. Do the opposite.
My goal of being at 299 by August 15th is reasonable under these guidelines. If I continue along the same path I’m on now, I will meet that goal by probably June. Then I have under promised and over delivered.

0- Organize- 14 minutes a day

This weekend I’ve been in a very “off” mood so this was more of a “what does Abby need to do to keep herself moving forward”. I have kept the dishes up, swept, done laundry, all basic things but important to me. If those things are not done I get overwhelmed and that could potentially lead to a shut down. I know myself well. Certain things need to be in order or I don’t function at full capacity. A sink full of dishes, an unswept floor, and no clean clothes are a slippery slope to DOOM. I have spent more than 14 minutes each day keeping myself organized and this will keep me moving forward.

1- Choose ONE thing that is holding me back from achieving my goals. Work on this each day and get bonus points for eliminating it the entire weekend.

As I said above, this weekend I’ve been “off”. I am feeling better today but not 100%. What I realized this weekend is that ONE of my things that holds me back is THIS MOOD. I stop tracking, I say screw it, and then downward spiral, all over a couple days of not feeling up to par. It is a repeating pattern with me.

This weekend I decided by hell or high water I was going to keep tracking…and I have. I have been here every day tracking. I haven’t communicated much, but I’ve been here. The Weekend Challenge and my team have stayed at the forefront of my mind. I knew that if I didn’t do at least this, and log in, and track, that in a few days when I get out of this funk I would feel awful.
Since this is Monday and I made myself log in all 4 days AND tracked every day AND completed the Weekend Challenge, I consider this a success.

My other ONE thing is exercise, but that’s a conversation for another time.

4- Eat 4 vegetables a day

This one was easy. I love vegetables.

If you had asked to do 4 fruits a day, THAT would have been a challenge. I did mostly salad, cucumbers, some Steamable sugar snap peas, etc. Nothing fancy, no “recipes” per say. Just munching on cucumbers, a little romaine here, some red peppers there. This one, like I said, was easy for me. I am lucky I like veggies. I know some people who can’t stand them!

Here's to a great week Team! Next up LCW and then Wednesday Weigh In. For THAT, I am ready. Woo Hoo!

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SHAKESALOT 2/4/2014 11:58AM

    emoticon emoticon LOOKING FORWARD TO YOU Succeeding!!! Can't wait until you get to this emoticon !!!!! emoticon

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JUSTTRIING 1/20/2014 3:50PM


Even if you have been in a mood, you realistically looked at where you were at and rose above it this weekend. I hope you are proud of everything that you accomplished!

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Do you hear that?

Friday, January 17, 2014

It's the sound of no children or husband in the house. Even the dogs are quiet.

For the past month my daughter has been home from college. For my newlywed husband and I, this has been difficult. We'd argue over who has had the more trying time. My daughter is almost 20, a "millenial", and like most people her age is dramatic and everything is about her.

My husband doesn't understand this concept. We even went to my therapist about how to handle being all together in the same house.

Today Ashley, my daughter and person I would die for, is off to her boyfriend's house for the weekend. Then on Sunday she moves back to school. My husband is at a function right now and won't be home for about an hour.

I have quiet for the first time in over a month. I don't have to worry about what people are thinking, feeling, saying...right now. I have a glass of wine (all tracked and I drank all of my water already today), I am on my couch, my tree lights are on, and the dogs are fed and lying down.

To top all this off, I work at a college as an advisor and we've been doing registration for the past month, working late every night, etc. Today was the last day to register and it is a 3...Day...Weekend. Thank goodness.


Peter will leave at 11:30ish for the same function. I will have quiet for the entire day to do whatever I please. The ONLY caveat to that is...

His ex-wife is coming to stay with us for a night while she is passing through town. We've never met. They are still good friends and she's very nice. I expect everything to be just peachy. It is just an added stress.

But right now.

On Friday evening at 7:30ish-pm all is quiet. My glass is almost empty and I might get another.

And all is so very well.

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SHAKESALOT 2/4/2014 12:00PM


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ALICIA214 1/17/2014 7:26PM


Your glass is almost empty!!! when you get up for a refill will you top mine off please we can sit and have a chat..... emoticon

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BLC 24 Calendar

Thursday, January 16, 2014

I don't know about you but I have been working hard to keep track of what is due and when for BLC 24. So far I haven't missed anything BUT the fear WAS always there.

So...I created a calendar in Word, with a picture of the Scarlet Seals picture on top. It is only for the BLC 24- Scarlet Seals team. I have written when everything is expected/due so that I don't forget.

Here are some instructions if you want to make one for yourself!

1.) Open Word (any version) and select New
2.) Choose Calendars from the list
3.) Choose a template you like (I chose one with a space for a picture)
4.) Download that calendar
5.) Change the picture if you want (I chose this one:

and then print and use! I had to add date numbers to mine but that only took a second.

Now, could you use a normal calendar? Sure. I just wanted one that is dedicated to the SCARLET SEALS- BLC 24 Challenge.

This has already helped me calm down, so I thought if you are struggling, it might help you as well!

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AMARILYNH 1/16/2014 5:22PM


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ME_B4_INSANITY 1/16/2014 2:16PM

    0 - organize, check

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CFMOSS 1/16/2014 12:29PM

    You are amazingly organized and I understand the concern about getting everything done - glad you've calmed down and can settle in. I'm impressed.

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VEGIBIKER 1/16/2014 11:35AM

    Congrats on making a sweet calendar! Just one question ... what's BLC24? I've seen it a few places around here - but haven't been able to figure out what it refers to. Thanks - and best of luck to you!

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