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Portrait of a Friend"

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Portrait of a Friend"

I can't give solutions to all of life's problems, doubts,
or fears. But I can listen to you, and together we will
search for answers.

I can't change your past with all it's heartache and pain,
nor the future with its untold stories.
But I can be there now when you need me to care.

I can't keep your feet from stumbling.
I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not fall.

Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happiness are not mine;
Yet I can share in your laughter.

Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge;
I can only support you, encourage you,
and help you when you ask.

I can't prevent you from falling away from friendship,
from your values, from me.
I can only pray for you, talk to you and wait for you.

I can't give you boundaries which I have determined for you,
But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
room to be yourself.

I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
and put them back in place.

I can't tell you who you are.
I can only love you and be your friend.

i continue to plod along everyday with minimal success...........
am searching for ways to solve this riddle so to speak and i feel i may have found the right dr to help me......
we are slowly working on the hormones and thyroid side of things and am hopeful i will be seeing some results soon.........i feel at times extremly frustrated at the lack of movement on the scale or much change in inches lost etc.......this new dr did a test on me called 'BIOIMPEDANCE ANALYSIS"
one of the results showed my lean body mass which indicated that half of my body was muscle....i finally felt that all this exercise has finally showed some results that is measureable as too many dr's out there did not believe me when i told and showed them the printouts from sparkpeople what i ate and all the exercise i do etc........i feel maybe now i have a chance of moving forward.......

thanks to everyone for all your help and support............
it is so soo much appreciated.....
blessings and hugs...............lita

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_CYNDY55_ 7/7/2011 12:45AM

    Thank You for sharing Portrait of A Friend emoticon

I hope Your New Doctor does help You emoticonL*I*T*A*
There are still some Great Doctors around!

I have had the same three doctors since 2007...they helped me turn my health around. I did follow their instructions to A "T" !

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GOSPELCLOWN 7/4/2011 11:44AM

    Congrats on finding a believing doctor.


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CATIATM 7/3/2011 2:10PM

    You are a gem, Lita!

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BABYSTEPS84 7/1/2011 3:50PM

1. Thank you for sharing the beautiful poem.
2. I just keep learning that, especially when it comes to our health, PERSISTENCE matters. As you told me, Never Give Up...

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DDOORN 6/30/2011 6:39AM

    Keeping you in our thoughts & prayers L*I*T*A*!


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TRYINGHARD1948 6/29/2011 6:21PM

    So pleased you have found a doctor who is listening and looking for an answer. It can be so frustrating and patience can be hard to maintain over time. Do take care, hugs.

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JAMER123 6/29/2011 4:34PM

    It is very frustrating to not see any movement towards goals you have set. I too, have been stuck for quite a while and am grateful for even a "smidgen" of movement towards my goals.

Is is wonderful you found a Dr. that can help you validate! It is so important that your efforts are recognized and can therefore help you get going again!! Best of luck to you and getting to see what you are looking for!!

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Thanks for the words of friendship! they are great!!

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MDGARDENGIRL 6/29/2011 4:15PM

    LITA..... you give so much of yourself to everyone here on SP! Where would this group be without you... our caring, trusting leader?? !!!

I sure hope you and your new doctor figure out the metabolic problem. It's good that you keep searching for answers. They are out there. emoticon

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Fathers Are Wonderful People

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Fathers Are Wonderful People

Fathers are wonderful people
Too little understood,
And we do not sing their praises
As often as we should...

For, somehow, Father seems to be
The man who pays the bills,
While Mother binds up little hurts
And nurses all our ills...

And Father struggles daily
To live up to "his image"
As protector and provider
And "hero of the scrimmage"...

And perhaps that is the reason
We sometimes get the notion,
That Fathers are not subject
To the thing we call emotion,

But if you look inside Dad's heart,
Where no one else can see
You'll find he's sentimental
And as "soft" as he can be...

But he's so busy every day
In the grueling race of life,
He leaves the sentimental stuff
To his partner and his wife...

But Fathers are just wonderful
In a million different ways,
And they merit loving compliments
And accolades of praise,

For the only reason Dad aspires
To fortune and success
Is to make the family proud of him
And to bring them happiness...

And like Our Heavenly Father,
He's a guardian and a guide,
Someone that we can count on
To be always on our side.

by Helen Steiner Rice

to all the men in our lives........HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

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JUSFOLK 6/19/2011 10:50PM

    What a great testimonial!

Hope your week is extra-special!

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TRAVELNISTA 6/19/2011 7:05PM

    Very nice! emoticon

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_CYNDY55_ 6/19/2011 10:10AM

    .•*´¨`* Beautiful .•*´¨`* Thank You!

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WILLOW49 6/18/2011 9:41PM

    I always enjoy Helen Steiner Rice :) Thank you!

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Courage to Love Yourself.......

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Courage to Love Yourself

When you love yourself
You realize you are not meant to suffer and you are never alone
As life is nothing but a school in which to learn
You accept the past for what it had to teach you
Learning from the lessons and thanking the teachers along the way.
Forgiving ourselves for what we have done, the harm we have caused
Letting that go and belonging in the now.

When you love yourself
You learn to forgive those who didn’t love you
the way you wanted them to.
They loved according to their own definition.
They did the best they knew how.
Forgive and release them.
Forgive and release yourself to experience your incredible potential
To live, to love, to learn, to take chances, and to serve.

When you love yourself
You celebrate “what is” and realize
That possibly you are not ready for “what isn’t”
We are all Masterpieces in different stages of Manifestation.
Everything at every moment is exactly as it is meant to be.

When you love yourself
You realize we are all here for a profound purpose.
To somehow make this world a better place.
You have come perfectly equipped with the exact strengths
And the courage to challenge your shortcomings
with joy and determination
For you are a unique orchestration of both.

When you love yourself
You are willing to laugh at your fallacies and share your strengths
Taking care of your BEING to ensure maximum energy for all
For all is powerful and all is possible
When you love yourself.

Janice Mae

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CATIATM 6/17/2011 9:22AM

    Ahh ... but it's harder than it sounds. Thanks for the reminder, Lita!

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SMILEYBEE 6/16/2011 3:06PM

    Love the encouragement and positive vibes you exude! emoticon

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HOPESINGH 6/13/2011 3:43AM

I'm still struggling with this challenge of loving myself emoticon

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TRYINGHARD1948 6/12/2011 8:56PM

    Wonderful Lita, thank you.

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WILLOW49 6/12/2011 8:41PM

    What a wonderful poem! Thanks for sharing with us :) You always find the nicest things to share!

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    that was beautiful!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JUSFOLK 6/12/2011 5:20PM

    Lots of good food for thought here...thanks for sharing!

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Sunday, June 05, 2011


A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat.

A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?"

The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way." I wrote: "Today is a beautiful day but I cannot see it."

Both signs told people that the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people that they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

"Life has to be an incessant process of repair and reconstruction, of discarding evil and developing goodness. Paddy grains have to be de-husked in order to become edible as rice. Cotton has to be converted as yarn to become wearable cloth. Gold nuggets have to be heated in the crucible to remove the impurities. Man too, must purify his impulses, emotions and desires and cultivate good thoughts, words and deeds so that he can progress spiritually." ~ Prasanthi Nilayam


Invite others towards good with wisdom. Live life with no excuse and love with no regrets. When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear.

~Author Unknown

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GOSPELCLOWN 6/16/2011 1:33AM

    I've seen this story done in video. Good thing to remember.

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CATIATM 6/10/2011 9:51AM

    Thank you for sharing, Lita!

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HOPESINGH 6/8/2011 1:30PM

    emoticon again, Lita!
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LITTLETEAPOT17 6/7/2011 12:50PM

    LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this! So true, Lita...thanks for sharing with us.
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DDOORN 6/6/2011 8:55AM

    Great story and message...thx for sharing!


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TRYINGHARD1948 6/6/2011 1:48AM

    I loved this story. emoticon

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WILLOW49 6/5/2011 11:33PM

    A great blog! Thanks :)

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    Really good one

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AQUAGIRL08 6/5/2011 10:21PM

    Thanks for a great blog Lita. It was just what I needed to hear today!

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JUSFOLK 6/5/2011 9:50PM

    Perspective can change everything...great thots!

Thanks for dropping off the orchid goodie and poem. Hope your week goes well:)

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Sunday, May 29, 2011


The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Abigail. I'm eighty seven years old. Can I give you a hug?" I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course, you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze.

"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel."

"No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age. "I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a coke. For three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Abigail became a campus icon and easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Abigail to speak at our football banquet and I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.

Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know." As we laughed she cleared her throat and began:

"We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success.

"You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!"

"There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability.

The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change." "Have no regrets. The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets." She concluded her speech by courageously singing The Rose. She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives:

"The Rose"

Some say love, it is a river that drowns the tender reed.
Some say love, it is a razor that leaves your soul to bleed.
Some say love, it is a hunger, an endless aching need.
I say love, it is a flower, and you its only seed.

It's the heart afraid of breaking that never learns to dance.
It's the dream afraid of waking that never takes the chance.
It's the one who won't be taken, who cannot seem to give,
And the soul afraid of dyin' that never learns to live.

When the night has been too lonely and the road has been too long,
And you think that love is only for the lucky and the strong,
Just remember in the winter far beneath the bitter snows
Lies the seed that with the sun's love in the spring becomes the rose.

At the year's end Abigail finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be. These words have been passed along in loving memory of Abigail. REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL. We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.

~Author Unknown

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JUSFOLK 5/31/2011 12:07AM

    I've volunteered at a large Christian campground, and it amazes me the energy and enthusiasm of folks in their 70s and even 80s who are energetically serving there! Age definitely is just a number:)

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HOPESINGH 5/30/2011 9:49AM

    Very few things are as inspiring as old people. My grandma is even older than Abigail in the story, and there are so many things I learn from her, even if it's just her attitude.
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TRYINGHARD1948 5/30/2011 4:58AM

    Loved this.

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KELPIE57 5/30/2011 3:19AM

    Thank you for the timing of this, just what I needed, to get on and follow my own dream.

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KAREN1924 5/29/2011 10:56PM

    This was very deep. Funny, I was just thinking about those kind of things earlier. I always said "There are people who live and learn and there are others that just live." We can't give up our dreams and we can't live in the past, there is NO future in it. YES, Abigail had it right "We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!" I choose to try and live life to it's fullest and not live a stale or stationary life. To me, that is like giving up and that I can't even begin to fathom.

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WILLOW49 5/29/2011 10:22PM

    Love "The Rose". One of my best friends sang it at our wedding :)

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