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BEING A MOTHER...

Saturday, May 07, 2011

i got this email the other day and thought it worth posting here....


BEING A MOTHER...

After 17 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to
take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She
said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves
you and would love to spend some time with you.'
* * *
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit
was my MOTHER, who has been alone for 20 years,
but the demands of my work and my two boys had
made it possible to visit her only occasionally.
* * *
That night I called to invite her to go out for
dinner and a movie.
* * *
'What's wrong, aren't you well,' she asked?
* * *
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a
late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign
of bad news.
* * *
'I thought it would be pleasant to spend some
time with you,' I responded. 'Just the two of us.'
She thought about it for a moment, and then said,
'I would like that very much.'
* * *
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick
her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her
house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous
about our date. She waited in the door. She had curled her hair and was wearing the
dress that she had worn to celebrate her last
birthday on November 19th.
* * *
She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an
angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going to go
out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said,
as she got into that new white van. 'They can't wait to hear about our date'.
* * *
We went to a restaurant that, although not
elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my
arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat
down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only
read large print. Half way through the entries, I
lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at
me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It was I
who used to have to read the menu when you were
small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax and
let me return the favor,' I responded.
* * *
During the dinner, we had an agreeable
conversation- -nothing extraordinary but catching up
on recent events of each other's life. We talked so
much that we missed the movie.
* * *
As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll
go out with you again, but only if you let me invite
you.' I agreed.
* * *
'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I
got home.
'Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,'
I answered.
* * *
A few days later, my mother died of a massive
heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't
have a chance to do anything for her.
* * *
Some time later, I received an envelope with a
copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place
mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I
paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I
could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two
plates - one for you and the other for your wife.
You will never know what that night meant for me. I
love you, son.'
* * *
At that moment, I understood the importance of
saying in time: 'I LOVE YOU' and to give our loved
ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is
more important than your family. Give them the time
they deserve, because these things cannot be put off
till 'some other time.'
* * *
Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back
to normal after you've had a baby.... somebody
doesn't know that once you're a mother,
'normal' is history.
* * *
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by
instinct. somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.
* * *
Somebody said being a mother is boring ....
somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.
* * *
Somebody said if you're a good' mother,
your child will 'turn out good'....
somebody thinks a child comes with
directions and a guarantee.
* * *
Somebody said you don't need an education to be a
mother.... somebody never helped a fourth grader
with his math.
* * *
Somebody said you can't love the second child as
much as you love the first .... somebody doesn't
have two children.
* * *
Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother
is labor and delivery...
somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus
for the first day of kindergarten .
or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp.'
* * *
Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her
child gets married....somebody doesn't know that
marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a
mother's heartstrings.
* * *
Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last
child leaves home; somebody never had
grandchildren.
* * *
Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so
you don't need to tell her.... somebody isn't a
mother.
* * *
Pass this along to all the 'mothers' in your life
and to everyone who ever had a mother. This isn't
just about being a mother; it's about appreciating
the people in your life while you have them....no
matter who that person is.......



have a wonderful day on sunday as we celebrate" mother's day"a day for all women................
blessings and hugs..............lita

  
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WILDFIREKRISTIN 5/28/2011 12:18PM

    I cried and cried like a baby. What a touching story and so true. I am losing my own mom and I remind myself daily that I have few precious days left with her, this reminded me even more.

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CATIATM 5/12/2011 3:08PM

    Awwww ....

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MOMFAN 5/12/2011 1:28AM

    Thanks, I missed spending the day with my mom because she had to cancel the trip because she has been sick. Had a lovely time with my dd's though.

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JUSFOLK 5/10/2011 10:14PM

    Touching...all those "somebodys" in the stroy don't know much about motherhood, do they?
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TRYINGHARD1948 5/7/2011 10:17PM

    Lita, you made me cry. Have a wonder filled day. Hope you don't mind but I put it on my Facebook, just didn't want to lose it. emoticon

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SASSYCHRIS1952 5/7/2011 8:02PM

    Very nice blog, happy mothers day emoticon

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DDOORN 5/7/2011 7:53PM

    What a Special Share!

Thx so much for all you do and all the SUPPORT!

...and have yourself a MOST Special Mother's Day as well!

Don

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AQUAGIRL08 5/7/2011 3:00PM

    Lita,
Thanks so much for sharing. You brought tears to my eyes. Have a Mother's Day filled with blessings....
Hugs,
Cyndi

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RAINBOWCHOC 5/7/2011 1:46PM

    tears here too!

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GRITS46 5/7/2011 1:41PM

    OK, Lita, I'm sitting hear tears streaming down my face -- I wish my brothers had done something like this. They lived nearer mom than me (I was 2200 miles away) and rarely, if ever, visited or took her out. In her last year, I moved her closer to me because they weren't keeping an eye out at the nursing home where they had placed her, and I found out she was being abused there. Although my life with mom had been a difficult and somewhat abusive one, that last 10 months healed our relationship through the grace of God, with no words passed about the past and no dredging up of painful history. We just learned to really love each other. I never thought I'd miss my mom, but I do, and this made me ponder those last few months with her in a way I'd never done before. THANK YOU!!!

Happy Mother's Day with hugs and blessings,
Sherrey

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HOPESINGH 5/7/2011 1:22PM

    A very touching text - thank you so much. emoticon

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JOYCERN12 5/7/2011 11:37AM

    OKAY- I CRIED TOO, CALLING IN ON MY MOTHER TODAY!
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!! JOYCE

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COOLPOODLE 5/7/2011 10:49AM

    gosh you made me cry. i love being a mother. I hope my son someday gets to have kids of his own. thanks!

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DRASADAF 5/7/2011 10:41AM

    OMG that was awesome...my tears cudnt stop flowing...omg..it was simply amazing...i love u so much for this LITA...wish u a Happy mothers day too....


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WILLOW49 5/7/2011 9:49AM

    Wonderful blog! Happy Mother's Day!
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Anything is Possible.....

Sunday, May 01, 2011

Anything is Possible

By Unknown

If there was ever a time to dare,
to make a difference,
to embark on something worth doing,
IT IS NOW.
Not for any grand cause, necessarily...
but for something that tugs at your heart,
something that's your inspiration,
something that's your dream.
You owe it to yourself to make your days here count.
HAVE FUN.
DIG DEEP.
STRETCH.
DREAM BIG.
Know, though, that things worth doing seldom come easy. There will be good days.
And there will be bad days.
There will be times when you want to turn around,
pack it up, and call it quits.
Those times tell you
that you are pushing yourself, that you are not afraid to learn by trying.
PERSIST.
Because with an idea,
determination, and the right tools,
you can do great things.
Let your instincts, your intellect,
and your heart, guide you.
TRUST.
Believe in the incredible power of the human mind.
Of doing something that makes a difference.
Of working hard.
Of laughing and hoping.
Of lazy afternoons.
Of lasting friends.
Of all the things that will cross your path this year.
The start of something new brings the hope of something great, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.


update.....
am waiting for another mri appointement for my knee issues
i am not sure where i am anymore with this weight loss journey so will be making some changes in order to get some control of things..........
have had several problems with the lap band.have had to have 1- 1/2 cc removed from the band over the last month and 1/2 or so and have gained almost 10 pounds.....as it turns out my latest problem has been esophageal spasms.........so for now am just going to try and maintain and if lucky lose some weight but am no longer concentrating on weight loss..........just trying to stay healthy............this journey of mine has been fraught with lots of little and some bigger problems which so far have not helped me no matter how hard i try...............
i have removed my ticker from my page at any rate..am refocusing myself to maintain what i have for the moment and allow my body to do whatever it needs to do.....

thanks so much for your help and support as without everyone here i would have quit a long time ago.............
i have been so inspired by so many here it is what keeps me coming back everyday for more
my world is a better place because you are all so special to me.....
much appreciation and gratitude
blessings and hugs..................lita

  
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DDOORN 5/3/2011 4:07PM

    Thx for sharing such great thoughts and inspirations...there just is NOTHING that compares with our SparkFamily! :-)

Don

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GOSPELCLOWN 5/3/2011 10:33AM

    WOW L*I*T*A you hit on sometbing today that made me say "Hey, wait!"

I've never heard of esphageal spasms.... help me here. Does it feel like you are having hiccups in the wrong part of the body? Does it give you the sensation of 'bubbles' or is that something else.

I will be printing out your encouraging blog today!

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WILLOW49 5/2/2011 9:58AM

    I'm sorry to hear about all of your health problems, but you have a great attitude, and it will take you far. I am in the same boat as you...not losing, but at least not gaining. I know sooner or later I'll get it figured out and start to lose again. Until then I keep reading positive blogs (like yours!) to help keep me focused.

I sure hope things turn around for your soon. Stay positive!
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TRYINGHARD1948 5/2/2011 6:13AM

    I so understand your desire for good health. Take any stress away and work on getting healthy first and foremost.. Hugs and positive vibes coming your way, emoticon

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KELPIE57 5/2/2011 2:42AM

    Your positive attitude is your biggest asset! And it helps the rest of us too! Hugs

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SKLUCE 5/2/2011 12:58AM

    I'm sorry to hear about your health issues...in spite of it all, you remain a great positive influence on so many of us! It sounds like you are taking a wise, healthy approach to finding the answers to the medical questions. Remember that losing weight was only a small part of getting healthy. Don't worry at all if it has to wait awhile. Let your body continue to tell you what it needs...You know it well! The poem says it well "Let your instincts, your intellect,
and your heart, guide you. TRUST." I believe you can hang in there and trust!


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AMYISSUCCEEDING 5/2/2011 12:17AM

    Nice Poem! Thank you for sharing. You are a very special person to me also.
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CARLYG8 5/2/2011 12:13AM

    Sending you lots of hugs and prayers that you recover from these latest setbacks quickly!
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HAPPY EASTER......

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

  
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CATIATM 4/28/2011 4:57AM

    Rejoice! He has risen! emoticon

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TRYINGHARD1948 4/22/2011 3:47AM

    Thank you Lita, beautiful.

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GRITS46 4/21/2011 7:09PM

    Lita, thanks, and a happy Easter to you too!

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RAINBOWCHOC 4/21/2011 1:54PM

    Thank you, and Happy Easter yourself

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WILLOW49 4/21/2011 10:15AM

    Thank you! Happy Easter to you, too!
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MOMFAN 4/20/2011 10:27PM

    Only those who risk going to far can possibly find out how far one can go.
- T.S. Eliot

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JUSFOLK 4/20/2011 10:05PM

    Love your photo blog and the message!

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THE INVINCIBLE YOU

Sunday, April 10, 2011





THE INVINCIBLE YOU

There's nothing to fear - you're as good as the best,
As strong as the mightiest, too;
You CAN win in every battle or test
For there's no one just like you.

There's only one you in the world today
'Cause nobody else, you see,
Can do your work in as fine a way:
You're the ONLY one there'll be!

So face the world, and all life is yours
To conquer and love and live,
And you'll find the happiness that endures
In just the measure you give.

There's nothing too good for you to possess,
Nor heights where you cannot go:
Your power is more than belief or guess -
It is something you have to KNOW.

There is nothing to fear -
you can and you will,
For you ARE the invincible you,
Set your foot upon the highest hill -
There's NOTHING you cannot do.

~ Author Unknown ~





  
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AUNTC321 4/19/2011 8:32PM

    Thanks for sharing.

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TRYINGHARD1948 4/12/2011 8:00AM

    Nothing to fear but fear itself. Thanks for reminding us of what we can be if we have faith in our own abilities. emoticon

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CATIATM 4/12/2011 2:31AM

    *sigh* Thanks for the encouragement. I'm not feeling all that invincible at the moment.

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GOSPELCLOWN 4/11/2011 11:44AM

    GREAT reminder!

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 4/11/2011 11:21AM

    thanks!! i got back on track yesterday and this was JUST what i needed to see!! HUGS!!!!

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KARENE10 4/11/2011 9:01AM

    Thank You! emoticon

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KELPIE57 4/11/2011 4:16AM

    So true, just need to put it into action!

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WILLOW49 4/10/2011 7:18PM

    This is GREAT! Thanks for sharing with us!
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MOMFAN 4/10/2011 6:59PM

    We will do this because we are invincible!

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SUSANMOMOF6 4/10/2011 6:39PM

    Thank you for the inspiration, sweetie! You're the best!

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The Daffodil Principle

Monday, April 04, 2011


The Daffodil Principle

The Daffodil Principle Clearly Shows In A Profoundly Inspirational Way, That It's Through Small, Focused and Consistent Steps That Can and Do Impact The World In A Big...Big Way




One day at a time and one small and seemingly insignificant step at a time
yields the most incredible harvest when it's done intentionally and consistently.
Keep on keepin on. It's more powerful than you may realize.



The Daffodil Principle

by...

~Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards~

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead "I will come next Tuesday", I promised a little reluctantly on her third call.
Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and reluctantly I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn's house I was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.
"Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see badly enough to drive another inch!"
My daughter smiled calmly and said, "We drive in this all the time, Mother." "Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her.
"But first we're going to see the daffodils. It's just a few blocks," Carolyn said. "I'll drive. I'm used to this."
"Carolyn," I said sternly, "please turn around." "It's all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."
After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read, "Daffodil Garden." We got out of the car, each took a child's hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight.
It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak and its surrounding slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, and saffron and butter yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.





"Who did this?" I asked Carolyn. "Just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home." Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house.
On the patio, we saw a poster. "Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking", was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. "50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1958."
For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. One day at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration.
That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time--often just one baby-step at time--and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world ...
"It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Carolyn. "What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five or forty years ago and had worked away at it 'one bulb at a time' through all those years? Just think what I might have been able to achieve!"
My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. "Start tomorrow," she said.
She was right. It's so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, "How can I put this to use today?"
Use the Daffodil Principle. Stop waiting.....
Until your car or home is paid offUntil you get a new car or homeUntil your kids leave the houseUntil you go back to schoolUntil you finish schoolUntil you clean the houseUntil you organize the garageUntil you clean off your deskUntil you lose 10 lbs.Until you gain 10 lbs.Until you get marriedUntil you get a divorceUntil you have kidsUntil the kids go to schoolUntil you retireUntil summerUntil springUntil winterUntil fallUntil you die...
There is no better time than right now to be happy.Happiness is a journey, not a destination.So work like you don't need money.Love like you've never been hurt, and, Dance like no one's watching.
If you want to brighten someone's day, pass this on to someone special.I just did!
Wishing you a beautiful, daffodil day!
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

  
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QUESTFORLULU 7/13/2011 6:22PM

    Oh wow! This is wonderful. LuLu emoticon

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NSPLADY 4/5/2011 1:58PM

    Amazing!!!! I need to read this everyday.... Thanks Lita for posting it!

Barb

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SUSANMOMOF6 4/5/2011 1:19AM

    Wonderful, magical! How many times do we not do a thing that seems too small to be important. Thank you for this wonderful story. I cant't wait to share it with my children!

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PEARL-LADY 4/4/2011 4:00PM

    have read this story before and find it inspiring...reminds us all what we can do if we set our minds to it!


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DREAMS2LIFE 4/4/2011 11:37AM

    I heard the story before, but never related it to one's weight loss journey. Thanks for the reminder. Have a beautiful day! emoticon

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VALERIEMAHA 4/4/2011 11:35AM

    Start now. Again. Once more. Like it's the first time.
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Maha

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GIANTPANDA 4/4/2011 11:34AM

    Thank you for an absolutely beautiful story.

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SPARKLING_SUSAN 4/4/2011 11:25AM

    Absolutely beautiful, and thank you so much for sharing! Very timely, as well, with daffodils blooming, spring springing and a new opportunity TODAY to begin.

Bless your heart. Thank you!
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    Wonderful! emoticon

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 4/4/2011 9:52AM

    Beautiful!!!!

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TRYINGHARD1948 4/4/2011 5:10AM

    What a wonderful way to show how each small step adds up a to a great achievement. Thank you.

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KELPIE57 4/4/2011 3:04AM

    I have read this before, however it did me a lot of good to be reminded of it. I thank you. emoticon

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HOPESINGH 4/4/2011 2:04AM

    Thanks for another inspirational story. I'll try to remind myself that about my career - it's really hard for me to take another baby step if the last one wasn't very successful...
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