Monday, August 27, 2012
It is so funny the way memories are linked to so many things--people,places,smells,foods and texture---each of these has a way of bringing back crystal clear recall of various stages of the Past and life we have lived.Yesterday was one such day---a huge chunk of the Past came flooding back!!!
Mummy and Prabha Maushi--or Praa Maushi as I used to call her, got married a year apart.Both were young Marathi women who belonged to Bombay and were thrust from a bustling City life into rural India--that too into the very back of beyond!!! It was this feeling of initial discomfort in adjusting to a completely different environment that formed a very strong bond between the two of them--so strong that in a short while they became as close as sisters.Luckily for the two of them Daddy and Madhukar Kaka shared many similar interests and this cemented the relationship into one of bonds that last---and even today we think of them as a very beloved Aunt and Uncle--an integral part of our lives.
All 6 of us were born within a year of each other--Anju came along a year after me,Rahul a year after Mikki and Gauri a year after Ritu.Those days we children bonded as siblings--and since Rahul was the only boy amongst us it was his privilege to act pricey at both "Rakhi" and "Bhau Beej" the two Festivals on which brothers are felicitated.Anju and I were very close---being just a year apart made us both friends and confidantes to each other---besides we thought that we were actually "first" cousins--the truth that we were not related at all dawned on us much later in life!!!I married early and shifted to Bombay---but because Sudhir too fell in love with the magic of Chandigarh we were frequent visitors there before my parents shifted to Mauritius.Later we still visited Chandigarh with the Girls and it was an accepted arrangement that we lived with Praa Maushi for the times we did.
Sudhir was a introvert and very cautious when it came to forming deep friendships.While on the surface he was extremely charming and friendly, he also had a "thus far no further" quality before accepting someone as a true friend--and to date Sunil remains his one true friend with whom he shared a fifty seven year old friendship--they became fast friends at their ages of 10 years in School!!I on the other hand reacted according to my "gut feelings".My like or dislike of a person would be instant----and lasting!!!Luckily for me this has always stood me in good stead-----and I have large circle of really good friends who do care for me!!!However I digress---so back to the topic on hand.
Both Anju and Gauri had come over from Pune just to meet and spend time with me--since both lived abroad--Anju in Dubai and Gauri in Muscat.The last time they had come home I was in L.A. with Lotta so this visit was actually a Condolence visit.Just seeing them brought back a wave of Memories--my childhood and adolescence,the early years of our marriage when we'd visit Chandigarh--the fun times we'd all had together and most of all the Get Together Gauri's husband Shekhar had organised in August last year in Pune for Gauri's Fiftieth Birthday---a Party that Sudhir had been insistent we attend!!Yesterday was a day to recall our lives--while both Anju and I are almost 60 and our siblings all into their 50s-----we still connect on the same level as we have always done--Time and Distance haven't made a dent in our relationship!!There are Plans afoot to visit Chandigarh together and revisit our childhood and the places which even today are etched into our memories--how and when the Trip materialises only Time will tell!!