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Character Quirks!!!

Friday, May 04, 2012

Growing up with my father was hilarious!!!After late 1964 he was forced to take a long Vacation on account of his health---and since he had his Vacation for 5 years accumulated---that was no problem.He'd been working hard getting the College of Architecture in Chandigarh established and on it's feet as it's Founder Principal and this consumed most of his time and we saw him rarely those days.This long Vacation turned out to be a blessing in disguise---we were re-introduced to our father once more!!!It was during those days that we became friends and not just father and daughter.
The first month of his Vacation was taken up with Tests and Doctors' Visits and the diagnoses was that he had Low Blood Pressure.Because of this he was prescribed a high Protein Diet---and Daddy took it to mean--a rich Diet!!!His Breakfast consisted of a bowl of Porridge(Oats or Bulghur), 3 Eggs--either fried sunny side up or scrambled with lashings of Butter and Cheese,Sausages or Bacon--on Weekends there would be both----along with a rack of crisp Toast and Butter as well as Marmalade.All this would be washed down with a "Punjabi" (Tall)Glass of hot Milk to which 1 tbsp. of "Chyavanprash" had been added.This "Chyavanprash" is an Ayurvedic Health Vitaliser---made with "Aamlaa"----the Indian Gooseberry and many other Herbs added in specific Proportions to improve it's efficacy.The taste of it is something that you either love or hate---he loved it but I hated it--leading to a tussle every morning and night for it was ingested twice each day!!Since I was a scrawny scrap(impossible now to even comprehend--it was in another life!!) he felt this would help build up my stamina and strength.While I loved Milk--"Chyanprash" was a definite no no!!!
Since we'd be in School for Lunch(in Winter School began at 9 a.m. and went on till 4.30 p.m.)we weren't there to see how much he ate--but the Afternoon Tea was a real filling Meal!!Sandwiches and Cakes with Indian Snacks like Pakoras/Bhajias, Samosas and Kachories as well made it a pretty heavy one.Dinner would be at sharp 9 p.m.--on the dot.Daddy would begin with his bowl of Soup--he had this large glazed Earthernware Bowl he'd carried from Tuscany---and this would be filled to the brim with Mummy's yummy Soups---she was a wizard at cooking everything but her forte was Continental (British Raj) style Food.The Soup would be served with Fresh Cream and Bread Sticks.Chandigarh was built on fertile loamy Soil---and our Vegetable Garden yielded plenty of Fresh Produce all organically grown back then---and till today the taste of those Vegetables lingers on my tongue!!!An Indian Dinner usually consists of 3-4 Side dishes along with one main dish,a Salad as well as Rice,Roti and Dal(Lentils) and ours was no exception!!!After a hearty Dinner the Dessert would appear and after that the Dry Fruits and once more---the Punjabi Glass of Milk with Chyavannprash!!Today I marvel at all our appetites back then---but those days my stomach was a bottomless Pit--always empty no matter the amounts I gorged!!For us eating this way was routine---and we saw nothing wrong with it.
One day however a few friends of my father dropped in for a visit.The Conversation was in full swing when Dinner was announced and as was his wont Daddy asked them to join us for Dinner.Halfway through the Meal Daddy noticed one of these friends looking at him in awe---but being busy eating he ignored it and continued.At the end of the Meal the poor man just couldn't contain himself he burst out vocally---"Sir how much can you put away?Will there ever be a full stop?"To this Daddy calmly replied "My friend look at the Structure (Imaarat) and then tell me does it not need to be maintained in prime condition?"Daddy was 6 feet tall with a solid wide set frame to match---hence the quip!!!This silenced the man but it also made us take a second look at his Diet---needless to say the Doctor warned him about his weight increasing too much and chopped off most of the things Daddy loved--Bacon.Sausages,Butter,Ghee,Fresh Cream and the Fried Snacks were the first to go!!!While Mummy got a reprieve Daddy blamed that man for casting an Evil Eye on his Food!!!
Those days we used get Supplies for Diwaali--the Annual Festival of Lights.Grocers would hoard up some Supplies to sell later in the Black Market and Mummy would begin buying stuff like Ghee,Oil and Dalda (Hydrogenised Oil) months in advance to avoid getting caught short of these things.In 1967 somehow she miscalculated and was at her wit's end about the remedy.This was when a friend named Sriram stepped in.Sriram worked for the Company that manufactured these Products and so offered to use his influence to get us the Products directly from the source.Mummy quickly handed over her List and the wait began.Our home was the point where all our Family friends congregated daily--and since Sriram had a funny sounding last name Daddy had composed a Ditty on it-----and would sing and dance to it at the drop of a hat--one just had to ask!!!!That fateful day too on popular demand was clowning around in the Living Room with the Ditty---having everyone in splits.The Main Door was open and only the Screen Door was closed---letting out all the sounds of the revelry taking place inside.No one knows how long Sriram stood there before calling out to Mummy to open the door----and Mummy did so with trepidation--expecting Sriram to plonk the Metal containers fair and square on Daddy's balding pate!!!However he didn't and stayed instead to Tea and later Dinner----and his family joined him too after Daddy issued the Invitation as usual.Till today we ponder over this point---did he hear The Ditty---or didn't he???

  
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BOVEY63 5/5/2012 4:43PM

    Thanks for sharing this wonderful story about your father.

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NITAINMN 5/4/2012 8:39PM

    Oh my!! That is a lot of food....one does get hungrier in the north from the cold than in south India, I must say. We ate very light supper at night with simple rice in conji and a fresh vegetable. Our main meal was in the afternoon, what was called Dinner those days in India. Glad to note you are thinking of your Dad still after your European trip. emoticon

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Impacts!!!

Thursday, May 03, 2012

Reading is a Passion which I have revived full time once more---and these Books have become my constant companions once again!!!Today I read a lot of modern Indian Authors who write simply but beautifully----and being Indian I can identify with their Books.Jhumpa Lahiri,Vikram Seth,Upamanyu Chatterjee and Amish Tripathi to name some of my greater favourites.The last one has written the wonderful Trilogy on "Shiva"---the first two books are called "The Immortals of Meluha" and "the Land of The Nagas".The third Book called "The Oath of the Vayuputras" is yet to be released.
It is this Trilogy that has captured my mind--the brilliant interpretation of the Legends of Shiva in Hindu Mythology have been woven together with such beautiful artistry that it has been turned into a mesmerising Tale------appealing to a Global audience--not just an Indian one.I'm old fashioned and love reading Books---but am now thinking of buying a Kindle for the house is already overstuffed with Books as it is---one can find them piled on each and every flat surface there is!!!These two Books have literally mesmerised me----I finished each of these at a single go--then worried that I'd missed out on details re-read them twice more!!!Just before I left I came across a News Item about the first Book.It stated that one of our young Indian Movie Moghuls---Karan Johar----is planning a Movie on the Book and maybe casting Hrithik Roshan---one of the current Box Office favourites in the pivotal role of Shiva.If this is true I can't wait to see the result---for Hrithik fits in as Shiva--having all the characteristics needed to portray Him.He is a fantastically graceful dancer with a golden look about him--as befitting a dweller of the higher reaches of the Himalayas as well as being a goodlooking fellow----and can emote too.Hence the perfect Shiva!!!It is however the role of his Consort Sati--for the Actress playing her needs to be perfect if she is to be pitted against the mythological beauty that Sati was supposed to have!!!
Till then however I have to make do with watching an Indian daily Soap-----"Devon kaa Dev--Mahadev" based on the Shiva Purana as Shiva always has been the one I worship the most among the Holy Trinity.Though He is the Destroyer and an Ascetic it is Him that I instinctively turn to in need---however tiny it may be.He is the strength of my day to day survival-----and to date he has never let me down!!
"Om Namo Shivaay" and "Har Har Mahadev"!!!

  
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NITAINMN 5/12/2012 12:05AM

    I do like Indian authors myself....read almost all of them, though, can't recite names off my memory any more. Jumpa Lahari - read all the books too and am awaiting more to come. Have you read Chitra Bannerji divakaruni's books? They are pretty good too....they made a movie out of The Mistress of spice with Aishwarya Rai, though, I don't think she can express emotions as well as she does glamour and fashion! :-)

I shall read the books you have suggested - the trilogy. Thank you. I like Hritik too...saw one of his English movies with Barbara Mori or someone Mexican....I would love to see him cast as Shiva also. He is very handsome....

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BOVEY63 5/3/2012 5:47PM

    Thanks for the reminder that I need to get back into reading. It is something I have always enjoyed and for some reason have let it slip to the wayside.
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SAASHA17 5/3/2012 2:00PM

    Interesting I should find those books.

I have a nook and I prefer it to the kindle. Upto u though:) I enjoy my nook (hint hint)...

I was more into Vishnu...( i see my son named Vishnu, if I can:)) and Prasanth was the one who introduced me to Shiva...

Manasa

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Just Reflecting!!!

Wednesday, May 02, 2012

Living on after the loss of one's Beloved is never easy.I always knew that my love for Sudhir was obssessively possessive as well as all pervading----but I never realised just how much!!!Today there is a huge void in my life--it's like a deeply embedded thorn in my flesh--a dull but constant ache that just refuses to go away and without warning suddenly flares up into a searing pain!!!I'm still perhaps not being completely honest with myself--for I shy away from acknowledging his death in the depths of both my mind and my heart for I cannot deal with it.Somewhere deep down I still feel that this is one nightmare that I'm going to wake up from soon--to find him sleeping next to me and everything in my World on an even keel once again!!!
One thing that I'm always grateful for is that I was always extremely vocal and demonstrative of my love for him----in fact it embarassed him some times!!!There are so many things about him that I miss terribly---his deep Brown eyes dancing with laughter and mischief,his now thinning hair flopping over his forehead,the smile that lit up his entire being----but most of all I miss his melodious humming!!!Thanks to the FM Radio he'd hear some latest Bollywood Songs on the Radio on the way back home.Some of these had a very catchy beat coupled with horrendously nonsensical Lyrics.The beat would get to him--and he'd wake up the next morning humming the Lyrics.This embarassed and irritated him-----for he was pretty straight laced in such things and he'd mutter about this despairingly for hours!!!
Both of us were pretty uncomfortable watching certain scenes with our daughters----this would prompt the two of them to exhort us two "kids" to leave the room till things returned to the basic Plot----leading to a heated argument over the need to fast forward the entire scene instead.By the time we finished arguing we'd have missed that particular scene and several more as well!!Our home was always a noisy one--filled with Music,Singing and Debates over various issues as well as the loud tone of the Radio over riding all else.I'm a Radio person and my day would begin with my Transistor following me around---my favourite was Vividh Bharati--AIR(All India Radio)'s multi lingual Channel.Sudhir could never understand how I could listen to it the whole day---but frankly all those beautiful tunes fascinated me.I was specially fond of the South Indian Music--the Kannada,Telugu,Tamil and Malyalam Songs were so beautiful--and the Music composed by the Southern Music Directors sublime!!!Many a time have I been compelled to dance to those beautiful tunes--Ilyaraja was my most favourite Composer-----but Music was what mattered--not the words--for those I couldn't comprehend!!!However I managed to convert him to listening to this with me and added the beautiful Assamese Music to it as well.Somehow that Music simply enthralls and bewitches me--one of the places he'd promised recently to take me for a Vacation was Assam and it's neighbouring 6 States--popularly known together as the "Seven Sisters"!!However not to be!!
There are times that I yearn to just have him next to me--to hear his rhythmic breathing and feel his warmth.I miss the sense of a secure rightness that I had barely six months earlier but now long for.Both my daughters and sons-in-law are trying their best to keep me happy by being very loving and attentive---they've ensured my own Cell number as well as my addiction the Computer to be completely at my disposal in both their homes.Still however I long for something more---an elusive person to meet whom once again involves how long a wait only The Almighty knows!!!

  
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RAIN454 5/30/2012 5:31PM

    Nita's response almost had me in tears. Nita, if you're reading this, you write so poignant and beautifully. Komal, you were blessed with the best support system.You may have your moments but your daughters, sons-in laws, grandkids and all the good friends you've made in this world will not let you stay in that moment for too long.
PS. LOVE that you enjoy malayalam music! ;)



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NITAINMN 5/11/2012 11:52PM

    Its simply unimaginable how sad one must feel from losing their life's partner...how we wish we both could go together! Glad you are getting comforted from fond memories of Sudhir while grieving over his loss in your life. Life will get easier sooner that later I hope for you, Komal. I also pray that you will find Sudhir as your partner in your next life too....perhaps which is why he had to leave sooner and be there to receive and ease you into heaven of sleep when its your turn! God bless and keep you happy until then by comforting you with Sudhir's constant presence and remembrance. emoticon

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OVERWORKEDJANET 5/5/2012 6:40AM

    You are having the problems of life that are so normal. You will never stop missing him, It will never stop hurting but it will fade to an ache you can quickly smile at from the good memories.
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BOVEY63 5/2/2012 5:38PM

    Keep focus on all the beautiful memories you made with your beloved Sudhir. A love like yours is a true blessing.

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EACHDAYAGIFT 5/2/2012 5:16PM

    Yours and Sudhirs was quite a love story, so of course it continues, even though you are apart. I am so sorry that you have to feel the grief. It is lonely because no one can enter it with you except God, no matter how many people love you and would want to help. But i rejoice that the memories of your life together are so present and strong, as well. I am glad that you at times feel him with you enjoying things or commenting in your thoughts just as he would if he were physically there by your side.
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Life's Vagaries!!!

Wednesday, May 02, 2012

A SP Friend of mine Manasa blogged about how a young cousin of her husband's lost her husband in a Car Accident.For me it was saddening News--Death of a Beloved is never easy--and when one has a Toddler barely 3 years old to bring up----even worse!!!I have often questioned The Almighty on this--people who are comatose and dependent on Life Support Systems are forced to drag on "living" because India does not allow Mercy killing and young,vigorous people just die suddenly in an instant----it is so unfair!!!My heart goes out to all the four people left behind--the widow and the daughter--because both have Financial stability but will now become emotionally bereft and the Parents--for the load of seeing a child precede one in the prime of it's life is devastating!!!When I spoke to Manasa yesterday evening the way she spoke about those four was so that it brought the loss into sharp focus for me.It was if I too knew them and I couldn't talk to her further----I had to call off.
The only thing that is a bit heartening in all this is that bringing up the child will ensure a focus in that young woman's life but my heart goes out to the parents--what a bitter pill to swallow in the Sunset years of their own lives!!!May the Almighty grant each of them the strength to cope with this devastating loss!!!

  
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BOVEY63 5/2/2012 5:36PM

    Prayers for the family and loved ones.

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SAASHA17 5/2/2012 1:56PM

    I am sorry if it upset u, Komal..But sometimes I can lash out at God or anyone only through Spark...It is horrible the way things turned out...I really wish I could go to her...

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Just Meha and Me!!!

Wednesday, May 02, 2012

Yesterday my grand daughter Meha---fondly referred to by Sudhir and me as "The Raavanaa"----decided to take me to the Getty Museum---literally to the other end of Town!!She had just an hour of School and was free after that so she thought I'd enjoy this---hence off we went around 10 a.m.----the GPS leading the way!!!Took us about an hour and a half to arrive and another half hour to find a Parking spot.However by 12 noon we were at the Tram Station waiting to be transported to the Museum.
The Magic began with the Tram Ride.As it pulled away it began winding up the Hill---and first thick Woods on one side with the sheer drop to the Freeways on the other made for a novel experience.As we rose higher the Woods continued but with added glimpses of lush Green clad Hills rolling away into the distance with L.A. falling even farther below us--clothed in a misty haze.We reached the Museum and after a quick Lunch we began our Tour---and literally a Treasure Trove of Art opened up before my bemused eyes----there are so many Images and Names crammed into my cranium that I can't even think straight!!we spent over 4 hours there and it still wasn't enough!!The beautiful Gardens and Landscaping as well as the modern Glass and Stone buildings and foyers create an impression of Light and Openness----adding to the mesmerising effect.Meha took quite a few Pictures of the place but an Usher there told her about a certain application that can help to enhance the Pictures on her I Phone---so we're waiting for her to do that.Once it is done I'll share them here for your viewing pleasure!!
My 17 year old Raavanaa has had to deal with a lot of issues these past 6 months.Beginning with Sudhir's death the secure familiar cocoon of her childhood and adolescent world came crashing down.The next step was her going to College.Never having lived on her own it is going to be a very difficult but enlightening experience for her to face--and she is approaching that with both anticipation and trepidation---all changes aren't really all happy ones!!She wanted me here so that she could spend time with me and just "hang out" with me--in her words.So this began on the first Wednesday I was here--25th. April----Jet lagged and sleepy she saw to it that I ate on time and took care of me---somehow she made me feel like a little child!!!An embarassing but nice feeling!!!The Jet Lag continued till on Friday she insisted I accompany her to a School Play---"You're a Good Man,Charlie Brown"---for which she bought the Tickets in advance to ensure that I went.Once there she took me around her School--showing me her Locker and various Classrooms and Sports facilities in the Grounds before the Play started.The Play was good--an eye opener to the way these children of today think and visualise things--and featured some really great performances--particularly the young fellow who played "Snoopy"!!!It was pretty late by the time the Play got over---and then came the Grand Finale of the evening--a yummy Sushi Dinner at one of the new places that have opened up since I last visited---it was exceptionally good!!
These past few days have brought home to me how my little Raavanaa has grown up.Talking to her has introduced me to an individual that still carries shades of the little child I knew---but with definite adult overtones of a very smart and confident young lady with definite opinions and views on everything---from Politics to Literature!!She is now earning my respect in the way she is developing into a very strong minded individual----and though she has inherited my naivete she also knows how to be firm and hard headed whenever the need arises!!!The thing however that has touched me the most is the fact that is willing today to just spend time with me--talking to me on a one-to-one basis----and reaching out to me with her inner most feelings.I in turn draw parallels to similar thoughts I've had and we discuss the similarity of our ways of Thought---but both reach different conclusions--due to our difference in age!!
Lotta has just taken up a Job once again after a gap of 7 years--the better to deal with the "Empty Nest" Syndrome she says--so Meha and I are living it up---cooking,reminiscing,arguing and laughing together!!!

  
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BOVEY63 5/2/2012 5:35PM

    So nice that you and Raavanaa had such a special time together.
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SAASHA17 5/2/2012 1:36PM

    Yes its rare to find such friendship with grandkids esp of the present generation..U are one lucky grandma:) ..live it up my friend..

it was nice talking to u...

u take care
Manasa

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