Tuesday, February 16, 2010
We Indians------in this case Maharashtrians-----are still a conservative people---arranged Marriages are preferred to Love Marriages.Maybe because this is thought to be the base for a stable Marriage-------a lot of aspects are decided only after due deliberation by the entire Family---including the extended Family which pitches in with gusto------it is truly an enthusiastic venture!!One dish is a must for deciding the verdict---Kaandey Pohey!!!This is a simple but tasty and spicy preparation made with beaten Parched Rice, Shallots, Potatoes,Green Peas and Green Chillies,garnished with grated raw Fresh Coconut and finely chopped Fresh Coriander.Platefuls of this are served with a wedges of freshly cut Lemon to enhance the taste---each household has a family variation but basically the Recipe doesn't alter.You can find the recipe in my Cook Book.The address of this particular Cook Book is---http://recipes.sparkpeople.com/cookbo
As soon as a baby is born his/her Horoscope is cast by a trusted Family Astrologer. When the marriageable age arrives, copies of the Horoscopes are made and Photographs clicked in a particular stereotype form------then begins the gruelling round of finding the right partner for the Boy/Girl.The entire family pitches in---feelers are sent among reltives and friends for searching probable Candidates.These Candidates are then thoroughly veted---their Family Background,Character,Education,Job,future Prospects----everything is examined under a microscope.Neighbours of the Candidates are discretely questioned to find about the behaviour of all of the Family members.Finally satisfied with all the information gathered the next step takes place---the Girl's Horoscope and Photograph is presented to the Boy's family------and vice versa---a copy of the Boy's Horoscope is obtained.The families then consult their Family Astrologers who match both Horoscopes and give their verdict----if an unequivocal "Yes" then the project proceeds further.
A day is mutually fixed for a visit to the Girl's home-------the time and number of people visting is decided upon and the D-Day arrives.The meeting takes place over Lunch or Tea----the menu for Lunch is fluid but the Menu for Tea is fixed by Tradition-----Kaandey Pohey------a TOTAL must!!!Of course other courses are there too---but the fate of the match rests on the taste of this one dish!!!The best cook in the Family cooks this dish and the Boy and Girl interview each other over dishes of piping hot Pohey.If they find some physical attraction as well as a lot of aspects in each other compatible the Wedding is fixed.If not both move on---the Boy's family to plates of Kaandey Pohey prepared maybe a little differently---and the Girl's family to entertaining another prospective Groom!!