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Surgery or No Surgery.....that is the question.

Monday, November 16, 2009

Had a long talk with the hubby this weekend. He would really like me to get a lapband. Not sure how I feel about that......Seems a little invasive, but I feel like I need some extra help as things are going soooooo ssssslllllooooowwww.

I'm not looking for a quick fix....but it might help me get to a healthier level to work on the issue....

I don't know....I am so torn.....

I definitely need to do more research into it. I guess I'll have time to think about it in DC this week.

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CHILDNUMBER10 11/18/2009 9:20PM

  Lapband is a surgery. I know a couple of people who had it done has been great for them. I know another that ended up with the plastic surgery for the skin flap that had trouble with skin infections on the fold. I know of another that was allergic to the band material that caused some problems. Pray about it and your answer will come. How long have you been with the spark people? Good things come to those who wait. I have thought about it but found spark people instead so we will see.

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MYRENAISSANCE09 11/17/2009 10:27PM

  Honestly, I toyed with the idea of lapband for a while when it first came out because, well, it seemed so EASY and 'everyone was doing it.' They even have commercials that promote it, so it can't be that bad, can it? Well, the fact is, it is still surgery and, once I researched it, it seemed kind of scary to me. You need to look into it and see what you think.

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BUDDY_LOVE 11/17/2009 9:34PM

    OMGoodness. GF...definately not the route I would want to go.

Think long & hard about it first!

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MSLZZY 11/17/2009 6:57AM

    A good friend of mine had it done last year and he has done well. There were other issues including being diabetic. He did all the research and thought he was well prepared. There are so many things he can no longer enjoy and food must be prepared in a special way, as well. He has lost over 60 pounds.
Do your research and then do what is best for you. emoticon

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FORMYDARLINGS 11/16/2009 8:23PM

    Hi Keri, My DIL had a gastric bypass in August. She spent almost a year reading and going to meetings with other people who are about to or have had the surgery. This is a huge , HUGE step. There is much more to it than just having the band put in place. This affects you mentally as well. Be prepared. Do the research, Be VERY, VERY sure that this is how you want to live from now on.


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ID_VANDAL 11/16/2009 10:30AM

    Hi Keri,

I can't help much here other than to say I agree with all the Sparkers before me. I think you need to be absolutely comfortable with whatever decision you make. If not then I'd say keep researching and if you just can't get comfortable with it then don't do it.



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ELLENIRENE 11/16/2009 5:29AM

    This is a big decision that only you can decide. Be sure to do a lot of research, both for and against before making a decision.
Best of luck to you.

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LUCKYDUCK2 11/16/2009 1:46AM

    Do your research on this. I am like you...torn.

I have a friend who did it and she lost over 100 pounds. Sounds great but...she lost so fast she was saving for skin reduction surgery next. Now, she did not learn to figure out why she was overeating and this past two years has slowly regained some weight. I think she said about 28 pounds.

It can be a great tool but you still have to do the work to get the weight off or keep it off.

I can't say I have not thought about it when I had over a hundred pounds to lose.

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ERIECANALGAL 11/16/2009 12:09AM

    You need to do what you want to do. It is a big decision. Gather up all the info. and go with your gut feeling. Good Luck!

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Yikes!!!! How am I going to get it all done?????

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Okay, I let a little panic in this morning.... I'm not one to usually do this but I have such a full plate lately..

I am going to Washington DC next Wednesday through Sunday for work....well kind of work. I am the President of our local SHRM chapter and I have to go to a leadership conference in DC. I went last year and it was an amazing time as I hadn't been in DC before. I got to take a night bus tour and it was fantastic.

I'm sure this year will be very exciting also, but there are so many things going on a work.....it's a little overwhelming.

We have had a difficult time with our insurance renewal. We had an over 50% increase last year and they want another 44% this year. It really bites. It's sad that our employees take home less money each year because benefits rise so much. It is so out of control in our country. .......Enough about that. I bring it up because I have to deal with open enrollment yet. Among other things....I need an assistant......but they wouldn't let me get one even if I asked! Oh, well....this too shall pass.

So I'll be gone about a week....and even though I don't have time for it....I'm going to take the week of Thanksgiving off. It's a nice short week at work so it's probably the perfect time....or not....either way....I'm doing it!!!!

This has been a pretty good week so far. I have kept track of my intake and have not gone over once! So life is good on that score!

So if you don't hear from me much next week ....you know why!

I hope you are having a great day!


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POSITIVELY_EB 11/14/2009 7:46PM

    Have fun! You've earned it!

Hugs! Beverly

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LUCKYDUCK2 11/13/2009 1:26AM

    Keri, enjoy every minute of your time off and that trip. We will all be waiting at this end for new pictures. :)

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MINNER77 11/12/2009 6:58PM

    I can't claim this wisdom as it's from the Franklin planners company, but I love it, as it's pithy (one of my favorite words!) and profound: don't prioritize your schedule, but schedule your priorities. Lots of wisdom packed into those eight words.

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MSLZZY 11/12/2009 5:27PM

    Have a wonderful trip and we'll catch up with you when you have time. ENJOY!

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ID_VANDAL 11/12/2009 3:08PM

    Hi Keri,

I'm trying to figure out a good response because I'm dealing with the same issues - NO WAY WILL IT ALL GET DONE! Maybe that's the answer.

Anyway I'll try to support you more later (like NO WAY WILL IT ALL GET DONE is supporting you!! That's more like why don't we all just jump off the bridge now!


Hang in there - somehow the important stuff will get done. Just hold on to your sanity!!



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New week.......new meltdown!

Monday, November 09, 2009

Not that kind of meltdown!!!!

I am focused today and I am making a committed effort to lose weight this week! Here are my goals for the week.

1. Use the tools as provided by Becks.
2. Drink 10 glasses of water per day.
3. Track all food.
4. Consistantly work out this week.

I have all of this more detailed in my personal journal, but I just wanted to put it out here so my friends can hold me accountable! I am going to make this work!

Have a great week everyone!

May your goals come true!


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NANCY- 11/10/2009 7:06AM

    You can do it!!!

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FORMYDARLINGS 11/9/2009 7:00PM

    Much success to you this week, my friend,


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MSLZZY 11/9/2009 5:30PM

    emoticon Positive attitude! Nothing can stop you now! emoticon

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ID_VANDAL 11/9/2009 3:52PM

    Hi Keri, Now that you're out there we will hold you accountable. Shouldn't be a problem however.

You have the tools - just put them to work for you!!

I'm not even going to say "good luck" just "get it done!!"

Take care!



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FLAWLESSCUBE 11/9/2009 2:54PM

    Sounds like you have some great goals. Good luck this week. emoticon

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POSITIVELY_EB 11/9/2009 1:58PM

    emoticon You can do this! I KNOW you can!!!!

Hugs! Beverly

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LUCKYDUCK2 11/9/2009 1:26PM

    Great goals! Have a healthy week and let us know how you are doing. Cheering you on from this end.

I am going to take advantage of the weather and get my exercise in outside. Got to love these temps!

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An inspiring lesson!

Friday, November 06, 2009

My sisters and I went to Michael W. Smith's "A New Hallelujah Tour" last night. I have always liked his music, so I was looking forward to it. We had pretty good seats....8th row...not too shabby. I learned an unexpected lesson. It wasn't anything I hadn't heard before, but Michael put it into a prospective that I hadn't thought of before.

The Past is history.
The Future's a mystery.
But Now is his gift;
That's why they call it "the present".

Now that poem I have heard many times. So I guess his explaining it was what struck a cord with me. And this is what I discovered.

1. I can't do anything about what happened yesterday or last week or last year for that matter.

2. I don't know what is going to happen tomorrow.

3. I can hope for good things in the future.

4. The present is all I have, and all I can control for now. So now is what I need to focus on.

Isn't that true? We can't get hung up on what will or what did happen. What are we going to do now? What choice am I going to make now? Any list I have or make really doesn't mean much. What am I going to do now is all I have control of.

Eases the guilt and anxiety doesn't it?

It gives me hope for a new beginning too. More successes......as I enter each moment...I have another moment to get it right.

Join me?


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DEEGIRL50 11/7/2009 4:45PM

    I read somewhere that 90% of the things we worry about never come to be!! Don't Worry - Be Happy!!

Thanks for sharing your inspirational message with us!

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POSITIVELY_EB 11/7/2009 3:02PM

    I so agree with Vandal! Your blogs blow me away, too! How true it is to work on THIS day and not worry about the past or the future!

Hugs, my friend! Beverly

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MAMONTOYA 11/7/2009 7:45AM

    I enjoyed reading your blog. This is sooo true. All we are blessed with is today. We must live each day to its fullest for we are not promised tomorrow. God's will is our guide. Have a great weekend. emoticon

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    Great blog - and poem. We all have to have optimism or we fail. I like to see the glass half full, don't you? I'm trying to lose during the holidays to make up for my blunders this past year (yo-yo-ing)....I know I can do it. I'm in...I'll join you! Hugs, Brenda

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BUDDY_LOVE 11/6/2009 11:58PM

    Your blogs always hit the right spot! And You know just the right words to say.

While reading your blog, it reminded me of a song. "I know who holds tomorrow".

e.com/watch?v=ZKAguDa4ay4 this is a really beautful version of it by a woman named Nicole jackson.

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ID_VANDAL 11/6/2009 9:13PM

    Keri - you have to stop this! Your blogs just continue to blow me away!!

I've heard it stated many times that generals going into battle say the battle plan lasts for about 10 minutes and then all hell breaks loose. Kinda the same thing your talking about. You really can't control much beyond the moment but you still need a plan.

Awesome blog - I think I'll just quit blogging and read yours!



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LUCKYDUCK2 11/6/2009 8:01PM

    Thank you for sharing this! It is something I need to think about too.

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MSLZZY 11/6/2009 5:04PM

    Hope makes life bearable. If we have no hope, life can be miserable!
Here's hoping you have a wonderful weekend! emoticon

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FORMYDARLINGS 11/6/2009 4:04PM

    Great wisdom, my friend. You are so right. Planning doesn't always work out the way we want it to. We can plan for the future but always be ready for right now!


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The Holidays......Friend or Foe

Thursday, November 05, 2009

I absolutely ADORE the holidays....the sights, the sounds, the smells. I love reading holiday books and listening to christmas music. I love decorating my house for the seasons and buying gifts for my children and grandchildren.

I've already started reading holidays books, and they really start bringing joy to the season. There is really nothing I don't like about the holidays.......so why the Friend or Foe comment?

I'm sure I don't EVEN have to say this........the food......it's like it comes out of nowhere at the holidays. Potlucks and bake sales and christmas treats, it is never ending. And it really is hard to avoid. My will power has been on the blink for a couple of weeks. I really need to get it replaced or overhauled. I wonder if they sell them on Ebay? If anyone sees any good bargins on one......would you let me know.....money is no object!! emoticon

I googled willpower to find a nice picture to go with this blog and this is what I found:

No, I can't explain it either so don't ask me........and in the process the ladybug picture was attached to this article, which I felt was worth sharing:


7 Exercises for Strengthening your Willpower
by ZoltŠn on October 1, 2009

I Am A Weak Man
Like many of us, I also struggle with self-discipline issues. You know, when you just canít tell yourself what to do. When you just canít sit down and do your work (yes, a hot bubble bath always feels better, and no, not just for you). When you just canít stay calm, when you just canít say no to the seventeenth chocolate muffin, and when you just canít do that very last push-up. Yes, most of these ďjust canítĒ issues we often face are caused by or are derived from lack of willpower and self-discipline. I donít like these times, even in spite of the leisure using which I escape. I think of these times as wasted time. If thereís one thing I donít like it is wasted time. And I truly believe that you and I have this in common. And by that I donít mean I never relax. I mean that I like to relax with the feeling that I have done my work. Itís a much better feeling, because you have the satisfaction of the done work, and the pleasure of leisure.

Willpower is Like a Muscle: Tone it, Strengthen it!
ďSome psychologists have done research indicating that exercises in self-control, such as performing tasks with oneís non-dominant hand can gradually improve oneís willpower for other tasks.Ē

Whell, thereís still more study needed until that can be scientifically proven, however, these simple exercises do indeed work. And they do indeed need work. What Iím going to teach you is like a workout. It will sometimes (okay, often!) grow you tired, it will blow your patience away. Running through this article and closing the browser will not make you a willpower champion. However, following my tips and committing to exercising them will show improvement.

The Exercise Routine
The following are exercises designed to be practiced in different everyday situations, like standing in lines, driving, walking, and interacting with other people. I collected and designed them in a way that you wonít even need to sacrifice time to it, you will just have to pay more attention to yourself while doing these activities. Hereís how.

#1. Stand Still
I usually do this when going to bed. It also helps with falling asleep easier and earlier. What you basically have to do is: do not move. Yes, breathing is allowed. No, scratching your nose is not. Once you consciously stop moving, you will realize how many little movements you make every minute. The little scratches, the little kicks in the bed which make your lay more comfortable. Stop doing that for a minute. Oh yeah, that is going to be a quite long minute for you. Itís like lifting weights.

#2. Look Still
Just like with our movements, our sight is changing target very quickly. Even when I am sitting in front of the computer, I sometimes find myself looking away for a few glimpses to other things in my environment. Our challenge is to pick something and stick our very eyes to it. For a few minutes, do everything in a usual and everyday way, apart from not looking at anything but the cactus in the corner of the room. Do not practice this on computer screens.

Hint for beginners (and not just): Exercise this one on appealing members of the opposite sex. The results are not as high as with other subjects, however, a little pleasure is allowed for all of us.

#3. Switch the fork and the knife
Weíve developed habits and motions that have gone deep down to our instincts. Sometimes even the point of the exercise is to make your action instinctive. Now weíre going to take a different approach. Weíre going to flip one of our diurnal habits: eating. Put the knife in your right hand, and the fork in the left, respectively (or vice versa if youíre left-handed, like me). The unusual placement of eating utensils will need you to pay special attention to control the movements, and also will need a lot of patience, especially if you practice while very hungry.

#4. Drive behind a slow vehicle
Drive slowly and patiently behind the slow car. It might not be easy, especially when you are in a hurry. Donít care about zooming cars on the other lane, just stick with the slow car and donít overtake it. See how long your patience lasts.

#5. Do Not Eat the Sweets
You can begin this exercise by just walking by the chocolate shelf in the store, and not buying anything. It can be quite hard to hold in. When you are accustomed to this introductory phase, and itís no longer an exercise, rather a routine, buy some of the sweets. Take it home. The thought of possession will harden the exercise, the hold will be harder. Buy those sweets, take them home, put them on the table, and keep them there. Do not eat them. When you feel like you stretched your willpower muscle enough, reward yourself with eating them. This will also develop the reflex that hard work and self-discipline results in pleasant rewards. This is probably one of the hardest to do for me.

#6. Fight a Fear
I have a subtle horror of height.I was never keen on riding carousels with an acrobatic feeling. This summer my friends Szabi, Atti and I sit on a beast called the ďHammerĒ. I was very scared, yet, I knew I was going to have a great time. I paid for the ticket and sat down. There was no going back. It was totally secure, it was just my unexplainable fear that held me back. I got over it.

Pick a fear that holds you back from having all the fun life is offering. Riding a cool carousel, asking a girl out, eating some exotic food. Then do it. I donít mean jumping out from the 100th floor. But what bad can happen if you ask a princess out for a dinner? Princesses donít eat men.

#7. Use Your Non-Dominant Hand
This exercise allows probably for the most variation. It is very similar to exercise number three, in that it is making you temporarily act contrary to a habit in order to gain inner strength. Try writing with your non-dominant hand. Flip the guitar, if you play it, try to pull some melody out of it. Hit that tennis ball with your other hand. The options are endless.

Not too bad huh?! Well, I will keep working on my willpower, and now that I know that I have to exercise it...........I guess it goes on my list of things to do this holiday season!

Take care my friends,


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BUDDY_LOVE 11/7/2009 12:06AM

    Wii Fit has a standing still excercise. It is to check your balance or something like that. I don't do very well with it. I have balance issues because of spine problems.

Once again, another well thought out blog. I so enjoy visiting you!

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ID_VANDAL 11/6/2009 10:50AM

    Keri, Where do you come up with all these ideas, articles, and so on? I love reading your blogs because they are always so interesting.

I don't get the picture with the willpower either but what the heck!! That standing still exercise is interesting. I actually tried that and it was a llonnnggg minute but interesting.

However I'm betting you can't do that and the exercise on "look still" and then looking at appealing members of the opposite sex - somehow I don't think I could stay still (unless I'm hiding in the bushes emoticon - OKAY - just kidding on that one - no really JUST KIDDING!!

Anyway Keri, we have lots of room in the ZONE for you so step across at any time. It's a great ride!

Take care!



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VGIMLET 11/5/2009 11:33PM

    I need to do the "Fight a Fear" exercise. I NEED to get over my fear of driving...

Thanks for sharing this!

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SATURDAY63 11/5/2009 4:28PM

    Good article w/ great ideas!

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TAMMYKAY3 11/5/2009 4:16PM

    I like this. I especially want to try the sweets exercise! I am partial to sweets and would like to gain control in that area!

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