Thursday, November 05, 2009
I absolutely ADORE the holidays....the sights, the sounds, the smells. I love reading holiday books and listening to christmas music. I love decorating my house for the seasons and buying gifts for my children and grandchildren.
I've already started reading holidays books, and they really start bringing joy to the season. There is really nothing I don't like about the holidays.......so why the Friend or Foe comment?
I'm sure I don't EVEN have to say this........the food......it's like it comes out of nowhere at the holidays. Potlucks and bake sales and christmas treats, it is never ending. And it really is hard to avoid. My will power has been on the blink for a couple of weeks. I really need to get it replaced or overhauled. I wonder if they sell them on Ebay? If anyone sees any good bargins on one......would you let me know.....money is no object!!
I googled willpower to find a nice picture to go with this blog and this is what I found:
No, I can't explain it either so don't ask me........and in the process the ladybug picture was attached to this article, which I felt was worth sharing:
7 Exercises for Strengthening your Willpower
by ZoltŠn on October 1, 2009
I Am A Weak Man
Like many of us, I also struggle with self-discipline issues. You know, when you just canít tell yourself what to do. When you just canít sit down and do your work (yes, a hot bubble bath always feels better, and no, not just for you). When you just canít stay calm, when you just canít say no to the seventeenth chocolate muffin, and when you just canít do that very last push-up. Yes, most of these ďjust canítĒ issues we often face are caused by or are derived from lack of willpower and self-discipline. I donít like these times, even in spite of the leisure using which I escape. I think of these times as wasted time. If thereís one thing I donít like it is wasted time. And I truly believe that you and I have this in common. And by that I donít mean I never relax. I mean that I like to relax with the feeling that I have done my work. Itís a much better feeling, because you have the satisfaction of the done work, and the pleasure of leisure.
Willpower is Like a Muscle: Tone it, Strengthen it!
ďSome psychologists have done research indicating that exercises in self-control, such as performing tasks with oneís non-dominant hand can gradually improve oneís willpower for other tasks.Ē
Whell, thereís still more study needed until that can be scientifically proven, however, these simple exercises do indeed work. And they do indeed need work. What Iím going to teach you is like a workout. It will sometimes (okay, often!) grow you tired, it will blow your patience away. Running through this article and closing the browser will not make you a willpower champion. However, following my tips and committing to exercising them will show improvement.
The Exercise Routine
The following are exercises designed to be practiced in different everyday situations, like standing in lines, driving, walking, and interacting with other people. I collected and designed them in a way that you wonít even need to sacrifice time to it, you will just have to pay more attention to yourself while doing these activities. Hereís how.
#1. Stand Still
I usually do this when going to bed. It also helps with falling asleep easier and earlier. What you basically have to do is: do not move. Yes, breathing is allowed. No, scratching your nose is not. Once you consciously stop moving, you will realize how many little movements you make every minute. The little scratches, the little kicks in the bed which make your lay more comfortable. Stop doing that for a minute. Oh yeah, that is going to be a quite long minute for you. Itís like lifting weights.
#2. Look Still
Just like with our movements, our sight is changing target very quickly. Even when I am sitting in front of the computer, I sometimes find myself looking away for a few glimpses to other things in my environment. Our challenge is to pick something and stick our very eyes to it. For a few minutes, do everything in a usual and everyday way, apart from not looking at anything but the cactus in the corner of the room. Do not practice this on computer screens.
Hint for beginners (and not just): Exercise this one on appealing members of the opposite sex. The results are not as high as with other subjects, however, a little pleasure is allowed for all of us.
#3. Switch the fork and the knife
Weíve developed habits and motions that have gone deep down to our instincts. Sometimes even the point of the exercise is to make your action instinctive. Now weíre going to take a different approach. Weíre going to flip one of our diurnal habits: eating. Put the knife in your right hand, and the fork in the left, respectively (or vice versa if youíre left-handed, like me). The unusual placement of eating utensils will need you to pay special attention to control the movements, and also will need a lot of patience, especially if you practice while very hungry.
#4. Drive behind a slow vehicle
Drive slowly and patiently behind the slow car. It might not be easy, especially when you are in a hurry. Donít care about zooming cars on the other lane, just stick with the slow car and donít overtake it. See how long your patience lasts.
#5. Do Not Eat the Sweets
You can begin this exercise by just walking by the chocolate shelf in the store, and not buying anything. It can be quite hard to hold in. When you are accustomed to this introductory phase, and itís no longer an exercise, rather a routine, buy some of the sweets. Take it home. The thought of possession will harden the exercise, the hold will be harder. Buy those sweets, take them home, put them on the table, and keep them there. Do not eat them. When you feel like you stretched your willpower muscle enough, reward yourself with eating them. This will also develop the reflex that hard work and self-discipline results in pleasant rewards. This is probably one of the hardest to do for me.
#6. Fight a Fear
I have a subtle horror of height.I was never keen on riding carousels with an acrobatic feeling. This summer my friends Szabi, Atti and I sit on a beast called the ďHammerĒ. I was very scared, yet, I knew I was going to have a great time. I paid for the ticket and sat down. There was no going back. It was totally secure, it was just my unexplainable fear that held me back. I got over it.
Pick a fear that holds you back from having all the fun life is offering. Riding a cool carousel, asking a girl out, eating some exotic food. Then do it. I donít mean jumping out from the 100th floor. But what bad can happen if you ask a princess out for a dinner? Princesses donít eat men.
#7. Use Your Non-Dominant Hand
This exercise allows probably for the most variation. It is very similar to exercise number three, in that it is making you temporarily act contrary to a habit in order to gain inner strength. Try writing with your non-dominant hand. Flip the guitar, if you play it, try to pull some melody out of it. Hit that tennis ball with your other hand. The options are endless.
Not too bad huh?! Well, I will keep working on my willpower, and now that I know that I have to exercise it...........I guess it goes on my list of things to do this holiday season!
Take care my friends,