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The Holidays......Friend or Foe

Thursday, November 05, 2009

I absolutely ADORE the holidays....the sights, the sounds, the smells. I love reading holiday books and listening to christmas music. I love decorating my house for the seasons and buying gifts for my children and grandchildren.

I've already started reading holidays books, and they really start bringing joy to the season. There is really nothing I don't like about the holidays.......so why the Friend or Foe comment?

I'm sure I don't EVEN have to say this........the food......it's like it comes out of nowhere at the holidays. Potlucks and bake sales and christmas treats, it is never ending. And it really is hard to avoid. My will power has been on the blink for a couple of weeks. I really need to get it replaced or overhauled. I wonder if they sell them on Ebay? If anyone sees any good bargins on one......would you let me know.....money is no object!! emoticon

I googled willpower to find a nice picture to go with this blog and this is what I found:

No, I can't explain it either so don't ask me........and in the process the ladybug picture was attached to this article, which I felt was worth sharing:


7 Exercises for Strengthening your Willpower
by ZoltŠn on October 1, 2009

I Am A Weak Man
Like many of us, I also struggle with self-discipline issues. You know, when you just canít tell yourself what to do. When you just canít sit down and do your work (yes, a hot bubble bath always feels better, and no, not just for you). When you just canít stay calm, when you just canít say no to the seventeenth chocolate muffin, and when you just canít do that very last push-up. Yes, most of these ďjust canítĒ issues we often face are caused by or are derived from lack of willpower and self-discipline. I donít like these times, even in spite of the leisure using which I escape. I think of these times as wasted time. If thereís one thing I donít like it is wasted time. And I truly believe that you and I have this in common. And by that I donít mean I never relax. I mean that I like to relax with the feeling that I have done my work. Itís a much better feeling, because you have the satisfaction of the done work, and the pleasure of leisure.

Willpower is Like a Muscle: Tone it, Strengthen it!
ďSome psychologists have done research indicating that exercises in self-control, such as performing tasks with oneís non-dominant hand can gradually improve oneís willpower for other tasks.Ē

Whell, thereís still more study needed until that can be scientifically proven, however, these simple exercises do indeed work. And they do indeed need work. What Iím going to teach you is like a workout. It will sometimes (okay, often!) grow you tired, it will blow your patience away. Running through this article and closing the browser will not make you a willpower champion. However, following my tips and committing to exercising them will show improvement.

The Exercise Routine
The following are exercises designed to be practiced in different everyday situations, like standing in lines, driving, walking, and interacting with other people. I collected and designed them in a way that you wonít even need to sacrifice time to it, you will just have to pay more attention to yourself while doing these activities. Hereís how.

#1. Stand Still
I usually do this when going to bed. It also helps with falling asleep easier and earlier. What you basically have to do is: do not move. Yes, breathing is allowed. No, scratching your nose is not. Once you consciously stop moving, you will realize how many little movements you make every minute. The little scratches, the little kicks in the bed which make your lay more comfortable. Stop doing that for a minute. Oh yeah, that is going to be a quite long minute for you. Itís like lifting weights.

#2. Look Still
Just like with our movements, our sight is changing target very quickly. Even when I am sitting in front of the computer, I sometimes find myself looking away for a few glimpses to other things in my environment. Our challenge is to pick something and stick our very eyes to it. For a few minutes, do everything in a usual and everyday way, apart from not looking at anything but the cactus in the corner of the room. Do not practice this on computer screens.

Hint for beginners (and not just): Exercise this one on appealing members of the opposite sex. The results are not as high as with other subjects, however, a little pleasure is allowed for all of us.

#3. Switch the fork and the knife
Weíve developed habits and motions that have gone deep down to our instincts. Sometimes even the point of the exercise is to make your action instinctive. Now weíre going to take a different approach. Weíre going to flip one of our diurnal habits: eating. Put the knife in your right hand, and the fork in the left, respectively (or vice versa if youíre left-handed, like me). The unusual placement of eating utensils will need you to pay special attention to control the movements, and also will need a lot of patience, especially if you practice while very hungry.

#4. Drive behind a slow vehicle
Drive slowly and patiently behind the slow car. It might not be easy, especially when you are in a hurry. Donít care about zooming cars on the other lane, just stick with the slow car and donít overtake it. See how long your patience lasts.

#5. Do Not Eat the Sweets
You can begin this exercise by just walking by the chocolate shelf in the store, and not buying anything. It can be quite hard to hold in. When you are accustomed to this introductory phase, and itís no longer an exercise, rather a routine, buy some of the sweets. Take it home. The thought of possession will harden the exercise, the hold will be harder. Buy those sweets, take them home, put them on the table, and keep them there. Do not eat them. When you feel like you stretched your willpower muscle enough, reward yourself with eating them. This will also develop the reflex that hard work and self-discipline results in pleasant rewards. This is probably one of the hardest to do for me.

#6. Fight a Fear
I have a subtle horror of height.I was never keen on riding carousels with an acrobatic feeling. This summer my friends Szabi, Atti and I sit on a beast called the ďHammerĒ. I was very scared, yet, I knew I was going to have a great time. I paid for the ticket and sat down. There was no going back. It was totally secure, it was just my unexplainable fear that held me back. I got over it.

Pick a fear that holds you back from having all the fun life is offering. Riding a cool carousel, asking a girl out, eating some exotic food. Then do it. I donít mean jumping out from the 100th floor. But what bad can happen if you ask a princess out for a dinner? Princesses donít eat men.

#7. Use Your Non-Dominant Hand
This exercise allows probably for the most variation. It is very similar to exercise number three, in that it is making you temporarily act contrary to a habit in order to gain inner strength. Try writing with your non-dominant hand. Flip the guitar, if you play it, try to pull some melody out of it. Hit that tennis ball with your other hand. The options are endless.

Not too bad huh?! Well, I will keep working on my willpower, and now that I know that I have to exercise it...........I guess it goes on my list of things to do this holiday season!

Take care my friends,


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BUDDY_LOVE 11/7/2009 12:06AM

    Wii Fit has a standing still excercise. It is to check your balance or something like that. I don't do very well with it. I have balance issues because of spine problems.

Once again, another well thought out blog. I so enjoy visiting you!

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ID_VANDAL 11/6/2009 10:50AM

    Keri, Where do you come up with all these ideas, articles, and so on? I love reading your blogs because they are always so interesting.

I don't get the picture with the willpower either but what the heck!! That standing still exercise is interesting. I actually tried that and it was a llonnnggg minute but interesting.

However I'm betting you can't do that and the exercise on "look still" and then looking at appealing members of the opposite sex - somehow I don't think I could stay still (unless I'm hiding in the bushes emoticon - OKAY - just kidding on that one - no really JUST KIDDING!!

Anyway Keri, we have lots of room in the ZONE for you so step across at any time. It's a great ride!

Take care!



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VGIMLET 11/5/2009 11:33PM

    I need to do the "Fight a Fear" exercise. I NEED to get over my fear of driving...

Thanks for sharing this!

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SATURDAY63 11/5/2009 4:28PM

    Good article w/ great ideas!

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TAMMYKAY3 11/5/2009 4:16PM

    I like this. I especially want to try the sweets exercise! I am partial to sweets and would like to gain control in that area!

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Was I asleep when they handed out RUDE???

Tuesday, November 03, 2009

So last night I stopped at Barnes and Noble for a minute.....okay it was more like an hour......what can I say, I LOVE that place! This is the time of year when I only read holiday books, because it really gets me in the spirit of the season.

So I'm a happy girl.....found a couple of great selections, checked out, and skipped to my car...only to see this..(re-enactment)..............

Now this may be a tad closer that how it really was.....okay I'm a little dramatic!... but I can tell you there was no way I was going to be able to get into my vehicle! Trust me I tried!

I toyed with the idea of getting in on the passenger side but I would have to climb over a console, and having had to do that once....it just wasn't appealing.

So I decided to go back into the store and see if I could find the person who can't judge distance very well.....poor guy....needs glasses I'm sure.

I go up to the customer service and ask if there is any way they can help me find this poor, poor guy. So they called out for the vehicle over the intercom and low and behold it happened to be a guy standing at customer service. He apologized and told me he would be right with me.

Well I stood there for 20 minutes! And he showed no sign of leaving. He was way to busy going about his business! I had to get home, so I decided, I guess I'm going to have to climb over the console. It took me about 5 minutes, I broke my headband on the roof of the vehicle, damaged my pride; all the while feeling really MAD! I finally struggle into my seat and I can see the guy in my rear view mirror......oh.....then the tears well in my eyes.

So I back up and try not to look at him.....I'm afraid I'll throw some naughty gesture his way or say something not very lady like. I see him mouth "I'm sorry." But it's too late.....RUDE IS RUDE. I looked away and drove off.

I hope he got what he wanted at the store. I'm glad I didn't inconvenience him.....and all I want to know is.....

Was I asleep when they handed out Rude????

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BUDDY_LOVE 11/7/2009 12:12AM

    I'm afraid when they handed out brains, he thought they said "trains" and asked for a short one.

I'm sorry you had to go through that sweetie. It's probably better that you climbed over the console. If you had been outside your vehicle & available to ummm...be impolite...the willpower to stop yourself just might not have shown up.

And I commend you on not flipping him the bird or saying "dirty word dirty word dirty word".

He's just a dirty little so-n-so.

Now...i feel better for sticking up for you. do you feel better?

later gator

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MIMULUSBUG 11/4/2009 7:59PM

    Wow! This blows my mind - he obviously was one of the first in line! I really appreciate the fact that you went in and had him paged/identified; I probably wouldn't have taken the time, but I think its important to point these folks out to any and all that are in the vicinity of the event. His karma is going to come back on in bad.

He is so blessed that he met up w/you too. Others would not have been so kind to his car....

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    I'm so sorry this happened. Good for you for being the faaaaaar better person! I have left notes on peoples cars when they have parked too close--try putting multiple children in cars seats from only one side of the car! I usually assume they just didn't realize how close they parked (and I've probably inadvertently done the same thing at some less enlightened phase in my life) and I alert them to their mistake. But, geeze, you actually spoke to the offender! And he kept offending! He is one sorry lonely guy. You, on the other hand, are one blessed woman! You are amazing! You have such strength! Hugs, Jenn

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ELLENIRENE 11/4/2009 7:13AM

    He was a jerk! He never should have parked that close in the first place. That proves he was a jerk

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CASSIE425 11/4/2009 1:10AM

    No, you weren't.

He was asleep when they handed civility, class and consideration.

You are a better person than me. I would have mouthed off like the good NYer that I am. ;)

I am sorry you had to have an encounter with such a jerk. I hope the rest of your week is better.

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MSLZZY 11/3/2009 10:40PM

    He must have thought you had nothing better to do!

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ID_VANDAL 11/3/2009 10:32PM

    Keri, I'm soooo sorry that happened to you. As the others have said - no consideration and I'll bet some (SOME) of them don't even know it! The others are "just too important." Alas, these obliviots will be with us always!

Try to go back to the Barnes and Noble experience and put this obliviot out of your world.

Glad you were asleep when they passed out rude. You make the world so much nicer by being the nice one!

Have a great day tomorrow!!



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FLAWLESSCUBE 11/3/2009 9:50PM

    Was he looking for a new paint job? How rude, So Sorry you had to climb around your car like that. I have had to do that a few times and it is really no fun. Hoping your day tomorrow is better. emoticon

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SOPHIEMAE2007 11/3/2009 9:16PM

    I was at the mall when someone parked that close to me and it ticked me off. Of course there was no way to find the owner as they don't page in the mall and they could have been in a store and not here it. I also had to climb over the console and I was in a skirt! Talk about fun doing that in a lady like fashion. I was able to get the attention of security to help me back out so I wouldn't hit this person's car. I, however, left him/her a note asking, "Where did you learned to drive?" and also included that they parked way to close for me to get into my driver side of the car and it wasn't appreciated...so they knew why I asked the question.

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FORMYDARLINGS 11/3/2009 8:07PM

    I feel just the same sometimes. Is there not some thought in these people's minds that says. You were wrong? I must say though, it was brave of you to climb the console. In my present size, it would be pretty much mission impossible. I thought the idea was to get in between the lines, not as close to one side as possible. Who Knew?

Have a better night tonight,

LOL Gini

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KIRSTY1306 11/3/2009 7:48PM

    Ah there will always be some rude idiot in your way in life, you did the best thing by not giving him the finger (or similar) that would have just lowered you to his level, and you're better than that ! I hate idiots , and I seem to attract them! haha
I hope it dodn't spoil the rest of your day !
Kir xx

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SHARJOPAUL 11/3/2009 7:34PM

    I don't know if you were asleep when they handed out rude but he apparently was first in line,\.

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KELLYC_14FAN 11/3/2009 7:22PM

    You handled it better than I would have!!

I don't understand how someone can even park like that and think it is okay?

I am sorry you had to deal with that and it made you upset!!

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BREN4376 11/3/2009 7:19PM

    I think you must have nodded off for a bit. Cause it sure sounds like he stood up and took seconds. I hope your week gets a lot better than that. You are more of a lady than I will ever be! I wouldn't have been nice at all about the situation. He and anyone in ear distance would have known what I thought of him. I am very good at voicing my opinion. I have also gotten into trouble over it before too. But I felt a lot better afterwards. Good luck and best wishes always. emoticon

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LUCKYDUCK2 11/3/2009 7:17PM

    People just don't think when they park! I have done this and then seen my passenger door was too close and backed out and reparked the car. What really IS rude is how he did not stop what he was doing and come out right away and move for you. Saying Sorry is rather a mute point by then.

You handled it well.

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The Spice of Life

Monday, November 02, 2009

What is your "Spice of Life"?

This time of year really brings out some of the best spices. I love the smell of pumpkin, cinnamon, cloves, etc.

And as we move into the holiday season, the smell of pine needles really makes me happy!

There are others things that can create for us ...."The Spice of Life". Have you ever heard....Music is the spice of life?

With the holidays upon us, I think we will need all the tools we can get to help us battle against temptation. And what better way than with something we consider......The Spice of Life. It is different for everyone. It just has to be something that distracts us from putting unnecessary food in our mouths. Something that calms the cravings.

For me it's the smell of pumpkin, cinnamon, and pine needles, with a side of music! What is yours?

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BUDDY_LOVE 11/2/2009 6:32PM

    Actually...the smell of spices make me want to eat more! I went into Micheals today & the smell of cinnimon (pinecones) was so over whelming, it almost took my breath away..seriously. I had to put my collar over my nose to keep from seizing up & having an asthma attack. It's so aggravating when stores do that.

But otherwise...I do love the smell of apples & cinnamon, bread baking & sugar cookies (vanilla). 3 of my most fav smells.

I plan to keep my fingers busy crocheting this winter to keep those same fingers from grabbing foods I shouldn't be eating!

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ID_VANDAL 11/2/2009 4:17PM

    I'll take the cinnamon and hot apple cider!

I do love the smells but oh - hanging around the kitchen can be soooo dangerous!!



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MSLZZY 11/2/2009 2:26PM

    All of those, plus vanilla, cloves and maple. Music? Almost anything goes except maybe opera.

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POSITIVELY_EB 11/2/2009 11:16AM

    Alright, you guys are making me hungry! LOL! What a great blog! I love all those things - especially the music! As a singer, I'm not whole unless I can make a little music every day!

Hugs! Beverly

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LUCKYDUCK2 11/2/2009 11:11AM

    I LOVE this! Yes, I love the smells of the Season and Fall.

Pine needles, pumpkin and cinnamon candles, burning leaves, the crisp air and foggy mornings. The beautiful glow of the moon on white snow. The smell of the fireplace . All of this has such a calming effect on me.

Right now, being so busy...Thank you for sharing this. I can close my eyes and feel the release. :)

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KELLYC_14FAN 11/2/2009 11:07AM

    I love the smell of cranberries, apples, cinnamon, citrus, mint and vanilla.

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SACTOKAREN 11/2/2009 10:53AM

    Love that cinnamon smell... a little lemon, vanilla, fireplace and music.

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Friday, October 30, 2009

This is what I brought for our office Halloween party/potluck.

It's causing quite a stir!!

We will see if anyone eats it!!!


P. S. I have had people ask....it's thin pieces of deli ham dipped in BBQ sauce, plastered on a plastic skull! I have it on a platter with cheese and crackers!

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MSLZZY 10/31/2009 6:10AM

    Wow! Looks almost like the real thing!

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MOMMAKATES 10/30/2009 10:16PM

    Wow That is totally Cool For Halloween I Love It!!

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KO1215 10/30/2009 9:40PM

    I'm sure you could.

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MYRENAISSANCE09 10/30/2009 9:00PM

  That is such a cool idea! I wonder if you could somehow spread a cheeseball all over a skull, then cover that with a strawberry spread.... emoticon

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BUDDY_LOVE 10/30/2009 7:21PM

    now you would think that the women would be ewwing & awwing over it...praising your creativity...I would be!

LOL @ me.

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SAASHA17 10/30/2009 7:07PM

    WOW tats awesome..i wud totally try it...i am huge fan of such horrors..loving ur creatvity but then again i dnt eat ham..but maybe i cud borrow ur idea for our halloween dinner next yr with turkey instead

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KO1215 10/30/2009 5:37PM

    Most of the girls wouldn't even try it. The guys thought it was great!

Oh well!

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BUDDY_LOVE 10/30/2009 4:50PM

    Don't'cha just love making things like that. When I worked I use to do all kinds of fun things like that. I actually have cookbooks geared towards creepy & fun foods to make. Now that i no longer work...my house isn't big enough for parties...I just don't mess with it anymore.

You did a really good job. How did you're co-workers react to it?

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KO1215 10/30/2009 2:41PM

    It was actually very good!!!!

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LUCKYDUCK2 10/30/2009 1:50PM

    WOW! Now THAT is creative for a dish to bring!

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KLJUHL 10/30/2009 1:03PM

    WOW - that is really creepy looking! I am not sure I would eat but I would make it for a party :)

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FORMYDARLINGS 10/30/2009 11:08AM

    OMG That's too wonderful!!! I wish I had that creativity. If I saw that on a table, even knowing what it was, I would steer clear!!!


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POSITIVELY_EB 10/30/2009 10:46AM

    I don't know if I'd have the courage to eat it or not! LOL! But great job!

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ID_VANDAL 10/30/2009 10:27AM

    I agree with Stephanefany that's AWESOME!

You must have all the creative genes!! Wish I could have some.

Hope you have a great day at work! Are you 100% healthy again?



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STEPHANEFANY 10/30/2009 10:15AM

    That's awesome! How'd you make it?? Happy Halloween!

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You are beautiful?????

Thursday, October 29, 2009


That was my reaction at lunch today, when a good friend that I have known since college said the following, "Yes, you are heavier than you were in college....aren't we all? But you are still very beautiful."

I about choked. Actually I giggled nervously and said, "No I'm not. I've never been beautiful. " We agreed to debate it at a later date since I needed to get back to work.

Now, I am not blogging about this because I am fishing for compliments. (Although I would take them if you want to hand them out! No!!!! Just kidding.....please DON'T!) It actually got me thinking about a few things. Like... when we look in the mirror........why do we see this.....

When others see this?????

(I know that was a little drastic, but hang in there; I'm trying to make a point.) We seem to be harder on ourselves than how other people see us. I wonder why that is?

About three years ago, I had lost about 70 lbs. and I had about 50 lbs. to go. I knew when I looked in the mirror that I was still fat. Definitely not beautiful. I know what beautiful is....I have two sisters who are truly beautiful....inside and out. I'm more the person that people say has a "great personality". And I'm okay with that.

Now here's the point. Recently I found a picture of myself from that time. I have gained that 70 lbs back and then some. I looked at that picture and honestly ....I long for that time. I looked really good. Why couldn't I see that then? I wasn't content with the progress I had made and how good I felt? Strange....

It's gonna be different this time...........I will NEVER believe that I'm beautiful......but I am going to enjoy the steps I'm at and find the beauty in it.

Have a beautiful day!


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BUDDY_LOVE 10/30/2009 5:04PM

    Beauty is over rated. I have never doubted that I was beautiful even though I know that being fat is not. Even at 286 pounds there are still people in this world who love me for who I am no matter how big or small I am. I love myself and I don't care how I looked @ 286 or how I currently look @ 249. I have always felt that if a person wanted to judge me by my size or by how beautiful I am in their eyes then I don't need those people in my life AND have excluded many ppl I've met because they are superficial and care only about how things look...or want to spend our time together talking about how others look.

I have never met you personally, but through your picture...you truely look like a beautful woman.

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LUCKYDUCK2 10/30/2009 2:02PM

    This I have to think about for awhile. WOW, you just wrote MY blog!

I think my daughter is BEAUTIFUL and so many people tell us we look alike. I look in the mirror and just don't see me that way at all.

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NANCY- 10/30/2009 8:50AM

    Ah, but you are beautiful. Do not doubt that. Beauty comes in many ways, the spirit of your soul, the light in your eyes.

Hindsight is great isn't it.
I have a picture of myself from years ago and now think ... gee, I was hot! But I did not see it then. I weigh 100 pounds more now, but that hottness is still inside me. LOL

Remember to be kind to yourself, because you deserve it.

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ELLENIRENE 10/30/2009 8:08AM

    Being beautiful isn't everything.

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POSITIVELY_EB 10/29/2009 11:41PM

    Awesome attitude! Love it! Let's ALL enjoy where we currently are and continue to appreciate the journey ahead AND behind us!

Hugs! Beverly

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NO_SNOW_BODY 10/29/2009 6:35PM

    We are all beautiful if we beleive in ourselves

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FORMYDARLINGS 10/29/2009 6:12PM

    I'm not going to point out the obvious but to tell you that I know how you feel. I can't say I ever remember getting such a compliment and then again, my DH tells me that all the time. Even now, at my highest weight ever, he still calls me beautiful. Maybe my vision of beautiful is warped, but when I think of beautiful people I know, I can't say whether I see them as overweight or thin. I just know they are beautiful. Thank you for this. I am going to tell myself that I am beautiful just as I am and that what I am doing has nothing to do with becoming better but becoming healthier. Inside I will gain confidence but will still be me. I hope you reamain who you are as well. I think you're plenty beautiful,


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MOMOFBOYS 10/29/2009 6:09PM

    Oh I so know exactly what you mean!! I look back at my "thin" times and remember just how fat and ugly I thought I was! We truly need to learn to love ourselves always. I'm trying. You truly are beautiful so take the compliment and pat yourself on the back for the progress you've made!


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MSLZZY 10/29/2009 5:57PM

    You are unique and beautiful in your own special way! When you believe in yourself, all things are possible! emoticon

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NORMA_NB 10/29/2009 5:38PM

    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... emoticon

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