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Wednesday, December 21, 2011

  
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POSITIVELY_EB 12/23/2011 2:07PM

    AMEN!!!!!

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SUNFLOWERGAL40 12/22/2011 9:11PM

    Love it! Thanks for sharing!

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ID_VANDAL 12/22/2011 1:51PM

    Good one!!

Hope things are going well for you! I know they are because you are the type of person to change something when it needs to change.

Take care!

Vandal

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NANCY- 12/22/2011 7:03AM

    Excellent!
This applies to not only physical location but also to mindset.
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ELLENIRENE 12/22/2011 6:19AM

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MSLZZY 12/21/2011 7:05PM

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TRAVELGRRL 12/21/2011 4:22PM

    What a great sentiment! I love this. Thanks for sharing!

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How it's going.....

Monday, December 05, 2011

Ginilee4 asked me a question the other day that I have been trying not to answer. But since she asked, I decided that I would put the answer in my blog. She asked how my job was going and if I was still enamored with it.

Here's my answer.....I'm sorry but it's going to be a somewhat lengthy one....

I have about 20 year in HR. I have been a manager for at least 10 years of that time. Now one of the things that is well documented is what is called a "Honeymoon" stage. A Honeymoon stage is usually an employee's first 90 days. The employee is generally on their best behavior. It's after that first 90 days when you find out just what that employee stands for.

For me, the honeymoon phase is over for the company.....and I'm quite sad about it.

We are a new business and we have a sister property. Needless to say, we are compared with that company and can't do anything they didn't do. It has become a very demotivating situation.

My boss is great! She could find a silver lining in any situation. But it sometimes appears like she gets kicked in the face and asks for more. And maybe that's a bad analogy but sometimes I think she gets treated badly by the powers that be.

The event that took the bloom off the rose for me will sound silly but I want to explain it to you.

The are having a Manager/Supervisor luncheon on Thursday to show appreciation for all their hard work....like a Christmas gift. These employees also get a $200 gift card. Now I was hired as a manager/supervisor, wear the appropriate uniform, made the invitations, and then was told I wouldn't be going....nor would I be getting a gift card. Now keep in mind that our department coaches the supervisor/managers......we do training.....and lots of other things. Because we don't have direct reports....we are not worth of a stupid lunch, appreciation, or a $200 gift card. What a slap in the face......So while all our peers are enjoying a lunch and getting told how much they are appreciated, we get to go eat lunch in the employee dining room and pay for it.

Now I know this seems like such a little thing.....but it screams DISRESPECT to me. And when asked why we would not be included....because those people don't go to the sister company's luncheon.......it sure has put me in the disengaged employee category. It brings back haunting memories of what I went through before I came here.

I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm not ready to give up on this place, I see some unrealized potential here.....but this disrespect kinda eats me alive. I'm not sleeping....I'm stressed and all the while preparing for an employee party that I can only work at not participate in....like the company picnic....health fair...and halloween party.

I'm hoping the feeling passes. I can live with the ugly man suits and the gross cafeteria food; but handling disrespect is a little harder for me to swallow. It's nothing I can discuss with the General Manager. She is part of the problem. She's the kind who comes into your office and gives you standard greetings that are so insincere that there are so many jokes and imitations of it around the office.

I was so hoping this was going to be different. The people are so great....but I guess at the end of the day it's not unique like I thought....it's a power play and people who have no regard for others feelings.

Any suggestions on what I should do? (Pull up my big girls pants and suck it up?)

Hugs,

Keri


  
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MOMFAN 12/8/2011 5:37PM

    emoticonTake it to the Lord and ask Him what he would have you do in this situation. Sometimes He uses things we least expect to draw us closer to Him or something else He may have for you to learn.

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GINILEE4 12/6/2011 4:15PM

    Oh Keri. Now I feel terrible for bringing up this topic. I was hoping you would still be in love. SOmetimes it seems that in the corporate world there is no such thing as fair or respect. You are another cog in the wheel. Every time I worked for a "company" I faced the same sort of dilemma. Perhaps not for me but for someone else. Business is cutthroat and there is no way around it.
When I was working, I tried to find jobs that I liked to do and ignored the office politics. I just did my job and had a good time doing it and let the powers that be play statuing.
Time for you to settle down and just enjoy your works and let the movers and shakers do their thing. Enjoy your work. Do a really good job and feel like you have earned what you get. Expect no more and if there is to be more, accept it graciously.
Sometimes a fight just isn't worth all the headache and heartache, especially when you know, nothing is going to change. That's just the way it is.

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NANCY- 12/6/2011 6:33AM

    I sort of like the idea of a "This Sucks" party at the cafe. It seems that no matter where one is there are always people who make things suck for others. A little respect, be valued and appreciated goes a long way. Hope things improve for you.
The only place I have NOT found this to be true is here at SP.
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DEEGIRL50 12/6/2011 4:55AM

    I understand and have been through it myself. I found this quote the other day...

You don't have the power to make life "Fair", but you do have the power to make life Joyful." ~Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Maybe you could throw your own party to show appreciation for your manager and co-workers. Making someone else feel good might give you a needed lift.

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SLIMMERJESSE 12/5/2011 11:06PM

    I have been through so many places like this and never have had this type of situation get any better. For me, it shows the writing on the wall. Hope you can resolve it for yourself so that it doesn't eat you alive. Yikes! Good luck.

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SUNNY1432 12/5/2011 10:38PM

    That just stinks! I really hope that things get better for you. emoticon

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POSITIVELY_EB 12/5/2011 10:12PM

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MSLZZY 12/5/2011 9:30PM

    I have no easy answers for you. That the people in charge are so dense as to not see what is going on, much less care is beyond me. Your place of employment should be judged on it's own merits-not what the sister company is doing. These are separate entities. I guess someone thinks upper management knows best but I hardly think so. Maybe it is best to give it more time but I know that will not
heal feelings of hurt and disrespect. I'll be thinking of you. HUGS!

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Gluttony and Greed!

Thursday, December 01, 2011

The title got your attention, huh!

I admit it….I watch TV while I’m getting ready for work. This morning I was watching an episode of Cake Boss. I get a kick out of Buddy and his family. I think it would be great to go to New Jersey and visit that bakery. (Not sure that I would want to wait hours in line to get in but…..details…details!)
The episode they had on this morning really struck a bad chord with me. They had a young lady come in and order a cake for her party and it was going to have millions of dollars worth of jewels on it. Wow!



This is exactly what is wrong with this country. Excessive Greed!!! How did we get to be such a gluttonous society??? It makes me sick to see this type of extravagance…especially when most of the country is fighting to survive and just get through the day to day. I am ready to say that I am so sick of our government. With both sides fighting for their own agendas and the need to be right….the American are really the casualties. To me this is bordering on a civil war….not Republicans vs. Democrats….but American citizens vs. the government. People are only going to take this crap for so long(Can we say Occupy Wall Street!)….and don’t tell me it’s one side and not the other…..BS…it’s totally self serving and both sides are to blame. What happened to the “United” States of America? Talk about little kids in a sandbox….not sharing their toys. Makes me want to PUKE! But I digress……


This line of thinking leads me to think about my relationship with food. And I wonder….because I’m overweight….does this mean I am gluttonous too?
I suppose some might think so….I wasn’t too sure. So I looked up the definition in the dictionary:
Derived from the Latin gluttire, meaning to gulp down or swallow, gluttony (Latin, gula) is the over-indulgence and over-consumption of anything to the point of waste. In the Christian religions, it is considered a sin because of the excessive desire for food or its withholding from the needy.
So let’s break it down….”to gulp down or swallow”…..hmmm….this sounds like “unlady like” behavior. I don’t think this qualifies me for gluttony…you will just have to take my word for it since you don’t eat with me. “Over-indulgence”…..yep….I recognize this behavior. Sometimes it’s like I don’t think I will have something ever again. I don’t know why that is….I was never starved as a kid….and I wasn’t an overweight child. “over-consumption of anything to the point of waste”….while I believe I over consume from time to time….I don’t believe it is to the point of waste.
Phew! I’m going to call it…..I’m not gluttonous. But if I’m going to live up my beliefs…..I need to evaluate my relationship with food……or my intimacy with food. Food should be a casual friend….not a lover. So I’m going to spend some time over the next two days contemplating this. I’ll let you know what I come up with…..How do you feel about your relationship with food?

Hugs,

Keri

  
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ID_VANDAL 12/5/2011 6:16PM

    Hello - I knew you were due for a great blog. Sorry it took me so long to get to the party!!! First of all I agree with your assessment of our political situation (and it applies just as much in California). Politians just love uncertainty because it just keeps the money pouring in from all the special interest groups - but enough of that for me to.

I have some of the same food issues - I never had to worry about being hungry or cold or without. I had the all American childhood so I don't know why food has become so important to me but your blog got me thinking.

Remember - Good is the enemy of the best (Tony Robbins).

Later,

Vand
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NANCY- 12/2/2011 7:44AM

    My relationship with food is changing. It has to. The impact on my blood glucose level needs to be taken into consideration.
Before my eating was "I'll eat what I want", more of a spoiled child type attitude. Now my focus is on will this nourish my body and spirit. There is much in the way of wonderful healthy food out out there and respect as to the quantity a body needs can be savored.
Now my focus is what the "needs" are for today and the actions required to support that.

BTW my sis got to try some of their cake and was disappointed, to her it was just another cake, nothing special. Sometimes desire makes things better than what they truly are.

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ELLENIRENE 12/2/2011 6:39AM

    This was interesting!

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DEEGIRL50 12/2/2011 6:01AM

    I use food for much more than nutrition or fuel. I over indulge. I'm striving to have a healthier relationship with food.

Don't get me started on the government.

And you are definitely a lady! I'd invite you to a tea party any day!
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JIBBIE49 12/2/2011 12:07AM

    I grew up on a farm that had been in our family since 1832, so I never worried about what to eat, as my mother had a large garden & they had chickens and my father had two milk cows for the family. Now all that is "organic" food which is so high priced that I laugh.

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POSITIVELY_EB 12/1/2011 11:41PM

    I am ashamed to admit that I am a glutton. Food is my lover and best friend that is slowly killing me! Food commercials - where ever they are - are food porn for me. It's very frustrating.

Thanks for sharing! Interesting topic!

HUGS!

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MSLZZY 12/1/2011 10:35PM

    I can honestly say I wasn't starved as a child but I do remember many days of making do with an extra slice of bread instead of meat. No wonder I was as thin as a post. But my relationship with food got a mite out of hand after I had my last child. So, I hauled myself up short and determined to think about what I was doing. Now 50+ pounds later, I have the energy I had as a teenager and my body has less aches and pains.
You made some very valid points. Thanks for sharing. HUGS!

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What is making the difference for you today....

Monday, October 10, 2011



Just saw an episode of Little House on the Prairie tonight. It was about a young boy named Elmer who was battling with his weight. There is a moving scene in which he looks around his room at various snacks he has hidden all over. One by one he finds them and crashes them to the ground.

When he feels like eating......he takes off running out the door.

That little guy was my inspiration today! What was yours?

Hugs,

Keri

  
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JIBBIE49 12/2/2011 12:07AM

    Never watched LHOTP.

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ID_VANDAL 10/12/2011 5:39PM

    Well you certainly inspired a lot of people didn't you?

Great job!! My inspiration was finishing my one percent improvement goals!

Keep up the good work!

Vandal

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DXWALKER1 10/12/2011 5:09PM

    I really loved Little House on the Praire and I remember that episode. I agree, my inspiration today - was your post.
Thank you for sharing!

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NANCY- 10/11/2011 9:08AM

    Knowing that doing this is to have a better lifestyle. Being able to move, without pain. Being able to take part in life rather than just watching it go by.

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DEEGIRL50 10/11/2011 6:31AM

    My SP friends inspire me every day (and that includes YOU)!
We're doing a real fun challenge on FSC this month. We'd love for you to join us!

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POSITIVELY_EB 10/11/2011 1:05AM

    emoticon You are also MY inspiration!!! HUGS!!!

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MSLZZY 10/10/2011 10:35PM

    I remember that episode. My inspiration-you! HUGS!

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WOO HOO, WHAT A RIDE!

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Had to share this cute phrase:

Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a well preserved body, but rather skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, wine in the other, body thoroughly worn out and screaming.......

WOO HOO, WHAT A RIDE!

  
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ID_VANDAL 9/19/2011 7:18PM

    Thanks for the reminder!! Life is for living!!

Time for me to get to work on that.

Vandal

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DXWALKER1 9/19/2011 5:45PM

    LOVE IT! Thanks for sharing!!! emoticon

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ELLENIRENE 9/15/2011 7:03AM

    So true and so sad.---We don't take notice and enjoy "the ride" We're too busy living!!

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MSLZZY 9/14/2011 11:23PM

    emoticonLet's go for a ride together! HUGS!

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SLIMMERJESSE 9/14/2011 11:03PM

    So true! Thanks for sharing this.

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