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A Merry Christmas letter to Mr. Tuxedo:

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Mr. Tuxedo guy,

It was great to see you and your wife/girlfriend last night at the John Tesh concert.

That was a mighty fine fur coat she had...I can see why you didn't want to check it. It must have been horrible for you to have to sit up in the balcony with us common folks.

It must have been equally upsetting for you to have to sit next to me....a middle aged woman in blue jeans and overweight at that. Isn't it funny how no one tells you that the arm rests belong to people like you and if anyone tries to use them, they get an elbow jabbed at them. And I really liked the part about how you had a smile for everyone around you except when you looked my way. It was probably my sparkling personality that blinded you and turned off your smile.

Yes, I am overweight. Yes, I am uncomfortable sitting in chairs that were built for people who are a size 2. Thanks for noticing. Let me tell you something you don't notice as your nose is in the air.......

I am a great person. I have sweet disposition and I am nice to most people. I love to laugh and have fun with my family. I was there to enjoy the concert with my sister and my niece. Despite you and your elbow, we had a nice time. And you know what......I have feelings and they can get hurt by people like you.

If that's what it's like to have money.......I don't want it. Because I will always be happier than you could possibly be looking so silly in your monkey suit......this is Sioux Falls not New York!!!
You didn't hurt my feelings or make me feel bad.

So, you see....I'm not going to be like this forever. I'm on a journey and I'm sorry but you can't come along. You on the other hand have " Arrogant, snob disease." And I hear there is no cure. I'm sorry to hear that. You'll never know what you missed.

Merry Christmas! I hope you get everything money can buy.


P. S. : To the readers- This is really me being funny. I can't let a small person get me down like that....but sometimes....if I wasn't a christian or a nice person.....this is how I would let them have it!!!! LOL!

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AMBERZADE 12/23/2009 9:21AM

    LOL This is funny and very cute! Good for you!!

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ELLENIRENE 12/23/2009 6:13AM

    It's his loss

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ALEXSGIRL1 12/22/2009 10:34PM

    some people need money to feel important and some people learn it is more important to be nice to your neighbor and share the arm rest. stay just the way you are. i wish they could read your blog and make a turn around. emoticonyou are special.

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MSLZZY 12/22/2009 10:20PM

    Just because you give the impression you have money, you can't disguise the obvious lack of good manners! I am glad you enjoyed the concert, despite the rude couple in the crowd.
Even the lowliest of us deserves respect. He could have been sitting next to God and still
been offended.
Keep your happy humor, smile, and know that they are people just as we are!
But you are special, you are unique and that is a very good thing!
Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

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GINILEE4 12/22/2009 8:40PM

    It's too bad that there are people who simply have no manners. Maybe it was a big deal to be at the concert to them, but no more so than for you. Remain the nice, kind and funloving person you are and rememeber what you don't want to be like, ever,


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MYRENAISSANCE09 12/22/2009 8:27PM

  I am so sorry you had such a bad experience! You are a wonderful, kind person and don't forget it! By the way, you can tell they have issues, anyway. What were they thinking, wearing a tuxedo and fur to a CONCERT? Geez! How weird! What were they thinking? emoticon

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The spark on my Christmas Stocking is not a fire.........

Thursday, December 17, 2009

I was moved to tears this morning........it wasn't a bad thing either. There are some people on Sparkpeople that can make such a difference in your life. I know I have been truly blessed and my life will never be the same. Many of you reading this are counted in that blessing.....

As many of you know, I have been struggling with the surgery question. To have or not to have......that is the question. My husband has been pushing me towards it but has also said that it's my decision. I haven't been sure.

Today I received an email from a beautiful sparker who is very much succeeding at her weight loss journey. She doesn't know I'm writing this so I won't identify her by name, only because I don't want to offend her if she minds. She gave me some wonderful incites and I would like to share a couple of her comments with you......


"....If seeing people dying from smoking every day or being given the death sentence that smokers lungs is, doesn't switch that little switch that needs switching for someone to give up smoking, then I think nothing will.

Same with losing weight. One day, it's there – the switch. It's big and bright red and right in front of you and all you have to do when it appears is press it and the rest is easy. But if it doesn't appear – then losing weight will be a struggle and a battle that's most likely to end in defeat over and over. "

....."About the moment, the window of opportunity, that you get. If you seize it, that moment is really all it takes. As in, I'm not “doing” it – I did it that moment. What I do now is no different to when I was gaining weight. As in, I wasn't “doing” that either. It was just a consequence of how I was living. And now, as a consequence of how I am living, I am now losing weight. No scheme, no diet, no effort – just a change and decision I made that one time on January 10th 2009.

I make it sound simple and it obviously isn't. And I can't really explain the moment very well either, because it's such an individual experience. But I have heard other people who've made a big change in their life say the same thing – that one day it was there – the knowledge that today was the day and that henceforth, it would be different.

I know alcoholics and drug addicts often call it rock-bottom, and I suppose that's kinda how I felt as well. Only, I don't think I was as low as I'd ever been. But I definitely felt it was do or die time and – rather wisely – decided to do. ;) "


She had a lot more to say to me and I will NEVER forget it. I appreciate it so much. You are an amazing person and you are wise beyond your years! The fact that you cared enough to share that with me, leaves me speechless. I really believe now that I can do this on my own.....the healthy way. And I believe in myself and in my strength to do it.

I'm not so foolish to think that is will be easy now, but it will be right and it will be good. Just watch me!.......Just join me! 2010 will be our year to shine!!!! (We may even throw some tinsel around......LOL)

I love Sparkpeople! I love the people of Sparkpeople. You are what makes this tic. Together it's an unstoppable force. We are here for each other through successes and setbacks. We pick each other up like nothing I have ever seen before!

Thank you.....you touch my heart and give me strength!


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LUCKYDUCK2 12/21/2009 7:01PM

    What a wonderful Christmas gift from a fellow sparker....the gift of sharing and caring! And thank YOU for sharing it with us.

Merry Christmas and a Healthy New Year to you and yours. Hugs.

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NANCY- 12/20/2009 8:46AM

    Keri, what wonderful incites she had. I can understand about the Big Red Switch... I quit smoking 9 months ago... it wasn't easy at first, but each day got easier. Now it's my lifestyle.
I too am looking for the food Switch, fitness switch... but I think for me the path to the switch included baby steps in preparation for the switch. For me surgery would not be an option.... I need to learn what needs to be done and do it, without that I know that i know what the surgery intended to help with would fail becasue the supporting tools are not in place.

I need the "Big RED Switch"
Thanks for sharing.


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ID_VANDAL 12/20/2009 2:56AM

    Hi Keri, Thanks for sharing this. Sparkpeople are an awesome group and so willing to share and support.

I count my blessing that I found you out here!

You add a lot to Sparkpeople!!

Enjoy your holidays!



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KELLYC_14FAN 12/18/2009 8:21AM

    This is such a great blog!!! I definitely needed to read this today!! So thank you!!

I definitely agree with the big red switch analogy! That is exactly how it was for me. After trying many times, there was something about this time that was just different.

Thanks for all of your support as well! You rock! :)

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ELLENIRENE 12/18/2009 7:25AM

    Thank you for sharing this. Spark does have amazing people.

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DEEGIRL50 12/18/2009 4:27AM

    Kiss your forehead for me dear one!! I believe you've got it!!

Your outlook and humor and thought provoking blogs are a few of my favorite things!!

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KO1215 12/17/2009 8:38PM

    Here is to all of us having an Ah ha moment! emoticon

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MSLZZY 12/17/2009 5:32PM

    The wonderful insight and thoughts of this Sparker is a true blessing to all of us and I thank you for sharing. I am not sure, either, what exactly happens when we have our "ah-ha" moment but when it comes, you have to grab at the opportunity. Sieze the brass ring! If all our stuggles were easy, we would take them for granted. It is hard work but must be done. And when we reach our goals,
the sense of accomplishment makes up for all the pain and frustration, self-doubt and negativity. You CAN do this and you WILL do it, in your own way. You have the tools and we are here for you, just as you are here for us when we need it. Grow your Spark and let it illuminate your life!
Here is to the most splendid and glorious year ahead! emoticon

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 12/17/2009 4:45PM

    I totally agree with "the switch".

When the time is right, we can do anything.

2010 will be your year to shine!

Let your sparklight through!

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GINILEE4 12/17/2009 4:04PM

    Dear Keri, All I can say is DITTO. You give me strength. Reading your blog has lifted my spirit today and I think that you are right, we can do this on our, together. I'm with you in 2010.


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BABY_GIRL69 12/17/2009 2:53PM

    This is wonderful & some times Sparkfriends come just in the nick of time like angels! Thanks for sharing!


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MBSKIT 12/17/2009 2:44PM

    Thank you for sharing!

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    You've been abundantly blessed, and bless so many by sharing this.
Happy Holidays! emoticon
Grace and peace,

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Oh Christmas tree.....oh Christmas tree....

Monday, December 14, 2009

I'm really slow this year getting my house ready for Christmas. I'm not even sure why. I got the tree up right away but I didn't bring any of the other decorations up from the basement because I didn't have much time. The tree turned out really nice. I decided to use tinsel this year instead of garland. I thought it would be so nice and twinkly! Which it is.......

Well we had a little issue this morning. We have a ceiling fan in the living room and for some strange reason......it decided to turn on by itself this morning! At full speed!!! Needless to say I had tinsel everywhere!!! I wonder how many calories you burn picking up tinsel from all over the room.....LOL! How well....everything has been righted.

I got my Christmas cards done last night....and I have to start buying presents soon. I can't believe I haven't started .....I am always done by now. Oh well.

A little everyday. And whatever doesn't get done.....doesn't get done!

By the way, here is my grand daughter Aubrey and her daddy, Clinton. I got to spend some real quality time with her on Saturday! It was great! She is such a joy!

Have a great day!!



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VICUNJA 12/17/2009 9:23AM

    *LOL* I can just picture the tinsel going everywhere - must've looked like magic! emoticon

Gorgeous granddaughter you have. emoticon

Good luck with the present buying and card writing. I'm WAY over all that - just have a few pressie to wrap and that's that, all done and ready for the big day! I'm as excited as they get! emoticon

Joanie x

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DEEGIRL50 12/17/2009 7:21AM

    Sorry about the fan... I was sending you warm wishes, but I didn't expect they would turn on your fan!

You have everything you need for Christmas... a happy family!
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BUDDY_LOVE 12/16/2009 9:14AM

    What a beautiful tree & gorgeous grand daughter!

I know what you mean about shopping. I use to always have mine done by July! This year I lucked out in that my family is not exchanging gifts so I don't have to buy any this year! For my husbands family, we've just one more gift to get & we'll be finished.

Now we can sit back and enjoy the season!

Hope you have a good one.


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ELLENIRENE 12/16/2009 7:04AM

    Your tree is beautiful.
Have fun with your granddaughter. Christmas is a wonderful time of year.

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P316LEIA 12/15/2009 10:26AM

    Great picture of your son & granddaughter!! Kids make Christmas so much fun!!!

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MSLZZY 12/15/2009 10:10AM

    Ah, the mysteries of the ceiling fan! Glad the tinsel was easy to pick up! Lots of bending at the waist but your tree looks gorgeous! Have a great day!

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NANCY- 12/15/2009 8:23AM

    It's not the decorations but what is in our hearts.
Enjoy the season.

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STOPTHECRAVING 12/15/2009 7:08AM

    I can't put tinsel on my tree. I own cats. Your tree is lovely. You'll get what you need done and you'll have a great Christmas! I just know it!

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MYRENAISSANCE09 12/14/2009 10:26PM

  Your tree is beautiful! I agree, we do what we can, what doesn't get, simply doesn't get done. I bought cards this year and I am determined to send some out. I better get to it, huh? Thanks for the reminder!

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DWROBERGE 12/14/2009 10:20PM

    Christmas is a great time for grandchildren.

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My Grown up Christmas List with a SparkPeople twist.

Thursday, December 10, 2009


This is one of my favorite Christmas songs sang by the incredible Amy Grant. And every year at this time, I like to think about what I would like on my own personal Christmas list. This year I thought it might be fun to put a SparkPeople twist in it. So I am going to tell you what My Grown Up Christmas List with a twist is and I would love to here yours.

Are you up to the Challenge?

Here is the traditional song/list:

No more lives torn apart; so wars would never start
And time will heal all hearts.

Everyone would have a friend and right would always win,
And love would never end.

This is my Grown Up Christmas List.

My version:

No more diet stops and starts; success would be our spark.
And we'll all have healthy hearts.

Everyone would have a friend, hearts and hands will join again.
and compassion never ends.

This is my Grown Up Christmas (with a Sparkpeople twist) List.

In all seriousness.

1. I wish for consistant weight loss.
2. I wish for good health.
3. I wish for continuing friendships.
4. I wish to run up stairs.
5. I wish for success for everyone.

This is my grown up Christmas List.

What do you wish for???


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EVER-HOPEFUL 12/14/2009 4:25PM

    great mine is the same list as yours plus a good health for me and my family.

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BUDDY_LOVE 12/12/2009 11:50AM

    my grown up christmas list is not as inspirational as your's. It was actually pretty simple. I wanted Sir Elton John & Billy Joel concert tickets. However that's not to be. I went to order them & the ticket price the television station stated was sorely understated. By about $150!!! Sooo...looks like I'll have to come up with something else. But truth be told...I have everything I want. I have a roof over my head, food in my belly & a husband & family who love me.

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GINILEE4 12/12/2009 12:34AM

    You know Keri, Every year in November, I demand a list from my children and their spouses and from my husband. I run like a mad woman filling all the stockings and come December 24th, realize I neglected my on wishes. This year to come, I wish for as you say consistancy. Not just in my weightloss but in my life. If I can achieve a consistant lifestyle I can also include that wightloss. So this year I ask for consistency, That's all.


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RUTHIEBEAR 12/11/2009 10:24AM

    I love your grown up Christmas list. I wish you every success in achieving your goals. I am going to work on my list now. thanks for inspiring me.

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NANCY- 12/11/2009 9:04AM

    Great list Keri!

I wish for my healthy life style changes to stick.
I wish for consistency.

That's just a start.


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ELLENIRENE 12/11/2009 8:00AM

My own spark-related list
to reach goal
stay healthy

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DEEGIRL50 12/10/2009 7:56PM

    Nobody can match you Kerri, but I'll give it a shot!!

No more feeling worn out; clothes that fit without a doubt,
and time to care for all my parts.

Everyone would have a friend and healthy food we'd be a cravin, And pounds would be a droppin.

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ID_VANDAL 12/10/2009 6:30PM

    Wow Keri - that's a great post. Hard to add to the list but I'm up to the challenge so how about:

No more job layoffs and a growing healthy economy

Politians who really put the country first and themselves last

That everyone finds the spark they need

No one drops out

I'll have to come back to see the list grow.

Great idea!

Take care



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VGIMLET 12/10/2009 6:12PM

    Nice blog.

I think everyone wishes for peace on earth, no one going hungry, etc.

My own spark-related list -
I wish for continued success on my plan.
Success for all.
To stay healthy.
To keep expanding my horizons.

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It came upon a midnight clear.

Monday, December 07, 2009

If you have noticed that I haven't been as active here lately; you are not mistaken. I have been taking some time to reflect and think about my weight loss journey and the steps I want to take to continue the process.

If you read my blog from November 15, you know that my husband has been encouraging me to get a lap band. I have never been a big fan of that type of medical intervention. But in all fairness, I decided to do research on it and make an educated decision on it.

I have been reading on the internet, peeking around spark teams devoted to those subjects, and just last week I went to a seminar about lap bands and gastric bypass.

The only thing I can tell you for certain right now is that personally, I could never have the gastric bypass. It's just not for me.

Now, I'm still not sure about the lap band. I think it could be a good tool. It's not an easy solution. I was surprised when listening to the procedure and requirements after, a lot of the principles that are important to the success of this tool are also Becks principles. I didn't see that coming. But it sure made sense.

I guess when it comes down to it; getting the lap band is the equivalent of willpower. You have no choice but to do it right. Your body won't let you do otherwise.

So, I can honestly tell you, I still haven't decided what I'm going to do. I would rather do it on my own, but if I can't, this would be a viable option. I'm in no hurry to decide.....it's a big decision.

So I will continue to focus on Becks principles and I am doing another challenge to lose 12 pounds this month. (Of course the christmas party for my brother in the service ......yesterday.........did NOT help my cause! But it didn't defeat me either.) So I hope to be back to my spunky self soon.

I hope you are having a great day!!!!


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VICUNJA 12/9/2009 12:43PM


Just wanted to tell you that my GP referred me for the lap band in the Spring of 2007. I didn't know at the time that I was actually pg, but obviously soon found out, so it was postponed.

In January 2009, I hit rock bottom - not because I was fatter than ever or more depressed than ever or anything else specific like that really. I guess I had just had enough of being unhappy with and unkind to myself. It was then I was "referred" to SparkPeople by a mate, and slowly but surely and without any hesitation began my journey.

In May 2009, when I finally had the pre-op appt. for the lap band, I'd already lost 40lbs! Today, I'm no longer eligible for the op.

Tomorrow, it's 11 months since I took my first steps towards a better me (not just a slimmer and healthier me! That, as it turns out, is simply a sideeffect of looking after myself!) - and my toal loss stands at 92.6lbs - just 23.8lbs away from being "normal" weight!!!

There's nothing "special" about me and until January I never thought I could do this. But I'm glad I found the belief in myself and the worth in myself.

I have learned so much that no surgery in the world could've taught me.

And thinking that the surgery will "force" you to behave differently with food is wrong. At the pre-op appt. I went to we were given the statistics - about half of those who've had stomach ops - ncluding the gastric bypass - regain the weight they lose within 5 years. Better odds than most weight-losses, but still not great.

Anyways, I'm not here to tell you not to have the op. I'm just here to tell you that the powere lies within you no matter if you have the op or not. Only YOU can lose the weight and keep it off. No band can do that for you.

Wishing you all the best on your journey, hon, and please never stop believing that you are worth it and that you can do it!


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LUCKYDUCK2 12/8/2009 2:06PM

    Excellent! Research is such a good idea. So many jump into something believing it is THE answer but it a A TOOL and we still need to work it for success. Whatever you decide , you will be informed and successful.

I hope you are feeling better. Hugs

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NANCY- 12/8/2009 8:22AM

    Keri, you are wise in taking your time to decide.
Your post helped me out. Sharing what you heard in the seminar about it is not just a procedure, there is another component similar to Beck's.
This told me I am on the right track. I'd still have to learn to do the Beck Stuff, so I need to work on my commitment, and be more dedicated.

Thanks so much for sharing.

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ID_VANDAL 12/7/2009 11:02PM

    Hi Keri, I can't add much to this conversation except to say I think you're doing doing it right - lots of research and not rushing into it. As the other sparkers said this has to be the right decision for you!

Take it slow and be comfortable either way. In the meantime practice Beck's everyday and maybe that will make the decision for you!

You take care!



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BUDDY_LOVE 12/7/2009 10:50PM

    I had the opportunity to do the gastric bypass when I injured my back 3 yrs ago and I wanted to do it but my husband was against it. He has never known anyone who got good results from it....they all ended up with serious complications & in worse shape health-wise than before they started. Me on the other hand...my sister had it & did fine, & I've had several co-workers in the past who had it done & had no problems. but I couldn't convince him otherwise. so instead I went with a diet clinic & as long as I stayed with the clinic & paid out the A$$ for it...I lost weight & did great. But then I had to quit working due to my injury, hubby lost his job at Boeing during the sale (of boeing)...our $4500 a month income dropped down to $1200 a month. That's how much it cost me in food & classes for 3 months at the clinic--approx $1200. After quitting the clinic, I maintained my weight for about a month & then all the foods 'outside the box' started creeping back in & it wasn't long before i gained back the 64 pounds I lost in 9 months AND gained an additional 18. I can honestly say...in 10 yrs of marriage this is the only time I wish I had gone against my husbands wishes. I really wished I would have had the surgery. I still long for it today! But now, because my health is no longer an issue, insurance won't cover it & I can't afford it on my own.

Any surgery is taking a risk. It doesn't matter what it's for...there's always risk. and just because you have the surgery...that doesn't give you leeway to eat what you want, thinking the band will stop you from eating more. It doesn't work like that (but you've researched it so u probably know better than I!)...you can still gain weight with the gastric bypass or the lapband. so you still have to be able to control what you eat & how much you eat of it.

The comment that got to me was my husband saying..."if you can't stop yourself from eating whatever you want now, what's to stop you from doing it after the surgery?"

But i still wished I would have had it!

Good Luck in your decision making. I know it's got to be hard choice.


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MSLZZY 12/7/2009 10:22PM

    Make the decision that is best for you! The lap band is a great tool but it does have it's own set of adjustments. One of my good friends had the surgery and it has helped tremendously but it does have drawbacks too. Good luck!

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GINILEE4 12/7/2009 4:42PM

    Whatever you choose, it will be the right option for you. I too have been reviewing this past year and find myself terribly disappointed by the outcome. I have some serious changes to make before this train wreck gets any worse. Thank you for all your help this year and keep being the inspiration that is you,


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