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Little Bit About Me

Saturday, January 05, 2013

"Copy and Paste into your own blog, change the answers to suit you
and help your SparkFriends get to know you.

Where is my cell phone?
sitting on my desk

Spouse?
Watching TV in the back room

Your hair?
too long for me

Your mother?
just walked by to check the laundry

Your father?
died back in 1991

Your favorite thing?
cherished memories of my kids when they were little

Your dream last night?
didn't dream as I could not sleep

Favorite drink?
Water

What room are you in?
living room

Your hobbies?
knitting, sewing, scrap booking and card making

Your fear?
losing control

Where do you want to be in 6 years?
debt free

Where were you last night?
right here on computer and Spark

Something that you aren't?
confident

Muffins?
vegan apple cinnamon

Wish list item?
a piano

Last thing you did?
snack on a graham cracker

What are you wearing?
grey pant and black shirt from the day

Your pets?
1 cat and 1 dog

Friends?
less and less

Your life?
stressful

Your mood?
contemplative

Missing someone?
my father

Drinking?
tap water

Your car?
Mercury Sable GS

Something you're not wearing?
bra

Your favorite store?
thrift store

Your favorite color?
yellow

When is the last time you cried?
daily

Favorite place to eat?
home

Favorite place I'd like to be right now?
love being home

  


Garage Conversion

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Life is sure testing people and mostly me. In June 2009, we moved back to South Florida from Missouri because mother-in-law needed some help and father-in-law was dying. Father-in-law died the day after we left on the 3 day journey home. It was expected. He had melanoma and had been having spots removed for 12 years and there was no end in sight. He decided to stop any further treatment as it was taking all of their saving. He also had Alzheimer's and diabetes. Well, for 3 years, we have been living with MIL in her house. We, as being, my mother, my hubby, me, and our 2 teenagers. We are all currently living in her 3 bedroom house and it is cramped and stressful. About 1 1/2 years ago, MIL decided to give us her huge garage and the lot next to her where the garage is and got a loan for us to convert it into a house for us. So begins the journey.

After getting the loan, we make arrangements with the architect. Now, this garage was a large 3 bay garage with storage area. It is one big rectangle. 1344 square feet. 32 feet by 42 feet. I looked and looked and found a floor plan that with a minor change will fit this foundation. The architect works it in and we have the plans done. We have the contractor hired and all. We get the survey done for the septic tank and such. Then find out that MIL had the lots combined for the property taxes and so we have to have more surveys done to split the lots again. Then the Town Hall claims that they told us that we had to have a minimum of 1750 square feet for the house. So back to the architect and it was an easy change. The back patio I was planning became the "playroom" (extension). After more and more issues with the Town Hall we finally get the building permit.

Foundation cut for the plumbing. Septic tank delivered and installed. New regulations mean that it has to sit higher therefore we have to raise the foundation. So the existing garage had to have another 4 inches of concrete added to the existing 6 inches that's there. The extension has 4 inches. The extension is then closed in and a roof put on and the garage bay doors were closed in. Now, the main part of the house has 11 foot ceilings and the extension has 8 foot. The 8 foot is a little low for my family as hubby is 6'5", daughter at 18 is 6'4" and son at 17 is 6'3". I am a measly 5'5". Ah well - it's what the codes say we have to have. Windows came in after that and here's a great thing. We live in South Florida and I am a whopping 10 miles from the ocean. Think hurricanes. Now, the walls of this building, garage and extension both, are concrete block, rebar every 4 feet and then filled in with concrete. Very solid. The existing garage had already gone through 5 hurricanes with no damage. These windows are hurricane rated for up to category 4 winds, burglar proof, tinted, noise reduction (airport runway is 1 mile away) and we do not have to have hurricane shutters. Next came the interior wall framing, the wiring for the walls and then the A/C duct work. Now, the drywall has been installed and the ceiling put in. Kitchen cabinets and counter are now installed. Painting is 95% completed and the tile floors are 90% completed. Next week, we are hoping to have the appliances installed, the bathrooms completed, the A/C installed, the water heater installed and if the weather cooperates, the outside painted. Contractor has been stating that he hope to be done by my wedding anniversary in February. Just today, he told me I will be able to have Thanksgiving dinner in my new home. God is so good!!

We made the floor plan as open as possible since I am deaf and need to be able to see as much as possible. If you think of the 3 bays of a garage, each side bay has 2 bedrooms with a bathroom in the middle. Down the center bay is the great room and kitchen with laundry access and the door to the extension. The home is 42 feet wide and 32 feet from front to back. The extension is 13 feet from the back of the existing garage and goes down the 42 foot wall for just 32 feet, so it is 13x32. In that room we will have the dining room, video game area and then my craft area for sewing, quilting, scrap booking, card making and art.

I am so looking forward to this. I will finally have room to exercise without feeling self-conscious. I will have all my stress relievers in place and can cook healthy meals without running out of places to keep food. Amazing what your own home can do. Gee, this just reminded me of another inspiring blog I can post another day. Amazing what opening you mind will do.

  
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YOBOELI 9/20/2012 9:46PM

    that is great I know it is nice to have your own space my husband I and one teenager and an eight year old live in my mil's house. So I feel you. Hope you have a great time exercising without an audience

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Day 2 & 3 - Life has it's Ups and Downs.

Saturday, August 25, 2012

Well - I had a problem figuring something out on my computer and finally figured out why I couldn't add a blog entry. Be careful of pop-up blockers. That was my lesson.

Seeing as I share a kitchen with my MIL, we wait non each other to finish cooking meals before the other does. Well, last night (Friday) was not a good night. We were plagued with storms off and on all day and evening, so just as I am about to prepare dinner, MIL asks hubby to go out any buy her some chili from Wendy's. That's not usually a problem, but so many people were out on the roads due to the weather conditions we are expecting this weekend so that a little round trip of a whopping 6 miles, took 1 hour and 45 minutes. Then we would have had to wait for MIL to finish eating (1 hour and 30 minutes). Needless to say, I did not cook. We went out to eat and I went off my diet due to these circumstances. I could not eat vegan as I wanted, but I did the best I could. We went to Steak 'n Shake and I got the guacamole steakburger, but I asked to have the burger separate and to have additional tomato slices and lettuce on sandwich. Then, instead of fries, I got cole slaw. The burger came home and son had it in his eggs this morning. So, my sandwich was a whole grain bun, guacamole, pepperjack cheese (yes, I was bad), chipolte sauce, lettuce and tomato. It was yummy!! So I think a bad situation turned good all in all last night.

Now, today was just another roller coaster, but man-O-man did I blast any doubts out of the water. Finances are not good for us and I have to be careful getting groceries. I had $40 to get what I could for 5 people for a week, 3 meals a day. Luckily, I already had the meat and meat substitutes in the house as well as my non-dairy cheeses. I managed to get everything except the fresh produce on my list in the $40. Now, to find the money for that and hubby is asking MIL.

What's crazy is, we are under Tropical Storm Warnings right now. I am on the East Coast of Florida and Tropical Storm Issac is coming for a visit along the West coast and can be felt all the way over here. Tomorrow we have a 100% chance of rain and damaging winds. Monday it goes down to 80%, but still something else. I worry about a few neighbors as their yards are already flooded from yesterday's rains. Oh Joy!!

I am doing my level best to stay positive and I think this blog just might be the key.

  
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STHAX10 8/25/2012 9:43PM

    emoticonFrom reading your last 2 blogs, I feel as though even with it being an emotional journey for you, you seem to handle things pretty good. Keep a positive attitude, and try not to dwell on the negative. I know from experience that negativity can lead to depression. Find the positive in everything. It is hard, but there is something good in everything, even if the only positive you can see is the way you handle it. I found that the more I asked, "what's going to happen next?" The more I found negative things to dwell on. Keep your head up, your family's well being close to your heart and keep that beautiful smile going. Smiles are contagious!! I hope you all stay safe with the storms. Send me a message to let me know that you and family do ok!!! emoticon

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This is New to Me!!

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Well - for the first blog I have ever done, I will tell a little about what I go through daily. I am total deaf. I was born hard of hearing and over 42 years, I slowly lost it, but one day, it just totally shut off. According to the doctors I have no ear drums, no cochleas and now, no bones in the ear. I live in total silence, but, you know that ringing you get in your ears? That's called tinnitus. I sometimes get the ringing and buzzing, but I have been blessed with Musical Tinnitus. That means, instead of dealing with the daily noise of blaring TV commercials, kids fighting and bickering and the airplanes since I live 1 mile from the runway of a large International airport, I hear music that I have heard throughout 42 years. I was blessed to have a very musical family and we each liked different types of music. My father played guitar and flute, mom play the piano and sang, oldest brother played guitar and flute, but moved to electric guitar and bass and other brother played trumpet and then drums. I played piano and still do when I can. I also sing.

Well - I am married to a wonderful man who was born with brain damage. He is forgetful and has learning disabilities, but he's good to me, provides what I need and is very loving and loyal. We have two teenagers. Daughter is 18, has lots of learning disabilities and struggles, and for the most part she is happy and accepts her lot on life. Son is 17 and other than a few issues, weight related, asthma and unusual vision issues, he is fine. My kids were in public school for a short time when we lived in Missouri, but we found daughter was not learning anything and son was not being challenged enough, so I pulled them out and began to home school them. Son finished high school level courses at age 15. Daughter still struggles with grades 3-5 and we've been told by two school districts that she should have been in a special home and school (basically "institutionalized"). I didn't deal well with that, but she can take care of herself for the most part and needs help with other things.

I am also primary caretaker for my mother. Back in 1986 due to an issue with routine surgery, she needed a blood transfusion. Seems they didn't test blood back then for anything other that HIV and AIDS. She contracted Hepatitis C and is has now progressed into Cirrhosis of the Liver. She also has the beginnings of dementia.

We are all currently living with my mother-in-law and are in the process of converting a large 3 bay garage into a 4bedroom home. Construction should be done in 3 months or so. MIL is not very good about food. She has no will-power at all and is overly critical of how I cook. She thinks my efforts to be healthy are wrong and that her diet is the only way to go. Well, I think I speak from experience here, I have lost weight and now have put it back on with living issues, but she has ballooned up and and has been on a Trim Club diet for the last 30 years and goes up and down the scale like a yo-yo. When she's tired, on vacation, or just not feeling well, she feels that's a good excuse to eat what she wants. Also, in her opinion, weekends were made to eat whatever you want.

I myself strive to cook healthy no matter what day of the week, if I am feeling bad or whatever is going on. Goodness, I spent one whole year without a working stove or oven. That was a year of creative cooking, and it was still very healthy.

I can only hope that when I get my new house, I will have a "non-MIL zone" in my kitchen. I will be able to do what I need to for my health and the health of my family. I am going vegan as I am allergic to dairy, hubby is on a cardiac diet and is lactose intolerant, daughter is very picky and also lactose intolerant, son is fine except he is beginning to dislike more and more foods because of MIL, and my mother has to have high protein, but no soy products. Is it easy? No, but I do manage.

I have to continually look for the bright things in life and the positives, then "Look out world, Here comes Kristina!!"

  
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AMOMENTSNOTICE 9/2/2012 5:00PM

    Wow. You have a lot going on in your life. We're all stressed and I know I have used that as an excuse not to get back into shape for too long. -You're inspiring!

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STHAX10 8/23/2012 7:33PM

    Welcome to blogging! You did great! Let me tell you, you don't have to share this space with anyone you don't want to! This world, sparkpeople.com, is full of wonderful, compassionate, caring, motivating, inspiring people! We are here for you! No matter what MIL thinks, her diet is not best for you, if that is not what you want. You know what is best for you. You deal with many special need diets. emoticon I have only me and hubby to worry about, and he takes care of himself. I prepare and eat what I need. He eats what he wants. Rarely do I cook for two anymore, unless I am preparing a mass amount of something that we both eat, then I freeze individual servings. He has learned to eat that way or he has to do it all himself, lol.

I hope that you get your own kitchen space soon! If you need support or venting time, just send me a message!! emoticon

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