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The Now

Thursday, December 12, 2013

It's soo easy to get caught up in the now of things. I want this tshirt now, I want this brownie, so often do we either forget about the consequences or just consciously choose to deal with the consequences later. Something as little as deciding whether or not to have one or two deserts or none at all says soo much about the type of person we are in that moment. Do we rationalize our decision or flat out say "I don't care?"

Yea that brownie today might not do a whole lot but what about that one you had yesterday, or one you will have tomorrow? Before you know it, you feel horrible about yourself because you gained 5lbs and now your jeans are showing that muffin top you developed.

Someone the other day explained to me what they felt successful marriages are all about. That marriage is NOT about loving people for whom they really are, or getting along really well, that all comes on it's own, but marriage is really about this: When your partner goes throughout their day, they make life decisions without you, now you might find out 60% of those decisions but regardless, you had no part in them, marriage is about being ok with the consequences of the decision your partner makes without you. At the end of the day you cannot control that person, they will do whatever they are going to do, the question is are you truly willing to accept the consequences of their actions? Have you had enough time to figure out whether or not your ok with it?

Why is it soo easy for people to just shrug their shoulders and say well if we ever get to a point where I'm not happy, I'll just get a divorce? WTF is wrong with people. In fact WTF is wrong with me sometimes because I'll find myself thinking that way to. See it's not just about the tshirt I bought yesterday, it's about how often and how much I'm spending on the tshirt and whether or not when that credit card bill, or balance in the checking account, that whoever I'm with has to be ok with the consequences of my decisions.

So no, it's not about the brownie or the tshirt, it's much bigger than that, that brownie or tshirt represents how you life the rest of your life and how your likely to continue to conduct yourself unless, you, yourself sees the need for change.

  
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PB4WEGO 12/14/2013 6:18PM

    Wow, that's a lot to think about. I like the saying, "Don't give up what you want most, for what you want now." But honestly I've only applied it to my weight/health management. It should apply to relationships as well.
Thanks for sharing.


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RACEWELLWON 12/14/2013 1:09PM

    I'll do the T-shirt - you sunshine girl - miss the Snow ?? Hugs K

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1CRAZYDOG 12/12/2013 9:42PM

    I agree.

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JOYCECAIN 12/12/2013 7:13PM

    You are correct.

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So where do I start?

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Well... I graduated Naval Bootcamp November 15th. Now I'm getting ready to go to school in Florida. I lost about 12 lbs being in bootcamp! WooHoo. It was definitely an experience. One I don't really want to repeat but was truly invaluable. I learned a lot about myself. Some of the things I was struggling with before I left, I'm no longer struggling with. I'm still just as self conscious as I was before but I give it less power. I guess showering with 40 women will do that to you.

I've grown into myself. I'm learning that the problems I had before still exist, just because I changed the environment doesn't mean I solved the problem. I'm still fighting with the issues I had left over from my ex. However, now I know I'm worth something, I'm no longer doubting myself or thinking I'm not going to be good enough. I'm strong enough, smart enough and beautiful enough. I will deserve everything I get good and bad and that's because that's the way it was meant to be. It's unfortunate it took going through boot camp to figure that out, we should always know we are people we should be proud of. I'm owning my personality and even better I'm leaving all the reservations behind. I may never see that person again whom I went up to and said "hi" and had a meal with but it was worth it. Someday I may be on a ship and out in the middle of the ocean for months on end. Suddenly things have far more value than they used to. It's easy to be fearless when you have nothing to lose and everything to gain, it's easier to be fearful when you have something to lose and don't need to gain. The hard part is not letting that fear or courage be a detriment.

Every quality can be a virtue and flaw at the same time you just have to figure out what category it falls into at the right time. Life is only what we make it. Find what you need to blossom, and shine. If you don't you won't ever be happy with yourself.

Anyway for those of you who are wondering, yes Joe proposed and I did say "yes"! Hope to hear from you all soon.

  
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SUNSET09 12/5/2013 5:07AM

  emoticon and emoticon Sometimes, we have to go through to get to! Out of every action there's a positive reaction; we just need to determine which is which, as you stated! Nothing in the world is permanent, and we're foolish when we ask anything to be, but surely we're more foolish not to take delight in what we have - while we have it. Change is the essence of existence, and we should make it the premise of our philosophy. It's just a matter of knowing, we are worthy! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SIRENSONGS 12/1/2013 9:50AM

    Great to hear from you Danielle! It sounds like you're continuing to grow and learn about yourself, which is awesome! I need to take some lessons from you, instead of repeating my mistakes over and over again...

Congrats on all your accomplishments with boot camp and especially on your engagement! I'm so happy for you!!!! :D

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XXSOLA_FIDEXX 11/30/2013 9:31PM

    Congratulations on the engagement! It's so good to hear from you! emoticon

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RACEWELLWON 11/30/2013 8:44PM

    You have always been worth something ! Congrats on everything !! A Wedding , Graduation and 12 pounds ! I am so Happy for you and Joe! I am very proud of you Dani !! I knew from the start that you could do it! In one letter is an address you requested :) Happy Shopping - Hugs Karen emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 11/30/2013 2:55PM

    My DS said just about the same things when he finished boot camp. Not something he'd want to repeat, but a HUGE maturing and learning process.

And CONGRATULATIONS on your engagement! How wonderfully exciting. Wishing you & Joe all the very best life has to offer.



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HEY!!!!!!!!

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Hey guys I'm fresh outta bootcamp and life is awesome!! If any of you want to send mail my new address is

AN Klute, Danielle
230 Chevalier Field St. BKS: George Washington
Pensacola, FL 32508

I'll post an actual blog later!

  
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RACEWELLWON 11/30/2013 12:19PM

    I just thinking of you - did you get my last two letters? hugs Karen Happy Thanksgiving !! Did they Forward?

Comment edited on: 11/30/2013 12:20:05 PM

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1CRAZYDOG 11/30/2013 11:50AM

    Congratulations! So very proud of your accomplishment! You go, girl!

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RENATA144 11/30/2013 11:30AM

  Congratulations for completing BOOT CAMP !!! You are emoticon
Please stay safe. Be careful who you trust. emoticon

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Danielle's basic training address.

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Hi all,
My name is Joe Taylor and I am Danielle's boyfriend (soon to be fiance hopefully) and she asked me to add her basic training address to a blog on this site. So here goes!

SR Klute, D.M.
Ship 02 Division 901
3600 Ohio Street
Great Lakes, IL. 60088-7105

I'm sure she would love to hear from you all; thanks everyone in advance for any support you can give her. Also, feel free to wish me luck on my proposal :)

Thanks,

Joe Taylor

  
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PB4WEGO 10/26/2013 12:34PM

    I will write her this weekend. When is graduation? Will you propose then?
Good Luck!
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RACEWELLWON 10/21/2013 1:54PM

    Thanks I will write have been wondering how things are for Dani - Congrats - keep us posted !! Karen She is so close I can drive up to visit here !!

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SIRENSONGS 10/18/2013 7:57AM

    Awww, that is so sweet! Good luck on the proposal! emoticon

Dani's a great girl so you'll be a very luck guy if she say yes! Also, thanks for posting her address. I haven't written a snail mail letter in ages, but I think it will be fun to do so! I miss reading Dani's posts here.




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1CRAZYDOG 10/17/2013 10:29PM

    Wishing you all the best on the proposal! How exciting. I will take her addy down. My son graduated (Army basics) in July 2011. It's a moving ceremony.

HUGS to her.

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A_ROBY 10/17/2013 10:29PM

    Best of luck on your proposal! I just found this blog through the "recently posted blogs" page. Would she mind some mail from a complete stranger? I'd love to support her through basic training and beyond.

Take care!

Amanda R., Louisville, KY

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How I can do this.

Sunday, August 25, 2013

I think some people forget that I'm scared out of my mind to leave. But I'm still doing it. How? Because I can trust in it. I know it won't kill me. I have only three weeks left. Which seems insane. When I think about where I was last year and where I pictured myself for this year, they aren't the same as where I am at.

Last year I was getting ready to start school again. I was nervous because I had done so poorly prior. I didn't think I was leaving for the Navy yet. The paperwork for the divorce was in it's beginning stages. And I was still taking everything one day at a time. I passed my classes with an "A" and a "B" I'm no longer taking classes, and the divorce is over. I'm getting ready to leave my life behind and start a whole new one, well to an extent. I'm in a healthy relationship now, and I've learned soo many things about just everything. I can't even imagine what it truly means at the moment to leave everything behind, and know this time next year I'm going to be living somewhere off a coast. It's soo sureal how everything has fallen into place the way it has.

So the next three weeks is about preparing to leave, taking care of myself and enjoying myself with the people I love.

for those of you that follow regularly... and want to stay updated, I think I'm nearing my end with spark. If you want to stay in touch, email me so I can add you on Facebook or check out my vlog on youtube: kluteracoon. You can email me or leave in the comments your mailing address and I'll try and "penpal" you. :)

  
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1CRAZYDOG 8/25/2013 9:27AM

    It's a change but you'll learn so much about yourself. My DS graduated Basics 6 July 2012 and he learned sooooo much about himself! It's a good thing. Keep that positive spirit.

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