Thursday, December 12, 2013
It's soo easy to get caught up in the now of things. I want this tshirt now, I want this brownie, so often do we either forget about the consequences or just consciously choose to deal with the consequences later. Something as little as deciding whether or not to have one or two deserts or none at all says soo much about the type of person we are in that moment. Do we rationalize our decision or flat out say "I don't care?"
Yea that brownie today might not do a whole lot but what about that one you had yesterday, or one you will have tomorrow? Before you know it, you feel horrible about yourself because you gained 5lbs and now your jeans are showing that muffin top you developed.
Someone the other day explained to me what they felt successful marriages are all about. That marriage is NOT about loving people for whom they really are, or getting along really well, that all comes on it's own, but marriage is really about this: When your partner goes throughout their day, they make life decisions without you, now you might find out 60% of those decisions but regardless, you had no part in them, marriage is about being ok with the consequences of the decision your partner makes without you. At the end of the day you cannot control that person, they will do whatever they are going to do, the question is are you truly willing to accept the consequences of their actions? Have you had enough time to figure out whether or not your ok with it?
Why is it soo easy for people to just shrug their shoulders and say well if we ever get to a point where I'm not happy, I'll just get a divorce? WTF is wrong with people. In fact WTF is wrong with me sometimes because I'll find myself thinking that way to. See it's not just about the tshirt I bought yesterday, it's about how often and how much I'm spending on the tshirt and whether or not when that credit card bill, or balance in the checking account, that whoever I'm with has to be ok with the consequences of my decisions.
So no, it's not about the brownie or the tshirt, it's much bigger than that, that brownie or tshirt represents how you life the rest of your life and how your likely to continue to conduct yourself unless, you, yourself sees the need for change.
Saturday, November 30, 2013
Well... I graduated Naval Bootcamp November 15th. Now I'm getting ready to go to school in Florida. I lost about 12 lbs being in bootcamp! WooHoo. It was definitely an experience. One I don't really want to repeat but was truly invaluable. I learned a lot about myself. Some of the things I was struggling with before I left, I'm no longer struggling with. I'm still just as self conscious as I was before but I give it less power. I guess showering with 40 women will do that to you.
I've grown into myself. I'm learning that the problems I had before still exist, just because I changed the environment doesn't mean I solved the problem. I'm still fighting with the issues I had left over from my ex. However, now I know I'm worth something, I'm no longer doubting myself or thinking I'm not going to be good enough. I'm strong enough, smart enough and beautiful enough. I will deserve everything I get good and bad and that's because that's the way it was meant to be. It's unfortunate it took going through boot camp to figure that out, we should always know we are people we should be proud of. I'm owning my personality and even better I'm leaving all the reservations behind. I may never see that person again whom I went up to and said "hi" and had a meal with but it was worth it. Someday I may be on a ship and out in the middle of the ocean for months on end. Suddenly things have far more value than they used to. It's easy to be fearless when you have nothing to lose and everything to gain, it's easier to be fearful when you have something to lose and don't need to gain. The hard part is not letting that fear or courage be a detriment.
Every quality can be a virtue and flaw at the same time you just have to figure out what category it falls into at the right time. Life is only what we make it. Find what you need to blossom, and shine. If you don't you won't ever be happy with yourself.
Anyway for those of you who are wondering, yes Joe proposed and I did say "yes"! Hope to hear from you all soon.
Saturday, November 30, 2013
Hey guys I'm fresh outta bootcamp and life is awesome!! If any of you want to send mail my new address is
AN Klute, Danielle
230 Chevalier Field St. BKS: George Washington
Pensacola, FL 32508
I'll post an actual blog later!
Thursday, October 17, 2013
My name is Joe Taylor and I am Danielle's boyfriend (soon to be fiance hopefully) and she asked me to add her basic training address to a blog on this site. So here goes!
SR Klute, D.M.
Ship 02 Division 901
3600 Ohio Street
Great Lakes, IL. 60088-7105
I'm sure she would love to hear from you all; thanks everyone in advance for any support you can give her. Also, feel free to wish me luck on my proposal :)
Sunday, August 25, 2013
I think some people forget that I'm scared out of my mind to leave. But I'm still doing it. How? Because I can trust in it. I know it won't kill me. I have only three weeks left. Which seems insane. When I think about where I was last year and where I pictured myself for this year, they aren't the same as where I am at.
Last year I was getting ready to start school again. I was nervous because I had done so poorly prior. I didn't think I was leaving for the Navy yet. The paperwork for the divorce was in it's beginning stages. And I was still taking everything one day at a time. I passed my classes with an "A" and a "B" I'm no longer taking classes, and the divorce is over. I'm getting ready to leave my life behind and start a whole new one, well to an extent. I'm in a healthy relationship now, and I've learned soo many things about just everything. I can't even imagine what it truly means at the moment to leave everything behind, and know this time next year I'm going to be living somewhere off a coast. It's soo sureal how everything has fallen into place the way it has.
So the next three weeks is about preparing to leave, taking care of myself and enjoying myself with the people I love.
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