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No TV!

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

When I moved last year I made a conscious decision not to take my TV with me, I thought that it would be too easy to slip back into my old ways when I moved to a new area- watching tv, eating and not joining a gym. I wanted to live my life rather than watch others (fictional) living their lives.

The first thing I did when I moved was locate a new gym, followed by the library, I ensured I had the internet too!

Most of the office chat is around what programmes were on the night before so at times I feel that I cannot contribute to these chats however I can honestly say I do not miss the TV!!

My best friend says that she would never cope without one, my response- have you tried? She hasn't!

When I walk into my home I feel a sense of calm, a tranquility I have never felt before moving. I feel I can shut the world out until I want to face it again.

I have 24 hours in my day, just as everyone else does however I do feel that I get so much more done since I have moved and have no tv to occupy my time. I now feel I utilise every moment of my life

I still visit friends with tv's and now the constant background noise drives me mad but for years I used to put the TV on telling myself it was just for background noise!

The amount of people that look at me as if I am not speaking a language they understand when I say I have no TV is amazing, they say they've never met anyone without a tv before and what's it like!!

I feel liberated as I no longer rush home to watch the latest soap, or build my life around which programmes I want to watch.

I feel I am now in total control of my life, which is the most amazing feeling, I wouldn't change this for anything

  
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CELEST 3/25/2010 4:46PM

    I understand fully. I own a TV, but for almost 8 months I had needy family living in my lounge (one set after the other) which meant getting access to viewing was a bit awkward. I turned off my DSTV, and have not bothered to turn on my TV even though the last of the family moved out since the beginning of February. I thought I would miss it, but truly my life is full and I don't miss it at all. The only thing that you miss is being able to add "rubbish talk about fictional people". At a wedding I recently attended I was told I reminded people of Jeannie D - a presenter. I had to google Jeannie D to know who they were talking about. LOL NOW DONT SWITCH OFF MY INTERNET that would be a different matter altogether.

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FUNNINFIT 3/16/2010 1:28PM

    Wow! That sounds great for you-I'd love not having TV-I can spend so much time reading, working outside/being on the internet-plus, like you, when I do watch TV, I feel like I have to eat!
keep us posted on how you're doing with this and if you 'convince' anyone else to try doing without tV

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MONARCHCT 3/16/2010 7:06AM

    Although my husband watches a lot of "stuff" in the evening, I sit with my laptop as most of the shows bore me & all the commercials (repeated, repeated, repeated) make me crazy. Other than the news, which is usually depressing, I think I could give up TV too. Anything that happened is on the internet if I feel I need to catch up. What a great way to make full use of your time.

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ILOVESP 3/16/2010 5:22AM

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MARYJOANNA 3/16/2010 5:19AM

  Good for you! We have a couple in our Sunday School class who have never had a tv. It certainly would be a challenge! I applaud you!

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The importance of me time- a lesson learned!

Friday, March 12, 2010

This week I've been feeling more than a little tired and in need of some time to myself so on Wednesday I booked 2 hours from work. I thought this would be enough time- squeeze in a workout, relax, eat tea early, long bath- evening all planned!

I was due to leave at 3pm and told everyone that I would def be leaving at this time. At 2.55pm someone approaches my desk and asks for a piece of work that she needs desperately!! It's not even my piece of work but something she should have done. Now I manage a team very effectively- my time management of my OWN time isn't so great but I'm getting better. I told her that I was going at 3pm- I had also told her this at 11am & 2pm but she moaned and pleaded so I stayed later to complete her piece of work. She took a call as she was leaving my desk. I emailed it to her just after 4pm and logged off- when I was leaving the building I saw her talking on her mobile (the same call she started an hour before!) to her friend- discussing her plans for the evening etc!!!!

Now if I had not been feeling so tired and so concerned that I might snap at someone I would've said no and meant it but as I was worried about offending anyone I stayed and completed HER job!!

Wednesday evening was spent mulling over the day and I became angry with her and with myself, by Thursday morning I was fuming! Not a good start to the day so I booked 4 hours off for that afternoon. I was not very nice to be around and I ended up letting someone down cos I had booked the 4 hours off as I felt so irritable!

I thought about it yesterday and realised that even when I am at my most tired and worried that I may offend if I say no- I must say NO!!

If I have booked me time it's cos I need me time so I must take it and not let anything stand in the way

I always tell my team if they need time they take it- I have to listen to my own advice.

I learnt a valuable lesson this week and I definitely wont make the same mistake again

In life there are givers and there are takers, some are both and are well balanced with this, others are just takers. I wont ever stop being a giver but I must learn to balance that with the taking

  
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JHADZHIA 3/12/2010 7:58AM

    Good for you taking the time off. Its unfortunate you were taken advantage of.. I would be fuming too, and likely might have said something, not having much tact. You are going to have to learn to just say 'no'. This will work for you in your road to your new healthy lifestyle as well. Say no to unhealthy snacks, and yes to good ones, etc. You can do it!!

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BEAUTY50 3/12/2010 6:40AM

  I'm a giver too and am learning that I need to give to myself first. It is not a simple task, but I beleive that practice makes perfect. It makes us happy to be there for others, so this is good. What is not good is to forget about our own needs (then we're not so happy).

This person was very rude to you. It seems you've learned the lesson well.

We can do this!

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DTSOBEL 3/12/2010 3:45AM

    Good for you to realize you need me time. As for the other person, I am not so sure I wouldn't have gone off on her. I mean, it was her job and her responsibility. And then because she was able to get you to do it, she was on a personal phone call for an hour? How rude! But as you said, you need to know what YOU need and be kind to yourself.

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My aha moment!

Tuesday, March 09, 2010

Today I thought I would share some of the things I used to say about myself at my biggest and when I finally had my aha moment:

During my ‘fat’ phase (as I like to call it ) I used to make fun of myself before anyone else could. I felt that this would then show them that I can have a laugh at my own expense and I didn’t need others to show me how to mock!

It was my way of getting one in before others made jokes about my size

I used to joke telling people that I worked hard to keep the size I was - all that eating and sitting that I had to do to maintain my huge 345lb size was exhausting.

I also used to tell people I was a size 8, just thick skinned!

My husband said that he liked a woman with a bit of meat on her- my response ‘yeah but not a whole cow attached!’

My dad told me my backside was fat- my response was ‘of course it looks big to you dad, you have double vision!’

My husband has always taken food from my plate (he has an enormous appetite but not a body to match!) so when the waiter/waitress came back to our table it always looked as though the fat woman had bolted her dinner down while her skinny husband was still eating- he got a lot of pitying looks!! My husband hated the way people looked at me, so did I but it still wasn't enough to get rid of the weight

Although I hated being huge I did nothing about it until 2 years ago, I wasted (to me it’s wasted) around 20 years wishing I was slim. I wished to blend in all the time, didn’t want to be noticed but everyone notices the 'fat chick'.

My aha moment came when I was watching the biggest loser, I was munching my way through snack after snack watching these people lose an incredible amount of weight and my husband turned to me and said ' watching these people lose weight while stuffing your face will not get you to target!' I could've cried but instead I turned to him (he was frowning and expecting the tears!) and realised in that sentence he had summed up what was wrong with my diet plans, they were just plans, no action!

He's not known for tact and diplomacy when he's being 'helpful' but that is the most amazing thing he has ever said to me, I tell my friends who say they would not be happy if their husbands said this- but for me it was the turning point in my life and made me realise what I needed to do to achieve my goal

  
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JHADZHIA 3/12/2010 7:54AM

    Sounds like hubby gave you a wake up call! Sometimes, tough love is needed!
It is a struggle when you have a spouse who can fill his face with anything and everything and not gain an ounce (I have a step dad like that), but as long as he is supportive and agrees with the new food and changes you will be needing to make in your diet, you will be okay!
Here is to a new beginning and a new you!

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FUNNINFIT 3/9/2010 7:49AM

    It's nice that he cared enough to say this to you & was supportive of you all those years...have you thought about the underlying reasons for allowing yourself to gain so much in the first place? I'm dealing with them daily & until I 'put them to rest', I know I'll always struggle with food as my 'emotional' crutch...good for you for finally having your 'aha' moment!

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ORIMOVUO2 3/9/2010 5:27AM

    i wouldnt be angry if my husband told me what he told you. its not bad. and basically it did the trick. i'm proud of your weight loss and i hope that one day soon, i'll be sharing my own weight loss story. cheers!

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I did how much??

Monday, March 08, 2010

Last week I had two days off from work, normally I would visit the gym, shop, not worry too much about what I ate and that would be the full extent of my 'fitness' regime

This time I recorded how many mins I spent being active and how many cals I burnt- from Thursday til Sunday I completed 593 fitness mins and burnt 3933 extra cals- that's more than 1lb in weight (it takes 3500 extra cals burnt to lose 1lb). Even taking the food into account I should still lose this week!!

I recorded my food intake and I only ate out once in those 4 days which was a lamb balti! I had only one McFlurry and the rest of my food intake was what I would normally eat. I had so much energy that I could paint, re grout the bathroom, lay new flooring in the bathroom, paint, I even ran to my best friends house and back!! Normally my car takes care of the small journeys as I use the age old excuse that I haven't the time to walk anywhere as it adds x amount of journey time. This time I ran (or jogged as I was slower than I wanted to be!).

I visited friends, babysat, visited family and still had time and energy to do all I set out to do

The only thing I didn't finish was fitting the kitchen but I ran out of time rather than energy!

I ache a bit but it's a proud happy ache! An achievement ache rather than a feeling sorry for myself ache!

I was so proud of myself and I still cannot believe that I did so much is such a small amount of time ( Days used to all roll into one and every day it was I'll do that tomorrow). I woke up in the night so excited and so proud of myself- I had to keep reminding myself what I had done and most of my friends woke up to a text message this morning sent at 2am telling them how I felt!!

To some people this may seem a small accomplishment, and less than they do in the average week, but to me it was a huge milestone.

I can firmly say I have left my 'fat' self behind and that I will never go back to the way I was. Not for anything in the world emoticon

  
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FUNNINFIT 3/8/2010 2:20PM

    Great! It's amazing what we can do when we set our minds to it!

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BANDTEACHER 3/8/2010 10:15AM

    Way to go! It is all the small things that make the milestones worth all of the work, isn't it? Keep up the good work emoticon

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CDJHNSN 3/8/2010 9:08AM

    Congratulations! You have inspired me today!

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CHIPS6246 3/8/2010 8:03AM

    Good Job!

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Where there's a will

Tuesday, March 02, 2010

When I tell people how I lost my first 170lbs I get asked how I did it and I'm so proud of myself that I tell everyone however many people say I make it sound easy

I gave up crisps as I can't limit myself- the cravings are still there so I opt for all or nothing

I gave up chocolate as I used this as a 'chaser' to the crisps- one without the other is not the same!!

I gave up eating takeaways- although I do treat myself to a McD's!!

What I gained though was the following:

I gained my self respect- I didn't like myself before and couldn't look in the mirror

I gained a love of life- I now live instead of just existing

I gained more energy that I have ever had in my life

I gained the attention of others- I was no longer the fat stupid person (people tend to think if you are fat you must be stupid- my IQ is 162 so I'm most def not stupid!)

I gained a far more rewarding and challenging role within my working life- I didn't have the confidence to push for this before

I gained shared interests with my naturally slim husband- although I am fitter than him now!!

I gained the most amazing insite on how to live and love life- to participate and not just spectate.

When I tell people the above they say 'it's easy for you to say but I have x,y and z stopping me'

My response:

I have a full time job, I have children and grandchildren, I carry out voluntary work.

I have 24 hours in the day just like everyone else- how I choose to use those hours is up to me, if I choose the extra hour in bed then I lose that time somewhere else. I don't want to compromise as I've spent over half my life doing this.

I understand that when you have small children you can't just drop everything to exercise and you can't afford to cook separately for yourself so don't!

As it's a life change you shouldn't have to do these things, you should find compromises within your life that mean that you can eat the same as everyone else- just not as much. Exercise can take on any form.

A quick walk in the park, running up and down the stairs. Anything that gets you off the sofa, before you realise your couple of mins a day have mounted up to the full 30!!

I used to loathe exercise, I counted walking to the car in the drive as a full cardio workout! Now even de-icing the car is fat burning to me, think my neighbours think I'm crazy- I de-ice with such vigour you'd think I was a woman possessed!!

The endorphins (feel good factor!) really are released during exercise so you'll find your mood lifted- although laughing while walking along does look as if you may be a little crazy!

It is most def true where there's a will there's a way- sometimes it just takes a while to find it

  
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FUNNINFIT 3/2/2010 10:37AM

    change doesn't come without effort-reward doesn't come without sacrifice...thanks for sharing!
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FITKAT2010 3/2/2010 6:33AM

    You have succeeded grandly at changing the external and achieving outward success.

The true gold ring of success is changing the inward person. That is a lot tougher.

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PAYDAY10 3/2/2010 4:11AM

  You have addressed a lot of good points in this blog. It is great that we can laugh about the things that could pull us down. Laughter seems to pull us back up when we can laugh at ourselves - our mistakes, our accomplishemnts and our failures.

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