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Friday, May 28, 2010

Maybe it was because I was hungry.
Maybe it was because I was tired.
Maybe it was because I started delving into some rough stuff with my therapist that I'm not quite sure how to process yet.
Maybe it was because I thought I deserved it.
Maybe it was because it was there and it was seemingly healthy.
Maybe it was because I hadn't had enough calories during the day.
Maybe it was because I burned a huge number of calories the night before and I needed an extra boost.
Maybe it was because of TOM.
Maybe it was because my body needed more fiber.
Maybe it was because I haven't really talked to my boyfriend all week, and he's moving to Germany at the end of the summer, and that date is creeping up on us so fast, and I don't want him to leave because I'm scared of being single again.
Maybe it was because I was in front of the television.
Maybe it was because I had planned for it and there was no talking myself out of it.
Maybe it was because my friend at work - the one who just hit goal - wore that awesome dress that I am so jealous of again and I wish I could be that skinny.
Maybe it was because I wasn't prepped for a proper dinner.
Maybe it was because the weather is changing and it was too hot to cook.
Maybe it was because laundry was piled up, and the kitchen is a mess and my couch looked too comfortable.
Maybe it was because the flamboyantly gay teenager on the bus who has so many issues of his own that I cannot help him with called me Miss Piggy very loudly to draw attention to himself because that's what HE needed.
Maybe it was because I really want some new sandals and summer clothes, but I'm too short on cash to buy them for myself right now.
Maybe it was because I'm nervous about my job and about having to find a new one soon.
Maybe it was because my show is ending this weekend and I'm going to have to start planning for a more active social life over the summer which I hate having to do.
Maybe it was because I needed a friend and I don't seem to have many.
Maybe it was because I'm worried about my cat who seems to be licking all of his hair off his entire body.
Maybe it was because it tasted SO GOOD.
Maybe it was the wine.

Whatever the reason, I binged last night. For the first time in a while. And now that I write all of this out, I realize I had damn good reasons to binge, and it's truly amazing that I don't do it more often any more. I haven't felt the need to. But very obviously, the tendency isn't gone yet. I did some damage to a bowl of homemade guacamole (not totally evil since I made it so I know what was in it), half a bag of tortilla chips and a glass of wine. But I stopped. After 1436 calories, I stopped. I was full. I could have had another glass of wine, but I didn't need to - by that time, my head had cleared and I was able, once again, to reason with myself. I went to the fridge and got myself a glass of water, and then another, and then put away the chips and the guacamole and the wine.

The psychology of a binge is a really interesting thing. For me, it starts really early in the day before I even recognize it. Then I spend some time during the day thinking about it and starting to crave certain things (I have very specific binges and they can involve just about ANY kind of food, so nothing is really safe in my house. Something that I've never had a problem with in the past can turn into a binge food really easily with me). By the time I'm on my way home, it's a fully-fledged plan, I've made up my mind that I'm doing it, and I've lost the ability to reason with myself before I even step foot in the kitchen. Most often I will have stopped off at a store to pick up something (or two or three things) on the way - everything I buy is subject to "binge haze" so usually I will end up with things that I would never typically buy. I can't think straight or even hear myself talking until the binge is over. You take the right combination of triggers and a lack of something specific planned for dinner and WHAM, it happens.

All in all - I didn't fare too horribly. I was 500 calories over for the day, way high on my sodium, fiber and carbs - but within range for everything else. Since it was the day after my weigh-in, chances are it won't affect the next one since I have lots of exercise planned over the next week. I woke up feeling like I knew I would - dehydrated, tired and bloated. So I've already consumed 8 glasses of water today and will likely get in a few more to replenish what I lost and to flush out all the salt. I'm not sad, or depressed, or even feeling all that guilty about it - I'm just moving on.

Binges are bound to happen in this journey. I am a recovering food addict. It's an addiction that unlike others you can't go 'cold turkey' with. As things surface in my therapy, so do the reasons why I eat and why I need food so desperately. The feelings that come with learning about these issues are not often emotions that we want to deal with - so we cover them with food. When you're learning how to 'break up' with food, it can be a tough road - and sometimes you just need a good, long, make-out session with an ex-lover (why is ice cream so damn sexy?).

But the binge has taught me what it needed to this time. Now I can move forward with my newly gained knowledge and continue to live my normal, healthy, active life. Binges will surely happen again in the future, but it's how I'm dealing with them now that is different. Drinking my water, planning my activity and learning that food should always be enjoyed, but should never be a bandage for hurt feelings, or deep, down emotions that should have been felt a long time ago.

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TEENY_BIKINI 6/2/2010 1:42PM

    Thank you for sharing your feelings honestly. I have never really deconstructed my binges so it is very enlightening.

I think sometimes the best thing to do is acknowledge the behavior and learn from it.

I think you have done exactly that and I applaud you. You rock!!!

Battle on, gorgeous.


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MIYAVIMIYABI 6/2/2010 1:20AM

    Omgawd. I love you so much. That's EXACTLY what happens to me every time I've binged previously.
Damn emotional triggers and repressed feelings. (=___=)
I'm so proud that you stopped though!
You're right food should be savored and enjoyed not used as a response to stress and emotions.
I'm working towards liking food because it's food, not because it's there to comfort me.
I'm glad I read your blog entry.

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RABIDHAMSTER87 5/29/2010 9:22PM

    First, in response to your list: emoticon I've been reading quite a few blogs on spark today and it makes me feel better to realize I'm not alone in this and certainly not the only person who has bad days, so thank you for your blog!

Now, in response to your analyzation and reaction to the binge: Wow! What a mature and intelligent response! :) I really admire how you handled it and it's excellent that you can identify a binge... Maybe someday you'll be able to head it off or maybe sometimes you already are!

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SANDYBRUNO 5/29/2010 8:48PM

    Maybe you will locate a Sparkpeople friend who lives close by. Are you on any teams for your area, if not you might want to see if there are some. I have met several area people this way. I'm sorry you had such a rough day. We all binge now and then but it is what you do after the binge that makes or breaks you. The fact that you wrote about it is awesome. It shows you know it is wrong and that you are seeing how they start for you. If you can just put it aside and eat healthy again right away that is the main thing. I'm sure you will do it.

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DIASTER 5/29/2010 7:03PM

  Dear girl you have a lot of friends right here on this site. We are all in this together and we will succeed!!! You are so honest with your blogs and have the words to explain what we are all feeling. It is probably very good that you do not live in Fl. We have the same binge problems and would be bad influences on each other, so now we will just have to keep each of us on track.
Continued good luck.

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RED_WRITINGHOOD 5/28/2010 5:55PM

    You definitely had a lot of great reasons... I'm sorry you were having such a tough day. I wish you all the luck in the world on your journey and I think it is wonderful that you recognized all your triggers. Keep on going girl! You rock!

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CHARLENERAE12 5/28/2010 4:00PM

    Awesome blog! My binges seem to happen the same way (though for very different reasons). Overeating is going to happen to nearly all of us. We are on this site for a reason, but it's this outlet that helps us get through it, and you are using it to the fullest. Kudos to you. You ate it, you owned it, you're moving on. You are going to be just fine.

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WYND10 5/28/2010 4:00PM


You're amazing. And so brave. Thank you for posting this it resonated. I wish I lived closer to you, cause girl, we would so have a great summer.

And if you need a friend, I can give you my phone number. I know it's not the same as hanging with a girlfriend in person, but geography conspires against me it would seem.

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PWINCESSEMILY 5/28/2010 3:16PM

    Thank you for your blog. Your explanation of how your binge starts earlier in the day and progresses sounds very familiar to me. It has helped me to understand how my head works in those situations.

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KRYSTAL38GARCIA 5/28/2010 3:13PM

    oh don't i know it..... binge's are def planned for the most part! I'm easily swayed with tv ads of food, or even someone mentioning something like turkey was in your now i want turkey. somethings wrong with me, i know it. I'm aware. I just have to control. And you didnt do so bad. When I first saw old habits die hard, I thought you were going to write about cake, and danish's and cinnamon rolls or doughnuts...really tortilla chips arent too bad for you...

Good luck on your journey!

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SUELEE5 5/28/2010 3:11PM

    I have the same excuses tucked away in a book to pull out when I need then but I know none of them are good ones just excuses. Dealing with feeling is hard. You are worth the effort you put into this and believe in yourself. emoticon

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Radio Silence

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Wow. I haven't blogged in a week. To be honest, I haven't really had all that much to say. I've been coming to terms with my last blog and letting the idea of becoming an "athlete" truly sink in. I like it. I'm game for it. I'm making plans to exercise more and start my training.

TOM's also in town this week and I think my uterus is trying to kill me. Seriously, it hurts. So I'm looking forward to the pool tonight to work through some of the cramping.

I have one more weekend of shows before I am restored to a normal weekend schedule. It's bittersweet. I'm going to miss this cast and this show - I've learned so much, felt so much, become so much more aware of myself and my issues during this show. And, I've managed to maintain a schedule that allows time for me AND the show during this whole process - something that I've never done before. Usually the show takes over my life - I eat fast food, sleep whenever possible, don't even think about exercising, and continually promise that I'll get healthy again once the show is over. But the truth of the matter is that when the show IS over, I usually end up giving myself a couple weeks "off" because "I deserve it", "I've worked so hard", "I need a rest" and then that two weeks turns into a month, then into two months, and before I know it I'm working on another show and treating myself poorly again "out of necessity". Not an excuse anymore. I have realized that the better I treat myself, the more I am able to do and the more I get out of what I'm doing. I'm more prepared to be active and don't resent people asking me to do things because I'm physically too tired to move my large behind. Now I'm ready for the show to be over so that I can fit in more exercise. Use the weekend hours that I've spent in a dark theatre to get out and enjoy the beautiful weather, dust of Roxie (my pink easy-rider bike), and plan a yard sale (I desperately need to get rid of some junk)!

Otherwise, besides a short visit from my parents over the weekend, I've spent this week like I'm assuming a lot of Americans spent the week - saying goodbye to the season of television that has consumed the better part of my weekday evenings since my rehearsals ended. Oh LOST - how I shall miss you. Biggest Loser, Dancing With The Stars, Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice, Castle, V, Flash Forward - the list goes on and on and on...

Seriously? Almost 10 shows (most of which are an hour or more in length) I'm keeping up with every week on top of my already insanely busy schedule. It's kind of disgusting to list them all out. But I'll be perfectly honest - I. LOVE. TELEVISION. It's the perfect relationship. When I want to laugh, it makes me laugh. When I want to cry, a drama is as close as the click of a button. When I want company, it's always there. When I want to fall in love, I have fallen in love with Rick and Jack and Sawyer and McDreamy. I've tried to break up with television before - it didn't last long. The people on the screen are my friends, my entertainment, and seem to know just what I need after a long day of work. I think at times I have a more meaningful relationship with my t.v. than I do with my boyfriend.

But I'm on Week 5 of my Healthy Diet Habits schedule "Eating With a Purpose" which involves cutting out distracted eating. While I have been working on doing this since before I started SparkPeople and have gotten pretty good at only eating when I'm hungry, one of the weekly suggestions is refraining from eating in front of the television. I tried this a few months back at the suggestion of my nutritionist. I did it for about a week and then couldn't handle it anymore. It was too quiet. To unnerving. Too lonely. I needed to eat with my friends - and they were in the living room. So back to eating in front of the television I go. I have made rules with myself that I only eat things in front of the television that have been properly measured out. I have to check in with myself during each commercial break to make sure I've had enough, and any walking back and forth to the fridge while watching t.v. is only to get more water. So far it's been working - but I know this is a habit that I am going to have to break eventually. And if I want the SparkPoints this week for that step of the process (and I do love my SparkPoints), I have to do it - consistently. And there is no better time now that all the shows are over to break myself of this habit - *insert audible whine here*.

I always eat with distraction. Whether I'm eating on the run, in front of my computer at work, at the theatre before a show, or out with friends, sitting down to a meal by myself, in my kitchen, at the table is really unheard of. My kitchen table is a dumping ground for my purse, old magazines, mail coupons, dirty dishes, food prep and more often than I'd like to admit, my cat's bottom - bad kitty. I've tried the pretty center-piece, the scented candle, keeping it cleared off - it's still not a place I like to eat.

Under all of this is a larger issue with social eating and a lack of friends that I haven't fully worked through yet, but for the time being, t.v. is filling the void and I'm just not so sure I can give it up that easily.

So - since I'm working on doing everything in moderation - I'm going to consciously work towards curbing my appetite for television while we're in the low season...I'm still woefully addicted to The Bachelorette so Monday nights will still need to include a couple hours of smut - but only after my weekly 2.5 mile walk home from work. It's a good payoff. But for the rest of the week, I'm really going to try not to rush to catch up on all the seasons I've missed on Netflix and try to be anywhere BUT in my living room for the summer.

Maybe if I sell my couch in the yard sale it will stop calling to me!

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SANDYBRUNO 5/27/2010 11:59PM

    I hope you get to feeling better. Have you tried using a radio when you eat? I love Grey's Anatomy and Private Practice too. I too love Dr. McDreamy. How come real life doctors don't look the hot? I also love Desparate Housewives, Brothers and Sisters and CSI Miami and New York.

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WYND10 5/27/2010 9:50AM

    I am sorry your in pain, I hope it passes as quickly as possible :(. I missed your blog, but hey, processing the idea of becoming an athlete, AWESOME. I hope to get that idea in my head at some point, now I still scoff at it.

I too love my TV. I watch way too much, but having the treadmill there helps....ya know when I actually get on it...

Ps. Grey's? I mean seriously was that not one of the best finales ever??????

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KITHKINCAID 5/26/2010 6:02PM

    I would love some exercise equipment, but I live in a 300 sq. ft.'s tiny. So no room :( Besides, I wouldn't use it. I far much prefer to walk outside. Less hamster-on-a-wheel feeling.

I'm not giving up t.v. But I am going to try to cut back a bit. It's too nice outside and I need some other hobbies! :)

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DIASTER 5/26/2010 5:54PM

  OK. Since it would be unrealistic to give up tv how about investing in a treadmil? Honest if you set it up in front of the tv and make yourself walk during only one program, that equals an hour of walking and if you use a pedometer it equals about 3000 steps. It really helps rev up your metabolism especially after dinner.

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SHMILY928 5/26/2010 4:10PM

    WOW! You seem to have a plan. One of the things that I'm really focusing on is changes that I can live with FOREVER. If the television is your happy spot at the end of the day I wouldn't deny myself entirely, but I do think trying to cut back a bit is a good idea. Maybe you can take yourself from 10 shows that you follow to 8 and not allow yourself to pick up any new ones. I also think making an effort to be aware of what you're eating when you're watching tv is a great way to make a change you can live with without making yourself miserable. You have some great goals. Keep up the good work.


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Swim. Bike. Run.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

I just had a CRAZY idea. I mean seriously, I think someone might have to lock me in a loony-bin.

I had a GREAT swim tonight - and quite possibly it is the reason for this crazy thinking I've been doing. I have a sneaking suspicion that I finally understand what "exercise euphoria" feels like... and I'm not sure that I like it - haha. But I'm darn well posting this as proof of this feeling before it goes away and I can deny it!

So I'm sitting on the bus on the way home, and I'm thinking to myself - I want to do a triathlon.

WHAT??? A Capital "T" Triathlon.

Now I'm not talking about doing this tomorrow - but maybe once I'm at goal. I've already decided that my goal reward is going to be a trip to Hawaii. But now I'm thinking that a REALLY good reason to go to Hawaii once I hit goal will be to do a triathlon. With my brother. Yeah - I'm going to drag other people into this CRAZY idea too. Stay out of my path - I might make you train with me.

I have NEVER thought like this before. Ever.

In previous weight loss efforts (let's be honest and call them what they were - diets), my only goals were tinier clothing, a smaller behind, and hotter dates. But the thought of being a Capital "A" Athlete never crossed my mind. Exercise wasn't really even part of the equation other than the painful, agonizing thing I had to do to get skinny. But every time I get in that pool, and every time I rock out a swim, and FEEL my muscles working and stretching and getting stronger, I feel like an athlete - and that feels good. In all the things that I have been called in my life - athlete has never been one of them. And I want that to change!

Oh Lord do I have my work cut out for me! The shortest triathlon involves a 750 metre swim, 20K bike ride and 5K run. I have no idea how many metres I swim a night - but I doubt it's 750 and currently I spend an hour doing it. I have a bike. I've ridden it once this year. It's a far cry from a street bike - a pink Schwinn Cruiser that I call "Roxy". Roxy's only ever seen about 5 miles her whole life. And as far as the running is concerned - eesh. I walk home once a week - 2.5 miles. But the thought of running that distance scares the crap out of me.

But whatever drug was in that chlorine water tonight is making me feel that no matter how scared I might be of the Swim, Bike, Run routine - I can do it. I can do any darn thing I set my mind to. Anything. Throw it at me.

Ask me about this tomorrow and I won't know what you're talking about.

I know, physically, I won't be able to do this until I shed at least 100 pounds, so the goal is a distant one. But it doesn't mean I can't start training now. Swim. Bike. Run. Individually, I can do all of those things. I'll worry about putting them together later.

I guess I better tell my brother what I'm signing him up for!

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SPUNKYDUCKY 5/26/2010 8:09PM

    Awesome! I signed up for my first triathalong last week (Aug 28th!!) I highly recommend the book Slow fat triathlete, which talks about how to get ready for a triathlon before reaching goal. I finally got my first 5K done, so this is the next step for me. Congratulations on beginning the contemplation process, changing your thoughts is an incredible and powerful thing!

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TEENY_BIKINI 5/25/2010 3:06PM

    Wow. A triathalon! That is so cool! You can do it.

I love how this journey opens our minds to the possibilities. Really we can do anything and it all starts with opening our minds to the possibilities.

So I say rock on, gorgeous.


You are awesome. Woot!

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WYND10 5/24/2010 10:36AM

    That is a fantastic goal! I think you can absolutely do it, and doing it in Hawaii...that's way AWESOME.

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SANDYBRUNO 5/20/2010 9:57PM

    Good for you. I say go for it. In the Spark Blogs there is an article about someone who started running at close to 300 pounds. If she can do it why not you. She even has 2 teams. You should read this and think about joining her teams. Who knows one day you may be writing your own blogs and starting your own teams. Good Luck!

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JENJESS48 5/20/2010 9:27AM

    Great goal! And great attitude - break it up into little chunks and it's much more manageable. Best of luck!

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KEC1974 5/20/2010 4:45AM

    What an awesome goal! I know you can do it!

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MEHOPEFUL2 5/20/2010 12:33AM

    You should go for it! Start your trainning and set a date for youself. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SCANIAMOM 5/20/2010 12:30AM

    I think this is a great goal and I'm sure you'll be able to get there if you just set your mind to it! Best of luck to you!


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It's Not Easy Being Green

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

It's been a long week. Well - at least it feels that way. I've been a bit more detached from my "Sparkiness" of late - checking my page only a couple times a day, using my nutrition and fitness tracker, checking in on the DGOTD and then signing off.

I guess it's because I've been struggling with being ME over this past week. It happens to the best of us - the attack of the ugly green monster - jealousy. And spending your days wishing you were anyone BUT who you are.

It started last Friday. My office-mate, who has been doing Weight Watchers for the past 6 months, hit her goal. I saw the post on her Facebook page and braced myself - it's all she ever talks about anymore. We used to be buddies - when she was new to the city I took her in and gave her a job and we'd hang out and do dinner and drinks after work, we'd watch Biggest Loser together every Tuesday night and cook each other dinner. Then her best friend from college moved to town and I was out of the picture. We still see each other every day at work, but we don't hang out anymore. She's a lot younger than me and her priorities are different. Plus - I'm her boss, and that just makes things awkward. Then she decided that she wanted to get skinny and started WW. Our office conversations went from dating and gossip to Points and her running schedule. It got boring - fast. I have done the WW thing - about 11 different times. It never worked for me. I know it's a great program for some people, but I can't help thinking that it's just a diet. Who wants to count points for the rest of their lives? But I watched her succeed at this thing that I could never do. Dropping pound after pound. Having everyone at work make a big deal about how great she looked and her success while I struggle along, drudge along, pull myself up by the bootstraps every time I see the same damn numbers on the scale. She's got cute new clothes, and cute new boots, and a cute new haircut. It infuriates me! Why was it so easy for her? She never plateaued, never had any issues along the way, and brought in CUPCAKES to celebrate her victory! CUPCAKES? Who rewards weight loss with junk food?

I ate two of them.

And then I wished I was her. Wished I had it that easy. Wished away my lifetime battle with this "thing" that has seemingly chosen ME to plague. Wished I was anyone else but myself at that particular moment in time. And then wished that those cupcakes made her gain back 10 pounds out of spite. (I didn't say my ugly green monster was friendly - au contraire - it is evil and vindictive and downright nasty).

I took a nice, long walk to try to work off the cupcakes and to attempt a re-balance of myself and my work thus far. I'm doing well, I'm making changes, I'm happy in my skin...but am I really? I ended my walk at the theatre for our weekend of performances. Four shows sitting in a dark booth, doing a thankless job that no one really even knows exists besides the people who work in theatre. I press buttons, I keep the show on time, I reprimand the actors when they get silly. I don't get to stand on stage and sing my heart out and carry on inside-jokes with my cast members back stage and take my bows to thunderous applause when the show is over. Applause. I live for that applause. It's why I got into theatre in the first place. And sure - I get the applause - but indirectly. People applaud when they love the show, and I am a huge part of that, but I'm not standing on the stage to get it. I'm the person at the back of the house that sits behind the audience - out of their field of vision. I wished I were an actor. I wished I were a singer. Wished I was anyone else but myself at that particular moment in time.

Over the weekend I was talking to one of our actors - she's one of those people who everyone loves. She's beautiful, has a great job, is incredibly talented and is engaged to an equally gorgeous, talented, and kind man. She's also Miss Suzie Homemaker - bakes her own bread, does home improvement projects, seems so wholesome and pure. I want to BE HER. So I was talking to her before our show on Sunday, sharing with her that I had channeled my "inner her" and baked bread that morning (and it is YUMMY bread). She told me about this blog that she's addicted to and said I should check it out for more yummy recipes and home improvement advice. I went home and Googled it immediately. And given my current state of "green" it was probably the biggest mistake I could have made. My foray into "The Pioneer Woman" involved a whole day (until 2:30am last night) reading her blogs about how she met and married her dream guy, lives on a gorgeous ranch in Oklahoma, has 4 beautiful children and a perfect dog, and just did a book tour for her first New York Times Bestseller cookbook. Ugh. If I was green before, by the time I made it through that I was reeking of pungent, fluorescent, emerald slime. I wished I was her. I wished for that perfect life. I wished I was younger. I wished for a do-over. Wished I was anyone else but myself at that particular moment in time.

Did I mention that all three of these women are redheads? I wished for red hair, and then went to bed and dreamed of cupcakes, and horses and being so fat I couldn't get out of bed.

I'm suffocating in jealousy right now.

So to appease the ugly green monster, just for 3 seconds, I'm gonna have at it - WHY MEEEEEEEEE????? *Kicks, stomps, jumps up and down screaming in frustration* AHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

OK. That's over. I'm done now. Picking myself up by my bootstraps and moving on. I've spent so much time over the past week wishing I was someone else, I've lost sight of me and who I am and WHERE I am right now. I'm reclaiming my "Sparkiness" and I'll be damned if I'm not going to be excited about this and for the future that I WILL HAVE. I have today. I have tomorrow. And every day after that will be better than the one before. Everyone is fighting their own battles. So many things come easily to me that other people struggle with. Sure I'm angry that my battle is out there for the world to see...on my thighs, but I'd rather be me than any of those women on a good day. 90% of the time. And as for the other 10% - I'm working on it.

When I was 10 years old I was selected to sing at the Grade 8 commencement ceremonies at my school. My song:

If I were a bird, I could fly
High as the stars in the sky
But a bird I'll never be
So I'm happy, you see
Just being me, being me

Being me, Being free
Being all I can be
I can pass every test
Cause I'll give it my best
Just being me, being me

If I were a bell, I could chime
Ring-ding-a-ling, all the time
But a bell I'll never be
So I'm happy, you see
Just being me, being me

I am a light, I can shine
The light of the world, I can shine
Jesus love shines through me
And I'm happy, you see
Just being me, being me

I can always be myself
Better than anybody else
Just being me
Being me
Being free
Being all I can be
I can pass every test
Cause I'll give it my best
Just being me, being me
I can always be myself
Better than anybody else
Just being me
Being me

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DIASTER 5/19/2010 3:36PM

  Well I just ate an entire bag of chocolate covered raisins ick, and due to allergies did not even taste them, see annoyance is rampant today. Just wanted you to know we went to see riverdance lately and ended up fascinated with the two people doing what you do, how you manage all those buttons and slides at just the right time,what a interesting job you have although your schedule would drive me right to the nearest fast food place. You haven't mentioned swimming lately, are you still going. You are young yet and have your whole life ahead, if these are your dreams keep on following them at your own pace, you will get there!

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KEC1974 5/19/2010 5:55AM

    My inner self is a redhead. Sometimes, I think my authentic self is a redhead. But, I've stopped coloring my hair, so now my outer self is mostly silver (except for the ends which are still light brown; the two-tone look is just awesome, let me tell you :(, but temporary).
I understand the green monster, too, but I try to remember (like Newtay below) that we only see what other people want us to see. Perception is everything. Everyone has baggage and issues and wishes to be other than what they are. Sometimes I forget that and I get wrapped up in wanting what others have instead of appreciating what I've got. But then, I bounce back and know how fortunate I am.
You're dealing with your green monster effectively, thinking and reflecting on your choices and motivations. (and I, for one, am so glad that you are sharing them with all of us)
WYND10, let me know when you find that EASY button. I'd like one, too. :)
And yeah, celebrating a weight loss goal with cupcakes?! What's up with that!? :)

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SANDYBRUNO 5/18/2010 11:07PM

    Many of us occassionally have that ugly green monster. All you can do is move on. I think you are a beautiful person. I used to envy a co-worker who lost a lot of weight and was very outgoing with a beautiful voice. I can't carry a tune. I still have my weight to lose and my out of tone voice but I have learned to move on for now until the monster comes along again. Our turn will come too. We are learning patience.

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KITHKINCAID 5/18/2010 3:02PM

    You gals are amazing. Thank you so much for "changing my colour"! And MEL - I hear ya! I flunked out of my university-level Acting 101 class because I couldn't "be" in my body. That's what drove me to management in the first place. Up until that point I was going to be a musical theatre actress. Alas... I do like what I've made for myself regardless. I still work in a profession I adore. But someday I WILL get back ON the stage, not behind it.

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MEL_UNRAU 5/18/2010 2:45PM

    Why did I lose weight? Because I wanted to be your actress friend.

Seriously... 100% I feel your pain. I crave it all too. I got serious about losing weight because I wanted to get back into theater. No one was going to give the leading role to a blob. No one was going to look at me twice. So, I started losing weight, enrolled in a conservatory program... and discovered that I have no idea how to "BE" in this new body... failed my first class, because I am too uptight now. I had to take an Alexander class... and as that class draws to a close, my instructor tells me, "You should probably take this again over the summer." Yeah... dreams meet window. Applause? probably never going to happen... because I have spent so much time concerned with what I look like now, I don't know how to be anymore. I wonder if I will ever learn to like this body and to be successful in it... (and my hair? box. seriously. I think god (or God, whichever) was playing a cosmic joke on me-- he made me blonde... )

*green monster* yeah... I feel ya!


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KARVY09 5/18/2010 2:42PM

    We all get green sometimes. I bet all those redheads wished they had blonde or black or brown hair too!

You have so many excellent qualities too that maybe these other women don't... Sense for one... Who celebrates weight loss with CUPCAKES??! Indeed. That is one of the most retarded things I've ever heard of. But I digress. Make your next blog about all of those great qualities.

And you can do this. You can work at a sustainable lifestyle change that doesn't end in cupcakes. It doesn't end at all.

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WYND10 5/18/2010 2:34PM

    I just want you to know, I think you're pretty damn amazing, and that's just knowing you through your blogs. So know, that while you may be wishing you were her, someone might also be wishing they were you :). Also know, you aren't alone with your evil green friend. We've all got that, and there are certainly days where I wished things were easier in the weight-loss game. Many a day I spent/spend shaking my fist at the sky and looking around my apartment for this elusive easy button. Pesky easy button!! ;)

It's going to be ok, you're already doing the right thing, brushing it off and moving forward. You've got this. Slow and steady, doing it the right way this time. You've totally got this.

Now, let's do this thing!!! *hooorah!*

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TAYRAE323 5/18/2010 2:31PM

    I think it is only natural to have a little green monster, and by the way your thinks just like mine does :) I think that you will get your sparkiness back and I don't think any one has a perfect fairytale life like the women from the blog. I guaruntee she has skeletons or hardships in her past and just writes all the pretty things. I think it is much better to read blogs about real life and feelings which is why I just loved your! You will get to where you want to be and it will be more of an accomplishment from all the struggles. emoticon

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Boring Weight Loss... Learning to Embrace the Plateau and Other Small Hang-ups

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

I've been working through the idea for this blog for a few weeks now. This morning I am mad at the scale again, so I think it's time to get this out of my head and down somewhere that I can see it.

Only ten pounds into my journey and I have already hit a plateau. I knew it was going to happen, but so soon? It's frustrating to say the least, but I've been trying this new mantra on for size, and it seems to be helping with the disdain I have for those 3 ugly numbers on the scale...3-0-0.

A few weeks back in one of my regular therapy sessions, I was spouting about the new-found (at that time) SparkPeople, the amazing tools and the fact that I had already dropped a handful of pounds. I'll be honest, I was looking for a "Good for you!", "Great job!" or "Way to go!" from my therapist. I didn't get one. Instead, she looked me straight in the eye and said - "I want you to have a boring weight loss".

At first I kind of laughed it off. I understand that this is a forever journey. I understand that what I'm doing is by no means glamourous. I get that it's about the little things. But do I REALLY get that it's all those things? Like I said - this comment has stuck with me for almost a month now and over the past month it has grown to become a fully fledged thing that I am now living with and is changing the way I am looking at what I am REALLY doing here.

My weight loss is NOT an event. Events pass. Everyone makes a big deal about events, and when they're over, people pack up and go home. I've treated weight loss like that in the past. The next big thing. You graduate school, you get married, you lose 100 pounds. Here comes Miss Jenn - look at her now. And then when I'm done with the "event" - I quit. I pack up and pack it back on.

When you lose weight too fast, it's easier to look at it like an event: that project you completed last summer; the time so-and-so got skinny. If you can package it in terms like that - it's an event, and you run the risk of being able to pack it up and put it away.

Boring weight loss happens so slowly and over such a long period of time, it can't be quantified by anyone but the person doing it. There's no big reveal, no "Ta Da!" moment. Most of the people in your life don't even realize it's happening. It's just you, and your life and your new way of living healthfully. And it's NOT easy - especially for those of us who love being in the spotlight. But learning how to separate a need for attention from my weight has been a big, bad lesson that is only now just coming about.

A plateau is just your body's natural way of letting your brain catch up. You might think that your head is in the game since you're doing so much planning and counting and tracking and thinking about weight loss. But when weight loss slows down, it isn't always because our tracking and counting and planning is off. Perhaps it is because psychologically, we're not ready to be another 10 pounds lighter.

What does being 10 pounds lighter actually mean to a person? 10 pounds can mean a new clothing size. 10 pounds can mean a loss of inches. 10 pounds can mean lower blood pressure, and better lung capacity, and more energy, and less mindless eating. 10 pounds can mean the difference between being morbidly obese and just obese. 10 pounds can mean that other people might notice that you're shrinking, and maybe you're not ready to let other people in to your personal business just yet? Maybe it's just time to settle into that 10 pound weight loss and just "be" 300 for a little while. Live in 300, breathe in 300, stretch through it, roll it around on your tongue and check in with how it really makes you feel, right now. And then once you're mentally caught up to your weight loss, you'll be ready for the next 10, 20, 50, 100.

So I'm embracing my plateau. I'm having a BORING weight loss. It doesn't mean that I'm quitting. I'm just living - and tracking, and planning, and exercising, and counting - the same way I have been for almost a month now. Because wishing me a boring weight loss wasn't the only thing my therapist said to me that day. She also shared with me her real wish for me: a wish for a life that is so much bigger, and fuller, and more complete, and more grand than any one weight loss event could possibly give me. Losing 100+ pounds is definitely a big deal, but eventually the congratulations stop, people quit noticing, and life carries on, leaving you with everything you had before, just in a new body. The real gift by the time you get there if you have done it right is the life that comes with it.

I have decided that by the time I get there, it won't be about the weight lost or my small body, but about how much my brain has gained and my HUGE spirit. So bring on a boring weight loss - it's not like changing this quickly is going to happen overnight anyway, so I'm not going to waste my quality time trying - I'm too busy living my life to capacity!

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

KEC1974 5/17/2010 4:03AM

    What a great blog post! I wish you a rich emotional journey paired with a boring weight loss!

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JENJESS48 5/15/2010 1:01PM

    Wow, that's really inspiring - and just what I needed! emoticon

You're doing great!

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KATHRYN1955 5/14/2010 8:24AM

    What a thoughtful, insightful blog!! I am at a bit of a plateau as well, but after reading your blog, I realize that is exactly where I need to be for a while. My brain needs some catching up time with my body. I will still continue with the tracking and exercise, but will concentrate on other things as well.
I have added you as a friend.
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TALLYCAT13 5/13/2010 12:47PM

    This was fantastic, and THANK YOU for writing it. It is a beautiful reminder for all of us:)

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WYND10 5/13/2010 11:29AM

    Great blog! I am all about boring, life with provide enough drama on it's own, my healthy lifestyle can absolutely be boring!

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YIYEHTOV 5/13/2010 11:15AM

    Wow, great blog entry!

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SANDYBRUNO 5/12/2010 10:16PM

    Thank you. I have been at a plateu too and I like your way of looking at it better. Thank you for the day brightener.

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KELSCATT 5/12/2010 9:52PM

    amazing blog..
Cheers to a Boring weight loss, because you are so right on!
when its over, we need to carry on with our healthy torch... it never stops, but the compliments, the noticiing will, and we are still left with ourselves

thanks for putting your thoughts into words :)

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JESSIEHESSIE 5/12/2010 7:14PM

    positively have a wonderful attitude and it is going to take you far! thank you for this amazing insight!

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TEENY_BIKINI 5/12/2010 7:06PM

    What a beautiful blog. I am with you and we will do this. Boring or not :)

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We can and will do this!! Woot!

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DOXEYLOVERX2 5/12/2010 5:19PM

    I love your BLOG!! Wonderful way to view this journey we are on. We do get caught up on the wrong things...good luck!!



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