Friday, January 20, 2012
Today I'm feeling pretty crummy due to female issues, a cold I caught from my daughter, etc. I literally feel like I have zero energy, but still have to get the house straightened up for my MIL's visit tomorrow morning, take the kids to a birthday party, etc.
All I want to do is just fall into bed and stay there all weekend. I managed to get the pantry and cabinets straightened out by late yesterday afternoon thank goodness and have about 9 bags of items to give to my MIL and other family members.
The kids had P.E. today so I just got home from that, am in the middle of trying to get everyone's lunch together etc. before heading out again. I guess mom's and dad's don't get a chance to get sick or if they are, they don't get to relax when they're sick, LOL.
To make it more stressful, I'm having to type this on my son's computer as ours has bit the dust, the dishwasher is acting up, etc. It just rains when it pours, LOL.
Thursday, January 19, 2012
Thanks to all for the positive and funny comments regarding my upcoming (and dreaded) visit from my nutty MIL, LOL! I appreciate it very much.
To get off my negative post yesterday and get a more on a positive thing going on, I am still decluttering and organizing my kitchen cabinets and small pantry. My pantry is a slanted small space under my staircase that we have fitted with some store-bought shelves to keep my awesome grocery store buys in.
Our kitchen was remodeled years ago (I insisted as the kitchen was the most ridiculous room in the house the way it was built) and I made sure that our cabinets went all the way to the ceiling for extra space due to our home and all rooms being so small.
It's a challenge to organize my house as there is limited space even for organizing items (crates, containers, etc.) so I have to be extremely organized or things are lost or there simply is no room for everything.
I literally have taken all contents out of my kitchen cabinets this week and made sure that all similar things are put together and all items are numbered (not literally everything in my cabinets, but most things) with what needs to be used first so that those that expire sooner will get used sooner.
It also lets me get a good eye view of what I need to stock up on the next time my store has super doubles or what I don't need to buy. If I had a spacious, wide pantry it would be much easier to see at a glance what I have, but as it is, I have to do it the hard, exhausting way from time to time.
I'm also pulling out lots of items to give my sister in law and mother in law when they come to visit this Saturday to share with them and all the other family members of my husband.
Yesterday in the midst of all this going on, as well as homeschooling the kids, cleaning the house, handling the homeschool group issues, organizing all this crazy chaos, I managed to try a new soup recipe for the family that used up some of the surplus items I have in my cabinets. It was a creamy tomato parmesan soup recipe that I found online that I put in my crock pot. I used fat-free evaporated milk (which I have tons of) instead of fattening cream to save unneeded calories for my family.
Of course my daughter wouldn't touch it since she won't eat tomatoes of any kind (except for pizza) so I found a hidden item in my cabinets for her and she was happy too.
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Well who called me yesterday to say she was coming to visit Saturday, but my MIL? LOL I have to always get my tough wall up when she has anything to do with us since she is always making very derogatory comments to me and my husband (she does the same thing with his sibling's wives/husbands) and as a result, no one wants to be around her.
I'm sure I'll get insulted 100 or more times while she's here about every possible thing she can come up with, but at least I know what to expect because she's very predictable, LOL!
I did have sweet revenge when she asked me what size jeans I wore on the phone yesterday. Really, you're asking me a personal question like that? I asked her why she wanted to know and she said because she had some size 10 jeans that were too small for her. This is the same woman who insulted me greatly when I was overweight and she had lost a little bit of weight and made sure that I knew I was overweight (as if I didn't realize that already). She and her sister ganged up on me and her sister crowed forever about how much weight my MIL had lost and how small she was and of course they commented about how much I had gained. I wasn't jealous that she lost weight, I was happy for her because of her age and there are always things you have to worry about (diabetes, etc.) when you're overweight, but I didn't appreciate how hateful they were to me putting me down because I was overweight.
When I lost weight and got to my goal weight (we don't see each other that often because they live in another state) I never mentioned that I was losing weight or had lost weight when she insulted my weight over the phone and made ugly comments about it. I just let it ride since she was coming to visit.
You can imagine the look on her face when she had to eat her words, LOL. She kept insisting that she was smaller than me the entire time she was here(what?????) and that the clothes that were a size or two too big for me that I offered to give to her, my SIL, and anyone else in the family that lived in the state they do, were going to fall off her because she was quote "smaller than me". I tried so hard not to laugh because the whole thing was comical as could be. Even her daughter had a hard time keeping a straight face.
Her daughter was the sane one and kept telling her that the clothes I was passing on to them would have to go to someone smaller because they were too LITTLE for my MIL. Seriously, she is so cool (my SIL), I love her to pieces!
Back to what I was discussing, my MIL said that she had some size 10 jeans that were too small for her (what, you mean you actually gained weight like I did years ago???!! How dare you do something as terrible as I did, but of course I never made a snide remark or boasted that I was so much smaller than her now!) and I had to pleasure to finally be able to tell her that HER clothes were too big for me and I wasn't lying like she did nor was I delusional, ROFL.
Why did I get pleasure in that? Not because I'm superior to her because I'm smaller than I was the last time she came up, but because she is so hateful and purposely ugly to me. She intentionally sets out to insult anything about me that she can and always has. She will hit you where she sees any weakness or venerability and can be beyond cruel and does it on purpose.
I don't go out of my way to get revenge and be ugly back to her because I don't want to be like her, but sometimes she just falls into "payback" all on her own doing, LOL.
She loves my children though, so I will say that she is a doting grandmother to them when she visits although she is starting to insult the children as they get older (definitely NOT cool with me). She insults my son's weight now and mentioned that he looked like his cousin who she guessed was around 300 pounds! What??? Seriously??? I just told my son in front of her that his grandmother just told him that he looked like he weighed 300 pounds! How ugly is that when she's no skinny minny herself?
So there's my rant for the month as I know after Saturday I will be highly irritated after she leaves because she will find numerous things to insult about me, the way I raise my children, my lack of a job outside the home, etc. It will all be okay because I don't have to see her often since we live in different states, I know she is dealing with a very negative view of herself, and I don't have to stoop to her level.
I'll just take a big long breath (and maybe a swig of whiskey? ROFL, Just kidding I hate alcohol) and put my big girl panties on and face the negativity that is coming my way Saturday.
To get off that negative rant, I am organizing my terribly disorganized pantry and really got it looking very nice yesterday. I still have lots of organizing to do (remember I have lots of free or cheaply purchased food items that I got at super doubles and double coupon stores) because my space is limited and I have to number all the products so the ones that expire first are used first. All someone has to do is look at the number I wrote on the product with a Sharpie pen to know which to pick next.
I have all the same items put together (vegetables in one area, bbq sauce in another, etc.) and while I'm organizing I'm pulling items to give my MIL, SIL, and any other family members who live in the same state as them to help them out financially.
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
I blog a lot about financial money savings, organizing, etc. because since I hit my goal weight (and below my goal weight that I first chose) last year, bought a new wardrobe, make-up, etc., I don't have as much to focus on and to set goals for.
Of course I need to focus more on exercise this year which I hope to do, but I need something to work harder on and fine tune even more, hence the reason for all my blogs on saving money and organizing.
The kids have been wanting a PS3 game here or there, which if you have one or have looked at prices, you know that they are not cheap. Sure we could buy them used, but I find that Game Stop and places like that charge too much money for used games. As an alternative, I watch prices on Amazon and local sales flyers and found a cool site online that lets you track when Amazon and other stores lower the price on items you want to purchase. Not only that, they also show the history of prices on those items so you know if you are getting a good price on something.
One game that my children wanted was the Harry Potter Lego game (years 5-7 or something like that). Best Buy had it for $29.99 this week, which I discovered was lower in price than any past or current history price at Amazon. My daughter and I had to go out for piano lessons yesterday so we stopped by Wal-Mart and price-matched the game there. I had a few other things to get there so I didn't have to go Best Buy and saved time and money. That particular game was $49.99 at Wal-Mart so it was a savings of $20!!
The kids got money for Christmas so they are splitting the cost between them and they are learning lessons in the process of how to be patient and think through your purchases. $20 here and there adds up to hundreds or thousands eventually.
I had a coupon for 25% off items not on sale and 40% off one item not on sale for Michael's Craft Store so we stopped by there as well (in the same vicinity as Wal-Mart) so my daughter got some containers of acrylic paint there for 33 cents each, ribbon rolls for 33 cents each, and some scrapbook paper that was on sale for 20 cents each. I told her that if she was patient and waited for sales on the items she wanted, she could afford to buy more. I bought her one small item that was not on sale and got 40% off that and she got 25% off a paint palette tray that was originally only 99 cents so 75 cents was better than paying $1 at the Dollar Tree, LOL. (Hey those quarters add up too).
Hopefully these lessons will stick with them and when they are older and out on their own, they will do even better at saving money than their mom, LOL.
My husband and I haven't mentioned paying off our house to anyone (well except for me talking about it on here, but that's it) but his mother called and was telling my husband that one of his brothers and his wife had paid their house off, which of course is super awesome!
My husband told her that we had too and she was so shocked she couldn't talk for a few minutes, LOL. The reason for that she is super critical of me not working outside the home (she makes caustic comments to me often about how she doesn't know how women stay at home all the time and do NOTHING). I've been telling her (and my husband has too) over the years about how I save the money that my husband makes, but she ignores me and acts like I'm lying.
Well, the difference between my husband and I and my BIL & SIL is that their house was much cheaper than ours (not putting them down, just saying that to prove a point of how we have managed to pay off debt by my saving money) and they have no children at home like we do. We have had zero help with our bills like they have had help with and we also homeschool so all our books & educational outlets are paid for out of our pockets.
Again, I'm very proud of my BIL & SIL for paying their house off, that is beyond super awesome, but I think it shocked my MIL because she thinks I do nothing with my time and that my husband does it all and I just am lazy staying at home (she's pretty much said to me many times, LOL).
My husband's other sister and brother are NOT financially responsible and struggle to make ends meet although one has been given a free home for decades since she got married, and another one has been given free land to put his mobile home on and been helped financially many times (as has my SIL) over the decades although they make way more than my husband and I do.
No one has children living at home (we had our children later in life than they did) and all their children are married and on their own.
I'm not trying to be negative towards my in-laws at all, just stating that what my husband's brother's wife (the one who paid their home off) and I do is important and it shows that it's not always what you make, but what you do with what you make.
We have always made less than everyone, still have two kids at home with those expenses that come with having children including paying for braces, etc., have had zero help from relatives (not that we want it or ask for it, because we don't), we have no support at all with emergencies since we live in a different state, and yet we paid our house off 15 years early on one small income completely by ourselves.
I hope it doesn't sound negative what I'm trying to convey and doesn't sound like I'm crowing about our accomplishments, I'm just saying that it is possible to pay for things that are important to you. We don't eat out all the time like they do, we don't take vacations every year, we don't waste a lot of money and try our best to save as much as we can while still enjoying life (hence the game my children bought recently).
My in-laws children are repeating the same patterns as their parents and I don't want my children to be financially ignorant. I want them to know how to save money and buy only the things that are most important to you (on sale of course) and save the rest.
I don't want them to waste their early years of money making on stupid things that you can't see (like eating out, etc.) but of course when they're on their own they have to make their own decisions. Hopefully they will learn from our examples and will remember that mom and dad were able to do things that most thought were impossible since I didn't work outside the home and we did it all without help and without expecting anyone to bail us out.
I think it's so important to teach your children these lessons so that hopefully they don't learn the hard way. I wish I had saved more money than I did when I first started working and can think back on things I purchased decades ago that were stupid as could be, LOL.
What I do is important and I won't let my MIL or anyone else make me feel it isn't. Rock on all stay at home moms (and those that work out of the home as well) and those who teach their children financial responsibility by their actions!
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