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Wk 92 Weigh In - Right Direction

Saturday, January 12, 2013

So this was the week to see if I could get myself moving in the right direction again. I got a good amount of gym time and my diet wasn't horrible, so things were looking pretty good. As it turns out I did get it moving in the right direction, not as far as I'd like of course, but I'm not going to complain!

My one mistake for the week came on Wednesday night. I ended up eating lots of all breast meat chicken nuggets which were of course breaded. Not cheap freezer section nuggets, these were fresh made and warm. If those weren't bad enough I also had 5 "spuds", decent sized potato wedges, breaded and fried. There was a lot of salt in those bad boys and my weight Thursday morning was 2 lbs over what it had been on Wednesday morning!

Luckily, I think I flushed all of the extra water out of my system before this morning and had a decent weight in. Let's get to the numbers:

Weight : 217.2
Lost : 1.4
Total : 100.0

Back to 100 lbs lost total (for the 3rd time!!). So it wasn't a great week, but it was better than a lot of weeks I've had recently and for that I'm thankful.

I hope all of you have had a good weekend so far.

Ken Heaston
Since 1970

  
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FISHERESS68 1/17/2013 11:33PM

    Ken , That is great news. And congrats... I seem to hit plateaus by eating right for a couple weeks in a row. By having a cheat day almost seems to change the schedule and also stops the plateau. That's my thought process anyway. LOL... Happy for your 100 lb loss. Keep up the good work... emoticon

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1DERLAND14 1/15/2013 8:00PM

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I know it has to feel great hitting that 100lb mark again!! You're going in the right direction even with a little indulgence!!! WOO HOO!

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SUGARBABY60 1/14/2013 11:13PM

    Congrats for persevering! You are doing well, keep it up!

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CLPURNELL 1/14/2013 3:23AM

    Awesome job getting back to 100 pounds lost!!! Hoping to have a week like yours this week!!!

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KOOKYKATHIE 1/13/2013 11:20PM

    Ken, sounds like your following a pretty good path right now and getting started on the straight and narrow. emoticon Keep on keeping on emoticon

I'm routing for you and emoticon

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 1/13/2013 6:36PM

    sounds like a GREAT week to me!! I'm still keeping up with my exercise streak, although you have no idea how difficult it was to haul my carcass outta bed this am and do it. but i did..and part of that is due to YOUR inspiring me!! thank you!!

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HORSESHOEHONEY 1/13/2013 12:57PM

    It's hard to get back on track after a break for the holidays, but it looks like you are heading in the right direction. These numbers are great! Nice work. emoticon emoticon

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ALWYS-LKN-UP 1/13/2013 11:32AM

    emoticon Happy New Year & what a great start for you!! :)

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JULIA_211 1/13/2013 7:07AM

    Excellent numbers! emoticon

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MARYDSAN 1/13/2013 5:33AM

    Way to go on your weight loss this week, and arriving for the third time at 100# loss!

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FITMOMINNJ 1/13/2013 5:32AM

    That is awesome. In a perfect world we would NEVER eat too much ,but how you upped your activity and kept going anyway shows why your so successful:-) emoticon

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LISAN0415 1/12/2013 11:39PM

    That's amazing! 100 lbs down- you shjould be sooo proud of yourself!

Keep consistently tracking your food, and you will see more results coming.

when you have a good Food log day, save it so you can repeat it. Weight loss is about 80% the amount of calories we eat!

You can reach your goal and stay there!
Best wishes!
Lisa

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DOVESEYES 1/12/2013 11:35PM

    yes! woo hoo you did it how fabulous 1.4 is huge congrats Ken emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TRYINGTOLOSE64 1/12/2013 9:25PM

    Ahh!! gotta watch that breaded stuff!! Sure to always be loaded with sodium!! Congrats on the weight loss!!

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TEACHFIRST268 1/12/2013 9:24PM

    SWEET! Back to 100! (That amazes me! You rock!) Sounds like a great week, even with the little indulgence. That is why this is a lifestyle. You can have that little 'treat' and keep moving forward. It doesn't ruin everything. It's one little decision as part of 100s of good ones you make all week long. Congrats on a good week. Keep it up!!!

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Wk 91 Weigh In Attack of the New Year

Saturday, January 05, 2013

Hello and welcome to 2013, I hope you all had a new year's celebration that was just right for you, whether it was 'partying hard' or simply relaxing at home with loved ones (or alone even!). My new year's celebration was the same as it has been for 14 years, going solo to a party hosted by my friend and his wife. There was lots of snack foods and of course I enjoyed them :) I also brought and enjoyed some 15 year old single malt Scotch from a small Scottish distillery called Glenmorangie. Good stuff :)

So like a lot of people I snacked on not so good for you foods on new year's eve, then of course there were plenty of snacks for new year's day; sausage cheese balls, chicken livers, doritos, pepsi, chili bean & velveeta dip, cookies, tortilla chips, guacamole... Suffice it to say that I wasn't eating clean on the 1st of January. Of course there were leftovers so I wasn't eating clean on the 2nd either! My weight was up and I had Wed, Thurs, and Fri to get it down for my weigh in on Sat. So plenty of trips to the gym, a little intermittent fasting reduced calories and lots of water is what I used to cut back after a 3 day binge.

Let's look at the numbers:

Weight : 218.6
Gain : .6
Total : 98.6

So I came out of new year's week with a small gain. I know that I said last week that my goal was to be at or below 217.2 by today. What you all didn't know was that I had a fall back goal as well. The fall back goal was to stay below 220 and I did accomplish that one. There will be zero self abuse over this gain, I am proud to have only gained .6 this week after everything I ate! Also, when I said earlier that my weight was up I meant it. On Wed morning I jumped on the scale and it said 227.8! That's 9.8 lbs over the previous Saturday weight!!! Of course there were a lot of salty snacks during my binge so I'm sure there was some water retention, but still, that's a lot of weight to put on in a few days!

So I gained .6 lb for the week, I prefer to look at the 9.2 lbs that I lost from Wednesday to Saturday morning :)

I decided to enjoy myself and indulge this week and I'm glad I did. I ate a lot of bad food but it all tasted good :) Kind of gets it out of my system for a while and now I can concentrate on getting back on track and getting healthier. I hope everyone else had a good week with no regrets and is ready to hop back on the wagon and kick some butt!

Happy 2013, let's make it a good one!

Ken Heaston
Since 1970

  
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ESCHLETZ 1/11/2013 7:21PM

    Great job!!! I like the idea of your back up plan. Something higher to shoot for, and something more realistic to be content with. I think I'm going to try to utilize that for a bit and see how it goes.

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1DERLAND14 1/10/2013 10:05PM

    Great Job on the 9.2!!!!!!!!!!! KEEP PUSHING!!! emoticon emoticon

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AHTRAP 1/10/2013 7:57PM

    I had one of those eye popping three day yo yos a couple of weeks ago. I think a year ago it might have freaked me out a bit, but now? Drink a couple glasses of water, 20 more minutes on the bike, who needs panic?

Here's to you in 2013, Ken, have a great one!

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FISHERESS68 1/8/2013 1:48AM

    Happy New Year Ken !!!!! Thanks for sharing that advise before the holidays. I enjoyed myself with " no regret " . I also enjoyed some spirits as well on New Years, I called it Apple Pie juice. He He He He.... It was good and so were the snacks I ate. But it took the cravings away and now I'm good and ready to work hard. We can do this !!!!!! Tammy






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CLPURNELL 1/7/2013 4:18AM

    Man I know what you mean. I weigh in on Tuesday (will blog) had been posting good daily losses Then well we went out yesterday and the scale did not like me this morning. Have tried to detox most of the day and hoping to still post a decent loss!!. Good job knocking off that 9.2 lbs!!!!

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HORSESHOEHONEY 1/6/2013 11:04PM

    I like the way you think! If you weren't losing weight & getting healthy in a way that allowed you to live your life to the fullest, salty snacks included, then why do it at all. You are doing this for a more enjoyable life, not so you go around feeling deprived all the time. How miserable would that be? I made the choice when I started that I wouldn't say I can't eat that about any food, but I will say I don't eat that. I can eat anything I want to, but I choose whether I do or not. So, good for you for enjoying your New Year celebration! Here's to a great new year! emoticon

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RIBKNIT 1/6/2013 1:16PM

    It's nice to get the holidays behind us, kick guilt to the curb, and concern ourselves with the "now".

Teachfirst, I love that quote!


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DOVESEYES 1/5/2013 7:28PM

    Yes we are all feeling the New Years celebrations but hey as you say onward into the new year with gusto and 11 months to make a difference.

Being alone isn't so bad, sometimes we want company and when we get it we want to be alone, fickle beings that we are.

Hope you have a great week. emoticon

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MARYDSAN 1/5/2013 5:39PM

    Wow, 2 cheat days in a row, and only a .6# gain on weigh in-that is awesome! Have a wonderful 2013! I'm still fighting the Christmas cookie gain-I've lost 3 of 8. And have been working out like a crazy person.

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_BABE_ 1/5/2013 1:27PM

    Apparently beating yourself up doesn't do one bit of good so I think you have something there. It wouldn't have made sense to snack and feel guilty all season long. Now in the next stretch where long weekends are far off in the distance and spring looms we can all get into a sensible routine...NO EXCUSES...until your birthday of course which as you know I declare ( for my own ) a national holiday. emoticon

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TEACHFIRST268 1/5/2013 1:19PM

    Happy New Year to you! And I think I'm going by the same philosophy that you are...the holidays were the holidays. We got it our of our system and are now ready to get back on track. I know I've posted before, but still like the quote (don't know who said it, though) "People worry about what they eat between Thanksgiving and New Year's. Instead, they should worry about what they eat between New Year's and Thanksgiving."
Yep. Makes sense to me!

So...218.6 - there's your new starting point for 2013!

Ready, set, go!

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 1/5/2013 12:53PM

    good for you!! look at the positive!!
As for me..i made a commitment to walk at least a mile a day..so far i'm on track. just about to go do it NOW...
need to get on the scale but when i jumped on day after Christmas i was DOWN 5. YAY ME!! i didnt go overboard but i DID enjoy what i wanted!!
I'm here for ya!!
Holly

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Wk 90 Weigh In Christmas eating

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Hello and good Saturday to you all. This was a rough week, eh? These weeks that involve feasts are feared by all of us who are trying to lose weight and get healthier. We know there's going to be lots of good food and drinks doing their best to tempt us into giving in to their calorie laden siren song.

So I say give in. In the grand scheme of things what's really going to be the damage from enjoying yourself gastronomically for a few days? A bad weigh in? Big deal, odds are that we have all had bad weigh ins during weeks where there is no feasting taking place. So go ahead, give in to the temptation and enjoy the delicacies of the season. That doesn't mean you should give yourself carte blanche to pig out, but enjoy yourself.

That's what I did this week, I enjoyed the Christmas food. Unfortunately I also enjoyed other foods for most of the week as well. I gained this week and I know that if I had been diligent each day, except Christmas, I probably would have posted a small loss. But I didn't and I'm not that concerned about it. I still want to try and stay at or below 217.2 when I weigh in on the 5th of January, but if I don't accomplish that, it won't be the end of the world!

Let's check this week's numbers:

Weight : 218.0
Gain : 1.6
Total : 99.2

So I gained 1.6 lbs, actually I don't think that's too bad considering how much I ate this week. So I won't be beating myself up over this gain. If I were to beat myself up over anything, it would be for not losing more weight in the last month so it would be easier to stay below 217.2!

Well, that's all from me for now. I wish that each and everyone of you have a happy and safe New Year's Eve and that 2013 brings all that you desire.

Ken Heaston
Since 1970

  
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WILDFLOWERMA 1/4/2013 1:43PM

    Ken, you have done amazingly well on this journey. It's great that you pay close attention to the changing trends and make adjustments as needed. I continue to be inspired by you!

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CLPURNELL 1/2/2013 8:23PM

    That is not a bad week at all Ken!!!! Now it's time we get back on it!!! We can get this weight off quick and we will!!! Let's get it Brother!!!

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1DERLAND14 1/2/2013 7:27PM

    A rough week indeed, but I have faith that you'll work it off in no time! Love the positive attitude! That's what keeps us going :) emoticon

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KIYOSHI04 1/2/2013 1:57PM

    awesome!! love the attitude.

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RIBKNIT 1/1/2013 12:20PM

    Sounds like a realistic attitude for this time of year. One day at a time, and we have 365 new ones coming up :)

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KITTY775 1/1/2013 10:38AM

    Yep, life is supposed to be lived and sometimes that means a little indulgence. I indulged over Christmas, too, but the good thing was that tracking to food made me more aware of what I was putting into my mouth and I did better than normal. Sounds like you have a reasonable attitude. emoticon

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 12/30/2012 12:59PM

    I couldnt agree more!!! i say we have to enjoy a little..and as long as we dont continute with it, its fine!
you are doing GREAT!!


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GRANDEFILLE 12/30/2012 9:44AM

    You are doing great! besides twice a year isn't that bad...

Keep going! and have a happy new year

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DOVESEYES 12/29/2012 7:42PM

    Great blog Ken and Happy New Year to you too emoticon

Yes it is not the end of the world. We care about ourselves now and balance is a part of that. If we were too strict , we would be slaves to the food and we are NOT,

NOW WE ARE FREE...

I gained too and had the same opinion before the day came along. I knew I had gained new skills to face the day and enjoyed myself without going mad.

So I feel good about it

thanks for sharing emoticon emoticon

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MARYDSAN 12/29/2012 6:23PM

    Way better than my 8lb gain, and I did not feast-just gave in here and there for the season's snacks. But like you said "Merry Christmas!" I'll be diligent this week when it's all gone.

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TEACHFIRST268 12/29/2012 4:39PM

    I couldn't agree more - I am so done with beating myself up/feeling badly about what I eat, or how I look, or any of that garbage. At this point in my life - I'm done with being so unhappy with myself. Time to celebrate the accomplishments and the positive! That said, not beating ones' self up does not equate to permission to repeat bad choices! So I blew it the last week and a half or so. Fine - it's the holidays! But - what makes the difference between success and failure is picking ourselves up and moving forward with good choices each day rather then get sucked into the old, bad habits and the defeatist all-or-nothing attitude. (I was famous for- I blew it - why bother now? NO MORE!)

Like you said, good thing we don't have much more to worry about until Easter! Hmmm...you've got me thinking...maybe I'll have to set a mini - goal to reach by then.

1.6 gain...that's not bad at all, my friend! Hats off to you! ( I did much worse! )

A happy and healthy new year to you and yours, Ken!

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ALWYS-LKN-UP 12/29/2012 4:36PM

    Nice blog & HAPPY NEW YEAR Ken!! :)

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HORSESHOEHONEY 12/29/2012 3:23PM

    So glad to see you enjoying the holiday, and not letting a couple pounds ruin it for you. Happy New Year!!

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JULIA_211 12/29/2012 3:10PM

    The same to you! January 1rst., will be here very soon, so enjoy what's left of 2012! emoticon emoticon

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Wk 89 Weigh In

Saturday, December 22, 2012

First let me address my poor math skills. Last week I said that I had lost .6 lb, that was not so, I actually lost .4 lb. I knew when I weighed in what it was, I knew when I wrote it down on my calendar what it was, but somehow when I wrote my blog post, I went all stupid and kept writing .6 instead of .4! I have edited last week's post to reflect a more accurate portrait of the actual weigh in.

With that being said, hello and good Saturday to you all. After hitting the gym real hard last week to only lose .4 lb I decided to try a different tactic this week. I only went to the gym twice this week! I tried to control my eating, but I wasn't always on top of it :( Chocolate chip cookies made it into the house... and they had to be destroyed! There were so many cookies, that today, 3 days after they arrived, I'm still trying to destroy them :)

So this week was yet again another disappointment on the scale. Man, I've got to pull it together! In the past I'd have weeks where my diet was good but I wasn't hitting the gym, or I'd be hitting the gym and my diet was all over the place. I was still losing weight, but I was waiting for the perfect storm of diet and gym time to converge in perfect harmony and have a week where I'd lose like 10 lbs and, in a perfect storm world, become amazingly strong, incredibly handsome, completely charismatic and unbelievably wonderful! Buuuuuut, I don't think that's ever going to happen :( The diet and gym getting sorted out and coming together might happen, but the rest of it? Pipe dream at best.

Let's take a look at this week's disappointment. Err, numbers:

Weight : 216.4
Lost : .2
Total : 100.8

Yep, 2/10ths of a pound, .2 lb, less than 1/4 lb. 3.2 ounces to be precise. Shameful, utterly shameful. But you know what? I don't care. It's too close to the end of the year, and overall I've had a pretty good year. I had hoped to go out hitting my goal of 207, but that is not going to happen with just one weigh in left, so oh well :)

My goal for between now and January 5th 2013 is to not go above 217.2 (my 100 lb mark). I figure with Christmas and New year's in the next two weeks, if I can pretty much maintain my weight through the 5th, I will have done pretty well. Of course I will still try to lose weight, but the temptations may be more than I can work off! Like they say, " you can't out exercise your mouth".

In closing, let me wish you all a very merry Christmas and a wonderful new year :)

Ken Heaston
Since 1970

  
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TEACHFIRST268 12/28/2012 6:07PM

    Hey - it's a loss! Wish I could say the same!

And yes, you've had a GREAT year! And here comes another one!

The last few weeks have been tough for most of us. Thank goodness this is just temporary. No one wants to fall back into bad habits. Go back to where we were??? NO WAY! In a way, maybe this is good to relax our standards for a couple weeks - enjoy, indulge. That way we don't feel deprived, yet it is also an eye-opener as to how easily we can lose our way. For me, I think I'll take this time as a bit of a wake up call, or reminder, that I can't continue to sit on my fat a** and get NO exercise, nor can I eat whatever I want - AND feel good...physically, or mentally.

If anything, maybe the little backslide is a good reminder of why it's so important to make the good choices between Christmas and Thanksgiving. If we do - then the bad ones between Thanksgiving and Christmas aren't really that bad.

Happy New Year, Ken! 2013 is going to be great!

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FISHERESS68 12/27/2012 3:56AM

    you look strong, definitly handsome, like a lot of the others are saying congrats on loosing something. Better than gaining...... emoticon

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CLPURNELL 12/26/2012 8:20PM

    To lose anything during this time is awesome man. I would love to see .4 or .2 loss lately. I am sure you will hit your grove again after the holidays.

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MARYDSAN 12/24/2012 6:54AM

    Congratulations on losing this week, albeit small, better than not. I, too, was not able to out exercise my mouth with all the Christmas food around (not home-work!). I had a horrible gain this week, hoping water retention since most of the Christmas tabemono (food) was carbs.

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LOSE2BECOMEMORE 12/23/2012 11:12PM

    You've lost over 100 pounds? WOW!!!!

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_BABE_ 12/23/2012 1:10PM

    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

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RIBKNIT 12/23/2012 12:41PM

    Realistically, simply maintaining the same weight throughout December is a real accomplishment for anybody, including us Sparkpeople types, and here you are actually losing (I don't care how small the amount)!
emoticon and keep up the good work!
Merry Christmas!

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DOVESEYES 12/22/2012 9:34PM

    I'm feeling it ... I stayed the same for three weeks now, tried to adjust everything.

But Christmas is coming, I haven't eaten all the chocolates in the house like I did last year so I figure I'm up on that.

That magic equation is just not showing itself to me. I seem to lose by mid week and then cut back for a good result on Sunday (weigh in day) only to find its gone up again.

Positive thought---weigh myself on wednesdays :) emoticon emoticon

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TRYINGTOLOSE64 12/22/2012 6:48PM

    Congrats on the loss!! Even if it isn't as much as you wanted!! Better a loss then a gain.

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 12/22/2012 6:06PM

    ok so lets make a deal/ Come Jan 5th i'll kick yourbutt if you will kick mine. hows that??

Merry Christmas my friend!!!
Holly

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Wk 88 Weigh In

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Well this week was cold and disappointing.

42-45 degrees at 10:30 when I normally go to the gym, not cold for some people, but really cold for me! I did get to the gym each day (M-F), so that was good, but my weigh in was still disappointing.

Also, I came to the conclusion on Tuesday that I am a square peg in a world of round holes. I don't seem to fit in anywhere. I always feel like a social misfit; no matter how many people I am gathered with, I seem to be the 'odd man out' or the 3rd (5th, 7th, 9th, etc.) wheel. In one social circle, I am odd because I'm not an artist, tattooed, pierced or smoking weed. In another social circle I'm odd because I'm not a techie, not up on all the latest gadgets, etc. It's like this pretty much wherever I am, I am the one person that doesn't quite fit in and Somehow I just became aware of this fact this week.

Please don't misconstrue what I've written as a plea for pity or any of that type of stuff. This is my blog, a place where I can write what I honestly think and feel, and that is what I am thinking and feeling. :)


Here's this weeks numbers.

Weight : 216.6
Lost : .4
Total : 100.6

I was rather unhappy when I saw a loss of .4 on the scale this morning, yeah, I know it's still a loss, but I really busted my ass this week at the gym and while my eating wasn't the greatest, I kept it within range. Some weeks it just feels like I can't win!

Ken Heaston
Since 1970

  
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KIYOSHI04 1/2/2013 1:59PM

    i dont fit in either. anywhere.
its sometimes sad, sometimes a blessing.

congratulations on your loss, though you werent exactly thrilled.

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CLPURNELL 12/19/2012 3:52PM

    It is probably a muscle building week. You built muscle which offset some of your fat loss. Man I too am an odd ball. I take pride and a certain comfort in that. Having the guts to march to your own drum. To be honest and interested in what YOU like is a rare commodity these days. All the "not fitting in" means is you are not willing to compromise who you are for other people. There should be more odd men out like us the world would be a better place!

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GRANDEFILLE 12/17/2012 12:19AM

    you should know that now that you have so much less to lose, the losses can't be what they used to! that .6 is what in percentages? Congratulations on it and congratulations on knowing you are special and unique!

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TEACHFIRST268 12/16/2012 8:37PM

    Sorry you're disappointed with this week's results, but keep pushing! Your results may just take another week to catch up with you. You'll get there - you've lost 100+ pounds, for crying out loud! Yep...no doubt about it. No way you're going to let a .6 stop you. (Which was a LOSS by the way! :o) )

I know EXACTLY what you're saying - I often feel the same way. And not in a self-pity kind of way, just a growing older, learning more about (and becoming more confident in) myself kind of way. And having this conversation with my husband - HE often feels the same way - and WE, as a couple - often feel the same way in regards to friendships with other adults...not quite sure where we fit in... My husband and I joke and ask each other - are we the only 'normal' people left? we're becoming more secure in who we are, and can find things to enjoy and appreciate in others - and recognize and appreciate the differences, some for the better, some for the worse. Just part of growing as a person, I suppose. That said - I agree with what another poster said - get out and keep trying new things! It's always exciting to meet new people.

Have a great week!







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_BABE_ 12/16/2012 2:23PM

    I could make a joke about the weather but its too easy...lol As for the misfit thing Nightskystar is right its all about your perspective. Over the years I have thought the same thing...I don't have a lot in common with my friends ( different ages, income brackets and life situations don't always make things easy) I need some soul mates!! I guess we both gravitate to people unlike ourselves..it makes life more interesting. Although I understand the need to be mirrored back in the eyes of another, I like the idea of after being stripped of all identifying factors someone likes me for ME...don't you? emoticon

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RIBKNIT 12/16/2012 1:04PM

    Thanks for writing this blog. My scale didn't budge this week and it's frustrating. Is it possible in your case that fat is turning into muscle because of exercising?
When it comes to the misfit thing, I've often felt that way. I have now discovered that "my" kind were of people were out there, just hard to find so I went down a lot of blind alleys along the way.

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BRITT831 12/16/2012 6:14AM

    Not fitting in can be such a bummer but guess what!? U are still YOU! And as long as u continue to be true to who u are, the world is URS! Maybe its just not ur time to be social right now. Maybe the Divine wants u to focus more on ur weight loss right now and will place the right ppl in ur life when ur ready to handle it. Just my thoughts on it. emoticon Continue to stay true to YOURSELF and lif will fall into place....
emoticon Today is a new day! emoticon
Britt

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LISAN0415 12/15/2012 10:15PM

    Hi there!

You know next week you may see an even bigger loss on the scale, sometimes it takes our body a couple days to flush out the fat!

you are doing great, and it stinks when friends are too busy or don't invite us on things, but that's when it's time to expand our circle- the best way to do that is to try some new things, a class at the community college, volunteer at a hospital once a month, and if you are a spiritual person, places of worship have lots of groups and activities!

Best wishes to you, I know today felt like a down day for you, but sometimes we need to stop and count our blessing- it's the best way to get rich quick! :)

Lisa

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DOVESEYES 12/15/2012 10:08PM

    I think you rock!!!

It's great to be yourself on the blogs, you are honest with YOURSELF by listing the loss and as you said 'it is a loss' Remember when you didn't? Just that is a huge step. emoticon How do your clothes feel? Look for a positive ;)

It's easy to tell you are a great guy by the kind things you say to people you don't know.

You are an original and it's great you have friends from lots of backgrounds, jobs, etc.

It's hard to not let the weight take over but you are so many other things; time to regroup we are all for you. emoticon emoticon

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 12/15/2012 6:58PM

    it always sucks when you KNOW you did good but the scale doesnt. Sorry about that!!
as for the social misfit thing..well..i guess i'm a one of a kind because i never CARED. i dont do drugs, but hung out with some who did. i'm not a geek, but some of my friends are. I dont wear makeup and designer clothes, but lots of my friends to. I'm comfortable with myself, so i guess they just figure oh well...hahah
keep em guessing, Ken..you are alright!

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JULIA_211 12/15/2012 6:17PM

    I can relate to feeling like a social misfit. I stopped drinking over 12 years ago, and it is still tough to be in social settings. That's why I love sparkpeople, you can be yourself, and feel free to express yourself without judgment. You know you stuck to your range, that's all that matters! Keep going strong! emoticon

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MARYDSAN 12/15/2012 6:10PM

    Congratulations on your weight loss this week. Yeah, I know, sometimes the weeks we work the hardest disappoint us with the results; but we are not mathematical equations that let the results show at the precise time of our weigh in. Your efforts will be rewarded in due time. Keep up the good work! Who needs a tattoo, your results are impressive enough!








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