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Just idling in place

Tuesday, December 09, 2014

Maybe it wasn't good that my doctor seemed so okay with my weight. I seem to have given myself permission not to lose any more. Or at least I've stopped pushing at it. I'm still very much paying attention to what foods I'm eating, sticking to my low blood sugar plan. I'm still exercising a minimum three days weekly. What I haven't been doing is tracking for almost a month now, and my weight has stayed the same. So apparently, I have maintenance down cold... just not really at the weight I think I should be at. I have a good sense at this point of how often to eat and how much.

One thing I've noticed staying home, I'm hungriest in the late morning or early afternoon and that's when I eat most of my food for the day. I'm usually happy with a very light supper and an evening snack. When I'm tracking, this makes me anxious, as I see those calories adding up and I'm thinking OMG I only have 360 calories left for the day, I'll never make it, I'm blowing it again! When in fact I may not be blowing it at all. Maybe this is why I'm temporarily burnt out on tracking. I think I'll probably go back to it, and of course if my weight starts to go up then it's experiment over!

Also have been in a slump on the part-time job front. My substitute teaching credentials got held up, finally learned I had failed to pass an FBI background check, then had to wait a month for the FBI to send a report telling why. Turned out it was my arrest for trespassing in a college student sit-in in 1968. I hadn't even thought to mention that, since I had a government Confidential Clearance in the 1980's. Anyway, the state of Ohio decided it was still safe to expose schoolchildren to me and now I only have to wait several more weeks for the next county board meeting where they okay substitutes, and then it will be Christmas break in the schools. so probably January before I get back to work.

Maybe the worst thing about not tracking is it means I don't get on this site much.

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MARITIMER3 12/11/2014 11:35AM

    Good for you for taking part in the sit-in, but imagine it delaying your credentials after 45 years! What do you want to teach?

Hope it all gets straightened out soon,
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family racists

Sunday, November 30, 2014

As most of you who I correspond with regularly know, I am Jewish. I grew up in a middle-class bedroom suburb of Washington D.C., where people were pretty sophisticated and cosmopolitan. For the past 15 years I've been married to Dave, a lapsed Catholic, and we live on one of the houses on his family farm, surrounded by his cousins, in one of Ohio's most white, Republican, Catholic counties. Everybody here is from the same background, and many of them have never lived outside this area or known any other kind of people. It's been strange for me, but I've tried to fit in as best I could.

Most years for Thanksgiving I trek out to the East Coast so I can spend the holiday with people who really feel like family, but this year we didn't go, we decided to attend Thanksgiving on the farm. I decided to really make an effort. I went, I drank some wine to loosen up even though it's completely off my blood sugar diet, and I chatted everyone up. I thought I had done really well.

After we walked home, my daughter told me that over in a corner where I didn't hear it, my husband's cousin's daughter's 8 year old son had told a joke that involved a whole series of racist slurs against blacks, Mexicans, etc and ended with the punch line of SuperMario gobbling up money like a Jew. And my daughter said his whole family had laughed uproariously at it.

I don't even know where to begin.

After thinking it over for two days, I composed an email letter to the family, which I wrote and rewrote so it wouldn't be too hostile, explaining why stereotypes are so hurtful to those of us who don't have the luck to be white Catholics. Have not heard a word back, and don't expect to. But I needed them to know that I knew, and to maybe embarass them a little bit.

The mother of the joke-teller is the leader of my aerobics class at the Y (yes, this is a small town) and I'm wondering now if she's going to try to have me removed. I just keep going over and over this in my mind. I need to move on.

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MARITIMER3 12/1/2014 9:55PM

    I think that's probably for the best. I'm glad these people aren't close relatives of your husband.


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KDYLOSE 12/1/2014 2:05PM

    Follow-up: went to class, and the mother has apparently decided to just act like nothing happened. But after class I went ahead and switched from the MWF class to the TTH class, taught by someone else, because I realized I'm just going to keep dwelling on it if I have to see her three times a week. I've tried to fit in with these people for 15 years and I am very, very angry.

So now I have one less class per week, but I think I've established enough of a routine that I'll still put in that third day, either with a tape at home or in the ST room at the gym.

I should add that these are my husband's cousins on one side. His actual siblings are fine, in fact one of his brothers is also married to a Jewish woman. But they all moved away from here. Hmmm, I wonder why.

Comment edited on: 12/1/2014 2:12:15 PM

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MARITIMER3 12/1/2014 8:56AM

    Very important blog. I sometimes wonder if we will have to wait for however long it takes for intermarriage to make us all the same before "jokes" like that are no longer considered funny.

I was very proud of my oldest daughter who, when her first son was maybe 2, asked her father-in-law not to use ethnic slurs in front of his grandson. It must have been very hard for her, because he's a really nice man, but he grew up in a time and place when that kind of thing was okay. To give him credit, he stopped immediately.

I'm glad you wrote the letter. I doubt that you will ever hear anything back. I hope the woman who leads your class doesn't make it uncomfortable for you... it would be great if she took you aside and apologized and told you that she had spoken to her son... but I agree with Alison... if she says or does anything that makes you uncomfortable, report her. Family or not, it isn't acceptable.

I probably wouldn't fit in very well in your area, as I'm Anglican, would vote Democrat if I lived there, am definitely a socialist, believe very strongly in equal rights, feminism and all that good stuff, and can be quite outspoken... getting old has made me brave!

Hugs, Gail emoticon

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ALIHIKES 11/30/2014 1:08PM

    Very upsetting incident. You handled it correctly. People need to know there are real people who are affected by racist jokes and by racism. I can't imagine why the mother of the joke teller would retaliate, but if she does, I would complain to the Y management. They are not an organization that supports racism!


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Saturday, November 29, 2014

This weekend is my annual post-Thanksgiving turkey cooking marathon. Yesterday we got three fresh 26-pound free-range turkeys marked down to half price. I roast them, make soup from the bones, and dice up the meat to store in freezer bags and use in all my poultry dishes for months to come. It's labor intensive but well worth it. My cats are going nuts.

Of course it helps that I didn't cook Thanksgiving dinner for my family, that would be a bit too much! I did make a nice raw cranberry relish with oranges, apples, thyme, a pinch of onion powder and chipotle, and a dash of Jim Beam. Sounds weird but it was really good - sweet and savory.

I hope you all had good Thanksgivings. Ours was quiet this year, my daughter came in and we just went next door to my husband's relatives.

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MARITIMER3 11/29/2014 9:19AM

    Great idea! I love turkey in all shapes and forms. Maybe I will look for an extra one to cook after Christmas.

Our very fussy cat won't eat turkey, but loves cheese and ice cream.


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EVIE4NOW 11/29/2014 8:52AM

  Wow, one 26 pound bird would last us for months. Enjoy.

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KESTRYLL 11/29/2014 8:48AM

    We have our Thanksgiving on Sunday because my husband and I work at 24 hour facilities so I get to cook my turkey then, too! Hope you have a successful cooking day, sounds good to me!

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My doctor says it's a good sign that I'm having trouble losing weight!

Wednesday, November 05, 2014

I had my six-month visit today, and my doctor is happier with my weight and stats than I am, bless her tiny little 100-pounds-soaking-wet self. She says - get this - that the fact I'm having a hard time losing more weight is a sign that I'm healthy, and that my body seems to be happy at the weight it's at (25 pounds over on the charts) and that I should just keep doing what I'm doing.

My blood sugar is still prediabetic, up one point to 6.1, but still good compared to the 6.8 I had a year and a half ago. I really wanted to get it down a few points this time, but again, she seems happier with it than I do. I think I may be the only patient she has who's ever brought it down from diabetic, and she's just happy that I'm pretty much holding steady, but I do have to get another A1C in three months.

Also, she said "your good cholesterol is up considerably, have you been exercising more?" and I was happy to say yes, I'm going to my aerobics class three days a week. Was surprised that she immediately attributed it to exercise and not diet.

On the job front, I'm waiting for my substitute teaching credentials to be finalized. I also have an interview for a part-time library clerk, but not sure that will pay enough. And, I've started doing some telecommuting editing and proofreading work for an online company, which I really enjoy, but it doesn't pay that much and I don't know it they'll be sending enough work my way to make any kind of noticeable difference in my income. But I'm going to keep my hand in doing that on the side, just in case I find a way to make it pay off later.

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VTORIA3 11/7/2014 5:54AM

    Great going on the excellent dr report re health stats. Keep up with the good work....more improvements are sure to come.

The work I enjoy the most (by far) is the client that pays me the least. My 2 nonprofit clients pay me double, and the job is difficult and not enjoyable, though the people are very nice (will cut back to 1 of these early Spring...not sure how long I will want to keep the 2nd one).

Once you get your teaching credentials, what types of teaching institutions will you have access to? My BIL who was a bigshot attorney (self-made millionaire by age 40), retired at 42. In his 60s, he took many odd jobs, one of which was driving a shuttle bus around a college campus, making little, but he enjoyed doing something totally different. He is a prolific reader and at one point had a job in a bookstore, stacking, and he liked that job alot too. When he wants to travel for several months to a year, he quits and gets some other job after the travel is done. I think at this stage of our lives (off the career ladder and out of the rat race), it's nice not to have to take ourselves too seriously and just do whatever please us while we supplement our income.

Glad you enjoyed my spark page flower background. Nice for Fall.....I'll change it again as soon as the snow starts to fly, and I hope that won't be any time too soon!

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MARITIMER3 11/5/2014 7:31PM

    You have some good job options lined up. The substitute teaching will probably be the most rewarding, financially.

It's great that your doctor is so supportive. I've heard that it's almost impossible to make a significant change in your cholesterol by diet alone, which is probably why she attributed it to exercise.

Hugs, Gail

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EMPTYNESTER60 11/5/2014 2:35PM

    I love your description of your doctor emoticon She probably isn't used to a patient that is making lifestyle changes & seeing positive results but wanting better results. I'm sure a lot of her patients try to rationalize their test results instead of being slightly dissatisfied with them. It sounds to me like you have a good doctor and you just need to keep on doing what you're doing. I do agree that sometimes our body seems to know what our weight should be for a given time. May be a plateau or may just be our body's way of regrouping. Whatever it is, emoticon for a good visit with your little doctor emoticon

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TIFFFIT 11/5/2014 12:30PM

    Congratulations! I too was able to get my A1C down to a reasonable level and that's a real motivator to stay the course.
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KRICKET57 11/5/2014 12:12PM

    Sounds like you are making the right choices. The weight changes will probably come as you continue on your path. You are doing great. Keep up the good work!

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Made it home in one piece

Saturday, September 27, 2014

...barely! On the way home the motors in two windows died and our brakes started burning up in the mountains, plus we got miserably lost! But the rest of the vacation was fine. Saw my siblings and started three good oil paintings of them that I'm going to finish from photos, and did a lot of walking on the beach.

I didn't remember to weigh myself this morning before eating so I'll do it tomorrow. I feel like I've lost weight, hope it's true. I find it so much easier to eat less when I'm not at home.

More soon, still putting the house back in order.

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TWEETIBEAR 9/29/2014 8:58PM

    Welcome home. Perhaps all the crazy happenings coming back home simply made home-sweet-home a bit sweeter. The best part of any vacation to me is leaving home....and getting back again, hahaha! Tomorrow (Tuesday) is my weigh in and I'm likely going to have a loss, but not as nice as that first week. But back on track again today. It's hard to even plan going to the bathroom with 3 grandchildren underfoot 24/7 for three days! Loved every minute of it though. Glad you're here!

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MARITIMER3 9/28/2014 2:13AM

    Nice to see you back,and glad you had a good time. Always lots of catching up to do, isn't there?. It's so nice that you are doing the family portraits. Something to treasure.
Hugs, Gail

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