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Response to $20 Food Showdown

Tuesday, January 04, 2011

I don't think the real issue is so much one of cost as it is of time. People have gotten lazy and they want to not have to spend the time cooking. There was a time when McDonald's, Taco Bell and KFC etc. didn't exist and your choice of prepared foods in the grocery were limited. Also remember that microwaves in the home didn't come about until the early 1980's.

Do the grocery store prices seem realistic to you. I'm sure depending on where you live the answer would be no. But if you also compare the fast food prices I think you will find they don't match up. Prices at fast foods restaurants also vary depending on where you are located. Also what stores you have available make a difference in the prices of groceries. So yes I think in a general aspect that it is a fair comparison. What they are trying to show is that for what you spend on unhealthy fast foods (being from a restaurant or a grocery store) that you can buy healthy fare. The problem is YOU have to prepare it yourself.

I think the argument of poverty is also not relevant. You can buy many healthy items in the grocery store or in season for the same money as the unhealthy foods but again you have to spend the time preparing it and most people, regardless of their income, would rather spend the time in front of the TV. I know a lot of people on very tight to incredibly small food budgets that eat healthy. So even if you are poor you can eat at least healthier than most people do.

The real issue is we've become a world that wants instant gratification of our hunger. Yank it from the freezer and nuke it. Go through the drive through. There was a time when your mother or your grandmother to feed her family had to cook from SCRATCH. TV diners, Hamburger Helper, frozen pizza, mac and cheese in a box didn't exist.

I laugh every time I see the latest Hamburger Helper commercial. An overweight woman and her child are sitting in the drive thru and the HH hand sticks a taste of H Helper in her mouth and she responds that it is good and the voice over calls it home cooking. NO THAT ISN'T. It is junk, Hamburger Helper is not healthy eating. I should know, at one time I ate quite a bit of the stuff because it was quick to prepare.

Face it people you can eat healthy just as cheaply, if you shop sales, and prepare the food yourself. I've also found that cooking from scratch I can cook healthier that the supposedly healthy Healthy Choice, Lean Cuisine etc. I've taken to experimenting with spices and found that I can cut out or cut down the amount of salt I use by using other spices some that I've never tried before. I also feel a sense of accomplishment in cooking from scratch and it also amazes friends and family that I cook from scratch.

Yes, it is a matter of time but it doesn't always have to take a lot of time. I have dishes that take as little as 15-30 minutes and others that I use a crock pot for because I like them to simmer all day. So be good to yourself and spend a little less time in front of the TV or computer and fix food that is actually GOOD for you and TASTES GREAT. emoticon emoticon

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OCGYPSY 1/5/2011 5:46PM

    I agree - I can buy a bag of brown rice, some yogurt, some raw spinach and a dozen eggs and possibly some low-fat popcorn and eat pretty well for a week. Certainly beats the high fat high cholesterol food at fastfood. emoticon

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    I agree with you. I will admit I keep a box or two of Hamburger Helper type meals on hand, but store them for emergencies. People say they can't afford to eat healthy, I say I can't afford not too. And till all is said and done, the healthy foods are less costly. And if you get in the habit of it, healthy food preparation can be a cinch.

Good to see you. I don't see you around much. How is it going?

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SEADAME 1/4/2011 4:15AM

    I agree with you. Some of the poorest countries in the world eat better than the richest because they eat bean, rice and veggies with limited meat. They don't have fast food or micro wave easy meals.

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Learning to be Safe

Thursday, September 09, 2010

I just read a blog entry about the tortoise learning to be safe - pulling in it's limbs. As we make our journey to healthy and/or weight loss we have to learn to be safe from those that would derail us. Not by pulling in our head so as not to ruffle anyone's feathers. Instead we have to learn to stand-up for ourselves.

Over the course of trying many different weight loss plans I have found one factor to be consistent every time. Those that should support you and urge you on are usually the ones that have a hand, however minor or large, in derailing you.

The holiday dinner at your sister's or mother's house where she urges you to eat "just a little" of the family favorites. "It is "YOUR" favorite after all." Making it sound like it was the only reason she made it. "It just one day. Surely one day of enjoying yourself won't hurt." You all know the comments.

The dinner at a friends. The same comments as at your sister's or mother's. But my favorite "friend" is the one that knows you are trying to loose weight but serves nothing that isn't smothered in butter, fried or in a cream sauce.''

I have come to the conclusion that those that are trying to sabotage our changed eating ways are jealous or threatened by these changes. Jealous because for once we are succeeding or sticking to our guns about what we eat. Or jealous and threatened because we are talking their limelight - everyone is now talking to us and about us instead of that skinny friend or relative and asking their advice and commenting I wished I looked like you. They are now asking us what we are doing and telling us how great we are looking.

Then there are those that truly feel threatened. I have two sisters. One sister who has lost some weight but is still obese and another sister who has gone from healthy to morbid obesity - my youngest sister. When I had told my one sister about my weight loss and what I was doing she told my youngest sister about it since she was so thrilled for me. She said instead of my youngest sister being happy for me she could tell she was mad about it. At first my one sister couldn't figure out why and then she said it dawned on her. Now my youngest sister was the heaviest and by many, many pounds until then I had ALWAYS been the heaviest. I have never heard a congratulations from her about my weight loss or change in lifestyle.

So what has this all taught me. That if you are with friends and family and they offer unhealthy foods refuse them and as politely as possible tell them why. If they push then push right back. A true friend or caring family member will offer to let you raid their refrigerator to find something you can eat. And if you are in a restaurant will say you're right what you eat is your choice "I'm sorry for butting my nose in."

If your pushing back to stay on track cause a break in the friendship or in that particular family relationship then THEY are at fault. Using you to make themselves feel better is their problem not yours. I don't know about you but I'm tired of being the one always worrying about hurting someone else's feelings when they obviously don't seem too concerned about hurting mine. Because when someone tries to get me to eat unhealthy, which is detrimental to my health and even more importantly to my weight loss, then it DOES hurt my feelings. I now know that they have an alternative agenda which is to regain the spotlight or to make themselves feel better. So I now feel that whatever bad might happen to the relationship is THEIR doing not mine. I WON'T be the one to apologize, otherwise they've learned nothing and keep doing it. (Also learned through experience.)

Their are those that might think this is harsh but the pushers are also the ones that are the first to make the comment about how "I knew she wouldn't stick to her diet this time. How many times is it now that we've had to put up with her trying to loose weight 10 or 15. She should face it she just doesn't have any will power."

SO STICK TO YOUR GUNS AND DON'T EAT THAT UNHEALTHY FARE EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO GET UP AND LEAVE SOMEONE'S HOME. PUT YOURSELF FIRST IT IS ABOUT TIME YOU DID. You can do it with as much grace as possible but do it. Say "I'm sorry but I can't sit around and watch you eat. Why don't we come up with another activity that we can all do some other night. Maybe go out dancing at that club that we've all talked about going to but never have. Tonight though you enjoy yourselves without me being a wet blanket and putting a damper on things because I just can't compromise on what I eat any more because I know that if I do it just derails everything I've accomplished. I see all you later."


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MISSIEH1 9/18/2010 7:26AM

    Great blog. It is so rue. I think many people face this in different areas. It could weight loss, career advancement, financial, etc. As you said stick to your guns and you will be successful.

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WARMSPRINGDAY 9/10/2010 3:58PM

    I've read comments from a lot of people who have this situation in their lives where they have people who try to derail them. Although I can empathize, I am fortunate to not have this problem. My family is all supportive of my efforts and accept my reasons. So thankful for that. I am sorry this is something you have to deal with, but sounds like you have found the way to handle it. Good for you.

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Those sinful treats aren't as good as they use to be.

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

I was reading the "Secrets of Success" for my daily "I Like" and found that I liked the one about not feeling bad about saying no to the friend that tries to tempt you with that cupcake, drink or birthday meal. It made me realize that things that I use to indulge in that weren't healthy aren't really a treat anymore.

What do I mean by this? I don't know about the rest of you but I've found that if something is singing to me to eat that it is better to indulge a little than to deny myself. Lately I have found that it is easier to talk myself out of the things that use to just sing to me - EAT ME - because they just don't seem to bring me the pleasure they use to or taste as good. Mainly because they don't taste the same. Since I've been cooking from scratch the last year or two I now can taste the preservatives in 'prepared foods from the market' and boy does that ruin the taste and pleasure of a food.

Case in point - I recently bought a package of cookies I loved with the idea of having 2 which was okay for my food for the day and then freeze the rest. I ate 1 cookie and then about 3/4 of the way through the second it hit me. They just didn't taste the same to me. I think that the longer I don't eat certain foods the more selective my taste in foods is becoming. That doesn't mean that I don't eat some strange things but that even though they don't taste "heavenly" like my memories of the "bad" foods that they satisfy the craving enough and I don't feel guilty about eating them because they are healthy.

An example of this is a chocolate cupcake I make about of black beans, eggs, ricotta cheese etc. It isn't like eating a cupcake from a fabulous bakery but it will satisfy my craving for a sweet and is loaded with protein.

Next time you decide to indulge do it in a way that you can really concentrate on what you are eating. Then see if it really is as good as you remember. I think more times than not it won't live up to the memory. For those of you wondering why this might be so about 30 years ago I read a diet book (one of many I've read) that talked about depriving ourselves when you really crave a food (when it sings to you). That you tend to overeat trying to satisfy that craving when if you would indulge yourself you usually could satisfy the desire with fewer calories. That what we done by depriving ourselves is built up this picture in our heads about how something tastes when isn't based in reality.

So what I do now is figure out my cheat into my calories for the day and cut in other areas which since I tend to have trouble eating anywhere near as many calories as suggested when I eat healthy isn't a problem. I find the occasional big cheats need to happen far less often over time because I'm more able to determine if I really want it or am I trying to fill some other need.

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WARMSPRINGDAY 8/24/2010 6:49PM

    Good to see your post on Spark. It's been awhile since I saw you post or even heard much from you.

I agree that some of those things just don't hold the luster that they once did. When I indulge, sometimes I come away feeling very disappointed and tell myself that it just wasn't worth the calories that I spent on it. Great blog!

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HOPE2011 8/24/2010 5:44AM

    Isn't it great when that realization happens? But I agree - you have to let yourself try it so you can discover for yourself how you've changed. Great insight! emoticon

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Accepting Certain Traits

Wednesday, February 03, 2010

I have blogged before about accepting that if you have a major weight problem then you are a food addicted. I know in my case that is true. There is alcoholism on both sides of my family and I had an alcoholic parent. There is no way I was ever going to be alcoholic. I'm now know what I did was substitute food as my drug of choice for addiction.

I've never done drugs, smoked pot or abused alcohol. No, I abused food. I have come to understand why, at least partly. I've also come to realize that there are certain foods that I will never be able to control my response to. My biggest problem food is ice cream. If there is any type of ice cream product in my house be in regular ice cream or sugar free/fat free fudge bars I will binge. For me I have had to accept that as a fact of life. I will never be able to totally control my response to ice cream.

This no longer bothers me. It is just a fact. It is also better than being a drug addicted where I could kill myself with one overdose. I have accepted that it is something I have to deal with but in the scheme of life there are others with much bigger issues to deal with. I have finally realized my problems and accepted them so I can find ways to deal with them. In order to do this though you have to look for the problems. I believe there are always reasons why we choose to abuse food.

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KSLEUNG21842 3/14/2010 8:16PM

    How amazing you are!! I think most of us would have something that is a trigger for us...I need to think about mine. Thanks for sharing!

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    Wow - your honesty inspires me. Too often we are just not honest with ourselves and we hurt ourselves most of all. Honesty is step 1 in coping.


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Another Indicator I'm Loosing Weight

Monday, July 13, 2009

I have blogged in the past about paying attention to the little things in your life to see other indicators that you are loosing weight besides the scale. Everything little thing that changes in a positive way helps keep the motivation high. In the past I've talked about how it was easier to cut my toe nails, that a pair of snow boots I had bought now fit (they zip up) and that it was easier to climb stairs. Well I've noticed a new change. I have contact dermatitis, which is basically really sensitive skin to irritants. Because of this my hands and feet are very dry. I'm one of those people who if they don't take care of their feet have heels that crack open and bleed. So I try to put lotion on my feet at least twice a day. Well being obese made that hard. I couldn't reach them. So I learned where to place the lotion on my feet so that I could rub them together in different ways to get it all over my feet. Of course this meant that a little of it wound of squirted onto the carpet as well.

About two months ago I tried actually pulling my foot up and rubbing it on by hand. Well I was disappointed that even though I could rub it on by hand that parts of my foot were still difficult to reach and it tended to hurt my knees. So I went back to the old way of putting it on so as not to add stress to my bad knees. Then last night I decided to try again. AND GUESS WHAT? I can put lotion on my feet without squirting it all over the place, contorting my body or hurting my knees. I can sit on the side of the bed, pull up my leg and with my hand put lotion on my feet. Yes, another indicator that my belly is going down.

So as you loose weight don't forget to try and do things in your life that you gave up doing in the past simply because you were too fat to do them or do them comfortably.

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TIMS4FISHIN 7/14/2009 4:48AM

    Isn't that an awesome feeling? NEVER in my life, not even as a child, have I done a pull up. I actually come very close last year but back slid quite a bit. I'm going to do one or more before this year is over!
You keep going the way you are going. Before long, you'll be doing a perfect split in the middle of your floor.

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