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Month end reporting this week - busy bee!

Monday, March 28, 2011

It's month end reporting this week. So I'm on here right before my reports start (they are running right now). I've been a bit behind in tracking other goals, reading blogs, and updating my spark team comments & what not. I am hoping to check in at least twice a day to track food/exercise and a few comments, however if you don't see me, it's because I'm hiding under a ton of excel spreadsheets & access databases! lol.

Hope you all have a wonderful week!

  
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ABAKER34 3/28/2011 1:51PM

    I live and breath excel worksheets! Come up for breath everynow and then, you're eyes will appreciate it!

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ELLEYKAT 3/28/2011 10:21AM

    I'm in the same boat. =)

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CHEETARA79 3/28/2011 9:17AM

    How are things going with your daughter and the bully? Did you get that resolved? I hope you have a great week.

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What I accomplished today.

Friday, March 25, 2011

I'm writing this to spark myself into feeling better.

Today I got all the work done I needed to in order to prepare for month end next week. I also put out a few fires at work and assisted others.

Today I dragged the treadmill upstairs from the basement using my arms, not my back. It felt great to feel strong! I also tossed the twin boxspring downstairs in order to put the treadmill in the spare bedroom upstairs. I have started the cleaning process in the spare room and will be excited to redo that room and claim it for myself this weekend.

Today I stayed in my calorie range.

Today I jogged while waiting for the dog to do his business.

Today I made my daughter feel safe, loved, and happy.

I can't remember what else at the moment. :)

  
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ELLEYKAT 3/27/2011 9:15AM

    YAY! Those are all super-awesome things! Congrats! =) Keep on sparking brightly!! You're doing great! =D

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 3/26/2011 10:14PM

    emoticon Sounds pretty awesome!

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DDOORN 3/26/2011 9:56PM

    Kudos to your accomplishments in the face of all the stress on your plate lately!

You are being a terrific role model for your daughter by taking good care of yourself despite all that's been happening.

Living well is the best revenge! Don't give this bully the power to unhinge your household any further! :-)

Don

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MAMABUGAZ 3/26/2011 10:13AM

    Looks like you have lots of reasons to feel good. But ..., it sounds like you don't?

~ Faith

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KENLY80 3/25/2011 9:54PM

    Looks like you did a lot today :) GOOD JOB!!!!!!
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SHRINKINRUNNER 3/25/2011 9:53PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon You did FANTASTIC! On a roll ;)

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TECAVINESS 3/25/2011 9:40PM

    Congratulations. You accomplished alot today. Keep up the good work.

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BIPPYBIPPY 3/25/2011 9:02PM

    Excellent work! You're an inspiration, always.

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BWMOOMAU 3/25/2011 8:49PM

    emoticon on all your accomplishments

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Advice Needed/Bullying - I'm Upside Down with Stress!

Friday, March 25, 2011

I really need advice because I am very upset and very close personally to the issue, so I'm not sure if I'm thinking rationally. It's been a stressful week for us - after 90 days my husbands new job is now firing people, and put him on a horrible schedule where he will be home on Thursdays and Fridays - working all other days of the week. When his schedule switches he will be working 10 days in a row without a day off. Becca is having issues at school again with some girls and guys calling her names and saying mean things. Her friends also told her that the boy she dated (her first kiss, nothing else though, she broke up with him) is telling lies about her to other kids. So it was very overwhelming for an already emotional child.

SO now the point where I need YOUR ADVICE:::
There was a substitute driver on the bus yesterday. When they were nearing our drive, Becca told them where to stop. This boy, who is 6'1" and looks like a young Bill Murray with Acne, started yelling to the bus driver, "keep going, this isn't a stop". My daughter told him to "Shut up" and stood up and walked to the front of the bus to make sure the bus driver would stop. She got out of the bus, and walked parallel to the bus to get the mail. The boy spit out the bus, hitting her! I am SO DISGUSTED! She called me in hysterics, sobbing. I instructed her to take a shower and call me when she's done and I'll come home. So I took a late lunch, drove home, logged back into work, and then consoled her. I got her to laugh a few times, cry a few times, and hugged her a lot. On the way home I called the Vice Principal. She talks with Becca often since Becca does have a lot of emotional issues dealing with school. Well, she said that she will handle it tomorrow (today). When my husband got home, I told him what happened. He told me to call the school today and find out how they are handling this situation. If they do not kick him off the bus for the remainder of the school year, I'm to take Becca to the police station and press charges for assault. Becca went into the Vice Principal this morning and filed the incident report. I called the VP this morning and asked her what disciplinary action are they taking. She replied she's not sure yet, she needs to talk with the Principal. She said it will either be 2 weeks suspension, or 2 weeks kicked off the bus. I told her how my husband wanted me to go down to the police station and file a report. She said, "Yes, you can do that, what he did is considered an assault." So I'm going to talk with Becca when she gets home (I am working from home today, in case something goes wrong at school I can get there quick). I also have Chris calling me on his next break at work to discuss his thoughts. I am going to go to the police station with Becca and file the report when she gets home. I just need help on how to deal with the emotional part of this with Becca!!! I need your thoughts!

I'm really trying not to eat the entire house while dealing with this stress. I ate part of my lunch for morning snack.. lol. I will get some celery and carrots to mindless munch on I'm going to try exercising a bit too during downtime. thank you so much for reading and responding

  
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PSKIPPY7811 3/27/2011 7:07AM

    I don't feel like I can offer much since I'm not a parent. However, my younger cousin was in a similar situation and her parents finally said, "enough! School is for learning." From that point on she was home schooled. In our area cyber-school gives you everything for free, computer, printer, headsets, books, etc. She still got social interaction with online classmates plus had more time for things she wanted to do - voice, acting, music lessons, yoga, she even took classes at the community college before she graduated high school.

Tell your daughter that one day those idiots will be pumping her gas or picking up road kill on the highway if they aren't in jail
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CHUBBY_MOM 3/26/2011 4:30AM

    I wish I could tell you how to handle the bully situation but this is also something that is to close to me emotionally to give you any advice. I have a now 17 year old son that has all but quit school because of being bullied. The school that my children attend is big on talk and not much else unless you aren't in sports or have money, or you don't have a parent that is a teacher......then when it comes down to it they are the kids that are punished if they stand up for themselves ughhh it makes me sick with how things are handled. Sorry I am rambling and not making to much sense I'm sure.
All I can say is I feel for you, your daughter and your family. Stay strong and don't let the bullies win!!!

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SLIMMERKIWI 3/25/2011 10:32PM

    I totally endorse the comments about documentation! Date/Time/Who was a possible witness etc. etc. Photos are important if you can get them, and so too are videos.

I am really pleased that SOME action was taken - where it comes to the police, your daughter is still being bullied - that is what fear does. Standing up to a bully is the best way to stop them. It is quite possible that the power that be at school are trying to dissuade her from going to the police because they prefer to keep things "in house" where it can be swept under the carpet re the public image! Also, it doesn't look good on their reports when they are audited by the powers that be!

Kris

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BIPPYBIPPY 3/25/2011 9:01PM

    I feel for you and your daughter, and your whole family. I hope you will follow through with the police and with the school - following another poster's advice with the documentation. It will make things a little harder for her, in a way, because they'll respond by trying to intimidate her, but they are going to do this anyway. Becca is lucky to have a mum like you who cares about the situation and will be there with her every step of the way. I went through similar things at school, with no one willing to stand up for me like you are for Becca. This too shall pass, and be resolved, and you are showing a great example for her in terms of standing up for herself and other people.

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KAZINMICH 3/25/2011 4:37PM

    Thank you for all your advice. The student was suspended for 2 days, and is not allowed on the bus for 2 weeks. The VP has set up a meeting for my daughter and him to meet in front of her to discuss this. I told my daughter, absolutely not without me present!!! My daughter said the VP made it sound like it's a bad idea to go to the police and she would be disappointed in her - she didn't say it, her words were carefully chosen, she just made her feel bad, that it would be hurtful to this boy!!!!! OMG!!! SO, I'm going to email the VP along with the social worker and principal stating I do NOT want there to be a meeting unless I am present, and if they would like a meeting, schedule it for Thursday or Friday so I can be there. My daughter still isn't sure about going to the police. I told her to think about it, talk with her friend (she's over there now) and let me know. I told her it's not ok for him to do this. She goes, but if I go to the police he might try and hurt me in the halls at school (she has classes with him too). I'm like, then going to the police would be important so you would be safer, and if he tried even a little thing, you go back to the police. I'm waiting for my husband to come home tonight, and putting this on the back burner until tomorrow when the decision will be made.

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EZZERMARIE 3/25/2011 2:54PM

    I come from a family of teachers, so I'm going to tell you this. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. take pictures if something gets ripped, or she gets spit on, or hit, notes, ANYTHING. Write down every time that it happens, in detail. The school will (or should) act with more evidence, and the police will want proof too. Hope this helps. Good luck.

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TBID227 3/25/2011 11:52AM

    I don't know what advice to offer. Kids have gotten so mean and ill willed towards others. I think because the school does not seem to be taking this issue seriously, filing the charges is a good idea, it will alert his parents that something is not getting through to the one bully. I guess you just need to tell your daughter that you are there for her. That kids say mean things and while you have been taught not to do so (what always plays through my head is that if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it) and that the words can be hurtful, but that we all have to deal with criticism on a daily basis. So while it is not acceptable behavior, it is part of life? I don't know if that made much sense.

As far as the ex telling stories, what's new with that? If she can, she should just call him out on the lies. That normally stops that behavior.

Unfortunately for all of us, bullying went from casual name calling and child antics to simply being cruel. You need to be your daughters best advocate to the school. And don't let up on them. The teachers need to be aware. They need to act. And they should have a school anti-bullying policy in place, if they don't, then write your city council, local congressman, anyone you can think of to bring the issue to light. Oh, and don't be afraid to use names (not of minors) to call those out who are not acting.

I have also known of instances where IF there is more than one school in the district that the district will work with you to place your daughter in a different school. Of course, not sure y'all are open to that remedy.

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MANDIBEES 3/25/2011 11:45AM

    Ok here goes....I have been in a very similar situations, husband traveling for work, kids picking on and bullying my kids!!
I have cause a rift in our neighborhood because I, for some dumb reason, was the FIRST parent to stick up for my kids with the neighborhood bullies!!! After trying "the responsible" way to handle the BB(big bully), telling the BB that is not acceptable behavior and if it's not stopped I'm going to the parents...talking to the parents...talking to the school..NOTHING WAS WORKING! Last straw- I watched this BB hover over my kid and threaten him...I jumped out of my house into my car, picked up my kids ,who were trying to walk to school, I Yelled at this BB "I'm so FUC@@@@ sick and tired of you picking on my kids, if I ever see you with them again you are going to be in some serious SH@@"! Later we dealt with an irate parent who's biggest complaint was that I swore at her kid...yeah like they never used those words before! Whatever! We took this to the principle and the police, we made it so difficult for the school they had to make sure our kids were safe and NO contact between the kids and the BB or more police involvement was introduced...We also gave our kids something to say to bullies...."Did you know science has proved that bullies have small brains?!" Not that this is true mind you, but it made my kids feel better and confused the BB and other BB's.

Make a fuss...bring in as much "ammo" as you need to make the school understand that you WILL NOT tolerate any more attacks/threats against your daughter...
Help her to understand that those who pick on her are not friends even though they may have started out that way and you know it's hard and it hurts but she is strong and smart and better then that and will overcome! If she knows you are on her side and willing to make a very big deal over her troubles, she is more likely to come through this and be stronger for it! Unconditional love and support! That's my suggestion!

Go for it! If you want this kid off the bus, call the bus service and make sure they know what's happened too. The drivers do have responsibility for your kids safety.

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MAMABUGAZ 3/25/2011 11:11AM

    Not much advice for ya; just hugs.

It's good that you're illiciting Becca's thoughts and including her when you go down to the police station. If she ends up having adamant feelings against filing assault charges, I'd probably try to find a way to keep talking with her about it, and come to a mutually agreeable solution.

Good luck with trying not to eat everything in the house during this. Sometimes, something warm (even with no, or few, calories) can be a good comfort food for me. ie: even something warm to drink. A cup of tea; your own homemade hot cocoa (dry cocoa powder and some stevia, for sweetening), etc.

~ Faith

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Busy & sleepy

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Sorry I'm not here much this week. By the time I get through my work day, and then family stuff, and then logging the food & stuff, I run out of energy! I'm exhausted. I'm headed to bed right now and hoping my nose stays clear enough to sleep through the night. I wish this weather would make up it's mind!!! It's icy outside right now. the deer, squirrels and birds were trashing my bird feeders (they broke/ate one) in preparation for this weather. I should always listen to them, they seem to know. Here are a few "bird brains" with the feeder they broke!


Here's to a better tomorrow!!!

  
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TIME2BLOOM4ME 3/25/2011 2:18PM

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ELLEYKAT 3/24/2011 8:52AM

    Hah, deer. THEY ALWAYS KNOWWWWW!!!

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FRACKTHATNOISE 3/24/2011 8:10AM

    How pretty!

We got a bit of snow this morning and I literally screamed. SOOOO ready for SPRING!

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I know what's wrong.. hubby figured it out.

Sunday, March 20, 2011

I have had all my bloodwork done - that's ok. I do have some allergies acting up - which is normal. I have MS so fatigue comes with the territory. My husband figured out what's going on with me though. I'm depressed because my legs have been so sore and in so much pain, weird pain. Not pure aching pain or dull pain. Like a burning pain along with a feeling that the only way I can describe is rigamortis. Like my muscles are shriveling up in my leg. As he said, there isn't anything I can do about it, so I can push through and feel happy although in pain, or I can give up, give in, complain and be totally miserable! So I'm going to push through and tomorrow I am going to exercise 10 minutes when I get up, and then go for a walk during lunch break, then when I get home I'm going to do a small portion of the workout dvds that I have been doing - I'll start back with week 1 of 20 minutes. If I'm having a particularly bad day I'm going to do the wii fit light aerobics. But I am going to do it whether my body is throwing a fit or not! There's nothing wrong with my muscles or body physically (except MS) so I'm going to push through!!!!

Oh, and my doctors are both aware :) So no worries there! :)

  
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PURPLESPEDCOW 3/25/2011 4:06PM

    Have you been checked for restless legs syndrome? Just wondering because that can cause many different symptoms. Just a thought.

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TIME2BLOOM4ME 3/25/2011 2:28PM

    Have you tried using a muscle stimulator to help improve the strength and reduce the atrophy? I use rebuilder. It helps also with pain. Its covered by insurance.

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JEPPINER1 3/23/2011 11:02AM

    That is a great attitude! We could all learn from your blog. My cousin has MS and starting to get little worse. She is strong as well with the same stubborn....;-) attitude. Nothing will stop her. Good for you! emoticon

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PCOH051610 3/23/2011 9:55AM

    Hi!

Do you know what struck me the most about your blog....it was the final sentence where you said, ``There's nothing wrong with my muscles or body physically (except MS) so I'm going to push through!!!! `

A lot of people I know would use their diagnosis with MS as a reason not to push through but there you are taking it all in stride and moving forward! Your husband seems to be very supportive and you you do have a good head on your shoulders to have it all thought out and described so accurately.

Take it easy and only push as far as you are comfortable with but push all the same. Hugs to Mr. Wendie!



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BIPPYBIPPY 3/23/2011 9:05AM

    Hey Kaz,

I think I know the kind of pain you are talking about.. I've never heard anyone verbalise it so well but that's the kind of pain I was feeling for most of last year. Proud of you for pushing through it, and your husband sounds just wonderfully supportive and encouraging! Keep up the good work :)

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CHANTELLE41 3/22/2011 11:12PM

    I'm glad you are doing better. I'm glad you are getting back to your regular routine. I know how much it helps. I have schizoaffective disorder, which is a mental illness (it's controlled my medication and therapy.) I also work for a mental health facility, working primarily with the severely mentally ill. I know how important routine is. (Do I always follow this myself? NO!)

Anyway, thanks so much for your blog post! It really helped me. Your description of your house sounded much like ours. My husband's father passed away about two years ago, and most of his belongings simply moved into our house, adding to our chaos. Some of the things are nice to have, like rare 45's, but others, well, are more for sentimental value--like the snowblower with no tires and dirt in it.

One of the things I like about SP is the chance to meet new people. I feel much more comfortable when I am writing than when I am speaking. I get all tongue tied when I am speaking. I even forget people's names. Not to call myself pathetic, but I am not putting my best foot forward when I am face to face. Although I know I need to improve in that area eventually. emoticon

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FRACKTHATNOISE 3/22/2011 9:03PM

    I hope you feel much, much better soon. Keep your chin up!

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TENACIOUSTIGER 3/22/2011 8:51AM

    hey hope you are having better days and not so sore, i read your comment about not wanting to work workout, sleep eat work workout , everyt single day one day i would just like to read a book or see a movie. Hoping i can find the answer at spark somewhere.Good luck

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CHEETARA79 3/21/2011 2:10PM

    You're making me feel guilty for skipping my workouts because I was sick this weekend. You are inspiring me to get off my sneezy butt and sweat!

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MANDIBEES 3/21/2011 12:11PM

    You go girl!! Just don't over do it! emoticon emoticon

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DDOORN 3/21/2011 10:01AM

    Have you worked with a Physical Therapist in the past...? Sounds like they might offer some more helpful stretches to offset your symptoms...?

Don

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NUGGETTEMOM 3/21/2011 9:59AM

    Hope you feel better soon! Staying positive definitely helps. If I get excessively upset/depressed/irritated or anything when I have a flare it always seems to last longer or get worse. emoticon

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ELLEYKAT 3/21/2011 8:02AM

    If your doctors give you the OK to do that, then GREAT! I'm glad you're deciding to keep a positive face and push through!! I hope your legs start feeling better VERY SOON.

You can do it!!

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TIME2BLOOM4ME 3/21/2011 1:16AM

    Be strong and keep up the good fight !!!

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-LUCKY- 3/20/2011 11:28PM

    Great attitude!

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CHAR1970 3/20/2011 9:52PM

    Great attitude! You inspire me to continue even though I have chronic headaches. Thank you for that!

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CHUBBY_MOM 3/20/2011 9:16PM

    You are so positive!! Hope you feel better soon!

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MAMABUGAZ 3/20/2011 8:46PM

    Hope you're feeling better soon.

~ Faith

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