Monday, July 01, 2013
My last blog post was on May 6th (Pushing Past the Hard Comments www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_pu
47778 ), and received wonderful supportive comments from many Sparkies. I want to thank those of you who read and commented on that post, because it didn't ease up after those 2 weeks.
It took 9 entire weeks, with new people commenting every week about my weight gain. From the concerned friend giving me the sympathetic squeeze and "looks like you've put on a few" to the shocked co-worker stopping me in the hall to say "oh! You've gotten bigger!" Or the friend who grabs my thigh and goes "Kate! I remember when I met you last year - boy we've both got some to lose!" (at least she included herself in the struggle) to the co-worker who goes "did you gain weight? Oh, maybe it's just your new hair cut..." to the grocer miming with his arms and saying in his broken English "you...ah, bigger."
It's the culture here, I know -- they don't see it as an insult, just a comment, like "hey, your hair is brown." Why yes, yes it is. Or even some who hold extra weight in higher esteem, for it means you are successful at providing for your family and you are not starving.
But that does not make it easier to hear. A crushing series, nine straight weeks in a row, from over nine different people.
There were so many days I wanted to just cry and give up; to revert back to my old eating disorder habits; to binge and never go outside again; to starve and become a gym-addict. But I kept reading over the comments you guys made on my last post, and I keep looking at the motivational quotes and posters people share here and on facebook. And I really - REALLY - tried to listen to and believe my husband when he says he thinks I am beautiful no matter what.
And so on week 10 of my workout program and HEALTHY eating habits, I finally went my first week without having anyone comment about my weight. Maybe it was a "lucky" week, or maybe the workout is finally starting to show the progress -- but I NEVER WOULD HAVE MADE IT to week 10 if it hadn't been for the encouragement from friends and Sparkies cheering me on.
And in the 10 weeks, though perhaps the fat hasn't melted away I as expected, there were many other things learned and seen:
1. I can actually do a real push up instead of girly ones! In fact, I can do almost 8 continuously, and given some rest time, I can do multiple set!
2. I can see definition in my arms, even when not intentionally flexing
3. My back hurts less than it used to as my core is getting stronger
4. I have managed to get off of coffee because of natural energy
5. Hiking up our hill yesterday, I was startled to see we'd made it to our normal turn-around point, and I wasn't out of breath or tired and wanted to keep going!
6. My arms aren't QUITE as floppy as they used to be (you know, that underarm wave that keeps flopping and waving even when you're done waving good-bye)
7. I may not be as slim as some of my coworkers, but at least I am strong enough to lift a fire extinguisher with one hand, and not have to waddle trying to hold it up between my legs because the arms can't lift it (that was a sight to see) I realized that I'd rather be strong with some extra fat than slim without the muscle to do life-saving acts, or even day to day acts. I like feeling more "durable" in life. I like not having to ask my husband to open jars all the time! Haha!
8. I have managed to motivate my husband who has started joining me on more walks and hikes and caving adventures, and he's giving up his junk food more and more often, too!
9. As one who counsels and coaches others in their steps towards a healthier life, I can now better grasp the pain and frustrations of working your butt off, and just not seeing the results you expect. I can better empathize, and will eventually be able to say "I was where you are, here's what I did, and here's where I am now -- we're going to get you through it too."
10. While it will still be a battle, I am working more and more on remembering: I AM MORE THAN A NUMBER ON THE SCALE. I am a wife, a friend, a daughter, a sister, a teacher, a writer, a dreamer, a hiker, an adventurer.
Thank you, Sparkies, for helping me persevere long enough to learn all of that. I can't wait to see what I keep learning as I keep persisting and keep moving forward in health and in life!
Monday, May 06, 2013
"Wow, you've gained some weight, haven't you??!" That was my comment this morning from a co-worker.
I started the P90X program about two weeks ago, after a rapid weight gain. I let work stress me out, keep me late, and stopped all my healthy habits. I stopped my 3-5 days a week of soccer/ultimate frisbee, and I stopped my yoga. I worked late, so couldn't make these. I was too tired to get up before work for my normal power yoga home workouts. And I turned to fatty foods to deal with the stress.
This all lead to a 20 pound weight gain in a matter of a few months.
I knew it, it was obvious in how I looked. A few people, when I mentioned it, would sympathetically nod. So, I finally decided to take back control: not let my job destroy my health, my routine, and thus my self-esteem.
I have now done 16 days of healthy eating, and working out intensely an average of 5 days per week.
And the weight hasn't budged. But I keep going - knowing it's good for me.
But today, it was a blow to my self confidence and self image. Two co-workers, within 2 hours of showing up at work, made comments on my weight gain.
I can tell myself it's that i'm wearing a less flattering blouse today - perhaps it doesn't hide the gain as well, but I know that's not true. The truth is simply that: I have gained weight. It is in my hips, my stomach, my arms, and my face.
It is hard to hear the truth so bluntly, but it would be harder still to let this get me down and give up. I need to use this, instead, to continue my momentum.
yes, I have gained weigh - BUT JUST YOU WATCH! I will get it back off! I will show you IT CAN BE DONE! It takes discipline, it takes time, but it is possible, and IT IS WORTH IT!
Push past those hard comments, push past the self doubt and self pity, and claim your body! Claim your health!
I Will Succeed! I AM Succeeding -- every day, by taking steps forward. By not giving up. By hanging in there, even when it's difficult.
And you will succeed, too! You likely ARE succeeding already, just in the fact that you're HERE with Spark people!
How are you taking steps to keep succeeding day after day, or even just minute by minute?
Monday, May 06, 2013
I have been doing well with my workout and diet -- not seeing much change on the scale or feeling much of a change in my clothing; but I know this is good for me regardless, so I'm sticking to it!
Just finished my 3rd cycle of the Chest&Back video, and then had my protein drink, showered, and had dinner of sesame lentils, Almond veggies, and a salad. So tired, and so loving the program!
Monday, April 29, 2013
Week two has begun! I have more energy and have lost 3 lbs. Woohoo!!!!
I am feeling stiff and sore - but in good ways! (mostly) Keepin' it up!
Went to a girls night party last night, and was so proud of myself :) Portion control, lots of veggies and little junk, and then even bowed out early so that I could get home and get some good sleep to let my body keep healing.
Keep at it!!
Tuesday, April 23, 2013
Taking mini break at work - so don't have much time. But a goal of mine is to record what I do to help me stick with it!!
Oh so early, that alarm went off at 4:30am, got up and did the P90X Shoulders and Arms routine (my least favorite so far...) but I'm glad to know that tomorrow is Power Yoga. Not easy, but at least it's nice and slow :) It'll be a good change!
Had my healthy breakfast, packed a big salad for lunch, and will do either a hemp salad and/or veggie juice with dinner!
Having a dinner plan is key for me -- I have the motivation to be healthy in the mornings, but when I get home from work, that's when the munchies set it, and it's SO easy to just start grabbing snacks when I walk in the door. So, knowing what i'm going to make - and looking forward to it! - helps control that!
What sort of dinners do you look forward to?
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