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Day 554: Expensive Lesson(s)

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Well... there will be no DisneyWorld, at least not this January.

I won't be spending Christmas on the beach, or with my son and daughter-in-law, either.

We ran into a problem before we even left Manchester Airport.

Seems that Himself lacks a certain type of visa - I don't know yet if it's "more than" the one he's used the last few trips, and "less than" a full-blown green-card visa, or what. But point being - he doesn't have the right kind.

He can't be in the US more than 90 days, and in fact isn't supposed to be going in and out at will, at all frequently. He's supposed to have long... gaps between visits.

Because we retired and the house sold we thought we'd take an extra-long trip this time - first time ever in nearly fifteen years - and be over here for four months.

Not happening.

The expenses have been astronomical: we could not adapt the flights we had booked in order to change our return from 6 January to 14 December. Nor could we use our airmiles.

He had to flat-out buy a one-way ticket from Syracuse to Manchester, England. That's the most expensive way to buy airfare - one-way, that is - and that one ticket costs as much as our usual round-trip fare.

So we go back in mid-December, and don't know for sure when he can come back. We will have to start some kind of lengthy - and no doubt expensive - application process.

I know, in the grand scheme of things, this isn't the worst thing that can happen to someone. I know we're lucky that we had the spare money to make it work (if we hadn't, we would not have been allowed to fly at all that day, and would have lost both our multiple-destination airfares).

But this whole episode has not only ruined a very special trip, it has cost us dearly, eating up the travel budget for a year - and thrown a huge monkey wrench into the works for our plans to spend more time in the US, less time in the UK, and live in both places.

*sigh*

So thank you all for your input. You had me convinced it was a good idea, and the time was right, and I was oh-so-looking-forward to a grand finale to seeing the kids and being here for Christmas.

You know what Vonnegut said.

Meanwhile, back in The North Countree, more cans of worms have opened up than I knew existed... my crazy life.

'night, Sparklers, wherever you are...

  
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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 9/26/2014 12:02PM

    I am so sorry to read this...what an unfortunate turn of events and a tragic waste of money. emoticon

I hope that you can get the visa regulations clearly defined so that things can work for you. Maybe you can get airline tickets at least partially funded via the flights you had to miss.

As for DisneyWorld--I am sure it is hot and crowded ALL the time and an experience better enjoyed in the abstract---But that's just my opinion.

Truly sorry...

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LE7_1234 9/24/2014 11:07AM

    Ooof. Sorry about that.

US is so problematic when it comes to visas--but I did think it would be easier for spouses!

Not that the UK is always easier--I know someone who was sent back from the airport once because she had the wrong type of academic visa. (She now has "leave to remain", which is one of my favorite bureaucratic terms...)

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 9/24/2014 6:26AM

    What an awful, frustrating thing to have happen -- I'm with the cat, it just sucks. I admire your attempt to put it in perspective, but I'm sure you must be left with a lot of residual feelings that are best left unprinted. I'm with you. Travel just gets less and less fun as we try to comply with the various seen and unseen overlords.

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LECATES 9/24/2014 5:37AM

    I agree with your picture---what a bummer! Can you get help at the American embassy? I mean, you own property here and have a domicile there, it should not be that complicated---and how come others can come and stay with NO Visa and you all cannot? unreal! Contact your representative here in the US in the area where your mom's house is--see if they can help with the whole mess.

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BLUEJAY1969 9/24/2014 12:44AM

    I'm sorry your plans did not work out for you and it will be awhile before you can believe this but I believe in all things happening for a reason.
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LJCANNON 9/24/2014 12:32AM

    emoticon It was a Great Idea, the logistics and Realities of today's world just got in the way. I am so sorry, but I know that things will work out in the Best Possible way, even if it doesn't seem so right now.

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DEBIGENE 9/23/2014 9:20PM

    Oh my def not good news for you. I don't really understand the logistics of it all so I can't even ask questions that would make any sense.

But I am a bit confused as to where you are now and when you will be traveling to where you aren't now??

I do hope things work out in some reasonable way my across the pond friend.

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SROUS1340 9/23/2014 9:15PM

    I'm so sorry this trip didh't work out. And having to buy a one way ticket-I did once from Oslo to Dallas. It took me a year to pay it off.
Hugs to you and himself. Disneyworld will still be there when you get to it.

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PHOENIX1949 9/23/2014 9:09PM

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Curious if the modern phenomenon of tighter restrictions due to terrorist activities has brought this about. If so, this is a prime example of a few bad apples causing problems for many others. I am NOT in any way implying anything negative about your spouse -- questioning if he is a collateral victim of these crazy times.

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/23/2014 8:30PM

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Day 553: ISO Feedback

Friday, September 12, 2014

The house is sold, we're retired, a couple of potentially nasty health issues loom in the next couple of years, so while there's time - we're thinking of doing something that (for us) may be wild and crazy.

We're thinking of going to Disney World for four or five days, possibly a week.

Is this nutz?

We don't have any grandchildren yet (though Lord knows we're old enough, and have kids old enough, that we could well have been grandparents by now, lol), and there are no tag-alongs on this little jaunt, so it would just be the two of us - older, somewhat (ahem) mature couple sans children.

I've never been to DisneyWorld. When I was a kid my parents took us on a long cross-country trip (MD to CA) and we were lucky enough to spend a day at DisneyLand. But that was it. And I love Disney - everything.

Himself has never been to DisneyWorld, but also went to DisneyLand (as a young adult: he was a student on an internship to the US and visited CA for a few days). He's most keen on the Epcot Center, but is happy to go along with whatever I want to do.

Have you been to DisneyWorld? With kids / without kids? Did you enjoy it? Do you think it will spoil the fun if we are wandering around without kids in tow? Will we be viewed with apprehension, as if we were child-snatchers or something? Will people resent a couple of oldsters taking up places in line?

I'd like to think I'm savvy enough (and polite enough!) that if we go to a child-centered place we wouldn't expect it not to be noisy or crowded, that there will be strollers and kids running around. That's a given.

But... I have this yearning for a set of mouse ears. Probably wanted some since I was a tot watching The Mickey Mouse Club (Meeska Mouska Mouseketeer) where all of them - even Jimmy and Roy - had mouse ears.

It's on my bucket list.

But neither do I want to ruin the dream, y'know?

So don't tell me what I (obviously!) want to hear. Tell me what you think. Would YOU do it?



'ave a good 'un Sparklers - carpe diem!

  
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LEANJEAN6 9/23/2014 7:59PM

    I'd go to Disneyworld and have fun! Did you get to Ontario????--I looked for you up here--(LOL)=--but--you were a "no show"===(only kidding)-
Lynda

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LE7_1234 9/13/2014 11:28AM

    Do it!!

I was there once at about age 10, once when my twins were 10, and it would be great to be able to take grandkids there someday.



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LJCANNON 9/13/2014 12:22AM

    emoticon I agree, Go ... Enjoy ... And, Take LOTS of Pictures!!!

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LJCANNON 9/13/2014 12:21AM

    emoticon I agree, Go ... Enjoy ... And, Take LOTS of Pictures!!!

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DEBIGENE 9/12/2014 6:07PM

    I can be of no help with this one hon. I have never had the desire to go !!!

But sounds like you really want to so I think you should and I'm sure you will enjoy it.

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PHOENIX1949 9/12/2014 4:57PM

    Go! Enjoy!

Been there 5 times, 4 with spouse. Have no children -- one visit included a sister and her two children. EPCOT theme area with exhibits from other countries is an awesome way to travel. Fireworks displays awesome.

Hint: avoid high-peak season and school breaks. If affordable, staying on the grounds is a great time-saver (potential for mid-afternoon naps, avoiding vehicular traffic jams, etc.)

Look forward to your trip report blog.



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SROUS1340 9/12/2014 11:49AM

    I've also heard that Harry Potter World-universal studios I think
Is magical. Just think, you can go while
The kids are in school, and families are working!
Have a ball!

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CBRINKLEY401 9/12/2014 11:18AM

    I went once as a senior in high school, while visiting a friend who had moved to Florida.
Sounds like a WONDERFUL way to have fun!! No kids means you can do the things YOU want to do, take your time, and not have to worry about keeping track of them. You can just relax and enjoy yourself!!

You're never too old for Disney!! Have a great time!!

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DEBRITA01 9/12/2014 10:22AM

    You are never too old for Disney World...with or without kids in tow! Go, and have a blast. Gotta check those Mouse Ears off the bucket list, for sure! As you always say, seize the day... Can't wait to get your Disney report emoticon

p.s. and to answer your question...YES, I would definitely do it!

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BLUEJAY1969 9/12/2014 9:18AM

    GO! Have a blast! It will be so fun even without the kids - maybe more so because you don't have to do what they want and can focus on what rides you want to do and the things you want to see! I think it's a marvelous idea! I agree with ONEKIDSMOM about the people thinking you have kids right around the corner! I hope you have a great time!
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ONEKIDSMOM 9/12/2014 7:35AM

    Have you been to DisneyWorld? YES!

With kids / without kids? WITHOUT

Did you enjoy it? ABSOLUTELY!

Do you think it will spoil the fun if we are wandering around without kids in tow? Not at all.

Will we be viewed with apprehension, as if we were child-snatchers or something? Probably not... nobody knows you don't have grandkids around a corner somewhere!

Will people resent a couple of oldsters taking up places in line? If they do, it's THEIR problem, and they aren't very nice people.

Go, blessings. Enjoy every minute!


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FEEDTHEHUNGER 9/12/2014 6:53AM

    There are a ton -- literally -- of older folks roaming Disneyworld alone on any given day with nary a grandchild. You will not be viewed as abnormal, potentially dangerous perverts, but perfectly normal people out to enjoy the enchantment of a remembered childhood experience. There are so many parks at Disneyworld you should be able to entertain yourself for days and if you go when the kiddies are in school you'll really enjoy yourselves a lot!

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LECATES 9/12/2014 6:16AM

    Oh, you will have a blast---I want to go with you! LOL There is so much to do and see and you can do what you want---and you will WANT to do some of the kid rides---they are fun. And of course you have to do It's A Small World---it's a great way to relax and rest the legs. Splurge and stay on Disney property---it is so worth it--you have transportation to Disney parks and can come and go as you want. You will enjoy Epcot and make sure you get to the Fantasmic show at the MGM park. You are never too old for Disney!

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Day 552: Dates of Infamy...

Thursday, September 11, 2014

There are a few - December 7, 1941... November 22, 1963... September 11, 2001... You remember where you were, and the shock as comprehension washed over you.

And when the anniversaries arrive, you run across articles and photographs and film clips. Some of those last can get very elaborate, with carefully sequenced pictures and musical backgrounds and whatnot.

I often glance at such things, especially the photo-essays, but I don't usually pay too much attention. The simplicity of these two juxtaposed panoramas spoke to me, though. I'm posting the link on the chance some of you might enjoy them, too:

www.airpano.ru/files/Ground-Zero/2-2

'ave a good 'un, Sparklers - carpe diem!

  
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LE7_1234 9/12/2014 1:29AM

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LJCANNON 9/11/2014 11:41AM

    emoticon Thank You! The pictures were beautiful/sad!

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BLUEJAY1969 9/11/2014 11:22AM

    I know we need to never forget but I get so drawn into the past that I get down so I try to just focus on what I'm doing. It doesn't mean I don't remember the lives that were lost....... I will never forget. I just can't focus on it for too long. One of the foibles of having bipolar I guess.
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DEBRITA01 9/11/2014 7:22AM

    Remembering 9/11 and the innocent lives that were lost emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/11/2014 7:21AM

    65 years ago today, my parents said "I do" to taking one another in marriage. And yes, I remember where I was. I remember three very personal fleeting thoughts as I watched it unfold, not necessarily in that order:

1. I was grateful my parents were not alive to see "their day" marred.

and

2. With a wrenching gut... that I had a 17 year old son, and this would not be allowed to go unanswered.

and

3. And again with wrenching gut... Remembering family grief from the year we lost 3 close relatives within 75 days... OMG, there are THOUSANDS of families going through this, now.

Thank you for sharing the panoramas... "never forget".

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LECATES 9/11/2014 6:08AM

    Such a sad day---and the kids in high school now don't even remember it as they were too young.

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 9/11/2014 5:26AM

    A sad anniversary for the United States and the world and an even sadder commentary on the world we live in even now.

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PHOENIX1949 9/11/2014 2:43AM

    Thank you for sharing this. Two of my siblings and I were able to enter the top floor of the towers before they were officially opened -- courtesy of our Dad's WWII buddy, a Bronx native, with a 50-year career with the Port Authority. He had a helicopter ride from the top planned for us but the visibility was too low. On one of his visits to Texas he asked to mow our front lawn for the experience and proclaimed once was enough. 'Uncle Charlie' loved the towers and called them 'the twins' (unmarried with no children of his own).

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Day 551: Inspiration...

Thursday, August 28, 2014

...I take it where I find it:



'ave a good 'un, Sparklers - carpe diem!

  
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LEANJEAN6 8/31/2014 7:55AM

    Carpe diem girl!!!!!-----So nice to see yer blog featured!--How goes it?--Lynda

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JUNEBUG4967 8/30/2014 12:06AM

    I am always in need of this reminder! Thanks Kasey

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DEBRITA01 8/29/2014 12:27PM

    Laughter really is the best way to handle stress. Good quote, Kasey! emoticon

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SUSANNAH31 8/29/2014 5:50AM

    That's good advice.

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/28/2014 8:05PM

    Nice one, Kasey! Carpe yourself some diem, too! emoticon

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LJCANNON 8/28/2014 8:32AM

    emoticon So True!!

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CAPECODLIGHT 8/28/2014 8:17AM

    Hard sometimes, but absolutely true.

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 8/28/2014 7:37AM

    Laughing is a great way to exhale!

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LECATES 8/28/2014 6:08AM

    Loverly!

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ROX525 8/28/2014 5:58AM

    Great quote. Thank you for the reminder.

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BLUEJAY1969 8/28/2014 3:40AM

    Great quote!
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Day 550: The - Big - NEWS!!!

Thursday, August 21, 2014

We've been sitting on this for the better part of two months. Practically drove ourselves - and each other - nutz. So sure after that bitter, bitter experience in February that this, too, would fall through, and so reluctant to say anything. Superstitious? Not so's you'd notice. But we were so afraid we'd jinx everything.

But today, today was the day. It's over. It's done. Papers signed, money and keys exchanged. On their part elation and excitement. On our part elation and excitement. For me, a tremendous sense of relief - and for Himself too, along with a few tears.

He's spent 35 years in the house he designed.

It's the end of an era - and a brand-new beginning for us both.

  
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DEBIGENE 9/23/2014 9:14PM

    WOW, finally !!! Gee don't know how I missed this announcement but I'm glad to see it now and want the chance to congratulate you. Would like to hear more about the new diggs soon as well.

Learned all this from your new blog today which I am sorry to hear about the not so good news :-( Are you here in the states now? or perhaps you are back in the UK now?

I'm a bit confused. All the while being happy and sad both for you.



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CAPECODLIGHT 8/25/2014 10:27AM

    Hoping to have a similar feeling soon. We are moving to Boston (actually Cambridge). We have purchased a place there but are selling our existing small condo in Boston (fingers crossed that closes on Sept. 3) and our house on Cape Cod. I am in the throes of downsizing big time, putting things in storage, managing the renovation of the new place and generally pulling my hair out. Mantras of "this too shall pass" are said on a regular basis. Good luck on your new adventure!

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DEBRITA01 8/23/2014 4:30PM

    emoticon on the home sale. It's been a long road, full of ups 'n downs and all the emotions that go along with, but you both did it! God bless you both as you begin the next chapter of your life together.

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CBRINKLEY401 8/22/2014 10:40PM

    Congratulations. Letting go of the past, and opening yourselves up for new adventures and experiences. Can be a bit scary after so long, but exciting too!!

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 8/22/2014 7:14AM

    Wowser, Kaycee! That was a long and painful journey to success, kinda like my WLJ only with real money exchanged at the end. Good for both of you. I cannot imagine how tough it would be to leave a house you designed and lived in for 35 years -- a lifetime of memories and a cornerstone of security and familiarity. God bless himself for being able to move on and both of you for succeeding at doing what must have seemed impossible.

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NOWISTHEHOUR 8/22/2014 4:00AM

  Congrats, can't wait to hear where you move to. Hugs to G. Bittersweet x

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LJCANNON 8/22/2014 12:58AM

    emoticon Happy Dance for all of you!! What an Exciting Time!!

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WINE4GIRL 8/21/2014 9:19PM

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ANDI571 8/21/2014 8:50PM

    Wow, Congrats on the final signing, and good luck on a new era. I wish I was as brave.

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/21/2014 8:32PM

    emoticon I've been following the tale for a looong time! So glad it finally reached this point! emoticon

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SROUS1340 8/21/2014 8:21PM

    Congratulations!!! Can't wait to read the next chapter! emoticon

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NUTSNUTSGETEM 8/21/2014 3:54PM

    We had our house on the market for 10 months and sold in June. I know the relief you feel today! Congratulations!

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LECATES 8/21/2014 3:26PM

    Congrats!

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JUNEBUG4967 8/21/2014 3:14PM

    emoticon whats next for you and himself?
Btw we did the reverse on May 2

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