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The Harsh Truth About Struggles on the "Journey"

Friday, May 27, 2011

WARNING: Feel good blog, this ain't.
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I've done a lot of those, and they are great and definitely motivate a lot of people. But one of the things that is great about the blogging community at SparkPeople is that we individual members can tell the truth about the "journey" that the diet books, TV shows, and websites do not.

It's coming up on my 2 year anniversary at SparkPeople, and given this pregnancy and various other setbacks late in 2010 and early in 2011, my journey is still far from over. I didn't hit my goal weight, but I did manage to lose 110 lbs in less than a year and a half. I need to give myself the due credit for what I've accomplished here, even if I'm going to find myself back over 200 lbs (and then some) once I give birth and will have to restart again.

For those of us bigger gals and guys, the process seems so daunting. I know that when I first started, I unfairly judged people who were 150 lbs and struggling to drop 10 or so pounds. I felt like they could never relate to the emotional and physical battle that morbidly obese people are staring in the face. Now I see that it was my own insecurities talking and that no matter what your starting weight, we all feel the same way ("I need to lose weight!") even if our perceptions of what is "fat" differ. For me, I know I lost out on jobs, relationships, and friendships simply due to the fact that I was 100+ lbs overweight and I looked and THOUGHT like a fat person. While I didn't allow being obese to make me a recluse, I noticed every stare and snicker and snide comment. And instead of making me want to lose weight, it forced me into a defeatist spiral of overeating and laziness.

And then... EPIPHANY!

And at first, it seems like this SparkPeople weight loss "journey" is one big high. You track the food, you move the body, the weight falls off, you hit milestones and rewards, you find your body able to do things it once was unable to do. You meet people. They give you encouragement, you give them the same. There are race reports and non-scale victories. You inspire people. You look and feel great.

To be successful, you gotta keep that high for as long as you can, because it will subside, and no matter how bright your spark, it eventually will dim. I was lucky enough to hold onto that spark for nearly 18 months. I thought I was one of the lucky people who would never lose that momentum. But life happened, and indeed, I was halted and never quite overcame that inertia.

As the weight loss slows, so will the compliments and encouragement from friends, family and coworkers. Some of my fave comments: "Are you done losing?" "You're not THAT fat anymore, but don't you think you could lose a bit more?" "You're not THAT fat anymore, and you should stop losing weight; you look great the way you are now." "Those pants look a bit tight today." "Are you still running? Really?" "Are you sure you should be eating that?"

And you gotta take it in stride. You gotta adjust the routine. You gotta find something else that ignites your passion. You gotta come to terms that despite burning mega calories and tracking food religiously, your body wants to hold onto that last 50, 20, 10 or whatever pounds. You're going to get tired. And when this happens, something in your brain is going to tell you that "you might as well skip the gym because it's not doing anything anyway" and "you might as well get back in the habit of eating dessert every night because there's no point anymore." Or even worse, you might go the other way and severely restrict your calorie intake or decide to do (insert dangerous diet here) in order to see results.

And your body may never be perfect. Unless you're wealthy, you probably won't have the money for tummy tucks and skin removal and all the crap that the people in the "Half Their Size!" issue of People magazine employ to amaze you. And you need to come to terms with that fact and realize that you will be healthier... but not necessarily swimsuit ready. And the harsh truth that you have done permanent damage to your body is depressing enough to make many people want to quit

Because frankly, for us larger people with more to lose, it's never going to be a quick fix. We're on this road for the long haul, and no lantern, no matter how much fuel or power, can remain lit for an indeterminate amount of time. No person has it easy, no matter what the books and magazines tell you. There are supermen and women out there who can maintain that rah-rah attitude, but I can't imagine that there are very many of them. I truly believe that one of the things that is omitted from The Spark and other weight loss books is the inevitable struggle that you will face.

So now that you know the truth about the struggles, should it deter you?

Absolutely not. But you should recognize the warning signs of "healthy lifestyle fatigue" and spark dimming and try to nip them in the bud ASAP before they spiral out of control.

Do I ever think I will go back to being 288 lbs?

No, but does anybody think they will regain their weight? And yet it happens all the time.

So?

I gotta fight. We all just gotta fight.

  
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SACGIRL 8/23/2011 9:25AM

    I just re-read this blog and its so true. I too thought I would be one of the lucky ones cause it seemed I could keep it together, but then just like that my light burned out. I was tired of tracking everything, I was tired of limiting my food, and sometimes I got tired of running. And instead of giving myself a short break, I went on a long vacation...needless to say 20 pounds later, its been a very hard struggle for me. I feel like I'm starting from the beginning all over again. But it is what it is...I need to suck it up and do it. We know what worked for us before and we must go on.

I hope you and baby are doing well!

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ASHARON 8/14/2011 8:42PM

    wow , great blog. This fits for so many of us on the journey...and boy is it a journey.


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BRIOBRIO 8/14/2011 5:34PM

    This could be my story. I can definitely relate.

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MUGGLE_MOM 8/14/2011 4:59PM

    I really appreciate the truth in your blog. Its much better going into things with eyes open and expecting it.

Great blog. Thanks!

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CAROLYN1213 8/14/2011 4:40PM

    I love you more every time I read your words. BTW, you are one of the first women who inspired me on my journey and made me feel like all things were possible. Also, I have had moments when I did feel a little stuck, and for a moment thought it was hopeless. But, the very hardest day of eating healthy and exercising hard is still easier than the easiest day of the physical pain being obese caused me. Thank you for sharing your journey and congratulations to YOU!!!!

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_DASH_ 8/2/2011 4:28PM

    you said this wasnt a feel good blog, and yet at the end of it, i felt good. honesty is the truth man. i loved this blog.

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_DASH_ 8/2/2011 4:28PM

    dude. you're writing the book to end all other books. literally, physically and metaphorically. we are writing our own lives. nothing more hopeful to think about than that, huh.
god i love you.

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RAINTHIEF 7/31/2011 11:39PM

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FOXXYROXXYD 7/12/2011 3:15PM

    Tell it like it is baby.... I think the key thing we all need to remember is it truly is a journey, with all of it's ups and downs. I've been struggling all year and I have no illusions that this will be the last struggle. Just being on this journey and sticking with it in some way or another is, truly the reward.
Take care my friend!

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CAROLCRC 6/16/2011 1:17PM

    Yeah, sometimes I think the hardest fact to face is that every day is "day one" of a healthy lifestyle. We just want to be done and not have to think about it any more...

And eventually you will hear someone who is overweight say to you "well, it's easy for you - you're naturally slim" (or active, or whatever).

Motivation comes and goes - but if you let it, it will come back.

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JOPAPGH 6/16/2011 11:14AM

    Agreed. I have kept the exercise up but faltered on the nutrition side and most of the weight returned. Trying to reignite the Spark is harder the second time (or third, fourth, etc...)

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WE_PA_FIT 6/16/2011 8:48AM

    This blog is deep. healthy lifestyle fatigue= it's real. it's hard. it never ends.





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TERRIREDUX 6/14/2011 3:19PM

    wow. thank you. I posted a "complaining" blog about wanting to be skinny NOW - yet recognizing that I have to live healthy day to day until ... eventually ... I reach a weight below the one I'm at now. It takes time to get healthy...it takes time to lose the weight...and along the way enthusiasm will wane. You are right. When it wanes, it must be nipped in the bud before it spirals into disaster.

We are all where we are because of negative thoughts of one kind or another. To get positive, even when we don't have the strength...that's the battle. and thankfully we have others who are on the same ride with us.

Thank you for your honesty. It's nice to see it!

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WYND10 6/11/2011 4:35PM

    Thanks Kristina...I've been fighting the fatigue since the beginning of the year and still haven't seem to regain my spark, but I keep fighting. Thank you so much for writing this, it's good to know I'm not alone. And THAT is what Spark is all about.



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SUPERFAN99 6/8/2011 11:20PM

    Fab post. I relate 100%.

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CORTNEY_NAMASTE 6/7/2011 4:18PM

    It is so nice to read another Sparkers blog that speaks to my soul. I always feel so guilty for wanting to put the "reality" out there some days.

Some days it is downright depressing that I will have to FIGHT for the remainder of my days on this earth to be healthy.

I believe the fight is worth it, however, it does not make it any easier.

I just appreciate the heck out of this blog and think it's refreshing to be able to talk about the struggle. Recognizing it makes me feel more normal and thus makes it easier to cope with. It always help to have others along to "fight the good fight"

Good luck to you and thank you.

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SPUNKYDUCKY 6/6/2011 4:37PM

    Yup, I got the "Are you still working out" comment at a conference this week - ouch! But I am tyring to use it for a reality check, because the truth is, no not as much...big surprise that my ticker is up a little. I am a big fan of the truth even when it hurts.

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MOMMYFOTLAND 6/5/2011 2:11PM

    Girl, you are singing my song right now. I had two babies in two years, and I feel like I'll never get back to the weight I got to. I was once 384 pounds, and then maintained somewhere around 200 pounds for about 7 years. Then, I had the two babies. It's been almost 4 months since my last one was born and I am stuck, stuck, stuck at 240 right now. Everyone keeps saying I need to give my body time to adjust, blah, blah, blah...but being formerly "super morbidly obese" this is super scary territory for me. I'm running. I can run 4 miles now for the first time in my life. I am blasting through the calories - so says my bodybugg. But I feel like my body is at war with itself and everytime I restrict calories, I seriously struggle in all aspects. I was actually looking for your page to give me some inspiration. Staying on the path 18 months is quite an accomplishment, because after not losing a damned pound in 3 months, I'm discouraged - despite how "fit" it appears I am with all the running. I wanted to see how YOU keep on going. I wanted to see if you had war with yourself and calories, or did you just run and let the calories take care of themselves? I eat dense foods - I stay away from refined - and feel that the types of foods I eat are definitely in check. In fact, I'm eating the same foods that helped me maintain for 7 years, and I'm happy with that - until I see the scale and I start to feel "less than" because I can't lose weight consistently. Anyhow, just sharing in your misery at the moment, but I do want to tell you, try not to worry SO much and just enjoy this upcoming little one. Pregnancy is NOT a setback, but a celebration. My pregnancies tortured my body, 2x's in a row, and now I vow to never be pregnant again because I feel that physically it ruins me. But my heart sings for my three girls, and I have to remind myself to enjoy this time with them. They are only this small once. Even though, I'm counting the days until the youngest one can go to the childcare at the gym, so I'm less "limited" on my running time. That's so backward, I should be more worried about being "limited" on my mommy time. Anyways, I've rambled enough, I just want you to know I "feel" you!

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PERSISTENT_GIRL 6/3/2011 10:38PM

    wow Karvy! amazing blog!! I get "healthy lifestyle fatigue" way too often and you are right, we must continue to fight!

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SPARKYCARLEY 6/3/2011 8:33PM

    You are so awesome! Thanks for the inspiration.

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LUCKYONE60 6/3/2011 4:14PM

    Oh, you Beautiful Girl...Thanks for putting it out there and knowing that you will be recieved. You don't always have to be "up" for us; we can lift YOU up sometimes. You are here and fighting and will continue. Because it is a good fight.

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GETFIT2LIVE 6/3/2011 11:03AM

    Amen, sister, amen. I have been at this long enough now and did it before (gained all the weight back) that I am acutely aware of the struggle. It is one that we have to be ready to face the rest of our lives, quite honestly; there will be ups, downs, bumps, and some U-turns that have to be made along the way. We have to be ready to handle them as they come if we seriously want to change our lives.

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TWINKS1968 6/2/2011 9:57PM

    Today is my first day on SparkPeople and I'm so glad I read your post. I feel like I could have written it myself. I've learned some hard lessons in my life and I think I do a pretty good job of 'managing my expectations'. I want to apply that concept to this part of my life. It certainly doesn't mean that I have low expectations, but part of my expectations are that I know there will be highs and lows. I'm ready.

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SANDYPERM 6/2/2011 11:17AM

  You are oh so right. It is a life long commitment and there are always those bad stretches. I have lost and gained lots of pounds by using "other diets". It all comes down to genetics and lifestyle choices. We just need to realize you always will need to work on this.

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ELENA_DIEM 6/2/2011 11:02AM

    I'm glad I read this today. I am currently experiencing a lot of "healthy lifestyle fatigue" and feel pretty lost.

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LUBAML 6/2/2011 10:31AM

    " Create the highest....Grandest vision for your life because you become what you believe... " Oprah Winfrey.
We gotta fight!!! I love that. I'm with you! You go girl! Life is beautiful!!! emoticonLuba

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ONEWAYSTREET 6/2/2011 10:03AM

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Just hangin' in there... is what we do...

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ASSYRIA1 6/2/2011 9:22AM

    thanks for speaking the sobering truth. sometimes i feel like such a loser because it feels like i need to rekindle my "spark", every 15min it seems... but i do it. it's work, it's overwhelming, time consuming, and alot of times i honestly feel burnt out by the "journey". BUT, nothing motivates like results...so i keep rekindling. thanks again for your words, i really enjoy your writing :)

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CALIKIKI 6/1/2011 10:44PM

    It may not be a feel good blog but it a feel the truth blog. What a way to put into words what I have been battling the past few months.

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SPARTANBABE 6/1/2011 7:04PM

    I love this! Feel good and Not :o)

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OVERBURDEND 6/1/2011 6:36PM

    Thank you for this blog. Life has been getting in the way alot lately and my Spark is starting to dim. But your blog really makes me stop and think, This is not the end just because I've had a few bumps, I just need to adjust.
Thank you so much!

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KERLIN26 6/1/2011 5:41PM

  You're right about all of this. The only thing to do is keep on, keepin on.

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TIGGERJEAN 6/1/2011 4:43PM

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It's hard to keep fighting. Thank you for your honesty and the clarity. It's good to know we're not alone. I'm back after an 'I really don't care' sort of winter and it's going to be an uphill battle to maintain momentum.

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FLGIRL1234 6/1/2011 3:39PM

    So true and so well written. Your exactly spot on with this whole journey...it never actually ends. We just gotta find our inner Energizer Bunny....and keep going and going and going.
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MOLLI15 6/1/2011 3:36PM

    You always have such spot on blogs! Thank you, thank you!

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YOOVIE 6/1/2011 2:54PM

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AALIYANA1 6/1/2011 10:44AM

    This is my 2nd time going around the diet world. My first was after my first baby. Most think you can just lose all the weight. But it really isn't possible for some of us. I did lose some though... then got pregnant again. (just my luck :) ) After having baby #2, I came to the same conclusion as you. Everything is a struggle. You just have to be positive and keep sharing your experiences. :)
good luck.

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CHINTZ8 6/1/2011 12:49AM

  i am new to this site and thank you for being real , this is my 3rd round of losing a large amount of weight so i am am going to scream and kick all the way but with inspiration like allof you i know i can .. emoticon

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FREDDIE_13 6/1/2011 12:00AM

    Im glad you wrote this, put it all out there. This is the very strugle I am dealing with right now. Eighty pounds down, and gained back 20. And how? I lite my Spark grow dim, and cant seem to find a way to re-light it.

Thanks for always being a LIGHT!!

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TWEETIBEAR 5/31/2011 11:43PM

    Amen, sistah!!!!

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SMYGIRLPOWER 5/31/2011 11:31PM

    Thank you for this! I'm back after several months of being away and going through what I can only describe as a depression this winter. I've gained 20 lbs - back to the weight I was when I started SP in January of last year. It is hard to face that fact, but I am and I need to move forward. It is a journey - you are right about that.

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_UMAMI_ 5/31/2011 11:30PM

    Great blog, and congrats on your weight loss.

It's true--don't expect perfection, just because you get to a "good" weight. My lowest weight post-pregnancy was 157, about 8 years ago. That was a good weight for my 5'10" frame, but I *still* had a little belly and wasn't happy! (ha ha ha ha, want to stab myself for that)

Ended up gaining it back. Good to have other goals, not "perfect body" for goal.

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GMO_JEN 5/31/2011 11:15PM

    Amazing blog!

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GIRLKITTY79 5/31/2011 10:53PM

    Thank you for sharing!!

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SCRAPPER1124 5/31/2011 10:18PM

    Love this blog. Just what I needed after a month off the "program". emoticon

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CHRISKENANDKIDS 5/31/2011 8:51PM

    Amen girl! You are exactly right but we still go through each day fighting the good fight. My favorite comment is "You're going to waste away to nothing" even though I still have 30 pounds to lose to be in a healthy BMI. I think a lot of the comments come from people who are envious that you/we are doing well and wish they could find the motivation. What they don't realize is that each and every one of us has the motivation inside of us - we just have to find it. I lost over 50 pounds before I got pregnant with my youngest and gained it all back and 30+ pounds more to reach my heaviest weight at 233. Now I'm done having children and tired of getting fat and having to lose it again so I'm in for the long haul no matter how long it takes. You can absolutely do it! Just keep on going and do what you need to do. Forgive yourself for any bad days and get back on track as best as you can. Good luck!

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TMW54812 5/31/2011 8:12PM

    Thanks for keepin it real. You have a real gift in how you write. Having lost 100+ lbs twice before I remember how much of a buzz I got from complements and how I felt when I maintained my goal weight and became just another person in a normal size body. Both times I lost the weight very fast so the difference was dramatic. This time the weight comes off much slower and people who see me frequently hardly notice a 40 lb weight loss(over five months).
You are a miracle in progress!

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DESERTFLOWERG 5/31/2011 7:31PM

    My motivation decreased once my physical appearance was good. Many people suggested my weight was too low. . . not because I was anywhere near "skinny"but because we are used to seeing people my age carry excess weight. I was carrying less excess weight than many, but my weight was not optimum. I am now up about 10 pounds from the lowest weight I reached during my sparklife and I am fighting to get back down and continue to my goal. It is a struggle, but I don't plan on giving up.

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MOSTMOM1 5/31/2011 7:23PM

    Fight the good fight!

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KATHLEENLYNN 5/31/2011 7:05PM

    The most important thing I did for myself was actually reach my goal weight of 118 at the age of 23. It was a huge undertaking, which was successful with the help of a one-on-one health and nutrition medical doctor. I had lost almost 100 pounds after always having been a "chubby" girl. That did something to my mindset and metabolism. Succeeding at what I thought was impossible helped me maintain that shape for over 3 decades. Then menopause, hysterectomy, depression over lost relatives, divorce, and other life changing events hit me like a lead brick. I ballooned up in my weight to over 200 pounds, heavier than I had ever been in my youth. I lost my spark, and thought I could never get it back. I'm working on it now. I want to be healthy and be able to play with my grandkids.

I'm with you on the "lows". Having been on both sides of the fence, I realize how important losing that last 10 pounds can be, which directly relates to those people who are trying to maintain, or have less than 20 pounds to lose. Reaching your goal helps you move from the obsession with being fat, the focus on food, and everything related to weight management. You just start living. It's tough to get there.

I know what I've done before I can do again. You can. We all can. But getting there ain't easy!

Thanks for your reality check and insight with our shared struggle!

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The Bitter Taste

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Members can promote dangerous diets with hormone injections.

Members can encourage diets that basically border on anorexia.

But God forbid that someone post a photo of someone wearing the same amount of clothing as someone stepping on the scale on The Biggest Loser... it might damage the company's reputation for big national sponsors.

It's not about pounds and ounces. It's about dollars and cents. Bottom line.

You might have noticed I haven't been blogging as much lately. One reason is life has gotten extremely busy. The other is that ever since the HcG blog, I've been disenchanted with blogging. I was told by SparkPeople not to report the HcG blogs because it was merely others' "personal experiences." Even though those experiences talked about the "wonderful results" from eating 500 calories! In the meantime, it seems like Spark is on the lookout for anything risque, sexy, or self-promoting. Trainers are shut down all the time, for example, and people are asked to remove links to fundraising or business websites. And it has become clear that the 40-something mom demographic is the preferred one. Today SparkPeople asked YOOVIE to remove a photo of someone in a sports bra. She is attacked and disparaged by other members for her views and yet, when she responds, she is told to take down the comments and blogs.

But yet, some people can promote whatever they want... www.dailyspark.com/blog.asp?post=let
s_welcome_the_dailysparks_newest_blogger


Money, money, money, money.

But interestingly enough, SparkPeople makes money off of all of us. Page views from visiting our blogs and pages. So when Chris Downie said today that he was concerned about "potentially VERY large partners who could help us help millions of additional people where they asked about our policies when it comes to member-generated content/photos because they had not done other types of partnerships because of these exact issues. I'm talking about big national names who could completely change the course of our company" he made his motivation very clear.

Dollar, dollar bills y'all.

I'm grateful for SparkPeople for being able to meet so many wonderful people and I always will be. But bottom line... it's YOU that made all the difference in my weight loss journey and allowed me to be successful. YOU. The real people with real thoughts and stories and successes and downfalls (aka "user generated content"). YOU are the reason I started running, was able to shed over 100 lbs, and was able to motivate so many others. It's the chain reaction of user generated content that makes this site successful. If everything on SparkPeople was merely sanitized stories about working out and eating right... would you stay?

While I'm grateful to SparkPeople, this whole thing has left a bad taste in my mouth and I don't know if I'll ever get it out. That's all.

  
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RUNCHOOSE 9/6/2011 1:45PM

    Thanks for the blog. The question is what alternatives to SparkPeople are out there?

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LILLY_F 5/28/2011 3:21PM

  Thanks for standing up to Spark People about allowing members to promote dangerous diets on the website.

I've turned in some blogs and personal pages where people were evangelizing how great a starvation diet that's been in the news quite a bit lately supposedly was, and the Spark People staff never bothered to respond or do anything about it.

It's sad that Spark People allows that sort of thing to go on, but it certainly shows where their priorities are -- it's all about the $$$$$$$.

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CINCYDORA 5/26/2011 3:47PM

    Count me as a member of the choir. The articles and news get old after the first year. Things repeat too often. 3 year old articles are highlighted as if new. More advertising is creeping into the official blogs and I find myself coming back mainly for the people. And I too thank you for your bluntness in addressing the dark side of the Sparkworld.

A confession: I have used the report option. I think it's important to have. In one case it was a guy with a 2 day old page that had 10 posts on random message boards saying "is anyone using Diet Med X? I think it's fabulous." Obvious troll. Reported him. The only other time I used it was for people posting dismissive and unhelpful comments on one of my favorite threads that lazy people often misinterpret. On each of those occasions I first made an attempt to contact the people directly, then reported them when they wouldn't take the posts down.

In my opinion, if you aren't willing to go to a person directly to address an issue, then it obviously isn't a big enough problem to warrant reporting to the ultimate authority. Isn't part of the Spark program about addressing our issues head-on? Then why be such a chicken about controversy?

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JENN26POINT2 5/26/2011 1:55PM

    I'm in complete agreement as well. I'm glad she's back.

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MEGSFITNESS 5/25/2011 5:08PM

    I don't *get* it at all--why they would allow someone to post about starving themselves in such a good light but they wouldn't allow a photo of someone who has lost weight the healthy way that Spark promotes. If ANYTHING it's promoting spark! And increasing page views lol ;D

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RAYMOND430 5/21/2011 6:13PM

  As far as I am concerned, if Spark People is allowing individuals that are doing the 500 calorie HCG diet or any other starvation diet to have a support team, they have abandoned their mission to promote healthy eating and lifestyle changes.

I will continue to report any page or blog that praises HCG and maybe one day the Spark People big shots will get the cobwebs out of their head and do something about it!


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LILLY_F 5/21/2011 1:31PM

  I have lost a LOT of respect for Spark People over the fact that they allow people to praise the HCG diet and they even allow space on their website for teams where they can encourage each other to starve on 500 calories a day. They did finally decide to make the HCG teams private, but still........

I would encourage you to keep reporting blogs and personal pages that have HCG in the title, as they have made some of those individuals remove the "HCG" from the title.

Beyond that, I saw a post the other day where some people are encouraging others to email the FDA to do more about getting over-the-counter HCG products taken off the market, and are emailing state medical boards about closing down the HCG diet clinics-- HCG has never been approved by the FDA as a weight loss drug. With your background in law, maybe you can help with that project. I really hate to see people waste their money and risk their health on a diet plan that's outright fraud!






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BOOTS1221 5/20/2011 12:54PM

    Woahh there's some heated discussion in here!!

@GRACE - umm, isn't that exactly what you're doing here?? Just as STLRZGRRL said?!?!

And I am FLABBERGASTED at the response on GRACE's page to what STLRZGRRL had to say. Whether or not you agree with someone does NOT give you the right to be SO rude to/about them! Are people really like that?!

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FRIZGIRL 5/20/2011 12:27PM

    Hmmm, are they going to sensor the blogs of the 105 lbs skinny girl with boob jobs in bikinis? I think not. And personally, I hope not. I hope they show 300 lb guys/gals in bikinis (lol, well not the guys)... I hope they can then show those same guys/gals 100 lbs lighter in another skimpy outfit and then another 50 or whatever they have to lose. A lot of times when people have a lot of weight to lose, you don't notice it. Someone could lose 50 lbs and people would just start noticing. If you see a side by side of the same person in a swimsuit, then you'll most likely see every 10 lb change and then be able to comment and encourage them. Maybe they'll stick with it when they may have gotten discouraged because no one noticed all their hard work and effort.

Seeing people's bodies change over 1-2-3+years of being active on spark is part of what keeps me coming back. I love being encouraged by other's success! And that includes seeing them at their "worst". I have much more respect for a 120 lb healthy person who lost weight than I am for the 120 lb person who has never understood what it was to be bigger or to be judged by society or have physical limitations.

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KARVY09 5/20/2011 9:42AM

    This is my blog for my opinions. You're free to write that you disagree, but attacking me is a whole other ballgame. I might debate your viewpoint, but I never have personally attacked anyone on this website and I expect others to extend me the same courtesies.

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CALEXICA 5/20/2011 3:00AM

    Your blog is interesting. I was wondering about 'And it has become clear that the 40-something mom demographic is the preferred one" I'm just wondering how you came to that conclusion, just based on what you said.

As an experienced online community manager (not here, in a different type of atmosphere) I can tell you firsthand that everyone assumes that there is some kind of bias going on when it comes moderating online communities. Always. Anytime I had to take action the reply was "you're playing favorites". But isn't always the case. Their support team has to decide to take action, or not take action. Either way, they are being forced to take a side. Sometimes, the person who has to decide in these subjective conflicts makes a bad judgement call. I think that's what happened with the sports bra image. It was an overreaction, but often it isn't due to a bias. The person on the other end most likely had no personal or financial investments in the situation. For all I know the person who decided HCG topics were allowed could be a different person, and they may not even realize these two SP conflicts are connected. Just a theory.

In terms of all the drama, I just don't understand why people can't just stick with those on their own side and leave the other side alone. Everyone can make their arguments on their own page, and no one should feel compelled to try to change minds through anger. Let everyone just say what they want to say and agree to disagree.

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STLRZGRRL 5/19/2011 5:55PM

    Well, I see Grace is a comment deleter , so I'll ask her here what I tried to ask her on her own page:

@GRACE: Did you seriously post this: "Who has the right to go to someone else blog and tell them how wrong they are? Oh, that's right some people think they are JESUS." on Karvy09's blog?

ON. HER. BLOG? Did I miss it or are you walking on water these days?

Excuse me Madame, I don't care if you inject pregnant lady pee or smack into your veins every day from now until Kingdom Come but for the love of everything that's holy, why would you evangelize for people to kill themselves on a diet of 500 calories a day and then expect to be congratulated for it?

Unbelievable.

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KAISERSOZE 5/19/2011 12:07PM

    Wait, what?! I take a mini-hiatus and when I come back I find out that Yoovie left and now you're thinking about leaving?!

It is aggravating that people so postitive and motivating and just straight up nice are bullied by Chris and Nicole and other admins from Spark. You're right, their decision to censor is based 100% on money. It's too bad they can't be consistent with their rules.

I'm just now coming around to this site again and while I'll be sad if you're not here for much longer I do want to say that I have appreciated everything you have taught me. Keep your chin up, keep on rockin' it and know that you will be successful at anything you put your mind to!

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ROCKMAN6797 5/19/2011 3:31AM

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RUNJEWELRUN 5/17/2011 2:25PM

    I agree, can I link to you on my blog? I think everyone needs to read this.
Thanks!

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CUPPY42 5/17/2011 1:16PM

    I miss Yoovie - I didn't log on for a couple days and then she was gone! Please don't leave too! I agree with you about the dangers of HCG... so does the FDA (article from USA Today --- http://www.usatoday.com/yourlife/fi
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Please don't go!!!!!

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MISTYMOVIN 5/16/2011 7:24PM

    This is a reason I decided to move to privacy. I'm here for me. It would be nice to motivate people as well, but well, that's what the friend's option is for huh? At least then I know I have common ground.

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LEAN-N-LEXY 5/16/2011 11:50AM

    Yup, that yucky metallic taste for me too.

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TIFFYFANNY 5/16/2011 9:50AM

    I totally agree with you, and I don't know what happened to Yoovie, but I thought her blogs were FABULOUS. It is a tad ridiculous that everyone is being censored on here now.

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GRACEISREADYNOW 5/16/2011 8:44AM

  Your such a hater. Really stop reading the blogs. It is really affecting you. Go save starving children or rant about gas prices. It makes no sense to be so boitrous about a diet that you don't LIKE. To all the people who don't like HCG go read someone else material on what you do agree with. I cannot believe how many people sit around stalk HCG blogs just to patronize. I lost 32lbs went from 202 to 170 and I couldn't be happier. I really wish you the best with your personal journey. Maybe if you put the same energy into your lifestyle as you do others you'd be happier. I'm happy with my body and myself. I don't have to take time away from my 5 month old daughter and 8 year old son to be thin. But to all who have a problem with that I say respectfully screw you and go bother other people. Take your anti HCG thoughts and be miserable other places. Who has the right to go to someone else blog and tell them how wrong they are? Oh, that's right some people think they are JESUS. Please be blessed and mind your business. I I won't waste anymore time on you. Go ahead report me if you like because yes I'm an HCG fanatic! emoticon

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KATHIERAE 5/15/2011 9:38PM

    I AM an (almost) 40 something Christian Mom and I adore Yoovie! No matter what demographic this site is "after" freedom of speech is still a freedom and should be regarded as such. I've poured MY heart out in my blogs, and bet I have offended. Yet because I have such a small audience comparatively no one notices. Yoovie got crapped on, pure and simple. It stinks and I want her back!!

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ALOFA0509 5/15/2011 12:04PM

   
Your awesome sista!!!!

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GLAMOURGIRL-9 5/15/2011 9:37AM

    Excellent!!!!! emoticon

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RUNNINGNP2B 5/15/2011 9:04AM

    Love this blog. You have such a way of putting how we all feel into a well written blog. Spark is all about the bottom line. And I'm completely with you on the new daily guest blogger. No self promotion right Spark?

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CANNIE50 5/14/2011 11:32PM

    I don't think being a 40 something mom means someone is narrow-minded. I have read a number of blogs about the controversy involving Yoovie and I have yet to see anyone step forward and admit to being glad that she is gone, or own up to reporting her - I wish they would step up. So, my question is, do we actually know the demographics of those involved? 40 something moms often have a lot of wisdom and a great perspective, in my opinion. I can't speak to the financial motives of SP because I simply don't know enough about the behind the scenes operation of the company. I am very grateful for Sparkpeople so I will leave it at that.

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FIRESTARINFINI 5/14/2011 8:11PM

    Why isn't this on the dailyspark?

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GOGETTERME 5/14/2011 7:12PM

    I'm so frustrated and angry that Yoovie felt so bullied she left. I was a huge fan and I'm pretty disgusted with SparkPeople right now. Thanks for the great blog. I hope your words reach the masses. SparkPeople is a profit making site but if we leave out of protest they will tank. Yoovie had more fans than foes and that is Spark's bread and butter. Thanks again for your blog. You said it well and I'm so disenchanted myself right now.

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DOKEYOKEY 5/14/2011 3:10PM

    Maybe part of the solution is for everybody who is unhappy about this to complain directly to SP. If it's about money -- of course it is -- they won't want to lose membership.

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CHRYS13 5/14/2011 12:35PM

    Well said!!

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BEACHGIRL1205 5/14/2011 12:34PM

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and everything that you are saying is true. Something similar happened to another Spark Friend of mine....it was about promoting her business. One day she was a member of Spark and the next day she was deleted without an explanation. If she hadn't contacted me directly I would have been wondering where she went....even she didn't get an explanation!! Yoovie was really special and will be missed by many....if this website changes too much I may be leaving too. This whole episode has also left a bad taste in my mouth....it makes me really sad. I got in trouble from one of the coaches because I'd been reported for having an illegal link....I'd put the Challenge Name that I was doing in a link instead of my sig line....I didn't know I'd done anything wrong and couldn't figure out why they were so unhappy with me....didn't like the way that was handled either!!
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4EVERFIT011 5/14/2011 11:30AM

    You stated this so eloquently. Thank you. It is the people and reading about the struggles and triumphs that keeps me here. I really believed this site was different but it may turn out to be all about the $$$ after all.

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YINYANGSJM 5/14/2011 11:05AM

    Very well written (as always). I just came back from vacation and found Yoovie gone and couldn't figure out wtf was going on. It's definitely the people that keep me coming back here. It's the success stories and experiences shared by my spark friends that keep me going on this journey. I can get exercise info anywhere, it's the day to day experiences and results that help me the most. It's too bad the people in charge don't pay attention to that!!

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MISSROCKABILLY 5/14/2011 10:46AM

    You took the words right out of my mouth. Very well said.

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ANEPANALIPTI 5/14/2011 6:36AM

    Poso oraia ta les.... :(

Makes me sad actually. Ugh.

ps. (especially that tiffany point.... i mean, REALLY????)

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SM-ARTGIRL 5/14/2011 3:12AM

    Yes and yes. Yoovie has disappeared today too.
I started here end of 09 & I love my spark friends too.
I have noticed more and more "articles" that are badly disguised ads for products in recent months.
I wish Spark would get back to basics: aka: people first, big business last.
Love ya Karvy, you have inspired so many,
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KALISWALKER 5/14/2011 2:23AM

    Wow I had no idea all this was going on. I am subscribing so I get updates.

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HEATHER_TEACHAH 5/14/2011 1:27AM

    Karvy, I love you, lady. You have ever-so-eloquently stated the truth.

I wouldn't be where I am today w/ out YOU-- my sparkfriends turned real friends. Sparkpeople was the medium, but we made this site what it is and I'm so grateful to have met you and changed because of it!!

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TAYGRL 5/14/2011 1:14AM

    two words for you--RIGHT ON...

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_UMAMI_ 5/14/2011 12:32AM

    I've been around SP for YEARS (and yes, the weight has gone and come back---*sob*) and it is definitely a changed place.

I have a feeling that this will be more detrimental to SP than it will be to Yoovie. I don't think she will bend her standards for bucks. Er, I mean dollars, not dudes.

So, let's see what happens w/ SP and if we still hold it in high regard after this. Perhaps not, if it goes the way of most companies (sold out ethics for $).



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SAFARIBABE 5/13/2011 10:44PM

    Very well said and well written. I see you won a most popular blog award, yet somehow I have to believe that yours won't be featured on the Daily Spark at the end of the week. Shame that!

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ELISEL 5/13/2011 5:09PM

    Great blog. I feel totally out of the loop on this, but I hope you continue to use the site for what you can and filter of all of the BS.

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ELEPHANTGIRL75 5/13/2011 3:19PM

    Why is a sports bra more obsene than a bikini top? Doesn't make sense to me. Although I didn't see the actual photo, I can't imagine it being that bad. I'm a bit annoyed about the HCG thing as well as some of my friends have done it and insist it's not the diet that makes it work. I just keep my mouth shut now as it's pointless to argue about it but agree that it shouldn't be allowed on this website that is supposed to promote healthy weight loss. I love your blogs so hope you'll continue them, but understand if you decide differently.

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ERINTHEROCKSTAR 5/13/2011 3:14PM

    I totally agree with you - it's the real peoples stories that have inspired me - Yoovie's as well as yours and countless others. This whole thing is just sad.

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RUNNER4LIFE08 5/13/2011 11:31AM

    Wow.... I am gone from the site for one day and I end up missing alot. Very well stated blog Karvy!

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KNH771 5/13/2011 10:55AM

    Well said. emoticon

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SEPPIESUSAN 5/13/2011 10:46AM

    Hi there, I don't know all the background to this issue (though this is the 2nd blog that's mentioned it that I've seen this morning), so maybe I shouldn't comment. However, SP is FREE to use, and I've always been so hugely appreciative of that. If it weren't free I probably would have never come back after my first slip-up. I still love SP!

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SACREROUGE 5/13/2011 10:40AM

    " If everything on SparkPeople was merely sanitized stories about working out and eating right... would you stay?
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To answer that, no. Because then it would be like online shape magazine. I don't feel like shape or fitness truly speak to me, because it just seems like I'm not the woman they're selling to. I always thought spark was different.

Them telling you to back off the HcG blogs leaves a bad taste in my mouth. If someone was promoting eating nothing but cabbage soup and running in a vinyl suit for weight loss would they let that kind of crap slide too?


I think the way you are sticking up for YOOVIE shows part of what makes spark different than the other tracking sites, the community. Reading your posts inspired me to become the slow runner I currently am becoming, regardless of size .
Taking that away, removing the human element, and if they're so concerned about $, they're really going to see everyone leave except that target demographic you mentioned up there

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JUDIL62 5/13/2011 10:37AM

    Well Said!

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BETT2U 5/13/2011 10:34AM

    In the words of my therapist, "first you're a witch and then you fly!" I hear you and good for you on spreading the word and stirring the soup. I hate it when people aren't realistic and shove secrets under the rug or censor others. Honor your truth, mama!

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Do What You Can ... But Know When to Push!

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Today is a "do what you can" day.

What the heck is that?

Well, I woke up early, but not toooo early. I thought, oh, it'd be nice to get to the gym this morning and ride bikes for a bit!

emoticonBut you'd only be able to get a 30 minute workout in! It's hardly worth it!
emoticon30 minutes is still a good start to the day. Do what you can!

So, I throw clothes into my bag and lace up my sneakers. Should I make my lunch?

emoticonNow you're really pressed for time! Just get something at work!
emoticonHow long does it really take to throw some leftover chicken on top of some that tabouleh for lunch? While you're at it, and bring that tub o' Greek yogurt and a pack of blackberries and throw a frozen bagel in there too.

Throw the lunch in a separate bag and jump in the car, head into the gym. The bike I usually ride is broken!

emoticonHa, what a futile exercise this has been! You could have been relaxing this whole time.
emoticonJust get on the elliptical with the arm weights! And kill two birds with one stone...

Elliptical it is. Shower, change, climb the five flights of stairs to the car, and drop off my sweaty gym clothes. At work, I realize I left my lunch and breakfast in the car!

emoticonHAHAHA, you knew I had to win one, right?
emoticonYou can still get something good for you today...

So I've got an egg and bacon on an English muffin and some fresh fruit and a nice tall coffee with skim milk and I'm typing this blog. It might not have worked out the way I initially thought, but I did the best I could. Some days might be "pushing it" days, where you want to be perfect or do as much as you can or a little extra than the norm to prove to yourself that you're amazing!

But some days (like today), I just did what I could and made the best decision for me given what I had in front of me at the time. In this LONG journey to better ourselves, don't let perfect become the enemy of good. Don't throw your hands up when things inevitably go wrong.

Just do the best you can. Amirite?

  
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GENDUN 8/23/2011 4:06PM

  I love this. It is so 'real.' One gets tired of the same glossy optimism that does not address the realities we face. Thank you!

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LIQUIDFLAME 5/15/2011 10:04AM

  What an inspiring attitude!

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GLC2009 4/22/2011 2:03AM

    emoticon ROTFL........Love it.

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TAKINBACKMYBODY 4/20/2011 9:57PM

    You are right!! Way to go! -Shanna emoticon

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LYCABEL 4/20/2011 3:09PM

    This is a neat blogpost. Very motivational. Way to go, girl. Keep the 'good' coming! =)

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 4/19/2011 1:40AM

    Great Post

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DWILCZKO 4/19/2011 12:27AM

  awesome!

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LINDABENEDICT 4/18/2011 8:36PM

    Good blog ! Makes total sense !

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NANASAMM 4/18/2011 4:58PM

    I love the good/bad thing going on... For some of us it's a daily battle, for others it's easy. But there are those days that get everyone at some point and we just have to muddle through and do the best we can. Nobody's perfect. Overcome the bad choices and keep trying to make better ones. Eventually the better choices will win and we'll be on our way. Great blog Kristina! You always inspire.

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OVERHAULING-ME 4/18/2011 2:43PM

    Love this! Thanks so much for sharing! I need this today!

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THETURTLEBEAR 4/18/2011 12:42PM

    LOVE the poster!!

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XXEDRA 4/17/2011 3:15PM

    Great Blog

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ALLISON_H 4/17/2011 11:18AM

    I love this blog!! Great job on doing what you can!

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IMSMILEY88 4/17/2011 9:09AM

    You made a lot of great choices. Congrats!

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MARATHONBOUND 4/15/2011 4:07PM

    Love this post! I have to bookmark it and remember it when I'm having one of those days...THANKS! emoticon emoticon

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MEGSFITNESS 4/15/2011 12:52PM

    "Don't let perfect become the enemy of good."

Love it. THANK YOU for writing this. I needed it.

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JUDIL62 4/14/2011 10:50AM

    Making good choices, that's what it's all about! Have a great rest of your day!

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MEGS4148 4/14/2011 9:25AM

    You did really well! I think a big difference between someone "dieting" and someone changing their lifestyle is this exact attitude. Someone dieting would give up and eat whatever the entire day, but someone changing their lifestyle works around it. Great job!

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WENZTHAT 4/14/2011 9:19AM

    i am sooooooo proud of you!!! this is something i give into ALL. THE. TIME. if one thing goes wrong, i say the day is ruined (health-wise) and am less strict about food and exercise the rest of the day. you're an inspiration to me!

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PAPPHEM 4/13/2011 10:52PM

    Exactly right!

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IBSHAUN 4/13/2011 9:52PM

    You are right! Really enjoyed this one, thanks!

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RLA1891 4/13/2011 9:23PM

    Brilliant! Absolutely brilliant! Too many more blogs full of this much wisdom and we will have to change your name to Yoda!

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IMIN2GENES 4/13/2011 9:19PM

    You are so right! Thanks for the reminder!
Chris
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SHAWNA76 4/13/2011 9:12PM

    I need to do more of this. I get all out of sorts when my plan gets changed. I'm working on it! Glad you made things work for you!

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SPEEDYDOG 4/13/2011 8:18PM

    Thank you for the big smile!

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MOMONTHERUN1 4/13/2011 7:49PM

    Great attitude to have and great job on working with what you got.

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RAINTHIEF 4/13/2011 7:45PM

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KISSIMS19 4/13/2011 7:12PM

    Great blog!


Could you come remind me of this when my alarm goes off tomorrow at 6:30am? ;)

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ANDREA963 4/13/2011 5:59PM

    Abso-smurfly! Right on!

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LMLOPEZ 4/13/2011 5:42PM

    Great Attitude! Yep, urrite!!!

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ROCKMAN6797 4/13/2011 5:34PM

    As I say, "just keep moving!"
Thanks for sharing!

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TEAM-SARAH 4/13/2011 5:23PM

    Sounds like it would have been much easier to make excuses today. Great job on making good choices in spite of it all!

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ANNE7X7 4/13/2011 4:50PM

    Awesome!! This blog couldn't have come at a better time for me! You rock girl!!

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CRYSBROWN1 4/13/2011 4:29PM

    Needed to read this today, so true! Way to go making things work out with the resources that you had available.

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ANEPANALIPTI 4/13/2011 3:56PM

    absolutely looooooooooved

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STORMTMB 4/13/2011 2:27PM

    Great job! We make so many choices every single day!

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HAMMLIN 4/13/2011 1:35PM

    URRITE!

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PINKCOCONUT 4/13/2011 1:33PM

    Great job woman! Do the best with what you've got!

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MANLEYSANDY 4/13/2011 1:24PM

    You are right!!

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EMBRACEINSPIRE 4/13/2011 1:00PM

    emoticon I needed this today! Love it!

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BURGHGIRL 4/13/2011 12:48PM

    Love it! I will think of this when I run tonight. I am going to try and do my virtual 5k 2nite on the treadmill (my longest run has been 2 miles up to this point), but I will try my best and do what I can tonight! And I will push, push, PUSH!!!!

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LOTUSFLOWER 4/13/2011 12:42PM

    I love this, I have that dialogue going on in my head sometimes too :)

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 4/13/2011 12:39PM

    Victory!

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RUNNINGNP2B 4/13/2011 12:26PM

    You made great choices at every "obstacle". Great attitude!


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TIGERJANE 4/13/2011 12:23PM

    Great attitude, and you really did make a great choice at every turn!

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NIKLOW 4/13/2011 12:17PM

    Excellent choices! Made a better choice this morning. Yesterday I had a bagel with cream cheese and bacon plus an xl coffee with cream and sugar. 800cal breakfast :s...this morning I had a choice....I chose egg white omelet with bacon, tomato, lettuce, green pepper, onion, and cheese on an english muffin! saved myself 500 calories for the day. :D

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CHICAT63 4/13/2011 11:44AM

    Love it, do the best you can ! You did not say " to heck with it all" way to go. emoticon

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THE_NEW_MELISSA 4/13/2011 11:36AM

    Exactly! No excuses!

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DETERMINED_SOUL 4/13/2011 11:30AM

    Great job! The poster is cute!

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ITSHOWYOULIVE 4/13/2011 11:16AM

    Love this!! (as always-lol) This is an awesome reminder. That little devil has a way of sneaking into the strangest places at the strangest times. Just gotta kick him in his little pointy tail and move on. Thanks for a great kick in the hiney :)

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What Gives?

Tuesday, April 05, 2011

I'm not Wonderwoman. You're not Superman. What does that mean? (Other than the fact that we are mere mortals and not comic book heroes...) Well, simply stated, you gotta neglect a little to give other parts of your life a fighting chance. Right now, I'm focused on four things: 1) Getting my career goals sorted; 2) Losing weight; 3) Training for races; 4) Moving and setting up my new house.

So what gives?

Sometimes, I have to skip a day of dishes.




Sometimes, I don't return phone calls or emails call people up that I really should.




Sometimes, I'm just not in a lovey dovey mood.




Sometimes, I rely on frozen veggies and rotisserie chickens for dinner. And sometimes we don't eat til 8pm.




Sometimes, I watch a week's worth of my favorite shows on Saturday morning like a kid.




And you know what? It's my life and my priorities. And just like I have to do what's best for me, you have to do what's best for you. That might mean letting the chores slip (or opening yourself up to more help in that department) or skipping drinks out with friends or missing your favorite TV show (and having it spoiled on Facebook the next day) or being the anti-Martha Stewart and going for quick and easy (but still nutritious) over the perfect meal crafted over the course of two hours.

Do you for a bit. See what happens.

(Image credits: lovelycosme.blogspot.com, ujun.blogspot.com, Angry Birds, ofwnow.com, babble.com)

  
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LADYSNOWFALL 5/25/2011 10:32PM

    I've spent the last several months in that slump that you've described. Well, for me it's a slump. And it was a pretty unhappy place. But, the sun is shining and I'm doing better again!

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CIVIAV 4/11/2011 10:36AM

    And what a great way to say it! Funny though, sometimes for me keeping order in my life is the priority and so the dishes get done and phone calls returned. Just depends.

It's very freeing to know that I am not supposed to do it all. I'm not sure anyone ever said I was supposed to but somehow many of us pick this up.

Fun blog!

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GRACEISENUF 4/11/2011 10:32AM

    I threw "perfection" out the window MANY years ago. Life is good.

enjoyed this one!

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 4/11/2011 10:08AM

    I think we're perfect just the way we are, and have earned the right to do what we want sometimes! GREAT BLOG!

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ALLYB91 4/11/2011 2:04AM

  Fab blog! I am having the same 4 priorities as you and I know just what you mean that something has to give, and now I dont feel so guilty lol Thanks Ally x

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10TOES 4/10/2011 12:31PM

    It's all so true! I lovge the pic with the dishes!

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HOWLERMOM 4/8/2011 11:35PM

    Great blog - and a great message to all of us! Thanks! emoticon

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LINDABENEDICT 4/8/2011 10:38PM

    soooo true ~

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TWINPOWER7 4/8/2011 8:54PM

    Thanks so much for this blog!! We woman always feel like we have to do everything for everyone else & we come waaayyyy last. We need to make ourselves a priority. We should definitely come before a sink full of dishes!! emoticon emoticon

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RUSSELLORAMA 4/8/2011 2:28PM

    Yep, sometimes you just can't do it all and that's okay.

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CUTIECAT1 4/8/2011 1:10PM

    girl, I am livin' that dream everyday!
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RONOSOF 4/8/2011 8:00AM

    so so true!!!!
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DWILCZKO 4/8/2011 12:09AM

  cool!

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WOODSYGIRL 4/7/2011 11:06PM

    This was fantastic! That first image of the dishes just cracked me up!

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REDLACED 4/7/2011 8:43PM

    love it!

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PLATINUM755 4/7/2011 5:59PM

    Oh yeah! emoticon

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DEBLYNN323 4/7/2011 2:02PM

    Needed that!....thanks!

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OTGIRLSARA 4/7/2011 1:10PM

    Great post! I'm splitting the house with my mom right now and she expects that everything around the house is cleaned to her expectations. When I don't she asks why I have energy to exercise, but not to do housework. It makes me feel really guilty, but it does push me to do the dishes (haha). I can't seem to explain it to her, why I feel exercising takes priority over the house being immaculate, the way my grandmother would have kept it (another guilt maker). I'll use the do you for a while and see what happens next time! Thanks!

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HUGS2013 4/7/2011 1:03PM

    Good one!

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TABIKATZZ 4/7/2011 12:51PM

    Great blog! Many nights I go to bed with a sink full of dirty dishes, a mountain of laundry and dust an inch thick but I go to bed with my homework done and my body worn out! It is wonderful! and noone has to visit me if they don't like it!

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SUNYDAZY 4/7/2011 9:27AM

    YES!!!!

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KATHIERAE 4/7/2011 9:04AM

    "Do you for a bit. See what happens." emoticon

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EMILYBBB 4/7/2011 3:33AM

    Great blog!!

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LATVIAN_SANDY 4/6/2011 11:29PM

    emoticonLoved this!

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RUNANDRUN 4/6/2011 10:28PM

  ha! I think that first picture could possibly be my kithcen.

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ALICIAT32 4/6/2011 10:24PM

    i know what you mean. i've had to neglect a few "little things" here and there too, but it's helped me lose 80 lbs. screw the dishes!

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MAC7755 4/6/2011 9:30PM

  Good for you. I am trying to set boundaries and this gives me some ideas about staying sane in an insane world.

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FITGRL124 4/6/2011 9:25PM

    Love this!!! Thank you for sharing! emoticon

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SHERRILLGRAFF 4/6/2011 9:12PM

    we each go through cycles in our lives.... do what you are motivated to do

the dishes will wait until you can get around to them.

I like to fill the sink up with soapy water and put my dish or pot in it until I can get to it, That way they are still moist when I get around to putting them in the dishwasher.

I try to do my outside items while it's light outside. I can do dishes at 9pm before I go to bed. Thanks for showing me I'm normal.

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LUCYLU221 4/6/2011 8:49PM

    Oh emoticon!!!! That is me laundry and house work will wait till I am done with me.

Love your blog thanks for sharing.

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CANDACEMM 4/6/2011 7:27PM

    I agree! We have to put ourselves first ... and only we know what is going to make us happy!

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TGEVING1 4/6/2011 6:38PM

    nice blog!

i will take that to heart!

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MRSSCHENCK 4/6/2011 6:21PM

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I apply this to my life everyday. Great post!

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MRSSCHENCK 4/6/2011 6:21PM

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I apply this to my life everyday. Great post!

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KERYKAY15 4/6/2011 6:05PM

    Nice one... emoticon

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RAGIONERE 4/6/2011 5:51PM

  Great post, and you are so right about all of it!

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GINGERMACC 4/6/2011 5:22PM

    Love it! My friend Mat, a world-traveling, adventurous, private chef said to me and our fellow classmates: "Follow YOUR dream, not mine." :)

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WAIANAEGAL 4/6/2011 5:21PM

    Thanks... And you're right... it's ME FIRST for a while. It was a long time coming but the last 10 months have been Me First and I'm 58... so those who I put first before have the noses out of joint Oh well I'm letting them grow up... and get over it.

HUGS!!!!

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 4/6/2011 5:17PM

    great post

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LORNE67 4/6/2011 4:59PM

    Awesome good reminders!!

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CATWOOMAN 4/6/2011 2:41PM

    That is what I'm working on! emoticon

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NEWGOALS2 4/6/2011 2:39PM

    emoticon well stated

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MYVOYAGE 4/6/2011 2:22PM

    Thanks for the reminder.... Love the "do you for a bit...see what happens!
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RAMBLINRS13 4/6/2011 1:59PM

    So true! Some days you feel plain guilty for wanting to spend more time exercising, but it has to be done. Dust be damned! It will still be there tomorrow and so will my big butt if I don't get moving.

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THE_NEW_MELISSA 4/6/2011 1:38PM

    Fantasticaly said! Easier said than done sometimes though!

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ROBERTSONHLA 4/6/2011 1:09PM

  I work lots, during the week i just don't have time to watch TV or do many chores, or even prepare meals! I do it all all on the week-end! I love that time spent chilling and catching up. Sometimes, while I am doing meal planning and prep I will also be watching "my shows".
People wonder how I do it, simple. I am one heck of a multi tasker!


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ANNABANANNA3 4/6/2011 12:48PM

    i love nothing more than sitting in pjs on a saturday morning after a hard week and sipping coffee and watching my favorite shows... Sometimes I dont even have anything to watch so i watch the Disney channel (like a kid) I love it!!

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4MEYEHEALTH 4/6/2011 12:29PM

    AWESOME!!!


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TRAVELNISTA 4/6/2011 12:28PM

    emoticon We really need a clapping emoticon.

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MACEWOMAN 4/6/2011 12:17PM

    Good reminders.

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My Favorite High Protein, Lower Calorie Bread Options

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

I found that no foodstuff is as crucial to me having a good day calorie-wise as these high protein and fiber breads, bagels, and wraps. If I eat a regular bagel or a piece of bread I'm hungry in a couple of hours, but these have gotten me through those crucial hours and through to lunch- or dinnertime without the hunger pangs and cravings

BREAD AND PITA
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I've spoken about a few of these before. By far, the Joseph's pita is my biggest staple and I spread it with hummus or tapenade or natural peanut butter for a quick high protein snack. I really like the Arnold Double Protein for a bread and it is very filling for a good substantial sandwich, though a little higher calorie than some of the other Arnold options I listed. Of those, the Healthfull 10 grain is my favorite. The drawback to a lot of these options, however, is that they often have more sodium than regular pitas or breads for some reason (Ezekiel being the notable exception).

Joseph's Flax, Oat Bran, & Whole Wheat Pita Bread
Calories: 60
Fat: 2g
Carbs: 8g
Protein: 6g
Fiber: 4g
Sodium: 300mg



www.josephsbakery.com/p-10210-Low-Ca
rb-Flax-Omega-3-Pita-Bread


Ezekiel 4:9 Organic Sprouted 100% Whole Grain Flourless Bread (one slice)
Calories: 80
Fat: 0.5g
Carbs: 15g
Protein: 4g
Fiber: 3g
Sodium: 75mg

Arnold Double Protein (one slice)
Calories: 110
Fat: 1.5g
Carbs: 18g
Protein: 7g
Fiber: 3g
Sodium: 170mg



www.arnoldbakery.com/Products/Descri
ption.aspx?sSku=7341001374


Arnold Healthfull 10 Grain Bread (one slice)
Calories: 80
Fat: 1g
Carbs: 16g
Protein: 5g
Fiber: 4g
Sodium: 160mg

Arnold Low Carb Multi Grain Bread (one slice)
Calories: 60
Fat: 2g
Carbs: 9g
Protein: 5g
Fiber: 3g
Sodium: 115mg

Arnold Bakery Light 7 Grain Bread (2 slices)
Calories: 80
Fat: 1g
Carbs: 17g
Protein: 4g
Fiber: 4g
Sodium: 170mg


ENGLISH MUFFINS
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Only one English muffin has passed my test of filling me up until lunch. These ones are worth the extra 30 calories from other English muffin options. Top with an egg and you've got a super high protein breakfast for 200 calories.

Thomas' Healthfull English Muffins 10 Grain
Calories: 130
Fat: 1g
Carbs: 29g
Protein: 6g
Fiber: 6g
Sodium: 200mg



www.wegmans.com/webapp/wcs/stores/se
rvlet/ProductDisplay?productId=716734&
storeId=10052&langId=-1



BAGELS
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A good bagel will have a good mix of carbs and protein. You're not going to find a real "low-carb" bagel that tastes good, but often even regular bagels will have at least 9-10 grams of protein. Unfortunately they are often 350 calories or more! These bagels are substantial in size and are under 250 calories, which is fine for breakfast (and delicious topped with whipped cream cheese at 70 calories for 2 tablespoons). If you don't have a Trader Joes near you, the Thomas' bagels are almost as good, though they are a little higher on the carb side. You can also get the mini versions as well.

Trader Joe's High Fiber Multigrain Bagel
Calories: 210
Fat: 2g
Carbs: 38g
Protein: 10g
Fiber: 8g
Sodium: 290mg

Thomas' 100% Whole Wheat Bagels OR Thomas' Double Fiber Multi-Grain Bagels (and the mini version)
Whole Wheat (big)
Calories: 240
Fat: 2g
Carbs: 49g
Protein: 10g
Fiber: 7g
Sodium: 400mg

Whole Wheat (mini)
Calories: 110
Fat: 1g
Carbs: 22g
Protein: 5g
Fiber: 3g
Sodium: 180mg

www.thomasenglishmuffins.com/Our-Pro
ducts/Bagels/Traditional-Bagels/Thomas
-Double-Fiber-Multi-Grain-Bagels-(6-pa
ck)/Default.aspx



TORTILLAS
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Tortillas can be tough because often one can have over 200 calories. These lower calorie, higher protein options pass my test. You can eat two tacos or fajitas and have a high protein dinner and feel completely satisfied!

Boston's Whole Wheat Tortilla
Calories: 70
Fat: 1.5g
Carbs: 14g
Protein: 6g
Fiber: 9g
Sodium: 320mg

La Tortilla Factory Smart & Delicious Whole Wheat Tortilla
Calories: 50
Fat: 2g
Carbs: 10g
Protein: 5g
Fiber: 7g
Sodium: 210mg



www.amazon.com/Tortilla-Factory-Deli
cious-Tortillas-Regular/dp/B002QM9CTA/
ref=sr_1_1?s=grocery&ie=UTF8&qid=13002
84029&sr=1-1


(Photos from respective links)

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

LADYSNOWFALL 5/25/2011 10:42PM

    I suspect that these options are higher in sodium because the manufacturer is trying to make the taste more appealing to the masses. We've recently switched to Arnold's Bagel Thins (110 cal), Arnolds Sandwhich Thins (whole grain, 100 cal) and the same Thomas' muffins. We're using sun-dried tomato wraps, spinach and herb wraps and high fiber wraps by Ole Wellness Extreme. Of course, I still plan to make our bread from time to time, so I know exactly what's in it. :)

It's taken me more than 2 years go enact this mega overhaul of my family's diet. I am ever so happy it's finally happened!

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BURKEBRIZ 3/25/2011 9:17AM

    Love La Tortilla. Joseph's isn't around here, though! Wish it was.

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IMSMILEY88 3/23/2011 11:41AM

    I have almost totally switched over to Orowheat round, thin breads and bagels. I haven't found a tortilla I like yet, though. I need to give your suggestions a try!

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CUTIECAT1 3/20/2011 4:50AM

    Those are all great options - i love the Arnold Double Protein Bread (i am always on a mission to hit my protein allotments) and also love Joseph's lavash bread - that makes the best wraps ever and at @100 calories for the whole piece plus 10 grams of protein - that's two thumbs up in my book!!!



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RUNNER4LIFE08 3/17/2011 9:07AM

    Thanks for sharing! I have heard that Arnold's breads have extra fiber and I have been meaning to check that out. Guess I will have to buy a loaf. I like the sandwich thins.... small and easy to bring anywhere.

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LIBBYFITZ 3/17/2011 1:19AM

    Thanks for sharing, I am trying to find some good high fibre, high protien, low salt wraps here in Australia.

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GOGETTERME 3/16/2011 7:49PM

    Thanks for sharing. I'm always looking for healthier and lower cal bread products. I'm definitely going to try some of these out.

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PAULETTELORAINE 3/16/2011 5:10PM

    I'm going to see if I can get some of these. Thanks for posting!! emoticon

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KKINNEA 3/16/2011 5:08PM

    Thanks for this list - a lifesaver!

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MAIA2011 3/16/2011 4:51PM

    All I heard was tapenade but I admit I am certifiable.


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STORMTMB 3/16/2011 4:44PM

    Thanks for sharing this info! I love reading about what foods others choose and enjoy! I have some new foods to look for!
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LLBEAN75 3/16/2011 2:39PM

    I just found Oroweat Dutch Country 100% whole wheat bread. I LOVE it. It's so soft and pillowy. It's 90 calories a serving and amazing.

Thanks for listing all of these recommendations out!

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GRACEISENUF 3/16/2011 2:38PM

    thanks for the info.

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DMBEECHAM 3/16/2011 1:40PM

    I recently stumbled upon the Arnold Double Protein bread because the extra protein and no HFCS ingredients. I'm interested in the pita bread, tortillas, and Ezekiel products. Thanks for sharing this info!

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NEWYORKORCHIDS 3/16/2011 1:02PM

  Dude. I'm looking for those tortillas tonight.

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PAPER_WINGS18 3/16/2011 12:48PM

    Boy am I glad you didn't mention flat out wraps under wraps....UGH! Those taste like nasty cardboard, in every single flavor/grain they have. I really don't see wtf the big deal is when I see spark friends post about them..nassssty.

are the Ezekiel 4:9 Organic Sprouted 100% Whole Grain Flourless Bread frozen? At my grocery store all of a sudden, I think these popped into the freezer section? Freezing bread makes me nervous though?I like it fresh, and not "unthawed", but if they're good, I'll give them a go!

Glad to hear from you!

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REDRUNNER82 3/16/2011 12:42PM

    Ezekiel English muffins are a great option too! Super filling - I would almost describe them as meaty!

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TRAVELNISTA 3/16/2011 12:32PM

    Have you ever tried a whole grain flat out? I love them, they are low in calories,big in size to make either a pizza or a wrap, and very filling.

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4EVERADONEGIRL 3/16/2011 12:20PM

    Awesome info! I will definitely look for many of those products! :-)

And it's funny - Arnold's here in California is called Oroweat! :-)

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BOOTS1221 3/16/2011 12:18PM

    Mmm I love the Joseph's pitas and tortillas! I even got Craig to eat them when we make grilled chicken wraps, so that's a plus!! Good to hear from you chickie :)

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LAURIETAIT 3/16/2011 12:08PM

    These aren't available in Canada but I will make a list for purchase when I go across the line. Buying stuff you can't get at home is a big perk of a weekend in Grand Forks. I love to have an english muffin, egg and cheese for breakfast too. It will get me through to snack time with ease. Thanks for sharing.

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GETFIT2LIVE 3/16/2011 11:55AM

    Great info, thanks for sharing! I have been using bagel thins a LOT because of the calorie count--if I let breakfast get too high in calories, it blows the rest of the day to pieces. Love the La Tortilla Factory tortillas, too, lots of fiber and relatively low calories. I'll have to look for some of the others to try out!

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KATHLOW 3/16/2011 11:41AM

    all seem great options, too bad we can't buy them here...

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MBSHAZZER 3/16/2011 11:36AM

    Thanks for sharing! I haven't eaten a bagel in YEARS!!! Seems like there are some "safe" options out there now! I will share these finds w/ my grocery shopper (the BF)!

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FREES1 3/16/2011 11:33AM

    these are good things, at least those that I have tried! I like Joseph's products and Arnold bread and Thomas's Engish Muffins have been among the staples for me since I was a kid...

for Sunday breakfast I eat a bagel with homemade (not my home but from the Farmer's market) quark on it. Quark is an eastern European soft cheese with a tang like sour cream but a consistance more like soft cream cheese... a little Tabasco green sauce and yum. I'm a little sad in that our bagel bakers, also from the Market, have retired so no more sunflower seed bagels for this kid!

Thanks for the tips on the hunger-staving breads and such.

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HEALTHIERKEN 3/16/2011 11:32AM

    Thanks for this info. Made me think I should put my own protein bread recipe into the Sparkpeople Recipe Calculator and see if it's a better alternative than my regular bread. I *miss* breads dreadfully but if I have more than one serving, my carbs-to-protein ratio goes all wonky.

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STINA6584 3/16/2011 11:26AM

    I actually like the Trader Joe's brand sprouted bread even better than the Ezekiels. I think it's something like 60 calories per slice though the slices are smaller.

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NATPLUMMER 3/16/2011 11:24AM

    I use some of these same items myself.

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SKINNYPOWELL1 3/16/2011 11:15AM

    Thanks for sharing, great info.

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