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What I Haven't Lost and I Haven't Gained

Thursday, July 22, 2010

I haven't lost my powers of perception and I haven't gained naivete.

It's evident that I lost a lot of weight and it's obvious from my "Top 88 Things I've Gained in a Year" blog that many things are different in my life.

I guess what I'm saying when I keep hammering home my belief that I'm not a different person than I was at 288 lbs is that at the core, I'm the Kristina I was back then. You don't erase 28 years of growth and development with one year of weight loss. You just don't.

And if you believe that you've changed so overwhelmingly with your weight loss that you consider yourself a different person and a better person, that's fantastic. But that's not me. I will say it again: I loved myself when I was obese. I wasn't a miserable person. I did plenty of things when I was obese. Heck, a whole lifetime of things that I treasure and do not regret.

Losing weight for me was more about health and doing all the things I said I couldn't do rather than looking better in clothes. The clothes are just an extra bonus.

Yes, I'm overall more positive about things and I've deleted a lot of negative influences and behaviors from my life. But as much as I'd love to believe that a compliment is always completely well-meaning and benevolent, it's simply not the case. As a writer, as a journalist, and as an attorney, in my life it's my business to both be an observer and to get to the heart of people in order to write a compelling story or make a convincing argument. And some people are just phony and always want to get the better of you. And others are truly happy and proud of the progress you've made. I've said before, I love those honest-to-goodness joyful compliments that are well-meaning, but the other kind? Not so much.

One of the traits about myself that I'm most proud of is the ability to distinguish the two. Right after I wrote yesterday's blog, I ran into a coworker who had not been laid off a month ago like I had been. She's kind of a nutjob, but I was cordial. She praised me on how I looked compared to before and asked how much I lost and how I had done it and told me that I should stop soon. (And maybe it doesn't matter, but yes, she is an obese woman.) It was like textbook: ticking off the comments from yesterday's Top 5. I quickly changed the subject and mentioned that I was surprised to get called back to the job and she said "I was sad to see it, because it means less work for me."

I was gobsmacked. Basically she was upset that I was called back to work because it might mean she was put out of work sooner. Now, does someone who would readily say that to me REALLY care about my weight loss and how I look? Not at all. I don't think that means that I'm insecure or not open to compliments or sharing my success, but that I just hate indulging the people whom I know do not have my best interests at heart.

So there you go.

Now I'm going to be more positive in my next blog (like 95% of my blogs)... PROMISE!
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SUGIRL06 7/30/2010 1:58PM

    Ah I know people like that. I just keep smiling and being cordial and all that jazz and go complain about it to my friends! (LoL like in a blog perhaps?) And I am with you on the first part of your blog, I am still the same person I was before. I was confident, even when I was heavier. I still wanted to do the same things I do now (but maybe with a little less ease). I still act and behave pretty much the same. Losing weight doesn't mean you are a different person!
~Ang

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LDY_ALI_79 7/27/2010 11:16AM

    Wow, the nerve of people!

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SUSIEMILO 7/26/2010 2:09PM

    I guess it's all about HER, huh?
Hopefully you don't have to work right alongside her day in/day out... that would suck if you do.

It's kind of like negative people have fleas. Avoid them, or else before you know it, their fleas(negativity) start transferring to you!


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SCHMITCM 7/25/2010 8:38PM

    wow that girl was so mean, I'm proud of you for handling it the way you did! :)

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CRANN33 7/24/2010 2:59PM

    WOW!!! Good for you for keeping your cool with her... she must be really low in her life to have said that or have a black heart... WOW... That is great that you got called back... I can so relate... I got laid off at Christmas and finally found a new job in May... Hope that you get a big fat promotion on top of it. Good for you!!!

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RASCALSMOMMA 7/24/2010 7:55AM

    Glad I read this one too! and I loved TEAWONDERFUL's comment! So true Hugs Laurie

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DJS-DEBBIE 7/24/2010 6:04AM

    Wow, did she realize what she was saying?! People are amazing...

I think I am different in that I have more confidence in myself and I don't worry that people will dismiss 'the big fat woman' without really listening to what I am saying. But I am basically the same - I think I just let 'me' out more.

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NATHALIEWEB 7/24/2010 5:14AM

    Ignore her... emoticon

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TEAWONDERFUL 7/23/2010 11:42PM

    Weight loss does not change who you are at the core, it just helps you express who you always were better.

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JENELOPE 7/23/2010 12:45PM

    I wouldn't even know how to begin to respond to that woman. Kudos on keeping your Karvy Kool!

I also don't think I'm a totally different person now and I won't be when I get to goal weight, either. I am almost 40 freaking years old. I don't think we stop growing when we get older, but if I don't have a pretty strong sense of self now, it's not happening. The weight loss is for my health and my appearance, it's not a band-aid that's going to fix every issue in my life. It's kind of funny, but I actually think I started to have higher self-esteem when I was at my fattest. All of the "I'm awesome!" statements started before the weight-loss began. I am smart and confident and I can do pretty much anything. The only real difference is that now I look awesome, too.

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WANNALEARNTORUN 7/23/2010 12:27PM

    I found that when I lost weight I became more Me. I'm now interested in things that I dabbled in when I was 13-16. Somehow in my late teens early 20s I lost myself and I think that really helped add the pounds on. Congrats on your weightloss and on still being you!

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CARPENSM 7/23/2010 9:11AM

    LOL..yowza that was bad one...I figure some people will see your success and be inspired by you and others will be jealous...good for you to be able to distinguish the two and to tune out the negative!

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SASSYDREAMER 7/23/2010 8:53AM

    Some people are just negative nancies because they're unhappy in their own lives for whatever reason - I know I have been in my own and I'm working on that. Granted, I would never act like that or not treat others with respect, I just mean in general. So way to go you for understanding that you are who you are and you love you for you.

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CHICAT63 7/23/2010 8:39AM

    Hmmm, in my world that's called CPB: Cubby Psycho Beotch (editing here *lol*) the nerve of some people I tell ya ! Me, myself and I would also apply to this coworker. You handled that in a very productive/professional way you should are to be very proud I know I am !!!! emoticon emoticon

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KATHLOW 7/23/2010 2:35AM

    haha, the irony of having someone say all that to you right after yesterday's blog! I totally agree: if you're gonna give a fake or insincere compliment, just shut up! (and don't expect me to be nice in return either :-))
Great blog!

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ELLIEW22 7/22/2010 10:15PM

    Can you say insecurity? Cause that's what's written all over that woman. From weight, to job, to overall happiness....She's soooo insecure about it all, and jealous of you!!!

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KAKIPOPUP 7/22/2010 9:42PM

    I think you are right-on - my analogy is that a tulip bulb doesn't produce a rose - it produces a tulip - just like we become more ourselves as we change, not new people -

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HOSTALADY 7/22/2010 7:38PM

    Oh my gosh. What I have missed in the working world. My mouth is wide open in disbelief! WOW! I have so much to learn. I am sad you ran into her. I hope you take all the work away from her and she leaves before you!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 7/22/2010 7:24PM

    People accuse me of not being the nicest person something but the reality is I am very able to see through the bull like you and I don't have time for fake nice. I am not out for a Miss Congeniality award. Good blog!

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4EVERADONEGIRL 7/22/2010 7:18PM

    Ohhhh...there are so many people like her in the world! It's always kind of amusing when they say what is really on their mind instead of what they think they should say!

You, as always, handled it with aplomb! You Rock!

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ALOFA0509 7/22/2010 5:57PM

    Wow, I love how you just Flushed that "Toxic Tonya" right down the toilet,, didnt even think twice abt her insensitive remark and just kept on goin by changing the subject. She knew what she was doing. Trying to Sabotage your confidence any manipulative way she can.. You Go Ms. Thing! you are soo awsum..

*Cheers,
Alofa

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RUNNER4LIFE08 7/22/2010 4:16PM

    All I can say is.... WOW!

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JUSTLIKEALICE 7/22/2010 3:49PM

    You are awesome.



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XHOOSIERLOSER 7/22/2010 2:40PM

    Unbelievable! It is all about her!

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JENN26POINT2 7/22/2010 2:15PM

    LOVE IT! and LOVE YOU!! You're a great motivator and inspiration. Who cares what others think or do or say. You've got US and we LOVE you! :)

And venting is in no way negative! it's a positive outlet for negative input! :)

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STARINTHESKY 7/22/2010 1:23PM

    I'm gonna piggyback on everyone else's comments and agree that this blog is just saying it like it is and not necessarily negative. I mean I don't think anyone expects you to be Miss Positive all the darn time! emoticon That's just not realistic!

I definitely think that your co-worker was out of line. I consider people like that to be spiritual growth opportunities for me! I can't think of any other reason for those kind of people than that! I also think that difficult people teach me how to stand up for myself which is just another way of loving myself.

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THREADBENDER 7/22/2010 12:21PM

    I don't think this is a negative blog post. It is a realistic blog post and I hope that some of your readers will learn something about listening between the words and dealing with people from it.

Good insights, Kristina! emoticon

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MUTANTQUEEN 7/22/2010 12:15PM

    Doesn't sound like a friend at all. Avoid that kind of person at all costs.

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JULABELLE 7/22/2010 12:01PM

    jealous and selfish... wow - how inconsiderate in so many ways!!

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SEEAMANDARUN 7/22/2010 11:52AM

    Holy Moly, what a crazy lady. I actually had an acquaintance who I hadn't seen a while approach me at the gym and tell me how good I was looking. I said thanks, we chatted a bit and then we went back to our workouts. Not even 5 minutes later, she came back up to and exclaimed "I didn't mean that you looked bad before! I hope that's not the way you took it!" I laughed and told her that I had taken it as a compliment because I knew that was the way she had intended it. So sometimes, people really do think they are being complimentary when they say certain things. I think it all depends on the person.

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TEAM-SARAH 7/22/2010 11:38AM

    Man... people have some nerve. Seriously....

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JRIMM4 7/22/2010 11:36AM

    Wow - I hope your other coworkers are more genuine than she is!

JR

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MBSHAZZER 7/22/2010 11:26AM

    WHAT??? That's crazy. But, OTOH, clearly anything she says should be ignored, which gets to the heart of distinguishing between real compliments and backhanded ones. Sorry you had to encounter that, but it sounds like you were prepared mentally for it, as it came so close on the heels of your blog about the same topic!

I also totally agree w/ you about being fundamentally the same person now as you were at 288. I think it would be very sad if you felt you only started "living" your life after significant weight loss. Weight and health are a big component of our lives but not the ONLY ones.

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MSWEEZER 7/22/2010 11:14AM

    Nuts is an understatement indeed. Jealousy is an ugly trait. It won't help her in the long run. Sad truth!

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BLYNN710 7/22/2010 11:08AM

    Gotta love those people who compliment you in one breath and put you down in another. Sadly I think it is true that there is at least one in every office.

The fact that you are essentially the same person you were before is a good thing. It means that no matter what is happening in your life you know who y0u are and what you want out of life. Don't let people make you believe you have to change in order to show you have "grown" because of your weight loss. You are a beautiful person who knows what she wants. Go after it and keep up your awesome work.

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PINKCOCONUT 7/22/2010 10:56AM

    Back-handed compliments are the worst! Sorry you have to put up with such a person Kristina!

I am one of those people who've changed dramatically but it's a different kind of change, I'm just MORE of the me I always was but covered up because I had such low self-esteem. So, in essence, I just peeled back the layers that WASN'T me. Regardless, I still feel stung when people give me "compliments" like indicating how fat I used to be. Sure I was fat, but it's always said like I was a lesser being to what I am now and hearing that hurts!

Part of me thinks that most of these people simply have no idea what it is they're actually saying.

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CAT5599 7/22/2010 10:53AM

    That nut job is just jealous!

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STORMTMB 7/22/2010 10:52AM

    There's one in every office... emoticon

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EMLG11 7/22/2010 10:45AM

    You are not negative!! You are realistic and you call a duck a duck. Keep doing what you are doing and keep writing for those of us who love what you write and benefit from it on a regular basis.

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HAPPYPATTY1 7/22/2010 10:44AM

    That chick is a NUT JOB!

Imagine how hard it is to be that stoooopid. Poor thing. I'm sitting here trying to thing of crappy things you could say back to her, but the reality is they would fly right over her head... and what is the fun of that?

You are awesomeness!

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CK2SUMMERS 7/22/2010 10:43AM

    I see losing the weight as making me a different person...but the weight is hiding the person I know I am inside.

By losing the weight, the true person can shine trough even more.

So, to the outsider, they think we are different, but in reality its the same person with a new self confidence and new shell to live a healthier lifestyle!

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GRACEISENUF 7/22/2010 10:41AM

    Unbelievable at times what comes out of peoples mouths.

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CANDYXPERT 7/22/2010 10:40AM

    Some people are so rude! Wow. How sad for her that she feels she has to put you down to make herself feel better.

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CREATINGAMANDA 7/22/2010 10:37AM

    I agree with you 100002%. I don't believe that I will be, nor do I WANT to be, a completely different person at the end of this weight loss journey. I have never hated myself, at any weight. I have never felt like I was worthless, at any weight. If any changes do come about in my core personality, I don't believe that they will be a direct result of my weightloss. My core is just not that closely tied to what I weigh. I understand that for some people it is, and that honestly makes me a little sad because I wonder if they'll ever be happy with themselves at any weight.

And ... wow. Just WOW. Your coworker is missing a bit of tact, huh?

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LALAFLOWERS 7/22/2010 10:36AM

    sweetheart... so sorry that you have to work with folks like that. I feel sorry for her. She is trying to lift herself up on your shoulders. I'm glad that you are strong enough to let her be, and know that it's not about you, but her.

Enjoy your life. It's a pretty amazing one!!!

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 7/22/2010 10:34AM

    The Mr and I always say 90% of the population are douchebags. 1% are people we care about in our "real" lives and the other 9% are on SP!
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CALLIKIA 7/22/2010 10:33AM

    Okay, home girl was totally jealous of you for so many reasons. It goes to the heart of the person, really, to judge how they handle difficult situations. The fact that she was dogging your successes means she feels like she could never live up to the pedestal she's put you on in her head. It makes me sad, really. Just like the rest of the world she sounds like she's judging herself according to how she stacks up to you. To her, you seem to have your crap together. To her you've made all these healthy and beautiful changes in your life. You didn't have work and it didn't tear you apart like she probably feels it will do to her. Sad, really.

I think this whole process isn't about changing who we are...it's about growing up. Maybe it's just me, but it seems like this last year of weightloss wasn't about making a new Kristina, it was about growing into a better version of Kristina. One who can feel proud of her accomplishments. It doesn't belittle the past years of your life to say that you've learned and grown a lot in the last year...it's all part of the journey, every last bit of it.

Hug yourself from me today, because I think you're totally awesome, and while I would've thought that no matter what your weight, the growing you did this year was wonderfully amazing because not everyone has the strength, heart, and stamina to get through it. Lotsa love!

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SAMSPARK1 7/22/2010 10:30AM

    Even if that colleague thought that, I can't believe she said it out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Holey moley!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Top 5 Things NOT to Say to Someone Who Has Lost a Lot of Weight

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

I'm one of those people who has lost a lot of weight, and based on a lot of blogs I've read recently, I guess I'm not alone in being annoyed by some of the questions and comments I get from people (some well-meaning and some just gossipy and curious). So I'm putting this list out there for general consumption.

Without further ado, the Top 5 Things Not to Say to Someone Who Has Lost a Lot of Weight:


1. "How much weight did you lose?"

Unless you are really close to the person or you've shared the numbers or weight-related info in the past, don't ask this question. I've been asked it by a few and I know that some are just curious as to the breadth of my acheivement (which is fine) and I know that others are just mentally trying to figure out my starting weight (not so fine). I can almost see the wheels turning: ("OK she lost 90 lbs and she looks like she's around 200, so... wow, she was pushing 300!") You wouldn't ask someone their weight straight out, so this question should almost always be similarly taboo in places that are not weight loss-related communities (i.e. Sparkpeople).


2. "How did you do it?" (if you don't really don't want to hear or believe the response of "Watching my food intake and exercise.")

This question can go extremely well if the asker is looking for honest advice for how to lose weight. But if not, this seemingly innocent question can turn ugly quickly when the asker is disappointed that the answer is smarter food choices and more movement and is looking for the name of a quick fix diet or another solution like gastric bypass or band surgery. So unless you want an honest answer and will not question or judge someone's methods, stay away from this one.


3. "You look so much better now!"

This is just backhanded, pure and simple. I don't understand why you can't just give a compliment without degrading the way a person looked before. I understand that I was very fat before. I'll never forget that. It has made me who I am today. But I think I looked good, just not very healthy. You wouldn't go up to a person who had a mole removed and say "Wow, it looks so much better now that you got that thing chopped off!" and so it should be with weight loss. "You look great!" will suffice just nicely.


4. "You're a whole different person!"

No, I'm not. I'm the same person. My personality did not change, nor did my thoughts or beliefs, or my profession or my family or friends. I may look different, but at the core, I am the same person. I still eat creme brulee and mojitos and I still love TV and movies. The difference is that I eat these things less and I watch less TV in order to make time for exercise. I got a few new hobbies. Those minor changes does not a different person make. I'm not ashamed of who I was before. I loved that person, fat rolls and all. I just needed to feel better, get healthier, and make life easier for myself. Life is not easy for a morbidly obese person.


5. "I could never do that."

Yes, you could. And by saying that you couldn't, you're elevating me to some kind of Superwoman when I'm just a mere mortal who REALLY wanted to lose weight and got SERIOUS this time. As much as I'd love to be Goddess of the Universe, I'm just not. It pains me to see a person elevate me (and thereby denigrate herself) by denying that weight loss is possible for her. You can do it. And it will be hard at times, especially at first. And you might not lose weight as quickly as I did. But living healthy and making better choices is completely possible for anyone out there.


So there's my Top 5. How 'bout you? Do you have any to add to the list?


EDIT: Oooh, I do... EXTRA CREDIT!

6. "You should stop losing weight now. You look good the way you are."

I just got out of the obese BMI category and you're telling me to stop? Why? Because I'm smaller than you now? Because you liked me to be the fat friend to make yourself feel better? Say it with me, "It's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!" I don't know what my goal weight will be, but I know it's not now. I've got plenty of more work to do!

  
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AHAUNTEDPOET 8/24/2010 11:28AM

    Hear hear! Well said!

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KIMBYUT 8/19/2010 9:17PM

    YES YES YES YES YES to number SIX. It discourages, demotivates and downright upsets me when people tell me that!!!! Amen sista!

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GLORRE 8/19/2010 6:37PM

  Thanks for the insight. I've asked some of those inappropriate questions even tho I'm on the same journey!

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CARMINACG 8/11/2010 4:35PM

    Amen Sista! I had #6 told to me, and was litterly gob-smacked this past weekend. Like what the heck, for telling people when, how much, whats good for them. Some people are just insaine - unfortunatly when they are family they are walking a fine line! So I just breath.....

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POPCORNGURL 8/10/2010 12:30AM

    Love this blog!

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SLIMKATIE 8/5/2010 9:27AM

    I love this blog! I definitely have to add the "Do you have all kinds of saggy baggy skin now?" THAT is the question I'm asked most frequently, and it bothers me. I lost 100+ pounds, and all you have to say is, "Do you have saggy skin now?"!! :)

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KJH0029 8/3/2010 7:05PM

    you know the other day my friend said do you have saggy skin on your belly and arms and i thought you got to be kidding me what kind of question is that.. so i said no its not bad but i can live with that i just cant live with the fat.

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SPARKY2097 8/3/2010 4:21PM

    Iagree i have had people tell i don't need lose weight i know i need to

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BICKEY11 8/2/2010 4:14PM

    I agree, my favorite is when people say "you're going to wither away to nothing"

Have you ever noticed, people who are skinny never say these things to you? Just an observation. My boss and about 3 of my coworkers are HARDCORE, worker-outers. When I lost weight the last time, they were SO encouraging and so nice.

You know who wasn't nice? My mother, who was gaining weight cuz she quit smoking, the overweight guy i work with, who was heating up 2 French Bread Pizzas when he saw me. And the entire side of the family on my dad's side, because all of them struggle with weight.

I admit, when I'm up a few sizes, i'm not very supportive either, but if you're looking for KUDOS from somebody on your weight loss accomplishements, look to the people who take care of themselves and are happy with their weight!

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ALIBJ572 8/1/2010 8:28PM

    Amen sister! Thanks for saying how I feel!

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MUGSY0499 7/31/2010 5:29PM

    My response to #1 is"
"Why would you need to know that?"

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MUGSY0499 7/31/2010 5:28PM

    My response to #1 is"
"Why would you need to know that?"

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MUGSY0499 7/31/2010 5:28PM

    My response to #1 is"
"Why would you need to know that?"

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ALEXSMOMMYRUNS 7/29/2010 2:28PM

    This is a wonderful post, and you are spot on with Number 6. That one bothers me the most. And I think it really is because my friends (especially my overweight friends) feel comfortable having overweight people around them. So to hear them say I'm "too skinny" when I'm a ways from my goal weight just makes me question their motives.

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MCGEEDH 7/28/2010 8:49PM

  Gastric Bypass and Lapband surgeries are just tools, like sparkpeople. They help in losing weight, they are by no means a "quick fix".

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JULESCP 7/28/2010 7:41PM

    Brilliant and well spoken. Actually, # 6 was my favorite. I gained some of my weight back after losing to my goal weight and people actually said, "I thought you were too skinny." Yikes...say nothing, people!

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LAJIAO 7/28/2010 5:26PM

    Have a while to go but good forewarning :)

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JASHLEY0822 7/28/2010 4:34PM

    Absolutely right! With me however, no one ever gave me a compliment or made any comments about my weight loss--they simply look at me from head to toe then look away. Jealous? Maybe. I think so. And that is fine by me. I feel better about myself and I look darn good and I constantly check myself out every chance I get whenever I pass by in front of a mirror or glass and the best part is...I like what I see!

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MELLY1317 7/28/2010 3:56PM

  Loved Number 1 and number 6.. I get both all the time!
Number 6 really bugs the crap out of me though, because i feel like they dont want me to be skinny like them! I get it all the time,, and im not at a healthy BMI yet.. and thats what i tell them so they shut the hell up

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THINNINGROSE 7/28/2010 3:15PM

    Loved your list! Thanks.

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DCATNAPPER 7/28/2010 2:44PM

    You hit the proverbial nail on the head! Keep blogging!
Delois emoticon

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TOFUCUTIEPIE 7/28/2010 1:34PM

    Great list!

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ADYLEIGH 7/28/2010 1:20PM

    True, true!

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JOJOMAGIC1 7/28/2010 12:47PM

    I completely agree with #6. I totally pisses me off when people tell me this especially when they are overweight. I will be the judge in how much I need to lose!!

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IRISHIVY 7/28/2010 12:31PM

    I agree, #6 is right on target. Well meaning(I assume) acquaintances, coworkers, family friends have said "Stop losing weight now, you look good, you don't want to get too skinny." I have n intention of stopping, my goal is 20 more pounds, it is my body after all, and if they don't like it, that is there problem. I would add something to the list;

# 7 "You will gain it all back in no time."

How do you know? Do you know how I am eating or working out? Or how I am succeeding at making it a permanent lifestyle change? Maybe these people have seen fad diets fail this way. That dose not mean that success is impossible. Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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LWYZYKOWSKI 7/28/2010 10:20AM

    What about the people who you work closely with everyday and they NEVER mention the fact that you lost a significant amount of weight? No, "You look nice, or healthy, or happy". Is some sort of comment better than no comment at all? It does make one ask, did they ever even look at me? But who cares, I am happy and that is what matters, not what co workers say or think right! Just wondering if anyone else has had that happen to them? emoticon

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TENDERLOVE1 7/28/2010 2:17AM

    Many people have told me I look prettier and I actually like it! But I'll take a compliment wherever I can get it! The one compliment I hate is "You have such a pretty face" It's like shut up!! I get it!! I'm fat! Great blog though!

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MSNIKE 7/28/2010 1:53AM

    Awesome blog...I love this! Thanks for sharing!!!

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NOTAWAIF 7/28/2010 1:47AM

    The extra credit question killed me dead because it is so very very AND painfully true. _-_

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FITANDFIFTY2 7/28/2010 12:30AM

    Oh I so agree with you!! Awesome blog!!

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THENEWDARLENE 7/27/2010 11:46PM

    I really enjoyed this blog. Thanks for shedding some light on this topic... and for making me laugh!


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NZGODDESS 7/27/2010 11:02PM

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Fantastic read! Thank you so much for the heads up.

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SPUNKYDUCKY 7/27/2010 10:57PM

    The bonus number 6 is crazy and my favorite. I want to ask people if they need psychiatric help when they say that to me. One person stopped me the other, looked at me very sincerely and said "I am worried about you getting too small" What? I weight 191 lbs (I am not 6 feet tall, only 5'5) and I wear a size 14. I may be a LOT smaller, but I am not done and you never needed to tell me how "worried" you were about me when I was 95 lbs heavier, so lets not start now...
Hmmm...that feels much better to get off my chest!

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ATZIONCH 7/27/2010 7:32PM

    While some people are truly trying to be complimentary, others are just being smart-alecs due to their own inadequacies. After losing 70 lbs many years ago a friends' husband opened the door upon my arrival and continued to look outside after I had entered saying, "Where's the rest of you?" I'm happy to say my friend divorced that jerk. No matter our outward appearance our inner being is who we are regardless. Thank you for speaking up :-) emoticon

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APRILSTEPHANIE 7/27/2010 5:04PM

    I love this blog! Everything on it is so true. My dear, keep up the good work. You are doing excellent. !!!

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KATERYN 7/27/2010 5:01PM

    Ok. I like these ideas for comebacks! I'll try and keep them in mind for when I hit that point.

My big one so far - I can see your weight loss in your face! Yeah, but what about the rest of me? My clothes are practially falling off me and you can only see it in my face? Did you even look at me before?

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TOYASWORK 7/27/2010 4:58PM

    emoticon Loves it!
I think this does it too and this is just cruel and wrong.
"See, you are a pretty girl" - Now that's just not cute!! I haven't lost much, but I've heard it said to a friend. I can't wait for my day to come. emoticon

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JAYEACTS 7/27/2010 12:40PM

  Hee hee hee! You probably DO know how many times I wanted to slap someone up side of the head...noneya! as in none ya business!!! Thanks! It was a great read!! emoticon

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CMKOBE 7/27/2010 12:12PM

    Awesome. Thanks!!

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CMAXSON 7/27/2010 7:20AM

    YES YES YES!!!! I have also lost alot...and I hear these same things EVERY DAY

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SHANNONEILLEEN 7/26/2010 10:04PM

    yep heard every single one.. and yes number 6 has been said by my mom.. no idea why.. by thin mean friends whom truly do not want me to be thinner than them.. weird cause i like having skinny gfs who partywith me.. hot by association? and mostly my heavy friends.. i think due to their insecurities and lack of success at sticking to weight loss.. i used to get offended by it but now i'm starting to realize that many of them have just given up and accepted their weight

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GWENBARKER 7/26/2010 6:12PM

  When someone says something to me and it upsets me. I try to stop and consider the source. If it is a close friend I should be able to explain to them how they made me feel. If it is an aquaintence does it really matter.

In many ways we are different people when we lose weight. We become more active, you said you dont watch as much tv, you are exercising. So maybe you no longer are as concerned about what happened on a show. Or you might have had a friend that you lunched with before and now that you are eating healthy they feel uncomfortable having their cheese fries.

I know there are two sides to every story. In most cases people are just reaching out to us. I have a friend that really needs to quit smoking I told him that when I become successful losing weight that I will be all over him to quit smoking, I told him look out when I weigh 120, he said you dont need to weigh 120, so I guess I can get after him at 220.. he just wants me to be more healthy and thats what I want with him.

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NOT_BIG_BONED 7/26/2010 5:01PM

    I hate it when people ask me how much I've lost too. The reason I hate it is because yes, I am proud, but I am also embarrassed that I let myself get that big.

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WAMCVEY 7/26/2010 4:37PM

    Well, personally, I love when people ask "How did you do it." (#2 on your list). Those are perfect opportunities for lighting a spark in someone else. I also don't really mind #1, cause generally I feel the folks asking are doing so good faith curiosity of wanting to know the extent of my accomplishment. I can see how the implications of the question might change drastically depending on context though.

The comment that really annoys me is one my mother gave to me just recently... "It's so much easier for a guy to lose weight than a woman." For all I know, that statement might be true, but it does nothing but trivialize the effort that was put in to lose the weight by comparing it to a standard of reference I have no hope of measuring to.

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LOTUSFLOWER 7/26/2010 4:17PM

    Love this! How about this one, when learning I lost weight my BIL said "OH, I thought you just got taller."

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_TRIXIE_ 7/26/2010 4:14PM

    I love this blog. So many truths here. It makes me sad that some comments suggest you can't accept a compliment. No, that's not the point AT ALL. The point is that you should just have some common sense about what to say to others and this blog serves as the reminder.

Thanks for writing this. It makes me sad to think I might have said similar things to friends of mine who've lost weight.

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MSA2127 7/26/2010 4:09PM

    These are so true. I lost weight when I was (about 10 years ago) younger after being overweight my whole life, and I heard every comment listed on your blog, especially number 6!! In the last 2 years my weight has come back, not screamingly fast, but steady, and especially since I don't see my family regularly throughout the year. Now due to my setback, I hear all of these other comments about my healthy life "failure" that are just as crushing as the comments before. It's really brutal. But I'm getting back to the healthy me I was, so no worries there. Just wanted to say.... Way to go for standing up for youself, and everyone else out there. emoticon emoticon

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LIFEISSWEET2 7/26/2010 3:31PM

    Number six is my favorite! but you are so right about one thru five. This should be mandatory reading. emoticon

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Appearances

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

I find myself not caring about makeup anymore. I stopped wearing it when I had my eye infection a couple of months ago and even though it cleared up long ago, I found myself in the habit of just not worrying about how my face looks. I wash it, throw on a little moisturizer and then head out. Not that I wore a lot of makeup before, but I wouldn't go to work without a little foundation, blush, mascara, and eyeshadow.

I wonder why this is? Is it because I feel like I'm more secure in my body? Was I overcompensating (like a lot of overweight people do) by using makeup and shoes to detract from the rest of me? Or is it that I'm just more confident in general?

All of the photos I've posted recently (black dress, purple dress, shorts, etc.) are sans makeup. One of my rewards was to get new makeup at 189 lbs but I haven't bought any yet. Here's a closeup I snapped yesterday of me in the office without makeup:



Anyways, no real revelations here, but I am wondering whether others have had the same experience of worrying about their makeup a whole lot less now that they've lost some weight. What say you?

  
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KATHLOW 7/27/2010 7:33AM

    never go out without a little of all that. You look amazing here tho, such beautiful eyes!

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RUNNINGNP2B 7/25/2010 10:31AM

    So far, not for me. I'm still one clothes buying, makeup wearing, shoe lovin' chica right here. And will be at goal weight as well.

But I get what you're saying. And I do run some errands without makeup (not something I would have done before) maybe because of increased self confidence? So in that aspect, I probably am not as self conscious as before because of the weight loss. And working out. I like it.

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RASCALSMOMMA 7/24/2010 7:51AM

    I was wondering about this topic. Glad I read it. And you are amazing without makeup. My husband didnt really like makeup on me so I got in the habit of not using it. When he died I was still in the habit. I finally had to throw my makeup away cuz it was old and cakey! lol. Its a great feeling when we can look into our mirrors and say "Hey girl, lookin' GOOD!" and we dont have anything covering our faces! HUGS Laurie

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ALOFA0509 7/23/2010 1:49PM

   
U look Amazing!! I too have given up makeup. Eating healthy and lots of water just makes my skin glow,, I love it- I just make sure my lashes are curled and I'm DONE.. When I go "OUT" I'll brush on some Bare Mineral powder and I'm good.. Try the Bare Minerals I think you'll love how light it is, and it feels like your wearing no makeup at all!!!!

*Cheers,
Alofa

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SHELLEYNALLS 7/22/2010 11:43PM

    I was at a point before working out, that the only time I would put makeup on was if I was going to church... Now, I am an Avon Rep, and make sure I put makeup on everyday before leaving the house, I do not workout until the evening... My hubby loves me without makeup, says I do not need it.. You are beautiful, with or without the makeup.... You rock and your blogs inspire me to keep on keeping on!

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4EVERADONEGIRL 7/22/2010 7:06PM

    You look fabulous!!! I would say I probably still wear the same makeup as before, but one area that I did change was that I always hid behind my hair. I wear my hair up and out of the way a lot more now!

You definitely have nothing to hide from girl! You are rockin' it!

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ANDERSONO12 7/22/2010 6:39PM

  You are so pretty! I find that now that I've lost weight, I've started wearing a little makeup because I enjoy it. And I got a really good haircut that doesn't require me styling it in the morning. You know what? We're worth it. So go for it. If you're more comfortable not wearing it, don't worry. You look great.

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DSORGNZEDCHAOS 7/22/2010 5:24PM

    You look great without it! I've never really been one to wear makeup on a daily basis. I will on occasion and then get bombarded by the "oh, Stacy's wearing makeup" comments, which is kind of embarassing and slightly annoying.

Stacy

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FREES1 7/22/2010 9:08AM

    Enjoy the extra time - and freedom from the worry that the make-up is on correctly, or not smudged, or any of those things! Your photo shows your own healthy natural beauty!
I can't comment on my not wearing it because of weight loss - I gave up wearing it long ago, believing that this is who I am, this is how I was made, and I can't find any reason to change it! It's a good thing!

Faye

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ALYFITN 7/22/2010 7:47AM

    I pay more attention to my hair now. I insist on a good cut that I can sweat in a couple times a day and looks great as it air dries. I no longer use makeup except for parties.

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MIKEL1999 7/21/2010 7:14PM

    You look great in this pic! I just wear foundation, blush and lip gloss everyday. I have been giving my face a rest on weekends for the most part. My daughter says I look pretty without it. I would even be late to work just to put my makeup on. How goofy is that? You are right though about the makeup and shoes. Like people can't see whats in between! I don't see myself going without even when I lose lots of weight.

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THECRAZYMANGO 7/21/2010 3:03PM

    I know for myself I don't like the hassle of dealing with it after I worked out. Sometimes it seems like an annoyance.

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AFITJULIE 7/21/2010 1:02PM

    You look amazing!! I unfortunately am down right scary without makeup so I don't think I will ever reach this point. I have noticed that my dress has been changing. I am not at the point where I can just throw anything on and look good but I'm spend less time dressing every morning and I wear more colors!

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MPALMER15 7/21/2010 12:48PM

    I only wear makeup for special occasions now. With all the water I now drink, my skin looks better anyway. Besides, who can afford putting on fresh makeup 2 and 3 times a day after workouts, lol?!

I think you look fantastic in this picture, no need for makeup at all!

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LLBEAN75 7/21/2010 12:06PM

    you are so beautiful!

I actually started wearing makeup more the more I lost weight. I found that once I really started caring about my appearance and how I looked (feeling better in smaller, new clothes, etc) I wanted to start wearing makeup and doing my hair more!

You are gorgeous without it so I say keep rocking it!!!

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FUNFROG79 7/21/2010 10:02AM

    You look great! I just feel more comfortable with a little foundation and powder....I hate feeling shiny! I hardly wear make up on the weekends though unless we are going out. Sometimes it's just nice to give your skin a rest! emoticon

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GERMANPICKLE 7/21/2010 9:37AM

  I am allergic to basically anything that has fragrance in it -so I can wear hardly any make-up. Sounds lovely .... but when I'm tired, I look tired. :D On the other hand, I have decent skin and good structure, so I'm pretty lucky.

There is a lady at work that stopped wearing so much make-up and she wore a lot before and she looks FABULOUS! She gets so many compliments now - maybe you're the same .... better without?


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EMLG11 7/21/2010 8:33AM

    Not me....I still love my makeup. I'm pretty light haired so you can't see my eyelashes without mascara. I do worry less what I look like when I am out doing active things though.

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KNITTINGFROG 7/21/2010 3:54AM

    Pic looks lo-ve-ly...did not realise your hair was so long :) And your skin-tone....gorgeous!!

Anyw
ay....I don't wear make up at the moment...not even at the office...because it is SOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOT !

My face starts sweating just LOOKING at the foundation bottle!

As one of my coworkers said..you don't realise how hot fingertips get until you put them on your face!!

Plus with having switched to lunchtime workouts I don't have the energy/time to take it off before gym then put it back on for the afternoon...

Add to that the fact I can not really (re)cut my hair until the wedding as I don't know yet how I want it (and right now it is short enough that it does not even touch my shoulders...)...not the prettiest sight, LOL!

Enjoy the make-up freedom...Summer is for healthy skin!! (And you look fab either way!!)



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AGCUNNIN 7/20/2010 10:59PM

    I say go with whatever makes you feel the best.

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CRISPINI 7/20/2010 10:26PM

    I don't wear makeup unless I have to look professional at work, which isn't all that often. Why? Because I'm lazy! and I don't care! and right now it's freaking July and it's too hot to wear makeup anyway! :)

You look great without it -- so enjoy!

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MT-MOONCHASER 7/20/2010 9:24PM

    I have never worn much for makeup. If I did, it was usually eye makeup as I never got the knack of applying foundation and powder. I do now sometimes use a little blush and eyeliner and usually wear lipstick. Mascara bothers my eyes. This has worked for me for the past 40 or so years...
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AGIBSO10 7/20/2010 9:21PM

    Funny, I have the opposite reaction. Before when I had all the weight on me, I figured makeup never really helped me look any better so why bother. I would just brush my hair and put it in a pony tail. I was a hot mess. Now I care about what I look like. I wear makeup, actually do somethime with my hair, and try to look presentable. Althought I really dont do all of that to go to the gym. If I ever get like that, some one smack me!

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LALAFLOWERS 7/20/2010 7:53PM

    Hmm.. if you had an eye infection.. toss all the liners and mascara... the bugs might still be in there... wouldn't be good to get a rebound infection....

As to wearing makeup.. I've found that I change more based on season, than anything else... right now.. it's too darned hot to wear much!! It just melts off!!!!!!



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IMSMILEY88 7/20/2010 7:10PM

    Interesting! Since I am going to the gym without makeup, I seem to be wearing it less. Today, it was after noon and we were getting ready to go shopping and I debated about whether to put makeup on. I figured I'd been going out "in public" without it, so why worry about it? But, I did end up putting it on.

And, you look great sans makeup!

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REDDIRTRUNNER 7/20/2010 6:49PM

    It's so funny you are posting this now. The last two days I have woke up feeling like I just don't want to put make up on and I really don't care that I don't have it on! I definately noticed that when I was heavier, I would shop for purses, shoes, jewelery and make up! Now, I actually like to shop for clothes :-)
You look GORGEOUS!!

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MOXIE-IN-MOTION 7/20/2010 6:21PM

    So funny...I had just mentioned this recently to a friend. I still wear makeup at work, but instead of full-on foundation, I've switched to a light powder. And on weekends I am completely makeup free. I think that as we become more comfortable and confident with our bodies, someof us feel less of a need to hide behind another "layer."

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PAPER_WINGS18 7/20/2010 6:09PM

    Hot mama! I think it's great you feel more confident now and don't even need to wear make up! (and look hot while doing so hehe)


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ALLISON145 7/20/2010 5:41PM

    I agree with JRIMM - I wear makeup more now than I did 30 pounds ago. I found that I had stopped taking care of myself like I should at my highest weight.

That being said - check me again in another 30 pounds and I may have the confidence to go without it like you do. :)

-Allison

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FRUGAL_MN 7/20/2010 5:29PM

    You look gorgeous without makeup! I don't wear it for the most part because I don't like it, it smells terrible and I sweat - and nothing is worse than sweating with make-up on.

When I do wear it to work, everyone asks if I have a job interview.

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AHEALTHIERJESS 7/20/2010 5:23PM

    You look gorgeous without makeup! Me, I don't have a perfect complexion, so mostly I wear foundation and concealer to cover up blemishes that usually pop up around TOM and to even out my skin tone. I also have bags under my eyes a lot. I feel more confident when I have make-up on (light makeup) because I feel like I look more awake, more alive, and more youthful. But since you look that way without the makeup, I say emoticon

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JRIMM4 7/20/2010 5:08PM

    Oddly, my experience has been almost opposite. When I'm feeling at my worst I tend to forgo the make-up, fixing the hair that primping stuff. When I feel confident and good about myself, my life and my surroundings I take the time out for ME to do those little things.

Having said that, I know there is something to the idea of 'faking it till you make it'. You know, wearing the makeup and such to look good on the outside even when you don't feel good on the inside. Maybe you've simply 'made it' and aren't having to 'fake it' anymore!

JR

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 7/20/2010 4:57PM

    You are glowing! Absolutely, positively glowing!!

You certainly don't look like you need to cover up with makeup!

WTG!!

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SMURPH32 7/20/2010 4:47PM

    I've actually decreased my makeup use a lot... I first quit using foundation because I got tired of buying it... SO EXPENSIVE!! I have since quit using eyeliner because I ran out and don't feel like buying more (super cheap). I still use eyeshadows and mascara, though I'm considering just giving it all up! You look GREAT without makeup :)

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RUNNINGOLLIE 7/20/2010 4:25PM

    As someone who doesn't wear any makeup and totally fail at the girl test of putting it on too- I like the no makeup and you look great!!!! If you do go back to any tutorials would be welcomed! I either look like it's 80's night or I work in bordello! emoticon

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CLAIRESML 7/20/2010 4:13PM

    I quit wearing makeup when I was obese. What was the point, I thought?
Now, that I am happy with myself I put on mascara, lipstick, and a bit of eye concealer. that's it.

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HOGFAN79 7/20/2010 4:02PM

    You look great! Thanks for the info.

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BENJAMINSBABY 7/20/2010 3:59PM

    You are so pretty!!! Seriously! Kudos to you for not wearing makeup anymore; you certainly don't need it! ;) I hear what you're saying though. I think that when I go out to dinner or a movie I do tend to put on more makeup to detract from my body haha. But on a regular basis I only wear mascara. And then sunscreen and chapstick! Hehe. It's funny how I'd never thought about it this way before!

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HEALTH-E-CLARE 7/20/2010 3:54PM

    Now that I am drinking more water and washing my face multiple times a day (in the morning, after workouts and then sometimes a third time before going to bed... don't worry I moisturize), my face doesn't break out as much. That means when I'm getting ready in the morning I don't have to pull out foundation and concealer, so I go sans makeup a lot. I do have mascara and eyeshadow in my purse if I need to glam up a bit.

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CAT5599 7/20/2010 3:49PM

    I don't wear makeup but I stay at home with my kids all day long. I think if I worked outside of the home, I would maybe wear mascara under eye concealer. But I think it wouldn't last more than a week. I do like a good lip shine/gloss though. You are pretty without makeup.

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NIELSENSLADY 7/20/2010 3:42PM

    Another great pic Karvy! And I'm with you! I hate make-up!

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CARILOUIE 7/20/2010 3:39PM

    I feel the same way you do about makeup - I find myself wearing less of it the more weight I lose. My skin, however, is not nearly as beautiful as yours - I use no fewer than 4 dermatologist prescribed face lotions, washes, gels... but it's just like Sparking, I think. Where before I was trying to cover up my skin with makeup (like covering up my fat with shoes and big clothes), I am now trying to "cure" my skin problems by treating it right, preventative care (like eating right and taking care of myself a la Spark).

Very interesting blog.

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XHOOSIERLOSER 7/20/2010 3:33PM

    I think it is what we get used to seeing in the mirror that determines the 'need'; that, and hanging with friends who liken not wearing mascara to going out without clothes! Me, I can go either way.

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STEPHANON 7/20/2010 3:25PM

    I actually quit wearing makeup back when I was really heavy, because I sort of felt like, "What's the point?" I wore baggy clothes, no makeup, stayed in the background, etc. Now that I've lost weight, I still hardly ever wear makeup because I just got out of the habit. I'll only put on a little powder and mascara if I'm dressing up special to go out somewhere nice.

I think you look absolutely gorgeous without makeup!

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JAMARCIL 7/20/2010 3:06PM

    You definitely have a youthful glow, no makeup needed. Perhaps you did feel the need to make up for something before and are more secure now. WOOT! I don't always wear it but there are times I enjoy it, too. It's nice not being dependent on it though.

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STORMTMB 7/20/2010 2:59PM

    I'm so glad you posted a close-up. You're beautiful. Go with just the moisturizer, if that's what you're comfortable with. You certainly don't need more. Then again, you're still young!! You may change a bit as time (and hormones) changes your skin (not relevent to your weight).

I'm almost 43 and for the first time starting to think a bit about makeup. I had it forced on me when I was a teenager, so I naturally rebelled and never wore it for about 20 years. I always felt that my parents thought I couldn't be beautiful without it. Never said it verbally, but the actions said differently.

Now I'm feeling better about myself and starting to try just a few things. I'll never ever wear much, but I'm doing the moisturizer now and trying some blush and lip gloss. Foundation is for special events or a little more often in winter. I'm dressing better too and brighter as someone else had mentioned. While I still have a long way to go, I'm less afraid of having people look at me (much like your comment yesterday when you were running).

Tina



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-JENSSPARK- 7/20/2010 2:43PM

    That picture is amazing! Maybe it's the fact that you look younger after losing weight?

Like so many others, I'm the opposite. Before losing weight, I never wore makeup. I just didn't care what I looked like. I mean, I couldn't buy cute clothes, why try doing anything else? Now that I'm losing weight, I find myself more likely to put makeup on in the morning. I still don't do it every day, but it is more often than in the past.

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JENELOPE 7/20/2010 2:39PM

    Oh, my gosh, what a pretty picture! Like Charlie215, I've noticed the opposite with me. I'm not actually wearing more makeup, per se, but I've been a lot more likely to wear eyeliner and apply a mattifying gel for the shiny spots. I've always worn a face full of make-up. I've also gotten my hair considerably shorter than it has been in the past couple of years. When I was bigger, I wanted to hide behind my hair and recede into the background. I also wore darker colors and looser clothes. Now I want to fluff up some more colorful plumage to draw attention to what a pretty bird I am. So to speak.

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MRSSASS2010 7/20/2010 2:31PM

    Probably because you don't NEED makeup! You're glowing!

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DOLL2THEWALL 7/20/2010 2:29PM

    And PS - You're flipping GORGEOUS without makeup! I'm jealous - your skin looks incredible!

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Shake It!

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Nonscale Victory #436 (or thereabouts):

My apartment don't shake no more.

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I was super embarrassed when I did a workout back in March and got the bang on the ceiling treatment from the guy who lives downstairs. Yeah, my big self doing butt kicks and jumping jacks to various workout DVDs made the living room go boom, boom and god knows what it sounded like to him. So I put the kibosh on indoor workouts for a bit because I figured I could either go to the gym or go for a run outside in the warmer Spring weather.

Until last night, I was tired and kinda wanted to do a workout in the privacy of my own home, so I said screw it, and popped in the Biggest Loser Last Chance Workout.

No more housequakes (TM: NOTABOUTTHEFACE). Even with sneakers. Very nice!

It was a pretty great workout, and I admit that I do need someone to tell me when and how to do my strength training to do it properly, so I enjoyed it. I feel really toned and fit today and a little sore but not too much. I think I need some heavier weights.

So keep on shakin' it, girls!

  
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IRISHF 7/23/2010 3:01PM

    I like Ellen Barrett's workout dvds. They look easy, but aren't. You get into cardio range without any impact. And she has some workouts with handweights, and even though the weights are small, she gets you with the repetition and full body movement. Keep up the good work!

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FELICE73 7/23/2010 10:25AM

    Or working out on the treadmill in the bedroom and always being embarrassed that everybody knew you were working out... husband said "I didn't even know you were working out"... so no more noise from pounding on the treadmill for me!

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4EVERADONEGIRL 7/22/2010 7:03PM

    Housequakes! Way to go on another awesome non-scale victory!

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NAMASTE26 7/22/2010 12:06PM

    LMAO! Love it! emoticon

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ANISMENDOZA81 7/22/2010 11:50AM

    LOVEDDD the BLOG! That is so fantastic.... I can't exercise in my house either so bring on them outside workouts until my house don't shake no more lol

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CORINNAW71 7/22/2010 9:59AM

    I really enjoy your blogs!! Shake it girl and keep the blogs coming!! emoticon

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CLALIZ 7/21/2010 2:18PM

    That is awesome! :)
That is totally my fear about doing jumping jacks, jump rope, etc on my apt! Thinking well I live on the top floor... and the ones right below my thing the world is coming to an end!
You are awesome! yay for non-scale victories!

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IMSMILEY88 7/20/2010 7:11PM

    That's wonderful! And, I'm enjoying having a personal trainer once a week - it's amazing how many "little things" he corrects!

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XHOOSIERLOSER 7/20/2010 3:30PM

    Shakin' not quakin'! I love it!

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STEPHANON 7/20/2010 3:22PM

    I get the broomstick on the ceiling treatment from my downstairs neighbor once in a while. My lease expires on my apartment next month, and I'm moving to a house. Can't wait!

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STORMTMB 7/20/2010 3:03PM

    I got that when I used the treadmill in my apt. I was so glad that I got a house, so no one would deter me from working out. It was so disheartening.

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ERINTHEROCKSTAR 7/20/2010 2:47PM

    Ack - I totally used to get that when I lived at my dad's house - he had this giant floor to ceiling TV stand/bookshelf thing and it used to shake so bad the books and stuff would all fall over!!! I should go over now and jump around a bit and see if it still happens!!!

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-JENSSPARK- 7/20/2010 2:44PM

    Reason #1 that I live in a house on a foundation! I've been there done that and it wasn't fun!

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FOXXYROXXYD 7/20/2010 2:03PM

    LOVE IT! Way to go girl!! Now imagine me trying to do workouts in our RV last year.... THAT was sad... happy to say it was much better before we left for the summer!

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TRAVELNISTA 7/20/2010 1:49PM

    That is emoticon. I am sure if I did any jumping jacks or other similar sort of exercise that it would register on the richtor scale. I think you are doing AMAZING!

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CALLIKIA 7/20/2010 1:34PM

    Woot! I have to admit that I'm afraid of bouncing too much in the house because of our new pretty plasma. I have this mental image of it toppling over because my big booty is causing these "housequakes," but I think that's mental more than anything.

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ABETTERCHERYL 7/20/2010 1:31PM

    Awesome little victory there! And I love the term housequakes! Thankfully, I'm on the first floor so the only thing that my neighbors have to listen to are me belting out Lady Gaga songs when I feel like dancing my booty off literally.

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SUGIRL06 7/20/2010 1:01PM

    Haha nice! I am always looking for quiet workouts to do at my house in the AM but the house is so old and creeky that anything with jumps is too much! Glad you noticed such a great difference!
~Ang

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FITGRL124 7/20/2010 12:51PM

    emoticon That's AWESOME!!!!

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OREOSMILE 7/20/2010 12:49PM

    heh! that is a fabulous NSV!

I'm lucky that I get to do my stomping on the ground floor!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 7/20/2010 12:45PM

    Funny blog. I am so happy for you! Keep it up girl

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WYND10 7/20/2010 12:45PM

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NEWYORKORCHIDS 7/20/2010 12:45PM

  Shake what your momma gave you and bring the house down figuratively!

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KITKA82 7/20/2010 12:44PM

    YES! emoticon lol! I don't make the treadmill rumble anymore!

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KITHKINCAID 7/20/2010 12:44PM

    House Shakes - that's awesome. Well not so awesome, but you know what I mean. So glad yours has stopped with the Boom Boom Pow :)

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NANASAMM 7/20/2010 12:43PM

    emoticon Cranky neighbor! lol My daughter used to have a neighbor like that, no workouts either, just normal walking around in the apartment.

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ITSHOWYOULIVE 7/20/2010 12:43PM

    That's a fun NSV!! No more housequakes!! Yay!!

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FROGGERHKC 7/20/2010 12:42PM

    That is exactly why I can't work out at home either! Luckily I am moving this week to a house, so I can jump around all I want!!! :)

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JULABELLE 7/20/2010 12:41PM

    That is just awesome!

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ADKONKLE 7/20/2010 12:40PM

    That is a great thing. Lucky for me the basement serves as my workout zone at home.

Last chance workout is great rented it once and just bought a copy for non gym workouts. Thanks for being a C25K leader and inspiration.

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ANNE7X7 7/20/2010 12:40PM

    AWESOME! I've also noticed I make a lot less noise these days!! And my pounding on the treadmill has decreased significantly!

Celebrate the victories!!

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MSWEEZER 7/20/2010 12:38PM

    Well done!!

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LIBBYFITZ 7/20/2010 12:37PM

    emoticonWell done!

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More Than a Half of a Half

Monday, July 19, 2010

Seeing this blog title, you might be like, huh? emoticon

Well, I ran more than half of a half marathon that is! emoticon

Yesterday I ran 7 miles, my longest run to date and yes, that is more than half of the distance of a half marathon (13.1 miles). My next best run was 6.5 miles, which was a shade under the half of a half mark.

It wasn't the perfect run by any means. I woke up at 6 a.m., quickly fueled with a cinnamon raisin bagel with whipped cream cheese, got dressed and was out the door before 6:30. It was sunny, with a bit of a breeze, but not enough for my liking. When I started it was probably in the high 60s/low 70s but by the end of the run, it was well into the 80s. I hate that I have to wake up that early to get a decent run in, but there you go. I do love the summer, so I'll put up with that inconvenience for a couple more months!

Here's why it wasn't the best run, though it was my longest:

I got the bright idea NOT to bring my fuel belt figuring "hey, I'm running by 2 water fountains, so why add to the bulk?" Turned out that all of the water fountains in both locations were busted. So this coulda-shoulda-woulda been a good idea went south very quickly. So I did take some walk breaks and I ate my Chocolate Clif Shot in one of the public bathrooms with a couple of scoops of sink water.

Also, I forgot my iPod back at home (my run was at my family's beach house) so I went tuneless. It was fun for the first few miles, but I was definitely craving some musical motivation midway through. It just seems LONGER. BUT my half marathon is going to be 2.5 hours of silence (I'm being generous in thinking that I can finish in 2.5 hrs, but we'll see...) because I guess the no headphones thing is pretty strictly policed.

What made the run awesome:

This group of hungover college kids sitting on the boardwalk with cups of coffee in their hand (I wonder if they ever went to sleep ... why else would they even be up at 7 a.m.?) talking loudly and saying "We should hang out around here in the morning more often. We get to see all the hot chicks running!"

I looked around and there were literally NO other people in the vicinity running, so it boosted my ego to think that I was the "hot chick!" Haha, maybe I'm giving myself too much credit? Nah, it was me! This is the girl who was taunted as a fat cow by teenagers when walking down the street in the past and this woman still feels her pulse race a bit when walking by a group of kids for that very reason. I still feel like they're going to laugh or call me a name or do something.

But "hot chick?" That was totally unexpected and totally, yeah, wow.

I finished in about 90 minutes, which I was stunned by because I took plenty of walk breaks and that fueling stop in the bathroom.

So this hot chick did more than a half of a half in an hour and a half.
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(added, because Allyn posted it in the comments and it made me laugh!)

It was a pretty freaking awesome morning.

EDIT: Hey, and I just realized that if I had headphones on, I wouldn't have heard the "hot chick" comment! WHOA. Now I feel better about running without tunes!

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

JENN26POINT2 7/22/2010 2:25PM

    I absolutely despise running without music! I don't know how you're going to do it for 13.1 miles! My furthest run was 7 miles too, then the injury I was trying to treat while still training caught up with me and sidelined me for a while, then as I was building back up, I got pneumonia... then because of the pneumonia, I missed my race, and that was that... lol

I'm so glad you're the "Hot chick"! Good, great, grand! Love it!

And I hear ya on the self conscious negative comments feeling when walking/running around other people. I always have this paranoid feeling that people are watching me, judging me, commenting on my weight, my jiggle, etc. And it always feels worse when there is food or sweat involved! I hate it and wish those thoughts/feelings would just go away.

Anyhow, I don't want to muddy up your positive blog post, so AWESOME!! Congrats on 7 miles run, congrats on the time, and congrats on the HOT CHICK comments!

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SMILE4ME05 7/22/2010 8:08AM

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CZEIDMAN 7/22/2010 6:06AM

  Sounds like forgetting the ipod was a blessing in disguise. You should definitely practice running without the tunes. Otherwise it will feel awful during the race. Good luck!

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TRIP2HAPPINESS 7/21/2010 5:16PM

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PRIMROSEPETALS 7/21/2010 3:25PM

    You ARE a hot chick! It was a blessing in disguise that you didn't have your iPod. I know the nervous feeling you speak of whenever passing people while you run. I'm paranoid that people are watching me, but clearly they're watching you in a GOOD way! ;) Way to go!



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MMS354 7/21/2010 12:19PM

    Great job on the run! I'm glad you were able to hear that you ARE a hot chick! Have a great day.

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XHOOSIERLOSER 7/20/2010 6:38PM

    I love the hot chick incident - what a turnaround, eh?

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STEPHANON 7/20/2010 3:16PM

    Loved this! I HATE having to carry water on my runs, and I would rather stash bottles somewhere than carry them with me. The hot chick comment would have made my day, too! Woo hoo!

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MOMJMGR 7/20/2010 2:12PM

    You ARE a "Hot chick"!! Way to go on your new distance! It is an adjustment to not have music especially for that long. I had to go for 2 months with out and now that I have it back it is kind of weird. I wear one of my headphones in my ear and the other tucked under my bra strap so I can hear what is going on around me.

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CALLIKIA 7/20/2010 1:37PM

    It all happened as it needed to. You are the hot chick, and I'd be running by that house more often. Free compliments, please?! Thanks!

Great job! Seven miles is incredible!

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DREAMRUNR 7/20/2010 11:54AM

    Hey HOTTIE...You are amazing.
Nice job on the run, even without the tunes. I feel the same way about trying to go without music, but I guess I will have to learn.
I am so excited for you and ALL aspects of your life. I know you are going to kick some serious butt at your HM.

mmmHMMM... HOT CHICK!!!!

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JAMARCIL 7/20/2010 11:21AM

    What an amazing feeling and you have earned every drop of it, I am so proud for you and of you, look what you did! A half of a half. WOW!!!!!!!!

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250STRONG 7/20/2010 11:14AM

    Hot Chick. Right on. That kind of compliment would keep me going for weeks....months.....years..... :)

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JENELOPE 7/20/2010 10:59AM

    I love that! You are totally the hot chick! And I suppose I must be really focused on the half marathon distance, because I knew EXACTLY what the post title meant! Heh!

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MBSHAZZER 7/20/2010 10:19AM

    Have you seen this hot chick? Because she's AWESOME! :D

I love running early and seeing all the drunk folks still out from the night before! Makes me feel better about not having a social life! HA!

Fantastic job! As you can tell from my blogs, it can be really hard to get the fueling right. It's definitely trial and error, and it's definitely better to have a "learning experience" on a training run!

Don't worry too much about the lack of headphones during the race. I am one of those folks who WILL NOT run without the music, but I usually leave it at home for a race - between the crowds, the other racers, people cheering you on and the general excitement, the music is just a distraction. You will really enjoy soaking in the complete experience!



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FROGGERHKC 7/20/2010 9:53AM

    Awesome job on the run, and what a great compliment! I am so happy for you! :)

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RUNNINGOLLIE 7/20/2010 12:02AM

    Great job!!!! I stuggle with how to carry my water and gu almost everytime-don't like fuel belts but need the water..oy!
Have a great day!!! emoticon

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PAPPHEM 7/19/2010 10:56PM

    What an awesome run, even if it isn't what you planned!

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ALLISON145 7/19/2010 10:27PM

    GO emoticon emoticon GO!

I'm amazed by the run, but not by the comment - take a minute and let your brain catch up to your new bod... you look awesome!

-Allison

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TRAVELNISTA 7/19/2010 9:25PM

    What a great compliment and a fantastic ego booster. (not saying you need one, because you do not, I see no self esteem issues in your journey. You are doing FANTASTIC) Keep up the work you emoticon emoticon you!

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REDDIRTRUNNER 7/19/2010 9:19PM

    You go girl!! I know the feeling about the teasing! Even when I was a healthy, athletic size in high school I'll never forget being called a "cow" by some random teenage boys. I already had self esteem issues, but I will never forget that and how it felt. Way to go
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VALLOUGH 7/19/2010 9:11PM

    I love the emoticon emoticon

So funny. And so impressive! I have big dreams of doing a monster run tomorrow and will think of you when I try to reach a half of a half.

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NANASNOW 7/19/2010 9:00PM

    You are still my role model! I was walking over fast and pulled a foot muscle. Taking sometime to heal before running. It is still a goal of mine and blogs like this help me! Thanks! You are right about music or not, but thenyou don't hear the things people say. Good for you!!

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CANDYXPERT 7/19/2010 8:53PM

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AIMEETURD 7/19/2010 8:08PM

    See, it was fate that you forgot your iPod!!! Awesome job on the run today!!!

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NEKOPIE76 7/19/2010 8:05PM

    What an awesome comment!!! Great job.

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SLY_REDUX 7/19/2010 7:43PM

    I am SO impressed!

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 7/19/2010 7:27PM

    Nice job hottie!!!

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SGKAYLOR 7/19/2010 6:57PM

    emoticon Great job hottie! Bet that made your week!!

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MERISSA1315 7/19/2010 6:55PM

    You totally are a hot chick! Way to go!

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CARILOUIE 7/19/2010 6:26PM

    What a great run!
Aren't compliments the best?!?!??

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LISAW/3 7/19/2010 6:23PM

    Way to go on your run! Great job, hot chick! :)

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LILMISSRED79 7/19/2010 5:49PM

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ALOFA0509 7/19/2010 5:48PM

   
Wow awsum job Hot Chic!!!

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PAPER_WINGS18 7/19/2010 5:28PM

    Nice job, u hottie u!!:)

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LIBBYFITZ 7/19/2010 5:26PM

    emoticonFor getting up early and to get moving! That "hot chick" comment was emoticon.

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NIELSENSLADY 7/19/2010 5:06PM

    Great job on the running! And of course you're the hot chick!

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STORMTMB 7/19/2010 4:40PM

    Yep, hot chick, that was directed at you. No doubt. Enjoy it!!! You've earned it.

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4EVERADONEGIRL 7/19/2010 4:35PM

    You are amazing!!! You give me inspiration, you hot chick you!! Yep - we all already knew that you are one hot chick...but it's good when you hear a bunch of college-aged guys say it!! Woohoo!!!

I still haven't tackled 7 miles...but I will be soon and I will just think of you when I do! :-)

Way to go!!!

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ABETTERCHERYL 7/19/2010 4:32PM

    Okay OMG hold on just a second... I need to just double check that my HM allows headphones... I'll be right back.

Ummm, YES. It said that "You will not be disqualified or removed from the IMT Des Moines Marathon course for using a personal music device on race day if you are not competing for cash prizes." I can guarentee them I will NOT be running fast enough to be competing for the cash prizes. LOL!

Needless to say, I agree that runs just go by much quicker when running with music. I can do it without it, but I prefer to have the extra motivation/distraction at times.

Way to go on your run HOT CHICK! Keep up the great work and you will be at that HM in no time!

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MAKALANI22 7/19/2010 4:30PM

    90 minutes?? incredible!! you rock! and of COURSE you are the hot chick =)

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CHICAT63 7/19/2010 4:23PM

    Woohoo, that's great ! Way to go your completely trained for your half marathon without thinking about it, very proud of you !!!! emoticon

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CATHERINEL66 7/19/2010 4:21PM

    Whoo hoo! Congrats on all that especially getting up early to run your BIG run all by yourself! You're my example of what *I* should be doing!

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ANGELALYNN82 7/19/2010 4:10PM

    Yeah! I am so thrilled for you. And to be called Hot Chick must have felt great! I am looking forward to this one day! :)

Angela

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AGIBSO10 7/19/2010 3:43PM

    Way to Go! I need to buy a fuel belt. I just did a 10 mile long run without it and relied on the fountains on the beach. Never thought about them being broken.

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MAGPIE17 7/19/2010 3:33PM

    Way to go!

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SOUTHIE2010 7/19/2010 3:30PM

    Congrats that is very exciting!!!

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RUNTRILAUGH 7/19/2010 3:26PM

    awesome!!! HOT CHICK!!!
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HEALTHYELEPHANT 7/19/2010 3:25PM

    YEAH!!!! Well done!!! :) :)

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LOTUSBLOSSOM126 7/19/2010 3:20PM

    So awesome! emoticon

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