Monday, April 05, 2010
Does it ever stop - this self-sabotaging behavior - we do it time and time again and yet never gain control over it. There are many that pulled through yet another holiday with pride and accomplishment, and then there are those that once again let the holiday take over their strength and will.
"The good lord gave you a body that can stand most anything. It's your mind you have to convince." ~ Vince Lombardi
Well, well said Mr. Lombardi -- no its not anything more than YOU AND YOUR MIND that you have to convince that you can do this, you are strong enough and you want it all bad enough.
Are they excuses - excuses because you really don't want to be strong enough to fight it. I sure don't think its in the gene pool, its not in the drinking water -- purely it is in your mind. I think in most cases the admission that needs to happen is that we want to be able to indulge in whatever we want when we want it. Problem is we want that and yet we want our health and a fit body. The combination doesn't work together though - so what do we do?
We decided yesterday that moderation was key, and we know that is easy enough to accomplish and pleasureable too. BUT, that is not really how it works, is it? Once we start - there is no stopping it, is there.
Did you spend any time within yourself as you became aware that you were eating way out of control - portions were way over, kept dipping the hand in the candy jar, sat around all day and just plain let those calorie counts continue to rise -- may take weeks to undue the damage done.
Sounds harsh I know and believe me I have been there , done that in my day too. However, there comes a time when we must learn and I did my time with that. At some point you come to realize that you just cannot continue to live your life as you are, or you just aren't going to live the life that you want to live. It is a realization that has major impact. You can listen or you can ignore.
What is next on the agenda to once again drop you out of touch with your goals? I think we have Memorial Day, July 4th, Labor Day - not to mention the graduation parties, the weddings, the family reunions, the picnics, the vacations and who knows what else. Do you see that IT WILL never end? From one season to the next there are always things that will tempt you off your journey. It is after all, your choice.
When do you say with the deepest of meaning that enough is enough? When do you face up to the reality that there is never a "RIGHT TIME". Kind of reminds me of those who wait to get pregnant until the time is right -- is there really a right time? There is never a right time that is going to notify you that its there - the only right time that exists is when you make the right time.
The right time is a calculated decision - a decision chosen based on your realistic knowledge that you have to commit, plan and execute.
Sunday, April 04, 2010
Happy Easter to all and hope that the Easter Bunny wasn't too good to you!!!
"Enter every activity without giving mental recognition to the possibility of defeat. Concentrate on your strengths instead of your weaknesses, on your powers instead of your problems." ~ Paul J. Meyer
Terminology such as defeat is not in the vocabulary of people who have the inner strength and power of an "I can and I will do attitude". If anyone could even imagine how simple this whole process can be if you have your own inner strength and power - fortitude equals attitude.
Too often we crowd and overwhelm our thoughts with the negativity that leads to defeat. Defeat will occur if you drive the thoughts with self doubts. When you can change your mindset to the power of positive attitude you will succeed with anything that you undertake.
Address your negativity - write it down, ponder it and pinpoint where it comes from and what you need to do to get rid of it. I used to be such a negative thinker and self doubter and I had been like that since I was a young child. After moving along the age continuum I finally had to face the realization that if I didn't change how I perceived myself, let alone my world and the world around me, then I was going to lead a pretty dismal life - or certainly a life that I did not want to live.
If I had ignored those realizations where would I be right now - I don't necessarily want to know the answer to that question. By going face to face with your fears, insecurities, self doubts and lack of self esteem you do have THE POWER AND THE STRENGTH to change those things. Just like anything else in life, you have to want to do it - if there is the least bit of hesitancy or holding back, you won't go forward.
You do need to find your inner strength and then have the courage, step by little step, to exert your power to change your attitude. We fall from our own power and attitude, not because we don't have the strength, but because we don't want to go against it. What do you do on days like today when all that easter candy abounds and of course all the food that surrounds you the entire day - just enticing you? What most people tend to do is to toss all their strength in the closet because they truly want to indulge - more often than not those people are going to try to lay blame in whatever manner - like I was at someone else's home so I had to do what I did because I didn't have a choice. OH REALLY - you have a choice and you are the only one who has control over your choices - your just choosing to forget that its your choice.
How that mind works when we want to deny and cover up our own responsibilities for the choices that we make. Sounds pretty harsh doesn't it - even though we know it is truth. That is the school of hard knocks at work. For the people that can hold up with steel resolve - for us, it is easy because we have changed our mindset and believe so much in what we do that we don't fall because we use our strength and power every day to give us that "I CAN DO ATTITUDE".
When I want to fall, I fall - BUT, I make that decision with conscious thought and a plan to cover it. I generally will not allow random falls, that is what gets you in real trouble - my falls are planned. Planning is what works and keeps you in control of the moderation game. I have no idea why so many people just shudder with fear at that word moderation - it is an awesome word, it is a word that allows you to enjoy every single little food item or indulgence without causing any harm. Does a light come on?? It should because moderation is key and "holds the key" to your health and fitness.
There is a time and a place for everything in life if you employ the power and strength of a HEALTHY ATTITUDE and stop fearing what you interpret that word "moderation" to mean. Does moderation mean eating yourself to your own demise 24 hours per day? Of course not - it just means indulging moderately in those food items that when overindulged in actually cause you harm - that harm coming in the form of high bodyfat/weight and the negative health effects that come along with lack of moderation.
If you don't have any of those things right now - go find them, embrace them and make them a vital part of your everyday life. These are not things that only certain people have - we are all born with all of these tools, it is all a question of if we chose to unleash them and use them.
Friday, April 02, 2010
"It's the lack of faith that makes people afraid of meeting challenges, and I believe in myself." ~Muhammad Ali
How often have you ever asked yourself if you "believe in yourself"? And if you have what was your response? Are you able to sincerely and honestly support what you had to say. What I am getting at here is if you had a negative response to that question, have you ever bothered to pursue it and determine why you don't believe in yourself?
I think we all have had times in our lives where we didn't believe in ourselves or our abilities, but we would hope that we would be able to move beyond that -- there are many people who don't and/or can't.
You know, it matters not what others think - its your world and it only matters what you think of you. Find the strength to believe in yourself , even if others don't, by taking one small step at a time. I have said so often before with many things that you are in charge of yourself - no one else has control over you unless you let them.
Find people who would support you no matter what and put those persons who don't out to pasture - you don't need them. You need people in your life who will foster your dreams and beliefs and will support you and love you no matter what. Find others who are very similar to you and form a support network so that you all can benefit and blossom from one another.
I talk to many people in many areas of my life and it amazes me and saddens me that there are so many people who just can't believe in themselves. It can be overcome if you want it badly enough. For every small, tiny step you take and it is in a positive direction, you will find strength. Over time all those little stengths can bring about a great deal of power. Problem is, there are just too many who won't even try or if they try give up way too easily.
When we have goals, dreams or any thing in live we want it takes persistence - you cannot give up, if you give up how do you ever have what it is your looking for. Always remember - when you believe in yourself so too will others BELIEVE IN YOU.
HAPPY EASTER ALL!!!! Send the Easter Bunny HOPPIN and don't let those little indulgences take your control from you. You have goals to meet particularly for the summer much less anything else. Those little indulgences do no sevice to you other than start that sugar frenzy within and then its back to square one to break the habit again.
Don't let yourself fall into that trap of saying - its only a day or two and its over - isn't this what you say on every holiday or occassion? Think about this and thing about why you never seem to quite get to where you want to go with your weight or bodyfat levels. These little indulgences matter more than you will know.
STAY TRUE TO GOAL!!!
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Well we certainly have had some great responses to this entire topic of aging and it is a topic that really cannot stop - because if we stop talking about it we forget, then we go back to those old belief systems that it is all downhill after 40.
"Time and health are two precious assets that we don't recognize and appreciate until they have been depleted." ~ Denis Waitley
This quote needs to tell you something, and it does if you really think about what it does say to you. I remember in my Anatomy and Physiology class when I was in nursing school - the professor was getting really dramatic about the role of the heart and he put it in a manner that hit me really hard right away and actually made me stop and think - oh my god I never thought of it like that. What he said was have you ever thought about the job of the heart - this muscle never stops, it beats every second for your entire life - never with a break or a rest, it never stops.
If your heart works that hard for you, why aren't you working that hard for you? By pushing this whole topic of aging, it is time for people to start denying life (and enjoying it "too" much) and start taking far better care of this body we live in. Your heart or any of your major organs are not different than a car - if you don't take proper care of those parts/organs do you really think you are going to run optimally and for the long haul?
Part of being young is that belief that "nothing will happen to me" - I remember feeling that very same thing - that only happens to others, it won't happen to me. Well reality check and now we are older and have much more life's wisdom - we know better than to think that anymore, do we not? As a matter of fact we are in a place where even our young are going to have to worry - and worry far sooner than we had to. Each generation, unless it changes, will get unhealthier so our young need to get rid of that "It won't happen to me attitude". Our children won't be living to even our age if things don't dramatically change./
The world needs to WAKE UP - no longer can you continue to treat your health in this way, nor treat your body with the abuse that you do. Our bodies are very strong then they are meticulously cared for - they are not strong when they are neglected and abused.
So 20, 30, 40, 50 and beyond - it matters not which age bracket you fit into it is time that you really started appreciating what your body can do for you and what it cannot do for you. START CARING, START DOING, START CHANGING and make it lifestyle change because the lifestyles of today are not going to breed health and wellness. We see each and every day no matter where we go the results of the downward flow of people's health.
We all need to CARE ABOUT OURSELVES and we all need to CARE ABOUT HELPING OTHERS TO CARE. We cannot make people change but we can be a supportive friend and always try to encourage. If you even do that you can feel good that you did something wonderful, even if that person doesn't listen. Somewhere in your path you will touch someone and that is what matters most.
For those of us that are aging we can be here to share and pass on our wisdom. For those that are younger may you use the wisdom of the older generation to help you mold the future of your own generation.
It is not acceptable to let your health go, it is not acceptable to NOT CARE, it is not acceptable to drain our healthcare systems - it is acceptable to make changes in your lifestyle, not matter your age, and begin anew with the health of your body. This topic began with the reality that AGE IS BUT A NUMBER - it does not matter how old you are - YOU CAN change your body, your health and your lifestyle - AGE IS NOT WHAT STOPS YOU, YOU STOP YOU!!
Re-write your story now, don't wait and risk your most precious assets being depleted long before you have finished living your life.
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