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Friday, September 27, 2013

Ok, so I'm a martial artist. I go to karate class 2-4 times a week. I have been for over a year. I do this with my 10 year old son (who by the way is almost a black belt!)
So last night I'm in class. Doing pretty good I thought. We were working on partner drills. I was working with a little 5 year old. I'm helping her with some of the moves she needs to know, since she is a lower belt than I am. We were almost done and she turns to me and says "man, your really big". I didn't know what to say! I mean how rude, and at 5 years old! Then we were working on a move where she had to grab me behind my neck. (Keep in mind we have been in class now almost an hour) and she says EWWWW... your all sweaty, were you just at the gym? I'm thinking I've been doing class for almost an hour why do you think I'm sweaty? But, I didn't say anything.
Then at the very end of class we had to do these things called duck walks. Now I can't do them because they are really hard on my knees. My instructor knows this, so she doesn't make me do them. So I didn't when it was my turn I just walked across the floor. Now class is over and then 9 or 10 year old boy is calling me a cheater because I walked normally across the floor instead of duck walking. Talk about a bad class. I was and still am very frustrated!!!!!

  
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BLUSHIOUS 9/28/2013 6:03PM

    Alright, let's divide and conquer.

Your weight was remarked on. Something that is affected by your weight was remarked on. That is hurtful and discouraging.

Your weight was remarked on by a 5-YEAR-OLD. A child. We don't know what prompted her to say this...she just blurted it out as children do. A white colleague recently told me that her daughter, when she was around the age of the child you're referencing, walked up to her black pool man and asked if he was black all over, then insisted on seeing his toes. Her mother didn't teach her to be that way; she was just curious. The guy was really cool about it, too. He brushed it off as just that...a curious child. My nephew has done the same to me. I remember how it felt. It hurt me. It embarrassed me because my sister witnessed it. I remember feeling frustration that my sister didn't say anything to him. I remember thinking maybe she did, but she didn't want to do it publicly.

I would NEVER condone the recommendation to straight up telling a child they are rude for making an observation. I mean, if they said your hair was brown, would it have bothered you? Would it be appropriate to tell them they shouldn't say that?

Next time it happens, find a quick response that teaches the child, but doesn't demean them. Comment on their appearance, "I sure am. I LOVE your pink sneakers" or, "I sure am. I'm also great at karate!" You are so many other things, please don't let that discourage you. Remember...it was a child. emoticon

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DJ4HEALTH 9/27/2013 11:35PM

    If your knees have that grinding feel then the next time they say anything about it let them feel your knee while you are bending it and then tell them that is why you don't do it and one day they may be like that and will have to get a fake knee to keep the pain away. As for that little girl just tell her that it is rude to make fun of people and that she would not like to be made fun of.

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My Mom, my friend!!

Friday, July 13, 2012

July 3rd of this year my mom turned 71. Unfortunately she ended up in the ER on that date. She has had so many problems for a while. She is an amazing, beautiful, caring, loving, giving person. 3 years ago she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Noboby in our family has ever had cancer of any kind... we were shocked. Then she found out that the medication she was taking for hormone therapy had a side effect... it can cause breast cancer. Just great... She had a masectomy, went through chemo, which almost killed her. She had 3 treatments and her cancer doctor said no more because she couldn't handle it. She had been doing pretty well except she is very sensitive and cry alot. That's just not her. She gets upset over the littliest things.. again not her. This past November she was having problems breathing and would get some pressure points around her heart. She went into the hospital on 2 different occasions and had all kinds of tests run and nothing. They changed her medications around and she seemed to be better. Just reallly really tired. Then 3 weeks ago it started again. They thought she was having a heart attack, she wasn't. They thought she had a blood clot in her lung.. she didn't. It's all because of stress... I've always heard that stress can kill you, she is a good example. Her doctor has told her she has to get a handle on it or she may not last another year. I love my mom very much! She has always been there for me... She has helped my out alot since my divorce, financially and emotionally. I have a 8 year old son who had to undergo 3 surgeries when he was 3 years old and was diagnosed with diabetes when he was 6. She has been very supportive. But, she worrys constantly. I also have a older brother that was in a accident at work last year. He had a concussionn and is still having some problems. Then my nephew who is in the Air Force is in Guatar for another 3 months. I understand why she worries, but she can't fix everything. I still want and need her. She is very loved. She is not just my mom she is also my best friend!!!

  
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JOYCECAIN 7/20/2012 10:46AM

    I know how you feel. I lost my mom in 2002. I truly miss her. It saddens me, when I look at her picture. Be joyful each day that you still have her.

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FOXYJEN27 7/14/2012 3:45PM

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For your momma. I hope she is feeling better soon and I hope that she is able to relax. I honestly don't mean this to sound cheesy, but is there a relaxing exercise she can do? Yoga? Meditation?

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Hips!

Thursday, July 12, 2012

At the end of June I graduated to my next karate belt level! So psyched I am! I am now learning new punches, kicks, moves etc. Last night I did a 45 minute class, all was well until about 10 minutes until class was over. We had to do this move called a front break fall. OWWW! I did it and my hip seriously popped. I'm thinking just great. The first thing I think is that I'm actually falling with 200+ lbs onto my forearms and my toes so how can my hip be hurting. Well, we have to do this sprawl thing than extends my hip. Ok, not happening right now. Not until I lose more weight. Ok, fine but problem.... this is a required move to graduate in 3 months to my next belt. Last night I ended up doing front rolls instead. Yep, I can actually roll 200+ lbs over my head and end up in an upright position. The first time I tried it was pretty funny. LOL! My 8 year old son is trying to teach me to do this without hurting myself. Let me just say that today.... I HURT. Everywhere! Hips, arms, back, abs... Ugh!!

  
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FOXYJEN27 7/12/2012 8:47PM

    I'm sorry your injured yourself, but look at you pushing yourself to the limits and not backing down. Goooooooooooooooooooo YOU.

Plus, aside from the hip, I think the rest is a good hurt, no? emoticon

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CAINADAI 7/12/2012 5:37PM

    I hope you're doing it on a mat! Yikes. Sounds so not fun. :(

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KARATE69 7/12/2012 3:37PM

    Thanks for the advise! I'm going to try that tonight.

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DJ4HEALTH 7/12/2012 1:14PM

    emoticon this is the closest that I can get to a bath tub. Maybe soaking in epsoms salt would help

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Running

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

So far I've lost almost 16 lbs, but I have decided that I want to add some running to my workout schedule. But I have never ran before, well not for exercise anyway. We do some running in my karate classes and get vey winded. I am hoping for some suggestions on how to start this. Any advise would be appeciated!!!

  
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LLROBINETT 7/11/2012 2:06PM

    What Dragonchilde said! Seriously - I started running in March of this year, at age 44. The Couch to 5K or 5K Your Way are great options. Whatever you do - slow and gradual! Good luck & have fun!

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FOXYJEN27 7/11/2012 12:35PM

    You're doing so great! emoticon emoticon

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DRAGONCHILDE 7/11/2012 11:14AM

    First and foremost: Are you walking?

You have to walk before you can run. Running coaches recommend that you have a regular walking habit and can walk easily for 60 continuous minutes at a brisk walk before considering running.

I suggest the Sparkpeople 5k your way running plans... they have several programs, each suited to different abilities and goals.

Once you're ready to start, it's critical that you go and have yourself properly fitted for running shoes. You can't just grab any old pair and start... you need proper support. I fought shin splints for months before I headed to a specialty running store and dropped $100 on a foot analyzation and fitting and got a good pair of shoes. (The $100 was what I spent total, including the shoes.) My shin splints have mostly resolved themselves.

Remember to ease into it. You can't just start out running!

Good luck with this. :) It's a lot of fun!

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JOYCECAIN 7/11/2012 10:47AM

    If you can run go for it. It is a great exercise. I can't run anymore. Have fun, and enjoy yourself. Just get good shoes. emoticon

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ERICADAWN1986 7/11/2012 10:41AM

    You could start with a couch to 5K type of program, which a lot of people like. I started out with one of those and then kind of built my own program that was less structured (I wanted to enjoy the run instead of feeling regimented). It's a great workout!

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My First Blog!

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Ok, so this is my first blog.... I'm a little nervous about putting myself out there like this, this is a big step for me......
So, last week I was on vacation, just hanging out and spending quality time with my 8 year old son :) We had to run to my doctor's office to pick up some meds. We are almost there and these guys pull up next to us in their van and start screaming and whistling. (You can always tell a good whistle from the bad kind) This was definitely not meant as a compliment. Then one of them starts putting on deodorant and keeps looking at me and laughing! I was so upset, I almost started to cry. My son was like mommy why are they doing that? I told him to ignore them. I was so humiliated. I've been working so hard to get the weight off. I go to my karate classes 3-4 times a week and even practice at home almost every night! i've lost 15 lbs, and am dang proud of myself! I have reached my first goal and am working toward my second one. How would they feel if it was reversed?!

  
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WATERDIAMONDS 7/12/2012 8:55AM

    Congratulations on your first blog, on the weight you've lost thus far, on your commitment to keep going and, most importantly, on not having given up when you were confronted with bullying.

GREAT job! Keep it up and don't sweat small-minded, small-hearted people.

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FOXYJEN27 7/11/2012 12:38PM

    Yay. First blog! I'm subscribed. You're doing so awesome. I am tremendously proud of you!!! emoticon

Also, it takes all kinds. Shake it off, baby, you know what you've done!!! emoticon

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CAINADAI 7/10/2012 3:10PM

    You're doing great, don't let the bullies get you down! I have been through similar situations over the years, and it has done a number on me mentally and emotionally. Those situations can be so painful and difficult to deal with, but you just have to push through it and remember... those people are just jerks. They don't know you, they don't know what you've been through or where you're going. Keep your chin up, and remember... you won't always be heavy, but they will always be jerks. In the end, I think you'll come out ahead.

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JOYCECAIN 7/10/2012 2:08PM

    People can be very mean. I am sorry you went through that, but also that your young child was there. You neeed to remind him that some people are just mean and nasty.

Your blog is good, honest and truthful. We are here to give support It is a good group.

Be strong and enjoy the journey

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SUPERMOMMYK8E 7/10/2012 1:19PM

    I feel your pain!!! I've been so proud of how hard I'm working and I was out running and a car full of guys slowed down and started mooing out the car while I was running. I was in tears luckily my little man is only 8 months old and didn't know what was going on but it took a huge tole on me. After it happened I felt so low about myself I let myself down and stopped working out and eating right I gained back a few pounds. But I know I'm doing this for my son, husband and for my health and just because kids and people who don't know you and are immature and are very judgmental you know how far you've come. So don't let them get you down 15 pounds is something to be so proud of not a lot of people can say they've lost 15 pounds!! You keep up the good work and remember your beautiful and people don't understand or know you at all!!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KARATE69 7/10/2012 12:57PM

    Thank you all for your kind words and support! This means so much to me!!!!
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KATIAT325 7/10/2012 12:57PM

    Well, it's people that generally don't like where they are in life, or that are on the path to nothingness, that bully others. Don't think about them. Think about you. It's wonderful that you lost 15 lbs, you are freaking amazing!

Congrats on your first blog post. When I put mine up it was in response to a challenge on the Done Being the Fat Girl group, and it took a moment to get my thoughts together to be able to write it.

You're setting a great example for your son. You're taking care of yourself, and you don't retaliate in a rude manner to bullies. Don't give in to any self doubt. You know you're great, so live like it. ^_^

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DOLLFACEDX 7/10/2012 12:46PM

    Remind yourself that these guys are the lowest form of human - not worth your upset and angst.

I believe people behaving in this manner are hidng from their own inadequacies in trying to destroy others - don't let them (and their ilk) destroy you.

You are on a path to better health - for you, for your son and for your other loved ones.

And you've taken a very difficult step right here. . . my first blog was absolutely terrifying. . .good for you!!!

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NANCYPAT1 7/10/2012 12:42PM

    You deserve some HUGS for having to put up with that nonsense. Don't let others discourage you. FIFTEEN pounds is an awesome accomplishment and you may not be where you want to be eventually, but you are making progress. Keep doing what you know works and ignore the ignorant idiots who have to make fun of people to make themselves feel better about themselves.

It is strange but I have found that most people regardless of what THEY weigh are supportive and encouraging. Even when I weighed my highest weight, I would go to the gym and college students and sexy SKINNY men and women would celebrate my successes on the treadmill, bicycle, or other machines and especially in the water because I LOVE water workouts.

I am sure that you are raising your son to be more respectful and kind than those jerks were. Maybe they just never had a mother who cared enough to teach them better. I feel sorry for them and pray for them to find a heart and soul so they don't have to hurt others to feel good about themselves/

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SWEETNWASTATE 7/10/2012 12:37PM

    Congrats on your first blog. One of the hardest parts is getting over our fear of others because others can be so CRUEL! Remember what you are doing is for yourself and your son and anything else that motivates you.



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