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The longer I maintain, the more I love being thin and "you always gain your weight back."

Friday, July 11, 2014

I have decided that part of maintaining, is not only being relentless determined, but it also being feisty. I am considering myself, a feisty maintainer! Almost three years ago, two co-workers took me aside and said separately, " You have lost a lot of weight, however, you always gain it back. You should not get so thin."
At that time, I lacked self confidence in my ability to keep weight off, and I responded with something like I hope I can keep it off this time. Now, 3 years later, as I reflect on these comments, I would answer in a different way. I would say, " I have worked hard to get to this healthy weight. My doctor and I are both happy with this weight. I would really appreciate your support instead of your criticism." I realize now that these comments were very negative and treated me as a failure. I do not deny that my co-workers have seen my yo-yo pattern over the years. However, who gave them the right to comment and be negative about me doing something positive? I am much more self confident now. I have actually confronted my boss and told him he needed to support my efforts rather than tell me that I needed to stop losing weight as I was thin enough. Thus..yay for being feisty.

As I am in my third summer of maintenance, I really am growing in being calmer and believing that I am maintaining.
The longer I maintain, the more I love being thin. This is true. I really enjoy the energy, the happiness, the muscles and toned body, and the fitness that comes with being thin, I like this thin body. I still have to look at my shorts to make sure they are size 6, even if I know they are..LOL.

My summer discoveries are yoga..definitely a good new workout for me. I also am experimenting on new recipes like cauliflower pizza crust. I have also increased my daily walks by 10-15 minutes.

Thanks to all you here who write blogs. They are my daily inspiration and support.

  
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JEANKNEE 7/14/2014 2:24AM

    Thanks so much for this blog. My fitness buddy and I have recently been on the receiving end of similar comments by our co-workers. Hoping to grow in conficence and join you in the ranks of the feisty.

Your accomplishments inspire me and give me hope.

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DESERT_BIRD 7/13/2014 2:23PM

    I love this blog! I am smiling as I read this and all of the comments. I can't wait for someone to tell me I am getting too thin. I will think of you and your feisty attitude and I will know just what to say!

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GOCALGAL 7/13/2014 9:59AM

   
I am ever so slowly "maintaining" my way down to goal . I've failed so many times that I began to doubt that I could ever maintain my currant weight let alone reach even lower.

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BRAVO!! for 3 years maintenacne!

I too have found yoga to be a great tool in my journey. Not only does it bring focus, calmness and flexibility but planks and Down Dogs are def cardio! emoticon


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TINAJANE76 7/13/2014 9:57AM

    Hooray for your feistiness! It can be hard to let negative comments like that roll off our backs, especially if they're well intentioned.

I'm not far behind you on the maintenance front and can see how my journey is echoing yours in many ways. It keeps getting better and better--although I still can't believe I am where I am sometimes too!

Thanks for YOUR blogs and positive presence here as well. I just love our community of maintainers!

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MILLEDGE2 7/13/2014 9:40AM

    You inspire so many of us! Congratulations on three years and here's to many, many more!

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SUBMOM2 7/12/2014 9:05PM

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Congratulations on your third summer at maintenance, and for being feisty!! Your blogs are an inspiration to so many of us still trying to locate our feisty switch. Keep up the good work!

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THOMS1 7/12/2014 2:09PM

    I truly love your blogs as you are such an inspiration to me. Keep them comin. Have a great weekend and I look forward to reading more. emoticon emoticon

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WATERDIAMONDS 7/12/2014 9:12AM

    Having engaged in and maintained my first truly healthy streak for the last several months, I finally comprehend your statement, "I really enjoy the energy, the happiness, the muscles and toned body, and the fitness that comes with being thin."

The longer I stay on my streak, the happier I am. I sincerely love the peace of mind, the increased stamina, the swell in self-confidence that are coming my way because I have committed to--and stuck with--my new habits.

I thank you so much for your willingness to share your experiences with us. YOU are a role model and a gift!





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ALIIDA 7/12/2014 6:49AM

    I'm so pleased for you and inspired. Your kindness and your blogs help us to lose and to know that it's possible to maintain. The person who said the same thing to me is not an unkind person, but another of our group, who has always been lean, thanked us for never bugging her about it. I hope the remarks to me will stop, or that I can find a kind but firm thing to say to stop her.
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THINFITKINDVGAN 7/12/2014 6:28AM

    I applaud not only you reaching a healthy weight and your maintenance, but your feisty attitude also.

I think there are 3 phases: 1)getting there 2)remaining there 3)Not thinking about it. #3 is where I want to be.

This is my 3rd SparkLife and 3rd attempt towards the #3 aspect. Tired of the re-do! I've learned a lot, endured even more and am wanting to get this over with for good.

Again, congrats and more power to you....er us!

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NUOVAELLE 7/12/2014 3:13AM

    Feisty maintainer! I love that!
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Your determination and confidence is so inspiring for all of us.I had heard these comments, too, back when I lost the weight. My response was "I'll do my best". I don't know whether I would have given the same today but I find the comment as rude and thoughtless now as I found it back then.
Isn't it great that we have fought against the odds of these people and we've been successful contrary to their beliefs? So far, at least! And we'll continue doing the same, right sparkfriend?
Keep on inspiring us!
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BUTTONPOPPER1 7/12/2014 2:57AM

    Wow, you're creating your own happy life story, and you give me inspiration to do the same! It's been such a long time since I was thin that I've forgotten what it feels like, but since restarting SparkPeople a few weeks ago and cleaning up my habits a little, I'm starting to have fleeting (very good) memories of a thinner me. Thanks for your blogs and your kind comments on everybody else's, which I love to read.

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QUEENIEBELLE 7/12/2014 1:33AM

    You got your power back! emoticon Feisty is freedom. Good for you! Thanks for sharing in your blogs. It's a tremendous help in so many ways. HUGS.

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_LINDA 7/12/2014 12:09AM

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You go girl!!! Way to stand up for yourself and with your boss no less!! So very impressive!! A good reason to show you WILL maintain, that there is no more yo yo on the horizon!
Loved to read this!! Truly motivating!!

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SWEDE_SU 7/12/2014 12:02AM

    you are a tremendous success - three years! and your blog is an inspiration, we do need to be feisty! and the way you are always there to cheer the rest of us on during our journey to reach the same place, well, just know you are greatly appreciated and admired! emoticon emoticon

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STEPH-KNEE 7/11/2014 11:27PM

    You are fabulous and I am glad you are feisty, RAWR! emoticon I really think as each day, week, month, YEAR passes and you are maintaining, your confidence grows that much stronger. I can see how in the beginning of maintenance there is still that fear, that fear that this will be like "all the other times we gained it all back", but I think if we can make it over that hump, there are only good things on the horizon.

I know that my family and coworkers were waiting for me to gain the weight back. My family didn't mean it in a bad way, and they never really made nasty comments, but they had seen me gain and lose 40 pounds several times.. so they were just waiting for the other shoe to drop. My coworkers are just nasty people (many of these people have weight issues of their own) and I do believe they HOPED I'd gain it back, they were failures at weight loss, so they wanted me to be too. If I was successful (especially without surgery), then it would prove that it could be done, and that their excuse that "no one can lose weight" was no longer valid.

Did your coworkers have a weight issue? It doesn't matter, I was just curious myself, because I know that I get the most flack from the overweight ones. But I do also get flack from the super skinny ones, which always makes me giggle. At my skinniest I won't be smaller than them, so they need to get over themselves! ;)

It just shows how much you've grown as a person, that at first you questioned if they might be right, but now, you've proven to yourself as well as everyone that you are strong enough to maintain, and more importantly you are able to stand up for yourself if need be! You are fabulous and an inspiration and role model to us all! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KOHINOOR2 7/11/2014 8:05PM

    emoticon emoticon You are a great inspiration to all of us. Keep speaking up for yourself and don't listen to other peoples negative judgements, keep up the great work. emoticon Thank you for sharing. Have a greet weekend.

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GOANNA2 7/11/2014 7:58PM

    Congratulations on the 3 years. You are such an
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ONEKIDSMOM 7/11/2014 7:34PM

    I LOVE your attitude! I too am getting feistier about maintenance the longer I stay here. I, too, love being fit and trim. Life is just so much easier when I am. By the way, I just went back to count on my fingers... this would be my fifth Summer of maintenance... and by now? The comments about "skinny" have stopped (thank goodness) and people at work just accept me as the new me.

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WATERMELLEN 7/11/2014 7:15PM

    What a fantastic blog! Love to hear that you are speaking up for yourself and REFUSING to be criticized for your self-discipline and your success in maintaining!! Your co-workers will get the message eventually . . . and maybe someone of them will emulate your excellent modelling of healthy behaviour!!

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HOLLYM48 7/11/2014 7:06PM

    Well awesome for you! I am so happy for you for being in the 3rd summer of maintenance. This is not an easy task as we know! It takes just as much work if not more than losing to maintain and to keep the promise to ourselves that we are worth all of this effort. Keep up the great work and you decide for yourself if you look good and healthy! I am sure you do and the doubters can just be ignored! Kudos to you for all the good work you have done!

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MARILYNROBERT 7/11/2014 7:02PM

    I'm so proud of you and you are a huge (not in body size of course) emoticon inspiration to me. I'm going to be with you in maintenance someday and I look forward to learning more and more from you over time. All your lessons that you pass on to us are meaningful. emoticon emoticon

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SMILINGEYES2 7/11/2014 5:04PM

    You give me hope. I am still losing but rate slows as I get down. In the past I would yo-yo. I have seen others who had the surgery gain and I have seen those who maintained. I hope to be one who continues to follow healthy eating with activity. Thanks for showing it can be done.

The nurse warned that as we lose others will say too thin and express concern we are suck. They would not do this for a friend who has always been thin. I appreciated her heads up.

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MICKEYH 7/11/2014 4:47PM

    I thank you for writing this blog! You really are my inspiration! Yes, BIG Yay, to being feisty maintainer!! I shall follow your feisty attitude. Lol)) and you are so right about no one has right to give us negative criticism who is doing positive things for her. Right on! Keep on keeping on us!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 7/11/2014 4:01PM

    You worked hard and the results are there for all to see. You are healthy and you look great and feel great. It doesn't get any better than that.

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MANDELOVICH 7/11/2014 3:46PM

    Bravo to you! Firstly for 3 years!!! Amazing! And for speaking your truth and honoring yourself! Woohoo!

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LORILEEPAGE 7/11/2014 3:34PM

    How's the pizza crust? You are a great example. I've done a new yo-yo in the wrong direction and I've concluded that extra weight on my frame makes me tire more easily when exercising.

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PHOENIX1949 7/11/2014 3:09PM

    emoticon Hooray for feisty girls! emoticon

I feel privileged to have connected with maintainers through the Mental Toughness Program and my Virtual Trek through Australia.

I've stalled, yet again, in my quest; however, reading Blogs such as this are good for me to read and take in.

Thank you for sharing.

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SUNNYBEACHGIRL 7/11/2014 3:07PM

    It is not always easy to stay with your own internal compass. Be healthy your way

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LESLIESENIOR 7/11/2014 2:19PM

    Congrats on you confidence, fitness, and good health! The people in our lives who try to trip us along our path have their own problems. They are usually insecure and jealous. It is a form of bullying. It can happen in any area of our lives. I have learned that I don't have to be defensive about anything any more. I just try each day to be a good living example for my kids, friends, and community. I'm so happy that you are doing so well. Hooray and keep enjoying your great life!

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GINA180847 7/11/2014 1:47PM

    Your blogs are an inspiration to me. When I get on this computer it is hard to find the time to blog as once I track, answer all the emails etc. 2 hrs. have gone by and I am running out of time and steam. I truly have perfected the art of letting people just be they don't need to share every thought they have as in thinking for your own good maybe you should not go as low in weight as you have. One needs to trust that people do not do these things without putting a lot of thought into them. Then all that is needed is just to be supportive of their actions showing them that you think they are capable.

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TULIPVIC 7/11/2014 1:41PM

    Once when I was a little below goal weight, my doc said not to lose any more weight. That was all it took for a 15 pound gain almost immediately! Thanks for giving me a different perspective when that happens again.

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KRISZTA11 7/11/2014 1:35PM

    emoticon to your weight loss and maintenance success!

Too bad people often just say what is on their mind, and think this is a good thing and they are just being honest : (
It is true that there is a bog risk of regaining weight - - but telling you they don"t believe in your success certainly did not help. Great job you proved them wrong!
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I share your love for yoga!
In the weight loss phase I used to think it was worthless as it does not burn many calories. But the flexibility, calmness and happiness that comes with yoga practice is worth every minute!
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SHERYLDS 7/11/2014 1:33PM

    You inspire us....as well as all the kindness you share by encouraging us.
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    emoticon Stay feisty! The nay-say'ers can just take a long walk off a short pier. Maybe then they will cool it. emoticon emoticon

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Returning under goal weight and "I don't want to be as skinny as you are."

Friday, June 27, 2014

I am happy to report that I returned from Hawaii under my goal weight!

Family dynamics can be interesting. My sister is my height and weighs around 20 pounds more than me. It is hard when my Sister in Law comments to me..saying, "You look great. You are so thin," but says nothing to my sister. Then later my sister comments. " I do not want to be as thin as you. It is just too much work and it is too hard to stay at that weight. Plus I do not want to give up my favorite foods." She also noted that I do not do a pig out day as she does when she eats all of the Hawaiian foods that we grew up with.

I wish my SIL would not make those comments as they do not make my sister happy..but I also cannot protect everyone from thoughtless remarks.

I am totally fine with my sister's comments. It is her choice to weigh what she wants. However, I wish she could see that you really can have a happy lifestyle at my weight and can enjoy your food! It is not too much work. I am happier now than I have been in years.

However, as I reflect on my past, I also had those thoughts that being thin was too hard , I am glad that I have Spark friends to support my changes.

  
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KANSASROSE67 7/12/2014 2:12PM

    emoticon Cheers to the feisty maintainers!

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BABARR67 7/8/2014 9:20AM

    Go you. You are a kind hearted person. Everyone has the right to make their own choices and find their own happiness. I am sure your SIL was not trying to be mean, but some people do not realize that a little tact goes a long way. HUGS

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OOLALA53 7/6/2014 1:14PM

    Your is not really saying she doesn't want to be slim, but that she enjoys her habits as they are. I relate to that. My weight now is what a lot of Sparkers and maintainers would consider too high, but I know how I ate and exercised when I weighed closer to my peers' ideal, and it was not enjoyable. I feared food at social events, and my knees were hurting and getting worse al the time. I continue to tweak and am increasing exercise for health's sake, so things might change, but if they don't, they don't.

I also often come back from vacations having lost because life is so much more full and busy with fun stuff, normally.

BTW, my sister said several years ago that she accepted that she was just going to be fat, after having gained about 40? 50? pounds after retiring. She said that even though her doctor was worried about her health indicators. (And she was a nurse!) But as time went on she changed her mind and took off 30 lbs.! You never know when the motivation will strike.

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LYNNWANNABE 7/3/2014 8:29PM

    It took me years to stop comparing myself to my sister [who has always been smaller than me] and I'm glad that the rude comments no longer have the power to KEEP me down.. it's really been a rollercoaster ride for me. But, the more I set up boundaries and learn that I don't need other peoples approval the more I have been finding healing in these areas. I love that you are going to keep the weight off and do what works for you!

It kind of reminded me of my Mom wanting contacts after losing all her weight; she was so excited by her transformation that she couldn't wait for her Mother and sisters to see her, wouldn't they be surprised.. only, the minute they saw her they criticized her [especially, her sunken eyes.. from having worn thick glasses all her life] only they made her feel like an ugly freak, she gave up and nothing we could say to her fixed it. People don't realize that words hurt and can make us turn back to our brokenness. WE NEED TO BE STRONG ENOUGH NOT TO DO THAT.. WHICH I wasn't FOUR MONTHS AGO; BUT, GOD HAS GIVEN ME THE ABILITY TO RISE UP AGAIN. But, it was painful [like getting stitches] for I had to face the pain first, because burying my heart [face] in food again for comfort, was making it worse and me fatter. I finally realized, I needed to deal with the wound/pain [emotional hurt] but, like stitches it hurts, but with God, I know afterwards comes the healing and so it was with me. I see the TRUTH, that this is about my perception not other peoples. (I hope this makes since?)

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SWEDE_SU 7/3/2014 6:47PM

    congrats on your weight victory from your trip! i for one know just how hard that is! it's difficult to deal with the comments and opinions of others, but we do know how much happier we are with our lifestyle choices...

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SUBMOM2 7/1/2014 5:28PM

    Good for you for maintaining on vacation! My family and I just returned from beautiful Maui last night, and I am 4 pounds heavier. Not my healthiest week of eating, but we had a great time and and I hope to get back on track this month.

I can relate to the odd comments. Not sure if it's "helpfulness", jealousy, curiosity or what that causes people to say these things, but good for you for being able to shake it off and stay in your happy place.

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TRAVELGRRL 7/1/2014 4:59PM

    Coming back from vacation UNDER goal is a huge accomplishment -- congrats! My mother is my height and is proud of the fact that she weighs 35 pounds less than me -- I'm at the top of the acceptable BMI chart and she's at rock bottom. I see her struggle not to eat and to admit "I'm hungry all the time." I couldn't imagine living like that.

So that being said, I agree with everyone who said we make our choices and we live with the consequences. Congratulations again on finding peace in your own journey!

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IRON_RESOLVE 7/1/2014 8:55AM

    It's so encouraging to come home to come home to. I love reading your blogs. It's how I'm learning to Walk the Walk. Thanks for sharing, and bringing us on board.
It's such a shame that EATING became the national pass time, way back in the 1970's with all of the fast food chains going up across USA and Canada, and still filtering into other continents.
Eating out seems to have replaced hobbies that people used to develope.
Now while we try and remove all of the accumulated weight, from extra and larger portions, we also have people defending their size through bone structure, and lack of time to take action.
I weigh the least of all of my 5 sisters. When my Mother went to work, and we were young, it was as extra support for our family of 8. The extra income also brought snack food, which turned out to be comfort food.
We were VERY active outdoors as kids, but the habits become ingrained, and in my case, has taken a lifetime to evolve the FINAL SHRED!
Again, hanks for sharing, as we all see ourselves somewhere between the lines .
I love to wake up and discover the scale is not punishing the times I do indulge. As I also see, if I hit my higher number of my weekly 3 pound range, as I am reducing, then I know to change the next 3 days

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RR1_RR1 6/29/2014 10:20AM

    Thats really considerate to think of your sister. I didn't know you grew up in Hawaii- that must have been so nice!

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ALIIDA 6/28/2014 10:19PM

    That puts you in such a difficult position and I agree that comments about people's weight need to be avoided, whether it's criticism or praise. I wonder if this situation would be less likely to occur if you were all brothers and brothers-in-law!

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KRISZTA11 6/28/2014 5:31PM

    Congrats to maintaining your healthy lifestyle in Hawaii, and I'm glad you had a great time.
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DESERT_BIRD 6/28/2014 9:37AM

    Love your attitude.

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WATERDIAMONDS 6/28/2014 7:27AM

    Your sister may truly mean what she says, but this may also be a case of sour grapes. Either way, she deserves exactly what you are giving her--unconditional support for her right to choose.

I think perhaps the solution lies in your comment, "I am happier now than I have been in years." Simply demonstrating that may be a better response than any words you could utter.

As for the SIL, you might thank her sincerely and then, in a one-on-one moment, gently ask her to refrain from over-commenting, as the remarks make YOU uncomfortable. Never bringing your sister's name into the conversation shows that you are not speaking for her, which is another way to respect her right to think as she wishes. Never pointing out to your SIL that she is unkind to ignore your sister when she comments about you gives SIL the opportunity to recognize that for herself, without the embarrassment of having someone else (you) explain it to her.

Speaking with her about it may not stop your SIL, but it also might, and wouldn't it be worth the risk to restore total equanimity during such a wonderful vacation?

Congratulations for having returned from your trip healthy. And sincere congratulations for your empathetic attitude toward your sister. You've been where she is and you understand. You couldn't give her anything better than such loving acceptance.


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MANDELOVICH 6/28/2014 7:17AM

    Wow! Way to go on a successful trip, caring for yourself despite some emotional challenges!

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SMILINGEYES2 6/28/2014 12:08AM

    Sounds like you handled the trip with grace and made good decisions regarding your eating.

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POSITIVEHOPE 6/27/2014 11:47PM

    I remember hearing comments like that. I always knew they were meant to motivate me but they still had the power to crush me. Choosing a weight goal is so personal. Why should anyone feel the need to defend such a personal choice. I am glad she has a goal to help her with accountability. At different times in my life, I have found the work of the journey to be "too difficult." It was all too easy to give up altogether feeling that way.

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ONEKIDSMOM 6/27/2014 6:45PM

    Family relationships can add complexity to inner motivation / demotivation. When we love one another, sometimes we avoid confronting issues. In the end we each have to follow our own path, we can't make someone else's choices for them. But we should not alter what's right for us just to make someone else feel comfortable about a choice they make and we do not.

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HOLLYM48 6/27/2014 6:34PM

    Sibling rivalry can be kind of hurtful that is for sure. The important thing is for you to be at peace with where you are weightwise and to be happy. If you are comfortable and eating the foods that make you feel good and not starving yourself, then you are doing the right thing for you! KEep up the great work. I hope we get to see some great pics from Hawaii soon! Great job on keeping the weight off while vacationing. I am super proud of you for that!

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DIANNEMT 6/27/2014 5:22PM

    So glad you had a great time AND did so well with the eating!!

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MICKEYH 6/27/2014 5:19PM

    emoticon glad to hear you came back with under weight. Hope you had a really great time with your family in Hawaii. You really are our hero! Congrats and keep on keeping on! emoticon emoticon

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TINAJANE76 6/27/2014 5:17PM

    Yeah, this is a tough one to deal with. There's definitely a bit of a rivalry between me and my sisters in this department and it's hard when other people in the family make comparisons (my dad is the worst with this kind of thing even though I know he means well!), either implicitly or explicitly.

I also wish that more people could get on board with the idea that being slim doesn't have to mean living in a constant state of deprivation or misery. Like your sister, I struggled with pig-out days for a long time, but feel so much better now that I'm able to moderate myself more. I still eat rich food sometimes just not every day and not in massive quantities (though I do still have the occasional slip). As Ellen said, those pig outs are always better in theory and can be VERY hard to recover from. It's so much easier to be on more of an even keel most of the time even if it takes some effort to get to that place.

Kudos to you for doing so well on your vacation!

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LORILEEPAGE 6/27/2014 4:46PM

    You did great with you eating on your trip. Especially around the old comfort type foods! You are to be commended. And kudos for not getting sidetracked by the comments of others. Even positive remarks to me can turn me into a celebratory mood in which I go to sweets to celebrate that my low weight is noticed. How backwards is that!!

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WATERMELLEN 6/27/2014 2:43PM

    It's lovely to have the recognition of your sister-in-law but . . . more private compliments might create less sibling rivalry from your sister!! You are very forgiving of your sister and that's terrific because your genuine acceptance will be communicated. She gets to make her choices . . . and she also gets the consequences of those choices: but I agree, it's less difficult, really, than she believes. That "pig out" day is always more appealing in theory than in practice -- it's uncomfortable at the time AND it makes it more difficult to return to the moderate level of calories that's appropriate after the pig out!!

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MARILYNROBERT 6/27/2014 1:54PM

    You have a wonderful attitude towards what is said to you and around you. That's what allows you to be such a success. emoticon

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MARYBETH4884 6/27/2014 1:47PM

    As you said, you can't control what others say. We each need to decide we we feel is a healthy weight that we can maintain. I recently was at a family reunion where I was put on the spot about losing weight and it was uncomfortable. There were several discussions of diets, some I felt were unsafe, and some adult children were talking about imposing diets on their overweight parents. I only explained what I did and how I planned to maintain. One cousin pulled me aside and thanked me for my positive attitude on weight loss and the fact I was supporting healthy and advacating a particularly restrictive food program. Everyone needs to make the choice to persue better health or it will just not happen. I'm glad you can home under goal and feeling strong!

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QUEENIEBELLE 6/27/2014 1:22PM

    Relationships with family can be as complicated as relationships with food can't they. Good to see you stand your ground with the weight you feel best with. Some people have become overweight or gained weight back due to "people pleasing" issues. You already get it that we can't please or protect everyone and that is a good thing. I am so proud of you and glad you had a good time. Well done my friend! emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 6/27/2014 12:53PM

    It sounds like it bothers your sister that you and she are not exactly the same as you used to be. It might have given her comfort that you and she used to eat this traditional food together. With your mom weakening and her having her issues she must feel vulnerable. Food traditions were a huge part of my families relationship. If one of us chose not to eat it was if we were withholding love. I think your sisters comments were less about weight and more about worrying about her perceived losses.

If your sister is only 20 pounds heavier than you then at least she isn't doing herself too much damage. You can actually be 20 pounds more and still be in a healthy weight range on the charts. I'm like you and think that it's okay for her to weight what she wants to but it would be nice if she could see your weight loss as a positive thing for you and not a negative. Maybe with time she will change her mind.

For me personally, I weighed 86 pounds for years and then gained up to 115 to 120. I do better with a little more weight on me than that though if I want to avoid communicable diseases and I can still be in a normal weight range up to 145 pounds due to the amount of muscle I have. I would like to weight 135 to 145 pounds. That's my goal if I can ever reach it.

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KELLIEBEAN 6/27/2014 12:20PM

    Congratulations!

I've had those comments before "it's too much work" or "I wish I had the time you do to work out". It's too bad people see it that way. I used to feel that way too but now I get it. Once you see it as a lifestyle, it's a lot easier than I thought.


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REBECKY441 6/27/2014 12:10PM

    Everyone has to find their own happy corner in life. I'm glad you have been able to find yours.
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TULIPVIC 6/27/2014 11:46AM

    You did well on your trip and are to be commended with staying with what you believe. Weight is a personal thing and everyone deals with theirs whether they share their feelings or not. Keep it up!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 6/27/2014 11:39AM

    When I read the title I thought it was some stranger or co-worker giving you "thin shaming" comments and I was ready to share some not so kind possible responses. With those we love and who love us, the situation is different and more complicated.

It would be best if no one commented or compared appearance out loud.

I don't have siblings, but I remember a family with 2 daughters 1 year apart in age. The older girl was quite attractive, but her younger sister was absolutely gorgeous. When discussing them, people would ask, "which one is she, the PRETTY one?" Who knows how much damage that did over the years, both to the girl's self esteem and her relationship with her sister and it had nothing to do with weight,

Congratulations on staying under goal. We can do it if we try. We prove that every day.

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GINA180847 6/27/2014 11:23AM

    So glad that you came back from holidays feeling good about yourself and having also had a very good time. To tell you the truth sometimes I wonder why anyone says anything about their weight to others. It never seems to work to anyone's advantage. Live and let live I say. Though when I am in the area with my grand daughter who is overweight I do try to get her to eat healthy with me and exercise more. But I try not to say anything that will affect her, I just give her an abundance of love. I am so glad that neither parent ever said anything to me one way or the other but my older sister got a lot of remarks and it affected her so adversely. She told me what she says to herself and it was so ugly that I gave her hell just for being so cruel to herself.

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BOOKAPHILE 6/27/2014 11:16AM

    We can't please everyone, nor should we try. You've made your choice and are living happily with it. Your sister believes she has done the same. I'm glad you're back home. How is your Mom?

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THOMS1 6/27/2014 11:13AM

    Happy you had a wonderful time in Hawaii and that is great that you came back under your goal weight. I feel bad for your sister. My mother (God rest her soul) was always trying to get us to lose weight when we were children and teenagers and if you look at pictures from back then we did not look overweight. She took us to our family doctor who prescribed diet pills. I guess that is what they did back then when they didn't know any better. Anyway I started Spark about 6 years ago weighing 350 lbs, learned to eat right and exercise. I am happier than I have been in my life also.

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Preparing to Maintain in Hawaii

Monday, June 16, 2014

Tomorrow I fly to Hawaii with my daughter to see my family. I am excited to be in the lovely tropics again. I was reflecting that my mother who is 94 had me when she was 38. I had my daughter when I was 38 also. My mother and I also both had 4 kids under the age of 5 in 5 years. Those early years were hectic for both of us.
My plan is to maintain in Hawaii no matter what and to stay within my range. To prepare for this I have put myself on a mini boot camp to get below my goal weight before leaving.

The challenges will be varied. The time change of three hours means that I will wake up at 3 am Hawaiian time and will be hungry. I already know a Starbucks that opens at 4 am so I can at least drink coffee. Hunger will definitely be part of my life. I am carrying 100 calorie nuts and tea bags in my purse to work my way through those hungry hours.

I will be staying with my sister who does not cook and lives on frozen meals. This of course will result in purchases of fruit, vegetables and protein for me. Crazy as it sounds, I may even take small packages of spices as she has none.

I also will simply have to find time for walks or swimming no matter what the schedule is. I am hoping that my daughter will join me. We may even try some hikes to the waterfalls.

The nice thing is that my brother who is older than me, is an exercise nut also. He surfs every morning and is 67 years old. I can meet him at the beach.

The positive side is that I will spend lovely moments with my family, especially my mom.

I can also indulge myself in the ethnic food that I constantly cook at home.

My walks will be around beaches with sunrises and sunsets and tropical flowers.

So I am mentally and physically ready for my trip., I will take Spark with me for support will keep tracking on my spat.

In re-reading Refuse to Regain I liked one of her comments.

4.Climber's Fatigue: Losing weight was an exciting, attention getting makeover. Permanence requires a relentless, daily attention to detail that no one but you may notice. This phase will only work if you learn to deeply love the new you and the very process that allows you to stay as you are. Not only can you do this, but it will also be highly rewarding.

What I focused on, was not only learning to love the new you, but to love the very process that
allows you to stay as you are. Yes that is it!

I am wearing tennis shoes on the plane and am ready to walk laps at the airport. This will jump start my trip.

Happy Summer Spsrk Friends!





  
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GREGGWEISBROD 6/26/2014 10:42AM

    Love your plans of attack!!! :D It's always great to head into an adventure with some sort of game plan. So, with all that family in Hawaii, is that where you grew up and were born? Or did your family gravitate there later in their lives? I dream of visiting Hawaii one day, take lots of pictures! :D

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OHMEMEME 6/24/2014 8:31AM

    Hope your trip is going well! Family, food, and fun in Hawaii has to be an awesome experience. Remind yourself of how different this trip is compared to a hundred pounds ago. You are LIVING this new healthy life to its fullest...life's small miracles! One of my mantras is temporary hunger is not a crisis and hunger is a means to weightloss not deprivation or punishment. I know I worry about what to eat and when to eat when I am out of regular routine but I also remember that a few pounds up on vacation will come down when I get home and back to normal. ENJOY!!! emoticon

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QUEENIEBELLE 6/22/2014 4:27PM

    You are already there but I am just now catching up on a few friends blogs. I always check in on you first! You are so positive and encouraging. I LOVE your planning ahead for success- that has got to be a key ingredient in maintaining. Gosh I'm so happy for you that you get to be with so many family members who live there. I would live there in a heart beat but hubs says its too expensive to start out there now when we're already retired. We visited Mauii and the beautiful lavender fields upcountry about 6 years ago and I've been missing it ever since lol. Hope to read a trip report from you when you're back! Safe travels and big HUGS.

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TINAJANE76 6/21/2014 2:26AM

    I know you're already gone, but I just wanted to say that I hope you're having a fantastic trip. I love your game plan to help you stay on track and I'm sure you'll do great as you enjoy your gorgeous surroundings, time with family and delicious, healthy food.
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BRADMILL2922 6/19/2014 1:59AM

    Sounds like a challenge that you are more than ready for! Good luck with it and have a blast! I have to say that I am a little jealous as I have never been to Hawaii :)


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MICKEYH 6/18/2014 11:37PM

    I can feel your determinations and it's contagious. Thank you for sharing your attitude towards maintenance and you are a such a raw model in our community. I never thought of lose weight before the vacation. That is a Great idea as I always gain weight with vacation. I once was living in Hawaii and I now miss them so much. Loved about their Ohana sprits and international cultures and off cause the foods. Enjoy and safe trip back.

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MJREIMERS 6/17/2014 3:39PM

    I love your dedication and motivation. emoticon I have no doubts!!! Have a great time and remember it's ok to indulge a tiny bit! emoticon

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SWEDE_SU 6/17/2014 3:17PM

    i almost missed this blog - it is EXACTLY what i needed to read, and wish i'd had with me when i was in hawaii last winter. your attitude is perfect - you are well-prepared with a plan, you have embraced the new you and the process that got you there. that's what i need to do too!! have a great time walking those beaches, i'll be thinking of you there:-) emoticon

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WATERDIAMONDS 6/17/2014 7:50AM

    You are as well-prepared as you could be, and I cannot wait to read your follow up on how much you enjoyed your family, what special beauty you noticed in all that surrounded you, and that you kept your weight within reasonable limits on this trip.

I particularly relate to your comment that we not only benefit from learning to love the new us but also from learning to love the process that we use to stay healthy. You are a true inspiration, and I thank you for taking time to blog in the midst of what must be a crazy packing/travel schedule.

Now, go have a blast!

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GOANNA2 6/17/2014 7:42AM

    emoticon Great blog. You will have a great time.
maybe your brother will teach you to surf! That should
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LORILEEPAGE 6/17/2014 7:22AM

    I'm so excited for you! You know how much I love Hawaii!! I miss it as it's been 7 months since our last visit and no plans to go for awhile since our son from the University at Oahu got a research job for a few years at Princeton. Our travel time will be spent going there! Eventually we'll go to graduation on Oahu.

I love walking around the island and feeling the breezes. Nature is so beautiful there! Get some local mangoes and papayas! Mmmm! Pineapple too! I guess you're probably either in the air or taking off soon! Safe travels! emoticon

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NUOVAELLE 6/17/2014 2:18AM

    How wonderful that you're all-prepared to face the challenges of your trip and deal with them successfully! I'm sure it will be a wonderful trip.
Thank you for inspiring us to do the same during summer trips and vacation. Your blogs are always great sources of inspiration.
Enjoy every moment of your trip!
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_LINDA 6/16/2014 11:49PM

    Sounds like a fantastic trip, well planned on your part! I loved my one trip to Hawaii, was a dream come true and hiking those tropical forest trails was an adventure! I am glad you have one exerciser in your family! Surfing there is scary so easy to get injured on the sharp rocks hidden beneath the sand -saw so many people walking around on crutches with their foot in a boot! If you try it do be careful and wear aqua shoes!
Enjoy and have fun! Can't wait to hear all about it!

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SNOWYOGA 6/16/2014 10:05PM

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SUSUSUZZZIE 6/16/2014 9:52PM

    You have a wonderful trip ahead and a great plan to continue to continue to stay in range. I have no doubt that you will be rewarded for your efforts.

And another thank you for sharing these great words. It really hit me today - just the words I needed. " Permanence requires a relentless, daily attention to detail that no one but you may notice. This phase will only work if you learn to deeply love the new you and the very process that allows you to stay as you are. Not only can you do this, but it will also be highly rewarding. "

Have a wonderful trip!
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WATERMELLEN 6/16/2014 9:41PM

    Terrific blog -- you are pragmatic and prepared to deal with the challenges of your trip, and to focus on the good stuff.

Great idea to take along some spices and 100 calorie nuts and to wear your runners for airport laps. You've got this all figured out: not just a wish to maintain but a PLAN!!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 6/16/2014 8:45PM

    I was amazed at the amount of things you and your mom had in common. I had my son at 32. My mom was 19 when she had me.

Oh my! Your sister's diet sounds horrible. I gag on frozen dinners. Your brother sounds fun.

It sounds like it will be a wonderful vacation. Have a fantastic trip!

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ONEKIDSMOM 6/16/2014 8:05PM

    I am so pumped by this blog, that puts so well the essence of maintenance: loving the new you and the process it takes to maintain! What nicer place to be active than the tropical paradise? Enjoy that trip, stick to your lifestyle, and LOVE it... emoticon

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HOLLYM48 6/16/2014 7:55PM

    Have a fantastic trip! I am sure you will get lots of walks in and that will help for sure. Vacations are tough but we can maintain, it just takes diligence. When we went to Greece and Italy, I shared meals or ordered appetizer portions and that way I got to taste the food and really enjoy it without gaining unwanted pounds. Have a great time visiting family. Please share pictures with us. I am hoping to go to Hawaii in a couple of years with my hubby. I have never been there but it is a dream of mine to go!

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ALIIDA 6/16/2014 5:45PM

    It sounds as if you will have a great, refreshing time. Your plans to keep you weight low are inspiring. Have a wonderful time! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MILLEDGE2 6/16/2014 4:58PM

    Good for you and we're all behind you!

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MANDELOVICH 6/16/2014 2:50PM

    I love how well you thought this out. I bet you'll have an amazing time, and maintain beautifully! Enjoy!

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PHOENIX1949 6/16/2014 2:19PM

    Great plan in place. I can even visualize you pacing the aisle in the plane putting those tennis shoes to even more use. Have a GREAT visit.

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THOMS1 6/16/2014 2:10PM

    Sounds like you have a great plan. Have a wonderful time with your family and enjoy your vacation. emoticon

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TERI-RIFIC 6/16/2014 1:13PM

    You are prepared mentally and physically and will certainly do well. Hawaii is so beautiful. Snorkeling is one of my favorite things! Will you be doing any? You are not crazy for taking spices - and that reminds me of when we were stopped at the airport for my son's backpack setting off the metal detector. He had packed muscle milk and cans of peas! The guy looked at him and said, "Do you think they don't have food there?" His protein powder was allowed through. He and his Dad spent an hour one afternoon (this was in Costa Rica) looking for skim milk. Have fun in Hawaii and ejoy the family time!!

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GINA180847 6/16/2014 12:49PM

    How wonderful for you to spend great family time in the tropics. And you have a plan which sounds great to me. You may have had your daughter late in the child bearing yrs. but I had my first one at 21 and she had her twins at 39. So you see it is not necessarily in the genes. Once after I left my first husband my daughter asked me "But who will look after you when you are old?" and I sensed that she was feeling the burden already. I said to her "Well, not you honey because you will be old too."

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POSITIVEHOPE 6/16/2014 12:46PM

    Love and admire your preparation and attitude. Take good care of yourself. You deserve to have a great time.

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SUBMOM2 6/16/2014 12:32PM

    Thanks for sharing this great post. You've given me much to think about! Good for you for planning ahead (in all aspects) for your trip. Have a wonderful time!!

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2014TODAY 6/16/2014 12:27PM

    I hope you will have a wonderful time! Many people including me would love to vist Hawaii.
I admire you for preparing yourself like this.

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WORKNPROGRESS49 6/16/2014 11:41AM

    Enjoy emoticon

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LESLIESENIOR 6/16/2014 11:15AM

    Oh wow. What a wonderful trip this will be. Let the natural energy of the trip and all the activity it will bring, guide you through your time. Enjoy and have a blast.

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REBECKY441 6/16/2014 11:12AM

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REGILIEH 6/16/2014 10:35AM

    Have a great time! What a blessing to still have your mother!

Safe trip!

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SMILINGEYES2 6/16/2014 10:34AM

    Thank you for some great ideas when I reach maintenance. Enjoy your time in Hawaii. Perhaps, you can be an example on cooking fresh. Some simply do not know how to cook.

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MVKNET 6/16/2014 10:27AM

  Wow You really are an inspiration. Walking laps at the airport. Now that's a great idea. Treasure those special moments with your mom. Enjoy the water and beautiful surroundings. So proud of you for thoughtfully preparing for the trip. Blessings. Marsha emoticon

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BOOKAPHILE 6/16/2014 9:58AM

    Have a wonderful time! You are all prepared, and your attitude is great. You'll do fine in the maintenance department.

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Am I really keeping these 100 pounds off? Enjoying my habits.

Monday, May 26, 2014

There is a sense of unreality at times in maintenance. As I head into my 3rd summer of maintenance, I tell myself, "You are really are doing this. You really are keeping this weight off." This is the most self confident and stable that I have felt in years or perhaps ever.

My views on things have changed. I realize that I have started to enjoy my healthy habits. They have become a part of my life.
When I was losing my weight, I purposely began an exercise regime with the goal of burning calories, not for enjoyment. Now I find that I really like to walk or workout at the gym. I also find that exercise is the best way for me to feel happier and to work off stress.

When I was losing weight I started to eat more vegetables and lean protein. I did not like vegetables nor plain lean protein very much. Over the years I discovered ethnic spicy cooking. I have found a whole new world of vegetable dishes. I am now eating them because I enjoy them.

Nuovaelle wrote an excellent blog, about the skills developed in maintenance, serving as tools for other aspects of your life. I think this is true. The strength you develop from overcoming an addiction, gives you strength in facing other challenges in life. I know that I am happier and more self confident is many more areas of my life, outside of health. I have lost that depression and despair that accompanied obesity.

http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public
_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5701875

Last, as I continue to maintain, I continue to value the people at Spark. The blogs and support here are immeasurable. Spark has become another habit that I enjoy!

So, yes, I really am keeping those 100 pounds off and I am going to continue to enjoy my healthy habits.

Thanks to all of the warm people at Spark People for being here!

  
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OOLALA53 7/6/2014 12:58PM

    Thanks for commenting on my blog about declining binge urges. I think for many people, the issue of speed blocks them, They aren't willing to wait long enough for the urges to weaken. They want all the difficulty to be over in 90 days. They also don't practice long enough to really get that they prefer lighter food and less of it. It really takes a couple of years, or even more if you can judge by relapse rates . The market knows that and is constantly selling speed, but people keep buying! The odds are against speed, even for people like me who had a lot less weight to lose than you. It doesn't matter, because you have to keep living the new life whether you are losing or maintaining. I actually still get some urges, but I am not as happy in my life as I would like to be, so I don't blame it on my eating. Thankfully, I accepted before I started that fixing my eating was not going to solve all my problems, so I stay pretty steady with food.

To keep steady, "losers", like you and I, have to really feel that they enjoy their new habits. Not everyone does. They always feel like the habits are a burden and feel little new joy in life. Honestly, for them, as long as their other health markers are good, I say to forget dieting and enjoy themselves. Really. I would never live this way just to stay slimmer.



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CRYSALLIS1 6/24/2014 6:03AM

    When I don't get my veggies in etc I feel yuck. Now i need to make this into a habit. I do enjoy all the new recipes I have tried. I also enjoy exercise almost always once I get started. Thanks for the inspiration. emoticon

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LORILEEPAGE 6/17/2014 7:27AM

    I'm do proud of you! Not only have you kept 100 pounds off, you have developed a strong life for yourself as a maintainer that sets the pace for all of us! You'll do fine in Hawaii!

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HONEYBEESBLISS 6/14/2014 1:43PM

    That is so cool! I've been feeling a lot like this, it's like I'm a foodie but for healthier things and they are so delish and it makes it so easy and fun! 3 years of Maintenance is awesome! It's our life and if we enjoy it then we will keep doing the things we do!

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GOCALGAL 6/12/2014 9:36AM

    emoticon I always enjoy reading your blogs! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your confidence. So Very inspiring emoticon emoticon

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PEANUT883 6/10/2014 12:41PM

  Congrats! I am terrified to get into the maintenance stage and you make it seem do-able. Thank you! emoticon

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QUEENIEBELLE 6/6/2014 1:14PM

    This isn't the "new you"- this IS you! Every cell in your being is bursting with good health due to your lifestyle. emoticon emoticon You never cease to inspire me- and one of the things about you that inspires me the most, is you never give up on slow pokes like me, as you give sincere support from your very deep well of compassion. emoticon HUGS.

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TORTISE110 6/4/2014 10:29AM

    Wonderful blog. So clearly award winning. And I know what you mean about the "unreality" of maintenance. thanks for a fine post!

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OHMEMEME 6/3/2014 2:49PM

    You are most definitely doing this! Maintenance is hard but with Sparkers like you I am motivated to keep working things out. You are an inspiration and motivation for me! Keep Sparking!

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SUBMOM2 6/3/2014 12:15AM

    Thanks for the inspiration you provide. Congratulations on maintaining your new self!

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PCASEY7 5/30/2014 9:05PM

    Great inspiring blog!

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RR1_RR1 5/30/2014 9:22AM

    And thank you for your support! I really admire you- maintenance is definitely the hardest part! I can shed the weight but keeping it off is another story lol.

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MAYBER 5/29/2014 3:34PM

    Thanks for sharing your weight loss journey
Continue to take one day at a time
Love Prayers Peace
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JAZZEJR 5/29/2014 9:16AM

    emoticon It's fantastic that you've arrived at that point in your weight-loss maintenance that now doing what's best is what you prefer to do. I think that's the secret. I want to be there!

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MANDELOVICH 5/29/2014 4:12AM

    You are an incredible source of inspiration to me. I'm back at work as of Tuesday and the emotional eating has crept right back in. Rereading your blog just now is helping me reset that I can do this. I can do hard things. I can be a single mom and still take care of myself. Thank you.

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KAIAHCOMP 5/28/2014 5:48PM

    What a role model you are! I want to be successful at maintenance. But I'm sort of floundering around a bit. I think I figured out that I am staying within my calorie range, but I am doing it eating too much junk food. As of today, I'm back to clean eating. I know I will feel better and have more energy if I do this. At the same time, I enjoy my walks. But I do struggle to get down to business with the exercise videos. Even though I'm at maintenance, I know I have to continue to stay close to SparkPeople, stay close to the program, and continue to get some really good habits going for myself. You are a strong witness that it can be done! Happy Sparking to you!

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ALIIDA 5/28/2014 5:36PM

    Your blog is so encouraging for those of us who see maintenance as possibly more difficult than losing, but it's the whole point. emoticon emoticon

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JANCARD 5/28/2014 10:24AM

  Congratulations and thanks as always for sharing your insight. I look forward to being as successful and share with you the incredible value of this community here at SP. Thank YOU!

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LIVELYGIRL2 5/28/2014 12:16AM

  very very impressive. It means alot when someone can substain this. Thanks for sharing!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CICELY360 5/28/2014 12:08AM

  good for you

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MARYJEANSL 5/27/2014 11:24PM

  You should be very proud! What a fantastic (and continuing) achievement. :-)

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LORILEEPAGE 5/27/2014 9:47PM

    You are a great inspiration to me:)

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MOVEITMARY 5/27/2014 9:45PM

    You are doing awesome!

I suspect that many people reach goal and then disappear from SP because they want to be "finished". Thanks for sticking around to be a role model and prove that it really works FOR LIFE.
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NEWTINK 5/27/2014 5:57PM

    We appreciate you so much ... your encouragement is so refreshing and honest ... emoticon

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SIMONEKP 5/27/2014 5:18PM

    bravo

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  What a wonderful blog.........I am looking forward to being where you are!!! emoticon

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WATERDIAMONDS 5/27/2014 3:56PM

    I am especially drawn to your comment: "The strength you develop from overcoming an addiction gives you strength in facing other challenges in life."

What a wonderfully encouraging sentence for those of us still struggling. Thank you.

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JERICHO1991 5/27/2014 2:31PM

    Great job!

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JSEATTLE 5/27/2014 1:49PM

  100 down is quite an accomplishment, and to maintain that loss for 2+ years is even bigger! Congratulations to you, I know you're loving your lifestyle!

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MAMAMOOSE54 5/27/2014 11:21AM

    You are an inspiration!!!

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  Great post thank you

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REDSPIRALWOMAN 5/27/2014 10:02AM

    Thanks so much for sharing. I can really relate to the wonder that one is different. The other day I was very stressed and angry. I sat on my deck and just looked at the trees and allowed myself to just feel angry. Then I realized that I didn't even think of eating something to comfort myself. I thought back to all my carb-comfort foods and realized I hadn't eaten any of them for almost a year. I hadn't consciously noticed this change until now. You are an inspiration to my goal of a lifestyle and not a diet and just keep on keeping on. emoticon

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NONNAOF2 5/27/2014 8:41AM

  How amazing to be able to lose the weight and still keep it off after three summers! You have done such a wonderful job, I know it wasn't always easy. Continue to feel positive about yourself and enjoy the reward of knowing that you not only look good, but you are a lot healthier! :-)

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SHERYLP461 5/27/2014 8:29AM

    What a wonderful story of determination and overcoming obstacles.

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Yes, I will go eat sushi at 8:30pm and not feeling like a senior.

Monday, April 28, 2014

I am visiting my daughter in the lovely city of San Francisco. It is a special mom daughter visit , with a formal college graduation ceremony. I treasure this time with my daughter. She is a wonderful vibrant young woman about to enter a new career.

As a maintainer of over two years, I have established strong successful daily health habits. I take these habits with me when I travel..but now schedules change and adaptability is needed.

I continue to wake up early and now take lovely walks along the ocean with fellow walkers and joggers. I drink my beloved coffee but now must pay $2 for a small cup and $2 for a refill.Yikes,

Instead of an early morning breakfast, I meet my daughter at 9 am for breakfast. Then I spend the afternoon shopping. This leads to lunch at 3 pm. May I comment that I am totally off schedule here! That is my normal time to eat a snack before dinner.
Finally, after delightful long conversations with my daughter, she says , " Do you want to go get some sushi?" The health side of me says..OMG..It is 8:30pm. I try not to eat or drink beyond 7pm as the weight will show up on the scale the next day. However, I say of course.

The time with your family is precious. It is worth being off track with time..feeling hungry and eating late at night. I am eating healthy...just way off in time.

I think initially in maintenance, I would not have been quite as flexible and would have worried more about these changes. I can see stability and growth in this area.

On a humorous note..I asked the trolley driver, what the age was for a senior. He said, "I don't know; but honey, if you feel like a senior, then you can be a senior." I thought this was very funny, In some ways I do not feel like a senior. I have more energy than I did 100 pounds and 20 years ago. However, when it is 50 degrees here, and I see people wearing flip flops and shorts, I do feel my age.

The good news is that I successfully hid my tracker during the formal event.

Enjoy your week fellow Spark Friends. I am Sparking along and happy to be off schedule.

  
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BRADMILL2922 5/6/2014 4:38AM

    First, I love SF! Great city! Second, congrats to you and your daughter on her graduation! Third, I am glad you were able to enjoy that sushi time with you daughter. I am sure it was totally worth being off schedule for a day. You are a model of consistency so I know it is hard, but sometimes exceptions are just necessary!

That was a funny line about feeling like a senior :)

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TINAJANE76 5/4/2014 8:56PM

    What great maintenance progress you've made! It's still hard for me to operate outside of my comfort zones and usual eating schedule too, but it does get a bit easier as time goes by.

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HOLLYM48 5/4/2014 2:28PM

    I love this blog! It is hard to deviate from our schedule but we do indeed have to enjoy life and once in a while we can take a little detour! Good for you for enjoying the time spent with your daughter, there is nothing in the world like that. And what a fun place to visit and walk the beaches in the morning. I loved San Francisco when we visited several years ago.
Time does make it easier to realize that we are on track and we are not going back to that other place if we eat or drink out of the ordinary. I try not to overindulge to much when I am on vacation, but once in a while, it sure does taste good!

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QUEENIEBELLE 5/3/2014 12:24AM

    What a wonderful blog to read! You have your priorities exactly right on- and you know it which is even better. Congratulations to your daughter on her graduation. (and to you as her Mom!) You have gifted both of you many extra years together with the weight off of you for good- that is the best graduation gift ever. You are more than a maintainer - you are permanently and forever a healthy weight for your height. It will always be so- because you have made it so. I am so happy for you. BIG HUGS and kudos.

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PIGGYWAY 5/2/2014 9:26PM

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TERI-RIFIC 5/2/2014 5:03PM

    It sounds like a wonderful visit. It's great that you are to a point where you can be "off" a little and still successfully maintain. Way to go! And congratulations on the graduation!

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WATERMELLEN 5/2/2014 3:59PM

    Hilarious blog which I initially missed because -- I was at my DS's graduation and eating stuff I don't eat at times that didn't suit me very well either!! Oh well oh well: family matters.

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COOLRAIN 5/2/2014 8:06AM

    You're an inspiration! I hope your time in SF is wonderful. It sounds as though it is. I love that city, and I love sushi too. Enjoy them both enough for both of us. My best to you.

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DEB42615 5/1/2014 6:40AM

    I tried sushi for the first time this past year and enjoyed it (after saying "no way" for years). You're maintenance has inspired me. I still have the weight to lose but you have given me hope. emoticon

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ALIIDA 5/1/2014 4:27AM

    Reading this, I admire your stamina and discipline during your long maintenance. Congratulations! You are a role model. Your time in San Francisco with your daughter sounds lovely. DH has just said he wants sushi for dinner. It must be telepathy, because I didn't say anything.
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NICKYCRANE 4/29/2014 3:44PM

    Go for sushi! I haven't made any for ages, and you inspire me to do something about it!
I think I'd make my own frappe to drink o n the beach rather than forking out iniquitous daylight robbery prices regularly!
ANyway, enjoy this special time with your daughter!

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DDOORN 4/29/2014 9:47AM

    How lovely to be in San Francisco with family! One of these days I'm hoping to have a solid chunk of time to travel around out west...have seen so little of it!!

Highly agreed: "time with your family is precious"...heading out on a road trip with DS over Memorial Day weekend...can't wait! :-)

Don

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WATERDIAMONDS 4/29/2014 6:40AM

    This sort of flexibility is exactly what I'm working toward. Thank you for showing that it is possible.

And you have made me miss SF so much...I WAS the one in flip flops and T-shirts on 50-degree days...

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NUOVAELLE 4/29/2014 1:44AM

    I loved your blog! The ability to enjoy social events without the stress of being off track is something that comes after lots of maintenance experience. You have definitely come a long way and you have every reason not to feel like a senior! I'll agree with the trolley driver. Our real and important age is written in our hearts and minds. And when we have managed to maintain a health and strong body for years like you have, age is just... irrelevant!
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MICKEYH 4/28/2014 9:20PM

    Way to go for your confidence and happy to be off schedule. And who could say no to Sushi with dear daughter? I would say Yes to sushi even with stranger. Lol))) emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TRAVELGRRL 4/28/2014 9:09PM

    You are right; time with family is more important than a schedule. We visit family in another couple of weeks so I'll be off schedule too. But there will be plenty of time to take off any pounds gained; we are successful and we know we can do that. A few pounds gained is not a catastrophe.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 4/28/2014 9:03PM

    Your vacation with your daughter sounds wonderful. Who says that seniors can't be flexible!! LOL. I love senior discounts and sometimes I qualify and sometimes I don't, due to age, but I get all of them I can. Some days I feel 61 and some days I feel 21. LOL.

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ONEKIDSMOM 4/28/2014 8:24PM

    So right about that precious time with family. We can be healthy AND flexible! emoticon

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GOCALGAL 4/28/2014 7:54PM

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SUSUSUZZZIE 4/28/2014 5:56PM

    Way to go for enjoying your time with your daughter and not letting your habits/schedule dictate your life during a special visit. Staying on track in San Francisco is a challenge (so many yummy options). Congrats to your daughter and to you on this special opportunity to celebrate her graduation and next steps.

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TIME-4-TINA 4/28/2014 5:11PM

    Glad you had fun and let loose! I could never say no to sushi any time of day! There's no way a little sushi will do damage, it's so low in calories. enjoy

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SMILINGEYES2 4/28/2014 3:36PM

    Can identify with feeling so much better as the weight comes off even with age.

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SNOWYOGA 4/28/2014 3:25PM

    Thanks for your blog! emoticon

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2014TODAY 4/28/2014 1:17PM

    Thank you for blogging!
How nice that you feel you can be flexible now.

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GINA180847 4/28/2014 1:15PM

    So happy you got to spend such quality time with your daughter. I would eat sushi any time.

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RR1_RR1 4/28/2014 12:48PM

    Coffee is high- starbucks is ridiculous lol. Sounds like you had fun- and hey, I thought sushi was healthy! I too am trying to stay on a food schedule though I do cheat on saturdays when Im out with my boyfriend.

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_LINDA 4/28/2014 12:46PM

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That is fantastic you feel comfortable enough with your maintenance that a dramatic schedule change doesn't bother you. And you are absolutely right, spending a precious few moments with your daughter before she heads out on a new life adventure is worth its weight in gold! Wishing her success in what ever her dream is!
I have the feeling you will not have gained an ounce in your visit! Do we want to know where you hid the tracker? emoticon

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MANDELOVICH 4/28/2014 12:18PM

    Way to go!$

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LORILEEPAGE 4/28/2014 12:17PM

    Good for you allowing yourself to get off track on scheduling. It's hard to upset the apple cart...but I agree family time is so very precious! I need to keep in mind how you handled yourself, doing your healthy routine though timing was off!

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BOOKAPHILE 4/28/2014 12:09PM

    You are rocking maintenance! I love the flexibility and stability you are showing. Have a memorable visit!

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SUSIEMT 4/28/2014 11:27AM

    Loved this blog! It does show growth!!! I always have to say enjoy the special times if you gain weight it is only temporary and you will get back to "normal" in short order! I must admit that I can now use the word normal and feel well..NORMAL!
WooHoo to you Kanoe10!

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REGILIEH 4/28/2014 11:26AM

    It sounds like a fabulous time and you DESERVE it!

I loved the trolley driver's answer, so cute and clever.

So happy for your daughter!

Hugs!

Anne

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PHOENIX1949 4/28/2014 10:51AM

    What a fun visit. Sounds like you are off time-wise but not food-wise. Don't know what time zone difference may go along with this visit. When we traveled, I used to wear a two-faced watch with one set to home time and the other to current-location time. Somehow seeing the difference at a glance was comforting.

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THOMS1 4/28/2014 10:46AM

    Love this blog. I know when we visit my sisters one in Montana and one in Pennsylvania they tend to eat differently than I do and their times and activity are totally different then mine so I have come to the conclusion that it is only temporary and enjoy the time with them. emoticon

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BROOKLYN_BORN 4/28/2014 10:41AM

    You made the right choice. We went out to dinner with family after my concert last night and I ate my entire "personal" Greek pizza. It's not something that will become a habit, not for either of us. We're too committed to maintenance.

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