Friday, July 11, 2014
I have decided that part of maintaining, is not only being relentless determined, but it also being feisty. I am considering myself, a feisty maintainer! Almost three years ago, two co-workers took me aside and said separately, " You have lost a lot of weight, however, you always gain it back. You should not get so thin."
At that time, I lacked self confidence in my ability to keep weight off, and I responded with something like I hope I can keep it off this time. Now, 3 years later, as I reflect on these comments, I would answer in a different way. I would say, " I have worked hard to get to this healthy weight. My doctor and I are both happy with this weight. I would really appreciate your support instead of your criticism." I realize now that these comments were very negative and treated me as a failure. I do not deny that my co-workers have seen my yo-yo pattern over the years. However, who gave them the right to comment and be negative about me doing something positive? I am much more self confident now. I have actually confronted my boss and told him he needed to support my efforts rather than tell me that I needed to stop losing weight as I was thin enough. Thus..yay for being feisty.
As I am in my third summer of maintenance, I really am growing in being calmer and believing that I am maintaining.
The longer I maintain, the more I love being thin. This is true. I really enjoy the energy, the happiness, the muscles and toned body, and the fitness that comes with being thin, I like this thin body. I still have to look at my shorts to make sure they are size 6, even if I know they are..LOL.
My summer discoveries are yoga..definitely a good new workout for me. I also am experimenting on new recipes like cauliflower pizza crust. I have also increased my daily walks by 10-15 minutes.
Thanks to all you here who write blogs. They are my daily inspiration and support.
Monday, June 16, 2014
Tomorrow I fly to Hawaii with my daughter to see my family. I am excited to be in the lovely tropics again. I was reflecting that my mother who is 94 had me when she was 38. I had my daughter when I was 38 also. My mother and I also both had 4 kids under the age of 5 in 5 years. Those early years were hectic for both of us.
My plan is to maintain in Hawaii no matter what and to stay within my range. To prepare for this I have put myself on a mini boot camp to get below my goal weight before leaving.
The challenges will be varied. The time change of three hours means that I will wake up at 3 am Hawaiian time and will be hungry. I already know a Starbucks that opens at 4 am so I can at least drink coffee. Hunger will definitely be part of my life. I am carrying 100 calorie nuts and tea bags in my purse to work my way through those hungry hours.
I will be staying with my sister who does not cook and lives on frozen meals. This of course will result in purchases of fruit, vegetables and protein for me. Crazy as it sounds, I may even take small packages of spices as she has none.
I also will simply have to find time for walks or swimming no matter what the schedule is. I am hoping that my daughter will join me. We may even try some hikes to the waterfalls.
The nice thing is that my brother who is older than me, is an exercise nut also. He surfs every morning and is 67 years old. I can meet him at the beach.
The positive side is that I will spend lovely moments with my family, especially my mom.
I can also indulge myself in the ethnic food that I constantly cook at home.
My walks will be around beaches with sunrises and sunsets and tropical flowers.
So I am mentally and physically ready for my trip., I will take Spark with me for support will keep tracking on my spat.
In re-reading Refuse to Regain I liked one of her comments.
4.Climber's Fatigue: Losing weight was an exciting, attention getting makeover. Permanence requires a relentless, daily attention to detail that no one but you may notice. This phase will only work if you learn to deeply love the new you and the very process that allows you to stay as you are. Not only can you do this, but it will also be highly rewarding.
What I focused on, was not only learning to love the new you, but to love the very process that
allows you to stay as you are. Yes that is it!
I am wearing tennis shoes on the plane and am ready to walk laps at the airport. This will jump start my trip.
Happy Summer Spsrk Friends!
Monday, May 26, 2014
There is a sense of unreality at times in maintenance. As I head into my 3rd summer of maintenance, I tell myself, "You are really are doing this. You really are keeping this weight off." This is the most self confident and stable that I have felt in years or perhaps ever.
My views on things have changed. I realize that I have started to enjoy my healthy habits. They have become a part of my life.
When I was losing my weight, I purposely began an exercise regime with the goal of burning calories, not for enjoyment. Now I find that I really like to walk or workout at the gym. I also find that exercise is the best way for me to feel happier and to work off stress.
When I was losing weight I started to eat more vegetables and lean protein. I did not like vegetables nor plain lean protein very much. Over the years I discovered ethnic spicy cooking. I have found a whole new world of vegetable dishes. I am now eating them because I enjoy them.
Nuovaelle wrote an excellent blog, about the skills developed in maintenance, serving as tools for other aspects of your life. I think this is true. The strength you develop from overcoming an addiction, gives you strength in facing other challenges in life. I know that I am happier and more self confident is many more areas of my life, outside of health. I have lost that depression and despair that accompanied obesity.
Last, as I continue to maintain, I continue to value the people at Spark. The blogs and support here are immeasurable. Spark has become another habit that I enjoy!
So, yes, I really am keeping those 100 pounds off and I am going to continue to enjoy my healthy habits.
Thanks to all of the warm people at Spark People for being here!
Monday, April 28, 2014
I am visiting my daughter in the lovely city of San Francisco. It is a special mom daughter visit , with a formal college graduation ceremony. I treasure this time with my daughter. She is a wonderful vibrant young woman about to enter a new career.
As a maintainer of over two years, I have established strong successful daily health habits. I take these habits with me when I travel..but now schedules change and adaptability is needed.
I continue to wake up early and now take lovely walks along the ocean with fellow walkers and joggers. I drink my beloved coffee but now must pay $2 for a small cup and $2 for a refill.Yikes,
Instead of an early morning breakfast, I meet my daughter at 9 am for breakfast. Then I spend the afternoon shopping. This leads to lunch at 3 pm. May I comment that I am totally off schedule here! That is my normal time to eat a snack before dinner.
Finally, after delightful long conversations with my daughter, she says , " Do you want to go get some sushi?" The health side of me says..OMG..It is 8:30pm. I try not to eat or drink beyond 7pm as the weight will show up on the scale the next day. However, I say of course.
The time with your family is precious. It is worth being off track with time..feeling hungry and eating late at night. I am eating healthy...just way off in time.
I think initially in maintenance, I would not have been quite as flexible and would have worried more about these changes. I can see stability and growth in this area.
On a humorous note..I asked the trolley driver, what the age was for a senior. He said, "I don't know; but honey, if you feel like a senior, then you can be a senior." I thought this was very funny, In some ways I do not feel like a senior. I have more energy than I did 100 pounds and 20 years ago. However, when it is 50 degrees here, and I see people wearing flip flops and shorts, I do feel my age.
The good news is that I successfully hid my tracker during the formal event.
Enjoy your week fellow Spark Friends. I am Sparking along and happy to be off schedule.
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