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Good sites for good foods (Blog #141)

Monday, May 10, 2010

For me the trick with a healthy journey is enjoying the foods we eat. Not much out of a box for me. The adventure starts with the raw ingredients and then just gets better from there.

When I was about 8 or 9, I remember traveling in the back of my mom's old Datsun station wagon (yeah.. that dates me! It's called a Nissan these days). I would sit int he back of that Datsun while Mummy drove and rifle through old food magazines and cut out dozens and dozens of recipes and organize them. Never made anything! But I loved the adventure through the photos. We never ate out ever ... We ate too well at home! But I did not know that at the time and got lost in these old cooking magazine, imagining what it woudl be like to cook all these things!

Today that love of adventure through foods is still pastime I can spend hours enjoying. I delight in reading blogs on food and findings recipes to try. Here are a few...

(1) Cooking Light - Here is their Tilapia Tacos with Peach Relish. (We substitute the peaches for mangoes)

(2) Eating Well - Here is their Lentil Soup

(3) Photograzing - Just what the title suggests! (You will need to practice portion control for some of these babies!)

(4) The Daily Green - The Consumer's Guide to the Green Revolution. Here is their Black Bean Hummus

(5) 101 Cookbooks - Here is their Carrot, Dill and White bean Salad

Enjoy the adventures!

What are some of your favorite websites where you pick up good ideas?

QUOTE: Life is like a taxi. The meter just keeps a-ticking whether you are getting somewhere or just standing still. -- Lou Erickson

MANTRA: Every choice is an opportunity. Every opportunity is a choice.

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MARENAMOO 5/11/2010 7:03PM

    I live on the subscription sites - Cook's Illustrated" and "Fine Cooking". I like CI especially because it is more of a how-to than specific recipes. I also like the Food Network and Epicurious. I use some of yours as well - I need to add EatingWell. Thanks for the tips.

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POORGIRL_DIET 5/10/2010 3:41PM

    Oh I cant wait to try one of those out tomorrow, they look lush, thanks for sharing

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REJ7777 5/10/2010 1:03PM

    emoticon I'm really looking forward to visiting those sites!

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MVRANA 5/10/2010 10:41AM

    Thanks for some new cooking ideas.

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HAWKEYERANT 5/10/2010 10:27AM

    Yummy! THANK YOU! I'm definitely trying the Tilapia Taco recipe! THANKS!

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KASEYCOFF 5/10/2010 10:11AM

    EXCELLENT! The calorie-free way to enjoy good food--! Brilliant, Diane, that is really brilliant. :-)

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APRILLSCOTT 5/10/2010 9:07AM

    Thanks for sharing Deb! You are good at this keep them coming! I might even learn how to cook better who knows! I haven't given up hope emoticon! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SHEILA1505 5/10/2010 8:59AM

I agree with you - the house is full of cookbooks and used to have subscriptions with several magazines. Always "steal" with my eyes when browsing delis, restaurant selections etc. Trying to copy an aubergine triple-decker with lentils and veg tonight that I had in the UK. Hope it'll turn out well.

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MERALO 5/10/2010 8:48AM

    Thanks for sharing! I love cooking too...I have subscribed to a series of cookbooks which come from the UK and are crammed with lovely recipes, complete with nutritional info and they are all so easy to make. I'm throughly enjoying it...I'll share a lovely chicken recipe with you - will send it to you tonight...

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On Capturing the Spirit of a Mountain (Blog #140)

Sunday, May 09, 2010

Nothing philosophical this morning! Nothing about my health journey. Got up early with the moon setting over the trees. The birds were up before the sun. The frogs shared the early quiet. My mountain patiently waiting to be bathed by the early sun.

There is rarely a moment in the day that the view does not draw me in, distracting me from thought and work! Sometimes I even give her my back because she commands so much of my attention. Actually, photos do her no justice at all. As I snap up another photo I am usually dismayed at that fact that her peace and her grandeur are saved for the naked eye rather than the mechanical one. Alas, I keep trying! One day I will capture her spirit...

Yesterday was another beautiful day in the life of my mountain. Since I had little else to do, I did snap up a few photos that I will share with you here. Enjoy your Mother's Day ladies :)

Sun rising

Clouds Dissipating

Clouds Returning

Last Clouds of the Day

Right before the sun has set

You know, come to think of it... maybe this blog is about my journey after all. This trip to the couch for the past three weeks has actually allowed me to stop and reflect in the presence of this special mountain. I have never really sat this quietly before. I'm always so busy and sitting quietly seemed rather indulgent. In the quiet, this mountain is steadfast in her message: Take each day and enjoy even the clouds that linger. The journey to being healthy and fit is about body, mind and spirit. That is the spirit of my mountain!

Quote of the Day: "Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?" Matthew 6:27

Mantra: "Every choice is an opportunity. Every opportunity is a choice." DBH

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HAWKEYERANT 5/10/2010 10:42AM

    Love your blogs, always... and I love your photos too - they never fail to inspire me.

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BAGGYPANTS5 5/10/2010 3:40AM

    Wonderful pictures, Diane. It's so good that you haven't been snapping your fingers off in frustration, but taken the enforced rest to relax and regroup. I like your attitude!

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DAISES2 5/9/2010 11:33PM

    great blog,beautiful words and beautiful pictures.
you are so fortunate to be able to look out on this beauty daily

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GEINAHG0757 5/9/2010 2:01PM

    Oh, Diane, that first picture with the little crescent of the moon is just to beautiful for words. You know, I was thinking to myself, "Wouldn't it be neat to live next to a mountain and have that kind of inspiration? And the next thought was a emoticon kind of moment.
I live next (within 25 yards) to a gorgeous little lake. I need to take inspiration where I AM. So...I set on the top step of the stairs to the deck and just watched MY lake. A deep peace settled over me.
Thank you for sharing your world...and helping me see the beauty in my own.


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JUNEPA 5/9/2010 12:05PM

    Beautiful !! Mountains are such great eye candy, can give you peace and a positive lift just in viewing them. Mt Hood looks so pristinely white and at the same time so powerfully massive. I have been disappointed as well at the difference between what I see and how the photos appear, especially on my blogs, it seems to smudge out some of the details that are what gives the viewing pleasure. I will when I have time send you a similar photo of Mt Baker, she also has serenely massive white shoulders.

You see Mt Hood from your home, that is everyday eye candy. I have to travel a bit to see Mt Baker, but not out of my way, when I go to visit my mom, which is at least 4 days a week, she is in my sights on the drive over. My everyday eye candy are the four sisters, Mt Cheam and company, I can see them from my home.

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KASEYCOFF 5/9/2010 11:59AM

    As always, wonderful pictures! The snow really brings out the 'texture' of the terrain, doesn't it? I love the 'nighttime' photo - it came out really well.

p.s. You may have already thought of this, or even done one, but have you ever thought about choosing one picture for each month thru the year, then making a calendar? 'twould make a nice Christmas or New Year's gift. For somebody. Like Sparklers. Nudge nudge, wink wink. ;-D

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GIANTPANDA 5/9/2010 10:44AM

    What a beautiful experience and wonderful blog! Thank you for sharing these photos with us. Nature is a great healer.

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GEODAWG 5/9/2010 10:42AM

    The pictures are wondrous. Thank you for sharing.

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AMBUDMAN 5/9/2010 10:40AM

    Is that Mt. Hood? I love to look at our Sutter Buttes but they are not as beautiful as Mt. Hood or Mr. Shasta. Great Pictures.

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DENI_ZEN 5/9/2010 10:36AM

    Happy Mother's Day, Diane...and thank you for sharing these gorgeous pictures! There is almost a deep rapport between you and this mountain :)

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LJCANNON 5/9/2010 10:29AM

    Your Mountain 'Speaks' through your pictures. It is definitely a blessing that you are getting to spend time with her.
If we listen, Nature will teach us a lot about our Journey.
emoticonHave a Beautfiul Mother's Day.

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MERALO 5/9/2010 10:25AM

    Ok...where in the world are you? I need to see this mountain!
You may think that your pics don't convey what you see...but they do! I love seeing your mountain and I need to put it on my to-do list...one day I pledge to come to your corner of the world!

And thanks for the philosophy...much appreciated!

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KIMBERLEY60 5/9/2010 9:49AM

    Have a wonderful Mother's Day. Thank you for sharing your photographs.
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State of Stuck (Blog #139)

Saturday, May 08, 2010

Short. Sweet. To the point.

Think about this.

When we get our car stuck in the mud, what is our first reaction? Get out and do something about it. Of course. We want to keep moving.

When we get our finger stuck in a door, what is our first reaction? Open the door and get the dang thing out! Of course. We want to cool of the pain and keep moving.

And then.. when we ourselves get stuck in a rut, what is our first reaction? Is it to jump up and pull ourselves out of the mud and do something about it? Is it to open the door and let the positive world in? Hmmm. My guess is that we do not always metaphorically dust ourselves off when we get stuck.

Will staying stuck help someone? Will getting ourselves unstuck help anyone?

How do you deal with "stuck"? (stuck in a rut, stuck on a plateau, stuck in a funk, stuck in life... pick one, any one!)

Quote of the Day: "Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself." Robert Collier

MANTRA: " Every choice is an opportunity. Every opportunity is a choice." DBH

Photo of the Day: May 7 Waiting for the sun to rise on "My Mountain"

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    I was stuck in a rut of self-doubt and self-pity a few weeks ago. Something said to me about one of my blogs jerked me right out of it! What the person said didn't as much hurt my feelings as make me angry. Evidently, anger is a big motivator for me! Now I need to work on getting angry at the "complacent me" I become from time to time!
Thank you for sharing your insights.

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GEINAHG0757 5/8/2010 8:02PM

    I look forward to your daily blog - (does that make me a groupie?) - for your words of wisdom and pictures of that AWESOME mountain. Someone else said they thought you got power from it. Maybe it's the other way around...

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_MAOMAO_ 5/8/2010 7:54PM

  Oh yes, I've been feeling stuck myself. Thank you for this blog - and that gorgeous mountain!

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MERALO 5/8/2010 6:44PM

    Nicely said! I've stopped letting myself get stuck in the mud...Every small battle won is a success and I've started to measure my results across the whole as opposed to the incident.

Thanks for sharing the mountain again!

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MEGANGOWENS 5/8/2010 5:26PM

    I have been stuck in the past and lacked the energy, willpower, motivation to do anything about it. That time in my life was pretty bleak. I have not been stuck in that sense in a while, but now that you bring it up, I think a good plan of action for me personally would be to draw on that past experience and my negative feelings about that time in my life in order to push myself forward. Also, having the resources on SparkPeople that I do now, I feel like I would feel comfortable reaching out to my SparkFriends for help. Thanks for the great blog!!

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GEODAWG 5/8/2010 2:50PM

    Do you know me? You have been to my house and read my mind, haven't you? Confess now, I know you have! This blog is what I do, er, have done, going to quit doing. Good insight!! I am copying it and saving it so I can read it again and again.
Thank you!

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APRILLSCOTT 5/8/2010 2:30PM

    This is a great blog! I unfortunately stay stuck in the mud much longer than I would love to, before pulling myself out! This was something worthy of thinking about and I still am! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DENI_ZEN 5/8/2010 1:38PM

    Thanks again, Diane, for visiting my humble blog - so you share the Chicken Kung Pao astrological sign? LOL!!! In a far more serious - and important - vein, this is great insight into the unpleasant, depressing phenomenon of "stuckness." The sooner I blast myself out of a hole, the better, I've found. Eating-wise, if I can turn things around at the next meal and resume healthy, sane eating, that's usually enough to prevent a significant setback.

Your mountain, as always, is a beautiful as it is inspiring!

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LJCANNON 5/8/2010 12:56PM

    Great points about being 'Stuck' Definitely food for thought next time I'm stuck.
emoticonThank you for sharing your mountain with us. I look forward to seeing it every day, even if I don't always comment on it. It is kind of like peeking through someone's window each day. If the mountain is there, all is right in SparkWorld.

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SHAPNUP 5/8/2010 11:52AM

    Here's what I'm learning about myself and ruts. I do more of the good stuff, so I can do more of the bad stuff! I exercise more, so I can make bad food choices, and justify it to myself. Why do we do this?

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 5/8/2010 10:50AM

    Sadly, when I get stuck in a rut, I tend to wallow in self-pity until it turns to self-disgust. And then, at that point I manage to start pulling myself up and dusting myself off. Good blog -- gives me lots to ponder.

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WYWIWOMAN 5/8/2010 9:50AM

    Super blog! I think that your mountain has given you power! Your words are full of meaning and insight. Thank you for sharing this one with me this morning. I will remember this ...
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KIMBERLEY60 5/8/2010 9:12AM

    Good analogy...I enjoy your blogs. I am working hard are the "unstuck" thing. It seems so easy in most cases, but definitely more challenging in others. However, by changing our mindsets and beliefs we've held for years, we will ultimately win. Beliefs are a funny thing, especially if they've been in place for a long time.

I can hardly believe how much snow is still there. We have a lot here but it is Colorado. Is that Mount Hood?

Have a beautiful Saturday morning. You are a real early bird, I've noticed. Waiting for the sun..... emoticon

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SNORRIS40 5/8/2010 8:32AM

    Great way to look at this situation. Thanks for sharing and making us look at this dilemma in a different light. emoticon

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CSDAYS 5/8/2010 8:24AM

    Good point!

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NANCY1BE 5/8/2010 8:22AM

    So true! Thanks for posting! emoticon

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Why blog? (Blog #138)

Friday, May 07, 2010

When I was a kid, I always wanted one of those little diaries with a little lock. And when it gets right down to it, all I really wanted was the little key that fit in the little lock. It was so cute :) But I never got one. They were too expensive for us. And I did not earn enough pocket money to get myself one. Truth be told, I never actually wanted to write in the thing. My logic was this: why write something private in a little book with a little lock with a little key that you could break anyway? Plus, what in earth would you write that was so private?

Fast forward to today... the plethora of blogs is stunning. We think it and so surely someone is already blogging about it. Profound thoughts. Funny thoughts. Educated thoughts. Ironic thoughts. Transformative thoughts. They are all there. Even the most private thoughts.

What changed? Why do we blog? What happened to the little diary with the little lock and the cute little key? Why are we letting the world in on that which we used to keep so private? What do we learn by writing? How do we grow by writing? And today it is rare that we get through a day without reading at least one person's blog somewhere on the net. Why do we read them? What do we learn through the sharing spirit of others?

For those on SP who journal and/or blog, I wonder why we do one or the other or both. How are the two outlets different? This is just fascinating to me and I wonder for myself. I have morphed from a little girl who rarely wrote and certainly never wrote down any of my private thoughts to a person who enjoys the daily contact with the world. I keep two blogs at the moment: SP and my gardening blog. I have had other venues for writing in my professional life as well: a NING, a TWITTER Feed and two BLOGS for education.

Any reservations I had about writing private thoughts have diminished. It seems that I test the waters of a new idea more readily in my blogs than I could ever have imagined with the diary. Sometimes I face the blank screen with apparently nothing to say and an idea will pop in and the words flow. I usually learn something about myself by the end of the blog. With my gardening blog, I often learn about the memories I have and how they have transformed over time. In SP I often gain motivation for my journey through the words that emerge as well as the comments I get from others. It's almost as if my blog is a guardian and spokesperson of the work I do now for my health.

And today I learned that deep down I still do want that little lock with that cute little key and a little photo on my blog just won't cut it!

And you? Why do you blog and/or journal? Do you have a blog outside of SP?

QUOTE: "Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts." ~Arnold Bennett

MANTRA: Every choice is an opportunity. Every opportunity is a choice. ~ March 2010

Photo of the Day: Today's Sunrise on My Mountain

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KASEYCOFF 5/8/2010 4:17AM

    Beautiful, beautiful colors in this morning's picture of YOUR mountain! I think if I look on a map, it should be labelled 'Diane's Mountain,' lol...

I blog / journal about the same way I do most things; hit-or-miss, kind of half-arsed (as the Brits would put it), without a real sense of commitment and no consistency. Why is that? Dunno. Not much to say? Could be. Nothing profound to write about? (snorts of laughter from Kasey) But I love reading what others think. :-)

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DAISES2 5/8/2010 1:27AM

    when i was younger i could talk and write for england,i always had a diary on the go,and wrote down absolutly everything.thinking back most of what i wrote about was mainly rubbish,but it was something i enjoyed.
as i've got older i seem to have less to say,plus my hubby is'nt a great talker,he comes from a family of great talkers and says he did'nt talk because someone had to listen.
also i have become more guarded,not from a privacy point of view,but from boring people senseless point of view.
wow this is the most i've said in ages.
thank you Di for nudging me in a different direction

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CORNWALLCATE 5/7/2010 5:58PM

    I had one of those little diaries with key. It was blue vinyl covered book with a picture of girl wearing a pony tail, capris, bobby socks and oxford style shoes. She was lying on her back with her legs up on her bed and holding a record, with a personal record player beside her. Does that date me or what?

I never wrote the truth or my feelings in my diary for fear that someone would read it. It ended up being a diary of daily activity instead of the complicated feelings of a twelve year old girl. But to this day, I still treasure the thought, that I could have written, whatever I darn well pleased. It was my choice, and I guess that was enough for me.


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KATIEJO5 5/7/2010 1:45PM

    I blog to keep myself accountable. It is a form of thinking out loud. Often, I come up with the answer to some dilemma by the time I am finished writing about it. I love the input from the comments. I learn a lot from them.

I too have been reluctant to share Spark with family and friends because I love the freedom to be open and not have to guard myself in what I say. I don't use facebook anymore because all of my kids and most of my family and friends are on. I feel like everything I post is subject to intense scrutiny and judgement. Here I have a group of people who support and encourage. I don't have to apologize for being a middle-aged woman!

Love your blogs, Diane!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 5/7/2010 1:17PM

    I blog because for me it's a matter of "keyboard therapy." All the thought rattling around in my head become much clearer when I start blogging. And by the time I'm finished with any "deep" blog, I usually have something figured out and a plan of action. I also think that with a diary, anyone you know can read it. Hence, maybe I wouldn't be quite so willing to be completely honest. With SP, while I have SparkFriends, it's different. No one judges you as they read them. They just offer agreement, support, encouragement and advice.

This is one of the reasons why I've been selfish in sharing my knowledge about SP with my sister. If she joined, she would go back to my very first blog and read every one of them. And then in turn report everything to my 92-year-old mother. I don't need that judgement, so for now SP is my little secret.

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MERALO 5/7/2010 1:00PM

    You know, I love your mountain...please keep sharing pics with us!

I blog to organise my head - I started a blog sometime back about random life stuff and I ran out of steam after about a month...had nothing more to say. I have no issues sharing intimate thoughts online, what I say in blogs I would likely say out loud if I was sitting opposite you anyway (I'm that kind of person) so I don't hide behind the anonymity of online interaction.

My blogging efforts here are to keep myself on track and share with others how I'm feeling...I have a busy life, suffer with chronic depression and I've learned that these 2 factors have contributed enormously to my weight gain. So to keep myself on track and hold onto the positive changes I'm making, I write it here and I come back to it regularly. And its working for me...I still have so much to say!

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    Hey! I have a "professional" blog (which I need to get back to on software design called the Responsible Designer), and I twitter from time to time. And I occasionally blog here on spark.

Blogging, for me, anyways, is a public form of journaling. I find that when I write in a physical journal, that I keep repeating same old thoughts. It is when I blog that I open up new possibilities/share my insights/work through things. And, it is an extra bonus when others read/comment and I feel a connection.

I found that my blogging ceased when I spent too much time twittering. And it took a backseat to my writing a bi-monthly column for a software magazine. Now that I am done with my magazine commitment and have backed way off twitter, I intend to step up my blogging.

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MAMOOAUG 5/7/2010 12:25PM

    I don't blog anywhere but SP. Here, I can blog about progress, mistakes, and encouragement. I don't normally put super private things here. I have 2 journals at home; one is for family type stuff and the other is for me to vent about live in general. No one ever sees it. I learn things about myself from writing or I can work out problems by seeing them. I read others blogs because many times I learn from them or are inspired by them.

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BUGGYS 5/7/2010 10:57AM

    I have trouble blogging because I don't want to give up too much information...I still don't trust the internet...who reads what...what people might do with the info I give them, etc. But, having been on Spark for about 3 months I have gained the trust and confidence to blog a little more and give a little more. I still have my childhood diary...actually I have 12...I can see that by reading through them every once in a while, I was growing and changing every day...I am growing and changing every day with Spark and because of my "family" here, I plan on blogging more. You are a wonderful blogger and have such a great way of getting your thoughts across to all of us and for that, I thank you! emoticon emoticon

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BAGGYPANTS5 5/7/2010 10:26AM

    For someone who never wrote, you are a prize blogger! I never knew what a blog was until I joined SP. What a revelation! I feel as if I know you and my other e.friends personally. I know we only see a little bit of each other on SP, often not even knowing the other's real name, but it's a really special relationship, with none of the hangups of a "real" one. Also, it's great to learn of lives across the sea, especially yours with your garden and your mountain.

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GEODAWG 5/7/2010 10:05AM

    I had one of those diaries but sometime or other I lost it. My sister still has hers and brings it out to remind me of how cruel I was to her when we were children. Isn't that special?
THis is my first venture into blogging but I must say I really like doing it------- on here anyway!

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HAWKEYERANT 5/7/2010 9:58AM

    Gorgeous sunrise.

I had a diary with a lock on it - you're right - nothing was that private to lock it away.

I blog now for me - to keep me on task, to keep me thinking about my goals and to see how I've grown.

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CALIFSHEWOLF 5/7/2010 9:56AM

    I have a blog on a senior dating site that I was on for a few years before I met Richie. It is a Poet's Blog, and every post has to be written in rhyme. There are about 25 contributors and we are like family...sharing our lives through poetry. I've been part of it for over 3 years and I have written some really funny stuff! My style of writing is a la Ogden Nash, so I have been truly challenged when posting about illnesses, surgeries, family problems, and deaths.

I don't write a daily blog here but I do write one when I have something I need to say, and I read lots of other people's blogs every day. I always learn something or have my feelings validated when I read what others have written. It seems to me that both writing and reading blogs has a therapeutic effect on me and sometimes can change the direction my day is going. Also, there are some people here who truly inspire, support, and motivate me, so I try to read their blogs as often as I can. As I have told you so many times, you are one of those people and I am grateful for your friendship.

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KIMBERLEY60 5/7/2010 9:55AM

    Blogging is easier than I thought it would be. I don't blog necessarily for others...I blog for me. It puts me back in touch with where I am and where I want to go. It gives me some quality time to sit and reflect. If I didn't blog, I'm not sure I would set aside that small amount of time to do that.
I like reading other peoples' blogs. As you stated sometimes they are inspirational, funny or sometimes sort of sad. I always make a point to read my sparkfriends blogs. That may get difficult as I am sparking longer and make more friends. Right now the number is "doable". I try to read several other blogs as well.
I enjoy your blogs Diane and always look forward to seeing your photo of the day. Have a wonderful Friday! emoticon

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SHERLYN-WILL 5/7/2010 9:42AM

    I struggle with blogging.. coz I think who would want to read what I write. I try to make TOO MUCH of it...and complicate it... and plan it and organize it... and then... by that time... I don't want to write it anymore! (TOO MUCH WORK!)

I know I should not complicate it but I tend to do that with allot of things in life. I am a detailed kind of gal... and can make quite a papertrail in my home business office! (kind of like I write a note that would literally say on it "I wrote a note..blah...blah...") I like keeping things simple but then I turn around and over think, over analyze, and over complicate and....I TRULY think this is why I put off doing things in my life.... from day to day stuff to planning ahead type stuff I think I put it off because I dread it... and I dread it because I overplan and over complicate the details of it! LOL Does that make sense?

PS I did have one of those diaries as a kid.... and I never wrote much in it... I could not think of anything!

My mom has kept a diary for over 40 years.. maybe more... I don't really know how long for sure! She writes down things that are the highlight of each day... that maybe happened with us kids... etc. If I need to know something in my 4 boys lives.. that I can't remember the date on I call her and give her a general idea about when and she goes and looks it up! Kind of cool! like my own personal "LIFE SECRETARY" LOL

SEE LOOK MA, I did blog just now.... when I left a comment on DIANEPBH'S BLOG today!


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TESENISIS1 5/7/2010 9:39AM

    To answer your question it is like weighing yourself to see your progress. I blog, journal, etc to keep track of where I am each day, reread them on occasion and realize how I have changed, improved or grown through the experiences I write down. SOmetimes it works to help me find a pattern in life that I have missed. It is, simply, therapeutic in nature.

Happy journalling!

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Feelings follow Behavior (Blog #137)

Thursday, May 06, 2010

"Feelings follow Behavior" is the title of a chapter in a little book I picked off a bargain table recently. The book is called "Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart." I read little snippets of it here and there. It is like the old sayings were have heard all our lives: you've heard these things before and some days you pay attention more!

There was a line in the chapter that struck me up side the head. "If they say, correctly, that doing things they do not feel like doing is difficult, I acknowledge this and ask if 'difficult' means the same thing as 'impossible.' Soon we are talking about things like courage and determination."

I think we often use the terms "difficult" and "impossible" interchangeably and yet they are drastically different! We flippantly exclaim that things are "IMPOSSIBLE" and yet are they really? What is the difference?

Of course some things in life are difficult! Making a living. Finding a job. Raising our kids. Going to school. Doing the chores. Making good choices about what's for lunch, dinner etc. Getting up and moving. And perhaps depending on our circumstances, our moods, our level of motivation, we add one of the two words:
"Finding a job is difficult." or "Finding a job is impossible." Really?
"Getting up and moving is difficult." or "Getting up and moving is impossible." Really?
"Making lunch today is going to be difficult." or "Making lunch today is going to be impossible." Really?

And my mind goes to two very different places when I add one of those two words. When I say some thing is impossible, I stop. I do not try. I have not other plan. I feel defeated.
When I say something is difficult, I reconsider. I try. I have a next step. I feel hopeful. I feel determined.

The SAD thing about the State of Impossibility is that there is no hope and it is a one way street in and there is no exit. The UPLIFTING thing about the State of Difficulty is that it has no entry fee, no visa required, and the borders are limitless. All you need to navigate the State of Difficulty is determination and courage. And when you add courage to your day, you act with courage and then you FEEL courageous. And then anything seems possible!

I look back at the start of my journey with SP and I can see that subconsciously I had said that the journey was going to be difficult but not impossible. There has not been a day when I said, 'No way.. this is impossible,' and then shrug and hang my shoulders in defeat. Every day I come to SP and I read about the determination of so many out there. Setbacks seem temporary moments of "impossibility."

I woke up this morning somewhat blue. Not sure exactly why. I guess things are on my mind. And then I thought back to that little phrase about feelings following behavior. And then I decided that ACTION, ANY ACTION, would be difficult today but NOT impossible and that my feelings will follow that behavior.

So, I am gonna fling my blue mood out the window and dig out some determination today. I'm sticking with the State of Difficult rather than the State of impossibility. YEAH!

QUOTE: "We have all been placed on this earth to discover our own path, and we will never be happy if we live someone else's idea of life." James Van Praagh

MANTRA: "Ever choice is an opportunity. Every opportunity is a choice." March 2010

Photo of the Day - Just looking at my mountain can dissipate a blue mood!

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KIMBERLEY60 5/8/2010 9:23AM

    Diane, I REALLY like this blog! I somehow missed reading it yesterday. It is very well written and is powerful. It is funny how we decide to label things in our minds as you mentioned, difficult and impossible when often they are the same. There are very few things we face that are truly impossible. I must admit for years and years I have been labeling weight loss as one of those impossible things. And from there, my self esteem and confidence about myself just was in the dumpster most of the time. I let everything in my personal life be tied to the way I looked and I loathed myself. I feel so grateful every day for finding SP. It has dramatically changed my life. Keep writing your inspirational and thought provoking blogs! emoticon

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SUNFLOWERGRRL 5/7/2010 12:06PM

    This is a GREAT blog...hit home for me today. Thanks for sharing!

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DENI_ZEN 5/6/2010 6:46PM

    I love your mind, and I love the way it and your soul conspire to artfully put your wisdom to paper...or to blog, these days! I don't have your breadth of experience here, Diane, but the first few days of my transformed way of healthy eating, I really white-knuckled that leg of the trip! It is getting easier, but in the beginning, I'd failed so often in the past that I wondered if I could hang on at all. So far, so good...day 18 :) All the best, Sandi (who loves your mountain in that mist!)

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GEODAWG 5/6/2010 6:46PM

    You are a wise woman!

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GINGER1OF16 5/6/2010 4:08PM

    How many of us would have begun this journey if "impossible" was the mantra?! What a perfect perspective you have shared!! emoticon

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    How'd you get so wise?

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MVRANA 5/6/2010 12:21PM

    "He must choose his own path, no one can choose it for him", Princess Leia.

I love it...its all about determination...and the picture is great as usual!!

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KASEYCOFF 5/6/2010 11:35AM

    Mmm hmm, in a sense, nothing is impossible: you have to define 'impossible,' first, doncha? Which means you can turn 'IMpossible' into 'possible,' all in how you look at it.

...and for what it's worth, oh, I am a confirmed believer in feelings following behavior, except I tend to phrase it 'Act as if--'! :-)

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    I find that for me, until I thought it was possible again, I didn't have the ability to go once again, on my weight loss journey. I didn't think it was difficult, just impossible. Really and truly. But my mind only shifted into the realm of the possible when I got sick with the flu, went and ate well for a week while hiking/being in Boulder Colorado over Thanksgiving, and coming home to discover that I had dropped 5 pounds. That made me realize that weight loss was possible.

Not sure I think it is difficult, but I think it requires persistence. So, I too, don't like the words "difficult" or "impossible". I prefer challenging, instead. Words do have power over our beliefs, and beliefs lead to actions, which reinforce our beliefs. So, yes, we have to start with the possible. And chase away our self-doubt. That goes for anything we want to do.

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LJCANNON 5/6/2010 10:52AM

    emoticon emoticonYou are one wise Turtle! My mother used to say "Fake it until you make it". She was teaching us that if you 'Fake' something long enough or often enough, you can change how you feel.
emoticonHow long can you stay sad or blue if you force yourself to smile or laugh often? Watch a funny commercial, or a comedy show,or just look out the window at Your Mountain and before long your MIND has changed.
emoticon emoticonThanks for sharing.

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SHERLYN-WILL 5/6/2010 10:45AM

    Great blog... thanks for sharing... I will have this on my mind all day now... deep but realistic and very needed right now!

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BUGGYS 5/6/2010 10:39AM

    I really, really needed this blog this morning...I, too, woke up feeling a little down...no reason...maybe because it's cloudy and I love the sun...looking at your mountain and reading your words make looking forward to today possible! emoticon

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MARENAMOO 5/6/2010 10:27AM

    Somewhere I hear Robert Goulet singing "To dream the impossible dream".

I agree that our minds must feel like we are capable of something in order to motivate ourselves to start, so the word difficult is better than impossible. It is funny now that you have brought it up - how powerful words are to each individual . Truth be told, I don't like either word - difficult or impossible. When I read your blog both of those words sounded negative to me. I like the word "possible" and like someone else said "doable". They sound more hopeful in my mind. So I guess it is an individual gradient of words and how our minds react to them. However each word sounds in our heads - I think you are correct that we need to self-talk in positive motivating words.

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BEANBYDESIGN 5/6/2010 9:52AM

    Amazing - thank you so much for sharing! I realized I fall prey to the "impossible" mindset at times, especially on this fitness journey. I am going to bookmark your blog and read it whenever I find myself thinking something is "impossible" again!

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SEEHOLZ 5/6/2010 9:40AM

    Most things are not impossible- sometimes we feel like they are, but only by changing the worlds to difficult, yet possible, can we move forward and endure... I feel lucky, becasue I know that- I oftentimes wonder if the only difference is that the self-defeated person can't really believe the words that things are possible. Great reminder!

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HOKIEJEN13 5/6/2010 9:27AM

    You must have known there were some of us out there how needed to read this! You're so right - very little is impossible, but so much is difficult. Afterall, aren't the best things in life those that we work the hardest to have, acquire, accomplish? If everything was easy, we'd never learn to appreciate what we have!

So, thank you for reminding us all that things are difficult, but doable!!!


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HAWKEYERANT 5/6/2010 9:13AM

    I stared at that picture for about 3 minutes (hey got my daily mood points in - right!?) it helped - thank you!

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 5/6/2010 9:08AM

    Excellent meditation! Personally, I prefer the word "challenging" to "difficult." It does better things to my brain.

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RUNNINGPFUHL 5/6/2010 8:49AM

    This is so true. Because where your mind leads the body follows. When I get like this I put on some great music, get my body moving and my mind out of the funk!

This is a journey, its not a sprint. There will be rest stops along the way and its your choice to stay there. Its also your choice to pack up and keep moving. :D

Its also not a destination. A diet is a destination, Spark is about a lifestyle. A VERY Doable Lifestyle. Not Difficult and Not Impossible. Doable!

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