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Wednesday, March 03, 2010

As part of the BL interteam challenge, we need to blog about five motivators in our weight-loss/get healthy journey.

1) Health: I want to be healthier and live a long time.

2) My children: I want to be able to keep up with my kids and be there as they grow up.

3) Friends: My friends always cheer me on when I'm doing well.

4) My success: As I lose weight, it encourages me to lose more. I feel proud of myself and want to keep going.

5) Lifestyle: I want to have more energy. I don't want to get out of breath when carrying a load of laundry up from the basement. I want to feel more comfortable going out and be able to get something out of my closet and have it fit. I want to feel good about how I look!

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    great things to think about.

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Another Job Interview

Wednesday, March 03, 2010

I had another job interview last night at a law office. It lasted an hour and I met with 2 attorneys. I think it went well. The job is very intense though. I'm used to working at offices that you have a lot of down time. And plenty of time to get your work done. This job was described as having constant deadlines and you have to be on top of everything. If they offer it, I'm taking it and giving it my best shot. They realize I'd have to be trained so I'd have time to get used to it all. It does sound exciting!

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BAMAGIRL58 3/3/2010 5:21PM

    Good Luck! A new challenge keeps your mind in shape.

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SUNNYARIZONA 3/3/2010 10:57AM

    Things are definitely looking up!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!

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SOPHIEMAE2007 3/3/2010 9:52AM

    Good Luck! I am trying to find a job that is more challenging than my current one. My job has lots of down time too, nearly 8 hours worth almost everyday. I work with a specific product that doesn't have too much demand anymore. It is a new product that is being reviewed by the FDA and should be approved soon. We hardly get orders for it anymore. No other products to work with like we did before, so it is very boring. The time was great not having to do anything except reading, exercising, and watching tv and getting paid decently to do it too. LOL! Very spoiled, but it has gotten very old.

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MPHUMPHREYS 3/3/2010 9:35AM

    Good luck!

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TONYA_JO 3/3/2010 9:06AM

    Good Luck!!

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SPARTANJAI 3/3/2010 8:44AM

    Good luck!

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MAGA99 3/3/2010 8:28AM


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LOVESLIFE48 3/3/2010 8:01AM

    Goo luck!!! emoticon

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PALEAN 3/3/2010 7:36AM

    Good luck! Sounds exciting! Whatever is meant to be will be, as they say, and I am keeping my fingers crossed for you!

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My letter of appeal to unemployment (what do you think?)

Tuesday, March 02, 2010

I am a legal secretary who worked for Connell, Connell, Camassa & Yuro for 13 years. I am writing to you to appeal the decision to disqualify me for benefits from 2/7/10 through 3/20/10. I believe I have suffered from a long, systematic harassment and abuse by my employer and various employees of the firm, including the office manager. I am only one of many such former employees who have suffered such abuses. I believe my termination was, in fact, a "set up" of sorts by the office manager and certain employees.

After a shift in partner ownership and management in January of 2008, the firm has suffered numerous losses, financially and with clientele. As a result, there has been a drastic change in staff over time and a total of five employees have been dismissed from the firm.

In November of 2008, I indicated to the office manager that my work load had decreased (after the near-50% loss of incoming files) and I requested to be given additional work. She advised Senior Partner, Ronald Yuro, of the same and immediately he wanted to cut my hours. Instead, I requested taking on additional work, offering to help out other employees with heavier workloads and Mr. Yuro agreed this was a viable solution. However, no additional work was provided. Other employees would not share their workloads and, in fact, work was taken from me and distributed to already work-burdened employees.

On or about February 4, 2009, I was reprimanded for using the internet for personal use. Mr. Yuro suggested that it must be because “I didn't have enough work to do” and he thereby cut my hours and put me on probation. He indicated that when my work load increased, I could have my hours back. Since that day, I have never again been on the internet for personal reasons, despite the fact others in the office continued using the internet daily for personal use (including making wedding arrangements and Christmas shopping). On numerous occasions, Mr. Yuro sent out memos and held several office meetings about continued use of the internet by employees. Attached is a copy of one such memo dated October 28, 2009 (Exhibit A). This memo indicates all the problems he wanted corrected by the employees. Note that it is dated more than six months after I was reprimanded, and no where does it mention the use of instant messaging. The same is addressed to everyone. I did not use the internet service for any reason other than the Court websites, electronic filing, and other work-related usage as permitted..

In July of 2009 I was told that due to lack of work, my hours were being cut yet again. Mr. Yuro said, “This is something that John and I have been discussing and has no bearing on your work or past wrongdoing. It's just because of lack of work”. Indeed, there had been a loss of incoming work and the firm was suffering financially. I would also note here that when instances occurred wherein the workload did increase, I was the only employee who worked unpaid overtime, in hopes that my hours would be increased and my efforts recognized.

At the time of my firing, Mr. Yuro indicated to me that he was upset that I was using the instant messaging system on our computer. At no time was I advised, either verbally or in writing, that instant messaging was not to be utilized. In fact, the system was used by everyone in the office for work and personal use regularly. He claimed he had removed the ability from my computer 3 weeks prior, so I "should have known that there was a problem." I asked why no one had ever received notice that instant messaging was not permitted, but I was not given an answer. Further, since it was allegedly removed from my computer, the only way I could use it would be to reply to any instant messages sent to me initiated by someone else in the office. Thus, it is clear that this restriction was only placed upon me. (As seen in the attached memos, the instant messaging protocol was never addressed).

Mr. Yuro claimed that he had concerns that I had wasted time during work, although he said he had no proof of such allegation, nor was he able to dispute that all my work was completed in a timely manner, despite the limited hours I was permitted to work. In fact, he stated that my "work product was fine." Unlike several others in the office, I came in on time, went right to my desk and started working.

At this time, I would like to describe the level of stress caused at the job by certain employees which resulted in pain and suffering due to deliberate and obvious segregation among the employees, causing a prejudiced situation to occur which I believe ultimately led to my termination.

In January of 2008, I spoke to Mr. Yuro about an escalating volatile situation in the office and he said he would take care of it, but the situation never changed. By way of example, I have attached copies of several memorandums which document the situation. First, a memorandum from Beatrice Estelle dated October 17, 2006 indicating a stressful situation that needed to be addressed, but was not (Exhibit B) and eventually, Beatrice quit. Also attached are two memorandums dated September 1, 2009 and October 29, 2009 from me to Mr. Yuro (Exhibit C). I put these two memorandums on Mr. Yuro's desk on or about October 29, 2009, but never heard back from him. I do not know if he received them or if someone removed them.

I did not participate in the constant hurtful conversations about others behind their backs. In fact, in a manner consistent with intimidation tactics practiced by high schoolers, I was regularly alienated by certain co-workers and constantly ignored and often not included in office gatherings or social activities which took place in and out of the office.

Two days before I was fired, the office manager engaged me in an after-work hours text messaging conversation that I believe turned out to be a successful attempt to bait me into office gossip which was ultimately used against me leading to the cause of my termination. I have available, if needed, the text messages, as well as letters from past coworkers, to support my position.

I believe that I should be entitled to Unemployment Benefits because my termination was unwarranted and; (1) one year ago I was given a verbal warning about internet usage, and such usage immediately ceased, (2) I was told that there was no problem with my work, (3) I was never told verbally or in writing that instant messaging was not to be utilized. I was a dedicated and loyal employee of the firm for 13 years, despite a constant turnover of personnel. I worked on both a full time and part time basis for both current and former partners of the firm. I believe that I was the victim of an abuse of power, as well as a victim of sophomoric games practiced by management and co-employees in a discriminatory manner.

I thank you for your courtesies and cooperation in this matter.

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SMILES4383 4/1/2010 8:00AM

    I think that America is seeing the UGLINESS of this type of 'accepted behavior'......
The suicides of our youth in the news this week is at least drawing attention to the RESPONSIBILITY of schools, companies, and corporations for allowing this type of behavior.
Shame on Connell, Connell, Camassa & Yuro...

I hope that you get your rightful unemployment.....

emoticon Terri

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MPHUMPHREYS 3/2/2010 1:31PM

    Wow! You know, of course, that the only reason you're not getting unemployment is because your former boss is too cheap to pay into the system! He thought you wouldn't fight it! It seems to me that you've got a case, at least, if i were making the decisions... emoticon

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MARCYNA 3/2/2010 10:25AM

    This is a clear example of mobbing!!!
You should read 'The No-Asshole-Rule' by Bob Sutton, Sphere.
It will give you practical insights regarding your legal rights.
What they did to you is outrageous, and you'll fell much better in another place!!!

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SOFEDUPP 3/2/2010 7:39AM

    After reading your letter, it sounds like you are better off not working there. It also sounds like that firm should be looked into. They do not sound like a professional place a business at all.

I would think as long as you have the documentation, it is going to be difficult for your former employer to dispute your claim.

I am sorry you had to go through this, but they sound very unprofessional and not a law firm I would want to work for or use, for that matter.

I hope you get your unemployment.

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SUNNYARIZONA 3/2/2010 6:41AM

    WOWOWOW!!!! I would give you what you ask simply because you did such a thorough job documenting the whole issue with your former employer. I would not be surprised if someone , some friend or family had filled your shoes! You might find someone to go in incognito, to check that out!!!! That would not be for this purpose you have blogged here, but just For your own information! Don't send in the wolves or guns of course. GET yourself a BETTER job, and THUMB it at them!!!!!! emoticon

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My Job Interview

Monday, March 01, 2010

The job interview I had scheduled for last thursday was cancelled due to snowstorm and rescheduled for today. I think it went well. He know a lot of the people I had previously worked for. So we had that in common. However, I don't have much experience for the particular office job that I'm applying for. Even though I have 20 years experience working in law offices. He said he would have to train me and I would have to study to learn it. I said that I was up for the challenge. I gave him a low salary requirement being that I would have to be trained. So hopefully that helped. I have another job interview scheduled for tomorrow. Wish me luck!

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BAMAGIRL58 3/2/2010 9:17PM

    Much luck! Sounds like you handled your interview very well. Hope you hear something positive very soon. emoticon

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DONNA_VT 3/2/2010 3:36PM

    Sounds like it went ok for the 1st interview. Glad to hear you have another soon.

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DONNA_VT 3/2/2010 3:36PM

    Sounds like it went ok for the 1st interview. Glad to hear you have another soon.

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MPHUMPHREYS 3/2/2010 1:18PM

    Good Luck with that Job interview tomorrow! I don't know who, some smart person, said something about it "not mattering how many 'no's you hear, all it takes is one 'yes'. YOU CAN DO IT! emoticon

And remember, get enough sleep!

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SUNNYARIZONA 3/2/2010 2:34AM

    I gather the job interview tomorrow is not with the same guy as today. Maybe tomorrow will be the one! Hang in there, that you have had 2 interviews while others sit at home with nothing, is a real blessing! YOU GO GIRL!! emoticon

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KISSYTINA 3/1/2010 10:45PM

    Good Luck!

I know how stressful interviews can be. I have been applying for jobs left and right... but you know how the economy is right now and everything. But it is good to hear that you think the interview went well in today's interview!

God Bless!

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How do I stay positive

Thursday, February 25, 2010

I have a job interview today. I'm hopeful and prepared. I've been trying everything I can to stay positive. I exercise everyday, which helps. I do deep breathing exercises. I think about all the things that I should be grateful for: My husband still has a great job with great benefits. We are all heathy. I have a loving family I can call for support. I have friends that are there for me. These are all wonderful things, and yet I keep getting this feeling of foreboding. This pain in my chest and stomach, with a touch of nausea. Tears well in my eyes. Yesterday my husband and I got into a fight and, even though he's been supportive of my job loss, he said "It's your own fault you got fire." I think he was just spouting that at me to hurt me (which is his way in arguments), but it hurt to not have his support. We aren't still fighting, but we are being "silent". I've lost 13 pounds in the last 2 weeks, so I'm excited about that and trying to get healthy because it is the only thing I can control. I just hate feeling depressed, and hopeless, and worthless. :-(

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DONNA_VT 3/1/2010 8:48PM

    We haven't heard how the interview went . . . well I hope. I'm thinking of you often and hope you are feeling a bit better.

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MAGA99 2/25/2010 1:40PM

    ur in my prayers

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NANCE6 2/25/2010 12:38PM

    First of all, GOOD LUCK with your job interview!!!!!
I totally understand how you feel. I think we all visit that "state" from time to time and sometimes for too long! But, as said by another member, remind yourself that YOU ARE WORTH EVERYTHING IN GOD'S EYES!!! He sees so much in you, you are HIS IMAGE! He is LOVE. You are here because He loves you and wants good things for you. When you hurt, turn to HIM. Your husband's outburst is not something unusual...I've been married for almost 32 years and I've been thru many moments like yours! He doesn't mean it. He really, really, doesn't. These days are very stressful days in the economy and in everyones "pockets". Losing a job just magnifies that frustrations and the reason for the outburst at you is because he trusts you'll take it...we always hurt those we love the most because we trust they will still be there for us afterwards...weird thinking, but true. You can't yell at strangers on the street---they'll throw you in jail or the psyche ward! He vents to you because he trusts you. You do not have to absorb all that frustration. Keep yourself focused on good things in your life. Thank God for them. And ask HIM for help. Keep your eyes open and focused on HIM, grace happens! And you want to recognize it when it comes along.
I struggle each day with the ups and downs of severe depression. My family, a couple of good friends, and my spiritual director (ok, the shrink, too) are my world. But all is centered on GOD.
I wish you all the best...and truly hope you'll get the job!!!

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HLTHAPPINESS4C 2/25/2010 11:31AM

    You are anything but worthless. You are God's special child and are loved by Him. Arguments with spouses are going to happen. Just take a deep breath and don't dwell on the hurtful words.

Good luck on your interview today. i hope it goes very well. I know it's hard to stay positive, but it sounds like you are doing all you can to do so.
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SUNNYARIZONA 2/25/2010 11:13AM

    Good luck to you on the job interview. So sorry your husband said what he did. The tongue is poison....he will so regret what he said I am sure, but you will NEVER forget it, even if he apologizes. Sure pays to THINK twice, speak once!!!

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MRSPOTATOHEAD83 2/25/2010 9:48AM

    This has got to be a very rough time for you. Staying focused on the little blessings in life really helps me handle the bad times. Just try to stay active. In times when I've been without a job or looking for a job, I've kept myself busy with volunteer work, it's kept my mind busy, focused and kept purpose in my life. It really helped.

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STARLASUE 2/25/2010 8:22AM

    Take your power back!

Go into that interview saying. 'I am prepared and ready to give the best interview ever. I know I can do this. I deserve this job'.

If any thoughts come into your head that say otherwise - override them with these!

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NANC304 2/25/2010 8:18AM

    I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm sure your husband didn't really mean what he said. People speak out of anger. I know how you feel about "the silence". To me that is almost worse than the fighting. Things will work out. Good luck on your interview.

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MPHUMPHREYS 2/25/2010 7:47AM

    Hi There Ms. JITT. People like us (depressives) are prone to anxiety, especially when dealing with the more difficult things in life, as you are now. And boy! do I know about "the Silence" -- my father invented it! But the ONE thing that I learned from being in Overeaters Anonymous (it wasn't for me), was that you can take a deep breath, let it out, and with that breath hand your worries and fears over to your "higher power," whatever that is for you. Even if SP is your higher power (doesn't have to be any sort of God). Just let the worries go. Life will provide for you what you need to at least get by. You yourself listed all of the great things in your life -- it's really hard sometimes, but if you can breathe out your worries, just hand them over to whoever the "great provider" is, and take comfort with what you DO have, maybe it will help you through.

Sorry to have rambled -- Caffeine is kicking in...
I know you can do it!!!
Best, Martha emoticon

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SANDI521 2/25/2010 7:15AM

    Years ago I was out of work for about 8 months and I tried everything to make myself feel ok about it but I still felt like I had let my family down. We often view ourselves worth in terms of what we do and or how much money we make. What finally worked for me was to consider the time that I had off between jobs as a long deserved vacation. I continued to apply for jobs and to do odd jobs to bring in a little extra spending money but I also allowed myself time off.
Good luck. Make yourself some positive statements posters and put them on your mirror, on the refrigerator and anywhere else you need daily reminders. Sandy emoticon

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