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When are you beautiful?

Saturday, June 02, 2012

Beauty is something that I have been thinking about. I see on pages people saying, "I want to lose weight to feel beautiful or sexy." So, if you lose XX # of pounds, you automatically become beautiful &/ or sexy? Well, maybe.... or maybe not. I am 2/3 of the way through my journey and some days I feel beautiful and some days, so not.

That made me start thinking, what is beauty anyway? The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines it as: the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit. OK, no where in there does it say that you need to weigh a certain amount to be beautiful. So, beauty simply put is being appealing to all the senses. Lotion, perfume, here I come. But seriously, it's very personal, just like this journey we are on.

So,I staredt thinking about people who I think are beautiful. Like Katharine Hepburn. She is such a strong, independent woman with her own unique style. I definitely admire that about her. She wore pant suits when most other women didn't.

Or how about Audrey Hepburn? So, very graceful. I think she must be the woman who invented the LBD.

Somehow, I feel I must include Sophia Loren, too.

I look at these three very beautiful but very different women and I ask myself, what makes them beautiful? I think, that they are beautiful because the way the dress reflects who they are as a person.

So, I think the answer to the question, "When are you beautiful?" isn't so simple. I think being beautiful is truly a state of mind. I think, you are beautiful when you are comfortable with who you are. I think self-confidence is beautiful. I admire intelligent women. I think someone with a beautiful smile is wonderful. Someone who is graceful is lovely.

You will not be more beautiful than you are today. However, losing weight, the journey itself, will hopefully give us more self-confidence and a bigger smile. These things make us more beautiful. Buying a new perfume, lotion, a new top that compliments our eyes, a new haircut, that emphasizes the length of our face, instead of roundness, these things are necessary. Anything that brightens the mood, make us stand taller, and make us feel more confident, are good things.

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AMYTRIPP 6/4/2012 8:38AM

    Love this!! I agree: beauty is a state of mind -one I wish we could call up when wanted. :)

I've always thought that there are truly no physically 'ugly' people in the world - everyone has something about them that is beautiful, all you have to do is look for it... and that includes looking for it in ourselves.

Now, 'inside ugly' is another matter all together. *nods*

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CAKEMAKERMOM 6/3/2012 11:42AM

    "I think self-confidence is beautiful."

That is the thing that can make a woman (or man) most beautiful. Being sure of you and your abilities is what attracts others to you, no matter what you look like or how much weight you carry.

I think Melissa McCarthy from "Mike and Molly" and other movies is very beautiful (just to mention one that many people might not think is). She carries herself like shes the center of the room on everything I've see her in and she's not a skinny twig. She has lots of self confidence.

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RICOCHETBEAR 6/3/2012 10:57AM

    great blog! Well done!

There are lots of beauties out there in the world. And not all of them are slender either. Christina Schmidt and Marilyn Monroe are two that come to my mind immediately. Both these women are/were plus sized women. Because like you said , confidence in themselves. but the other thing that comes to my mind is another well known phrase " Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

""When are you beautiful?" isn't so simple. I think being beautiful is truly a state of mind." Self imaging is a big problem in today's world, teens through to adulthood. The medias have created the biggest part of this insecurity that people have about their own beauty and sexiness by consistently choosing extra thin models and and professional people to put into print or onto film.

The camera puts on ten pounds, so a lot of these people are consious of that and actually weigh even thinner than we percieve them to be, because rather than like the body they have they perfer the look of the one caught on camera and choose to perfect that one. That is the one that women, and men, strive to look like as that is the one they think is sexy and beautiful. Because this same type is always portrayed the brainwashing has begun

While there are the few that do break the rule, and those few are usually actively trying to change the visual norm of who are accepted as beautiful and sexy, it is not becoming a popular choice.

For me, every one is beautiful. Some may be physically beautiful, but I find beauty in many ways. There is beauty to be found in the charisma of a person, in the soul of a person, and the kindnesses of a person. It does not stop there as beauty is not just skin deep. Again something a lot of people do not realize. Just as some people will never achieve thinking of themselves as beautiful and sexy

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Cleaned Out My Closet

Saturday, May 19, 2012

I cleaned out my closet today. It was something that I really have needed to do for some time. But, I just couldn't go any longer with multiple sizes in my closet. I could no longer tell what would fit and what wouldn't. LOL!!!

What really helped was evaluating the item based on how it made me feel. There were some items that fit, but I feel awkward or dowdy wearing them. Out they went!!! I also saved one pair of baggy sweats for those rare days of relaxing at home. All the items currently in my closet fit and make me feel good. That is such a wonderful feeling.

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SUSANS706 5/29/2012 11:18AM

    I have a running spot in my closet for clothes I am giving away. If I put something on, and I do not like how it looks, in the pile it goes!! I also turn all my hangars around at the beginning of a season, as I wear something, I put it back the opposite way. I can tell what I have not worn for a whole season, and if I have not worn it in a year, out it goes!!!

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RABBLERRABBIT 5/23/2012 8:36PM

    Such a great idea!!! emoticon

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AMYTRIPP 5/20/2012 3:11PM

    Wonderful! I love the criteria you used for what clothes to keep.

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RICOCHETBEAR 5/20/2012 2:45PM

    I go through my closet regularly.
a trick i do to myself ...if it is something that I do like and I really dont want to part with, but it doesnt fit me properly on either side, too big or too small...I put it in a garbage bag I keep in the bottom of my closet If I havent hauled it out of that bag by the end of the year, I tend to forget what is in that bag...less painful to get rid of the said garments because i have forgotten I even had them

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1NANA4EVER 5/20/2012 9:42AM

    It would benefit me to take your advise. As soon as I reach my goal weight I am going to do the same. I believe, since this is not my first time losing 5 dress sizes, that if I throw away the larger sizes, it makes it too easy to slide right back up the sizes. Out they will go.

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BD3269PM 5/20/2012 7:41AM

    What a great way to look at cleaning out the closet emoticon

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LGAR519 5/20/2012 7:37AM

    I never thought of doing my clothes that way. Great idea!

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CRYSTAL_MOM 5/19/2012 10:56PM

    I don't currently have any clothes that make me feel good.

Great job! Having done that must make you feel better.

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RRP546 5/19/2012 7:58PM

  dressing in jeans makes me feel good

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CAKEMAKERMOM 5/19/2012 7:52PM

    That sounds like a great plan! If you don't feel nice in it, then getting rid of it's the best thing you can do! I need to work on that soon.

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Disappointing Doctor Appointment about Blood Pressure

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

I went to the doctor today because I have been dizzy. Essentially, he did agree that periodically my blood pressure was bottoming out. His answer, was to tell me to sit down when I become dizzy. Essentially, unless I actually pass out he won't change my meds. Hmmm, this doesn't work so well for me.

On the other hand, I get where he is coming from. He sees a middle-aged, over weight woman, with high-blood pressure. The current medication is effectively lowering her blood pressure, thus reducing her risk of stroke and heart attack. In fact, low blood pressure isn't harmful, just annoying.

OK, well. I can't change the fact that I am middle-aged, and have a family history of heart disease. I can change the over weight part. I will try patience to begin with and see if he is correct and that my body will adjust.

Part of me, wants to say, forget him, I can do this on my own. I can gradually reduce my meds and track my BP on my own. Afterwards, show him how wonderfully well I am doing without the meds. The problem with this line of thought, is that it presumes that my hypertension is being caused by being overweight and not by anything else. I have been seeing a very, slow general downward trend with meds.

The problem with this thought, is that if the hypertension is being caused by a genetic pre-disposition, it's entirely possible that I could reach my goal weight and still have hypertension. Ugh, I would certainly hope I could at least reduce my meds. But, how to do this without help, is a problem. For, now I will settle for waiting to see if my body adjusts, I will also monitor by BP more than once a week.

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FRAN0426 5/16/2012 5:19PM

    After monitoring your blood pressure for awhile and deciding what to do about the medication, how about getting a second opinion from another doctor.

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RABBLERRABBIT 5/16/2012 9:21AM

    If I may ask, are you seeing a general practitioner or a cardiologist? It made a huge difference in my treatment and I no longer take BP meds (I also had dizziness - almost blackouts - from them, and once I did have an event while driving).
Good luck - the only thing I would add is that if you feel uncomfortable with an answer, keep looking until you're satisfied (though it sounds like you already are). Sorry for your trouble, it's harder than most people realize to deal with chronic conditions.

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AMYTRIPP 5/16/2012 8:33AM

I'm sorry to hear that your doctor's visit didn't go how you'd hoped. I think it's scary for anyone to deal with the dizzyness as it could come at an inoportune or dangerous moment.

Only you know how your body feels. If the dizzyness persists, you might want to decrease those meds - just keep a close eye on your bp.

I always have high cholesterol numbers. It doesn't matter how thin I am, my levels are always elevated, so I can never be completely off the meds. BUT... my extra weight means that my med level is higher, something I'm not happy with. I'm hoping that I can cut that down as the months and the weight go by.

Please keep us updated!

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LGAR519 5/16/2012 8:24AM

    I started out in the Nursing profession with the understanding that the word of the Doctor was LAW! After cleaning up a lot of messes brought on by Doctor mistakes, I realized they were only human. Later in my career, I had to take some matters into my own hands. I'll leave that to your imagination! Occasionally, we run across Doctors who actually know what they are doing!!! I don't know your Doctor. You do! Has he led you astray before? This hypotension can be serious. You need to be very careful. Can you get a second opinion?

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JULIETTECAKE 5/16/2012 7:38AM

    I think I will go to monitoring my BP daily, then in the morning adjust my BP med accordingly. I'm not ready to quit the med, maybe if I'm lucky when I'm closer to my goal.

When I experience a major bout of dizziness, I usually feel a wave of exhaustion first. So, I would have a warning to sit down. However, slowing down does NOT fit in with my plan right now. So, driving in the car, it's unlikely I would get dizzy. However, I have nearly fallen down the stairs during a minor bout already. No warning, it just happened.

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RICOCHETBEAR 5/16/2012 12:03AM

    hmmmm how much do you take? can you cut 1 pill in half and just take half of it? How often are you getting dizzy? Do you think it is often enough that a reduction is the answer?

I dont know if thats the answer for you. I only know that if I hadnt took my health care into my own hands I would still be on mega doses of of 2 kinds of insulin. Doctors can suggest medicines to us but we certainly do not have to take them, it is , ultimately our choice what goes into our bodies.

As we lose weight, our meds will change. Some of us could end up off all medications totally. However, some doctors do not believe people can change their lives. Also the amount of money they make off us decreases with the less time we need to see them or use the drugs they prescribe for us,

It is your choice. and if the dizzy spells happen often , I would be considering cutting a pill in half. As I would not want to pass out while driving the car or while going down stairs. You can always just try it and see how you feel. If it doesnt feel right, go back to the whole dose, and try again when you feel your blood pressure has dropped some more ( more frequent dizzy spells)

that is my suggestion and two cents worth

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SCRAPPINPOLLY 5/15/2012 10:59PM

    I see where you both are coming from, but what if you fainted and hurt yourself? That would worry me. Keep your chin up!

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Building a Garden

Saturday, May 12, 2012

Today, we worked on the new garden all day. The kids helped us remove the remaining sod this morning. My husband spent the afternoon building two small retaining walls in the garden. I worked on amending the soil with peat moss. Tomorrow we will finish amending the soil, and will put the landscape fabric on, and finally put in the plants.

It was a physically exhausting day. It was a wonderful day!!! A year ago I didn't have enough energy to even feel happy looking at my garden. I don't recall a time in my life when I would have had the energy or strength to do what I did today. And tomorrow, I want to go back and finish up. I feel so happy, I wish I could share this feeling with all of you.

Well, Good Night everyone! I hope your day was filled with joy and your tomorrow is filled with sunshine.

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RICOCHETBEAR 5/14/2012 9:56AM

    I am happy you feel all this renewed extra energy and that you are able to get done things you never could before. I am sure that your hubby and kids are enjoying this "new" you too!

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AMYTRIPP 5/14/2012 8:18AM

    That's wonderful, Julie! You'll have to take some photos of the garden and share them here.

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BARBARAHOBBIT 5/13/2012 5:36PM

    Happy Mothers Day my Friend. I really enjoyed readig your Blog, and I am so happy that you have the energy to complete something that is going to make you so happy.

Please upload some pictures when you have finished, I am looking forward to seeing them.

Have a good evening.

Babs. emoticon emoticon

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SPARKLED146 5/13/2012 7:39AM

    It was a great day to work outside yesterday! I made some progress on my garden also. It's good exercise, isn't it?

Enjoy your garden!

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LGAR519 5/13/2012 7:13AM

    First off, Happy Mothers Day! I spent yesterday digging sod in my back yard. I just want enough ground to plant several tomato plants. The fellow next door decided not to plant a garden this year. I refuse to put tomatoes with my flowers! I'm glad you feel so much better this year! Happy gardening!

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Here's what is blooming in my garden

Sunday, May 06, 2012

Bleeding Hearts

I took these photos last week when i was feeling down. I spend a fair amount of time weeding my garden and maintaining it. But rarely do I take time just to enjoy. I was so glad I did that day, it really lifted my spirit. What do you do when you are feeling down?

My crabapple

Dwarf Lilac

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AMYTRIPP 5/7/2012 9:19AM

    So lovely! It's too bad we have to remind ourselves to enjoy nature and not just work in it.

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Your pictures of the flowers and plants in your garden are really lovely Julie, your garden must be beautiful. I would imagine it would lift anyone out of a low mood.

When I'm down, I head to the Sea. Not where the tourists are, but to the quiet West Shore, I sit and watch the waves , and the Gulls, and I realise how lucky I am to live so close to all of this natural beauty.

By the way I was sad to see that you havn't been feeling to well. When is your appt with the Consultant? I hope that all goes well, I will be thinking about you.

Love Babs. emoticon

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RICOCHETBEAR 5/6/2012 5:16PM

    lovely pictures julie!
When I am down in the dumps, well it really depends for me. spring, summer and fall, out into the yard to putter among my gardens, I find it very theraputic! But that s if I cannot get to the water, preferably the lake, but the ocean will do, never tried it but possibly a mudpuddle would too! lol
When I am near water, I am calmed with a deep peace as Thats where I communicate best with myself and God, and it may sound strange to some but thats the way it is for me. Thats where I feel closest to Him.
Winter time...I hibernate. Just like a bear lol I withdraw from the world, lock my doors( people just walk in here if I dont) and refuse to answer it. I'll come out when I am good and ready

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LGAR519 5/6/2012 2:07PM

    They are very pretty. I would love to have a crabapple tree! I listen to music when I get down in the dumps!

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CAKEMAKERMOM 5/6/2012 2:03PM

    Those are really pretty.

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