JUDYAMK   22,135
20,000-24,999 SparkPoints
JUDYAMK's Recent Blog Entries

A camera, negatives & developing regarding your attitude about your weight

Sunday, July 06, 2014

Life is like a camera focus on what is important ,capture the good times Develop from the negatives and if things do not work out just take another shot emoticon
I had gone to another family picnic yesterday after work, and you already know what I devoured with out naming any one food item!! I felt like a total over sized blimp arriving home. I sat in my recliner having the gall to feel sorry for myself when no one at the party pried my mouth opened and shoveled the food in like a locomotive needing steam to keep on chugging along.
I woke up this morning , still feeling like an over stuffed Thanksgiving dinner from the abundance of food I ate on Saturday, I went on my sparks and read the message Barbiee52 posted on my page regarding the camera. I just had to post what she sent me , something clicked in my brain, ( thanks so much Barb ) I carry a camera with me where ever I go ,never relating it to my soulful self when feeling down about my weight and wanting to give up. Did someone ever give you that ahhh moment !!
I have to work today,and knowing I had to eat something to fuel my body it was a small healthy breakfast. I work 5 hours today with no lunch , I would have come home and ate big ,because I would be so hungry. I am taking some protein in today for a snack instead of eating nothing, I would have never had breakfast because of the way I feel, but I am giving it another shot! Thanks to Barb for making me see the negative and developing it into another shot emoticon

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

FIT4MEIN2013 7/7/2014 1:37PM

    Well said!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MEXGAL1 7/7/2014 10:34AM

    Totally agree.

You asked a bunch of questions on my blog...let me see if I can answer. Our village has places to buy clothes that are very Mexican. We also have a second hand shop as well that sometimes has something I like but I don't go there much. I have a ton of clothes in all sizes that I need to go through and get rid of...not sure why I hand on to them. we also have several really nice malls about an hour from home that if I wanted to could go shopping in them and they have all the designers and such but that's not my thing either. I buy most of my clothes when I am up north visiting the kids. I am a thrift shopper and like deals. I also order things on line.
So hope that answers your question.
Have a terrific day

Report Inappropriate Comment
ZANYGIRL1 7/6/2014 9:31PM

    I've heard this one before (about the camera) and I totally agree!! Hope it gets you going on the right path, Judy!! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
BARBIEE52 7/6/2014 12:41PM

    Thank you, Judy..I am so glad that my message has helped you..that makes it so worthwhile for me. So many have helped me in the last 2 years, and being able to help someone else is my way of thanking all the ones who helped me. I am so glad I was able to help, and make a small difference in your life!!
Sending many
emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
Barb emoticon emoticon emoticon

Comment edited on: 7/6/2014 12:43:27 PM

Report Inappropriate Comment
SIMPLELIFE4REAL 7/6/2014 12:21PM

    I hope it works out for you. I hate that feeling of being stuffed from eating too much.

Report Inappropriate Comment
LIS193 7/6/2014 11:36AM

    Great analogy!

Report Inappropriate Comment


Report Inappropriate Comment
MRSJERRYBUSH 7/6/2014 10:14AM

    Love this advice! Looking for my camera!

Report Inappropriate Comment

Why can we stick to the wrong habits so easily , but not the good ones HELP!!!!

Saturday, July 05, 2014

Every single time I am on a roll I feel within the very depth of my soul I am going to conquer, I am so on the game. I know I am not the only one, I have read the same thing over and over from others " I am starting over" I have said that myself a zillion times. What is with some of us. I once thought in a fleeting moment," gee if I do this what happens if I can not maintain it, so what is the use " I thought am I afraid of failure once I get there, of back sliding? I only thought that for a few seconds,but is that what is really holding me back?Then I have an awesome cousin Tammy that is out there every day eating clean, and working out, plus running races, she works full time has a family,but still does it.
I feel so super when I am working out, and eating so very very healthy then all of a sudden I stop like a bolt of lightning struck me, sure I let fleeting moments crop in my brain and say get back up, but bam a clap of thunder in my brain knocks me unsteady . Then after so much time passes I waddle up like duck and get going once again, until I am down again. I am sick of starting over, I want to be that person that can eat healthy and work out not just for a few weeks,but all the time. I know it is not realistic to have that 365 days a year , but if I do slip I want to be right back instead of lingering and struggling for days or weeks to get back!

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

EILEEN828 7/6/2014 2:01PM

    I find myself doing the exact same thing. I think the answer is not that you are failing but that you are learning to ride the ebb and flows of changing your life style habits. Rejoice that you are able to still have the desire to keep moving forward. Review carefully for what you feel were triggers and trip ups that put you in this position. Is it something you've already identified? Figure out a way to break that "thing" into its components. There is some part that maybe you've not fully addressed yet. There is always going to be these "things" coming up to challenge you, find or focus on what will or did get you past this present time. Remember to phrase it in your mind as a reward for your self not as a chore. Trying, "starting over" IS doing it. It absolutely counts!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MOMMA_BEAR_69 7/5/2014 8:44PM

    Don't beat yourself up over the things you can not change or redo. Just do the very best you can each day. That's all you can do!!! Keep pushing into the unknown...
Each of us have had days that weren't the best. Just get right back on track and keep moving forward. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
LIS193 7/5/2014 11:56AM

    Great blog!
We all have days that are not so great and it is soooo easy to slip back into old (not so good) habits. The trick is to get back with routines and do what make you feel good and gets you to your goals.
There are mornings I am too lazy to do a yoga session but the mornings I do one I feel so good afterwards!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MEXGAL1 7/5/2014 10:33AM

    Can you say "I only human". Human behavior loves to do what is easy. Developing routines that are good for us takes time and effort. It isn't easy. I still say that you have to remember how great you feel after a work out. It's hard when you are tired and don't feel like it. I sit here typing and since I didn't sleep well last night I am having fleeting thoughts of not doing my 4 miles today with the doggies, but then I told myself that I have nothing on my agenda today accept visiting FIL so I will just get out there and get it done and if I want to rest this afternoon I have earned it!

As far as clean eating goes I still believe that process food is additive and has no nutritional value so you crave more. The book I read Salt Sugar and Fat how the food giants hook us really put things in perspective for me. They definitely try and hook us. Once you totally get off those things you will crave the good stuff.

You got this and can do it. There will always be bumps in the road but they get fewer and fewer.
Have a great Saturday.

Report Inappropriate Comment
FLORIDASUN 7/5/2014 8:41AM

    I really HEAR you on this one my sweet friend! We are all creatures of habit and we all like our comfort zone. It's just EASIER to not exercise and EASIER to grab convenience foods that are so processed they really aren't even entitled to call themselves food anymore.

Lots of the problem with backsliding on food choices is that the big foodies have actually put chemicals into the foods that make us crave MORE! Especially with aspartame and artificial sweeteners. You really have to do some super sleuthing for yourself to realize the poisons that you are ingesting.

And what does our poor body do with so called food it can't recognize...it says...WHAT IS THIS CRAP...I DUNNO so I'll just STORE it as FAT until I can deal with it later.

Of course we know later never comes and we just keep accumulating more and more FAT because our body has no other resource.

You can also just keep the CRAP out of the house. If you don't have it you can't eat it right? emoticon

Now about the exercise...I have STILL to crack that code! All I can suggest is do something you really enjoy that keeps your body moving and once you get hooked on the endorphins you'll stick with it...or at least that's MY plan.

Sometimes it works...sometimes it doesn't.

Mostly if I just DO it as Nike says...without allowing my mind to talk me out of it..it gets done bright and early and my Teddy Bear team keeps me accountable. emoticon emoticon

Know that I'm CHEERING you on dear friend...I KNOW you can do this...for YOU...because you SO deserve it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
LIVIN4LISH 7/5/2014 8:38AM

    You're right, we all go through it, and if you had an answer, you'd be rich! I often think it's my internal monologue telling me I don't deserve it; don't deserve to take the time to workout, the attention I might get when I do lose, the way I feel when I am eating well and living the healthy life. I know that's a crock, and then when I sit back and really analyze, just an excuse.
My husband, like your cousin, is one of those people...In the 20+ years I've known him, he has never changed sizes. His approach is moderation. He works out daily, but not like a crazy person, he eats well, but still has snacks. Granted, he does have the metabolism of a nicely muscled man, but he is now 55, and, let's face it, his metabolism is slowing, too.
The important thing is, you're here, you're trying again for the zillionth time (like me), and perhaps this time will be the one. The time you will lose it AND maintain it! emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment


Judy, you answered your own (and many other's) question/dilemma. I got to the same point many times myself. There's no further answer. Fear of Love/success is THE answer. To put it in other words:

We are use to our old routine/self/reality. Our initial heart-felt push to a better us gets us so far because we are so focused. But when the sheit hits the fan we roll up in a fetal position. Your cousin is no different BTW. Her issue is in a different arena that's all.

So, what I've found that I need to do is be so firmly planted in my convictions that I can beat this horrible hold I have on the old-me, that I continue on. What helps me, even if it sounds childish, is to simply look at all that crap that comes up when I'm walking my path. Then....SMILE! emoticon and continue to walk on the path towards goal.

emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment

    Great blog! Boy, do I understand what you are talking about.

I have no idea why some people are able to stick to something healthy for so long and others are not. For the most part, I've always had a lot of difficulty sticking to a healthy habit. Getting cancer has given me a lot of motivation to eat healthier and I've been able to stick to that for the last 9 months. It's been a lot harder to maintain a healthy exercise routine. One thing that has helped me a lot in that area over the years is having an exercise buddy. When I have one, I'm so much more consistent with my exercise.

Now that I write this, I see that some of my motivation in internal (fear of cancer recurring) and some of it is external (my exercise buddy). I believe it doesn't really matter what the motivation is as long as it gets us to have healhier habits.

Report Inappropriate Comment

Spending too much time on frivolous things and no time for exercise!!!!

Thursday, June 26, 2014

I arrived home from vacation in the mountains & had a lot of time to think. I was reading Bobbie's blog and she mentioned how much time and energy she spent on the issue with her home. I to spend too much time on things that are frivolous, however Bobbie's situation is a lot more involved & much more serious. Sometimes it is good to get away and come back with fresh new ideas regarding our selves. I want to look at each day as one single day instead of lumping all my days I have coming and already feel like a failure. I have a tendency to look at all the tomorrows that are not even here yet, and worry.
I need to be more consistent in planning meals, I got away from that, it was turning out to be anything thrown together and it was not a good thing. Using the excuse of too tired after work to walk, when I even know how good I felt after walking. Why would anyone stop when they know in their mind how good it felt??? Any one out there have an answer for that one??/

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

EILEEN828 6/28/2014 1:34AM

    The trick is to change it from a have to into a want to. Put it in you r mind that it is a treat and you're indulging yourself. Sometimes this is easier said than done, but if you look back at it you'll see that is just what you did.

Report Inappropriate Comment
MEXGAL1 6/26/2014 6:57PM

    Hum, I sure get it. It's tough sometimes to "just do it"...and you are right, we know how good we will feel if we get her done. I was just about ready to fall asleep on the couch....sleepy...so I forced myself to get up and go do something so I wouldn't nap so I would sleep through the night. Feeling awake now!

Like the other day, we went to court early so no time to walk the dogs in the morning. When we got out I told myself that I needed to walk them when I got home...didn't feel like it at all..so I gave myself permission to walk just part of the way. Well once I got out there I felt good and kept going the full 4 miles. So perhaps trick yourself like that and if you only do part...so be it.

I am a planner and do things like prepare meals for tomorrow the night before so they just have to be heated up. But it's not fair either as I do not have a job. Lucky to be retired. I do remember those days though and for sure remember "throwing something together for dinner"...but I only kept good things in the house to choose from.

You can do this. I know you can
Have a great evening.

Report Inappropriate Comment
SIMPLELIFE4REAL 6/26/2014 4:14PM

    I think it is one of life's little mysteries as to why it is so hard to get going on exercise even when we know it is so good for us and we usually feel so much better after doing it!

If you solve that mystery, let me know!

Report Inappropriate Comment
SIMPLELIFE4REAL 6/26/2014 4:14PM

    I think it is one of life's little mysteries as to why it is so hard to get going on exercise even when we know it is so good for us and we usually feel so much better after doing it!

If you solve that mystery, let me know!

Report Inappropriate Comment
SIMPLELIFE4REAL 6/26/2014 4:13PM

    I think it is one of life's little mysteries as to why it is so hard to get going on exercise even when we know it is so good for us and we usually feel so much better after doing it!

If you solve that mystery, let me know!

Report Inappropriate Comment
2BDYNAMIC 6/26/2014 3:45PM

    No concrete answers Judy, other than life happens.' .......... Don't beat yourself up at all ........... I had a health issue last month that took it's toll and I am STILL trying to get on top of things but completely exhausted! ............ So today's priority for me is to rest, then back to work Friday ............. Take one day at a time and you can get it back where you want it to be. How were the mountains? ............... I love the mountains, so peaceful and beautiful ............. emoticon ......... You will be ok. ........... ((hugs)) ............ Jan

Report Inappropriate Comment

    The issue isn't about why we feel good and don't continue to do it. The issue is why we are afraid of succeeding. Especially consistently. The answer: fear and guilt. That 2-headed monster strikes and we go run and hide from our better good. Best to simply stare it down, smile gently and continue on.

Ok, so I gather you are committed to doing your program. You mentioned a bit about walking and something about preparing foods. Wouldn't you think it would be a great idea to put in a blog specifically what your program entails? I think it would make a great read.

Report Inappropriate Comment

You all planted seeds within me I want to tend them so they to can sprout with newness

Sunday, April 13, 2014

The last I posted was in February, I was reading so many other blog's thinking oh WOW I need to do what they are doing to meet my goals. You know what I did I sat here in the comfy of my home all winterreading and eating and non exercising ,my husband shouts DO YOU FEEL THE BURN !!!
I get up in the night to go to the bath room and get something to eat. I cry secretly within myself, become angry with myself, all the while smiling for the world and screaming on the inside.
I have an appointment with a Doctor that deals with weight and eating ,was told many successes come from her office. When I called the receptionist and I had a talk, she told me it is all up to me, that the Doctor can only do so much that it is my choice .She told me the people that make it are the ones that worked for it and truly want it.
My husband told me the rate I am going I will climb to 200 soon. I fight with myself every day for control. So many of you put so much into your fight and lazy me just nods my head saying yes I am going to fight this also .
Winter is now passed, the birds are singing,the once brown grass is showing blades of green,the shoots of flowers are starting to push though the good earth, and the buds are forming on the barren trees. I to want to be like the forth coming Spring with newness!!

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

GRACEOMALLEY 5/27/2014 1:17PM

    You absolutely can do this - but you will have to make a commitment and a promise to yourself that you are going to do what is best for your health and well being - not just the weight issue. Bobbi got me going on the Fast Metabolism Diet and it is a truly great eating plan - not a diet, per se. I lost my 5% in the Spring Challenge with it! It does require cooking, but the food is good and healthy and you are never humgry and you lose weight! It's kind of like magic!

Do this for yourself - to be the BEST you there could be. YOU CAN DO THIS!
emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
FLORIDASUN 5/27/2014 10:51AM

    Hi Judy:

I SO hear you on this blog! I have to tell you the Fast Metabolism Diet really changed my entire life! It's so true as Mexgal said...you HAVE to get sugar OUT of your diet.

Do you know that sugar is said to actually be FIVE times MORE addictive than cocaine? You'd NEVER put that illegal drug into your body so you really have to think about sugar in the same light!

I absolutely avoid sugar at all costs and it's HARD because it's lurking EVERYWHERE and in EVERY thing!

If you eat normally and have your 2 snacks as the FMD recommends you are NEVER hungry...in fact...most of the time you are wondering how you can POSSIBLY eat everything that is listed on the diet.

I will warn you...cooking is imperative...but if I can do it...the gal that HATES cooking almost as much as she hates exercising...it CAN be done.

Hugs to you and think of yourself as a beautiful and valuable object...you are only as beautiful on the outside as what you put inside yourself...I'll be cheering you on! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
IMAVISION 5/3/2014 10:19PM

    Oh, Judy! Your words hit home with me --- some for how it used to be with me & some for how it still tends to be in my world. Still, I can now look back & see the progress (although quite slow) that has been made. Looking back is a good position to view such things from. I am truly quite pleased that I have managed to achieve to date --- of course, I couldn't have gotten to this point without the love & support of my Abba Father & my beloved MrV, along with that of several friends.

I hope that things have clicked for you & that you are enjoying being in a good place for you --- with progress adding up to what you hope for.

God bless us both as we continue to work toward being the very best we can be!


Report Inappropriate Comment
LYNN-LOVESLIFE7 4/18/2014 8:22PM

    emoticon It will happen, you just emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
RIDMYCOCOON 4/17/2014 3:50AM

    Little bit by little bit. emoticon

Is your husband a nice person?

You are!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
WAY2GOCAT 4/13/2014 1:06PM

    One day at a time Stick with it. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
MEXGAL1 4/13/2014 12:52PM

you know I love you! I love you even more now after reading this and knowing that you were so honest and forthright. I know this must have been hard for you to write...to tell it like it is.
We all know that ultimately the decision is up to us to to the right thing.

My biggest suggestion if you want it is to treat food like drugs. The food with sugar, fat(the bad kind) and salt are addictive. Once I went "cold turkey" and stopped eating them and especially processed foods, my body really did stop craving them. Trust me, it's hard in the beginning as the detoxing and cravings will drive you crazy. But if you can purge your house of all packaged food and only eat healthy natural food I know you will have an remarkable "rebirth". Again it isn't easy. I am helping my DIL and just ordered 3 new books...now I haven't read them yet but one that really interests me is how the junk food industry works hard to addict everyone...it's all about profit.

copy this into your browser and you can see one of the books I ordered. I also like to continue to read things like this to keep me on track.
You can do this. There will always be good times and bad but for me it's now been a year without sugar, too much salt, bad fats and such. feel free to look at my shared food logs as well to get ideas if you like. My diet is so satisfying. And don't get me wrong every once in a while I will have a GF all natural pizza or some treat...but never sugar.

I ordered a 12 day sugar detox diet as well for my DIL and I to check out.
have a great day.

Report Inappropriate Comment
BRENDAGAIL9 4/13/2014 11:39AM

    It is all mind over matter and if you don't mind, it doesn't matter. Only you can control what goes into your mouth. You need to get out of that chair and walk. Start with five minutes. March in place during the commercials. Just move your bodies. I have a fitbit/zip and love the little gadget. I keep it in my pocket and it tracks my steps and distance and calories burned. If you don't walk 10,000 steps everyday, you are sedentary.

I have only walked that many steps a few times and it really isn't all that hard but got too comfy over the winter. I have hills to walk down and back up and that is a workout in itself. When I go shopping, I park at the far edge of the lot and you'd be surprised how the steps count up.

Happy journey.

Report Inappropriate Comment
SIMPLELIFE4REAL 4/13/2014 10:37AM

    I hope it goes well for you!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MRSJERRYBUSH 4/13/2014 10:32AM

    Weigh every day--write your weight on the calendar each morning. Then you can really see a trend. At least, that surely helps me.

Report Inappropriate Comment

    First and foremost, at least in my book, is to do a writing assignment: What am I so afraid of that keeps me from doing right with myself. You'll see a lot of garbage come out. This all needs to be looked at, gently smiled at and then burned! We give power to the thoughts, so we need to see what we have empowered. Arguing and fighting and ignoring simply empowers them.

As to your DH: How supportive! NOT!!!! So glad I don't have that to contend with. But, you have made choices and now it's up to you to show yourself (and him) that you indeed have what it takes (you do!) to get fit and slender.

P.S. He will beitch moan and groan about the new you too -- guaranteed!

You may tell me he is a fine man and you two have a great relationship, etc., etc. I have differing viewpoints on both.

We are here to support you in your healthier choices.

Get Up
Get Going

Report Inappropriate Comment

Amazing 4 days !!! I did it unbelievable!!!!

Monday, February 24, 2014

I had 4 days off Friday until today I sat day Thursday night & made a list of all what I wanted to try my best at on getting done in 4 days . The list grew to 25 I finished all but 4, & those 4 will be finished by weeks end.
I also started walking on Sat. since the last I truly walked was last Fall. My husband walked with me i made one mile, with chest pains & pain down my thigh,but I did it. Then Sunday after church I went on a 3 mile walk, not all at once I broke it up in intervals of several hours.Then today I went on another 3 mile walk in intervals. I feel so good, plus I drank my 2 liters of water. So I made my 4 days off count into a big accomplishment the chores would have been done ,but I never made a list like I did , it was like a game to see what I could really do. I even set the timer in some of them & in each case I finished before the timer blasted off!!!
So I am going to start being a list maker as it has worked for me.
The air was crisp & blustery as the wind whipped about,the sun was shining so bright ,the birds were singing away in there melody . I listened to a radio Christian station as I was walking,then on the other walks I listened for the first time a book on tape.so it made the walk more fun.

Will be a challenge for the rest of the week as I go back to work & standing on my feet all day can be trying. I will give it a go as I do not know about 3 miles as the daylight savings time has not arrived as of yet.
I feel as of this minute I have so much confidence in doing my challenges, I am a terrible carb eater after dinner as I am eating now 3 different kInds of frozen fruit as it takes longer to eat & finishing up my water.
Have a lovely week every one!!!

1. Vacuum all carpets
2. Shampoo carpets
3. Clean refrigerator
4.Scrub kitchen floor
5. Scrub bathroom floor
6.Polish bathroom furnishings
7.Organize all kitchen cupboards
8. Organize pantry food closet
10.Sort & organize cd & videos in cabinet of TV cupboard
11.Organize closet
12. Laundry
13.Organize night stand drawers
14. Organize jewelry
15.Organize end table cupboard
16. Organize aanother end table cupboards
17.Deliver clothes to shelter
18. Clean car inside
19.Sent out cards to sick friends
20.Made fiber blueberry muffins
21. Made a weeks worth of jello

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

ZANYGIRL1 3/31/2014 8:04AM

    I too am a list maker. I found out years ago that I certainly do better when I make a list. It feels good to cross things off when you're done, and I get so much more done in a day. On days when I haven't made a "to do" list, I tend to piddle around a lot and don't feel like I've accomplished anything!!
You're doing great on the walking......especially since it's been months since you walked!! Keep on keepin' on!!

Report Inappropriate Comment
FLORIDASUN 3/12/2014 9:58PM

    I limey your list...maybe I could borrow you to do a few for me? Organized makes the day SO much more productive! GOOD for you! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
CLPURNELL 2/26/2014 9:13PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
MEXGAL1 2/25/2014 1:52PM

    whew I am tired reading this.
good for you!

Report Inappropriate Comment

    I think I mentioned that muscles do indeed respond better given time. You did fantastic on your walking. Wow!

As to your list, it's a wonderful idea and one that works, so keep on doing it. It's cheating if you put as #1 on your list: 1)Make a list....LOL

Please take note that you had 4 wonderful and productive days off, you hit a new level of success with your accomplishments and they you went into the possible future of having a problem standing at work. The mind loves to add fear to everything! Take it as it comes, do your best, be creative with movement at work. You can work this out.

Report Inappropriate Comment
SIMPLELIFE4REAL 2/25/2014 5:04AM

List making can really help sometmes. T'm delighted its working for you.

Report Inappropriate Comment
REGILIEH 2/24/2014 9:58PM


Report Inappropriate Comment
TAICHIDANCER 2/24/2014 9:36PM

    Congrats. Maybe I should become a list maker too.

Report Inappropriate Comment

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 Last Page