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Tuesday, September 14, 2010

The last 36 hours have been rough. I ate horribly yesterday... actually only went over my calories by about 300 (MUCH better that I'd have thought), but it was the constant snacking when I wasn't hungry. It was the mindless eating and snacking ALL DAY that left me feeling like a failure. It continued into this morning and early afternoon.

Then a client noticed that I'd lost weight and complimented me. And it woke me up in some way! My hard work is paying off. So why on earth am I sabotaging myself??? So, I'm back on track since afternoon snack. I'm still within my calorie range, so I'm good.

I suppose this is what PLANNING does for you. Even when I binge, I stay within calorie range (or close to). Why? Because I have so little junk food in the house. I have Dora the Explorer fruit snacks, goldfish, and grahm crackers. I think that's it. So unless you're 2, there's not much high calorie binging to be had in this house.

Anyway..... one this I learned is that "falling off the wagon" isn't actually falling off. Why? Because it's not like you can't get back on. You don't have to wait for a new wagon. You simply dust yourself off and get right back on. By getting back to plan at the next snack rather than tomorrow, I should stay within calorie range. If I'd kept going all day, I'm sure I'd be over again.

Thanks for the encouragement and comments. Always appreciated. :)

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MEETINGMYGOAL15 9/16/2010 11:02AM

    was there...about a week ago... i ate everything in sight...all day long and went over my calories...but i love that you got back on the wagon and just dusted off!!! soooo proud of you!!!

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JUNESHOPE 9/15/2010 11:58PM

    I know exactly what you mean. We have a lot of 'room' in our calories because of eating so much less crap every day.

hang in there, you are doing awesome.

cheers, Amelie

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2BFREE2LIVE 9/15/2010 1:03AM

    Good for you, lesson learned and I know you will remember that compliment every time you think about over eating and how good it made you feel today. Your doing a great job, keep up the good work.

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LILWASPUD 9/14/2010 8:59PM

    I think we have all had days (or even weeks) where we let ourselves slip for one reason or another. The important part is you caught yourself and you realize what you were doing wrong. Congrats on getting back on track so quickly. And congrats, too, on your weightloss. It's such a great feeling when someone notices the results of all of your hard work!

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PURPLESPEDCOW 9/14/2010 8:59PM

    It is called life. Things happen. I think I have done some emotional eating over the past few days as well. So I will get back on track right now as well. Thanks for encouraging me.

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Bad day

Monday, September 13, 2010

Bad choices. Old habits. Feeling crappy.

That's all. Glad tomorrow comes with a blanke nutrition page.

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KARENE10 9/14/2010 9:07AM

    Today WILL be a good day!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ALLBW2U 9/14/2010 12:27AM

    That's is gone and tomorrow you can start again. Write today off as a rest day. Then hit it hard the "rest" of the week. You can do it!!

Best wishes....Bill

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PURPLESPEDCOW 9/13/2010 11:11PM

    I am glad you are not beating yourself up about your choices. The past is the past. Tomorrow is full of promise.

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CHAOTIC-KITTY 9/13/2010 9:50PM

  Tomorrow is a new day. :) That's what has kept me going... during my rough times. :)

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2BFREE2LIVE 9/13/2010 9:45PM

    Hey it happens and like you said tomorrow is a new day with a blank never been used goofed up nutrition tracker. So put today behind you and make those healthy good for you choices tomorrow. Sandy

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PRAYING4THIN 9/13/2010 9:20PM

    Thats right tomorrow is a new day to make better choices. My problem is I always let one bad choice lead to another and another and then I feel so bad that I feel like I can never get back up again. Keep your chin up and make tomorrow a great day!!!

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I am blessed

Saturday, September 11, 2010

I'm exhausted tonight. Physically sore and tired. Sun and wind burned. And happy.

Yesterday I spent 6 hours sorting yard sale goods with my friend for my mom's group charity yard sale. During which I tripped and fell carrying my 30# 2 year old, bruising my shin and wrenching my back and neck and lightly spraining my wrist. Last night I slept horribly, only to get up at 5:50 am to get us up, dressed, loaded, and to my friend's house by 6:45.

I spent all day with my friends hosting the yard sale. We didn't quit until 3 pm, then had to clean up. It was a TON of work But we had a blast! We laughed so hard that we cried several times. At one point I thought I was going to hyperventilate. We talked about clothing and weight and diet and marriage and family. And laughed some more.

About a month ago I chose to walk away from a group of friend that I love dearly. But I felt that the drama and conflict associated with the group wasn't healthy for me. And at times I've doubted my decision. I've missed them. I've missed the laughter and friendship. But today I felt truly free to be myself. And completely accepted. I didn't feel like the "fat" girl. I didn't feel like the 5th wheel. I felt completely .......... great. I belonged. And I realized that the month away from my other group has allowed me to more fully invest myself in the mom's group, and help head this fund raiser. And I'm finding fullfillment and joy in it!

My husband and daughter visited and brought beverages through out the day. And I felt truly blessed. My life is so full!

This morning I told my husband "I'm bringing a breakfast bar, but not planning for lunch. I just want to fit in". And you know what? I still made great food choices and am well within my calorie range! (FYI: pickles, tomatos, and bbq sauce with grilled chicken make a great sandwich from Jack in the box for about 400 calories!!) I got a fruit cup instead of fries, and the only comment was "Oh! That looks good!". There was top in the yard sale pile that I liked that was to small for me. With their encouragement I got it. As they said "You're doing great and will fit into it soon!". I didn't feel left out because I was "dieting". I was able to just say "Get lunch where ever you want! I'll find something there I want" and did. It felt liberating.

So a day full of laughter, friends, charity, and family.... does it get better than that???? Oh... and we raised $630 to help families in need this holiday season!!!! And this was just our first stage of this project!

It was a good day.

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ALLBW2U 9/12/2010 1:15AM

    Now that sounds like an awesome day!! I know what it is like to feel like the 5th wheel....and it's not fun. So feeling like you fit in and having such a "fun" day (as determined by laughter, good conversations, good food choices, hard work) makes for a really great time. And soon that new top will fit, too. Not a bad day at all. Yay!!!

I hope that you have a wonderful Sunday, too.

Best wishes.....Bill


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2BFREE2LIVE 9/12/2010 12:35AM

    You know the old saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" maybe you just needed some personal time to get your thoughts and feelings in order and now your ready for their friendship again. Congrats on the great fund raiser. Sandy

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RONDAMB 9/11/2010 10:30PM

    I am so glad you had a good time!! I am understanding your feelings about the other group, not with drama, but with being totally ignored. Haven't had as much time to check in lately because of working, but not getting acknowledged when I do.

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BEACHBUM67 9/11/2010 10:27PM

    Congrats on the day! All of the hard work thru the day paid off!

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Take THAT halloween candy corn evil!

Wednesday, September 08, 2010

Ha! Judy- 1: Candy Corn-0

I win!

You should know.... I love candy corn. It's Fall in a bag! And c'mon! it's shaped like corn and made with honey.... it should be healthy, right???

Yeah.... couldn't convince myself either. I ran into Target today to buy diapers and a few other things. I walked by the Halloween stuff and rolled my eyes about the displays being out so early (a huge pet peeve of mine). And then I saw it. If it had been a movie, the music would have swelled, and a spotlight would have shown on it. A huge display of Brach's candy corn. That sugary, halloween evil that I love so much.

I approached. I looked. I picked up the back. I read the nutritionals. 20 pieces for something like 240 calories. I put it down. I picked it back up. I put it down. I picked it back up, threw it in my cart, and moved onward. Then I saw the snickers. A small package of fun size bars. I looked. 2 bars for 160 calories. Really??? The candy corns are TWICE AS BAD as snickers? I mean.... at least Snickers have peanuts. The only nutritional salvation for candy corn is the honey in it..... maybe.

I put the Snickers package in my cart and moved on. I picked up the other items I needed. But felt awful... heavy, anxious, worried... bad. I was making a bad choice. I knew it. But I craved that old experience of scarfing down sugary treats and soda while driving around. No one would know, right?

I would know. And really.... who else matters? No one else lives in this body with me. Just me, myself, and I. And I would know.

I don't want to feel like I can NEVER have sugar/candy again. That's deprivation, not living. I want to LIVE. And to me, living includes treats. But I KNEW that if I bought that bag, I'd revert to an old behavior. In being honest with myself, I knew there was not way I was going to split that bag into 20 piece portions and keep to that. It's not realistic for me.

So I put them back. Shhhh.... don't tell, but I put them back in the wrong place. But I put them back. I apologize for the extra work I caused the Target associate, but really.... it was a diet emergency. Hope they understand.

At the end of my day, I was victorious!!!! Yes, I bought the snickers. And yes, I ate one. It had 80 calories for one, and was delicious. And I included it (of course) in my nutritionals. And I don't feel bad about it. I feel fine about that decision. I feel IN CONTROL of that decision. The candy corns.... not so much in control.

But Ha! Take that Brach's candy company! You don't control me anymore!!!!

Now.... let's cross our fingers I can continue to resist the Brach's magic lure for the next 2 months!!!!

Thanks for your comments and reading. As always, it's nice to know people care! :)

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ALLBW2U 9/10/2010 1:45AM

    You did a great job (not counting the re-stocking incident)!!

This journey is not about deprivation, but rather moderation and making good choices. You "done" good. And 20 pieces of candy corn for 240 calories!!??!!! Geeez....who could eat just 20 of them? :-) So limiting your caloric intake by eating one of the Snickers was definitely a better choice. And you tracked it, too. So again....great job.

I hope that you have a great Friday and I wish you the very best as you continue to work towards your goals....Bill


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KARENE10 9/9/2010 6:24PM

    You did it!!! Woohoo!!! Congrats on not caving! I think I would have caved emoticon

emoticon on making great choices:)

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DRJJ2004 9/8/2010 7:05PM

    Soooo proud of you!!! I wish I could say the same..I caved last weekend and bought some and made my special mix that hubby loves..lets just say that the scale was NOT nice to me this week! Bad girl!! Bad decision!! No more candy corn for me!! I will live by example. Thanks!


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My adoption journey

Tuesday, September 07, 2010

While certainly no secret, I haven't discussed my recent life events here on Spark People much. Mostly because it's not directly applicable to my weight loss. But, in June of this year, I located my birth brother. We have spent the past couple of months getting to know each other.

I was born to a 34 year old widow and single mother back in 1974. After my birth, she checked out the hospital without me. She abandoned me there. Five days later, a social worker with a court order got me into a foster home. From there I went to my forever home. :)

All my life I struggled with my adoption... much as a struggled with my weight. You see, my parents and brother (legal family) are all quite thin. My mom (bless her heart) simply never understood my struggle with weight and often punished me for gaining weight. When I was 28, I searched for my birth mother and older brother. It did NOT go well. My intermediary (hired thru the courts) found her and she was a cold, broken woman. She wanted nothing to do with me. And I felt the same old thoughts that I'd heard all my life "I'm not good enough for her", and turned to food. But in the search for her, I'd learned that I had another brother. Two years after leaving me in the hospital, she had a son and adopted him out also. But I was so emotionally bruised and battered that I limped away from my birth family and focused on myself.

I had learned that my birth mother had had 3 strokes before the age of 60. And I was 28 years old and 411 pounds. A few months later, my gallbladder quit working and I needed surgery. Due to my weight, I was ineligible for laproscopic surgery. And so I elected to pair the surgery with gastric bypass. I used my pain from finding her as motivation to move past her. I lost 170#. I married. I got pregnant and had a beautiful child. And regained 60#. And thru it all, I continued to feel that a piece of me was missing. There was another child out there that shared my blood. And he had not abandoned me. He was an innocent in it all.

So, I hired the same intermediary again. And she found him! And we are working on getting to know each other. We talk and email frequently. We have exchanged pictures of ourselves and our families. Our children are cousins! I have been texting him this afternoon and feel such a warmness in my heart when I see his name on my phone or email. I have family! Birth family! Ties! History!

And we are so alike. For the first time in my life, I understand that a PORTION of my weight is hereditary. We have the same genes, but different upbringings. And share the weight struggle. On some strange level, that makes me feel more.... normal. A feeling that I cherish.

Sorry for the rambling. Just thoughts that are on my mind today.

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CHAOTIC-KITTY 9/8/2010 9:03AM

  Thank you for sharing a big part of your life with us. It's great to hear that you found your brother and are getting close to him.

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MOMMABOF7 9/8/2010 7:01AM

    What an emotional story!I am so glad you shared it.

One of my adopted sons was abandoned at the hospital. I know in the next several years there wil be many painful questions. I had the opportunity to meet the birth mother at a court hearing So I pumped her with as many questions as I could.

I hope that finding your brother will bring you the peace and completeness you have been missing! Your story really touched my heart!

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JUNESHOPE 9/8/2010 12:51AM

    I am sorry your birth Mom was being closed about connecting with you. She may have not wanted to get involved because she was afraid you were mad at her and just wanted to tell her off. Who knows, why she did not want to reconnect.... It's her loss.

I am a foster Mom currently to 2 little boys. I was told we would probably have them until January. But I hope to make a good difference in their life while we have them.

Hang in there.. getting healthy is not only about's emotional and mental health as well. You are worth getting healthy in every way possible.

take care, Amilie


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ALLELUIA525 9/8/2010 12:18AM

    Wow, what a sad, frustrating, happy, joyous story. Thanks for sharing.

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GONNA_BREAKAWAY 9/7/2010 10:55PM

  Thanks for sharing your story. I'm happy that you have found birth family - ties - history! Also happy that you are finding some comfort knowing that a PORTION of your weight is hereditary. It could not have been easy growing up as the odd one out in your home. I'm glad you are feeling more normal. All the best as you get to know your brother better.

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CHYRL_C 9/7/2010 9:09PM

    Thanks for sharing your story. I am glad you found your blood brother. emoticon

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ALLBW2U 9/7/2010 7:56PM

    I wish you the very best as you work on a relationship with your brother....and as you work towards your goals.

Hope you have a great rest of the week.....Bill


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ELLDEE57 9/7/2010 7:24PM

    Wow! I am so happy for you. Happy that you have made positive choices to get through the sadness in your life. Happy that you have a beautiful little one, happy that you found your brother and happy that you are on Spark People. Sometimes we can never understand the actions of others. Why is it that they make the decisions that they do? That questions often gets unanswered. I have a 19 1/2 month old granddaughter, so I can relate to you wanting to lose weight for your daughter. I'm expecting another grandchild in November. I want to be a grandma who plays with her grandchildren and a have a lap for them to sit on. We can do this!! Best wishes. dee

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