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My Definition of Success, Well At Least One of Them

Friday, November 04, 2011


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SILLYHP1953 11/5/2011 3:39PM

    If I'm ever somebody's boss I hope I'm like Don...and you look great in your grey sweater!

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HDHAWK 11/5/2011 12:27PM

    I have to say that my current principal is successful because he presents new ideas, asks good questions, and helps each of us become the best teacher we can be. He makes suggestions without telling us what we have to do.
You look great in your gray sweater John!

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NASFKAB 11/5/2011 12:37AM

  Great blog thanks to you & Don if he is around

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CARTOONB 11/4/2011 10:52PM

    Your boss' approach can be applied to all relationships in our lives. Hmmmm...something to think about.

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TERESAKLE 11/4/2011 7:50PM

  Super blog John. Just stumbled onto it. You have a way of getting your point accross without any BS.


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GIRANIMAL 11/4/2011 12:28PM

    Wise and timely as ever! "Have I done everything I can do to help you?" Guess who's going to go home and ask her dear BF a variation of that question ("help us") and see if it won't cut through some of the god-awful tension we're battling this week. Thanks, John! And if Don's still around, thank him for me too. ;)

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Acceptance Versus Resignation

Thursday, November 03, 2011

Right about the time I feel as if I’ve hit a stone wall, am walking around in a bit of a fog and generally clueless, God, His angels and His saints provide a clearing, a brief moment of insight that resembles a ray of sun piercing the darkness. Suddenly all is clear………….. At least for a little while.

God, The Universe, karma, the luck of the Polish, call it what you will, has brought a most amazing and wise friend into my life to act not only as a good friend but as a guide of sorts. I am honor bound to share their wisdom. We were talking on the phone the other day, both lamenting our current state in life when it dawned on me that this dear friend has continued to be a success in many areas of their life despite some very real and very challenging setbacks. I’ll have to admit that as much as I admire them I do get just a tad bit jealous of their ability to just keep plugging ahead. During the course of our conversation I figured out the difference in how we looked at things.

My friend accepts life as it is. They don’t sugar coat it, don’t make excuses. When they are angry, frustrated, tired, fed up, etc. They own it and show it. They suffer a weight gain, they admit it accept it and move on. Vehicle breaks down, cash flow dries up relationships get strained, all the other stuff that plagues us they accept it as the day-du-jour if you will and move on.

Me? I resign myself to my fate. Woe is me and all that other melodrama. No one has ever had it as bad, no one ever will and BTW I am fatter and more out of shape than any person I know because it’s in my genes, my ethnicity. It’s certainly not my life style. I have difficulty walking, so now I am limited to what I can do. Woe is me.

It is there I found the wisdom. My dearest friend accepts a condition not its limitation. I on the other hand get thrown a curve ball and resign myself to a life of gloom and doom. Yes I am grateful and thankful for all the wonders God provides me but I also sabotage myself on a regular basis by building walls higher and thicker than they really are and mutter something about finally getting my reward in heaven. When I resign myself to s situation I am giving up. And……….. I have a built in excuse

I have made a list of my limitations. They are very real and I am in the process of accepting them. I have come to realize they represent less than one third of who I am and what I am capable of accomplishing in my life. Until now I resigned myself to a certain fate. Oh, I had room to grow but the boundaries were clearly defined. Like anything new it feels awkward, odd and scary. There is this part of me that has been largely unexplored for fifty eight years. I wonder what I am capable of?

It is subtle at best and as my friend is teaching me difficult to discern between the two. There is a story in one of the Gospels that I never really grasped until now. A blind man stopped Jesus and begged for a cure. Jesus touched his eyes and the film that had distorted the man’s vision was removed. The man could see clearly. My vision is just not the external process of seeing, it is the internal process of identifying, discerning, accepting and moving forward.

Acceptance versus Resignation…………… A project for a lifetime.

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NASFKAB 11/4/2011 12:37AM

  Good luck in achieving your goals

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CARTOONB 11/3/2011 10:03PM

    What can you accomplish? Anything you want.

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CMBELISLE 11/3/2011 12:07PM

    It's all part of learning to exploit what you're good at. So what if I can't play the piano like a concert master, it doesn't stop me from enjoying listening to it. I'm good at other things and have to concentrate on those.

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CIVIAV 11/3/2011 11:57AM

    And a gift I am in much appreciation for. Received it just in the past few weeks and oh what a different world it is when you do.
How grand John.

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PGNBRI 11/3/2011 11:29AM

    Great Post John!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/3/2011 10:39AM

    It sounds like you found a good one. We have to accept ourselves and love ourselves as we are, not how we wish we were. We have the ability to decide whether we are happy are not, regardless of our cricumstances. It's a conscious decision.

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SILLYHP1953 11/3/2011 9:47AM

    Acceptance was one of the BIG lessons I have learned, am learning, and will continue learning. It applies to all areas of my life, but it still seems strange to have to accept my body as it is before change can occur.

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HDHAWK 11/3/2011 8:58AM

    I have some of the same struggles John. Every tough situation teaches us something. I keep learning that one over and over. Hope you're over the flu!

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MIZZSB 11/3/2011 8:53AM

    Hi John

I am like you. I do the same ( i am bigger, sadder, need more compassion from others etc) but it hit me recently that that is the way I want to feel. And its ME who lets me feel like that and act on that.
I am the 5% fall challenge and one of my co leaders DIANEDOESSMILE is restrained to her bed with an cast and can occasionally be in her wheelchair. But she is exercising everyday for 2 hours! may it be playing the piano or doing chair exercises she is doing it. She is coping with her life as it is. And she is one hell of a motivator for me!!

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KATHRYN1955 11/3/2011 8:35AM

    Hi John:
I read your blog with a great deal of interest and it occurred to me that while we (me) may be "begging for a cure", that for some reason that is buried deep in our subconscious, we sabotage our "cure." That whole 'learned helplessness' thing may have served us well in the past. I know I get to a certain weight, I feel great for a few days, then back up I go! I don't feel as well, but for some reason (which I am actively working on through some interesting chiropractic techniques), the weight slowly creeps back on, with all the resultant physical and emotional yukkiness. If (I mean, when!) I get it figured out, I will let you know.
Take care,

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/3/2011 8:35AM

    The story of the blind man in the Bible...does the man not thank Jesus and then go out and tell others? The other part to the story is that the man expresses much gratitude. He is given sight, something most of us take for granted.

When I feel down about my lot in life, I think about how much more I have been blessed with than most other people on the planet. Many other people right here in my town would love to have the life that I have. And I never forget that.

And you have a wise friend-what choice do we have but to accept what life brings? The big difference again is the attitude we assume with what comes. I truly believe that saying about life is 5 percent what happens to us, the other 95% is how we deal with what happens to us.

It's exciting, scary and challenging to break out of the prison we create for ourselves in our own minds. I hope you explore the endless boundaries...and accepting things as "fate" seems like a pretty passive way to go. Fate may provide an avenue, but I don't always have to take it.

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ERINBEAR1876 11/3/2011 8:12AM

    Very good blog, and very insightful. Sometimes when we get into a pity party, or woe is me, it is so hard to look outward to others who have it worse than us. It is so hard to accept what is handed to us in life.

"Project for a lifetime" Great way to look at it. You take care of yourself, and start breaking down those walls!

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One Mans Humor Is Another s Embarrassment

Monday, October 31, 2011

I am starting to discover that there is true wisdom in a bumper sticker I have seen over the years. Maybe you’ve seen it too. It simply says “Live Long Enough To Be An Embarrassment To Your Children.”

Late yesterday morning we were traveling home from a wedding in Wisconsin. Our daughter Maggie traveled with us to help cut her expenses which means mom and dad paid for gas and meals. We always stop at a cheese store close to the Wisconsin and Illinois border. Joan likes to browse at their craft section and I just like to browse. (13 year old cheese has an odor and taste all its own.) Maggie was standing in line to be waited on when two very polite young ladies came up behind me.

“Excuse me sir, are you standing in line?” They asked me.

“No I replied, I’m just standing here being handsome.” Then I grinned.

Maggie spun around and yelped out a “Dad!!! Go up front and wait for me.” She had this horrified look on her face. The two young ladies giggled. I tipped my hat and walked up front.

After we got in the car, she hurriedly told Joan what had just transpired. Joan kept reading the newspaper and really didn’t comment other than to say “Get used to it.” Maggie started the car and just kept shaking her head.

Live long enough to be an embarrassment to your children. It can really be loads of fun, LOL

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CMBELISLE 11/3/2011 12:28PM

    My dad was always flirting with women and getting all the hugs he could get. He even flirted with the nurses in the hospital and got hugs any time he went home. I firmly believe it was part of why he lived as long as he did with the cancer he had. Have fund embarrassing your children - one day they will appreciate the wisdom of your actions!

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MARCYNA 11/3/2011 6:30AM

    I bet you were looking handsome, lol

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SMOCKON 11/1/2011 4:55PM

    Haha! Funny how it's never embarrassing when we get to the register and fork over for whatever they want, though.

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SILLYHP1953 11/1/2011 4:22PM

    Too hilarious.

I can also embarrass my children, at least my youngest daughter who is 28. We were at a Zac Brown Band concert and I was standing up moving to the music and she grabbed my arm to pull me back down. I really couldn't believe it. So, I guess I'm living long enough to be an embarrassment!

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TRACEY5280 11/1/2011 1:23PM

    Love it!

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LYNMEINDERS 11/1/2011 3:46AM

    I love it...your so is awesome to embarrass them......

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NASFKAB 11/1/2011 12:34AM

  Love embarrassing the kids

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KENDRACARROLL 10/31/2011 10:24PM

    YOu betcha :)
Nothing more fun than embarrassing the kids.

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CARTOONB 10/31/2011 10:23PM

    That is an awesome response! I love that you thought of it and that your daughter heard it.

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HDHAWK 10/31/2011 4:59PM

    Love it! If she was embarrassed, you've done your job!

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AJDOVER1 10/31/2011 3:59PM

    Aw, I was hoping you had done something REALLY embarassing, like, well, um.... Never mind.

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MIZZSB 10/31/2011 3:25PM

    how cute!!
it made me laugh.. how old is Maggie??
If my dad would say that i wouldnt be embarrased.. not anymore LOL

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_AIYANNA_ 10/31/2011 3:17PM

    That was adorable!!! :)

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/31/2011 3:04PM

    ROLMBO!! I have embarrassed mine for years. He was quite shocked when he found out I could also like Lada Gaga. LOL.

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GEEMAWEST 10/31/2011 1:31PM

    John, please don't ever change! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BLACKROSE_222 10/31/2011 12:54PM

    He he he... Thats perfect for my Monday Funny!

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KKINNEA 10/31/2011 12:30PM

    Love this!!

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HAPPYSOUL91 10/31/2011 12:06PM

    Love it, it is our little way to get back for all the times they have embarrassed us

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SANDYBRUNO 10/31/2011 11:40AM

    Luckily it doesn't take much to embarrass our kids.

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SHERRYJVP 10/31/2011 11:04AM

    Love it. One day they will too.

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CMA444 10/31/2011 10:40AM

    Ha! Too funny!

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BEATLETOT 10/31/2011 10:12AM

    Heehee. I like it. When she's older, she will, too. =)

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/31/2011 10:05AM

    emoticon Good for you John!!!

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AMYSRUN4LIFE 10/31/2011 9:58AM

    That's awesome! My husband and I do our part...skipping through Kings Island arm in arm singing. (you should see how much 13 yr old "loves it". Lol)

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NEEDTOLOSE100LB 10/31/2011 9:57AM

    Too funny. All you were doing was telling the truth! Have a great day, handsome!

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ALLISON145 10/31/2011 9:48AM

    LOL Nice!

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JBJAKUBEK 10/31/2011 9:47AM

    great story! emoticon

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CLIMBERS_ROCK 10/31/2011 9:47AM

    Thanks for starting my day with humor.

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CORKY982 10/31/2011 9:34AM

  Lol - sounds like what my Dad does to me!

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I'm A Real Live Boy and Cell Phones

Wednesday, October 26, 2011


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SILLYHP1953 11/5/2011 3:26PM

    Thank goodness my youngest is 26, but my granddaughter has a cellphone, so I'm sure I'll hear about these things, too.

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HDHAWK 10/27/2011 6:58PM

    My school only goes up to 5th grade (10-11 yrs. old) and at least half the kids have phones. Most aren't smart phones but by middle and high school they are. My stepdaughter had one taken at her high school. Our teachers keep them if they see kids them. Some put them in their file cabinet for the day and pass them out when the kids go home. Just add it to the endless list of stuff we have to do every day.
I caught one of mine with a phone today. Hmmm, they just moved here a couple months ago. They have no car and no money. We've bought the child a new wardrobe and winter gear. I bought her head lice shampoo last week after calling her mom and finding out she couldn't afford to buy it. So today her 10 yr. old shows up with a phone. Kind of makes that helpful feeling lessen.

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NASFKAB 10/27/2011 12:23AM

  No comments here cant figure out why kids need expensive phones in school

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CARTOONB 10/26/2011 11:17PM

    Yep. You're old. LOL!

My kids have cell phones and they take them to school. However, they do not have smart phones. They text too much and probably don't pay attention enough. But they have consequences if they get caught using phones during class or if they lose their phones. What happened to your friend is unfortunate. Hope the kid learns something besides how to blame the system.

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SPARKLISE 10/26/2011 4:58PM

    Hey there pixelman in Pixelland (we could start something here) emoticon My daughter is 16,got her cell phone herself and if she loses it at school,it's her responsibility.
I agree that kids are sometimes way too young to have those phones,but i'm not the parent.
I'm sure some parents say I do things with my kids that they would never do,but that's life.
I am against that parent getting on the case of the teacher.
Teachers have it so hard now,it's ridiculous!
Love the blog.
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GIRANIMAL 10/26/2011 1:26PM

    I really don't understand exactly how or why, but I do think our priorities are rather screwed up, to say the least.

My cousin gave her youngest her first cell phone at SIX YEARS OLD. Enough said.

Her oldest, now 16, was jumped and beaten up for his phone on the bus home from school. Somehow a phone being stolen from a basket by an enterprising kid seems like a lesser concern. (He had an iPod stolen in the classroom too.) Seriously, do kids need these distractions at school? I understand parents feel safer being able to reach their children, but that becomes less of a sound argument when the kids are threatened and even hurt for their gadgets, because they and their "coolness" are just THAT important and coveted.

I guess I don't have any real answers -- just sounding off.

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KT-NICHOLS-13 10/26/2011 12:26PM

    My first question would be, why does a 13 yr needs a smart phone in the first place? I don't even own a smart phone and I'm a grown woman. (I know, it's a personal choice - blah, blah, blah. She's 13 for goodness sake let's keep it real!)
Phones don't belong in classrooms whether it be grade school, high school or college. As a side note: they don't belong in meeting. Plus, teachers should not be put in the position to police phones or keep track of them for the students either.

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GETTING_FIT44 10/26/2011 12:22PM

    I'm 18 and just graduated in May. I have the video stopped at 4 min and something seconds at the moment. First, 13 and a cell phone? I had friends who had one at 10. I didn't get one til I was 16 and even then it was a flip phone no internet no music, 100 min but unlimited text messaging. WHen I was 14 (on my 14th bday) my older brother who is now 23 gave me my ipod which was stolen within 2 months of me having it. It took 3 months to find the person that stole it who had been a friend, well "friend". After that I still took it with me and have not lost it since. My point is, it really was a lesson well learned. It helped me take better care of things no matter the price. I took care of that piece of crap phone and it lasted well beyond anyones expectation, I got an upgrade this past December because it was the end of the 2 yr contract, my upgrade was free but the phone is 200 bucks.My brother bought me my laptop about 2 years ago, because of me having my ipod stolen over 5 years ago, I have learned to take better care of everything to make it last only because I know that I won't be getting another one if something happens to it. Yes, I am VERY spioled by my brother.My saying is, "He was born first for a reason". Therefore when mom is 70 and needs help, well, he was born first for a reason!! haha :) I can honestly say it's up to the parents or siblings as to what to give but it's up that that child revieving it to take care of it. These days parents are handing out money at though it were candy, and that's wrong. No offense to the daughter, but she sorta deserves it, she should have put it in the locker (especially since the teacher takes it anyway), she wouldn't be in this mess. My truest opinion is: anyone under 16 really shouldn't have a phone. It's easy to convince a child to take bad photos or hand out a number to a hot guy when you don't know him and than be controlled all because of some stupid piece of technology. As parents they should realize they're in this as well.Back to the last 2 min.(Sorry this is so long).

I do agree, the mother...i just simply agree. As a nation maybe there should be (sadly) some ridiculous law against cell phones in high school/middle school.I know it was a distraction for me for 2 years. And now that I am in college, some teacher will actually mark down your grade if they see it or hear it while class is in session (hey, THAT might help).Some teachers don't care, and I have answered my texts in those classes but only if they are my sister whom is dealing with depression.Even then she knows I will only answer 1 because I have to pay attention and will certainly talk to her after class. Most days, I won't lie, I ignore the heck out of my phone.It stays on vibrate, and i get MANY texts or calls, I don't take it out if that's the case in any class.I'm not there to sit and text, I'm there to pay attenion..and I learned that from me being so distracted in high school.

My overall point to this nonsense comment is I hope she and her parents learn a very valuble lesson. Her parents may not know she really will learn from this, she may not.And if that's the case than she's probably doomed when she gets a laptom, a brand new iPod, or even her own flat screen tv.Knowing the schoolboard they'll probably say it's her own fault she should have followed the locker rule (schools make sure they aren't to blame from the very beginning) I know I seem contradicting especially since I do text and have texted in class, and am saying we shouldn't..but it's a choice, and we learn from them when something bad happens, but again. In the end I will know it was my fault from the beginning and deal with those consequences when they arrive (which I won't let them happen).

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MIZZSB 10/26/2011 10:32AM

    Hey John,

When i was in school we didnt have wire less phones i think, not even a computer!!. Ok that is 20+ years ago hihi
But i understand you, IF your friends bought the smart phone as a "only in emergency phone'.. why buy a smartphone??? a regular cell phone will do fine than.
My daughter is 2,5 years old, so i cant really say "my child will not get that".
In the old days we were fine without cell phones so why not now?
And i would say that my child would pay for it herself, if she wants a expensive item. 250 dollars is a lot of money...

So its not just you ;)

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A Community of One

Monday, October 24, 2011

I woke up this morning and it dawned on me that I have been part of Spark People for almost two years. I came here to lose weight. I'd tried everything else, I figured what the heck......... This WAS FREE!!! I lost a ton of weight, I hurt my legs and my back, regained a lot of the weight I lost, got depressed, ate a ton of ice cream, got re inspired and hopefully am back on track. What I've learned here in two years could fill a book, so I'll make an effort to be succinct.

I have learned most importantly that I am a community of one, and so are you. There is no other body type, like yours. There is no mental and emotional way of processing life, its events and its twists and turns like yours. When we look at a picture we may both see a cow but yours is a solid color while mine may be mottled. I learned that reading all these amazing success stories people write about can be motivating and then they can be deflating at the same time. Each of those people found a key and a voice inside of me yelled "Hey wait for me," only to find out an exercise program or a particular food or lack of it, didn't fit my life style, body type or age. I experienced set backs and wondered if I was equal to Mr or Ms "I lost 150 pounds."

As obese people we are often self conscious about how we look. We find a community of people who have shared our pain and difficulties and we rejoice. We see their success and we so want to be loved and accepted that we will damn near kill ourselves in the process of getting there. Our need to finally be accepted and integrated is so strong that we would defy our otherwise reasonable mind to do so.

I have learned that I forgot to stand straight and tall all by myself. I learned I am a community of one. There is no one like me and no one should be. I learned acceptance from many of you. Many of you reached out and extended your hand in friendship and while I was worried and concerned and all those attributes us people pleasers have I learned to take that hand and squeeze it in return.

I learned vulnerability can be a really scary thing and each of us guards ourselves so tightly as not for the world to see the true self we fight to hide.
As I won ,then lost, then became relatively mundane I lost friends here. Apparently I was not inspiring enough. and please John quit writing about your setbacks. I guess it means John I'd have to face my own. Send me a happy face goodie and life will be great.

If I began to name the people who loved me, stuck with me, became real friends, even though we may never meet, I'd leave someone out.

I have learned that I am a community of one, special, unique and deserving of health. I've learned its a long journey and that journey never ends. I've learned health is a process.

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TRACEY5280 11/1/2011 1:29PM

    A blog is just that, your place, your victory, your struggle, whatever it may be. We come to read and on certain days we connect in thought and know we are not alone. Today, you struck a chord with me. I haven't been on my chat group for that very same reason. What do they "get" that I don't? It is a fluid journey and constantly changing. I think I'll just keep on going. Thanks John.

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WALKNLOVE 10/31/2011 7:53AM

    John, your story could have been my story today.BUT no matter what....we will NEVER EVER EVER give up! Thanks for being my spark friend in this journey!

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NEEDTOLOSE100LB 10/28/2011 11:22AM

    Yes, a community of one. We wouldn't want you any other way, at least those that stick with you through thick and thin. We have to learn to love ourselves at whatever point in life we are and work with what we have and what we are given. No use trying to follow someone else's footsteps, that train has already gone. We can, though, walk with them and take the occasional siding that helps us through what we are dealing with. Their sidings will be different, because each of us are different. Embrace who you are, because deep down inside you are just a big, huggable teddy bear. That doesn't mean you should just slack off and accept that you cannot change, improve, revolt...whatever you decide. Just keep moving forward, looking back only makes you miss what might have been. If you look forward, you can envision what can be and shoot for it.
Keep up the good work and forget about those who cannot accept that you are human. Surround yourself with those who think positive and help you to do the same. All the rest can be left back at the ride YOUR train and keep chugging along.

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NASFKAB 10/27/2011 12:11AM

  Great blog as usual

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/26/2011 2:29PM

    Ultimately your focus should be about you, John, and mine should be about me. We can share our humanity but we are here to work on and improve ourselves. So you haven't failed anyone, including yourself. Life is full of ups and downs and you will be back up soon and the fair weather friends will be right back. Your real friends will still be here and you will have the confidence of having weathered another major storm. Bent but not broken.

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GIRANIMAL 10/26/2011 1:03PM


I don't have much more to say. You covered it all here splendidly. emoticon

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SPARKLISE 10/25/2011 10:09PM

    I too lost friends because I am not losing any more.
I'm behind in my e-mails(I gave up and came to read blogs),and I haven't written a blog in a while and I find nobody really checks.
But that's ok,because it comes down to me,and anyway,you guys aren't real,you're just cyber pixels. emoticon
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SILLYHP1953 10/25/2011 12:41PM

    Mundane? I think not. But you can feel relatively mundane and I can feel that you're not. That's what this community of one is all about, right?

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WORKINGSTIFF 10/25/2011 8:47AM

    Yes, we must always remember that each of us is unique and a community of one...

Thanks for the inspiration, as always.

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LYNMEINDERS 10/25/2011 1:00AM

    You are an awesome perason and amn amazing writer....
you never fail to inspire me....
you are so right....
i am certainly a community of one and don't like when peoiple see through my facade cause I think my facade is a good one....
it is however every now and then someone breaks through which is actually great....whether i like it or not....
walking this journey with you's your journey and will take as long as it takes....
Thats one of the things that makes us unique....

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TRULYVISIBLE 10/25/2011 12:40AM

  You are a hell of a writer. That happens in the world of internet. People are here today and gone tomorrow. That is why I say I have internet friends and real life friends. Real life friends see more dimensions of you and in my opinion a stronger bond in formed.
David Viscott a well known psychologist now deceased said in the end we only have ourselves for the reasons you mentioned. We experience things unique onto ourselves. That is not a bad thing as long as you have a few close people in your life that will be there for you no matter what.

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CLOVER2 10/24/2011 11:47PM

    I have been inspired by your wisdom. That you share it with us is an incredible honor. And like others, setbacks are a part of being human and those who choose to turn their backs because you are in a rough patch, well they weren't very good SparkFriends now were they? I check your blogs regularly and I am always moved by them, like I said wisdom very profound.

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CARTOONB 10/24/2011 10:07PM

    I'm happy to know you and your community of one!

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1NEWPAM 10/24/2011 2:16PM

    Great blog, John. Please never quit writing about your setbacks. Those of us who also are human and have setbacks need to hear that others have them as well. I've been on here for a couple of years also, and I think I weigh more now than I did when I started. About 5 years ago, I lost 85 lbs and have gained back most of it. Such is life.

I think the important thing is not that I am perfection in loosing and maintaining that loss, but that I keep coming back and get and give support from people like you. I'll never reach perfection, but I'm learning every day, and I get so much more than weight loss advise from people like you. I'm a better person for having known you. Thank you

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ALLISON145 10/24/2011 1:17PM

    Admittedly I'm often a 'lurkey-lou' (get it? Haha!) but I always read your blogs and personally I find inspiration in the struggle. I have a hard time relating to people who lose 150 pounds by exercising twenty hours a week and never slipping up or even eating a cookie. It's the 'human' experiences shared by folks like you that keep me going and give me hope. Good on you John for getting back in the saddle. You've always stayed in the wagon, you just set the reigns down for a spell. :-)


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CMBELISLE 10/24/2011 12:39PM

    As they say, if your friends can't handle the down times, then they aren't really your friends. I don't always respond to your blogs and admit I don't always read them, but I do "check up" on you frequently. Nothing is simple and no two people will ever be the same, but we're all here for similar reasons - we want to be healthier - whether we lose weight or not. I've been on a plateau for over a year and I'd love to lose more weight, but right now I'm just happy that I'm pretty healthy - not perfect, but pretty good. Trying to do too much too fast either gets us hurt and/or burns us out, so I keep working at it slowly - one day at a time.

Hang in there - keep tracking and keep doing what you can - it may not be easy, but it is definitely worth it.

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GOOFIERNU 10/24/2011 10:04AM

    Thanks for this today. I won't leave just because you've had set backs. Those are a part of life, and we all have to figure out how to deal with them. I do hope you're feeling some relief from your pain. emoticon

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SHERRYJVP 10/24/2011 9:58AM

    very good, very always.

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IFDEEVARUNS2 10/24/2011 9:58AM

    You may be a community of one, but you are not alone. Never forget that. emoticon

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JSPIN74 10/24/2011 9:45AM


have a great week & even better year 3!

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TRISTAROSE 10/24/2011 8:32AM

    Good words of wisdom.

"If it's to be, it's up to me"


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TERRIPAL1 10/24/2011 8:32AM

    Nice blog John , you're right we are all a community of one and only you can do it for you!

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HDHAWK 10/24/2011 8:23AM

    Support and accountability really does help, but at the end of the day I still have to eat the right food and move. I'm finally learning to do what works for me instead of trying to copy what worked for someone else. I can gain useful info from others, but I still have to come up with a plan that fits me and my lifestyle. Happy Monday!

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WIGIME 10/24/2011 8:19AM

    I agree and to sum it up: 'You are you' and it doesn't get any simpler than that.

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NASFKAB 10/24/2011 8:17AM

  Thoughtful log thanks

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