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But What Can I Do..........."

Wednesday, November 09, 2011

In a word……… A Lot!!! (Ok that was two words.)

You may be challenged by your situation or circumstance. Exercise may be painful or challenging and you sit there and you feel helpless and useless. You see yourself coming to the potluck of life with an empty dish. You see team mates and friends and former exercise partners scaling new heights and you sorta hang your head. “What can I do? I am have no value!!!”

You can send someone you’ve lost touch with a Goodie, an email, or simply put one of those goofy emoticons on their Spark page. I have learned that very small acts of unsolicited kindness produce amazing result. Sometimes I’ll troll my friends list and realize I have lost total and complete touch with someone, so I send them a Goodie. Quite often I get a response that says something like “Thank you so much. That note of encouragement came just when I needed it. I was having a bad day and your silliness put a smile on my face.”

We underestimate the amazing power to help someone heal an issue or problem by honestly and sincerely letting them know we are thinking of them. Sometimes a person simply wants to know there is someone out there who holds them in their heart and thinks of them often.

Despite what we have come to believe our journey towards health is supposed to be enjoyable. Otherwise when we reach the goal we worked for so very hard long it’s a sorta hollow victory. How do we share the joy? It reminds me of the story of the teacher who received a note from a student. The note simply said “If you are happy would you please notify your face.” This journey should have a huge dose of joy and when last I looked joy has no caloric value. You can ingest as much of it as you like.

You can do a lot simply by recognizing the most amazing example you set for other people by the very fact you were created and are loved. Share that hope, share that often frustrating climb up the mountain and when you do I believe your effort equals that of a marathon runner.

During my quiet time the other day a thought rumbled through my brain. ‎"When you stand before your mirror in the morning and you realize you are standing before a miracle, it is then and only then, that your perspective on you and the world around you will change."

There is a lot you can do for someone simply by holding them in your heart. If you’re reading this then you know that right now, I’m holding you there and will continue to do so.

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GRANDKATZ 11/13/2011 12:43PM

    Great reminder; thanks John. emoticon

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MKPRINCESS007 11/12/2011 9:46AM

    As always, you are a joy and blessing to me. I hold you in my heart too, John, and thank you for sharing this wild ride of a journey with me!


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NASFKAB 11/11/2011 2:39AM

  Thanks John

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/10/2011 12:09PM

    Thanks, John, for being the great caring man that you are...

Have a great rest of the day!


emoticon-he's goofy too!

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TRACEY5280 11/9/2011 3:05PM

    This one must have touched a spot deep within as it brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing your gift of writing rather than hiding it. It brings hope and helps so many. Even in those times you struggle. emoticon

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    I totally agree. We are meant to enjoy life and to find joy in all of our circumstances.

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SILLYHP1953 11/9/2011 1:19PM

    I had never heard the one about notifying your face if you're must have made me happy cause I smiled. It is the community on here that keeps me coming help and be helped.

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HAPPYSOUL91 11/9/2011 1:13PM

    I really believe in what you said. " Despite what we have come to believe our journey towards health is supposed to be enjoyable"

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KKINNEA 11/9/2011 12:35PM

    Amazing thoughts - love them!

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SHERRYJVP 11/9/2011 11:30AM

    I think that is one of the best of the best blogs. Thank you always.

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TRISTAROSE 11/9/2011 11:28AM

    Thanks John and I hold you.

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GRAMLORI 11/9/2011 10:28AM

    Thanks, John. I needed that!

(Remember the OOOOOLLLLDDDDD commercial for....Hai Karate aftershave that slapped people? I remember a baby saying "Sanks! I needed dat!"


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SPARKENISTA 11/9/2011 10:19AM

    John--I am one of the luck recipients of your trolling. You are so right. I have been reading Louise Hay and others about meditating, re-thinking our mental mindsets and releasing old ideas and feelings that are holding us back. I have even worked on this with clients.

Yet, I have a hard time clearing time for quiet time each day. How do you do it? Speak to you soon!!!

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ATHENA1234 11/9/2011 9:44AM


Great Blog and very true! I don't know you, but I just want to send you a huge hug with lots of support.
You take care, and stay positive! You can do it!


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FROGGERHKC 11/9/2011 9:34AM

    Great blog! emoticon emoticon

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God In Action ...... A Meditation

Sunday, November 06, 2011

In 1986 a good friend gave me a copy of a book titled God Calling. The book is authored by someone simply referred to as Two Listeners. My original copy is held together with tape and rubber bands and to be quite honest it rarely comes off the shelf for fear it will crumble. Thank goodness for the internet. The book itself is a series of daily reflections and meditations. They aren’t really long. In past blogs I have shared a line here and there but this morning I’m going to share the entire text because it spoke to me on a number of different levels.

"God In Action
Power is not such an overwhelming force as it sounds, a something you call to your aid, to intervene in crises. No! Power is just God in action.
Therefore whenever a servant of Mine, however weak he humanly may be, allows God to work through him, then all he does is powerful.
Carry this thought with you through the days in which you seem to accomplish little. Try to see it is not you, but the Divine Spirit in you. All you have to do, as I have told you before, is to turn self out. A very powerful axe in a Master Hand accomplishes much. The same in the hand of a weak child, nothing. So see that it is not the instrument, but the Master Hand that wields the instrument, that tells.
Remember no day is lost on which some Spiritual Truth becomes clearer. No day is lost which you have given to Me to use. My use of it may not have been apparent to you. Leave that to Me. Dwell in Me, and I in you, so shall ye bear much fruit. The fruit is not the work of the branches, though proudly the branches may bear it. It is the work of the Vine, that sends its life-giving sap through those branches. I am the Vine and ye are the branches."

It meant a lot to me so I thought I’d share it with you. Have a good Sunday

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MKPRINCESS007 11/12/2011 9:48AM

    Beautiful. There is a comfort and joy when you believe.

Thanks for sharing!


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    This is excellent advice I can use right now. Thanks for posting it.

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SILLYHP1953 11/7/2011 1:45PM

    Profound words.

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SHERRYJVP 11/6/2011 6:58PM

    that is really great and went right along with the sermon we had today. (my husband, a layman actually preached it). It was about all our gifts our not really us, but God working through us.

Thank you.

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LYNMEINDERS 11/6/2011 3:03PM

    Thankyou again for your are awesome....

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CARTOONB 11/6/2011 2:30PM

    Thank you for sharing!!!

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My Definition of Success, Well At Least One of Them

Friday, November 04, 2011


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SILLYHP1953 11/5/2011 3:39PM

    If I'm ever somebody's boss I hope I'm like Don...and you look great in your grey sweater!

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HDHAWK 11/5/2011 12:27PM

    I have to say that my current principal is successful because he presents new ideas, asks good questions, and helps each of us become the best teacher we can be. He makes suggestions without telling us what we have to do.
You look great in your gray sweater John!

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NASFKAB 11/5/2011 12:37AM

  Great blog thanks to you & Don if he is around

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CARTOONB 11/4/2011 10:52PM

    Your boss' approach can be applied to all relationships in our lives. Hmmmm...something to think about.

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TERESAKLE 11/4/2011 7:50PM

  Super blog John. Just stumbled onto it. You have a way of getting your point accross without any BS.


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GIRANIMAL 11/4/2011 12:28PM

    Wise and timely as ever! "Have I done everything I can do to help you?" Guess who's going to go home and ask her dear BF a variation of that question ("help us") and see if it won't cut through some of the god-awful tension we're battling this week. Thanks, John! And if Don's still around, thank him for me too. ;)

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Acceptance Versus Resignation

Thursday, November 03, 2011

Right about the time I feel as if I’ve hit a stone wall, am walking around in a bit of a fog and generally clueless, God, His angels and His saints provide a clearing, a brief moment of insight that resembles a ray of sun piercing the darkness. Suddenly all is clear………….. At least for a little while.

God, The Universe, karma, the luck of the Polish, call it what you will, has brought a most amazing and wise friend into my life to act not only as a good friend but as a guide of sorts. I am honor bound to share their wisdom. We were talking on the phone the other day, both lamenting our current state in life when it dawned on me that this dear friend has continued to be a success in many areas of their life despite some very real and very challenging setbacks. I’ll have to admit that as much as I admire them I do get just a tad bit jealous of their ability to just keep plugging ahead. During the course of our conversation I figured out the difference in how we looked at things.

My friend accepts life as it is. They don’t sugar coat it, don’t make excuses. When they are angry, frustrated, tired, fed up, etc. They own it and show it. They suffer a weight gain, they admit it accept it and move on. Vehicle breaks down, cash flow dries up relationships get strained, all the other stuff that plagues us they accept it as the day-du-jour if you will and move on.

Me? I resign myself to my fate. Woe is me and all that other melodrama. No one has ever had it as bad, no one ever will and BTW I am fatter and more out of shape than any person I know because it’s in my genes, my ethnicity. It’s certainly not my life style. I have difficulty walking, so now I am limited to what I can do. Woe is me.

It is there I found the wisdom. My dearest friend accepts a condition not its limitation. I on the other hand get thrown a curve ball and resign myself to a life of gloom and doom. Yes I am grateful and thankful for all the wonders God provides me but I also sabotage myself on a regular basis by building walls higher and thicker than they really are and mutter something about finally getting my reward in heaven. When I resign myself to s situation I am giving up. And……….. I have a built in excuse

I have made a list of my limitations. They are very real and I am in the process of accepting them. I have come to realize they represent less than one third of who I am and what I am capable of accomplishing in my life. Until now I resigned myself to a certain fate. Oh, I had room to grow but the boundaries were clearly defined. Like anything new it feels awkward, odd and scary. There is this part of me that has been largely unexplored for fifty eight years. I wonder what I am capable of?

It is subtle at best and as my friend is teaching me difficult to discern between the two. There is a story in one of the Gospels that I never really grasped until now. A blind man stopped Jesus and begged for a cure. Jesus touched his eyes and the film that had distorted the man’s vision was removed. The man could see clearly. My vision is just not the external process of seeing, it is the internal process of identifying, discerning, accepting and moving forward.

Acceptance versus Resignation…………… A project for a lifetime.

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NASFKAB 11/4/2011 12:37AM

  Good luck in achieving your goals

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CARTOONB 11/3/2011 10:03PM

    What can you accomplish? Anything you want.

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CMBELISLE 11/3/2011 12:07PM

    It's all part of learning to exploit what you're good at. So what if I can't play the piano like a concert master, it doesn't stop me from enjoying listening to it. I'm good at other things and have to concentrate on those.

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CIVIAV 11/3/2011 11:57AM

    And a gift I am in much appreciation for. Received it just in the past few weeks and oh what a different world it is when you do.
How grand John.

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PGNBRI 11/3/2011 11:29AM

    Great Post John!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/3/2011 10:39AM

    It sounds like you found a good one. We have to accept ourselves and love ourselves as we are, not how we wish we were. We have the ability to decide whether we are happy are not, regardless of our cricumstances. It's a conscious decision.

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SILLYHP1953 11/3/2011 9:47AM

    Acceptance was one of the BIG lessons I have learned, am learning, and will continue learning. It applies to all areas of my life, but it still seems strange to have to accept my body as it is before change can occur.

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HDHAWK 11/3/2011 8:58AM

    I have some of the same struggles John. Every tough situation teaches us something. I keep learning that one over and over. Hope you're over the flu!

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MIZZSB 11/3/2011 8:53AM

    Hi John

I am like you. I do the same ( i am bigger, sadder, need more compassion from others etc) but it hit me recently that that is the way I want to feel. And its ME who lets me feel like that and act on that.
I am the 5% fall challenge and one of my co leaders DIANEDOESSMILE is restrained to her bed with an cast and can occasionally be in her wheelchair. But she is exercising everyday for 2 hours! may it be playing the piano or doing chair exercises she is doing it. She is coping with her life as it is. And she is one hell of a motivator for me!!

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KATHRYN1955 11/3/2011 8:35AM

    Hi John:
I read your blog with a great deal of interest and it occurred to me that while we (me) may be "begging for a cure", that for some reason that is buried deep in our subconscious, we sabotage our "cure." That whole 'learned helplessness' thing may have served us well in the past. I know I get to a certain weight, I feel great for a few days, then back up I go! I don't feel as well, but for some reason (which I am actively working on through some interesting chiropractic techniques), the weight slowly creeps back on, with all the resultant physical and emotional yukkiness. If (I mean, when!) I get it figured out, I will let you know.
Take care,

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/3/2011 8:35AM

    The story of the blind man in the Bible...does the man not thank Jesus and then go out and tell others? The other part to the story is that the man expresses much gratitude. He is given sight, something most of us take for granted.

When I feel down about my lot in life, I think about how much more I have been blessed with than most other people on the planet. Many other people right here in my town would love to have the life that I have. And I never forget that.

And you have a wise friend-what choice do we have but to accept what life brings? The big difference again is the attitude we assume with what comes. I truly believe that saying about life is 5 percent what happens to us, the other 95% is how we deal with what happens to us.

It's exciting, scary and challenging to break out of the prison we create for ourselves in our own minds. I hope you explore the endless boundaries...and accepting things as "fate" seems like a pretty passive way to go. Fate may provide an avenue, but I don't always have to take it.

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ERINBEAR1876 11/3/2011 8:12AM

    Very good blog, and very insightful. Sometimes when we get into a pity party, or woe is me, it is so hard to look outward to others who have it worse than us. It is so hard to accept what is handed to us in life.

"Project for a lifetime" Great way to look at it. You take care of yourself, and start breaking down those walls!

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One Mans Humor Is Another s Embarrassment

Monday, October 31, 2011

I am starting to discover that there is true wisdom in a bumper sticker I have seen over the years. Maybe you’ve seen it too. It simply says “Live Long Enough To Be An Embarrassment To Your Children.”

Late yesterday morning we were traveling home from a wedding in Wisconsin. Our daughter Maggie traveled with us to help cut her expenses which means mom and dad paid for gas and meals. We always stop at a cheese store close to the Wisconsin and Illinois border. Joan likes to browse at their craft section and I just like to browse. (13 year old cheese has an odor and taste all its own.) Maggie was standing in line to be waited on when two very polite young ladies came up behind me.

“Excuse me sir, are you standing in line?” They asked me.

“No I replied, I’m just standing here being handsome.” Then I grinned.

Maggie spun around and yelped out a “Dad!!! Go up front and wait for me.” She had this horrified look on her face. The two young ladies giggled. I tipped my hat and walked up front.

After we got in the car, she hurriedly told Joan what had just transpired. Joan kept reading the newspaper and really didn’t comment other than to say “Get used to it.” Maggie started the car and just kept shaking her head.

Live long enough to be an embarrassment to your children. It can really be loads of fun, LOL

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CMBELISLE 11/3/2011 12:28PM

    My dad was always flirting with women and getting all the hugs he could get. He even flirted with the nurses in the hospital and got hugs any time he went home. I firmly believe it was part of why he lived as long as he did with the cancer he had. Have fund embarrassing your children - one day they will appreciate the wisdom of your actions!

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MARCYNA 11/3/2011 6:30AM

    I bet you were looking handsome, lol

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SMOCKON 11/1/2011 4:55PM

    Haha! Funny how it's never embarrassing when we get to the register and fork over for whatever they want, though.

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SILLYHP1953 11/1/2011 4:22PM

    Too hilarious.

I can also embarrass my children, at least my youngest daughter who is 28. We were at a Zac Brown Band concert and I was standing up moving to the music and she grabbed my arm to pull me back down. I really couldn't believe it. So, I guess I'm living long enough to be an embarrassment!

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TRACEY5280 11/1/2011 1:23PM

    Love it!

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LYNMEINDERS 11/1/2011 3:46AM

    I love it...your so is awesome to embarrass them......

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NASFKAB 11/1/2011 12:34AM

  Love embarrassing the kids

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KRICKET4 10/31/2011 10:24PM

    YOu betcha :)
Nothing more fun than embarrassing the kids.

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CARTOONB 10/31/2011 10:23PM

    That is an awesome response! I love that you thought of it and that your daughter heard it.

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HDHAWK 10/31/2011 4:59PM

    Love it! If she was embarrassed, you've done your job!

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AJDOVER1 10/31/2011 3:59PM

    Aw, I was hoping you had done something REALLY embarassing, like, well, um.... Never mind.

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MIZZSB 10/31/2011 3:25PM

    how cute!!
it made me laugh.. how old is Maggie??
If my dad would say that i wouldnt be embarrased.. not anymore LOL

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_AIYANNA_ 10/31/2011 3:17PM

    That was adorable!!! :)

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/31/2011 3:04PM

    ROLMBO!! I have embarrassed mine for years. He was quite shocked when he found out I could also like Lada Gaga. LOL.

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GEEMAWEST 10/31/2011 1:31PM

    John, please don't ever change! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BLACKROSE_222 10/31/2011 12:54PM

    He he he... Thats perfect for my Monday Funny!

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KKINNEA 10/31/2011 12:30PM

    Love this!!

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HAPPYSOUL91 10/31/2011 12:06PM

    Love it, it is our little way to get back for all the times they have embarrassed us

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SANDYBRUNO 10/31/2011 11:40AM

    Luckily it doesn't take much to embarrass our kids.

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SHERRYJVP 10/31/2011 11:04AM

    Love it. One day they will too.

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CMA444 10/31/2011 10:40AM

    Ha! Too funny!

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BEATLETOT 10/31/2011 10:12AM

    Heehee. I like it. When she's older, she will, too. =)

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/31/2011 10:05AM

    emoticon Good for you John!!!

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AMYSRUN4LIFE 10/31/2011 9:58AM

    That's awesome! My husband and I do our part...skipping through Kings Island arm in arm singing. (you should see how much 13 yr old "loves it". Lol)

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NEEDTOLOSE100LB 10/31/2011 9:57AM

    Too funny. All you were doing was telling the truth! Have a great day, handsome!

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ALLISON145 10/31/2011 9:48AM

    LOL Nice!

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JBJAKUBEK 10/31/2011 9:47AM

    great story! emoticon

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CLIMBERS_ROCK 10/31/2011 9:47AM

    Thanks for starting my day with humor.

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CORKY982 10/31/2011 9:34AM

  Lol - sounds like what my Dad does to me!

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