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The Value of Friends

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

My back and legs are healing. It's a slow process but it's a process that is moving forward. Each day I notice a change, sometimes slight, but a change none-the less. God blessed me with a good chiropractor. She listens to me, has tailored a program for my needs and is positive and encouraging. A good friend that I met here at Spark, asked her chiropractor for some guidelines for me in choosing one for myself. She didn't have to extend herself like that but that's what friends do. It's an unconscious act. It requires no thought. You are there for someone because that's what friends do. I realize in today's world its a bit arcane and old school given the "me first" attitude we see so much and before you relegate this act of kindness as being one old person to another.............. my friend is in her early thirties and could be my daughter. Friendship, real friendship flows like a stream, very natural and very healing and expecting nothing in return except the delight of the one who received it. But I digress.

My chiropractor told me to forget about running 5k's and concentrate on walking a half a block. She gave me a good talk yesterday about building my back and legs back slowly..... Five minutes a day on the elliptical and five minutes on the recumbent cycle. Walking is part of my regimen, three times a day. This will take time and if you know me patience isn't my middle name.

So, I asked God to show me what lessons I'm supposed to learn from all this. The first was a bitter one. A lot of folks I thought were friends - work out buddies, running buddies, even some very athletic Spark friends, have, as the kids say "ditched me." There is even some talk that I am "dogging it." That I'm hiding behind a minor injury because I'm not tough. I have to tell you that part has hurt. I walk or rather hobble into the gym and take ten minutes to walk fifty or sixty feet and people turn away. The trainers who were so supportive a year ago wouldn't know my name if I hung it on poster board around my neck. They are scared, we all are ya know. We are scared the worst could happen to us and if we ignore the worst it wont even come close. I've learned something from them. When I am in parking lot or a store and an older person or an injured person needs the right of way I sit back and let them take as much time as they need to navigate their way. I used to be very impatient, wondering why they wouldn't or couldn't move quicker. Now I know.......... they cant.

I learned the value of true friends. so many of you, in your own way kept at me even when I didn't want to be "kept at." some used humor, some used love and some placed a well deserved boot in my butt. To those who left me I understand, I really do. Until July I was the same way.

So thank you for sticking with me. It's helping my recovery in more ways then you will ever know.

Time to walk.

  
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SMOCKON 10/20/2011 10:42AM

    I let out a gigantic laugh when I read this! No, I wasn't laughing about your situation. I was laughing because I have managed to regain 1/3 of the weight I'd lost and have been hiding because I was doing so poorly. This morning, I got on the scale to see how bad it really was (bad) and decided that I was going to recommit myself to getting healthy. After logging into Spark and getting my login points, my VERY FIRST ACTION was to begin reading all of the blogs you posted while I was MIA.

I can't explain exactly how you inspire me, John, but you do. Yup, even when you're having to take it slowly!

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SILLYHP1953 10/19/2011 4:21PM

    I'm totally amazed and astounded that anyone would act this way. Do they not understand your immense wisdom and honesty and humor and plain old human value? I do not understand.

Wait. Maybe I do understand. Many years ago (MANY years ago) I used to go out dancing a lot, 3-4 times a week. I had a friend, even considered her a best friend, and she went dancing with me. When she slowed down going out dancing, our friendship slowed down, too. Now it is non-existent. This honesty and reflecting is not easy for me. Things like that have happened with other friends, too. So, it seems like our friends and acquaintances have different purposes in our lives, fit into different parts of our puzzle (life). Interesting.

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NASFKAB 10/19/2011 8:53AM

  You will recover John we are all there for you. Stay positive

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MARCYNA 10/19/2011 5:56AM

    Lovely, John, what a positive outlook on a difficult moment..anyway people who abandon you when you nee help the most were not real friends, were they????

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LYNMEINDERS 10/19/2011 3:52AM

    It is always the way John....it is when you are down that you find out who your real friends are...it sometime hurts....
however I know you will get back on top of things in time and I look forward to seeing that....slowly and surely.....you can do it....

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ALLISON145 10/18/2011 8:33PM

    It's tough when 'friends' turn away when we need them most. I'm sorry you're experiencing that, John. Keep your chin up... You will recover fully, I know it!

Allison

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PRINCESSNURSE 10/18/2011 5:15PM

    Hang in there John :-)

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TRISTAROSE 10/18/2011 5:09PM

    One step at a time ...

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HDHAWK 10/18/2011 5:05PM

    How sad that some people can't be supportive. I guess the lesson there is the one about who your true friends are. From one friend to another, you're making progress and that's what counts!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/18/2011 4:16PM

    Don't worry, John, you will be back to 100% and when you are those fair weather friends will show right back up. LOL. emoticon

They are the real weenies. They are afraid that illness and injury are contagious. You can recover from your injury but often the prejudice and stupidity they suffer from are permanent, especially if they choose for them to be.

You still have your true friends.

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EILI359 10/18/2011 2:11PM

    I'm glad to hear that you are slowly recovering John- take it steady though and look after yourself. We're all rooting for you hon emoticon emoticon

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LADYLAUGHS247 10/18/2011 1:29PM

  John - I haven't written in a while but I am always reading your posts. You are an inspiration.

I hope you do take this recovery slowly. There are so many things to enjoy that you won't notice if you are rushing. Live in the moment. And please take care of yourself.
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GEEMAWEST 10/18/2011 11:39AM

    WOW, John! I had no idea that you actually lost friends while you've been going through this tough time.

I'm still in the same boat with you. I have good days and bad days with my back. I am hoping that the aquatic therapy that I'm doing now is going to be the answer. We'll see.

Either way, I'm still here for you and have no plans of 'ditching' you.
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GIRANIMAL 10/18/2011 11:32AM

    Man. That kind of "rejection" of course would hurt, and I'm sorry you've had to endure that while you're experiencing a legitimately rough (and painful!) time. But I think you're right -- they are scared. Scared that it could happen to them and scared to give an already-injured person the wrong advice. Or maybe just unfamiliar with such a situation and at a loss for words.

This is an extreme correlation, but some of my very best friends sort of "ditched me" when I needed them most, when my mom died. Not exactly, but there was a palpable distance, and it took me many months to realize they simply did not know how to act, what to say, and were just afraid of making it worse. Your trainers at least, I'd bet, are just not trained in persistent injury and just don't know what to do or say! And ignorance is hard to admit and face.

Annnnnnyway, I am SO GLAD you're getting some relief, no matter how slow the process. You know how much I understand.

Much love, dear friend!
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GOOFIERNU 10/18/2011 10:51AM

    Enjoy your walking.
No, I'm serious!
When my hip was acting up, I REVELED in the fact that I was upright.
Then I REVELED in the fact I could walk a block.
Then I REVELED in walking two blocks.
Then I REVELED that I could walk those two blocks with minimal pain.
And even though I was dealing with pain and going SOOOOO SLOW, I would look around. Watch the birds. Watch the clouds. Enjoy the earth, the leaves, the breeze. BREATHE.
I think the breathing is what healed me the fastest.

"When I am in parking lot or a store and an older person or an injured person needs the right of way I sit back and let them take as much time as they need to navigate their way. "
And you say you're impatient. PHOOEY. You're impatient with yourself but can give all the time in the world to a complete stranger.
Why treat them better than you treat yourself?
You DESERVE to treat yourself that good. You DESERVE to love yourself. Spend some loving patience on YOU.

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GETFIT2LIVE 10/18/2011 10:40AM

    I am just glad that you have not given up on yourself, John. It would be so easy when you hurt that much to throw in the towel and quit, I know. I'm still in your corner rooting for you; whether you ever run a 5K again or not, you are a winner in my book. It is good to hear that you are seeing improvement bit by bit; keep hanging in thereand doing what you need to in order to take care of yourself. You are worth the effort!

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MISSROCKABILLY 10/18/2011 10:34AM

    Glad to hear that you are slowly recovering and building health!
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MOMONTHERUN1 10/18/2011 10:22AM

    Slow and steady wins the race John! You will heal and you will be able to get back into the race soon. Take this time to heal. Hang in there! emoticon

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JSPIN74 10/18/2011 10:06AM

    emoticon thx for the reminder about patience...that's one thing you certainly have had to "exercise" now...& i'm sure you're right (with it comes great lessons)

i'm glad you're healing & getting the care you need...the peer pressure of keeping up training & running 5K's is so something to push off & it's great that you're doing so.....

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WORKINGSTIFF 10/18/2011 9:09AM

    John-

Slow and steady wins the race. There is something to be learned in every experience if we CHOOSE to pay attention to what is going on or what's happening to us. I like how you say you have learned patience in dealing with others who are "old and slow" because now you are almost literally walking in their shoes.

Too bad more people can't take a step back (so to speak) and view the world through another's eyes.

You will find success because you are learning something new every day. And yes, so-called friends come and go...real friends are there through it all. These friends are rare and special. Take care!

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RUNNER12COM 10/18/2011 9:09AM

    Thanks for the reminder to be kind to those around me, those who may need an extra moment or two to do what I take for granted.

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EJHEINRICH1 10/18/2011 9:04AM

    Take small consistant steps and you will get there! We all have started and some of us have continued. Don't give up, be consistant. ;-)

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IMIN2GENES 10/18/2011 9:04AM

    I agree with Mustang_Sally. Hang in there John. It's tough on those of us who can't seem to slow down. LOL! But, take the time and do what you're body needs. It will repay you in the end. Take care and best wishes for speedy healing!
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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/18/2011 9:00AM

    Most of us have been where you are John. It's hard when you want to go and do and your body says, "no thanks." Hang in there. I'm cheering for you and hoping that your daily walks will be just the ticket for what you need. Sending lots of hugs! Take care!

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Stumbles Lead To New Steps

Monday, October 17, 2011


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SILLYHP1953 11/5/2011 2:48PM

    That's what I'm doing...starting again...and again....

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RSTENNER 10/18/2011 2:10PM

    John,
You are the best, you really motivate me to get with it again. I did manage to lose 2# this week, who would of thought that going to the Y 3 times a week would make something happen? I've lost 6# in the last 3 weeks after many months of doing nothing, so I'm on track again. Conferences are a tough one, usually when I would have one, the walking we do counteracts the over eating. That's my story and I'm sticking to it! You just have a great week! emoticon

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NASFKAB 10/18/2011 10:46AM

  Have a good week friend

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CANDOK1260 10/17/2011 10:28PM

    I agree with you portion control is the answer. great blog love it.

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GEEMAWEST 10/17/2011 1:04PM

    I totally agree with everything you said. Also, been there and done that. It's true, we never stop learning.
Have a great week, my friend! emoticon

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SNOWANGELDIVA 10/17/2011 12:42PM

    Your open window made we want to jump up and close it...it's so chilly here I assume it's chilly all over. emoticon
All those meals at the convention and minimal to no veggies...that is sad.
The gurus are mythical beings...or freaks. (I may come back and edit this later ;)
AMEN to portion control with healthy grazing...!!
I would love to control the world, but, I'm pretty sure y'all would get fed up with the techno music and glitter ~ just sayin'....
Gettin' back on the saddle.
Let's RIDE!!!
How appropriate..."Look it's getting light out!"...It's dawn of a new day, brother!

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TRISTAROSE 10/17/2011 9:59AM

    Loved your Vlog John .... I have stumbled long enough and have started over today!
Thanks for letting me hang with you and I always enjoy your words of wisdom.
Have a great week!

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WENDYSPARKS 10/17/2011 8:54AM

    I loved your vidio blog! I need to start over today and renew myself. Had a rough weekend. Enjoy the week! See you around Spark.

Wendy
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MIZZSB 10/17/2011 8:47AM

    i just love the last part about hanging with you....

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Please Dont Wait Eight Years to View This.........

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Musings, Ramblings and a bit of music

  
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HDHAWK 10/15/2011 11:31PM

    Congrats on the 14 lbs John! I know all that "crap" too. I just need to do it!

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FLGIRL1234 10/15/2011 3:46PM

    Your a riot! I loved this! Keep on doing what your doing. It's working.

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SILLYHP1953 10/15/2011 2:40PM

    It is quite a relief to quit trying to be perfect and just learn to love life and ourselves the way we are. Of course I'm not perfect at that! Perfect imperfection...good concept!

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BTINTERNET 10/14/2011 5:35PM

    I love your v'logs. Thanks for the reminders! Hope you had a great Friday!

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NASFKAB 10/14/2011 12:20AM

  Loved it

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CMA444 10/13/2011 8:32PM

    Remember "Progress not Perfection." We aren't perfect. We are not ever going to be perfect. We can do just the best that we can with what we are given and choose to accept. Live life for what it is and not what it should be. Accept those things that challenge us and embrace them with all of our beings. I know skinny people who have issues with compulsive overeating just like those of us who are heavier. emoticon

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MIZZSB 10/13/2011 1:22PM

    thanks John!!
we intend to forgot to live our lives NOW and not in 10 years... lets have some fun.. lets laugh about things, be silly, dance to the music..

Those are things i am learning, it is hard as i always want to be perfect in everything i do but i can t.. have a great thursday!!

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GIRANIMAL 10/13/2011 12:56PM

    "Perfect imperfection." Love it. As an editor, I frequently say things like, "If you're going to be wrong, at least do it consistently!" LOL Geeez, where is THAT kind of thinking getting me?

Congrats for your loss, but more for the insight you're gaining. Beautiful. Like you.

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SNOWANGELDIVA 10/13/2011 12:23PM

    It has been a bit! Lovin' the banjo ~ FUN!!
Paying for perfection...not down here...no not available down here...I am an interval perfectionist 45 second interval ~ I LOVE THAT!

CoNgRaTuLaTiOnS on your -14lbs, John, I am SOO proud of you!
YES, I LOVE my SparkFriends. The knowledge...had that...it's the fellows with the same journey to travel I needed.

Have a Woo Hoo, Thursday!!


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Even The Pain

Monday, October 10, 2011

I take a step forward and the pain radiates through my hip and buttock. My leg bends a bit. I feel my shoulders tense. My torso grows rigid and my anxiety level starts to creep higher. My hands clench the handle of the grocery cart. It comes and goes and thanks to a really good chiropractor, after one week of work it’s “going.” I tried to push ahead but I was too tense. Inside a small voice directed me. “Even the pain…..” it said. I did an emotional “huh?” “Resist nothing, even the pain.”

While standing in the meat aisle at Kroger, I closed my eyes, relaxed my jaw, and took a few deep breaths. I let the pain rise up, through and out of me. After a moment or so, I took a tentative step forward. My leg was weak but there was no pain. I thought about this off and on the rest of the day. It’s not just the aches, pains and physical injuries that hold us back, it’s the mental and emotional pain I am often really scared to deal with. I stuff it back down deep because the accusatory fingers pointing back at me are too much to bear. So like my leg and back pain I muster all the forces I can to fight it.

Pain of any sort suggests I did something wrong and being wrong implies I am guilty of something. Maybe I ate too much, didn’t study hard enough, forgot to stretch before I exercised and suddenly I am “less than.” I begin to compare myself to you and always fall short. “It’s just better to push it back down….. Better to pretend it never happened”

I never realized how often I think like this, how often my emotional pain suggests a feeling of inadequacy and instead of bringing it into the light of day and seeing it for what it is, I choose to ignore it. I treat it the same way I treat my physical pain, looking for some sort of ibuprofen to relieve it. The voice inside of me, my God, my source suggests I resist nothing, not even the pain. I won’t lie. That’s scary.

Be blessed this Monday

  
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SILLYHP1953 10/12/2011 3:37PM

    When the student is ready the teacher will appear.

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HAPPYSOUL91 10/11/2011 12:53PM

    You have insight to the problem. Emotional pain doesn't go away, it will hang on like a infected hang nail until you address it.

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NASFKAB 10/11/2011 12:08AM

  will try to go with the pain

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CARTOONB 10/10/2011 10:52PM

    You know, one of my issues (personal issue) is that I tend to think that if someone is sick or injured, they must be weak. I know that's not true, but I have to fight myself when I think it. Therefore, I cannot be sick. I cannot be injured. I cannot be weak. I'm not sure how I will handle it when it's my turn.

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WORKINGSTIFF 10/10/2011 10:15PM

    John-I have truly found inspiration from your last two blogs.

Resist nothing-or as I like to think about it in my own life, I need to humble myself.

Humility is not humiliation. It is as my dear little sister would say, "Giving it up to God." Whatever Higher Power one chooses to follow, there is a sort of peace in knowing that I control very little in life. Things happen and it's not anybody's fault, so to speak. It Just Is.

I believe that we should try to go with the flow, so to speak.

"Resistance is Futile!"



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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/10/2011 2:40PM

    For most of us pain is not a permanent way of life. We get it every once in a while like a trial by far. I often think it's meant to teach us something and we have to search for the message which is often. Don't sweat the small stuff. Enjoy the good times. Don't waste precious time. Take care of yourself. Live a healthy life.

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TRACEY5280 10/10/2011 2:19PM

    When you said you relaxed, closed your eyes and let the pain rise up and out - I could picture that. I think this is definately something I'm going to try next time I reach for that comfort food - whatever it might be. Good blog. As always, thank you for sharing.

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CATHERINEL66 10/10/2011 2:13PM

    Aargh! I know this thinking very well. I am applauding you from the next imaginary aisle over for your courage in letting the pain flow -- onward, outward, and through you, back to the source. This is one of those energies that belongs to the Universe and not to you personally. I know that sounds very whoo-whoo, but still ... :)

I felt like this intensely over last fall and winter with injury/health issues -- to the point at times where I was actually enraged. After the abdominal surgery I had in February I woke up with anger and rage searing through me, along with the pain and confusion from it (and the drugs). Sounds crazy, but letting that go was huge for me. Pain seems as though it can easily illicit or trigger negative thinking, whether we turn it on ourselves or external targets.

Congrats to you on each step in your healing -- literally and in all ways. And may the healing be exactly that -- moving you closer and closer to the body that represents your highest good/best self :)

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GEEMAWEST 10/10/2011 12:40PM

    I do exactly the same thing. Blame myself. Thanks for pointing that out.

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JSPIN74 10/10/2011 11:23AM

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PGNBRI 10/10/2011 11:03AM

    I think you're going through some really powerful realizations lately John. And I want to thank you for sharing it with just and taking us along on the Journey.
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SPARKLISE 10/10/2011 10:10AM

    I know my bingeing is often due to not wanting to deal with those feelings.
Next time i'll try your method.
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BESTSUSIEYET 10/10/2011 9:44AM

    Great food for thought today!

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HDHAWK 10/10/2011 9:44AM

    What great insight John!

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JECKIE 10/10/2011 9:06AM

    Great revelation! This is a technique that is often taught in pain management treatment, too. Resisting often leads to MORE pain, while accepting allows it to run its course and leave.

Great blog!

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ANATASHIKI 10/10/2011 9:05AM

    thanks for reminding me. I have no problem with the level of physical pain that I have now, I don't remember how it is a pain free day but I always forget to stop resisting the things I don't like, which of course make them stronger. I hope you get better soon

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CIVIAV 10/10/2011 8:34AM

    No resistance. Interesting line of thought and one that has worked wonders for me although I never thought of it this way.

Only thing I want to comment on is not to do too much stretching before you exercise. Warming up a bit first is best. I always do a few dynamic stretches like swinging my legs, knees up to meet my hands and side to side stretches. That gets my blood pumping for whatever is to come.

Have a pain free Monday!

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TEACHING1ST 10/10/2011 8:33AM

    Oh, John, I hope the back pain goes away...you seem to do a fabulous job understanding and working through the other kind! Sciatica (sp?) hurts terribly! Do be careful. I have had strep for several days and will go to Kroger's today to get ready for the school week---I'm so glad I have today off. Hope you're feeling better soon.

Mary

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MIZZSB 10/10/2011 8:23AM

    thanks John..
i can totally relate to the other kind of pain...
I am at home now in a cast with a broken toe and i am so frustrated about it.
Have a great monday!

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Resist Nothing

Sunday, October 09, 2011

I lie in bed last night and I began wondering about all the things I won’t think about. Maybe you know what I’m talking about? They are the thoughts that usually end with “But that’s the past and the past is the past.” Or “Let’s not go there……….. Boy I really messed that one up……………Lets think happy thoughts!” So I stuff them down, forget about them, move on to something else because they are things about me and my life that I’d rather not think about or remember. Then I notice my jaw clench. My legs get a bit tight and I toss to the left and turn to the right. “Happy thoughts, John, happy thoughts.”

Two dear friends recommended the same book to me in the course of three or four weeks. You don’t have to hit me over the head………… Well maybe you do but not really often. The book: A Course In Weight Loss by Marianne Williamson. The book came in the mail Friday and I prepared to be inspired. I said inspired, right? I didn’t say disconcerted or mildly uncomfortable, right? Good, just checking. Her opening salvo goes like this: “Your body itself is completely neutral. It causes nothing; it is completely an effect not a cause.”

Okay Marianne, tell my back and shoulder that; could you please explain to me why my legs only work right about fifty percent of the time? My body is neutral? AL righty then………… Did I mention the part about being hit over the head with a hard and dense object? My chiropractor suggested increasing my meditation time to help relax my muscles and reduce the spasms in my lower back. I have practiced meditation or creative visualization or whatever term you choose since the late 1980’s. I teach it in some of my seminars and with a few coaching clients. What could I possibly learn that I didn’t already know?

Friday evening I stumbled upon a meditation called “Resting In The Source.” It’s from a group called Meditation Oasis run by Mary and Richard Maddux. I’ll tell ya it’s a long one………. Close to twenty six minutes and the first time I went through it I got really confused. I just couldn’t figure out what I should be focusing on. That ever happen to you?

Last night, while relaxing and getting into the right place and space a small voice whispered in my heart, “Resist nothing.” As I listened to Mary’s gentle voice in my head phones I began to have a kinds of feelings, some pleasant, some not, bubble up. I unclenched my jaw, followed her instructions and let those thoughts pass through me. I had an image that I was lying at the bottom of a pool and these thoughts and feelings were bubbles floating out of me and to the surface. As they left my body and mind they were replaced by the love and light of my source. I didn’t shoot up and dance or scream. I simply drifted into an amazing calm. That’s when I put it all together.

As long as I allow them to do so, my thoughts, feelings and beliefs about myself and this world I live in, will hold me prisoner. They will always have me coming up short, they will place value on the meaningless and subtlety hold me back from living within my true self.

I woke up this morning as was conscious of what I felt. Some thoughts were pleasing and some not. My first inclination was to quickly brush away the “bad” ones and replace them with something more pleasant. I didn’t. I unlocked my jaw and just let them float though and by me and I sorta waved at them. Then I got brave. There are two things from long ago I could kick myself in the butt for doing. I try not to think about them. What is you knew? You might hate me, or think less of me or OMG………….” This morning I didn’t let that happen. I let them rise one at a time and just felt them pass through me. In my mind I kept repeating ‘resist nothing.”

I’d like to tell you they were gentle bubbles that went up and away. It was more like large chunks of the Titanic broke away and bobbed up and down really hard. The feelings were so massive and dense that they not only overwhelmed me but frightened me. They hung there, dense, nasty and full of accusation. Eventually they floated away, out of my emotional field of vision and they were replaced by a huge void. The void is neither good nor bad, only a void.

We all have those holes. Those things we rid ourselves of only to find something missing. In truth we are looking for our Source. Refer to it as God, as The Universe as Your Source. The older I get the more I realize finding it, not naming it is what’s important. If it seeks to control you, if it puts restrictions upon your spirit and uses guilt to inspire you then it is not your source. It is your minds creation.

A worthy goal, to resist nothing that floats before me. From now on I blog from the seat of my soul. Come with me?

  
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LYNMEINDERS 10/18/2011 4:55AM

    Looking forward to the journey with you

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SILLYHP1953 10/12/2011 3:35PM

    Oh...my...God.

I missed my morning meditation this morning, but I will meditate when I get home from work. You described your transcendence quite well, and you'll have many more of them!!

I think I'll have to pull out my copy of ACIWL and begin it again; I kind of got stuck on the 4th or 5th exercise.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/10/2011 2:36PM

    I uncovered all my deep dark secrets and expunged my past long ago and found that it was very liberating. I shared it with everyone. There were no more thoughts to punish me. It was all out in the open. And I found it didn't make me vulnerable like I feared it would but I was actually stronger. I tell everyone I'm as pure as the driven snow now. Nothing to hide. What you see is what you get. I'm free to be me.

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CATHERINEL66 10/10/2011 2:07PM

    This is awesome, John. One of the hardest things I've ever done is to stop resisting. Life in general, but some specific "hard" experiences or feelings that I've worked pretty darned hard at avoiding and tamping down for the last few decades.

There was something I was reading awhile ago, about letting go of the old feelings and limitations. It essentially begged the question -- what would you feel like if you were not scared, afraid, concerned, etc etc. And if you could just feel the things resisted.

You know, I've been trying to feel those bad things and shockingly, no worlds have ended. LOL! I think I've spent more time and energy resisting over the decades than just getting busy and getting on with myself, LOL! No more. So, I join you -- in being yourself -- with no self-imposed limits (except calories :).

Love Meditation Oasis -- I've used their podcasts before. I'm almost 2 wks into my daily 31 Day Yoga (self) challenge, and I throw in some meditation. It's good. I don't know why I had to work so hard to embrace something I like so much, LOL.

And I'm glad you got the book. I kept reminding myself to send you mine, but looks like it already arrived. I've done all the exercises, some were fantastic, som I muddled through, but I sure did think about everything in there -- so if you ever want to connect on something, just shoot me an email.

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GEEMAWEST 10/10/2011 12:37PM

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GIRANIMAL 10/10/2011 12:36PM

    This reminds me of a book on mindful meditation for pain that I need to go back and read again. I was in the worst pain of my life when I first read it and I am quite sure I was too resistant to even absorb much of its message!

I also own A Course in Weight Loss. It's on the ever-expanding list!

You certainly have been on quite a road to discovery lately. I hope you're enjoying the journey. Remember, too, what Abraham says: Enjoy the contrast! I'm hanging onto that one a lot right now too.

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SPARKLISE 10/10/2011 10:07AM

    wow. Didn't expect that this morning! emoticon
I've never done meditation,but i always wanted to. Kind of scared! emoticon
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MARCYNA 10/10/2011 3:58AM

    Lovely!!!What a victory, thanks!!!! emoticon

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NASFKAB 10/10/2011 12:22AM

  Great blog

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MKPRINCESS007 10/9/2011 10:22AM

    John.......you are an incredible man. So many try to pretend those feelings don't exist. They stuff them down and try to extinguish them in so many unhealthy ways. Acknowledging these things only makes us stronger. If it is true that we all strive for self actualization, the pinnacle, the only way to do so is to trod through some pretty challenging stuff.

So proud of the journey that you take daily to reach inside your soul, sort through it, and bring you along to a better you. We could all use more of that, I am sure.

Love ya!
Karen

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IFATFIRST77 10/9/2011 9:41AM

    I'm just preparing a more relaxed meditation area this morning myself....It does wonders doesn't it?

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ANATASHIKI 10/9/2011 9:34AM

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HDHAWK 10/9/2011 9:17AM

    Wow! I needed that. I swear you're inside my head sometimes John.

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