Wednesday, August 17, 2011
That there are other folks out here just like you who have highs and lows.
That you are not alone in your journey. Many of us pause on the side of the road to catch our breaths but we dont end the journey........... Neither do you.
That you'd be suprised to know that we dont see all your "fatal flaws." We just see a warm and caring person who is struggling really hard to be healthy and happy. We bask in your beautiful smile.
You dont always hear the loud cheers and the deep admiration we have for you. Like me you are too busy listening to that little voice going "nader, nader, nader!!"
That you are a source of joy, inspiration and love for many of us.
That you touch the hearts and souls of many each day and you never ever know it.
That you are accepted and loved just as you are.
Yeah you!!!! I'm talkin' bout' you.
Friday, August 12, 2011
It’s okay to admit it. You’ll have lots of company when you do and you’ll find you are not alone. Some days I’m leading the pack. Go ahead!!!
It neatly and succinctly points out all of our soft and weak spots and I have never been able to write a story, poem, or song that sings the praises of accountability. I’ve never heard anyone whisper behind my back “Did you know he’s REALLY accountable?” It sucks. Every morning you get out of bed and you look out over your day and you either sigh or grunt. Accountability can be like a hundred pound stone in your back pack. It weighs you down. It makes you stumble and fall. No one is ever praised for being accountable. Has your boss ever called you into their office and told you that you are an accountable person? Usually we are told the exact opposite; we need to become more accountable for our thoughts words and actions.
It sucks. It sucks because we know those talking heads and speaking points so neatly displayed on a Power Point presentation are absolutely right. We falter, we fail, we get lost because we rarely hold ourselves accountable. Maybe I’m being too harsh. Maybe you are great at holding yourself accountable. If so, could you write and tell me how you do it, long term?
With accountability comes goal setting. In all honesty I approach goal setting as a “set it and forget it,” endeavor. I look at all the amazing and marvelous goals I’ve set for myself and all the goals I’ve given up on because of………. Well go ahead and fill in the blank. I’ve got a million reasons/slash excuses.
So here is what I’ve learned in convincing myself I am worth all this emotional and physical pain I am enduring: World peace goals don’t work. Everyone want world peace, but how do you get it? Everyone wants to be healthy, slender and active……….
I’m reverting to simplicity. I’ll weigh myself on Monday’s My first very reachable and accountable goal is to lose ten pounds. That’s it for right now. I believe I can even find a silver accountability lining in losing ten pounds. It sort of takes the heat off. I AM worth the effort that’s required to do so. So like it or not, here we go once again in fond, fond hope of getting the scale moving in the right direction.
Tuesday, August 09, 2011
They say that Abraham Lincoln was often ridiculed about his physical appearance. So, often, in fact that he refused to ever look in a mirror for more than a few seconds. Throughout his political career his opponents used Lincoln’s physical stature as a campaign tool against him. One author went to the point when he described Lincoln as saying “there was no physical attribute about him, at all, that was appealing.” I read last night that Lincoln confided in his wife that those verbal barbs stung and hurt him, even when he used his famous humor to deflect them.
Later in life as president of the United States Lincoln became frustrated with a number of his commanders during the Civil War. He wrote scathing letters to them and then promptly slid them in his desk drawer, never to be mailed. When he removed an officer from command he did it privately, professionally and always found some facet of the man’s performance to praise, despite the fact the commander had not performed up to speed at all times.
Lincoln was criticized in the papers and in the halls of Congress for being too easy or soft on people. He was lambasted for letting his opponents off the hook without tearing them down. Lincoln as we say today “had been there, and done that.”
I thought about this while I drifted off to sleep last night. I thought about how I felt when people made remarks or comments about my weight or my build. I thought about how much it hurt me to hear those things, how it stung. I thought about how it felt to be on the outside looking in. I thought about Lincoln.
We don’t often subscribe those raw human emotions to our historical heroes. It shocked me a bit to read Lincoln was offended by those remarks. But I realized that if he hadn’t gone through those hurtful times he never would have grasped an understanding of what other people felt when in the same situation. It’s that part of Lincoln, the kind and wise leader, we always recall, never everything he went through to reach them. Those traits were only fashioned in a furnace of pain.
I don’t like it when people say thing about me that are mean or cruel, but maybe, moving forward, like Lincoln I’ll have an understanding of how what I say and do affect other people. I sure hope so.
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