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Two Small Words

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

They’re probably among the first ten words we learn. They are so much a part of our language and routine that we often forget their intent and meaning. Saying them can change a dull day into sunny one. Forgetting to say them can cause someone to unravel. These two small words have tremendous impact. They are “thank you.”

All this came home to me late yesterday afternoon. Around lunch time our thermostat decided to stop working. Normally this isn’t a big issue but the outside temperature was 99F. Fortunately it stuck in the on position and we had air. I was worried that without it ever shutting off my AC would go Ka-Ploiey! I called the people who installed and they told me it might be Thursday before they could get there. They’d see what they could do.

An hour later there was a knock on the front door. When I opened it I saw an elderly man in a work shirt. He smiled and said “I’ve come to fix your AC.” The thermostat is at the top of a flight of stairs and he told me he was sorry in advance if it took him a few minutes to reach it. He had arthritis and he didn’t move as quickly as he used to. After a half hour of testing and examining he said he’d have to replace the thermostat. When he was finished I said “Thank You.” He had saved me a major headache. A small grin turned into a huge smile. He went on to tell me that he was retired and they used him when they got backed up. I asked him how long he had worked there and he winked at me. “I own the place.” I laughed and so did he. The business was run by two of his sons and he helped out when he could. He walked in the basement and pointed out a few minor things about my AC I wasn’t aware of , fixed them, winked again and said “no charge.”

I walked with him to the front door and before he left he told me how nice it was to do work for someone that was thankful and grateful for the service. As I waved good bye it struck me how important that “thank you” was to both of us. That was on my mind the rest of the day.

There are times I forget to say it, to think it or believe in it. They are two very powerful words that when spoken in a sincere fashion can change someone’s life

Thank You

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SNOWANGELDIVA 7/14/2011 6:05PM

    That was awesome! Thank you for sharing your good spirited story.

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HANKENSTEIN 7/14/2011 6:00PM

    very true john. great reminder

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GIRANIMAL 7/14/2011 4:09PM

    Great reminder!

I always say hello and thank you to cashiers, bus drivers, etc. Sometimes I feel a little bad when they don't acknowledge it or don't seem to want to be bothered -- LOL -- but I always do it anyway. It just feels like the right, decent thing to do.

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SPARKLING_SUSAN 7/14/2011 10:56AM

    What a lovely reminder for ALL of us, John, and I'm so glad you shared!

I'm sure you made the AC man's day with your thanks, a reminder to him of why he originally opened the business and continues to take pride in it as his sons run it. It was his life's passion, I bet, and your kindness towards him is the icing on the cake!

Good for you, letting him know how much it meant to you to have him come out. Those two little words can carry such power and meaning, can't they. I'm proud of you!

Thank YOU for a great blog!

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LYNMEINDERS 7/14/2011 12:28AM

    Those are 2 very important and impacting words.......and we often forget to say them however it is great the change they make when we do,,,,


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JAKEANDNELLIE 7/13/2011 11:44PM

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful reminder of the power those two words contain!
Stay positive!

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TIME4AFITME 7/13/2011 10:07PM

    Thank you John for your blogs and for being you

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CARTOONB 7/13/2011 9:02PM

    You're right. Those are two very important words. Thank you.

Oh...and you're welcome!

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KKINNEA 7/13/2011 3:57PM

    Thanks for this!

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SILLYHP1953 7/13/2011 3:52PM

    Now that's the kind of business I want to do business with!!! Can you imagine our world if everyone was like that. It must have been what John Lennon was singing about.

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AMORRISON19 7/13/2011 2:17PM

    Thank YOU for sharing! Your story brought tears to my eyes. So very true, and very touching!

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SHERRYJVP 7/13/2011 2:17PM

    It is such a thrill to find and do business with good people. And it does happen. THanks for the reminder. Hope you are having a great day!

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MIZZSB 7/13/2011 1:56PM

    oh John... THANK YOU!!!
you always touch me with your blogs...

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BLUEROSE73 7/13/2011 11:31AM

    Thank you for the reminder. And what a blessing to have this gentleman available to check out your problem for you on such short notice.

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HEALTHYME229 7/13/2011 11:23AM

    "Please" and "thank you" are such simple words, but they can have great power and influence. The simple gesture of respect can mean so much to the recipient. Thanks for the reminder.

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GOOFIERNU 7/13/2011 9:56AM

    emoticonfor this post! Those two words have been on my mind a lot lately.

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BLACKROSE_222 7/13/2011 9:35AM

    Good for you, and what a wonderful person to meet! I'm glad you had time to share and to think on these things. Thank You.

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HAPPYSOUL91 7/13/2011 9:17AM

    and...thank you for posting this, such a simple thing with a major impact.

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MSSUNBUG 7/13/2011 9:16AM

    So true. Thank YOU. :-)

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MIMIDOT 7/13/2011 9:15AM

    Thank you for the inspiring blog. It is so important to try to remember those two little words. I try very hard to, but we all forget. Thanks again and have a good day!

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    Yes, very powerful words. I loved reading your post.

Take Good Care & Thank You.

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HDHAWK 7/13/2011 9:12AM

    What a wonderful story. So important. Thank YOU John, for sharing it.

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Learning To Fail In A Positive Way and "Please John Quit Judging!" - Especially Yourself

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Sometimes giving up is easy. It’s even easier to judge someone who has given up. Not that you or I ever give up. That’s for quitters, losers and the like. Excuse me while I put my smug hat on for just a bit, K?

My daughter works with someone who has won our city gold championship for amateurs the last five years running. Last year he won the state amateur championship and made the final qualifying tournament for the US Open. He missed qualifying by two strokes. That’s not to shabby and considering he is the ripe old age of thirty three, he has lots of accomplishments left in his bag. I picked up the paper yesterday morning to read he had withdrawn for the tournament before Sunday’s final round began. I called my daughter at work to find out why. I wondered if he’d been injured or ill. As my daughter put it “He was so far behind dad and he said he just wasn’t feeling it yesterday so he decided to quit. He was ten strokes behind. He decided to go home and relax.”

“The nerve of that man,” is what I thought. “What kind of example is he setting? Just because he couldn’t win, he quit?”

LOL, LOL, LOL, LOL. Yeah, like I don’t ever give up!!! Like I don’t quit tracking my food when I have a run of bad decision days and go over (sometimes WAY OVER) my calorie limits. I mean what’s the use? I already blew it didn’t I?

How about when I don’t exercise? Maybe I had a schedule challenge and missed a few days but instead of getting right back to it, I use it as a reason to give up. Woe is me, life isn’t fair. I’ll never be like “fill in the blank.”

When I quit I blame everyone around me and am very careful not to take any responsibility for my actions. If the world would just bend a little to the left and move forward about ten feet then just maybe I could keep my commitments. And anyway, who knows but me, right? If I blow it I just don’t tell anyone and secretly judge all those other quitters. When I am judgmental I am simply wasting a precious amount of energy that’s been given to me to use for good and healthy activity.

When I encounter a failure in my life or an obstacle that seems over whelming to me I only have two choices. The first is to fall to the ground, curse my fate and give up. The second is to admit I blew it, look for the reason why I blew it and try to figure out how not to blow it again. It’s the old live and learn principle. It’s why diets don’t work. They don’t allow for the failure factor, the subliminally preach judgment. Those of us who are obese know its really easy to judge all our own failure at the drop of a hat.

Don’t find me redeemed, dear friends. I’ll contemplate giving up again. It’s part of human nature. As long as I continue to judge myself I’ll judge other people. I have to work on me and the principles I believe in

I am worth the effort and yes even the failures

I deserve to have success even though the price is often a painful one

I am who I hang around with

When I believe I am whole and healthy, I am whole and healthy.

That should keep me busy for the next twenty years or so.

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MARCYNA 7/18/2011 3:31AM

    %Thanks John for this very interesting & infromative post!!!I think, in order to become winners, we all have to admit we can fail at times...much like a sportsteam does not have to win all matches, but the championship in the end.

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SILLYHP1953 7/13/2011 3:49PM

    John, John, John...I find it hard to believe that you give up, but I find it harder to believe you're not telling the truth, so I must believe you do give up. Sometimes, for a few moments. That's all I will accept.

I'm the hardest critic on myself, too. But I was sitting at a local festival last weekend and found myself judging certain people. I was rather ashamed of myself, but am learning I must forgive quickly and move on.

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WALKNLOVE 7/13/2011 7:35AM

    never,never,never give up! I fall back down, but I get back up again....success is getting really close for you John...I feel it! Do you?

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LYNMEINDERS 7/12/2011 7:14PM are so sperb....
I love the realness in you....

And of course it is so so much easier to quit than to keep battling forwars to achieve victory..

Hello to the new John.....I like him....he is not a quitter even when he fails a bit....


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RACINGSLUG 7/12/2011 5:45PM

    Like you, I find the quitting rather inexplicable, which kind of makes me wonder, ''Are you doing this to win, or are you doing it for the love of the game?'' I've asked myself that same question lately and I've decided I'm doing it for the love of the game. I'm going to exercise because I like how I feel when I exercise, and I'm going to eat right because I love cooking healthy and find it relaxing and fulfilling. Being that perfect weight is like coming in first place... it'd be nice, but it's not why I'm here. I'll take my imperfect game and just be glad I got to get outside for a change.

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NASFKAB 7/12/2011 5:12PM

  Great blog encouraging thanks

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KERLIN26 7/12/2011 4:42PM

  Thanks for giving me something to think about!

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ANATASHIKI 7/12/2011 3:24PM

    I think there are times when giving up is the best option. honestly hard work doesn't work much for me , it never did. and don't get me wrong , I always try to do all in my power but success seems to depend on mysterious occult factors. so why stress over them? my goal on spark is not on the scale, but tracking each day and burning more calories than I eat. loosing weight will come eventually .one race more or less doesn't matter much honestly . there aren't losers or winners. there are just temporary victories or losses and their equally important lessons.

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NAMAARI 7/12/2011 12:07PM

    John, good's so true about the judgement of ourselves and others...Oh to be more sensitive in that area.

@IFDEEVARUNS2 - I agree with you about there being times when we need to step back. I don't gauge those times well, and I end up feeling like a quitter when I push past them and end up burned up and out, but I am learning that there are seasons when the right thing to do is focus on rest so that we can return to our task stronger in mind, body, and spirit.

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DEE797 7/12/2011 10:57AM

    Thanks so much for putting this blog out there as we can be our harshest critics at times. I'm glad you are turning it around. I needed to read this today.

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HDHAWK 7/12/2011 10:43AM

    Guilty as charged of judging myself. Just one more thing to work on!

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GEEMAWEST 7/12/2011 10:32AM

    Now that's more like it, John!

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HAPPYSOUL91 7/12/2011 9:58AM

    very good blog and I really needed that this morning

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BLACKROSE_222 7/12/2011 9:54AM

    Very interesting thought - turn that pointing finger right around, hey? I like this blog. Thanks for sharing.

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IFDEEVARUNS2 7/12/2011 9:26AM

    Interesting blog, John. What came to my mind as I read about this man is that he simply decided this wasn't going to happen for him this time, and he decided not to stress himself over trying to catch up. For me the lesson is that there ARE times when one should step back, catch one's breath, and come back stronger later on without beating one's self up. Perhaps that's the conclusion you reached, but it's not clear to me.

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Learning To Forgive

Monday, July 11, 2011

I usually do my Sparking early in the morning. I have the house to myself, it’s quiet and I’m in no big hurry. Yesterday morning as I huddled with one of my teams I noticed a blog title over to the left side of the page. It was titled “Louise Hay: Forgive But Not Condone; Can It Work?” I read it. It was good. I was not convinced and as I told myself at the time, it gave me a lot to think about and really, seriously, do you think I wanted a lot to think about at 6 AM on a Sunday morning? I don’t think so!

It hit a tender spot, a spot I didn’t want to deal with. I’ve been very angry with the Catholic Church for a long, long time. I cannot in any way, shape or form condone the actions of an organization that lies and protects people who use their authority to molest children. Not only is it wrong, it’s criminal. Six months ago a young man in our parish committed suicide in front of the church because he had been abused by two priest most of his life. Neither priest was at our parish. The hierarchy promised an investigation into the matter. That was in February. To date there is no news. Joan and I decided that we would continue to attend church weekly but would not contribute to the Church. We just increased our contributions to other charities. I enjoy going to church. It gives me an oasis of peace. I can sit, pray and sing and lose myself. What I didn’t need to read was a blog on forgiveness, twenty minutes before I went to church!!!

I’ve come to realize that health, real health, is so much more than what goes into your mouth, or how quickly you can sprint or cycle. Real health is a balance, it is the fine art of learning to let go, to find reasons TO forgive and not hate. It hates the sin, not the sinner. It knows deep down inside of you that if John wants to GET healthy and STAY healthy, well John needs to deal with his issues. I’ve been really angry for a long time. That anger has slowly eaten away at my soul.

I got to Mass five minutes before it started. I slid into the back pew. Next to me was a young lady with a toddler. The little girl came over to me and smiled and waved and did what little kids do in church. Her mom looked wore out. She also looked like she was in need. Her clothes were worn and ripped in a few places and so were her daughters. If you have ever seen a look of despair on a person’s face, well this young lady had it on hers. When it came time to take up the collection I did what I always do, I stare straight ahead. I won’t lie. The blog I’d read sort of tugged at my heart and mind. If I really believed in the Gospel message, the message of love and forgiveness, then wasn’t I simply exercising some self-satisfying form of control by not contributing? I didn’t want to think about this.

The usher handed the basket to the young lady and at the same time her daughter ran to where I was sitting. As I looked up I saw her mom digging in her purse. She pulled out a dollar bill and about five coins. She put them in the basket and handed it to me. I just stared. As I handed the basket to the usher I started to shake a bit and then I covered my face so no one would see me cry. At that moment I saw all the things I was holding on to, the entire place in my heart and soul that was filled with unhealthy hatred, anger and judgment and not one of those things was doing anything to make me a better John. You see, I have all that anger because I know the things I direct it at I can’t control and rather than concentrating on the things I can control, well, I’d rather focus on the negative. Jesus told the story of the widow who gave her last dime to her church and he said this woman had so much more faith than someone who gave for what they had left over. She gave from her necessity. When that young woman dug into her purse and pulled out the dollar or so, I saw no hesitation, no doubt, just a tremendous amount of faith. She could have justified giving nothing, like me, but her actions spoke the knowledge that she would be taken care of and provided for. I spent the rest of Mass looking at the areas of my life I attempted to engineer and manipulate. I saw all the things I wasted energy on and where I needed to let go. Letting go of the things I cling to so tightly isn’t easy. Between me, you and the rest of the universe, it scared me half to death.

It’s really not negotiable, at least not for me. If I want to live a balanced life then I have to clean out my closets and fill them with positive things. I’ll never condone what has happened in the church but I can forgive and when I do, I’m making ah healthy statement about my life. No revelations today, no really happy endings, just the knowledge I have a lot of work to do.

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SILLYHP1953 7/13/2011 3:38PM

    God does work in mysterious ways...first Louise Hay's words and then sitting next to the woman and child. Synchronicity in action.

I'm grateful I do not have to pick just one sparkfriend's blog to read, but if I did it would be yours.

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GIRANIMAL 7/12/2011 10:51PM

    Wow. Powerful stuff. Forgiving without condoning is quite a difficult spiritual lesson indeed. As always, I am proud of and inspired by you, your honesty and your unwavering strength and need to build a better John.

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SPARKLISE 7/12/2011 9:49AM

    I have been a catholic most of my life,but 5 years ago we started going to a pentacostal church. Best decision of my life. If you want to get closer to God,maybe catholic is not the best option. Just saying!
God bless you. emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 7/11/2011 11:43PM

    WooHoo...go John....
that is awesome....God is so good...and he will only show us things when He knows we are in a place to deal with them....
You are so right with the sinner Hate the sin...thats a philosophy my Hubby and I live by/.....

The start of a whole new journey.....

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BECKY3774 7/11/2011 7:28PM

    Thank you, John, for once again saying what needs to be said. I personally hold on to things that need to be let go, but I have such a hard time with it. I'm struggling daily to improve that while improving my body, so hopefully one day, I can be the me that I deserve to be. emoticon emoticon

and I totally believe the previous statement from a spark member about God having a sense of humor....I see little things like that all the time that make me stop and think...amazing, isn't it?

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SHERRYJVP 7/11/2011 5:43PM

    Our sermon Sunday was on the widow's mite. Very itneresting. It is such a shame that a few bad people bring a reputation on an entire denomination. I am not Catholic, but I know that we worship the same God and that no human is perfect. I also believe that the devil causes this kind of grief in church in order to weaken and tear them apart.

God Bless you as you deal with this conflict.

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MIZZSB 7/11/2011 2:48PM

    very touching blog John!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 7/11/2011 1:37PM

    I have struggled with the whole priest thing and have been angry too. How could the "face" of the church be worth saving more so than our children? I too have some work to do on this topic.

I love God's sense of humor. I love how he worked it out so you sat by that particular lady and her little girl. He can always teach us lessons, even when we're (meaning me) pretty hard headed students.


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SPARKLING_SUSAN 7/11/2011 10:29AM

    Definitely an "ah-ha" moment for you, John, but congratulations for opening your eyes and your heart to see what you may have been meant to see...a divine message, perhaps? :)

You're so right about health being emotional and spiritual as well as physical. I love the way you put that and it's certainly food for thought for me, as well.

God bless you for sharing. emoticon

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AKATUJE 7/11/2011 8:57AM

    Food for thought.... I know i also got alot of work to do...

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BLACKROSE_222 7/11/2011 8:47AM

    Wow... what a story. Thanks for sharing.

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KATHRYN1955 7/11/2011 8:39AM

    It would be easier just to read this and skip along to getting the rest of my points for the day. I am not Catholic, but the way they protect their own has been a sore point for me for a long time. It also spreads to other denominations and religions as well. There are 2 levels of forgiveness here, one for the actual perpetrators and one for those who cover up for them. I'm not sure which one is harder to forgive. One needs to separate out spiritual faith and the faith in the organization itself.
Personally, I could not hold both (Anglican) at the same time and I have turned to a more holistic, universal faith in God.
Good luck in your journey, it is a tough one to reconcile.

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TERRIPAL1 7/11/2011 8:32AM

    Amazing isn't it John how you can always learn something!!

Thanks for the blog,what you wrote is so true,and difficult to do!! emoticon

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CIVIAV 7/11/2011 8:29AM

    Sounds like going to church did what it is supposed to least how I see it...

Thanks for sharing this John!
Love you!

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SHAKENMA 7/11/2011 8:25AM

    Thought provoking...........

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Using My Talent's

Sunday, July 10, 2011

How much time do I spend focusing on using my talent to make this a better place to live?

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SILLYHP1953 7/17/2011 1:29PM

    Oh my...alright, I'll dig up my talents.

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LYNMEINDERS 7/10/2011 7:40PM

    Absolutely brilliant as always....
Love the way you looked at that parable and loved the challenge even more....

Thankyou so have so much wisdom.....

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NAMAARI 7/10/2011 7:28PM

    Your last comments reminds me of this passage...

Matthew 6

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?
26 Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 27 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?
28 And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin,
29 yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31 Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’
32 For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all.
33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

God wants our focus to be Him, to be living a life full of love and truth, and that would include caring for our bodies, our life, which is a gift, but also investing in others, helping, loving, giving, doing whatever we can to shine love. Thanks for such a good reminder to spend our lives on the things that matter and watch our investment of our talents, our love, grow. Blessings, friend.

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MIZZSB 7/10/2011 4:50PM

    WOW this is heavy John.. thanks for sharing...
And my treasure is my health, and for today i have to say NO...
but tomorrow is another day...

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CMA444 7/10/2011 10:20AM

    Awesome! That is one of my favorite parables! Thank you for putting it into a new light!

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GRACIOUSGRAPE 7/10/2011 10:19AM

    John, another excellent blog! You also gave me something to think about and work on each day. It is true that we will find balance in our lives when we concentrate outwardly on others and how WE can make a difference in the little world around us, rather than on ourselves. But it is true that we need to be able to care for ourselves in order to accomplish that. Our bodies are Temples and we need to treat it with reverence. It houses our SPIRIT, which is what makes each of us unique, and able to carry out God's plan for us here on earth. Thank you for starting my Sunday morning on a high note.

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SPARKENISTA 7/10/2011 10:12AM


This is a universal tale and, as usual, very inspirational. There is a lot to think about here.



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HDHAWK 7/10/2011 9:29AM

    You give of yourself regularly here on Spark. Your talent to put into words what many of us are thinking helps me immensely. I hope you realize that!

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TERRIPAL1 7/10/2011 9:12AM

    Well done John!! You gave me something to think about again!! emoticon


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_AIYANNA_ 7/10/2011 9:10AM

    I couldn't agree with you more, John. We often complain about how we live in a selfish world and there's no community spirit left any more. Still, very seldom do we stand back and consider what WE have done or offered to make this world a better place.

Thank you for giving me something to work on :)

Take care,
Elen xxx

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The Philosophy of My Flower Bed

Friday, July 08, 2011

We have a long narrow flower bed that wraps around one corner of our privacy fence. For whatever reason, every weed known to man has decided to root in it. Yesterday morning I decided it was time to clear the bed out, once and for all.

I pulled the old flowers out; a quick tug at their base neatly removed them. Then came the weeds. I have a lot of strength in my arms but after five minutes of tugging and almost falling face first into the dirt I went to the garage looking for some garden tools. They worked on about eighty percent of the weeds. There were still these long tendrils of grass snaking past the border stones and I swear were actively resisting me as I pulled, dug and mildly cursed them. This meant war.

I removed all the border stones and stacked them in a wheel barrow. I went in the house and put on my work boots, the ones with the steel toes. It’s eighty degrees outside, I’m sweating my face, arms and legs are streaked with dirt and Joan is giving me one of those “Oh Lord, what are you doing now” looks. I grabbed a spade from the garage and dug down deep in the flower bed. I suspect I had somewhat of a maniacal grin on my face believing I had out witted those snickering weeds once and for all. I chopped the dirt up and sifted through it yanking out the remaining weeds. I found the rake and smoothed the soil. Everything was neat and symmetrical. I was as proud as proud could be. I asked Joan to come see. She stood there for a minute or so and said “Okay, what are you planning on putting in there?”

“Well that’s not the point. All the weeds are gone.”

“I know John but so is everything else. What are we going to put in there?”

Okay so maybe she was right. But, as I told her much later in the day, I had time to reflect on how my life is like that flower bed. So very often I let those marvelous flowers that are my talents and treasures become over run and crowded out by my own fears and doubts about my abilities. After a while all I see are the weeds and slowly my talents, the REAL John, get starved out. My doubts rob all the oxygen and sunlight and I lose sight of my goals!!! In other words I’m a mess.

Spark people and you my dear wonderful friends are those garden tools that ferret out the weeds and provide me the fertile soil to grow and make the life style changes that are necessary for the real John to flourish and reach his goals and dreams. Once cleared away, all those bad habits allow the sunlight of success to shine on my life.
Down deep are the things I’d never seen, noticed or believed before. They were hidden by everything else. Those weeds, those tough tendrils of grass, hang on tight and fight my forward progress. They require a lot of perseverance and stamina and I have to dig deep. It’s often painful when you realize you are the real root of all your issues. When all is said and done there is new fertile soil for John to grow It’s mucho hard work!!!

I grinned proudly!

“That’s nice John, but you still haven’t told me what we are planting.”

And so go’s the philosophy of my flower bed.

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SPARKLISE 7/10/2011 8:51PM

    It takes you to see yourself in a garden! emoticon emoticon

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GRACIOUSGRAPE 7/10/2011 10:23AM

    Another excellent blog, John! You certainly are a wonderful garden tool for me! You help me to focus and grow, looking at all of life from a beautiful perspective. So glad you are my friend and mentor!

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ANATASHIKI 7/9/2011 2:49PM

    so?what are you planting? flowers or vegetables? emoticon
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GRAMLORI 7/9/2011 10:09AM

    "Everything was neat and symmetrical."

Do I detect a somewhat anal personality there? lol That's ok, so am I! If I'm a garden tool, then I must be the shovel....I have someone stepping on me and shoving me into the dirt, but I hit rock everytime!! Getting it from both sides!! lol

Enjoy your season of planting!!

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GEEMAWEST 7/8/2011 10:49PM

    I have given my DH that “Oh Lord, what are you doing now” look many times.

When you think about pulling up all your "weeds" just remember that weeds to one person are flowers to another. It's all in how you look at them.

Hugs, G-Ma

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HDHAWK 7/8/2011 10:17PM

    Cool John! You never cease to amaze me!

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SANDYJAS 7/8/2011 9:54PM

    Beautiful thought

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CARTOONB 7/8/2011 8:56PM

    LOL! I like Joan!

BTW...if we're your garden tools, can I be the hoe? emoticon

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SRHALLIN 7/8/2011 8:35PM

    Such an excellent story! And so applicable to the lives of others as well. Thank you so much for sharing it with us.

And, congratulations on clearing out your flower bed. :)

Best wishes to you on your journey!

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LYNMEINDERS 7/8/2011 8:00PM

    Again a fabulous thought provoking blog.....
So true that we forget about the flowers/talents we have and focus too much on the "weeds" in our lives....
Thankyou for the thought provoking...
Much appreciated

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    You have me feeling like I need to get outside and get busy. LOL. Some of those tap roots are as tall as me. LOL.

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WALKAWAY 7/8/2011 2:24PM

    Love this blog. Reminds me that I just have to dig deep and get all the "trash" out of the way to see who I am, what I can become.

Just remember to stop, smell the flowers and LOL occasionally hack the heck out of the pesky weeds.

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RONDAJONES 7/8/2011 2:08PM

    I just LOVE how you have this supernatural talent to show me gently how our lives are somewhat parallel. Keep writing...because I keep reading!! Oh, and thank you! I sooooo need to work on my weeds!

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SILLYHP1953 7/8/2011 1:22PM

    This must be why I almost enjoy weeding. I enjoy planting and tending better, but I do enjoy weeding. I enjoy the transformation, the accomplishment. Crabgrass is my nemesis, it's probably the same one you were talking about with those running roots. It sounds like you got quite a workout, too. So...what are you planting?
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GETFIT2LIVE 7/8/2011 1:00PM

    What a coincidence! I was doing weeding in my flower beds on the 4th and had similar reflections on my own life while I was sweating my way through them. We have to dig deep to pull out the toughest weeds (both literally and in our lives) to make room for new things as well as give the existing beauty room to grow. Let the weeds go too long and everything good is crowded out by them--and it becomes much harder to pull them up because they are rooted so firmly. Have a good weekend, and go plant something beautiful!

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RACINGSLUG 7/8/2011 12:42PM

    Your flower bed is very wise, indeed. ;) I'm so glad we are here helping each other pull out those weeds. emoticon

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JANC7223 7/8/2011 12:08PM

    What a great analogy.

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MARTELLA3 7/8/2011 11:15AM

    I am so glad that you referred to the "real John" as the one who has all the talents and treasures. That other John that fears and doubts, even though in the past he has served a purpose, you do not need anymore.

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GIRANIMAL 7/8/2011 10:44AM

    I love Joan! emoticon

Why, oh why, is it so much easier to focus on the "dark side" -- the fears and our so-called negative traits -- than it is to see our "good sides"?

Great analogy, John! I love your ability to extrapolate your everyday activities into representations of your personality and tendencies. I hope you clearly see the growing, flourishing, beautiful you in those new flowers you're going to plant for Joan. emoticon

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 7/8/2011 10:41AM

    LOL I just love Joan.

I too have lots of grass in the flower bed of my life. Habits that I'm struggling to rip out but have not quite accomplished it yet. I haven't given up.

I love you blogs! Have a great weekend!


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