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An Update On My Friend

Saturday, June 04, 2011

As of late yesterday my friend Ron was still in a coma and his wife told me he was not responding or communicating. The doctors are not sure how long his brain was deprived of oxygen. They are running EEG's every few hours to monitor his brain function. If I understood his wife correctly the maximum brain function level is scored at a 15, Ron's is at a 9. They are hoping this improves.

Because they are still trying to stabilize him they have not even dealt with the damage to his heart as of yet.

Thanks so much for your love and your thoughts and prayers. I shared with his wife Jackie, that there were many people praying for him. I'll keep you posted

  
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PCOH051610 6/6/2011 9:51AM

    Sending prayers for your friend and hugs for you! emoticon emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 6/6/2011 4:55AM

    Prayers will keep coming till told otherwise.....

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RACINGSLUG 6/5/2011 3:10PM

    So very sorry to hear about your friend. Our thoughts will be with him and hoping for a speedy recovery!

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MARCYNA 6/5/2011 9:42AM

    Thanks John, I'll keep him in my prayers emoticon

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CARTOONB 6/4/2011 10:36PM

    Still sending good thoughts and prayers to you, your friend and all of his friends and family. Hope he improves.

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DAD2GETFIT 6/4/2011 9:25PM

    John, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend.

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TEDYBEAR2838 6/4/2011 9:11PM

    Ron definitely has our prayers. There a so many on here that believe
in the Power of Prayer, Me for ONE!

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DUTCHIEKIWI 6/4/2011 7:58PM

    Hoping to receive good news for your friend soon!!!

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JUNEAU2010 6/4/2011 7:35PM

    Prayers continuing for him, his wife, caregivers, loved ones and friends (that includes you)

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CALIMAN1 6/4/2011 4:17PM

    I just read your blogs and prayers for Ron and Jackie as well....may God's hand be evident in this situation.....God bless.

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SILLYHP1953 6/4/2011 3:06PM

    My prayers are being sent out, too.
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FROGGERHKC 6/4/2011 1:07PM

    Thank you for sharing the update on your friend. Thoughts and prayers being sent your way, hope that he improves soon!
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GETFIT2LIVE 6/4/2011 12:41PM

    Thank you for the update, John. I will continue praying for good news soon

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WANDAH3 6/4/2011 11:58AM

    Will continue to pray. So many people are hurting right now, the world as a whole needs our prayers.

Hugs,
Wanda

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JENNY888 6/4/2011 11:42AM

    I hope you have good news soon. My prayers are still with you.

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PURPLE180 6/4/2011 11:34AM

    Still praying.

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TIME4AFITME 6/4/2011 11:27AM

    Praying for your friend

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GRAMLORI 6/4/2011 11:25AM

    Lord, guide the docs, and give them wisdom. Hold Jackie in Your loving arms, heal Ron. May all be done to Your glory. Amen

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NASFKAB 6/4/2011 10:58AM

  Thanks for letting us know. praying for your friend & the family

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HDHAWK 6/4/2011 10:48AM

    Thanks for the update John. Thinking of you and his family and continuing to send prayers.

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GEEMAWEST 6/4/2011 10:33AM

    Thank you for taking the time to keep us updated.
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_AIYANNA_ 6/4/2011 9:09AM

    Thank you for the update, John. I sincerely hope there's some good news soon. Hugs xxx

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WALKNLOVE 6/4/2011 9:07AM

    still praying....

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SHERRYJVP 6/4/2011 9:03AM

    Another prayer sent for Ron. THanks for the update. Prayers for friends and family, as well.

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MYTURN11 6/4/2011 8:47AM

    Sending many prayers emoticon

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MIZZSB 6/4/2011 8:46AM

    oh John... my prayers are with you i was hoping he was doing better...



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DEE797 6/4/2011 8:42AM

    Thoughts and prayers for all concerned coming your way. emoticon

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MYGOLDENBOYS3 6/4/2011 8:33AM

    My prayers for all of you.

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A Request For Prayer, Healing, Love and Energy

Friday, June 03, 2011

Hi all

A close friend of mine suffered a massive heart attack yesterday while training for his first 5K. Ron is 63 and is currently in critical but stable condition. He was running down a hill when he was afflicted and a neighbor found him on her front lawn. Ron is in good shape has excercised for years and was a really active guy. As I write his prognosis is unknown.

Would you please remember him in the way you show love and kindness the best. I'd appreciate it.

  
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LYNMEINDERS 6/6/2011 4:56AM

    Praying

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DUTCHIEKIWI 6/4/2011 7:57PM

    May god and the universe be kind to your friend and all invloved!

Love and strength from me,

Dutchie

xoxox

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SILLYHP1953 6/4/2011 4:34PM

    I'm just reading your blog today, but am sending your friend love, light, and healing.
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COUCHDIVA333 6/4/2011 3:38PM

    god bless and i wish him a speedy recovery.

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GIRANIMAL 6/4/2011 9:26AM

    Oh my gosh, so sorry I am a day late in reading this, but I'm sending good healing energy to your friend Ron - and YOU - as I can sense your very genuine pain and concern for him. Lighting a candle for you both, and for Jackie.

Much love,
Angie



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TEACHING1ST 6/4/2011 8:56AM

    I'm so sorry about your friend, John---prayers for a complete recovery.

Mary

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46SHADOW 6/4/2011 7:49AM

    Thinking of you and your friend.

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MARCYNA 6/4/2011 7:09AM

    Ron's in my prayers and your concern too emoticon

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JENNY888 6/3/2011 9:57PM

    My prayers are with you and Ron.

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CARTOONB 6/3/2011 9:26PM

    Done. Let us know how he's doing.

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GEEMAWEST 6/3/2011 9:23PM

    Prayers on the way!

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KSGROTHE 6/3/2011 9:14PM

    emoticon Prayers for your friend ... and for you not to worry too much!

- Karen

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JUNEAU2010 6/3/2011 8:36PM

    Prayers freely given......

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ALLISON145 6/3/2011 8:32PM

    Praying!

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WALKNLOVE 6/3/2011 7:54PM

    praying....hang in there John..he is blessed to have a friend like you to stand in the gap for him, but then again, that's what good friends are for! Keep us posted...

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WIZINTN 6/3/2011 7:34PM

    Dear John, I'm sure your heart is wide open right now. Having someone we love stepping to the edge of staying or going into transition sometimes strikes fear into our hearts. We think of so many things - reminders of the treasured contributions of their physical presence in our lives. While we struggle with the reminder that we will not always have that person in our lives, we move, sometimes slowly and that's ok, toward a gratitude, comfort and an understanding of just what our love for each other really means. Whether that person stays or crosses over, we are led to a certainty of the beauty and promise of a beloved soul facing transition, metamorphosis and ascendancy. How wonderful that they shared some of who they are with us. How blessed we will always be for having known them. In truth, we will never lose their spirit or the gifts they gave us. Bless you, John.

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CBLANK20091 6/3/2011 5:16PM

  Prayers are being sent your way for your friend and you.
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LORSI2000 6/3/2011 3:44PM

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My thoughts are with you and your friend, Ron. Hope your next post reads good news about Ron!

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TEDYBEAR2838 6/3/2011 2:21PM

    Oh, My Goodness!

I'm so sorry to hear about Ron. I do pray that
there is much improvement by today.

Keep us posted. You are both in our prayers and
his family Also.

God Is Still In Control!

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KKINNEA 6/3/2011 1:08PM

    Really sorry to hear this! Will be keeping him in my thoughts and prayers.

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KABEE2011 6/3/2011 11:19AM

    Definitely will be praying for Ron and his family but for you as his friend, too!

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DEE797 6/3/2011 10:14AM

    Thoughts and prayers coming his way. HUGS!

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PCOH051610 6/3/2011 10:12AM

    Sending prayers! And here are some warm hugs for you for being such a caring friend to Ron and all of your SparkFriends! emoticon emoticon

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LUVMYK9S 6/3/2011 10:10AM

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. He is in my thoughts and prayers.

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RASMUSSEN5 6/3/2011 10:04AM

    Sorry to hear about him...def keeping him in my thoughts and prayers!

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SPARKLISE 6/3/2011 10:00AM

    How sad! Will be praying for him and his family.

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HAPPYSOUL91 6/3/2011 9:59AM

    Praying for a speedy recovery for your friend.

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FROGGERHKC 6/3/2011 9:48AM

    Sorry to hear... I wish his a speedy recovery as well!
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JULIE2719 6/3/2011 9:43AM

    My heart goes out to you and your friend - may he have a speedy recovery.

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RHIPEA76 6/3/2011 9:35AM

    Your friend is in my thoughts...prayers for a complete recovery.

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GRAMLORI 6/3/2011 9:34AM

    Prayed for, and will again during the day.

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PURPLE180 6/3/2011 9:30AM

    I am so sorry to hear this. I am praying right now. Blessings to all of you.

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BLACKROSE_222 6/3/2011 9:24AM

    He is in my prayers and thoughts.

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GETFIT2LIVE 6/3/2011 9:23AM

    Of course! Praying for him now, please let us know how he is as you find out updates.

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SHERRYJVP 6/3/2011 8:47AM

    ohhhhh..one of those things in life that seems so unfair. I am so sorry and have already sent prayers for full recovery.

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KIKOOMAGOO 6/3/2011 8:40AM

    I am sending my prayers for Ron and will continue daily. Please also remember to continue taking care of yourself during these days, and I will also be praying for you and Joan.

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TWO-TOO-MUCH 6/3/2011 8:39AM

    Of course...wishing him a speedy and complete recovery.

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JECKIE 6/3/2011 8:38AM

    Many prayers headed his way!

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SAMDJS 6/3/2011 8:35AM

    Prayers for recovery and healing.
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LAURIE5658 6/3/2011 8:26AM

    John, I am so sorry to hear about this. I will be offering my prayers for Ron's recovery.

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TREASURINGLIFE 6/3/2011 8:23AM

    Praying for him...

- Michelle

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FIT-WHIT 6/3/2011 8:19AM

    Oh John, so sorry to hear this. How tragic! My prayers and thoughts are definitely extended to your friend, and all his family and friends (including you). Blessings...

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CUPCAKE2CARROTS 6/3/2011 8:12AM

    Sending prayer and love his way...

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SNOWANGELDIVA 6/3/2011 8:07AM

    Praying for him and his friends.

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GEMGLOW 6/3/2011 8:07AM

    Sorry to hear this...I hope everything turns out well..

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MYGOLDENBOYS3 6/3/2011 7:58AM

    Hoping for the best and also sending prayers.

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LANIEGIRL 6/3/2011 7:53AM

    I will say a prayer for your friend. Hope he is well!

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LIZBUCK1 6/3/2011 7:44AM

    Sorry to hear about your friend will keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

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LYNMEINDERS 6/3/2011 7:41AM

    Prayers coming Rons way.....

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But What About The Things You Do Right?

Tuesday, May 31, 2011


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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5l5soniJ5
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SILLYHP1953 6/4/2011 4:31PM

    Your blog reminded me of a quote by Mother Teresa, "In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love".

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LUVMYK9S 6/3/2011 10:08AM

    Awesome blog John! Thanks for reminding me that the small things do add up and to see what I do that is right rather than continue to dwell on where I've slipped up.

Time to give myself a pep talk and move in the right direction!

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DORIS32 6/2/2011 1:42PM

    thanks! very encouraging!

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NASFKAB 6/1/2011 2:37PM

  Small things always add up

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    Small things sure do add up! emoticon emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 6/1/2011 2:47AM

    Great blog
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LORSI2000 5/31/2011 11:01PM

    AWESOME job with your Diet Soda streak!

Your words really hit home today; THANKS!

You're my "favorite-est!"

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TRACEY5280 5/31/2011 9:59PM

    It's been a struggle lately. Thank you for the reminder that are things that I do right. Your openess and honesty are truly appreciated.

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MARTELLA3 5/31/2011 8:22PM

    I cheered when you turned your back on the Oreo. YAAAAAY.
Your pep talk is exactly what I need as I get back in the saddle after several days.
Thanks for your words of sanity and encouragement.

Marty
P.S. Hope you had a great time at the race!

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KIKOOMAGOO 5/31/2011 4:07PM

    Here's to small steps, successes, achievements, things we do right! And here's to you -- thanks again for a great vlog!

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GEEMAWEST 5/31/2011 3:31PM

    Awesome!! Thanks for reminding me to remember the things I do right.

P.S. I find it really hard to believe that you and Joan have yelled and/or cussed at each other. LOL

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THOMS1 5/31/2011 12:41PM

    Great Blog John emoticon

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TRISTAROSE 5/31/2011 11:46AM

    emoticon Blog emoticon For making me think better of myself!

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GIRANIMAL 5/31/2011 11:13AM

    I love this! Congrats, dear friend, on your soda and french fries victories. We all know change is not easy, and it's hard to give things up in their entirety or nearly so especially when we learn here all about how key moderation is. The messages can be conflicting, but at least in the aspartame poison arena, you are right on!

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And thanks for flashing your genuine smile. I need it today.

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ANEPANALIPTI 5/31/2011 10:17AM

    Wow. I wrote this blog yesterday. CREEPY OR WHAT?????????????wavelength??? you go john!

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MIZZSB 5/31/2011 10:14AM

    can i hug you???

You are such a great motivator!! You always make me think about my life and how my journey is going, and you always make see things in perspective..

Thank you!!

PS. we do argue sometimes as well ;)

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TWO-TOO-MUCH 5/31/2011 10:08AM

    BRAVO! What a terrific vlog! I am so of the same train of thought -- I focus way too much on all the things I do wrong, flogging myself on a regular basis. What I should be doing is patting myself on the back for all the things I've done right! I may even write a blog along these same lines. That's how the battle is won -- small victories. One at a time. Thanks for this and kudos, by the way, for having given up the soda...I did the same almost a year ago. :) See? I did THAT right. You're an inspiration!

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When The Going Gets Tough..................

Monday, May 30, 2011

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SILLYHP1953 6/4/2011 3:17PM

    We are all on different levels of learning in this world, and I try really hard to remember that. Thanks for your thoughts, as usual I appreciate your perspective.

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HANKENSTEIN 5/31/2011 5:35PM

    I have worked with her on things, and she's wonderful for the sport because she not only plays the part of beautiful very well, knowing that all attention is good attention, but she also does everything they ask of her, says provocative, sometimes snippy or playful things and all with a smile.

That said, race fans, by and large, are not the sharpest knives in the drawer by any stretch. I mean, I know many NASCAR fans that root for the car number, or the sponsor, no matter who is driving the car with that number or that sponsor. Odd lot.

Hope you enjoyed it otherwise, John. I've never been.


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GEEMAWEST 5/31/2011 3:39PM

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KEKEIKO 5/31/2011 2:32PM

    There's always going to be someone out there envious of the success of others. The key is to ignore negativity and remember the path you're on and what it took to get there and also to appreciate those that share in your success. Thank you for sharing this video blog. Mom2Piper suggested to view your blog. Strength to you fellow Sparker on your current and future goals. Hugs, Keke

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ANEPANALIPTI 5/31/2011 10:05AM

    PREACHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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GRAMLORI 5/31/2011 9:39AM

    John, you sounded just like I thought you would....so in my opinion, which doesn't matter a bit!! lol....your voice matches your looks. Just thought I'd throw that in.

Your message in this video is fantastic! Very well said, thought provoking, and just plain right. Thank you! Someday, maybe I'll meet you at a race. Probably not, but I'm pleased to count you as a friend, anyway! You have a terrific and blessed day!!
Lori

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MIZZSB 5/31/2011 6:29AM

    John,

Thanks so much for this V blog ...
I dont Danica Patrick, but why in the world would you boo at someone?
Its just shows poor character of that person boo-ing...

YOU ROCK!!

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HLBUSH1 5/31/2011 1:03AM

  John, thanks for the great blog. Just starting spark today and I found great motivation in what you had to say. I needed an obviously intelligent person to "lay it out there" while still being encouraging. Look forward to your future video blogs.

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CINNAMONCAT9 5/31/2011 12:57AM

    Really fun to get to know you through this video.

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SPARKENISTA 5/30/2011 10:50PM

    John--
You make many good points here. I only know Danica Patrick b/c she is the spokesperson for GoDaddy.com. I do know her name. I think it's disgusting that people booed her. She has qualified for one of the most difficult events in racing. She deserves kudos for that. I believe that she came in 10th, which seems like quite an accomplishment.

Did they boo b/c of her comments, language and attitude or b/c she is a woman outshining men? I'm not sure. Nevertheless, it is a throwback to a less enlightened time. I suggest that those critics go out and qualify for the Indy 500 if they have so much to say and let their actions speak for them rather than their negative sides.

Hope you are doing well.

Best,

Merry/Spa
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BLESSED2BEME 5/30/2011 10:47PM

    Thank you for posting this today. I really enjoyed putting a voice to your face! I needed to hear just what you said too:)

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SPARKLISE 5/30/2011 10:17PM

    It was really weird to listen to you speak-that's the first time i do that on sp. Good blog!You always make us think! emoticon

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HDHAWK 5/30/2011 10:01PM

    I would love to see Danica win because she's a woman. We all stumble and make mistakes, even those in the limelight. Everyone gets to see it when they mess up. I was told that I shouldn't enter the challenge I did because it's summer and I won't be able to have fun. If I had waited the next excuse would have been the holidays. The more people told me I couldn't do it, the more motivated I became. emoticon

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TEDYBEAR2838 5/30/2011 9:58PM

    My sound is broke right now so I can't hear you and I can't read lips. But I know it was a great blog!

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NASFKAB 5/30/2011 9:55PM

  Thanks

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Whose Goals Are Your Goals?

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

A friend called to thank me the other day. Heíd just received his bachelorís degree. When I answered the phone his first words were, ďI called to thank you for helping me learn how to set goals the right way.Ē Tim had been out of school for twenty three years before he made the choice to return to college almost five years ago. He made the decision when he attended a budget meeting at work for the very first time and didnít understand what was going on. He and I talked that afternoon and he told me that he was giving serious thought to returning to school. I asked him what his main motivation was. He told me it wasnít about work, or promotions or the like. He was going to do this for himself. The meeting at work was the push he needed to get going on his goals. If good things happened as a result, even the better but he was doing this to improve himself. I smiled then and I smiled when he called me to let me know heíd reached his goal.

I thought a lot about that journey and I came away with a question: Whose goals are my goals?Ē Itís a pretty popular practice to read an article or a blog and get so motivated by someone elseís success that I become convinced that I need to follow their path. Donít get me wrong, I believe in hanging around with motivated, successful people. But how do you think the world would be if everyone looked and acted the same way? How often do I take a deep breath and take stock of John and where he is going, how he plans to get there and what his motivation is for all the hard work and effort. I can be motivated by your desire to participate in an Iron Man. I will applaud you and grin from ear to ear when you achieve your goal, but personally, it has no meaning to me. Yet, how often do I go careening down the path of following someone else simply because ÖÖÖÖ.. Well I guess because I want to be like everyone else. When I think like that I usually donít reach my goal because it has no personal meaning.

Personalizing our goals and objectives super charge them. My friend Tim reminded me of an exercise I had him do in class one day. I gave each person a poster board and a twelve pack of colored pencils. In the center of the poster board I asked them to draw a goal that had special meaning to them. I encouraged them to make it personal. In the four corners of the poster board I asked them to create four benefits of reaching this goal. I asked them to take it home use it as a guide. Tim told me one the benefits he derived was stressing the value of education to his son. He wanted him to attend college after high school and felt by setting a good example his son might follow suit. (You are who you hang around with!!)

My dear friend MSSUNBUG competed in her very first triathlon Saturday. I was so happy and proud for her. A group of friends had lunch Saturday and after she posted her blog I passed my phone around and showed them her results. They were impressed to say the least. I was happy for her but she and I lead different lives. I can share in her joy but a triathlon isnít on the near horizon for me.

She and Tim caused me to look at something I wasnít really comfortable looking at ---- ME!!! I discovered that when I go off willy-nilly pursuing YOUR goals I am simply delaying the inevitable process of examining myself and working on Johnís issues. Lord knows itís easier to work on yours!!! When I set up unrealistic goals for myself I am all but writing failure across them.

MSSUNBUG probably didnít think about a triathlon before she shed one hundred thirty pounds. She took small incremental steps towards reaching personal and meaningful goals that she designed for herself. It was only then, that a triathlon became a possibility. Tim didnít go out and buy a cap and gown the day after he started school. He made the goal his own and earned it.

When I wonít look at my own goals critically I am basically saying Iím not worth the effort. Itís easier to fail at your goals than to succeed at working hard on my own.

So, whose goals are your goals?

  
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VTORIA3 6/1/2011 1:21PM

    Great blog, John. I should have read this first before I posted to your spark page. Whew emoticon I'm no longer feeling any guilt for not setting a higher goal for myself like running in a 5K like John did. It is easy to lose our perspective sometimes....

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MARCYNA 5/31/2011 9:17AM

    I have a goal....be confident with myself but everytime I get near it just fades away....maybe I should sub-categorize it????I'm puzzled emoticonThanks, anyway,great blog!!!!

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GRACIOUSGRAPE 5/30/2011 9:43PM

    I agree with all of the above - brilliant blog, you should write a motivational book. Very thought-provoking and so right on target! And as Lynmeinders states, my own goals aren't easy to attain. I do take inspiration from other's successes and try to incorporate from their success stories those exercises, recipes, etc. that I can utilize in my life with my own goals. Stuff like running a triathlon I leave behind - am glad it worked for them and glad they were successful, but like you, John, it has no place in my goals as I have no interest in achieving that as one of my successes.

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PCOH051610 5/30/2011 5:47PM

    I really don't know what you do for a living but I think you really could be a motivational speaker/writer! Your blogs always make me stop and think and for that, I thank you!

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NANASNOW 5/25/2011 4:14PM

    John, you are a friend who is the wisest! Goals, we know we need to make them. They are ours, but then (if you are like me) you see someone else's goal and go...wow, I like that one! I also suffer from entrťe envy at restaurants. Or when I read a magazine and see the "NEW" Dr. Oz diet and go, ok, I can do that! You know what has worked the best for me? Spark. So, why do I balk at it? Don't know, but John you sure do help! Thanks!

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RACINGSLUG 5/25/2011 2:42PM

    It really is a blessing to be able to share in your thoughts. What a wonderful story about how you encouraged someone to set his own goals. It can be easy, especially on SparkPeople, to feel like we should all be traveling in lockstep, at the same speed, planning to run a Marathon someday, but we're all motivated by different things, so it makes sense that we need to take a step back and really consider whether this is what we want to do.

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SILLYHP1953 5/25/2011 11:01AM

    You write one of the most thought-provoking blogs I read on sparkpeople...I don't even remember how I came across you on here, but I'm sure glad I did. But, I also know that just because you make me think, you do not make me work at my goals or figure them out. I have to do that and I've not been very good at it lately. I do have a goal of having mostly weed-free flower and vegetable beds in the yard and have been diligently working toward that by pulling weeds and mulching every day for the past few weeks. But I've been slacking off from making me eat healthy or doing other exercises besides gardening. I need to figure out what my goals really are, do I even have any real ones?

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NASFKAB 5/25/2011 9:05AM

  Thanks for pointing out to follow our goals not somebody else's

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ONEKIDSMOM 5/25/2011 7:11AM

    emoticon blog, John. It is so true that in order to stay motivated, the goal has to have personal meaning. Been there, done that, with setting goals that were what I thought other people wanted me to be!

Someday, I'll get to the center of the onion... peeling back the layers, and hopefully find out who Barb is and what her *real* mission in life is. In the meantime, living today. One day at a time. emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 5/25/2011 4:59AM

    Brilliant blog.....

I am pleased to say my goals are fully mine and not someone elses....doesn't make them any easier to attain though

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JUNEAU2010 5/24/2011 10:38PM

    My goals seem a lot smaller than other people's goals. I need to give them the respect they deserve so that they will grow in my heart and be stronger!

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CARTOONB 5/24/2011 9:33PM

    I'm really glad that we are all diffent people. I couldn't stand being surrounded by me! LOL!

I guess I don't have goals. Maybe I should get some.

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HDHAWK 5/24/2011 7:52PM

    Excellent point John! I mentioned a challenge I wanted to join to a couple of my friends the other day. I said how have a tiny bit more time for me during the summer so it came along at the right time. They pretty much said summer is a terrible time to do this because...people like to drink more, BBQ, etc. Well, those temptations are always there as well as holidays, bdays, you name it and add some food. I started the challenge on Sunday for me. It's something I've always wanted to do and I am. 3 down, 95 days to go. After that we'll see what goals are next.

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NJMATTICE 5/24/2011 5:09PM

    Mine are mine. Thanks.
Happy Tuesday, John!
Love to you and yours.
-Nancy

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ZURDTA- 5/24/2011 3:28PM

    emoticon

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DEE797 5/24/2011 2:02PM

    What a terrific blog as usual. Really need to think on that "whose goals are your goals"......hhhhmmmmmmmmmm

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BLESSED2BEME 5/24/2011 1:52PM

    Very true but I also feel that by hanging out with the movtivating successful people here that I get great ideas from their goals which in turn help me figure out what I want my goals to be. Some ideas I'd never thought of on my own.

True, healthy goal setting is something I've learned over the process of my journey on spark and I'm very grateful for that!

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MIZZSB 5/24/2011 1:01PM

    Great blog as usual John..

i can recall doing other people's goals or copied their way of fitness routines as it worked for them. This is a good one, are my goals my own goals. Right now i only have weight loss goals bu how do i want to achieve them...?

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GIRANIMAL 5/24/2011 12:45PM

    Ooooh, you've got my wheels turning. I love when you do that. Thanks, John! emoticon

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LORSI2000 5/24/2011 12:23PM

    HOLY BUCKETS did your words hit home with me today, John!

When I think back on several weight loss efforts, I've realized I wasn't a leader; but a follower of someone else's goals.

I certainly have a new set of goals; MY OWN!



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TEDYBEAR2838 5/24/2011 11:43AM

    Good Blog, John. YOu can do for YOU what YOU want to do. I know emoticon

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CALLIKIA 5/24/2011 11:28AM

    I've been learning this more and more lately. Why SHOULD I think that I should be like others? They are not like me...and that's a great thing. We each have unique gifts and talents. I'm more flexible than people 1/3 of my size - that is a UNIQUE talent. (How many 300lb women do YOU know that are able to do the splitz? ...cuz I'm ALMOST there!) So, yes. MY goals are my goals, and I'm going to try to keep focusing on that. I will still allow myself to adopt some of the workout programs that others have been successful at, but I'm letting myself more and more adapt them to suit myself and my needs and my goals.

Wonderful blog, once again. Thank you!

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GETFIT2LIVE 5/24/2011 11:22AM

    Well said, John. Sometimes it is easier to go blindly after someone else's goals than it is to do the hard work of figuring out what my own goals need to be. I have participated in some challenges that did not motivate me at all and did not really help me toward my own goals. That's nothing against the teams or challenges, they are perfect for some people--just not me. It took me awhile to realize that. The longer I go on this journey, the more I am refining my own goals and way of reaching them; I love running and write about it a lot, but I also try to encourage others to look for what THEY love to do. That is the only way you stick with it for the long haul.

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KKINNEA 5/24/2011 10:42AM

    I like these ideas - I try re-examine my goals every once in a while to ensure I am doing what I want to achieve.

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GEEMAWEST 5/24/2011 10:37AM

    I totally agree. Several of my Sparkfriends have tried to get me to join various running teams. I have no desire to run. I don't like it at all. I'll stick with my walking and other things, thank you very much.

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BEATLETOT 5/24/2011 10:30AM

    Thanks for posting this blog. Definite food for thought.

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CIVIAV 5/24/2011 10:18AM

    This isn't something I like to look at. I am an impulsive, jumper in on others goals. But staying the course on Spark has me looking at myself and learning what I like and where goals have personal meaning. This is the crux of creating success.

I've found running again and all of a sudden I am running a 1/2 this weekend. As you say the opportunity showed up and is totally right. What's next? Not yet sure but I know it involves improving my stamina and endurance over the summer. Then we'll see.

Thanks for these great words!

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