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And Then There Is Right Now

Monday, May 23, 2011

I often remind myself to "live in the moment." Between me and you, I achieve it about forty percent of the time. Mostly, I'm regretting past decisions or worrying about a date circled on the calendar three weeks into the future. Rarely do I simply stand on the back porch, take a deep breath and just let the moment wash over me.

Did you ever find yourself secretly investigating one of those "fad diets?" You know what I am talking about, the ones that show a person who shed two hundred pounds in just six weeks and suddenly their lives changed dramatically. I have to admit to you that sometimes I wish that person was me!!! I wish everything would change at the snap of my fingers. I close my office door, access the internet and wonder if the latest rare fruit found in the jungles of Brazil may be exactly the boost I need.

It's boring drinking eight glasses of water every day. Tracking my food gets to be a hassle and a half and when I forget to be perfect and track every last morsel that enters my mouth I get frustrated. My legs and gluts burn when I exercise. I keep this image in my head of a sleeker, trimmer John and honestly I just dont always see him.

I get tired of reading blogs from people who live on dandelion root and fresh water and have this quasi Zen like experience with the Universe and by the way, they never cheat. Not crumb one of cookie, cake or pie, cross their parched lips. It's daunting at best.

But I am here this morning like I am every morning because the minute I boot up I know I have at least one thousand friends here who share my predicament. I'm moderately successful at what I do and that puts me in the same category as many of you. You fight the good fight, battle hard and some weeks it seems like victory is a word you need to look up in the dictionary. But you are here for the very same reason I'm here. You're here to be better. The cool thing about being better is that it means so many different things to all of us.

Living in the moment, in today, gives me hope and joy and while I am probably a lot more critical of myself than I should be at times, it gets me over the hump. So I've decided that today is simply one of those days that I acknowledge me, just as I am.

While I'm at it, I'll include you too.

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WALKNLOVE 5/31/2011 7:50AM

    Think I'll just say "Amen" and try to get back to living in my moment.

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PCOH051610 5/30/2011 5:44PM

    A wonderfully, insightful blog! Thanks!

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TRIPLE_EMME 5/25/2011 1:35PM

    Your blog is really resonating with me, today.


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ONEKIDSMOM 5/25/2011 7:03AM

    Love this blog... it fits my mood today! And being what we are is being what we are... and we're OK!

emoticon One foot in front of the other. Right now.

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REJ7777 5/25/2011 6:54AM

    Thanks for the pat on the back. I needed it this morning.

Yes, I peak at those fad diets, looking for an easy solution I know doesn't exist. emoticon

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DEE797 5/24/2011 2:05PM

    Another blog to get the motors turning and realizing I don't live in the moment, I'm always worried about something either in the past or the future. Need to take a moment and just exist in the here and now. Thanks for the reminder.

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LYNMEINDERS 5/24/2011 5:28AM

    You definitely have a lot of mates on this journey...and most of us feel the same as you do....yay....
The moment ain't too bad......

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MIZZSB 5/24/2011 4:10AM

    your definatly not alone in this.
I dont like to track my food everyday, and 8 glasses of water everyday bleghhhhhh
I am on the Spring 5% challenge and this weeks Living The Good Life is drinking your 8 cups of water, we track this in a topic and some people drink 16 glasses a day!!!!!! excuse me???? yes 16.. that is 4 liters!
I dont even drink 4 liters a day of all the fluids ( water, coke, coffee, tea etc)

And those fad diets, i am just digusted by it. As i know its not true.. it is not possible!!!

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MYADOG1 5/23/2011 11:32PM

    Nice to know I am not alone! emoticon

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CARTOONB 5/23/2011 10:27PM

    You're welcome. I'm one of those folks who misstep and eat sugar and such. emoticon

BTW...I read all the fad diets too. Luckily, they all sound too hard or too stupid or too something so I never actually try them. But I keep reading! There's gotta be a silver bullet out there somewhere, right?

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SILLYHP1953 5/23/2011 8:33PM

    Today I managed to meditate twice, like I'm "supposed" to, and it actually does make a difference. Meditating is all about being in the moment. My mind wanders out of the moment and I bring it back, over and over again, until the mements of being in the now get a little longer.

Thank you for your words. Thank you.

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JUNEAU2010 5/23/2011 8:22PM

    Your blog brings a hymn to mind and I am singing it in my head. What a great way to perk up the day!

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TEDYBEAR2838 5/23/2011 8:09PM

    Amen on the good being good enough!


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MARTELLA3 5/23/2011 6:49PM

    Sometimes we have to let our good be good enough. Some days my "good" is pretty good, Other days... well, you know.

But we keep on fightin', so that in itself makes us winners!


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HDHAWK 5/23/2011 5:03PM

    So true John! Some days I wonder if it's all worth it. The people are what keep me here and keep me going. I can't imagine not keeping track of my spark friends!

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BRENDABUNNY 5/23/2011 2:49PM

    John those are wonderful words I feel like I was sitting here writing the sam ethingas I was reading what you wrote..I mean exactly it is how we all get to feel me sometimes its overwhelming trying so hard and then not getting the exact results that I want for my efforts..anyway great blog and have a wonderful day! emoticon emoticon

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LORSI2000 5/23/2011 2:28PM

    I couldn't have said it better myself!

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ANTIGONAKI 5/23/2011 1:53PM

    John, I am so with you, it is hard to be positive and calm all of the time and we do beat ourselves up for every little thing we forget... I can't even track every day, but I at least try to get in all of my water and produce requirements and hope that it is enough to last me until the next day when I can start over....

I have starved myself, taken appetite suppressants, fat burners, energy thingies, done extreme exercising etc. It's just not the way to go. I admit that I get frustrated and bored plowing through all of this, especially with all of that negativity that surrounds me... My peanut gallery needs to shut up most of the time. I'm glad I have my friends on Spark and my best friend who has lost 100 lb in 18 months and looks fabulous.

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GEEMAWEST 5/23/2011 12:44PM

    Thanks, John. Just what I needed to read today.

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WATERMELLEN 5/23/2011 12:27PM

    Yup. You'll remember "be here now". And: that's all we've got for sure, so we may as well be here now!!

(The "miracle" book which has helped me most . . . is the Judith S. Beck "Diet Solution". No voodoo, not "diet", just some excellent strategies derived from cognitive psychology wht help us stick to doing what we know we need to do: learning to think like a thin person. And . . . with all the enthusiasm of the converted . . . . I do recommend it.)

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TRISTAROSE 5/23/2011 12:25PM

    Good words of wisdom. emoticon

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MAMADWARF 5/23/2011 10:52AM

    Popular blog award, coming up. I totally relate to this and I thank you for writing it. I start my mornings with spark (90% of the time) and it sets the tone for me. It helps keep my head in the game and reading blogs like yours, gives me the boost I need to do the best I can for myself, today and every day. Thanks, John. Simple, straight forward and honest.

(In the beginning, this was soo simple for me. I went months with barely a glitch. As time has gone by, real life (and cookies!) have entered in and it is not always as easy to be strong or to turn away the things we want or "deserve" and sometimes, being just ME has got to be enough. Thanks for the reminder).

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NJMATTICE 5/23/2011 10:46AM

    It's all about the moment. Never know when our moments will end. Gotta take advantage! Thanks for the positive reinforcement du jour!

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GRAMLORI 5/23/2011 10:24AM

    As usual, words of wisdom!! I liked it so much I shared it on FaceBook! Thanks for putting things back into perspective for me! Have a blessed day!!

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HAPPYSOUL91 5/23/2011 10:11AM

    I sure can relate, spent years just waiting for the miracle to occur without any effort on my part.....ah to have a fairy godmother! emoticon

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TIME4AFITME 5/23/2011 9:54AM

    Great blog which I am sure many of is can relate too. It is so great to read your blogs and they have kept me going more then once this past year. Thank you


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CMA444 5/23/2011 9:37AM

    Great blog! I've been in that mindset lately! I really need to keep hearing things like this!

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MOMGABE 5/23/2011 9:36AM

    Thanks for the great blog. I can relate.

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NASFKAB 5/23/2011 9:34AM

  Great blog John. Though I do share the wish for a "miracle food", know it has to be done slowly & steadily. Thanks for putting it in perspective

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MERALO 5/23/2011 9:32AM

    The Quasi-zen lifestyle is not all it's cracked up to be...your (and my) way is better :-)

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MADTHENURSE 5/23/2011 9:32AM

    As hard as it can be sometimes, we do need to be happy with who we are, as we are. We are working on improving our selves - which is something to be proud of - no matter how long it takes us to get to that person we envision as the perfectly sized version of ourself. More importantly, it doesn't mean that we can't enjoy the moment until we get there! I remind myself all the time to "suck it up and have fun!"

Have a great day!

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SPARKENISTA 5/23/2011 9:29AM

    Great blog, John! Haven't heard from you recently--I miss you!

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BTINTERNET 5/23/2011 9:19AM

    Happy Monday John!

I share that secret wish for the miracle-diet-fruit-fad but at the same time we know that we can only do our best, and most of the time that's good enough! *hugs*

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Observations and Updates

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Observation: My thirty three year old son and I had a late supper Thursday night. He usually works second shift so the opportunity to sit and talk is far and few between. Half way through dinner he looked across the table and commented: “You know dad, the problem with you baby boomers is that you won’t embrace your mortality!! You people think you are going to live forever. Get over it, you’re gonna die someday. “Well hopefully not anytime soon.

Update: As I write I have been soda free for twelve days. Tuesday will make two full weeks. I am proud. In a way, I am glad I had the tobacco withdrawal to go through six years ago. This is very similar in how it presents itself. I am not a coffee drinker, so diet soda was my caffeine boost in the morning. I crave one every morning, no matter what I am doing. It lasts about fifteen minutes and then it gets bored and goes away. It returns between four and five in the evening. Very odd, lol. Like tobacco I can be blind-sided without warning. This morning after church I went to the grocery to get eggs. As I passed the soda display I was over whelmed with this craving that can only be described as passionate. The freaky thing was that immediately thereafter, I wanted a cigarette.

Observation: Do you know that no one knows what is in MSG? I have always had sensitivity to that additive. It will manifest itself with a head ache or a very dry mouth. I had lunch with one of my daughters Thursday and had what appeared to be a harmless turkey sandwich, with tomatoes and lettuce. About two hours later not only was my head pounding and my mouth feeling like a candle wick but I would have robbed Kroger for a diet soda. I had this image of me backing out the door with a twelve pack of Coke Zero and a loaded gun pointed at the clerk muttering, “Everyone relax and no one gets hurt.” So I went home and Google searched MSG and aspartame. There is a connection but no one can definitively say why because no one knows what is in MSG. It’s a secret.

Update: Our basement is dry. Well ninety percent dry. I am waiting another week to make sure the walls are totally dried out before we paint, carpet, vinyl and get a new toilet. It appears that my insurance will pay nothing. The clearest explanation I received goes something like this: FEMA covers front water. The Ohio River would have to over flow and end up in my basement for FEMA to cover my damage. Given my distance from the river in order for that to happen the whole town would be under water. Home owners insurance covers back water, or water that backs up from the storm sewer. Ground water is covered by me!! Guess what invaded my house? Yup, ground water.

Observation: You are all wonderful people.

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PCOH051610 5/30/2011 5:41PM

    Sorry to hear about your basement! So proud of you, however, for going soda free! Wow! I don't drink much (maybe 6 cans a week) but that is probably too much given whats in the stuff. MSG can cause some very weird side effects, can't it.

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TRIPLE_EMME 5/25/2011 1:33PM

    Congrats on being two-weeks soda free! That really is impressive.

So sorry to hear about how the financial burden of the repairs is on you for all of the flooding.


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CMBELISLE 5/24/2011 9:25AM

    No one thinks to have flood insurance when they live on the highest spot in the neighborhood like I do, but when we had the 100 year rains two years ago, even we were wishing we'd had it because we got ground water in our basement too. The water table just got too high. We were really lucky though - it seems to have only destroyed the carpet padding and we were able to save the carpet. Best of luck to you with the cleaning and re-painting.

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-CORAL- 5/23/2011 1:28PM

    Bad news about your house. 2 weeks w/out diet soda? Torture. Great job.

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WIGIME 5/23/2011 10:33AM

    I don't drink a lot of soda, but I did quit smoking about 10 years ago. I know what you are going through, but I also know that you can HANG TOUGH!

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PROT358 5/23/2011 12:01AM

    Congratulations of nearly two weeks soda free! I stopped drinking pop when I joined spark, but I was never much of an addict so I never missed it. But now if I have just a small amount, it makes me violently nauseous. There is definitely something very bad in there. Glad you found the strength to quit!

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GIRANIMAL 5/22/2011 11:49PM

    LOL - I've been on a sort-of fast/cleanse of sorts for three days now, and my caffeine and sugar withdrawal have been fierce! I woke up from a nap today and had similar visions about gnawing someone's arm off if I didn't get a cookie RIGHT NOW! Yikes.

And you're on nearly two weeks?! I have a renewed appreciation for your impressive struggle, dear friend! emoticon

I get what your son is saying, but I tell my BF this: I am not trying to be immortal. I'm just trying to feel better while I'm here.

I gave up MSG and aspartame years ago because I get wicked migraines and I generally don't like paying someone to poison me. Scary stuff. I hate to tell you - most deli meats contain nitrates, and it is equally nasty stuff. I fear that may have been the source of your reaction. emoticon Unless is was Splenda in the bread, which is also a pet peeve of mine. I know you were dining out this time, but read your bread labels - it goes by "sucralose." I'd hate to see you undo your hard work kicking the aspartame by letting another chemical sneak in.

Keep it up, bro! You're doing great. emoticon

So sorry about your basement costs. Insurance is mostly a scam if you ask me. I have never understood the lack of flood coverage. It's stories like these that make me glad to still be a renter. *sigh*

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KT-NICHOLS-13 5/22/2011 11:40PM

    Great job on the soda John. I think of you daily and send out good thoughts into the universe as you kick the habit ... it is difficult.

MSG! I had to giggle. My husband is Jamaican and as we shopped at one of the local supermarkets there I came across a bulk bin section. In one of the bins they sold MSG. I stopped and stared for a hot minute until I was being noticed by the locals.

Sorry to hear about the flooding and lack of outside coverage.

Be well!

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LYNMEINDERS 5/22/2011 10:42PM

    You are so so one knows what MSG is do they?????that is really thought provoking...we could be eating anything these days......
I sometimes think some of the 3rd world countries as thye are called have far better quality food than the west does.....

Glad you basement is recovering and drying out....
Insurances are fascinating aye!!!! especially when one wants them to pay for something......
Thats when we find all these loop holes they didn't tell us about when we signed

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MIRACLELOVE77 5/22/2011 9:23PM

    That's crazy, I can't believe no one knows what's in MSG even though it's in so many foods--it could be something terribly terribly bad and we don't even know it. Congrats on kicking your habit of diet coke one day at a time, that's awesome! :) And I'm sorry to hear about the flooding, it sucks when you have insurance and find out it covers less than you thought (happened with my car recently when I got hit).

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SILLYHP1953 5/22/2011 8:29PM

    12 days!!! What an accomplishment! And your awareness, your ability to stop and feel and let it be...very inspiring. What do you mean it's a secret what's in MSG? How is that possible? I had a bowl of cereal a week or so ago and noticed shortly after how dry my mouth was, and I did associate it with the cereal but didn't go further than that in my thinking. Very interesting.

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MOMKAT4310 5/22/2011 7:10PM

    There has certainly been enough water. Flooding creeks, storm drains, etc. Although I live on top of a ridge, in the past we have had the ground water issue. Just my problem. For that, I have had a wet/dry shop vac for 37 years. ARGH
And I remember when everyone of my mom's era was putting MSG (Brand name ACCENT) in foods cooked at home. Yuck.

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HDHAWK 5/22/2011 6:34PM

    I love the image of you backing out of a store with your Coke Zero! You're doing very well John! Keep it up!
Sorry to hear about the disappointing insurance news.

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JECKIE 5/22/2011 5:45PM

    Oof. That sounds like a pretty lame excuse from the insurance company. Sometimes they irritate me!

And good for you for the soda. I won't give up my coffee. Nope nope. Just won't do it.

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NJMATTICE 5/22/2011 5:34PM

    Observation: you seem to be bearing your many pains with grace. Exemplary behavior, John. Here's to a wonderful week ahead.

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KIKOOMAGOO 5/22/2011 5:32PM

    I am glad to hear your basement is drying out- the same thing happened to my father's basement once. We had to have the foundation dug out and resealed from the outside, and paint the inside. I am also glad to hear you are winning the diet soda war- truly you can conquer the world now!
The whole MSG thing gets me too with migraines at the very least and full blown sick at the worst. Fortunately the latter hasn't happened in many years. Even salad bars which are supposed to be good for you can have it.
Enjoy your week!

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CARTOONB 5/22/2011 5:22PM

    Congrats on the no soda thing! You are kicking butt! Sorry about the ground water. Dang it!

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CHAITEAKITTY40 5/22/2011 4:23PM

    I have migraines and two of my biggest triggers are MSG and aspartame. Scary stuff and in so much more than you think. Glad you basement is at least drying out. I'm sorry you can't get more help with the cleaning up.

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Learning From A Five Year Old

Friday, May 20, 2011

Somewhere in my reading yesterday I found a passage that suggested if you were looking for true wisdom, find a five year old to talk to. I was fortunate in this respect because my granddaughter had her end of the year kindergarten super-duper musical special last night. She and approximately forty other five year olds took us on a journey through letter, color and number land. They provided a few shakes a few shimmies and a lot of pointing, waving and covering their mouths with laughter. For about thirty minutes last night insurance adjusters, missed Spark rallies and any other earthly woe took a distant back seat. If you’re having issues in life just bend over really far, then straighten up, then lift your hands towards the sky and sing. You may bounce if you so choose.

There is no pretension in being five. They walked up on the stage like a herd of cattle. Despite the teacher’s pleas to get ready, they got ready when they finished saying hello to each other, waving to mom, dad and grandparents. Then, with all the important things out of the way they began to sing. When they were tired of singing they might stop and make an observation. One even asked rather loudly “When is this going to be over?” They know what’s important. When they were finished singing they moved quickly and with cat like precision towards the cookies and juice. They have learned, in their brief life that family, friends and a good deal of bending and stretching will carry you far. They have learned that laughter and just being goofy sometimes can cure a multitude of woes.

As I was driving home I thought of something I read many years ago. I’d like to share it with you. Its Robert Fulghum’s “Everything I Needed To Know I Learned In Kindergarten.”

" Most of what I really need
To know about how to live
And what to do and how to be
I learned in kindergarten.
Wisdom was not at the top
Of the graduate school mountain,
But there in the sandpile at Sunday school.

These are the things I learned:

Share everything.
Play fair.
Don't hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess
Don't take things that aren't yours.
Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
Live a balanced life -
Learn some and think some
And draw and paint and sing and dance
And play and work every day some.
Take a nap every afternoon.
When you go out into the world,
Watch out for traffic,
Hold hands and stick together.
Be aware of wonder."

Be blessed today.

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KIKOOMAGOO 5/22/2011 5:46PM

    Thanks for reminding me of the good things about 5 yr olds. My son is 5 so it's more of the I'm bored, I'm hungry, no fair, and you're so mean that I get. We did have a fun day today with a neighborhood ice cream social, and playing outside. The You're so Mean will come when it's time to come in. I'm gonna miss this someday!

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KAZINMICH 5/21/2011 11:54PM

    I've always loved that writing, it's so true. The beautiful innocence of children!

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MARCYNA 5/21/2011 2:07PM

    I need to spend more time with my 5 1/2 years old nephew. I know he knows better. I might as well learn from him.
Thanks for sharing such a funny episode & poem emoticon

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LMLOPEZ 5/21/2011 9:39AM

    I think more people in this world need to follow those kindergarten rules. Thanks for sharing!

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LYNMEINDERS 5/21/2011 7:06AM

    Thats awesome....something we all need to remember...thankyou

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KIN59VARA 5/21/2011 4:02AM

    Thanks for the reminder, it was a great way to start my day!

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NASFKAB 5/21/2011 12:04AM

  Thanks a lot

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DEE797 5/20/2011 9:53PM

    Love this blog. Never read his I will see if my library has them.

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DAD2GETFIT 5/20/2011 9:15PM

    Too true..I've read a number of Fulghum's books they're all good.

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KELLY40222 5/20/2011 8:41PM

    Sad how we forget the most important and simple rules to live by.

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JUNEAU2010 5/20/2011 8:27PM

    Five is such a perfect age! I love this blog!

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CARTOONB 5/20/2011 8:27PM

    Great lesson!

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KIMMARIE11 5/20/2011 8:11PM

    That was an excellent for us all. Thank you for posting those words to live by.

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    I really enjoyed reading that - thanks! emoticon

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KSGROTHE 5/20/2011 4:58PM

    emoticon emoticon for sharing! It sounds like you had a wonderful time at your granddaughter's show!

- Karen

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LORSI2000 5/20/2011 4:07PM

    I love it when I get an email message that you have posted another blog!
Love your stories and inspiration!

p.s. How is the sugar-free gig going?


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SILLYHP1953 5/20/2011 3:50PM

    When and why and how do we forget those most important things?

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TKDABRUNZ 5/20/2011 1:50PM

    My 7 and 5-year-old's are always presenting me with some jems. Their actions are always reminding me not to take myself too seriously.

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DEBRITA01 5/20/2011 1:23PM

    Oh, to see the world again through the eyes of a child...we all could learn a lot! Thanks for sharing...

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GETFIT2LIVE 5/20/2011 12:21PM

    Perspective--that is what a five-year-old can provide. We NEED to be reminded from time to time what is really important in life. Glad your granddaughter and her classmates could brighten your evening and life a bit!

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HDHAWK 5/20/2011 12:10PM

    So glad you had a wonderful time!

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PCOH051610 5/20/2011 12:07PM

    I just loved this blog! I especially loved the comment from the child who asked "when is this going to be over". How often have we sat in church, in meetings, etc and thought the very same thing?!

Thanks for this insightful blog!

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TRIPLE_EMME 5/20/2011 11:56AM

    Love this blog!!!

I am blessed to live and share my life with my beloved, Little Miss Toddler.


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TEDYBEAR2838 5/20/2011 11:55AM

    So much wisdom for ALL of us!
thanks John

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CANDOK1260 5/20/2011 11:53AM

    great blog thanks

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With Regret

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

I am not going to be able to attend the Spark Rally this weekend. With the recent damage to our home because of some flooding, this just happens to be the weekend the insurance adjsuter and a few contractors will be coming by. As good as I am I cant be in two places at once.

I was really looking forward to meeting some of you. Maybe some other time.

I hope those of you attending have a really good weekend

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BOHEMIANCAT 5/20/2011 9:57PM

    I am truly sorry that you were in the flood. I am praying for you and your family.

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MUSIC66 5/20/2011 9:48PM

    sorry your house flooded our house flooded in the january floodes in toowoomba

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SILLYHP1953 5/20/2011 3:52PM

    I wish there would be a spark rally closer to me, how do we find out about these spark rallies? Baltimore or Washington or Philadelphia would be close enough, but some fun place like Ocean City, Maryland or Rehoboth Beach, Delaware would be really close!!!

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LYNMEINDERS 5/19/2011 11:36PM

    Thats sad John....however I am sure other opportunities will come along....

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GIRANIMAL 5/19/2011 3:55PM

    That stinks. But I am selfish and would be way more sad if I were actually going to be there. emoticon

Really, I'm sorry to hear this. I know you would very much have enjoyed it.

Good luck with all the insurance folks! Thinkin' about you, dear friend. emoticon

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KIKOOMAGOO 5/19/2011 8:35AM

    You are lucky to live in a place where there are Spark Rallies! I'm sure there will be another one soon. I'm sorry you have to miss this one - you certainly would be on many people's 'have to meet' list! emoticon

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INDIANOAKS 5/19/2011 8:31AM

    BUMMER!! I am attending the Rally and read your blogs on and off so was looking forward to finding you at the Rally to shake your hand (LOVE your writing style)!!!!

I'm so sorry you're dealing with flooding issues! Thankfully YOU are safe -- but don't envy you dealing with the "aftermath"! Hopefully the insurance and contractor meet ups go smoothly!

Enjoy your weekend -- Rally or no Rally!! Take care!

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TEDYBEAR2838 5/19/2011 7:03AM

    Yup, life does get in the way. Or as I say : Life Happens!

It's ok because you are where you are supposed to be at this point in time.
It all has a way of working out


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REJ7777 5/19/2011 6:33AM

    I'm sorry about the damage to your home and that you won't make it to the Spark rally. emoticon
I hope that everything works out well with the contractors and adjustor. emoticon

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MRE1956 5/19/2011 6:30AM

    $#!@# flooding = gotta HATE that.....there'll likely be flooding in certain areas where I'm from, but for now it looks like I shouldn't have to worry (other than perhaps a puddle or two in the basement - my commute should be OK) sorry you're dealing with all that .......

Hopefully you'll get another chance to rally soon.....

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NASFKAB 5/19/2011 6:24AM

  So sorry to know that you cant make it

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JRZG8R 5/19/2011 12:32AM

    darn sorry to hear this.

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CARTOONB 5/18/2011 10:47PM

    I'm so sorry that you can't go. Life can so get in the way sometimes.

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HDHAWK 5/18/2011 10:41PM

    I debated and debated about trying to make it work. I finally checked and there were no more tickets. Probably crazy to drive 20 hrs. in a weekend anyway. Must have been fate because it wouldn't have been worth going if I didn't get to meet you John! Hope you get the insurance taken care of and it goes your way!

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GEEMAWEST 5/18/2011 10:26PM

    Oh John, I'm so very sorry. I know you were really looking forward to it.
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JUNEAU2010 5/18/2011 9:32PM

    I was a member of that team when it launched, thinking I'd be able to make the trip. My wallet is not big enough!

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Sticker Shock

Monday, May 16, 2011

Joan and I took our grand daughter to the movies yesterday afternoon. It was a Disney flick, about the lions in Africa. She really wanted to see it. She's five and she really got scared so thank goodness it was only ninety minutes long. Before the movie started we went to get some popcorn and Joan wanted a drink. Our movie complex does the popcorn/Coke special for nine bucks. A tub of popcorn that would feed a third world country and a drink that needs three people to carry it to your seat for you. If that's not enough you get "free refills!!!" The drink by itself costs two bucks and is about thirty two ounces.

I'm next in line. Being in my fifth day with no diet soda, which I successfully navigated and am now in day six, I was going to get a bottle of water. The young man behind the counter asked me if I'd like a large or small bottle. I said large. He said "Gimme five bucks."Well he didnt put it that way but he might as well have. A large bottle of water held a whole sixteen ounces. BTW: No Refills!!

I sat in my seat pondering the whole transaction. For two bucks I can get poisoned, over and over again, as long as I'm at the movies. If I make a healthy choice and drink water I pay through the nose. Am I the only one that's miffed by this?

BTW: I do not live in LA, Chicago or New York. A bottle of water at the grocery costs a dollar and a half

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MOMKAT4310 5/22/2011 7:20PM

    I got two new BPA free water bottles this spring. half a gallon each. I carry them to work, and usually drink both in a day. I talk to my students all day long, and for them to model speech. (most are non-speaking). I also refuse to buy water. I have great water at home, nice deep well. I so understand the conundrum of cheap soda.

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CATHERINEL66 5/19/2011 12:45PM

    LOL, so, I go everywhere with a water bottle in my purse and refill at water fountains as needed. It's how I travel (dump the water out for airline security) and basically how I live ... I HATE to pay for water and I drink like a gallon a day or something ridiculous. The fancy no-calorie yum berry drinks are also cost prohibitive.

My DH is a pop/soda addict (BADLY) and has sticker shock everytime he tries to wean off to something healthy. :( Poison and fast food are cheap and just fuel the obesity "epidemic".

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WORKINGSTIFF 5/19/2011 9:59AM

    Oh, yeah, it can cost you to eat/drink healthy's cheaper dollar-wise to eat junk, thus, our country is in the situation that it's in-full of unhealthy, overweight people!

It shouldn't have to take a master's degree in finance to figure out how to afford to eat healthy foods...

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KIKOOMAGOO 5/19/2011 8:40AM

    And... you can't bring your own water and some baby carrots in with you! (well, you aren't supposed to!)

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LYNMEINDERS 5/18/2011 6:56PM

    This is somehting that bugs me as well...
I live in New Zealand and we pay around $2.50 -$3.00 NZ for a 750 ml water......I can buy a 2 litre of coke for less than that......

I really liked it when I was in Addis Ababa in was 48 bir....equivalent to $3 american dollars for 6 2litre bottles in a pack.....

I wonder which country is actually the third world one sometimes!!!!!!!!!lol....

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TRIPLE_EMME 5/18/2011 2:13PM

    You are not alone at being miffed by this.

I'm proud of you for resisting the pop and drinking the healthy (albeit expensive) alternative.

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PCOH051610 5/18/2011 9:11AM

    $5.00 is a bit much for water, isn't it, yet the stuff that isn't good for you is always much cheaper....price wise! I think you have to think of it price-wise versus health-wise. It is frustrating all the same, isn't it!

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LUVMYK9S 5/17/2011 5:07PM

    I'm a little late commenting on your blog, but YES it is one of my pet peeves too! The first time I asked for bottled water at the movies concession I was shocked that a 16oz. bottle was $5 so I asked for an empty cup (FREE) and I filled it up at the water fountain (FREE REFILLS LOL). I'm not really a penny pincher (which I should be) but when the movies snacks cost more than dinner for 4 I think it is a bit ridiculous!

BTW, my son is almost 10 years old so that last movie we went to see was Thor in 3D -- why does it seem that EVERY new movie that comes out these days is 3D? Personally I really prefer HD or Digital ...

Kudos John for sticking with no diet soda!

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AMYMOHIO 5/17/2011 3:55PM

    *sigh* This always sucks. I just try to remember what Jillian Michaels says... that it's still cheaper then having one of the diseases the bad stuff causes.


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LORSI2000 5/17/2011 1:05PM

    I just LOVE your blogs, John!
Thanks for another great one.
And, everything you said, is SO TRUE!

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MYOWNHERO 5/17/2011 8:58AM

    Yeah...I smuggle in a water bottle and some pretzels to the movies. I just can't bring myself to pay that much for water!

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SILLYHP1953 5/16/2011 9:21PM

    I took my granddaughter to the movies this weekend, too! But we saw Soul Surfer, which was actually really good, I wasn't sure what to expect. I drank a bottle of water, too, but think it was only $3.00, but I ate a lot of popcorn!!!

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JUNEAU2010 5/16/2011 9:20PM

    That's nuts!

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GIRANIMAL 5/16/2011 8:04PM

    Oooh, this really makes me mad. I can't remember right now which movie it is -- maybe "Food Inc." -- in which there's the interview with the family of four who work like dogs yet make little money and are all overweight because they often have to opt for the $1 menu at a fast food joint because broccoli is more expensive and does not in itself constitute a meal. It's just maddening to me.

I'm sorry you paid $5 for water -- water! the one thing we cannot live without yet have to pay (lots) for! -- but kudos to you for putting one more day's notch into your sugar-free-free belt. emoticon

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PROT358 5/16/2011 7:30PM

    I sneak my own snack/drink in the theater. I stuff it in my coat pockets during the winter or my purse in the summer. You could get away with a briefcase or a tote bag if you brought your wife. But I agree that it is unjust too charge so much more for water as opposed to soda. Maybe because you are paying for the bottle itself, as opposed to something disposable, and because bottled water in general is expensive and they have to make a profit? But surely it doesn't need to cost five dollars. Not fair!

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GO-LOEW 5/16/2011 5:56PM

    I am almost always miffed by the way we can be poisoned and the various industries producing the junk get to call it food. I was just on my soap box going on about kids breakfast cereals. *hopping off soap box*

Glad you made the right decision. Your revenge will be your success without their silly treats!

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HDHAWK 5/16/2011 5:16PM

    Seems to be the way it is. I suppose because most people don't make the healthier choice. Good for you for doing it anyway John!

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HEALTHY4ME 5/16/2011 5:15PM

    Good for you and for buying the water but you ar so right it is so wrong....... govt goes on and on about obesity, and getting our kids to eat and drink right yet they throw it back on us.
I am with you Water. my dd gets so frustrated as she would rather water but hates to pay the price.
Good going!

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MIZZSB 5/16/2011 4:37PM

    i dont get it either!
Unhealthy food and drinks are so cheap and the healthy stuff is way more expensive. But 5 $$???? Thats outrageous.

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TKDABRUNZ 5/16/2011 3:38PM

    I totally agree! For what they charge at the movies for popcorn I can go to the grocery store and buy a bag of unpopped kernels and still have money left over.

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DEBRITA01 5/16/2011 1:56PM

    It IS amazing how *junk food* is cheaper (not saying that movie treats are cheap) and how costly the healthier alternatives are. And we wonder why America is getting fatter? I better get off my soapbox before I get carried away...Just wanted to say, I agree...

I typically smuggle in my own drink and/or treats for that very reason...I refuse to pay $ for junk or $5 for a water! Glad you chose the more expensive drink...the cheaper drink would have *cost* you in the long run... emoticon

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CINDYC53 5/16/2011 1:53PM

    That is SO WRONG!! I agree with Becky, that making the healthy choice more expensive is part of the reason people make poor food choices.

So glad you did the right thing!!


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GEEMAWEST 5/16/2011 1:30PM

    Unbelievable! That's one of the many reasons I don't go to the theater. I wait for the movie to come out on DVD and relax in my own living room.

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BSTAKINGACTION 5/16/2011 12:02PM

    This kind of stuff really irks me. That's why many of those living in poverty have such horrible health problems. Healthy food/drink choices are not accessible to them at reasonable costs. Its a total travesty and an embarrassment our country should own up to soon.

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THECRAZYMANGO 5/16/2011 11:34AM

    I really liked KRICKET4's comment until I was picturing you with a big purse. Do you they'd be onto you if you had a big purse? Tehehe!

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CIVIAV 5/16/2011 11:25AM

    The wonders of our modern civilization.

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JAKEANDNELLIE 5/16/2011 11:07AM

    Soda - $2.00
Water - $5.00
Good choices and a healthy, longer life - PRICELESS!

I guess it's true what Grandpa always said - "You gotta pay for the good things in life so pay with a smile on your face!"
Stay positive!

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KENDRACARROLL 5/16/2011 10:54AM

    Never buy anything at the movie theater; that's what big purses are for :)

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GETFIT2LIVE 5/16/2011 10:50AM

    It's wrong, but it's also pretty typical most places. Yes, it annoys me too--no wonder as a society we are getting wider when it is cheaper and easiesr to get juunk than to get something reasonably healthy!

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LADYLAUGHS247 5/16/2011 10:40AM

  That is just not right. But I'm sure the mark up on the water is just because it is healthier. Think of the money the movie theater is raking in by charging so much for a bottle of water. It drives me crazy to think on it.

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LADYHAWKE12 5/16/2011 10:03AM

  That is horrible! Good for you for sticking to your health plan!!! emoticon

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HAPPYSOUL91 5/16/2011 9:51AM

    I am amazed how much people eat in the show. Out here you see nachos, hot dogs and pretzels go by all the time

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GRAMLORI 5/16/2011 8:59AM

    Good for you....sticking to the healthy stuff, no matter the cost. I figure that if I will pay for the bad stuff, why argue about paying for the good stuff. But you're right, these transactions show the warped view the world has now on what people should do. Those vendors know what buttons to push. No wonder obesity is at epidemic proportions! Sad, but true. Have a blessed week, anyway!

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NASFKAB 5/16/2011 8:54AM

  That's so annoying a bottle of water costing more than a soda. REALLY!!!!!

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NJMATTICE 5/16/2011 8:50AM

    I can't tell you the last time I went to the movies. I am way too cheap. My standard line is "I'll wait for it to come out in DVD." It's a shame, but I can't support the movie going lifestyle. It is outrageously expensive. But if it was quality time with your granddaughter, it was worth the dollars.
Have a great week, John.

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BLESSED2BEME 5/16/2011 8:42AM

    I'm with you! It really ticks me off when water costs more than soda.

Good for you on being soda free for 6 days now! I keep trying to give it up and I cave at about the 5 day point.


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CAHUNO2 5/16/2011 8:38AM

    You did great with that temptation!! And yes it costs more to be healthy emoticon the Body Fat Solution by Tom Venuto how all that works. Just company's out to make money and making America fat as a result emoticon

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    Eating healthy is so much more expensive than eating crap. It isn't fair one bit.

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DOLLBABE56 5/16/2011 8:34AM

    Wow! Has it been that long since I've been to the movies? Yep. No wonder people smuggle food in. I guess the last time we went to the movies was right before Mike's heart attack, which was in 2003. One of the Harry Potter movies. emoticon

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TEDYBEAR2838 5/16/2011 8:11AM

    It does seem a bit OUTRAGEOUS doesn't it? I never buy stuff at the movies. It's hard enough to get the money to go, let alone give their prices. We always go out to eat afterwards.

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MKPRINCESS007 5/16/2011 8:07AM

    No, you aren't the only one miffed. It stinks! I have wondered the same thing, or for that matter, maybe there could be something on the counter that isn't totally outrageous for fat/calories? People will say "bring stuff in your purse" but I just don't roll that way.

I am with you, 100%!


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