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Go Your Own Way

Thursday, May 05, 2011

I once told my children that if you didn’t get out of bed until eight am the day was already half over. Joan would look at them through the steam of her coffee and let them know that while they should always respect their father, what I just said was a matter of opinion. I am out of bed and ready to go no later than six am. I have a to-do list and I am at my most effective for the remainder of the day when I can accomplish things early on. It gives me confidence. It makes me focused and I have a clear vision of my purpose. I track my food much better and I am more apt to exercise. Before I go to bed each evening I pretty much know the first five things I need to do when I get up in the morning. When I live this way, no one can stop me. I, you see, have a plan.

Joan, on the other hand, gets out of bed when she is done sleeping. Her first order of business is coffee followed by Matt Lauer. If she doesn’t have to work in the morning she and Matt have multiple cups of coffee followed by the newspaper. A shower comes, when it comes, unless she has to work. We have a kitchen table that seats eight. The kids are grown and gone but it still seats eight. Joan and I eat on about a quarter of the table. The rest if it is piled with her “stuff.” The only time she has ever threatened to leave me is if I mess with her “stuff.”

We have two totally separate ways of approaching life and we both are very successful people. We have different ways of communicating and we are both extremely effective in getting our message across. There isn’t anything either one of us wont tackle, we choose to wrap our arms around it a different way.

There is not only one way to do things. I could probably have put that a bit more eloquently but the simpler the better. There is no one way to lose weight and maintain a healthy life style. I am a flexetarian. Joan has never met a piece of beef she doesn’t like. I exercise daily, she exercises three or four times a week. We are fortunate that we have learned two things over thirty seven years of marriage. The first is to respect each other’s views and choices and the second is not to get taken in by every fad and idea that comes around the corner.

It took me awhile to realize those things. I would always look at other people and how they did things and measure myself against their achievements. I always came up lacking. That was their life style it wasn’t mine. The first thing I did was totally embrace John, warts and all. I realized that I wasn’t hurting anyone getting out of bed at five am to start my day. I get seven hours sleep and I do fine with it.

Go your own way. Find the things that truly convince you that this journey is worth all the effort and above and beyond everything else ---------------- be the extremely unique you that you were created to be.
That is why I love you so very much. Now------------------ Go celebrate who you are.

Shoot, the day’s half over. I gotta go.

  
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SILLYHP1953 5/16/2011 8:33PM

    This is something that needs work in my life...figuring out who I really am, not being scared to see the real me and let other people see the real me.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/11/2011 1:40PM

    My hubby is a night owl and I'm a morning person so we have to compromise. LOL.

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_AIYANNA_ 5/10/2011 4:12PM

    Although I like sleeping in from time to time - mostly because I rarely have to luxury to do so, I must admit that nothing beats getting an ealy start to your day :)

I love the way that your blogs make me want to become a better person in every way... Thank you, John!!!

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GIRANIMAL 5/10/2011 3:44PM

    I'm really starting to get this after 7 years with my beloved too. Thanks for the more in-depth insight!

Also, I see there are a lot of fellow Fleetwood Mac fans out there. Rock on! I have to go listen to this song now. emoticon

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MARCYNA 5/9/2011 3:39AM

    Loving you isn't the right thing to do
How can I ever change things that I feel?
If I could, maybe I'd give you my world
How can I, when you won't take it from me?
You can go your own way, go your own way
You can call it another lonely day
You can go your own way, go your own way
Tell me why everything turned around?
Packing up, shacking up, is all you wanna do
If I could baby I'd give you my world
Open up, everything's waiting for you
You can go your own way, go your own way
You can call it another lonely day
You can go your own way, go your own way

You can go your own way, go your own way
You can call it another lonely day (Another lonely day)
You can go your own way, go your own way
You can call it another lonely day

You can go your own way
You can call it another lonely day
You can go your own way



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TRACEY5280 5/6/2011 6:38PM

    Always so important to remember. I've traveled the route of looking at how it's done by others and always come up lacking. Glad I'm on a different route these days! My Bill is your Joan :)

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CATHERINEL66 5/6/2011 1:43PM

    Nice! I am a morning person too, and when I look at other people, I have to remind myself to not project my own preferences on them! My DH is a morning slacker (did I say that?).

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LORSI2000 5/6/2011 1:19PM

    LOVE IT!

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KENDRACARROLL 5/6/2011 11:07AM

    Love your blog.
It took me almost half a century to figure out that "My way or no way" might be a funny saying but is quite the opposite if practiced.
There is much wisdom in your words.

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NASFKAB 5/6/2011 6:09AM

  Great blog glad that you both live each with their way. Never had thatj

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DUTCHIEKIWI 5/5/2011 11:51PM

    Love this blog!

It's so true, we are all so different...

Looks like I am a mixture of the two of you lol,

up early at the crack of dawn, but look forward to my morning coffee.

and the 'stuff' thing... same here!! ;0)

Thanks for sharing your opinion... now I'll go and find mine ;0)

Dutchie

xoxox

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CARTOONB 5/5/2011 11:20PM

    My dad used to tell me the same thing...day half over at eight. I will still sleep as late as I can...every day! But, on the days I do get up, it's amazing the stuff I get done! I guess I'll just keep doing what works for me! Hope you do as well.

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JUNEAU2010 5/5/2011 11:04PM

    This might be my favorite of your blogs!

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KAZINMICH 5/5/2011 10:40PM

    Oh! I almost forgot, I have Fleetwood Mac's lyrics stuck in my head now!!! "you can go your own way.." lol

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KAZINMICH 5/5/2011 10:38PM

    I really like this blog. I try to explain to my single friends that my husband I are two separate people living our lives together. We choose to be with each other, live together and do things together, but we are still our own selves. My husband and I are alike in some ways, and completely different in others. We do think differently, process things differently, do things differently, but usually come up with the same end results or ideas! My weaknesses are his strengths, and vice versa. I think that balance, that respect, and differences combined with the things we do have in common are what makes a wonderful lasting relationship.

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CMHARRISON12 5/5/2011 10:27PM

    Thank you John, you help us all so very much. I love that our differences often bring us to the love we seek! Keep telling your truths and the rest of us benefit!

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SNOOPYLUV85 5/5/2011 5:40PM

    You are really awesome. I get made fun of a lot for this same thing. You are really helping me to see that it is okay to be me and that all of this is not a race. I can really relate to this!

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EDWINA172 5/5/2011 3:48PM

    I love you John. You have a way of making me feel so good about myself. Your words heal me. Thank you. Thanks for sharing your feelings. There is so much of myself that I read in your words.

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SHERRYJVP 5/5/2011 3:30PM

    YOU are not an engineer are you? My husband is and he believes there is one right way-HIS. We laugh about it after 32 years, but he he is not convert-able. He says it's his job. LOL On the other hand..he is trainable..and will eat the occasional vegetarian meal..even though he makes a big deal about it...in fun.

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BLESSED2BEME 5/5/2011 2:36PM

    What is a flexetarian?

This is so much like my hubby and I! 25 years later, still married and finally starting to understand each other! emoticon

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ZURDTA- 5/5/2011 2:09PM

    Ah that sums up me and my partner too... very different approaches, but it works for us. And weight loss - well we can all get ideas, but yes, we have to find our OWN way.

Brilliant.

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HDHAWK 5/5/2011 12:50PM

    I'm a morning person right along with you and am married to someone who gets up even earlier than I do. The journey is much easier when we go with our own flow, so to speak, than trying to mold ourselves into something we aren't. Too bad it took me 52 yrs. to figure that out!

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LUVMYK9S 5/5/2011 12:32PM

    Thanks for reminding me that everyone is unique and there is no 'only one way' to approach life. I sometimes feel that I cannot be successful unless I embrace the lifestyle of others. Time to embrace myself just as I am, quirks and all ...
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Have an AWESOME day John!

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STIPER23 5/5/2011 11:35AM

    Thank you!

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MOMONTHERUN1 5/5/2011 11:32AM

    I love this!! Thanks for making me realize that not everyone can be like me....lol

Have a great day!

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EDWARDSC393 5/5/2011 11:29AM

    Loved your blog! When my husband is home, we both watch the Today show, Yea , we all have to go the way we feel comfortable! I absorb all this info then do What I know works. Glad to have read your blog, its so refreshing! Cherie

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LISA01605 5/5/2011 11:05AM

    Over the course of this weight loss/get healthy process I have come to the same conclusions. When I started I came up with a plan and I followed it and it worked. Over time I let in too much information. I was on information overload from all the "experts." While most experts have the same message they often have different ways of getting there. Some say never do X and others say always do X. It can get confusing. In trying to do the "right" thing I lost track of what worked for me. When I couldn't decide what to do, I did nothing and the pounds crept back on. I recently recommitted and when I did I decided to go back to basics. I am doing what works for me and I am having success. Going my own way works for me.

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CIVIAV 5/5/2011 11:03AM

    Love you too John and I'm more like Joan by the way!

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WENDYSPARKS 5/5/2011 11:03AM

    Have a good day!!

Wendy :)

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GRANDTO4 5/5/2011 10:58AM

  I'm with Joan on this one! My job requires me to wake up at 5 AM - I do NOT like that and I will NEVER like that, and on weekends, the most joyful ritual I have is the shutting off of the alarm clock Friday night. My exercise for that day includes the happy dance for that. But I do sort of envy people who can jump out of bed early and hit the ground running. I sort of ooze out of bed and hit the ground shuffling.

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 5/5/2011 10:45AM

    You are a very wise man!! Cheers to your years of marriage as well! I love to hear stories of success in that area as well!!

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CUPCAKE2CARROTS 5/5/2011 10:44AM

    I love reading your blogs. I ALWAYS come away with something. :)

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JECKIE 5/5/2011 10:41AM

    Very true! I see it a lot with me and my three sisters. We are all so different, but we manage to all be very successful in our own ways.

My parents used to use that same line on me... of course, I was a teenager sleeping until 11. :) These days, if the sun is up, I'm up. I may be slow once I wake up, but I can't just lay in bed either.

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MOONBIRD 5/5/2011 10:26AM

    What a great blog! You and your wife sound like me and my husband, except I am more like you and he is more like your wife. hehe I am always trying to remind myself that it's ok to do things my way if it works for me.

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HAPPYSOUL91 5/5/2011 10:25AM

    LOL - have you been looking into my life....I am a morning person w/lists and DH is a night person and goes w/th the flow. Enjoyed your blog!!!

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HOAGIE22 5/5/2011 10:14AM

  Been there done that!! emoticon

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Please Be Happy

Wednesday, May 04, 2011

The suns out, the basement has no water in it and the work has just begun. We were fortunate. We ended up with water about a third of the way up the baseboard in three rooms. It’s drained, it smelled and we are cleaning up. We are happy.

Apparently the rest of the world isn’t, or at least my part of it. I went to K-Mart to buy a utility knife to cut out a bit more carpet and the lady in front of me at the register was complaining it was cold. She was happy the sun was out, that it wasn’t raining but did it have to be so cold. Cold as she defined it is about 56F. There is a bit of a breeze. Trust me, I’ll take it over what we had the past two weeks. Apparently she wouldn’t. It wasn’t enough the sun was shining and the sky was that really pretty blue. It needed to be warmer. She went on and on.

My friend Archie is 86. Every morning he gets up at 3:00 AM and mops the floors, dusts the counters, and folds towels at our local YMCA. He told me one morning that “Any day above ground is a good day.”

I wished it hadn’t rained, but it did. I wish it wasn’t cold but is. I wish my basement was the way it was two weeks ago but it isn’t. Og Mandino wrote a book called The Greatest Miracle in the World. That miracle is you and I. That miracle is our innate ability as human beings to rise above, to persevere, and to ultimately triumph. It starts with how we feel. My feel hit the ground today. I have all my faculties and now I’m going back to work in a warm house that has electricity and people who love me.

I’m happy

How’s about you?

  
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SILLYHP1953 5/16/2011 8:23PM

    It took me years, years and years, to figure out I had control of my attitude, that other people didn't make me feel sad, happy, or mad.

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LYNMEINDERS 5/6/2011 1:48AM

    Absolutely...you are so right......
any day above ground is a good one......

I had a funeral today and farewelled my godfather however although it has grief attached to it all the family were happy for what they had to remember and what they had shared with him.....

We don't usually spend enough time not complaning....like the lady at the K-mart.....
Life is all good.......happy to still be here....yay.....

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DUTCHIEKIWI 5/5/2011 11:26PM

    You're right John.....

My little baby girl was very sick, now she's getting much better... I'm healthy, the sun is shining, I can walk, run, eat, laugh, cry...
I can do anything I want...

I'm happy!

:0)

xoxox

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MARYMO22 5/5/2011 4:41PM

    we all have to learn to be grateful for the things we have - the lady in the shop must be an unhappy woman who just hasn't learned what the happy people in this world know.

Feel pleased and proud that you are one of the grateful ones - I know I am

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HAPPYSOUL91 5/5/2011 9:22AM

    Wow, I really like what your friend Archie says and he is 86 and active with a job. He sounds wonderful and a joy to be around

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KAT573 5/5/2011 9:17AM

    How we think will and can change how we seem to feel; it is a hard realization to come to for all of us and one that we are fortunate to be gifted with even while it may yet need discovery.

And one of the other most important things I have come to realize is the power of taking the first step, nomatter what, being where I am NOW. Yep; GLAD you were not hit harder but I do know the amount of work you have to do to get back to where you were. May your HOPE and your STEPS take you further on your Way! emoticon

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SNOOPYLUV85 5/5/2011 8:08AM

    Love this perspective - thank you! emoticon

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11WILDHORSEZ 5/5/2011 12:22AM

  Well put! It's all perspective, and happiness is a choice. I'll take happy any day! :)

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MOONBIRD 5/5/2011 12:06AM

    I love this! We have SO many things to be happy about, if we just open our eyes and notice them. It's all too easy to only notice the bad things.

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CARTOONB 5/4/2011 11:20PM

    I am happy!

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TIME4AFITME 5/4/2011 10:17PM

    Uplifting, thank you. I am glad that you are happy...I am too!

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WATERMELLEN 5/4/2011 9:54PM

    Most of us are just as happy as we choose to be: and like you, I choose to be happy most of the time!!

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GEEMAWEST 5/4/2011 9:19PM

    You're so right, John. So very right. It is sunny and 70 here today and that makes me VERY HAPPY!!
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HDHAWK 5/4/2011 5:55PM

    I'm happy, but at our meeting today there was a table of very negative teachers. The rest of the staff definitely noticed. I guess the end of the year stress is getting to them. Smile! emoticon

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LUVMYK9S 5/4/2011 4:00PM

    Yes, I'm pretty happy today, even though it was raining this morning, the sun is shining now! I have a poem tacked to the cork board by my computer so that I will see it every day ~

Today

Outside my window, a new day I see,
and only I can determine what kind of day it will be.

It can be busy and sunny, laughing and gay,
or boring and cold, unhappy and gray.

My own state of mind is the determining key, for I am only the person
I let myself be.

I can be thoughtful and do all I can to help,
or selfish and think just of myself.

I can enjoy what I do and make it seem fun,
or gripe and complain and make it hard on someone.

I can be patient with those who may not understand,
or belittle and hurt them as much as I can.

But I have faith in myself and believe what I say,
And personally intend to make the best of each day.

~ Author unknown

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LORSI2000 5/4/2011 2:23PM

    I'm wonderful, too!
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE reading your blog posts.


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NJMATTICE 5/4/2011 2:09PM

    I'm serenely happy today. Thanks for asking!
Love the little tribute to Archie. I know some Archies in my life as well. They know the secret to living well. Thanks for sharing that.
Enjoy your day above ground.
Love,
Nancy

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LISA01605 5/4/2011 2:00PM

    Excellent blog it is in line with one of my favorite quotes: "Being happy doesn't mean everything is perfect. It means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections." I have had that on my signature for quite some time to remind myself.

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JECKIE 5/4/2011 1:34PM

    I love it! I'm glad the rain is letting up in parts of the country - we don't need it any more.

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 5/4/2011 1:25PM

    Cheers to Positivity and seeing the Glass as Half Full instead of Half Empty emoticon

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LHIEBEL 5/4/2011 12:59PM

  Amen!

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KKINNEA 5/4/2011 12:57PM

    I should be more happy - thanks for this blog!

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BLESSED2BEME 5/4/2011 12:44PM

    Yes, I am happy too! So glad you see the sunshine through the rain!

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BECCALYNN75 5/4/2011 12:37PM

    Guess what the lid of my jello with lunch today says . . . .

"Happy is still legal in all 50 states."

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NYKIMMIE 5/4/2011 12:28PM

    Yes indeed.

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CMBELISLE 5/4/2011 12:08PM

    I know what you mean! I live in GA - there are so many people here who are now homeless and people who lost their lives. I'm grateful that I'm above ground as things could be so much worse. Yes, it's rather chilly here too but the sky doesn't get any better than right after a good rain.

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~INDYGIRL 5/4/2011 12:08PM

    Woohoo! Yes indeed!

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CAMSMOM918 5/4/2011 11:49AM

    Thank you for the uplifting blog. I needed to read this today.

Angela

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 5/4/2011 11:40AM

    I'm so happy! I agree with your friend Archie, every day we're breathing has to be a good one.

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MIZZSB 5/4/2011 11:35AM

    i am happy too John!
Got a great man who supports me in my battle with weightloss, a beautiful daughter who loves me for just being ME. And i can get up every morning!
Ofcourse warm weather is NICE but it does not make us happy other things do...

Glad to hear your basement is 'better'.

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CIVIAV 5/4/2011 11:21AM

    Yes indeed!

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GETFIT2LIVE 5/4/2011 11:18AM

    Me too, John. It is so easy to get stuck in a mode of seeing only what is wrong and not what is right (the old glass-is-half-full syndrome), but finding the positive makes one much happier. My goal is to be able to say, like Paul (paraphrasing slightly), I have learned to be content in whatever state I am. Have a great day!

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The Little Things

Monday, May 02, 2011

There’s a part of my life I always look back at with fascination. I was twenty two and given the responsibility of supervising sixty five people. It took me a few months but I realized why they hired ten people at a time. A year later only three of us were left standing. Thirty seven years later I’d like to tell you it was because of my agile mind and superior intelligence. I survived because of something a boss told me during my first week as a supervisor.

“Take care of the little things and the big things will take care of themselves.”

I embraced it, I lived by it and then having become a success I forgot about it!!! It came home to me this week as we cleaned up our basement after it flooded twice in three days. As we sorted through what we could keep and what needed to be tossed Joan and I had more than few conversations that started with “You know if we had…..” Most of those conversations turned into “What we are going to need to do in the future is …” The little things. The very small, day to day things we don’t give a second thought to are the things that become our salvation when a crisis hits. When the little things in my life are mostly in order I’m ready to handle the big stuff. I can clear my schedule, pool my resources and deal with the situation. The big things, as my boss said, take care of themselves.

The big thing for me is the scale. No matter how good I feel I approach it with trepidation. I don’t recall the veggie at every meal as I stand on it with eyes closed waiting for results; I recall the bite of cake I took off my granddaughter’s plate. The little things are what get me there. The little things are making sure I log ALL my food and realize a calorie isn’t always a calorie! The little things are following my exercise plan and oh yeah making sure I take a day off once per week. The little things are creating that balance between diet and exercise and getting enough rest during my day to make sure my body functions well. Yes, there are variables. There is water retention, weather, and lack of sleep…….. I could go on and on. When I monitor the small things in my life, I’m ready for whatever comes next.

The little things require an investment. It may be time, it may be money. I don’t have a lot of trouble dropping twenty bucks on a large pizza and garlic bread or eating at Olive Garden but I get all worked up over spending the same amount of money on an exercise video. The little things are really dull and boring most days. There is no magic in the little things. They are often like a six month old child, screaming, whining and fussing until we pay attention to them.

I am always looking for the eternal placebo, the quick fix, the magic bullet that will turn me sleek and svelte. It does not exist. What remains is my ability to manage myself, my health and the day to day things that make John a successful and mostly healthy human being.
The little things are the things that get me there so that when that fifteen foot walk from the bedroom to the bathroom happens once a week, I’m ready for it.

“Take care of the little things and the big things will take care of themselves.” Thank you Ray.

  
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SILLYHP1953 5/16/2011 7:38PM

    What!!! No magic bullets??
Ok, again, thank you for making me think and feel and all that good stuff.

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IAMDARLENE 5/4/2011 8:29AM

   

This is excellent!! I hope to remember to take care of those "little things" and let the big things take care of themselves. Wow, that makes such good sense! Thanks John!!

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LYNMEINDERS 5/4/2011 1:55AM

    So very very true....
Great to be reminded of it like you have been.....

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NOMORESTALLING 5/4/2011 12:43AM

    ABSOLUTELY! ABSOLUTELY!

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SWEETMOMMY41 5/3/2011 9:57PM

  that is so true! little things do require time and effort to get done. it is so easy to spend money on restaurant meals and so hard to spend it on what can help us on our journey to better health. have a great day!

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WALKNLOVE 5/3/2011 2:50PM

    Oh, so very true....you must have read my mind! LOL

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CARTOONB 5/2/2011 10:30PM

    Little things do add up!

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WATERMELLEN 5/2/2011 9:51PM

    It IS the little things that count when it comes to discipline(and the small pleasures too: such as a bouquet of this spring's violets on the kitchen table! NO calories!! Course I didn't eat them . . . )

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HDHAWK 5/2/2011 7:03PM

    I still look for the quick fix but at least I dismiss them much more quickly than I did in the past. I'm less likely to try them too!

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HAPPYSOUL91 5/2/2011 6:15PM

    Excellent, you sure said it all and how true it is!

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PGNBRI 5/2/2011 11:48AM

    Wow. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today!

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BLESSED2BEME 5/2/2011 11:47AM

    Taking care of the little things also helps us reach the big goals...nothing worth anything is ever easy. There are many steps to reaching a point in life that we are living for! Thanks for sharing.

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JSPIN74 5/2/2011 11:36AM

    great observations here - thx

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GRAMMAOFFIVE 5/2/2011 11:34AM

    So true. The little things require an investment. It only takes a couple minutes to log your food, a few seconds to say no to that bite of cake, 5 minutes of spare time to get a little more activity into your day.

There are no quick fixes. But we all can take baby steps doing the little things to get us to our goals.
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GRANDTO4 5/2/2011 11:13AM

  Very nice and very good advice! I, too, was especially hit by the part about how easily we spend money on restaurant meals, and how hard it is to spend it on things that would benefit us in our journey to be healthy. It's on ongoing challenge to change the thought process in place for decades.

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BLUEROSE73 5/2/2011 10:34AM

    Very true. I hope the scale was good to you this week

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CMA444 5/2/2011 9:49AM

    Well said! emoticon

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TRISTAROSE 5/2/2011 9:35AM

    So very true .... will try to do that! Thanks for the reminder!!

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GRAMLORI 5/2/2011 9:33AM

    Why do we hate to DO those little things anyway? Boredom? They seem less than essential? Or is it just because we know we'd be organized if we did them, so we ignore them, thus creating the excuse that we are just the disorganized type? I sure need to work on some of those "Little Things"!

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TINA_LYNN91 5/2/2011 8:56AM

    Very, very good words to live by!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 5/2/2011 8:53AM

    So true. Thanks for the reminder.

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TABUKRA69 5/2/2011 8:51AM

    Wonderful piece of writing or is that typing LOL.
Something you picked up on that I found interesting .... how we will easily drop bucks on something that we don't need "the pizza" yet find it hard to drop bucks for something that would help us "the exercise DVD". We do the exact same thing in our house and thanks for pointing that out ..... somethings gonna change in this house :D

Take care of the little things ..... how very very true.

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NASFKAB 5/2/2011 8:50AM

  How true to take care of the little things. Thanks

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My Lawn and I

Friday, April 29, 2011

We reseeded our lawn last fall. The drought from last summer killed most of the grass. We thought it was a good time to reseed. I have to tell you that initially I wasn’t very pleased with the result. The lawn care service told me to let it get so long that it appeared unruly and then cut it on the highest setting. They told me not to worry about the weeds I saw, they were dormant when they killed the lawn out last year. Our goal was to establish a strong root system. It looked uneven, unkempt and in general a big mess --- Until I cut it yesterday.

As my mower made its path I saw where the lawn was rich and thick in many places, a bit sparse in others and downright bare in a few. The little voice inside my head said “Just like you.”

In many ways, before I found Spark I was like my lawn, dead or dying. I had to painfully kill my old habits and reseed with new ones. Those took time. They will take forever. Like my lawn, it wasn’t a pretty picture when I began. I started and stopped, turned left, turned right, and looked for my balance, my niche……

I started to see growth, see changes and rejoiced when I found those rich and verdant places my life had taken root. I was encouraged where I saw new growth even if it was sparse. I knew, with time, and care i.e., healthy eating habits, rest and exercise, that it would grow strong and full also.

Yes, there are still weeds. They were dormant and weren’t recognized. Some still aren’t. The lawn care man told me the new grass with a strong root system would strangle the weeds eventually and they would die out. That’s what I look forward to in my life, finding and removing the weeds that prevent new growth.

I stood on the street for a few minutes when I was finished and decided the lawn looked pretty good after all. Just like I do

  
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SILLYHP1953 5/16/2011 7:26PM

    An apt analogy as I've been pulling weeds all week. It has kind of reminded me of my life, too. I need to go pull some more weeds right now before it gets dark.

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GIRANIMAL 5/1/2011 4:03PM

    I love the way you can find perfectly apt analogies for life in most everything you do and encounter. It's really a testament to you ability to be present, and really paying attention. I have a lot to learn from you, big bro!

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TRIPLE_EMME 5/1/2011 3:34PM

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This is a wonderful way to look at the journey to a healthier lifestyle.

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MARTELLA3 5/1/2011 12:39PM

    I love your analogy. The droughts in our lives can be damaging. With some care, attention and expert advice (plus a little help from our friends), that damage cam be overcome.

Happy May to you,
Marty

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VTORIA3 4/30/2011 7:22AM

    Great blog. Perfect for the Spring season of life! Thanks for writing it. emoticon

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NASFKAB 4/30/2011 3:54AM

  What a thoughtful post. Made me think. We have to cultivate good habits then can succeed. Congrats

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LYNMEINDERS 4/30/2011 12:54AM

    Amen and amen John.....
thankyou for writing this....a very timely blog for me to read to remind me of where I ahve come from and where I am going...thatnkyou....

I will remember the lawn from now on

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WORKINGSTIFF 4/29/2011 11:43PM

    What a nice way to look at it.

We are all in a sense still growing--the good parts will eventually choke away the bad habits, etc. But, as with the lawn, it takes time. It's even happening while things seem to be dormant (like the lawn in winter).

Take care!

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DAD2GETFIT 4/29/2011 9:39PM

    I struggle with my lawn (and my Spark goals) as well. But as you said, we just keep plugging away at it and by degrees both get better.


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CARTOONB 4/29/2011 9:08PM

    Yes you do! Good luck on the continued strangling...and rooting.

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LADYLAUGHS247 4/29/2011 2:35PM

  Love this! And I totally relate!

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DEBRITA01 4/29/2011 2:33PM

    A clever analogy...thanks, John! If we keep on top of *our weeds*, we can minimize their damage and keep them under control.Those weeds are sometimes hard to get rid of and we may never have a perfect lawn, but that's okay, too. As long as we continue to work towards maintaining our healthy lifestyle, it will be reflected in our *lawn*....it just takes time emoticon

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MARCYNA 4/29/2011 1:44PM

    Love it. Yes you look pretty good-looking and so much better than when you started. We all do. to uproot some old habits' so difficult but we'll make it. Thanks for sharing. Very nice gardening experience emoticon

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HDHAWK 4/29/2011 1:27PM

    So true! emoticon

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LISA01605 4/29/2011 1:12PM

    Excellent analogy. I recently did some reseeding and I feel the new habits taking root. It's a great feeling.

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ISHIIGIRL 4/29/2011 12:04PM

    Nice analogy. Great blog!

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CIVIAV 4/29/2011 11:48AM

    Glad to hear it and see/hear your words again!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 4/29/2011 11:36AM

    I loved this! Great analogy. Thanks John!

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PGNBRI 4/29/2011 11:17AM

    What a wonderful analogy!

I've been struggling a lot lately trying to find my focus again. I've let everything else get in the way of me. But I still log in to SP everyday and reading your posts is really helping me. I'm grateful to have found you!

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MOONBIRD 4/29/2011 11:15AM

    Great blog! You know, I have come to realize we will never have a perfect lawn, and it's ok. :) We live near woods and have lots of wildflowers and weeds, so I look at those and just accept that they are there and that wildlife enjoy them. I prefer a natural lawn to one filled with chemicals and stuff, plus it's less maintenance.

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NJMATTICE 4/29/2011 10:36AM

    I like me a nice metaphor.

"What's a metaphor?". . . "To keep the cows in." ba dump dump ching!

Have fun rolling in the grass!
Love,
Nancy

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CHAITEAKITTY40 4/29/2011 10:01AM

    Nice blog. Hoping to do some weed strangling myself this year. Have a great weekend!

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BLACKROSE_222 4/29/2011 9:28AM

    Thank you again, John. You always have a way of making others see the good things to come!

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GRAMLORI 4/29/2011 8:53AM

    You have a gift for drawing analogies from different situations, one that makes people say, "Yes, that's right! I can see that!" Keep writing, John, and have a blessed day! emoticon

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MIZZSB 4/29/2011 8:10AM

    great vision about your lawn ;)

have a great weekend!

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BEEJ728 4/29/2011 7:52AM

    Thanks for these ideas. Patience is not my virtue and I needed the reminder.

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MOMONTHERUN1 4/29/2011 7:46AM

    Great job in realizing that you and the lawn look pretty good! emoticon

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 4/29/2011 7:42AM

    Very good analogy for sure! We are constantly growing and changing and have to adjust our paths as conditions change. Keep up the great work!!

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IMIN2GENES 4/29/2011 7:37AM

    Great analogy! Thanks for sharing!
Chris


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Defeating the Evil Flood Water Part 2

Wednesday, April 27, 2011


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SILLYHP1953 5/16/2011 9:50PM

    I'm so sorry for all this damage and work and fighting with the insurance company. You will find the pony...
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TRIPLE_EMME 5/1/2011 3:41PM

    I hope things have returned to "normal" for you.

I just watched your blog; I've been a little behind. I'm sorry to hear about all that you've been experiencing.

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SMOCKON 4/29/2011 2:23PM

    Ack! I should have watched this blog before replying to the earlier report. I hope all is dry again.

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LYNMEINDERS 4/28/2011 10:28PM

    You are so right ....there has gotta be a pony under there somewhere....

Praying that this destruction stops and doesn't get worse for you and yours.....

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MIZZSB 4/28/2011 2:53PM

    John you look tired emoticon
sending posiitve thoughts your way!

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KAZINMICH 4/28/2011 12:45PM

    When I opened this to read, it's blank except for a #2. hmph. Wishing you the best!

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EMTFF376 4/28/2011 7:08AM

    Oh my, John! Praying for some dry weather for you!

And your egg white sandwich sounded really good. :)

Love,
Janette

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TRANSFORMWE 4/27/2011 11:17PM

    John, so sorry to hear of your troubles. Hang in there. You have a great attitude. It's okay to cry and grieve when things are going so wrong, but I love the way you are finding something to be positive about even in the midst of it. Hope you find the pony real soon.

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REDSHOES2011 4/27/2011 11:08PM

    Sorry to hear the problems are still dragging on.. I would move if this ever happens again.. emoticon

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HANKENSTEIN 4/27/2011 10:38PM

    Flooding is relentless suckage. I feel for ya man.

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HDHAWK 4/27/2011 9:31PM

    emoticon I'm sorry that you and Joan have to go through this. It's a helpless feeling to watch the water pour in and the clean up is back breaking. If I were closer I'd pitch in. We've had plenty of practice here. Keep the faith!

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TRI_BABE 4/27/2011 8:15PM

    That is so frustrating, I have the same problem but not as bad as yours. I wish it would just STOP RAINING.

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ME_FIRST 4/27/2011 7:25PM

    Sorry you're still having basement water problems John. This is the type of problem that does not make for pleasant conversation amongst family members. I have 2 sump pumps in my basement which work beautifully except when our electricity goes out, which seems to happen frequently for us, although not for our neighbors on the next block. We now have big battery power paks for those wonderful times and we keep an unusual amount of emergency candles, etc. for people who live in NJ, as opposed to FL.

I'm a new reader to your blogs and enjoy them very much. They inspire and are welcome moments in hectic days.

Keep your chin up John. It probably won't rain for the full 40 days!!. Yvonne

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CHAITEAKITTY40 4/27/2011 6:20PM

    Sorry you are still dealing with the water. I hate having water in my house not coming out of a faucet. It can be so frustrating. Hang in there!
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CINDY2020 4/27/2011 4:56PM

  emoticon Hey John! I am new here at SP! Your Video was very inspirational. Thank you very much. Lots of Luck and better days to you and your wife!!!! emoticon

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LUVMYK9S 4/27/2011 4:40PM

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Hang in there and keep the upbeat attitude! You look/sound very tired and frustrated, try to get some rest and recharge your batteries before continuing to battle the flood water.

Take care of yourself,
Andrea


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WSPDAVE 4/27/2011 4:05PM

    John, you're the best. It's all attitude. You know if we can just maintain a positive attitude when everything is going to crap around us some good will come out of it.

As I watched your blog and saw your pain, I got comfort because I knew that you like I believe that our SparkBuddies and our families are so important to our stability and success. This is why we log in every day and we write our blogs and talk to people etc.. It's the way we keep sane in an insane world.

I believe that if I did not have this program and the people thje 102 lbs that are behind me might not be. WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Big Dave
We're In It For The Finish

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