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An Update of Sorts

Tuesday, April 26, 2011


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ANEPANALIPTI 5/1/2011 10:50AM

    I'm so glad you're enjoying spinning! WOOOOOOOOOOOOT!

Good to see you, sorryabout the rain ickinesssss.

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SMOCKON 4/29/2011 2:16PM

    Grrr! I'm sorry for the hassles. I hope the major cleanup is over by now.

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HLPRATT 4/27/2011 8:03AM

    I understand about the rain. We have had lots in Mayfield too. I'm glad we don't have a basement.
Running isn't the only way to get your heart rate up. I love my bike. Especially in the heat of the summer. Got a ride in yesterday before the rainstorm. Spinning class sounds fun. Exercise can become a part of your life pretty easily. It's a great stress reliever

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MIZZSB 4/27/2011 3:07AM

    love it!!

You can tell you are tired! Hope you get some rest soon.
And the sun is shining here and i intend to go outside for a bikeride with my little girl..

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GEEMAWEST 4/26/2011 10:01PM

    As always, you have a great attitude!! Have fun picking out carpet, vinyl or whatever.

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HDHAWK 4/26/2011 9:57PM

    Oh John, we've been down that road here more than once in the past few years. We tore my now in laws basement out completely 3 summers ago. Very stressful. 2 of my teacher friends had flooding last summer. I know you'll get through it because that's who you are and what other choice do you have? I hope Joan is feeling better. We don't bounce like we used to.

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NASFKAB 4/26/2011 7:54PM

  You are an inspiration for all of us

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SHERRYJVP 4/26/2011 6:27PM

    John, I am so sorry for all of your hassles...but I did just read an article on SP talking about harship making us stronger.

And it is sooo impressive that you are still exercising and eating right through out all of this.

it is nice to hear a voice on here now and then. I consider Sparkers my friends, too. Some better than others.

Glad your wife wasn't seriously hurt.

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JPRICE217 4/26/2011 6:03PM

    emoticonfoa your troubles

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TURBOADDICT444 4/26/2011 3:27PM

  Sorry to hear about the rain and the problems it has caused you. You said that this blog had nothing to do with fitness or health. I think it has tons to do with both because of your attitude. I love your positive attitude and I think that keeps you healthy too. Have a great day!

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MSSUNBUG 4/26/2011 2:43PM

    The rain has been so upsetting. Where is spring?? Glad you're staying positive, pal. I hope things work out.

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NJMATTICE 4/26/2011 2:30PM

    Sorry for your troubles. Thanks for setting a fine example of the proper way to deal with frustrations.
Love,
Nancy

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NEELIXNKES 4/26/2011 2:14PM

    The rain is a drag but hopefully the flowers will be blooming soon from all of it! Hope it all works out with the insurance company quickly and have fun deciding how to redecorate the unexpected!

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TNANCE3 4/26/2011 1:40PM

    Hi John! Loved your video blog. Your positive attitude is so uplifting! I am so sorry about your rain issues. We are expecting to get bad weather today and tomorrow with tomorrow being the worst. They are forecasting tornadoes, high winds and hail. We have had the stormiest spring in 10 or so years. I live in Alabama, so we get what comes through Texas, Arkansas, Missouri, Illinois, Mississippi and the other states to our west. So we will probably be getting some of what you have been getting. I wish you the best. I myself have realized that I am not 25 or so anymore. I am almost 53 and have health issues that cause me to hurt and scared to fall. I am so afraid of breaking something. That is why I want to get healthy and exercise so I can not be so afraid of falling or hurting myself some way. I'll keep you in my prayers and hope all goes well with the house.
Take care my friend,
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REDSHOES2011 4/26/2011 1:34PM

    Ack hope things work out with the insurance company... emoticon

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/26/2011 1:09PM

    Good to see and hear you, John, though I'm sorry for the mess you are having to deal with and the reason for being so tired! Hope you can get things sorted out with the insurance company quickly (and they pay for what they SHOULD) and that the rain lets up for you so life can get back to some semblance of normal. I consider you a real friend, too, by the way, even though we've never met in person.

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RUNNERGIRL60 4/26/2011 1:05PM

    Hi John, I hope the weather gets better and all the issues in your area stop. Have fun decorating. I 'n thinking about a spin class but worried about my knees not holding up. I do jog/walk now and they are sore. I got a sch. From the gym but afraid. My friend told ne to watch out cause I would become addicted to it! Im sending you sunshine rays now for you to enjoy! Im in Calif. Don't forget to get that rest and sleep do you can keep up your benefits of your new life style changes! Some day I will try a video. I have to get blogging I have failed this part of my journey. Have a great day! !!!Thanks for always being so upbeat!

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CIVIAV 4/26/2011 12:39PM

    Nice to hear you are staying positive through all the craziness with the rain. No wonder you are tired but it's amazing how more exercise can help.

It was lovely to hear from you and I almost felt you were in my living room with me!

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Meeting An Angel

Monday, April 25, 2011

The last words our pastor had for us yesterday as Mass ended were these. “Today is Easter. Take some time today to remove all your burdens and put down the cross you’re carrying and enjoy the specialness of Easter.” We tried, we really did. All went well until around 4:00 PM. Joan and I went to Wal-Mart. Joan tripped on the wet floor walking in, hurt her leg and broke her glasses. We got her home and iced up and settled in for the night when our storm sewer backed up in the basement. We’ve had about six inches of rain in the past three days and coupled with DD doing wash, the long and short of it was we were up until midnight mopping and sucking and generally being in foul moods. Honest, I kept trying to put down my cross, release my burdens all that cool stuff. I sort of gave up around 11:30 last night.

There was a bright spot yesterday morning, right after church. I dropped Joan and the DD’s off at home and headed to Kroger because we forgot to buy butter. As I was leaving an elderly gentleman was walking in front of me. In his arms was a potted lily plant. It was pretty big and he was moving pretty slow. He glanced at me and said, “These get heavier every year!”

Why don’t you put it in a cart?” I asked. So I grabbed him a cart and me and my new friend headed into the parking lot.

“It’s for my wife. I get her one every Easter morning. We been married fifty years and every Easter when I walk in the door she claps her hands and say’s “Oh my!!! How did you guess lilies were my favorite flower?” His eyes danced a bit as he told me that. “Yup, she says the same thing every year.”

I know it was Easter but he looked like a little kid on Christmas morning. “I don’t get around too well anymore, but I still can do this. Probably will ‘til I can’t move anymore. “I reached my car and said to him. “Tell your wife I hope she has a good Easter.” He waved to me and said he would and we parted company.

I believe in angels. I believe they are as real as you and I. Use whatever term you want to describe them I believe they are among us, supporting us, guiding us and giving us hope when we need it most. I met one yesterday. He was walking across Kroger’s parking lot lugging a large potted lily plant in the rain, grinning as he did because he couldn’t wait to see the look on his wife’s face when he handed it to her. That is lots love there. There is lots devotion there and just for a brief moment last night I put down my cross and let that Easter sunshine trickle into my heart.

  
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SILLYHP1953 5/16/2011 6:48PM

    I've always hated to cry, hated it. I know it goes back to not wanting to let my step-father see that he had hurt my feelings, again. But I almost enjoy the tears some of your stories bring to my eyes. I think it helps release all the old hurts.

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WALKNLOVE 4/29/2011 7:00AM

    Hope Joan is okay & your troubles now just a memory.As for the "angel", YES, they are as real as you & I!!!!! Have a great day John & let Joan know I said a prayer for her!

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MARCYNA 4/29/2011 4:00AM

    Wow, I tend to think of you as the Angel in this Story anyway I'm not going to challenge your opinion.
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LYNMEINDERS 4/28/2011 10:19PM

    Angels are as real as you and I...

Hubby and I had one cross our path some years back....it really was the only way God could get Hubby's attention

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 4/28/2011 4:03AM

    I truly believe in angels and signs all around us. Perhaps your meeting him was to soften the events that followed throughout the day. They say god never gives us more than we can handle and perhaps that meeting was to balance it all out.

Hope your wife is feeling better.

Helene

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MELLIL 4/27/2011 9:12PM

    I'm sorry about your troubles... but so happy you recognized that angel! What a bright bright light on a dreary day... I hope your rain ends soon!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 4/27/2011 8:47AM

    I'm sorry to hear about your troubles with your basement. Doesn't sound like a bit of fun. I've been wondering about you and if you were seeing some of the flooding.

Please tell Joan to take care of herself. I have done that so many times.

I loved the story about the flower. Some day, someone will love me that much! LOL

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CARTOONB 4/26/2011 11:46PM

    I like this.

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BRIGET66 4/26/2011 2:29PM

    I too got a tear. How sweet that man was...and how sweet you are for even noticing it.
Hope Joan's on the mend and that you guys are doing okay over there

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MOMMYBYCHOICE 4/26/2011 12:38PM

    thank you so much for sharing this story... I sent it to my own hubby just so he would read it and understand,...... its got to be the sweetest thing I have read in a long time...

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TRIPLE_EMME 4/26/2011 10:30AM

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Thank you for sharing your beautiful story about meeting an angel.

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CHELLEG10FIT2DA 4/26/2011 5:42AM

    how sweet! God's timing is perfect!

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MIZZSB 4/26/2011 3:10AM

    i hope your wifes knee gets better soon, didnt they had a warning sign?
And i do believe that angels are just among us, it got all teared up when i read about the eldery man...how cute!!

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JUNEAU2010 4/25/2011 8:15PM

    I hope your wife's knee is better today. Yes, there are angels everywhere. I loved this blog!

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NASFKAB 4/25/2011 7:41PM

  What a wonderful story. What a devoted husband. Thanks for posting it

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HDHAWK 4/25/2011 5:28PM

    What a great story! I am sorry about your basement. That isn't a pleasant situation. I hope the rain stops soon. We're in for more too. emoticon

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KIKOOMAGOO 4/25/2011 5:16PM

    Tears here too. It sounds like the gentleman was so happy to share his Easter tradition with you. Best wishes to you, and your wife for a care free week!

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GIRANIMAL 4/25/2011 4:22PM

    Beautiful! I'm so glad to hear you were blessed with an angel in a moment when you could really use some grace. Happy Easter, dear friend. I hope Joan and your basement are feeling better soon.

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DEE797 4/25/2011 2:35PM

    Your blog brought tears to my eyes, just thinking about that couple. Lovely. Do hope Joan is okay. Sorry about your basement.

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BLESSED2BEME 4/25/2011 1:45PM

    I too believe there are angels amoung us! Thanks for sharing a glimse of the angel you saw!

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LADYLAUGHS247 4/25/2011 1:29PM

  That is absolutely the best thing I've ever heard! It places everything into perspective. Thanks so much for sharing!

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DEBRITA01 4/25/2011 1:10PM

    Angels are all around us. Because you stopped to show someone some care, you reaped the benefit of learning his heartfelt story. Sometimes we need to slow down and observe the world around us...it's still a beautiful place.

I hope your wife is not bumped and bruised too much today. Hopefully the rain will stop and the glorious sun will shine over you...and dry things up a bit.

Thanks for the blog...I enjoyed the message...

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KAZINMICH 4/25/2011 1:00PM

    That is beautiful. :) My eyes teared up a bit on that story.

I'm so sorry for the rotten luck that happened at the store & basement!!! :( So yuchy. Glad you are ok, and I hope your wife heals quickly!

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GEEMAWEST 4/25/2011 12:57PM

    That man knows what's important in life. And it's all so simple. Don't know why we make things so hard for ourselves.

Hope Joan didn't get hurt too badly.

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KKINNEA 4/25/2011 12:48PM

    Thanks for this John!

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BLUEROSE73 4/25/2011 12:39PM

    It's amazing how these angels come into our lives right when we need them the most.

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SNOOPYLUV85 4/25/2011 12:35PM

    Well...now I'm in tears. Thank you for sharing what happened to you.

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1BEARWIFE 4/25/2011 12:22PM

    I agree with you. I have met so many Angels while out and about. It just takes slowing down and seeing who and what is around us.

HOpe your flooding is over and that your wife heals soonest.
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GETFIT2LIVE 4/25/2011 12:20PM

    Angels don't always have wings, but they are very real and you definitely met one yesterday in that gentleman. I hope you run into more along the way, too! We need that sunshine trickling in from time to time when things don't go well (like tripping and backed up drains and everything else).

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ZURDTA- 4/25/2011 12:13PM

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And hope Joan feel better soon - sounds like quite a tumble she had.

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RHONDALEIGH3 4/25/2011 12:12PM

    Aww..that is so sweet.

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CIVIAV 4/25/2011 11:58AM

    This so helps me remember what's important. Today I was having a rough day but no longer... now I will get on with living cause I am likely to meet an angel today in the course of my travels.
Thanks John and I hope Joan is feeling much better and the water is receding!

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QUIKSYLVER 4/25/2011 11:55AM

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A Time To Rise

Sunday, April 24, 2011

It would have been easy for him. No one would have batted an eye. He could have picked up a stone, and joined the crowd. The law, after all, was on their side. The woman was wrong, she had broken a law. She had sinned and she must be punished and it needed to be done soon. It would have been easy.

Instead he placed himself between the crowd and the woman so they couldn’t throw their stones. He looked at the ground for a bit and then made eye contact with each of them. “If YOU have never done anything remotely wrong, made a mistake, an error in judgment, anything like that. If you feel your slate is as pure as the driven snow, go ahead and throw the stone.

I imagine it was a bit tense for a few seconds. What if they didn’t get the point? He was directly in the line of fire. They’d not only get her but him also. They had the perfect justification. He had caused them to think about what they were getting ready to do. He asked then to look at them. They couldn’t have this. In the end they relented. They put down their stones and walked away.

I lie in bed this morning and that story popped into my head. I got a bit emotional. I realized that I walk around with a stone in my hand pretty much all the time. Oh, it has different things written on it. All of them are justified in my mind. They are people, or groups of people who don’t think the way I do and so I go running for some obscure quote, twist it a bit to make sure I feel right about what I am about to do, and then I rear back in my best Nolan Ryan impersonation and splatter you with that stone. I can almost hear the heavenly choir warming up in the background. The emotion that welled up inside of me had nothing to do with guilt or anything like it. It had to do with the fact that today, Easter, marks a new chapter, a new beginning in my life, my WHOLE life, if I choose to take it. It represents a resurrection, a casting off of old ways, beliefs and behaviors and embracing health in a holistic manner. It means that my body, mind and soul have a new opportunity to start again and in many ways become whole.

I embraced Good Friday a bit different than most Christians did this past week. I used it as a day to make peace and to let those old things inside of me die. It had to happen. There can be no resurrection inside of me until I let those things that hold me back die. They need to be dealt with and put in their proper place. I need to put down those stones, especially the ones I aim at my own image in the mirror.

Today is a resurrection for me as well as it can be for all of us. A time to recommit, renew and most importantly a time to quit throwing those gosh darned stones.

However you choose to celebrate it, have a Happy Easter

  
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SILLYHP1953 5/16/2011 6:42PM

    Thoughts swirl
Hope wells
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BLESSED2BEME 4/25/2011 10:30AM

    Amen John! Glad your Easter was such an awakening for you! Now, lets pray about that water in your basement!

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SNOOPYLUV85 4/25/2011 10:04AM

    Wow. emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 4/24/2011 10:14PM

    One of your best blogs and greatest ideas. It basically silly to throw stones at your brothers and sisters. We are all related, you know. LOL.

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TIME4AFITME 4/24/2011 9:13PM

    Happy Easter

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TURBOADDICT444 4/24/2011 9:13PM

  What a great post. And I am sure all of us have done this without thinking at one point or another. Hope you had a great Easter!

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/24/2011 8:37PM

    Amen, John. There can be no resurrection without a death first. The good news is HE IS RISEN, and because of that, we can embrace our own death and new life, too. Happy Easter!

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ALLISON145 4/24/2011 6:22PM

    How very true - Happy Easter to you, too.

-Allison

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NASFKAB 4/24/2011 2:11PM

  Great post thanks

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GEEMAWEST 4/24/2011 2:04PM

    AMEN!

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KIKOOMAGOO 4/24/2011 2:01PM

    Happy Easter!

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JUNEAU2010 4/24/2011 1:33PM

    This is a great reminder to me to put down my stone every day - even every time I realize it is tightly clenched in my hand. Half the time, that anger is directed at me!

Happy Easter, my friend, thank you for inspiring me!

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DEBRITA01 4/24/2011 12:16PM

    An insightful blog with a good message. Have a blessed Easter, John...

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CHAITEAKITTY40 4/24/2011 11:36AM

    A fresh start sounds good! Happy Easter to you and your family

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MKPRINCESS007 4/24/2011 10:41AM

    Beautiful message! Turn those stones into touch stones, write words of love and faith on them, and keep them close to you. I join you in marking this day a new beginning for us. Releasing what holds us down and binds us, so that we are free to be all that we can be.

Happy Easter, John! Much love to you.........

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INBRAZILFORNOW 4/24/2011 10:16AM

    Beautiful and a reminder I needed. Thanks.

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BESTSUSIEYET 4/24/2011 10:15AM

    Lovethe reminder to let go of our stones! How very true! Rejoicing in the newness of resurrection today!

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BESTSUSIEYET 4/24/2011 10:15AM

    Lovethe reminder to let go of our stones! How very true! Rejoicing in the newness of resurrection today!

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NJMATTICE 4/24/2011 9:13AM

    Sounds like your Good Friday was a great one and you are risen indeed!
Happy Easter to you and yours.
Love,
Nancy

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RIKKI572 4/24/2011 9:06AM

    Wishing you a wonderful, joyfilled Easter Day!

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 4/24/2011 8:56AM

    Happy Easter

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REJ7777 4/24/2011 8:36AM

    You're such a gifted communicator, John!

I've always been amazed at the courage Jesus displayed in whatever situation He was in. I'm kind of a wuss, and have always admired courage in people.

I'm glad that the Easter weekend has been so productive for you. How true that some things in us need to die, so that the resurrection of something new can take place!

Have a blessed Easter!

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Sometimes Even I Get Miffed

Saturday, April 23, 2011

I’m not sure if this qualifies as venting, a rant or just being very perturbed. I will leave to you to decide. I do know it’s not Bit$%ing.

I had a telephone appointment yesterday at eleven with a potential client. It’s important to note this company contacted me through a mutual acquaintance, said they’d love to explore working with me, could I email them my contact information. All they had was a phone number. No problem. That was about six weeks ago. Last Thursday I get a call from the mutual friend. Could I resend the email? It was misplaced. Okie-dokie, no problem. Tuesday evening I have a voice mail on my cell phone. It’s the company president. He wants to set up appointment time to speak with me later in the week. He called around eight thirty in the evening. The next morning I return his call we chat for a few minutes and decide to get together via telephone yesterday at eleven. Eleven comes and goes and he doesn’t call. Maybe I was supposed to call him. I get his voice mail. I send an e-mail. As I write this blog I haven’t heard from him. I rescheduled an appointment for later in the day to be able to speak with him and there was no notification; no “Gee, I’m sorry, something came up.” I called the mutual friend. She said his office was closed for Good Friday. Was I sure he said Friday. I forwarded her the e-mail. She responded by saying “Oh.”

I accepted a new coaching client after going through a rather lengthy discerning process with her. We schedule an appointment and she cancels ten minutes before we are supposed to meet. She is the backup contact for her sister from her nephew’s school. Her sister would rather not leave work. She was having a productive day so my client had to go get the sick child. I was scratching what little hair I had left. So she had to cancel. Because I work out of my home and much of my work is confidential if Joan is not working she will vacate the premises so the client feels more at ease. So I call Joan tell her she can come home. I am kind and understand and reschedule the appointment for early last Friday, before we left town for the weekend. It never happened. She called and cancelled at six am. She told me she had gashed a knuckle moving a box around the previous afternoon. She got angry when I asked why she didn’t call the previous afternoon. She referred to me as a donkey, but not in those terms and hung up.

Is it me or are people just becoming less accountable for what they commit to?

Don’t get me wrong, I am surrounded by uber wonderful folks in my life but more and more I notice a trend of people saying “Gee, that’s too bad. I decided not to come”

  
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LYNMEINDERS 4/28/2011 10:14PM

    I am becoming more and more convinced that people don't actually want to be held accountable for what they commit to....
It miffes me as well when I am almost at a place of an appointment and I get a text saying they can't come....

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TRIPLE_EMME 4/26/2011 10:35AM

    I certainly can understand your frustration, annoyance and aggravation.

I am an uber-planner. So, I do get quite miffed when people just blow things off. Then again, I would probably get miffed even if I wasn't an over-planner.

Yes, it does seem that society (in general) has stopped taking accountability for their actions.

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WANNABELESS1 4/25/2011 11:10AM

    More and more we are becoming a society of self-seekers. Everything revolves around "doing what is best for me" so "I can be happy". This attitude breeds a lack of respect for others and accountability for ones own actions. (However, one will never find happiness taking this route!)

So sorry you are a direct casualty of such behavior.

Keep Sparking John!!!

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GOOFIERNU 4/25/2011 10:36AM

    ARGH!!! My own daughter does that!! And that's NOT how she was raised. She decided to volunteer at the Humane Society for her Senior Project. But there were days where she didn't feel like going, so she just wouldn't go. She either wouldn't contact them or would cancel 30 minutes before her shift. And she thinks this is okay!

I try so hard to not do that to someone. If I say I'm going to be somewhere at a certain time, I will be there! If something comes up and I need to cancel, I try to do it as far ahead of my appointment as possible. My time is valuable and I consider other people's time to be as well.

(sigh...) I agree with GEEMAWEST- "What is this world coming to?"

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DIASTER 4/24/2011 11:56AM

  John I can tell you that you hit the nail on the head with this one. Was a nurse for 48years. The difference even in the hospital setting is just amazing. People tend to be more demanding, self centered and generally rude. We are trying our best to make a difference. It does make you remember to be extra courteous and kind to others though.so maybe all is not lost. And when you come across someone being pleasant and kind what a lift it gives your heart, and just maybe changes your path that day.

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ZURDTA- 4/24/2011 4:54AM

    Some people forget the manners they were taught or they choose not to use them. Common courtesy costs nothing but rudeness and thoughtlessness is annoying at the very least and downright hurtful most of the time. Some people, eh?!

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CARTOONB 4/24/2011 12:19AM

    Yep...people are not as likely to stand up to their commitments. Especially when it is with someone in your position. After all, it's not like you have anything else planned, right? Sorry that you're getting the short end of the stick. Better to know now, though, rather than after you spent many hours with them.

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TURBOADDICT444 4/23/2011 10:39PM

  I think it is just rude to ignore people's emails, voice mail, etc. If you can't make it, just call or leave a message, at least then you know and you don't sit around waiting for their call. I totally understand you being upset with this, I would be too. People just need to be considerate of each other's time. Everyone's time is precious and everyone is busy but at least be polite enough to let someone know when you are unavailable. People are definitely less accountable as they used to be so I definitely agree.

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SILLYHP1953 4/23/2011 10:33PM

    In the past when I went to counseling, as soon as the counselor started getting too close to my feelings, my real feelings, I quit going. I don't know if that has any relation to what you're experiencing with these people or not, don't see how that could relate to the company president. Simply put, yes, people are still selfish and inconsiderate.

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GEEMAWEST 4/23/2011 10:11PM

    You don't have to ask me that question twice. Yes, people are definitely becoming less accountable for what they commit to.

Did I tell you the story about the neighbor who committed to taking care of my granddaughter and then left her at the playground?

It seems to me that a lot of people just don't take commitment seriously these days.

In the words of my parents and grandparents: "What's this world coming to?"

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NOMORESTALLING 4/23/2011 9:49PM

    JOHN I know exactly how frustrating that is and can be. I have my own business and it involves appointments as well and yes appointments are set and they are no shows. No courtesy calls or call backs nothing. No consideration whatsoever. Frustrating to say the least.
So yeah vent away!

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1FUNNYGRANNY 4/23/2011 6:54PM

    I haave noticed this happening more and more often. Whatever happened to having a good work ethic and being accountable. Or, the customer is always right. I could go on and on, but I know everyone is getting the drift.
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MKPRINCESS007 4/23/2011 4:46PM

    It's funny that so many here are having similar experiences. Seems that with so many feeling the same way, then it shouldn't be such a rampant problem. Very curious.

Sorry to hear that you are going through a hard time with lack of accountability or responsibility. I have seen alot of it too. Conversely, I agree with some others here that people that need coaching might be having these issues that you describe so that is why they need you. It isn't always easy.

Hoping you have a great weekend!
K

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MIZZSB 4/23/2011 4:12PM

    people are so self centered this these days, and dont care about others at all.

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ANATASHIKI 4/23/2011 3:27PM

    I live in a totally different place and a totally different culture, here is the same. yesterday my sister in law told me a similar story to yours. she was called friday to do some measurements of industrial residues and she asked -can't we come next week?nope.then she said we can't friday , we'll come thursday. they did and the manager said -but we don't work today, you have nothing to measure today. emoticoneven old people who used to be decent seem to have suffered strange mutations . maybe I'm the weird one. I don't think you should accept to be treated this way, this kind of behavior shouldn't be encouraged , but you know the best what 's good for you. sometimes I feel like an alien from another galaxy though.
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LADYHAWKE12 4/23/2011 3:13PM

  I completely agree with most of the posts. I have found that today people are "me me me" with no thought for consideration or punctuality. I also agree that you may be better off not dealing with those folks - I haven't noticed that people who are rude and inconsiderate change for the better. But maybe I just haven't dealt with that many people.)) emoticon

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CANNIE50 4/23/2011 1:35PM

    How very frustrating, but it also sounds like you dodged a couple bullets. Imagine how aggravating long term working relationships would be if this is how you are treated in the "just meeting/first impressions" phase. Also, I am wondering if you are getting some lessons in the people-pleasing arena, that you blogged about recently. I know that is often what happens to me. I realize I need to change, I resist it, and then BAM, I keep getting lessons thrown at me so changing becomes more of a necessity than an option.

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WATERMELLEN 4/23/2011 1:15PM

    If a potential client fails to show for a scheduled appointment without an explanation which is reasonable, I store that missed appointment in a file and will not reschedule an appointment for that person at a later time.

It's a pretty good signal that I'm not going to be happy providing services to them!!

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KKINNEA 4/23/2011 1:01PM

    There's a lot of this around now an it's very frustrating!

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/23/2011 12:45PM

    Sadly, it's not just you or your imagination. It seems like it happens more and more these days, unfortunately. There is a growing loss of common courtesy and consideration in the world today; all we can do is make sure we don't buy into the 'it doesn't matter if I don't call' syndrome as well.

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2011DIET4ME 4/23/2011 12:30PM

    As a society - we are rapidly losing our good manners and consideration for others - - I often see the younger folks display a sense of entitlement - what I call "the me, myself, and I" syndrome - - good manners are seldom - if ever - in evidence - -

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NASFKAB 4/23/2011 12:14PM

  Can well understand your feelings. People are so inconsiderate nowadays. We are different but find lack of common courtesy in so many

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NJMATTICE 4/23/2011 12:06PM

    Sounds like that latter client is really in need of some coaching. That's the beauty of it. Those who really need some assistance are very unreliable. If she ever gets it together (and if you have to patience to put up with it) she could be a great success story! Sorry for your "pain". Pray for them both. Kiss 'em up, so to speak, and enjoy your Easter Glory!
Love,
Nancy

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LUVMYK9S 4/23/2011 12:04PM

    I think it is just the nature of some people these days. What has happened to common courtesy and consideration for others time and commitments? When it comes to business I feel it is not only inconsiderate but unprofessional. I had a similar incident this week, I had a 12:15 appointment at the doctor's office for my son who has been suffering from asthma, I show up at 12:10 with sick child, pay my co-pay and then sit in the waiting room with a very uncomfortable child for the next hour or so ... no explanation, no sorry the doctor is running late, no we had an emergency so your appointment was bumped, nothing ... Even upon questioning the receptionist the only answer I could get was 'I don't know, the nurse will be with you shortly'. And even when we were finally taken back to the exam room, no explanation, no I'm sorry for the wait ... My time is just as valuable ... perhaps I should send a bill to the doctor for my time waiting? After all, if you cancel an appointment without 24 hours notification you will be billed a service charge!

Sorry ... I guess I should not have vented on your blog! But hey, I certainly understand where you are coming from ...
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MOMONTHERUN1 4/23/2011 11:47AM

    It's unfortunate, but this society is too "me" minded. I think that manner have completley gone out the door and too many people want to put the blame on someone else. It is sad and it is upsetting that people are raising their kids to be this way as well.

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BEEJ728 4/23/2011 11:20AM

    I agree with you that in general people in our culture are taking less responsibility for their actions than they used to. More and more people seem to believe that whatever happens doesn't have any great consequence in life because they feel they don't have any great consequence as individuals. Well, that's not true but they don't know it. Anyway, try not to let it get to you. As long as you keep being honorable you will have success.

Happy Easter.

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HDHAWK 4/23/2011 11:10AM

    Grrrr......I don't blame you for being upset. Why don't people understand that it isn't only their time that's important.

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REJ7777 4/23/2011 11:06AM

    I also have a hard time with people who are late. I tend to be very punctual, and end up waiting, and waiting. Or meetings that are supposed to start at 7:00, but that only start at 7:30. Then we find out that the organizers knew beforehand that the meeting would only start at 7:30. They had announced a starting time of 7:00 because of all those who would arrive between 7:00 and 7:30. But in the end, it's we who arrive on time who get the short end of the stick. emoticon

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JECKIE 4/23/2011 10:58AM

    This is one of my pet peeves, too. There is no accountability any more, and it makes me crazy. In my situation it often manifests in people missing deadlines, which I am reliant on to meet MY deadlines, cue me in my office at 8:30 at night the night before my deadline looking like I don't know how to plan. Grrr.

All you can do is be responsible and accountable for yourself. They are cheating themselves in the end.

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REDSHOES2011 4/23/2011 10:54AM

    I think it is the people you transacted with that have the issues.. If they are not serious just move on and give the time to other whom are polite to return a simple phone call..
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Red
P.S. most of the time people are great, but one or two bad eggs.. I don't return to people whom burn me off either..

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HAPPYSOUL91 4/23/2011 10:54AM

    Maya Angelou said "when people show you who they are...believe them"

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Taking Stock and Listening

Friday, April 22, 2011

If I took the time to listen to what I’m saying on a regular basis I just might find out a bit more about what makes me tick. But, like many people I am a bit scared to understand myself. That would mean I’d have to do something and Lord knows we can’t have that, can we? I’m not talking about therapy, self-help books, DVD’s or the like. I’m talking about listening to myself talk.

I had coffee with a friend yesterday and he told me about someone he worked with. He said he noticed they began every sentence with a negative statement. It was like the glass was half empty before he even started. As we talked more he said this person was a “real downer to work with. “ Nothing was ever good enough and nothing was ever right. It was like E-yore from Winnie The Pooh walking around all day going “Poor me…..”

I took that thought with me yesterday and did some serious contemplation. I was surprised by what I found out about myself. when I am feeling a bit anxious, maybe a little insecure or unhappy I filter that through my thoughts and ultimately what I say. Nothing is ever good enough. If I eat outside my calorie range I pull out the whip and begin to scourge myself and when that’s not good enough I’ll include you. What’s the old saying? “Misery loves company.” After a awhile I don’t even notice I’m doing it. It becomes part of my routine. Oh I may disguise it as sarcasm, or humor, because, don’t you know, that’s just the way I am.

It’s just another excuse for me to stay stuck. If I see my world as being hopeless, helpless and futile, then I might as well punch my ticket for pity-party-central and flop back on the couch. I can convince myself of anything, if I try hard enough. Living in balance, spiritually, mentally and physically is easy on a good day. Those days when everything goes right, it’s pretty easy to be upbeat and positive.

The reason I’m over weight is my own doing. It’s not a character flaw. I don’t deserve to be singled out for punishment either by myself or others. Yeah, there are cruel people in this world and some days I believe I can tell you where every one of them lives. There is nothing wrong with me. But inside of me, that voice, that self-talk, reminds me that there is. I never want to be alone so as soon as I begin to believe there is something wrong with me, I will find something wrong with you! My words come from my thoughts. When I perceive myself in a negative way, that’s what you are going to hear. When I see myself in a positive light or accept me for where I am at right now, then I can begin to see the rays of sunshine poking through the clouds. Then, not only am I okay, but so are you! Hooray!!!!

I know where I am “supposed to be.” It’s not always where I am at right now and sometimes it seems so far away, but I won’t ever get there until I learn to love me and be at peace with the current me and please oh please John, quit beating up for stuff the rest of the world never, ever notices. That’s ground zero, the here and now. An honest assessment of me and my journey means I can start to contruct goals that will help me get to where I want to go.

Kermit the Frog said, “It’s not easy being green.” I don’t think any of this is easy. I think it requires hard work, diligence and beginning to appreciate yourself. Then and only then can I appreciate someone else.

What’s that you say? You’re all alone? Look around you, there are millions on either side of you who are ready to lend a hand. I know, most of them are my good friends.

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

UNLIKELY 4/26/2011 9:15AM

  Negativity stinks. Darn the negativity, don't let the negativity get you down! emoticon

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SILLYHP1953 4/23/2011 10:24PM

    The reflection that occurs after reading your blogs is very good for my soul. Thank you.

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CARTOONB 4/22/2011 10:22PM

    Hmmm...I'm good today, so it must be a good day for you! I get where you're coming from. Hope you get where you want to go.

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EGR2BEME 4/22/2011 6:26PM

    Hi John, just stopping by to say hello! You have friends out here that you may not even know that you have! I look forward to reading your very thoughtful blogs. What I love in you is the awareness and when I catch a glimpse of that in myself it feels so good! Being able to recognize and admit something that we need to work on, is half the battle.

Loved your last comments..." What’s that you say? You’re all alone? Look around you, there are millions on either side of you who are ready to lend a hand. I know, most of them are my good friends."

Thanks so much for taking the time to blog...you are reaching so many of us!

Have a wonderful Easter weekend with your family!

Ellen
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EGR2BEME 4/22/2011 6:26PM

    Hi John, just stopping by to say hello! You have friends out here that you may not even know that you have! I look forward to reading your very thoughtful blogs. What I love in you is the awareness and when I catch a glimpse of that in myself it feels so good! Being able to recognize and admit something that we need to work on, is half the battle.

Loved your last comments..." What’s that you say? You’re all alone? Look around you, there are millions on either side of you who are ready to lend a hand. I know, most of them are my good friends."

Thanks so much for taking the time to blog...you are reaching so many of us!

Have a wonderful Easter weekend with your family!

Ellen
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SHERRYJVP 4/22/2011 3:33PM

    I always love what you have to say..This is something I need to work on. I bet most of us do.

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GEEMAWEST 4/22/2011 2:00PM

    I agree with you! emoticon

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HAPPYSOUL91 4/22/2011 12:19PM

    We go as far as we think, therefore think big

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NJMATTICE 4/22/2011 11:41AM

    You do hold yourself to a high standard, my friend. But, on the other hand, aiming high gets you higher than if you don't aim at all. Just keep working to frame it in the positive, as I know you do. Have a spiritually satisfying Good Friday and a very blessed Easter my friend!
Love,
Nancy

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KKINNEA 4/22/2011 10:56AM

    Excellent points as usual John!!

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/22/2011 10:48AM

    Out of the heart, the mouth speaks--listening to our own words is frighteningly revealing, isn't it? We don't realize what a negative person we are some days until we pay attention to what we are saying out loud and to ourselves. The most revealing is when we speak without stopping to think or 'frame' our words. Ouch; did I just say that? You are right, this is not easy; but it is worth it, because we are worth it.

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1SPARKLINGSUSAN 4/22/2011 10:41AM

    What a thought-provoking and honest blog, John. You speak your truth from your heart, my friend, and I know that your words apply to me and I'm betting to so many others. One of my biggest challenges has been to be gentle with myself and while I'm still working on that I am more aware of my own feelings and how most of my former concerns were for things that others never even were aware of.

You've come so far on this journey, John. Every day is a fresh opportunity to learn even more about ourselves and about others. Sometimes it will be a "spot on" lesson and sometimes it will be something to ponder.

I'm so blessed to have found you and your blogs! I've learned from each recent one I've read and I'm grateful for your wisdom and your ability to share with us so clearly.

Happy Easter to you and your family!
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KIKOOMAGOO 4/22/2011 10:29AM

    Ahh coffee and friends! Two of my favorite things. I know Kermit takes great pride in the fact that he is green, and I never really could figure out if Eeyore cared that he was miserable- or did he just want his Hundred Acre Wood pals to acknowledge that he was miserable. I know some people who are happier being miserable and noticed! Since i only know the Sparkie you, i would not put you in the Eeyore group.
Kermit also makes a point to encourage others to be proud who have a distinct characteristic that may not be "the norm", or congratulate them on a job well done. That is the you I am proud to know.
Thanks for being who you are! I have no doubt that you are as much of gem in your real world as you are in SparkWorld.

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KAT573 4/22/2011 9:38AM

    You have described the Human Experience to a T, and highlighted why we need to exercise our spiritual and emotional strength just as much as we do our physical! Life IS a balancing act; Thanks John, for this wonderful summary of the human condition.I read this this morning; excerpted the parts I felt were SPOT on, and it is my core belief ; until I accept all parts of ME, my authenticity inthis world will remain stunted, and the gifts God has given will remain so as well:

We Grow in Darkness and in Light
-Marilyn Mason

"Every experience is a learning opportunity.
…We are always growing. Even when it feels like we are going backward, we are growing. (Like when) we’ve learned to recognize (situations and) relationships that aren’t good for us. That’s evidence of growth. Recognizing our slower pace signals our awareness, and that is growth too. (Taking the next step toward proactivity is the opportunity offered when this happens. Will we take it?)
Much of growth has come through the dark periods of our lives. The darkness and the light have much to teach us. Every moment is to be revered for its message.
-excerpted from “A Woman’s Spirit”
parenthesis are my added comments

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 4/22/2011 9:38AM

    We all have the same struggles and thoughts and even though we're not alone in this, it sometimes still feels like it. It's good to be reminded we're not alone :)

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BRIGET66 4/22/2011 9:18AM

    We're all really alike, aren't we Jon?

The same feelings, the same doubts, our ups, our downs.

But isn't it wonderful to know we're not alone this time? I'm with ya on this Jon and I really believe you'll work through this and continue on your successful journey. (Need I remind you, You're halfway there!)

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Some days I, too, still struggle but I'm so much nicer to myself than I was in the past. But it's something I've just recently learned and it took 43 years to learn it. So treat yourself nice, you deserve it. And you've earned it.

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MARTELLA3 4/22/2011 9:15AM

    Our thoughts determine our emotions, not the reverse. It is easy to be negative and critical because we are flawed and sinful humans. The true victory is seeing past the flaws and loving ourselves and fellow travelers anyway.
Thanks for a timely blog!

Marty

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IREMEMBERME 4/22/2011 9:08AM

    Yet another well-written, thought-provoking, and inspiring blog post!

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NASFKAB 4/22/2011 9:01AM

  Thanks given lots of things to think about.

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