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"Dont Give Up"

Tuesday, April 05, 2011

I was so touched by the comments and remarks on my blog from yesterday. Soem touched me in a most special way. They came from people who were on the verge of giving up. I wanted to share something with all of you.

In 1993 Jim Valvano, a basketball coach, was diagnosed with incurable cancer. A few weeks before he died he was honored by ESPN with an award for courage. That speech, wich I listen to at least throee or four times a month, is availible on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2kx5xbyhsfo
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Every time I watch it I feel motivated and humbled at the same time. It keeps me focused and it brings a tear to my eye. I thought I'd share

I hope it helps you.

  
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DMC10241 4/9/2011 10:58AM

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LILMSHAPPY74 4/6/2011 7:36PM

    Thank you for that...:)

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IRON_RESOLVE 4/5/2011 11:24PM

    Excellent!

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PRESENTTIME 4/5/2011 10:36PM

    Thank you for writing this blog. I needed to read it.
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CARTOONB 4/5/2011 10:06PM

    His is an amazing speech. I tear up every time.

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SILLYHP1953 4/5/2011 10:03PM

    I can see why you watch this a few times a month. Thank you for sharing it with us!
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PLATINUM755 4/5/2011 9:41PM

    emoticon...and thanks for motivational piece to help us learn how to!

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JOANIEBUG46 4/5/2011 8:27PM

    Very good! Thanks so much for sharing yourself! Once we realize that this is all a process; there are no magical shortcuts. No quick fixes. It's the accumulation of all the minute decisions we make on a daily basis. that's what makes the difference. We can't give up! We won't give up!! emoticon

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KSGROTHE 4/5/2011 8:09PM

    Perhaps if I'm supposed to laugh, think, and cry every day, I should be less embarrassed by how often TV shows/movies/YouTube videos and even SP blogs bring tears to my eyes.

This is great! Thanks for sharing!

- Karen

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NASFKAB 4/5/2011 7:20PM

  Thanks so much its an inspiration reading your blog.

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LYNN2BTHIN 4/5/2011 5:24PM

    WOW, what an amazing speech. Thanks for sharing it because I had never heard it before. It is for sure something to listen to often to remind you of what's important in life. Thanks again.

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WALKAWAY 4/5/2011 4:04PM

    I just finished watching this during my lunch hour. emoticon Thanks so much for sharing.

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ZENSTEPH 4/5/2011 3:03PM

    uh, wow, you've left me dumbstruck/speechless twice in 2 days. thank you


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    Amazing speech! Thank you for sharing!

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SHARON-MARIE 4/5/2011 12:56PM

  WOW!!!


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JANC7223 4/5/2011 11:52AM

    Thanks for this blog. I have been a little discouraged but reading this had encouraged me to keep going one day at a time.

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APRILJOY1000 4/5/2011 9:40AM

    I went right to watching the video. It is a wonderful example of someone who is going to love LIVING the rest of his life. It is MOTIVATING and, yes, humbling. Thank you for sharing it.

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 4/5/2011 9:36AM

    I enjoyed his video. I looked up his foundation and found a wealth of information on him. He planned his life and then he lived his plan. That, I believe, is the key.

Thanks for sharing this!

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CHBADILLO 4/5/2011 9:28AM

    Thanks for sharing, I'll get on there tonight and listen. have a wonderful tuesday :)
christie

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Getting My Arms Around REAL Change

Tuesday, April 05, 2011

It took me almost fifty eight years to realize and understand that any real change comes from the inside of me and slowly works its way out. If you go back a few days and read my posting from Saturday, April, 2 youíll see I had the opportunity to have lunch with a successful Sparker on Friday. I was waiting for some magic words of enlightenment and after close to two hours she spoke her wisdom.
ďJohn, real change comes from the inside out.Ē I canít say I was disappointed because I couldnít argue with her. But it sounded so very plain, so vanilla, and so ordinary. I was expecting some great and grand revelation.

I had an eight hour car ride Sunday to think about what she said. I hadnít really heard anything new. What I heard was true no matter how hard I try to prove otherwise. When I joined Spark I was given a calorie range to eat within. Being a really bright person I figured if I ate below that range Iíd lose weight quicker and faster and OMG, OMG would I look hot, buff or whatever term you wish to insert here. Then, I figured out that if I exercised harder and coupled it with lowering my caloric intake, why my goodness, Iíd get there even quicker. You can quite imagine how that turned out. I was hungry all the time and my body ached. There are certain foods I am addicted to. Moderation does not apply in those cases and no matter how hard I try to rationalize it, processed sugar and I have a very nasty relationship that produces bad side effects. The phrase ďdenial is not just a river in EgyptÖ.Ē may apply here. I feel crummy when I have a slice of cake, but if you put one in front of me right now Iíd gobble it right up. Maybe staying away from those things is best for me; otherwise it starts a spiral that ends up with me being very depressed. I find myself believing in ďmagic.Ē I gravitate towards articles that talk about thirty, forty and fifty day wonders and BTW if Dr. Oz says it works it must, right?

So yesterday I took a really deep breath, stepped outside of myself and examined my behavior. I saw where I slipped and where my thought process was a bit leaky. I ate within my calorie level yesterday, planning five small meals. I felt really bad about doing it. A little voice kept telling me I was eating way too much. I guess it will take some time, but really where am I going? I worked out my exercise plan for the week. I have gone through six months of injuring myself and otherwise compromising my physical health. Some of it came from working out too much and getting fatigued which led to getting injured. I spent time of the elliptical and treadmill yesterday. Last night the same small voice that told me Iím eating too much told me I should go back to the gym. I hadnít done enough. I felt guilty, but I took a deep breath and stayed put. I could go on and on.

This will take time. It wonít happen today or even tomorrow and yup Iíll have setbacks. Later today I am going to work on a series of ďbehavior goalsĒ for the next six weeks or so. They are going to address the internal me. Iíll know Iím being successful when I see those external results. Iíll be assured the real transformation I am going through will be ďfor real.Ē

I canít do this alone, neither can you. We need each other and the great group of coaches and advisors here at Spark. I was foolish enough to develop the perception that I could navigate this mine field without a map. Yeah, Iíve lost sixty eight pounds but itís time to get healthy.

Join me?

  
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ODDLYODD8 4/7/2011 10:16AM

  John,
On the internal work you may find some stunning insights and process help from Dr. Greg Baer's work "Real Love". helped me clear up lots of issues.

You inspire me too. and PLEASE like me. LOL your friend Garth

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CORKY982 4/7/2011 8:47AM

  I firmly believe that I have to fix the inside before I can touch the outside. I'm still working on finding a place within me where I am happy with myself and happy with my life. Until I find that inner balance, I can exercise and eat healthy all I want... but those last 10-15 pounds won't leave me. So I whole heartedly agree - change starts on the inside. Let's get healthy inside and out :)

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MOMMYBYCHOICE 4/7/2011 8:00AM

    I kinda prefer vanilla.... thanks for sharing the simple inside out

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ALLYCAT424 4/6/2011 10:27AM

    Wow...this is extremely motivational for me!! ....Thanks for sharing your thoughts!!

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REJ7777 4/6/2011 6:50AM

    Yes, I will join you. Because we can all do this, from the inside out! emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 4/6/2011 3:50AM

    Awesome....there is a big difference between eating to lose weight and doing it to get healthy.....
Have just clicked into that one myself.....right there with you John

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GINILEE4 4/5/2011 3:08PM

    John. You are very wise. I think you could start a movement here. LOL The idea of behavioral goals sounds exactly right, for you and for me. There are behaviors I have that definitrly need to be dealt with. Let me know how those goals are going and I will try to keep you up on mine too. Thanks so much for this blog. Great job !!!

Gini

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GIRANIMAL 4/5/2011 3:04PM

    I'm in! I fell into this trap a bit too for awhile. It is true that, generally speaking, a cookie or two is not going to kill anyone. But a cookie or two nearly every day, even within my calorie range, is not "healthy."

So yeah, count me in, dear friend!

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SILLYHP1953 4/5/2011 2:40PM

    I am with you, too! I'm finding I must plan, plan, plan, and then plan some more. I am not much of a planner, or maybe a follower of the plan. But now my dh is trying to lose weight, too, and so it has become easier to plan meals when we're both trying. I'm really glad you write a lot of blogs because each one speaks to me of what I'm needing to hear. I don't know how you do that, but thanks!


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SMOCKON 4/5/2011 2:24PM

    You always seem to know what I'm thinking! emoticon

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ANEPANALIPTI 4/5/2011 1:20PM

    when did the whole one leading to one more start with sugar for you? was it always that way but you used to have a metabolism that could handle it?

and OMG def must be eating your minimum calories otherwise you're killing your metabolism!!

have a great week john :)

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HDHAWK 4/5/2011 12:51PM

    You are certainly not alone in your thinking here John. How many times will it take for me to learn to be patient and let it take as long as it takes to get where I want to go. I fight with myself on a regular basis not to eat too little or exercise too much or buy the latest, greatest program that will finally get me "there". I'll get there when I keep doing what I know I need to do, one day at a time, for as many days as it takes. My bigger goal is to learn how to stay there for a lifetime!

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UNLIKELY 4/5/2011 12:29PM

  I hate myself when I watch Dr. Oz---I know he is trying to get me to be healthy, but then any herb or supplement or "cure" he brings up on that show I obsess about. I have spent way too much money at GNC and the Vitamin Shoppe over the last year because of that show!!! I must avoid it at all costs!!!! emoticon

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EMMANYC 4/5/2011 12:26PM

    Another great blog, John. You say very well what a lot of people feel.

I don't have a lot of difficulty sticking to my calorie range (and striking the right balance between healthy calorie-wise eating and occasional splurges). But like you, I do have a lot of difficulty striking the right balance with exercise. Also like you, I've been struggling with some injuries - a number of them due to doing too much (and partly because I've got some alignment issues). One of my problems is that whenever I'm not injured, I'm so thrilled to be able to move that I do too much. And that's just not a good idea for this 47 year-old body. I have found a great trainer (an ex-dancer with a history of injuries and a "counselor-in-training") who is very good at helping me strike the right balance between pushing old limits so I can progress, and not overdoing it. She also teaches me specific exercises to help me reduce the risk of injury. Maybe a coach like this could help you, too?

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TRIPLE_EMME 4/5/2011 12:01PM

    I will join you!

I'm glad that you are working on your behavioral goals. I'm doing the same.

You're friend is so right:
change comes from within!

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NJMATTICE 4/5/2011 11:42AM

    Thanks for sharing your journey as it is, not as you think it should be! That "real" will help with the "real" and ultimately lasting change.
Love,
Nancy

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THEMIGHTYLILLIE 4/5/2011 11:23AM

    Too true. All of it. You have to dig in at some point and ask yourself the hard questions-- specifically, "WHY?" WHY do I want to eat that? WHY DID I eat that? The answer to that one always boggles the mind-- and rarely has to do with HUNGER.

As for the exercise... well, some days are tough and some are easy-- it is just doing the minimum as often as possible that will get you to the point that you WANT to do it every day. Just going out and doing 15 minutes of ANYTHING will eventually teach your body to love and WANT the exercise.

As for your calorie range... if you are having trouble staying in your range, you might consider dropping your carbs down. I have found that according to other sources, we don't need nearly as many carbs as Spark offers us... and by dropping them down to around 150-200 grams per day, you will find that you eat more protein and have an easier time staying in your range. Just a thought for you! It takes about 4 days to get used to.... but sugars are one of those carbs and it sounds to me like this might be a good choice for you try out for a couple weeks!

Anyway-- keep pushing! Keep fighting!!! You CAN do this... and you WILL.

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ALLISON145 4/5/2011 11:20AM

    You're right John - we all need to step out of the spin cycle of looking for the fastest way to get to goal. All it leads to is over-doing and under-performing (at least in or own minds) which leads to depression and self-loathing. I'm done with that, how about you??

-Allison

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GREENCAT1 4/5/2011 10:25AM

    John - you are dead on with this blog. It HAS to come from within or it is just denial - as you said. For me, sitting through the emotions that come with the paradigm shift, is the hardest part and can feel so painful at times. Good luck withthe new shift in your journey!



Warmly,

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THOMS1 4/5/2011 10:15AM

    I started spark about the same way. I thought I was smart trying to eat below my calorie range and exercising like a mad woman which resulted in overdoing and not being able to exercise without pain for about 3 months. Well I learned my lesson. I now exercise in moderation, and I don't come out of the gym wringing wet anymore. I learned to stay within my calorie range and I have been very successful at it. I really liked your blog and I wish you success.

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SPARKLISE 4/5/2011 9:47AM

    This is in reality what we all need. Just like you, i'm always looking for the miracle phrase,book,diet,personm,anything! that will make me thin. But in reality,it is much simpler than that-not easy -but we can do it. We just have to keep at it a little at a time and filter the voices in our head(you do hear voices too don't you?)Have a good day. emoticon emoticon

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APRILJOY1000 4/5/2011 9:46AM

    You can do it John and, eventually, you will be happier, healthier and stronger (physically, emotionally, and personally). emoticon emoticon

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MOMGABE 4/5/2011 9:11AM

    John, I always read your blogs but rarely feel compelled to comment. This one spoke to me, however. I have been on a plateau for several months now. I am gradually changing my food plan to include more whole foods, fruits and veggies BUT I am aware that there are times I eat for reasons other than hunger. Your blog has inspired me to take a serious look at where I am going with my emotional and spiritual journey. So Yes, I am on board.

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AGENTNER 4/5/2011 9:08AM

    you and me both! I think I am in a rush to loose also. my focus has been on being healthy and for that I have been slowing down the push to loose more this very instant. But I too feel guilty when I eat, and eating those processed carbs seems to be a trigger for me too! We can do it though! we just gotta keep focusing on us and on the results we want to see and feel! GOOD LUCK! you can do it!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 4/5/2011 9:03AM

    So true! I too would eat the (in my case) bagel and know good and well that in an hour or so, I'm going to feel really icky. Why in the world would a sane person do that??? Ugh!

I too am working thru the changes. Keep up the good work, John!

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EMTFF376 4/5/2011 8:58AM

    That's me, John... Telling it like it is with no hot fudge topping.. (mmm, hot fudge...) :)

I'm so glad we had the opportunity to meet! Like you said, we need to set aside some true talk time and not rush rush rush through a lunch hour.

I haven't had time to blog (I know that's shocking), but I can't say that I would say anything that you haven't already said about our meeting. :)

Have a great Tuesday... 85 degrees in Buckhannon yesterday, snowing right now in Preston Co. UGH!

Big hugs,
Janette


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If You Were Thinking of Giving Up........ Read This First......Please?

Monday, April 04, 2011

There are some mornings I crawl out of bed and as I look at myself in the mirror I tell myself I just canít do this anymore. I canít be bright and positive and upbeat and all those things that take so much effort some mornings. I look at my belly and even though all those fantastic measurement tools I have at my disposal tell me I am making progress, well friend, the progress isnít quick enough. It makes me want to go away, to quit, to give up, to convince myself that some people are supposed to be overweight. Itís in their genes!!! But I donít. I feel a bit ashamed, a little embarrassed that I have been stuck for what seems like forever now. I feel frustrated that I canít convince my body that it isnít twenty seven instead of fifty seven. I want to scream ďThe he** with all of this,Ē but I donít.

I come from a long line of cowards and quitters. I have been trained to live within my limitations and accept my fate as some sort of divine or cosmic punishment for past transgressions, sins and mistakes. Some days I feel like Iím not good enough to be around all these shiny happy people who are running, biking and swimming half way around the globe. I wanna crawl under the covers and block the sun. But I donít.

I have lost some friends recently and that makes me sad. Fellow soldiers on this journey towards health who became casualties of their own minds and beliefs. They quietly faded into the woodwork. They donít interact anymore. Like me they are embarrassed, angry and some days a bit scared. Like me they havenít learned how to deal with success on any level and they often feel foolish. So they quietly leave. I donít always notice right away. Then one day I wonder, ďWhat ever became ofÖÖÖÖĒ

Some have reached their goals and couldnít hang on and the pain is too great. Some have tried and tried and tried and just couldnít make it. So they leave. I wonít go anywhere. Iíll be dam&*d if I run myself off.

Iím not writing this to receive. Iím writing this to give. Somewhere, someone is going to read this and wonder how I knew you were just about ready to give up because you used all of the energy you believed was inside of you. Someone may pass this on to you and urge you to read it.

Donít leave, donít quit, donít give up. Iím here and so are, oh about a million other people and we have all felt the same things from time to time but we havenít given up. This march towards health and self-esteem isnít always the most exciting but in the end it is the most rewarding. This Spark process works. I am proof it works simply because I am still here. This ist a diet. Diets encourage failure. It is an incremental life change that isnít always fun.
Take a good look around you. There are millions of us that feel the same way you do every day. Do me a favor, please? If today was the day you were going to leave, quit or give up, postpone that decision for one more day, print this out, put it on your fridge and commit to taking care of today. When you get up tomorrow congratulate yourself for making it one more day. I promise you it will work.

I can never have enough friends

  
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YESCURLYCAN 3/12/2012 2:41AM

  I found your blog through DDorn's page and am so glad I did. I am sure you have helped so many people by writing this, because you have certainly helped me. Thank you emoticon

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BEYOND_GR8NESS 7/26/2011 7:38PM

  Right on time!

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NEWME0519 6/18/2011 11:58PM

    Thank you for sharing! I needed to read this tonight!

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 6/11/2011 6:14AM

    I love this honesty and have read this several times and have it bookmarked. Thanks.

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TYRA36 6/1/2011 4:45PM

  thank you. well written emoticon

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STARRYGREENJEN 5/5/2011 12:24AM

    You sir, are an inspiration. Thank you.

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DESERTFLOWERG 5/4/2011 6:26AM

    great post


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BOSOXGYRL33 4/23/2011 3:55PM

    THANK YOU! I really needed that today.

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TERESANAVARRO 4/22/2011 12:37PM

    Thank you. I'm just starting (again) and I will print this and read it when I feel like giving up (again).

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CANDYGETNFIT2 4/22/2011 3:26AM

    Thanks for the blog!

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SLENDERIZE7733 4/18/2011 2:43PM

    Thank you. Today I felt like giving up, I have been so moody and grumpy. I just didn't know if I wanted to continue on this path anymore, of changing my lifestyle. But now, I want to. I suffer from bi-polar, and I guess that today is one of my kind of down days. Previously I have been up up up, but I just don't know why I can't get off this feeling terrible cycle. Thank you for your kind words and you said it all man, I will continue this journey thanks to you, and talk to some of my supporters. I can never thank you enough

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CDAVIDSON9 4/18/2011 9:07AM

  thank you, i felt like i wanted to give up and do exactly what you said, this hits me right in the heart, i have made great progress in my weight loss but i just can not accept the fact i lost 82 pounds, i still look at that 20 pounds i have to lose and i compare my damaged body to those of guys around me and i get more depressed knowing i will always be reminded of what i was.... i will try it one more day becuase of you.

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RUNNERGIRL60 4/18/2011 2:52AM

    WOW!!! I just read this tonight and its a good thing I was at home, I just sat here with tears down my checks. I did print this out and posted it. I have been having alot of down days lately and have been on the edge of this is to much right now! I finally have acouple job interviews set up which helps alot! My weight until this past week was my enemy bearing nudging for 3 or so weeks. Family issues etc etc... I had almost let it get me and like its says I DIDN'T LET IT!! So close but I can't let everyone and everything else control my life! IT'S. MINE. Thanks for the ear and for the great blog! Hope ur weekend was great!!! emoticon emoticon

Michelle

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CHANGINGHORSES 4/17/2011 6:11AM

    Awesome!!! I hope lot's of people read and believe. We all have it in us, from the struggle to the succeed! We can do it!
Thanks John!
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ZENSTEPH 4/15/2011 7:27PM

    Wow, wow, wow. Thank you. I needed to read this today.

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BLUE_KARMA 4/12/2011 11:33AM

    emoticonBless you.

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USFBULL 4/12/2011 3:35AM

    Thanks John, emoticon

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NELLBELLA26 4/11/2011 10:28PM

    Such a perfect blog for me to have read today. Thank you! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MAMAANGE 4/11/2011 10:21PM

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. How did you know?

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JANE1216 4/11/2011 9:45PM

    Thank you for posting such an honest - right between the eyes - kick it in the fanny blog! I needed to read this and I'm so glad I did ---

Hope you have a blessed week ---

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JCEDIT89 4/11/2011 7:11PM

    Excellent, excellent blog. Thank you! emoticon

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JBARSTOW 4/11/2011 6:20PM

    You, my friend, are exactly what I needed today. Thank you!

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MAMADWARF 4/11/2011 4:01PM

    John, you are definatly a beautiful light. Thank you for this wonderful, wise blog. Carry on. Jan

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PENGUINROSS 4/11/2011 2:54PM

    Thank you for your honesty. You spoke directly to me so I am excited tht I got to read it.

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CSERF09 4/11/2011 2:22PM

    Thank you. We all need to hear this every now and then. emoticon

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SPRTMOMX2 4/11/2011 1:39PM

  Wow how motivating!! Thank you so much for sharing such a well written and thought out blog. I did need this today & am forwarding to a friend!

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CAPARSLEY1 4/11/2011 12:41PM

    Thank you for this blog! It's not only encouraging but so well written! Your analogies are absolutely fantastic and right on point! I LOVE THIS BLOG! And I certainly will print it out! You're an inspiration to others which in return helps to keep you inspired as well, I'm sure of it! Thank you for sharing!

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ALLISONBISHOP46 4/11/2011 10:18AM

    thank you

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ALEPEQUIJADA 4/11/2011 9:10AM

    Thank you, it really inspired me to keep going, thanks !!!! emoticon

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MRSPINCKNEY 4/11/2011 8:58AM

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! I needed to hear that today!

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RACH_LVSLIFE 4/11/2011 7:46AM

    Thank you~

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JEN040219 4/11/2011 6:36AM

    You made me tear up!! Thank you....

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2BHOTNTONED 4/11/2011 5:24AM

    Thankyou for your very heartfelt and honest blog, you are an inspiration.

Mandy

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MASE72 4/11/2011 4:55AM

    Great Blog! emoticon

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CHANGE4THEBEST 4/11/2011 2:23AM

    Hi,

You title to this blog caught my attention. Well written blog, especially the last paragraph emoticon

Thank you for taking the time to write this blog.

Good Luck with your journey to better health

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BIKRGRANMA 4/11/2011 12:32AM

    Thanks so much for the encouragement, I really needed it.

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IMTCDZ 4/10/2011 10:49PM

  Thank you for this blog post! I need this today.

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VON728 4/10/2011 9:49PM

    ThankS for this post. This week I had to remind myself just who I am losing weight for. It's not for HIM it's for me. I want to be healthy and look better for ME!!!

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BLUEJEAN99 4/10/2011 7:51PM

    thank you, i was feeling down and this helped emoticon

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FAIRLIGHT914 4/10/2011 6:59PM

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us! I just came back from the beach in my size 18 swimsuit and I know what you mean about looking in the mirror and asking yourself, what in the he** am I thinking? Nonetheless, like you, I did NOT give up...I ran 4 miles up and down that coastline most everyday! I just had to remember that two years ago, I could barely make it to the water without panting but NOT THIS YEAR! I resolved to make a change and guess what, I kept my promise to MYSELF. WOW. I have ran two 5Ks since then! I'm glad to meet ya' my friend! WE CAN DO THIS!!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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CHRISTINECAN 4/10/2011 6:09PM

    I wasn't close to giving up, but I was a little blue and you did help me out of that funk. I can only that as ye sow, so shall ye reap and when you need it, I or someone like you is there to lend a hand up.

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 4/10/2011 5:48PM

    What a powerful blog! Even though I am almost to my goal weight this could be used in any area of life when a person just feels like giving up. You definitely GAVE and in so giving you will receive. I look forward to your next blog.

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BROWNIEISLANDER 4/10/2011 3:15PM

    Honest and heartfelt....Which will certainly be inspiration....
To many others...
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HAPPYNSMILING 4/10/2011 12:57PM

    emoticon I do understand the feelings you expressed. AND you are so correct! Keep hanging on...it is worth it in the end!!!! Or should I say FOREVER!

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JANDREWS031 4/10/2011 12:19PM

    Thanks so much for sharing!!!!!!!
Janet

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HJFOGARTY 4/10/2011 11:57AM

    Thanks for writing what so many feel but don't take that moment to share - it is very appreciated - know that you are a true inspiration on so many levels! take care of you!

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LADYGWEN25 4/10/2011 10:33AM

    thank you so much for your blog! I've printed and keep it with me as a reminder.. I am NOT alone! :)

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JOY1918 4/10/2011 10:23AM

    Beautiful Blog.........thank you!

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CHANGING4ME49 4/10/2011 9:26AM

    I have lost 104 lbs so far and still have 96 more to go. I will not quit however I sincerely haven't given myself, my best effort in the last few months. And that of course has lead to a plateau of sorts. I decided recently I needed to rediscover my motivation, my will to do anything to get the job done, and kick start my effort. THANKS SO MUCH for the KICK!! emoticon

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NANA2PRINCESSES 4/10/2011 6:31AM

    Glad I found this, thanks.

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Taking Advantage of Opportunities.

Saturday, April 02, 2011


A lot has been written about being successful. I believe in the end itís a matter of what works for you. If you have an opportunity to actually sit down and talk with someone who has walked the walk, who has struggled, sweated and shed more than just a few tears you walk away enriched and inspired.

I had an opportunity like that yesterday. I had lunch with a Spark friend, EMTFF376. I was nervous. Iím about half way to my goal and here is a person who has done some really inspiring things on her journey and quite honestly I was a bit afraid sheíd look at me and sorta grimace. The fear melted away about two seconds after she greeted me with what can best be described as an enormous bear hug. For the past six months we have been trying to arrange an opportunity to meet when I was in WVA but it always seemed like either her schedule or mine didnít allow it to happen. Yesterday it did. Wow, what an experience. I could prattle on and on about her accomplishments but take a look at her Spark page for yourself. http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage.asp?id=E
MTFF376.

Here is what I learned: We didnít talk a lot about diet or exercise, although it was sprinkled in the conversation. At one point she looked across the table and told me that the transformation begins inside of you and as you change the way you think, feel and behave you see the results externally. Iím paraphrasing here, but you get the intent. Real change comes when you have the courage to look at how you are acting or behaving and when you have the courage to look at yourself and not blink. Itís when you do the tough stuff even when you do not want to do it. She told me that she often takes her lunch break to run because itís the only time she has to exercise. For part of the year she works three jobs!! I learned that if you want to be successful you do the things you have to do to get there, and by the way; you do it with one of the most engaging smiles I have ever witnessed. When you change from the inside out you possess the ability to light up a room when you walk into it.

When I walked away I felt focused. Nothing she told me was new but I got to hear it in real time from someone who has experienced everything I am experiencing. It carried me well through the rest of yesterday and into this morning. I have an eight hour car ride home tomorrow and it will give me lots of time to think.

If you have a chance to spend some time with a successful friend, take advantage of the opportunity. The benefit of being able to listen, question and feel reassured canít be measured. We all walk the same path here, some of us trot, some jog, some crawl, some run, but we are all pointed in the same direction. As I walked away from our meeting the lyrics of a song form The Muppet Movie crossed my mind: ďThereís not a word yet, for old friends whoíve just met.Ē

  
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SURFGIRLY 4/6/2011 1:49PM

    I've read several of your blog posts and I've enjoyed every one of them. Inspiring :)

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TINNATEE 4/5/2011 12:05PM

    I love your blogs! Thank you so much.

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REJ7777 4/4/2011 5:25PM

    emoticon I'm so glad both of you got to meet and encourage one another! emoticon emoticon

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TRIPLE_EMME 4/4/2011 4:00PM

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I am glad that you were finally able to connect with your friend.

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SILLYHP1953 4/4/2011 2:09PM

    When's your book coming out? I want to be sure I get an autographed copy. I hope you have started it, cause I don't want to have to wait years and years!! I love reading your blogs, you speak to my soul, you help me face myself.
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ZURDTA- 4/4/2011 9:21AM

    Lovely, just lovely.

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LYNMEINDERS 4/3/2011 11:03PM

    Awesome wisdom in there....thanks for sharing it.....

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TRAVELGRRL 4/3/2011 8:09PM

    Sounds like an awesome meeting! I'm off to check out her blog now. Thanks for sharing.

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IMTCDZ 4/3/2011 2:02PM

  Another great post! Glad you were inspired and for sharing the experience on your blog.

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MESEATURTLE 4/3/2011 10:46AM

    Glad u got to meet her!!!!Thanx for sharing!

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ANEPANALIPTI 4/3/2011 4:49AM

    What a beautiful meeting. SO happy for you! :)

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MORTICIAADDAMS 4/2/2011 9:31PM

    I would love to meet some of my sparkfriends. It would be great!! I'm glad you got to do this.

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MINIMOE1 4/2/2011 3:07PM

    Your friend is so right - transformation starts from within. Finding that inner resolve is not easy but definitely worth the effort.

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JUNEAU2010 4/2/2011 2:31PM

    Your blog is an example of the value of this wonderful Spark community!

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SKATVEN 4/2/2011 1:13PM

    Thank you for sharing that excellent message.

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NASFKAB 4/2/2011 12:09PM

  Thanks for sharing great post. Enjoyed reading it

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HELEN_BRU 4/2/2011 12:05PM

    Very inspiring experience for you and us! Thanks for sharing.

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MKPRINCESS007 4/2/2011 11:54AM

    Love this blog John! So glad you got to meet someone from SP in person, it makes things so much more tangible right?

Your message it so strong here...........surround yourself with positive people. GREAT idea. I have been whining a bit lately about some drivel on SP with some folks, and ya know what, if they aren't positive for me maybe I need to refocus. :)

Thanks for sharing your awesome experience!

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HDHAWK 4/2/2011 11:25AM

    What a wonderful time you must have had! I'm glad you had the opportunity to meet!

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KT-NICHOLS-13 4/2/2011 11:08AM

    "Real change comes when you have the courage to look at how you are acting or behaving and when you have the courage to look at yourself and not blink." What a powerful statement!

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NJMATTICE 4/2/2011 10:49AM

    Way to take advantage of the opportunity! Great choice.
Have a wonderful weekend.
Love,
Nancy

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Dear Mr. President...........

Thursday, March 31, 2011

I own you an apology. You have much more influence, control and power than I imagined. As a matter of fact, from what I understand, you have more power than any president in history.

I was eating dinner at the hotel tonight, alone and there was a table of four next to me. (Yes, I eaves dropped. I was bored!!!!) All four people had just returned from vacation and according to them they werenít able to do any of the things they wanted with their grandchildren because you have removed all of the funding.
One couple wanted to take their grandkids on a boat trip in the Everglades to see alligators and such but the trips had been cancelled because ďObama cut the funding.Ē The other couple had wanted to get geo-thermal heating system and the price had gone back up becauseÖÖÖÖ.. ďObama removed the incentives.Ē They were stuck buying a normal old furnace. It was your fault Mr. President!! They said if Donald Trump were president heíd fire everyone that ďdidnít do right.Ē This discussion went on for about twenty minutes and you had a direct bearing on all the woes of the world, all by yourself.

So I was wonderingÖÖÖÖ Could I blame being overweight and my poor eating habits on you? Forget the fact they existed long before you took office. It would be really convenient if I didnít have to take responsibility for myself and my actions. If I grabbed a cookie, why it would be your fault. A two pound gain? That no good president!!! It would make life a lot easier. I'd be responsible for nothing!!!

Okay calm down. Itís my attempt at satire. But ya know, it makes about as much sense as what those people sitting next to me were saying.

  
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DUTCHIEKIWI 4/6/2011 11:16PM

    Can I blame him too...? Even though I live in Aussie??

I'm sure it was HIS fault that I drank too much last weekend... I'm sure it was!!!

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MEAGANNAOMI 4/5/2011 10:57PM

    ROFLMAO!! This was like cake w/ icing.. chocolate even! *swoons*

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TINNATEE 4/5/2011 12:00PM

    I love this blog! You are so right. I personally dont like this president, but he doesnt have anything to do with alot of the stuff he gets blamed for. As did Bush, I mean really, even Hurricane Katrina was blamed on him! Stupididty! What happened to people taking care of themselves and taking the responsibility for their actions. Just like the extra weight I am carrying around - I can only turn that finger around and point it at myself!

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CUPCAKE2CARROTS 4/5/2011 10:53AM

    LOL Love it.... You are a fantastic writer.... I truly love reading your blogs.

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LJCANNON 4/4/2011 9:12PM

    I have heard those same conversations!! It never occurred to me that the President was responsible for the consequences of all my Bad Decisions!!
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REJ7777 4/4/2011 5:19PM

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LAURIE-RN 4/4/2011 12:13PM

    I like this!

Laurie

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OSTUFFNFLUFF 4/4/2011 12:20AM

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LYNMEINDERS 4/3/2011 11:00PM

    brilliant Blog john as usual....love reading what you write

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DANCINCAJUN1 4/2/2011 10:04PM

    absolutely fantastic writing .... thank you

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EGR2BEME 4/2/2011 9:36AM

    Here Here!!! Great blog!

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PGNBRI 4/1/2011 3:37PM

    emoticon LOL

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LUVMYK9S 4/1/2011 1:42PM

    emoticon
Some people just have to someone else to blame - the president always seems a likely target!

Thanks for giving me a smile on an otherwise uneventful Friday!



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BRANDI.FEY 4/1/2011 12:22PM

    Lol. Too funny!

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MONICASMS3 4/1/2011 12:14PM

    LOVED IT....MADE MY DAY TOO !!

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GIRANIMAL 4/1/2011 11:14AM

    I like feisty John! emoticon

I used to blame my boyfriend for the way he cooks and how good his food is, and for our tendency to fix crabbiness with food. It's way more plausible yet still ridiculous.

Poor Obama. And poor us sane people for having no one to blame. emoticon

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SILLYHP1953 4/1/2011 10:48AM

    You did good with the satire...I can blame nobody but me for what I put in my mouth. BUT...no, I'm not going into politics. But...I really could talk about farmers, and war, and corruption. I bet there are lots of political teams on sparkpeople. I'm really not political, I should be much more than I am, I should probably be an activist, we all should be.
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TKESLER99 4/1/2011 9:51AM

    You made my day! emoticon

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 4/1/2011 9:37AM

    LOL I feel this way too. Not just this president but many others. Why are we so quick to shift the blame onto someone else? I'm guilty, I do it too. Ugh!

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NASFKAB 4/1/2011 5:19AM

  Great post I have to agree with you.

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    Great post! I agree. emoticon

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MARTHA503 4/1/2011 1:58AM

    You got me laughing! I'd love to not have any responsibility, blame everything on someone else! You informed and entertained! Good for you!

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EDWINA172 3/31/2011 10:24PM

    Love this. There is so much that I'd like to say, but I really don't like to discuss politics. We're all entitled to our opinions. I do have a problem with negative people and those who do not accept personal responsibilty. They are emotional toddlers. I don't post negative status', I "hide" negative family and friends' on facebook. (wish I could de-"friend" them, but that would start a war within the family). Emotions, feelings and attitudes are contagious. I do not want to be guilty of spreading any negative disease. Each post has a ripple. I want my ripples to be positive. I guess I believe in Karma. Thanks for the giggles John.

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LYNMEINDERS 3/31/2011 10:11PM

    Love it....totally love it.....would be great if we could lay blame but we can't....well....not fairly anyway.....
Ownership....here I come.....

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ALLISON145 3/31/2011 9:13PM

    I totally blame Obama for my butt. Why didn't I realize where the blame should lie before?? LOL!

-Allison

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GEEMAWEST 3/31/2011 8:37PM

    Too Funny, I was about to write about how you've been a bit touchy these last few days when I saw what you wrote.

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WATERMELLEN 3/31/2011 8:20PM

    As an "outsider" Canajun gotta say: Obama appears to me to be the very best Prez you've had for a very very long time. (I know, I know: I'm not entitled to an opinion . . . !!)

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CARTOONB 3/31/2011 8:09PM

    Oooooh! I like this game! Can I blame my kids' sassiness on the president too?

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MIBELLALUNA 3/31/2011 8:06PM

    Oh...trying hard to bite my tongue... I'm fearful of broaching politics here, but I HEAR YOU on this one! Oh, wait, it IS kind of his fault because his wife is trying to 'tell our kids what to do' by moving and eating healthier so we are rebelling like children, so we gained 2lbs. I swear, THAT blow back on that issue stunned even me. People are complaining that Michelle wants American kids not to be obese....color me dumbfounded....

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MYOWNHERO 3/31/2011 8:01PM

    hear hear!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/31/2011 7:56PM

    ROFLMBO!! Hilarious!! It just goes to prove how ignorant most people are about how our government operates. Most people don't have a clue what the 3 branches of government are or what they do. Most teens when questioned didn't even know who Dick Cheney was when he was vice president. But they all know who Ronald McDonald is. emoticon

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GETFIT2LIVE 3/31/2011 7:52PM

    Oh, John, you hit on one of my pet peeves here. It doesn't matter who is in office, some people insist on blaming 'the boss,' at whatever level, for all their problems. The lack of understanding how our government works (or doesn't in some cases) is amazing. OF COURSE it's the President's fault, he is in charge and therefore anything that goes wrong must be his fault.

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HONORINGGOD 3/31/2011 7:50PM

    i paid 3.69 a gallon for gas that is "mr presidents" fault.not your spark friend

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PICKLEDGINGER2 3/31/2011 7:42PM

  Well said.

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DOLLBABE56 3/31/2011 7:41PM

    Mood? What mood?

Great blog! Here here!

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JOHNTJ1 3/31/2011 7:39PM

    BTW

Has anyone else noticed I've been in a mood the past few days?

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