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If You Were Thinking of Giving Up........ Read This First......Please?

Monday, April 04, 2011

There are some mornings I crawl out of bed and as I look at myself in the mirror I tell myself I just canít do this anymore. I canít be bright and positive and upbeat and all those things that take so much effort some mornings. I look at my belly and even though all those fantastic measurement tools I have at my disposal tell me I am making progress, well friend, the progress isnít quick enough. It makes me want to go away, to quit, to give up, to convince myself that some people are supposed to be overweight. Itís in their genes!!! But I donít. I feel a bit ashamed, a little embarrassed that I have been stuck for what seems like forever now. I feel frustrated that I canít convince my body that it isnít twenty seven instead of fifty seven. I want to scream ďThe he** with all of this,Ē but I donít.

I come from a long line of cowards and quitters. I have been trained to live within my limitations and accept my fate as some sort of divine or cosmic punishment for past transgressions, sins and mistakes. Some days I feel like Iím not good enough to be around all these shiny happy people who are running, biking and swimming half way around the globe. I wanna crawl under the covers and block the sun. But I donít.

I have lost some friends recently and that makes me sad. Fellow soldiers on this journey towards health who became casualties of their own minds and beliefs. They quietly faded into the woodwork. They donít interact anymore. Like me they are embarrassed, angry and some days a bit scared. Like me they havenít learned how to deal with success on any level and they often feel foolish. So they quietly leave. I donít always notice right away. Then one day I wonder, ďWhat ever became ofÖÖÖÖĒ

Some have reached their goals and couldnít hang on and the pain is too great. Some have tried and tried and tried and just couldnít make it. So they leave. I wonít go anywhere. Iíll be dam&*d if I run myself off.

Iím not writing this to receive. Iím writing this to give. Somewhere, someone is going to read this and wonder how I knew you were just about ready to give up because you used all of the energy you believed was inside of you. Someone may pass this on to you and urge you to read it.

Donít leave, donít quit, donít give up. Iím here and so are, oh about a million other people and we have all felt the same things from time to time but we havenít given up. This march towards health and self-esteem isnít always the most exciting but in the end it is the most rewarding. This Spark process works. I am proof it works simply because I am still here. This ist a diet. Diets encourage failure. It is an incremental life change that isnít always fun.
Take a good look around you. There are millions of us that feel the same way you do every day. Do me a favor, please? If today was the day you were going to leave, quit or give up, postpone that decision for one more day, print this out, put it on your fridge and commit to taking care of today. When you get up tomorrow congratulate yourself for making it one more day. I promise you it will work.

I can never have enough friends

  
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YESCURLYCAN 3/12/2012 2:41AM

  I found your blog through DDorn's page and am so glad I did. I am sure you have helped so many people by writing this, because you have certainly helped me. Thank you emoticon

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BEYOND_GR8NESS 7/26/2011 7:38PM

  Right on time!

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NEWME0519 6/18/2011 11:58PM

    Thank you for sharing! I needed to read this tonight!

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 6/11/2011 6:14AM

    I love this honesty and have read this several times and have it bookmarked. Thanks.

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  thank you. well written emoticon

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STARRYGREENJEN 5/5/2011 12:24AM

    You sir, are an inspiration. Thank you.

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DESERTFLOWERG 5/4/2011 6:26AM

    great post


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BOSOXGYRL33 4/23/2011 3:55PM

    THANK YOU! I really needed that today.

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TERESANAVARRO 4/22/2011 12:37PM

    Thank you. I'm just starting (again) and I will print this and read it when I feel like giving up (again).

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CANDYGETNFIT2 4/22/2011 3:26AM

    Thanks for the blog!

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SLENDERIZE7733 4/18/2011 2:43PM

    Thank you. Today I felt like giving up, I have been so moody and grumpy. I just didn't know if I wanted to continue on this path anymore, of changing my lifestyle. But now, I want to. I suffer from bi-polar, and I guess that today is one of my kind of down days. Previously I have been up up up, but I just don't know why I can't get off this feeling terrible cycle. Thank you for your kind words and you said it all man, I will continue this journey thanks to you, and talk to some of my supporters. I can never thank you enough

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CDAVIDSON9 4/18/2011 9:07AM

  thank you, i felt like i wanted to give up and do exactly what you said, this hits me right in the heart, i have made great progress in my weight loss but i just can not accept the fact i lost 82 pounds, i still look at that 20 pounds i have to lose and i compare my damaged body to those of guys around me and i get more depressed knowing i will always be reminded of what i was.... i will try it one more day becuase of you.

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RUNNERGIRL60 4/18/2011 2:52AM

    WOW!!! I just read this tonight and its a good thing I was at home, I just sat here with tears down my checks. I did print this out and posted it. I have been having alot of down days lately and have been on the edge of this is to much right now! I finally have acouple job interviews set up which helps alot! My weight until this past week was my enemy bearing nudging for 3 or so weeks. Family issues etc etc... I had almost let it get me and like its says I DIDN'T LET IT!! So close but I can't let everyone and everything else control my life! IT'S. MINE. Thanks for the ear and for the great blog! Hope ur weekend was great!!! emoticon emoticon

Michelle

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CHANGINGHORSES 4/17/2011 6:11AM

    Awesome!!! I hope lot's of people read and believe. We all have it in us, from the struggle to the succeed! We can do it!
Thanks John!
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ZENSTEPH 4/15/2011 7:27PM

    Wow, wow, wow. Thank you. I needed to read this today.

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BLUE_KARMA 4/12/2011 11:33AM

    emoticonBless you.

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USFBULL 4/12/2011 3:35AM

    Thanks John, emoticon

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NELLBELLA26 4/11/2011 10:28PM

    Such a perfect blog for me to have read today. Thank you! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MAMAANGE 4/11/2011 10:21PM

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. How did you know?

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JANE1216 4/11/2011 9:45PM

    Thank you for posting such an honest - right between the eyes - kick it in the fanny blog! I needed to read this and I'm so glad I did ---

Hope you have a blessed week ---

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JCEDIT89 4/11/2011 7:11PM

    Excellent, excellent blog. Thank you! emoticon

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JBARSTOW 4/11/2011 6:20PM

    You, my friend, are exactly what I needed today. Thank you!

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MAMADWARF 4/11/2011 4:01PM

    John, you are definatly a beautiful light. Thank you for this wonderful, wise blog. Carry on. Jan

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PENGUINROSS 4/11/2011 2:54PM

    Thank you for your honesty. You spoke directly to me so I am excited tht I got to read it.

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CSERF09 4/11/2011 2:22PM

    Thank you. We all need to hear this every now and then. emoticon

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SPRTMOMX2 4/11/2011 1:39PM

  Wow how motivating!! Thank you so much for sharing such a well written and thought out blog. I did need this today & am forwarding to a friend!

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CAPARSLEY1 4/11/2011 12:41PM

    Thank you for this blog! It's not only encouraging but so well written! Your analogies are absolutely fantastic and right on point! I LOVE THIS BLOG! And I certainly will print it out! You're an inspiration to others which in return helps to keep you inspired as well, I'm sure of it! Thank you for sharing!

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ALLISONBISHOP46 4/11/2011 10:18AM

    thank you

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ALEPEQUIJADA 4/11/2011 9:10AM

    Thank you, it really inspired me to keep going, thanks !!!! emoticon

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MRSPINCKNEY 4/11/2011 8:58AM

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! I needed to hear that today!

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RACH_LVSLIFE 4/11/2011 7:46AM

    Thank you~

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JEN040219 4/11/2011 6:36AM

    You made me tear up!! Thank you....

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2BHOTNTONED 4/11/2011 5:24AM

    Thankyou for your very heartfelt and honest blog, you are an inspiration.

Mandy

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    Great Blog! emoticon

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CHANGE4THEBEST 4/11/2011 2:23AM

    Hi,

You title to this blog caught my attention. Well written blog, especially the last paragraph emoticon

Thank you for taking the time to write this blog.

Good Luck with your journey to better health

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BIKRGRANMA 4/11/2011 12:32AM

    Thanks so much for the encouragement, I really needed it.

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IMTCDZ 4/10/2011 10:49PM

  Thank you for this blog post! I need this today.

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VON728 4/10/2011 9:49PM

    ThankS for this post. This week I had to remind myself just who I am losing weight for. It's not for HIM it's for me. I want to be healthy and look better for ME!!!

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BLUEJEAN99 4/10/2011 7:51PM

    thank you, i was feeling down and this helped emoticon

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FAIRLIGHT914 4/10/2011 6:59PM

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us! I just came back from the beach in my size 18 swimsuit and I know what you mean about looking in the mirror and asking yourself, what in the he** am I thinking? Nonetheless, like you, I did NOT give up...I ran 4 miles up and down that coastline most everyday! I just had to remember that two years ago, I could barely make it to the water without panting but NOT THIS YEAR! I resolved to make a change and guess what, I kept my promise to MYSELF. WOW. I have ran two 5Ks since then! I'm glad to meet ya' my friend! WE CAN DO THIS!!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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CHRISTINECAN 4/10/2011 6:09PM

    I wasn't close to giving up, but I was a little blue and you did help me out of that funk. I can only that as ye sow, so shall ye reap and when you need it, I or someone like you is there to lend a hand up.

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 4/10/2011 5:48PM

    What a powerful blog! Even though I am almost to my goal weight this could be used in any area of life when a person just feels like giving up. You definitely GAVE and in so giving you will receive. I look forward to your next blog.

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BROWNIEISLANDER 4/10/2011 3:15PM

    Honest and heartfelt....Which will certainly be inspiration....
To many others...
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HAPPYNSMILING 4/10/2011 12:57PM

    emoticon I do understand the feelings you expressed. AND you are so correct! Keep hanging on...it is worth it in the end!!!! Or should I say FOREVER!

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JANDREWS031 4/10/2011 12:19PM

    Thanks so much for sharing!!!!!!!
Janet

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HJFOGARTY 4/10/2011 11:57AM

    Thanks for writing what so many feel but don't take that moment to share - it is very appreciated - know that you are a true inspiration on so many levels! take care of you!

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LADYGWEN25 4/10/2011 10:33AM

    thank you so much for your blog! I've printed and keep it with me as a reminder.. I am NOT alone! :)

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JOY1918 4/10/2011 10:23AM

    Beautiful Blog.........thank you!

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CHANGING4ME49 4/10/2011 9:26AM

    I have lost 104 lbs so far and still have 96 more to go. I will not quit however I sincerely haven't given myself, my best effort in the last few months. And that of course has lead to a plateau of sorts. I decided recently I needed to rediscover my motivation, my will to do anything to get the job done, and kick start my effort. THANKS SO MUCH for the KICK!! emoticon

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NANA2PRINCESSES 4/10/2011 6:31AM

    Glad I found this, thanks.

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Taking Advantage of Opportunities.

Saturday, April 02, 2011


A lot has been written about being successful. I believe in the end itís a matter of what works for you. If you have an opportunity to actually sit down and talk with someone who has walked the walk, who has struggled, sweated and shed more than just a few tears you walk away enriched and inspired.

I had an opportunity like that yesterday. I had lunch with a Spark friend, EMTFF376. I was nervous. Iím about half way to my goal and here is a person who has done some really inspiring things on her journey and quite honestly I was a bit afraid sheíd look at me and sorta grimace. The fear melted away about two seconds after she greeted me with what can best be described as an enormous bear hug. For the past six months we have been trying to arrange an opportunity to meet when I was in WVA but it always seemed like either her schedule or mine didnít allow it to happen. Yesterday it did. Wow, what an experience. I could prattle on and on about her accomplishments but take a look at her Spark page for yourself. http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage.asp?id=E
MTFF376.

Here is what I learned: We didnít talk a lot about diet or exercise, although it was sprinkled in the conversation. At one point she looked across the table and told me that the transformation begins inside of you and as you change the way you think, feel and behave you see the results externally. Iím paraphrasing here, but you get the intent. Real change comes when you have the courage to look at how you are acting or behaving and when you have the courage to look at yourself and not blink. Itís when you do the tough stuff even when you do not want to do it. She told me that she often takes her lunch break to run because itís the only time she has to exercise. For part of the year she works three jobs!! I learned that if you want to be successful you do the things you have to do to get there, and by the way; you do it with one of the most engaging smiles I have ever witnessed. When you change from the inside out you possess the ability to light up a room when you walk into it.

When I walked away I felt focused. Nothing she told me was new but I got to hear it in real time from someone who has experienced everything I am experiencing. It carried me well through the rest of yesterday and into this morning. I have an eight hour car ride home tomorrow and it will give me lots of time to think.

If you have a chance to spend some time with a successful friend, take advantage of the opportunity. The benefit of being able to listen, question and feel reassured canít be measured. We all walk the same path here, some of us trot, some jog, some crawl, some run, but we are all pointed in the same direction. As I walked away from our meeting the lyrics of a song form The Muppet Movie crossed my mind: ďThereís not a word yet, for old friends whoíve just met.Ē

  
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SURFGIRLY 4/6/2011 1:49PM

    I've read several of your blog posts and I've enjoyed every one of them. Inspiring :)

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TINNATEE 4/5/2011 12:05PM

    I love your blogs! Thank you so much.

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I am glad that you were finally able to connect with your friend.

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SILLYHP1953 4/4/2011 2:09PM

    When's your book coming out? I want to be sure I get an autographed copy. I hope you have started it, cause I don't want to have to wait years and years!! I love reading your blogs, you speak to my soul, you help me face myself.
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ZURDTA- 4/4/2011 9:21AM

    Lovely, just lovely.

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LYNMEINDERS 4/3/2011 11:03PM

    Awesome wisdom in there....thanks for sharing it.....

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TRAVELGRRL 4/3/2011 8:09PM

    Sounds like an awesome meeting! I'm off to check out her blog now. Thanks for sharing.

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IMTCDZ 4/3/2011 2:02PM

  Another great post! Glad you were inspired and for sharing the experience on your blog.

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MESEATURTLE 4/3/2011 10:46AM

    Glad u got to meet her!!!!Thanx for sharing!

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ANEPANALIPTI 4/3/2011 4:49AM

    What a beautiful meeting. SO happy for you! :)

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MORTICIAADDAMS 4/2/2011 9:31PM

    I would love to meet some of my sparkfriends. It would be great!! I'm glad you got to do this.

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MINIMOE1 4/2/2011 3:07PM

    Your friend is so right - transformation starts from within. Finding that inner resolve is not easy but definitely worth the effort.

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JUNEAU2010 4/2/2011 2:31PM

    Your blog is an example of the value of this wonderful Spark community!

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SKATVEN 4/2/2011 1:13PM

    Thank you for sharing that excellent message.

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NASFKAB 4/2/2011 12:09PM

  Thanks for sharing great post. Enjoyed reading it

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HELEN_BRU 4/2/2011 12:05PM

    Very inspiring experience for you and us! Thanks for sharing.

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MKPRINCESS007 4/2/2011 11:54AM

    Love this blog John! So glad you got to meet someone from SP in person, it makes things so much more tangible right?

Your message it so strong here...........surround yourself with positive people. GREAT idea. I have been whining a bit lately about some drivel on SP with some folks, and ya know what, if they aren't positive for me maybe I need to refocus. :)

Thanks for sharing your awesome experience!

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HDHAWK 4/2/2011 11:25AM

    What a wonderful time you must have had! I'm glad you had the opportunity to meet!

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KT-NICHOLS-13 4/2/2011 11:08AM

    "Real change comes when you have the courage to look at how you are acting or behaving and when you have the courage to look at yourself and not blink." What a powerful statement!

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NJMATTICE 4/2/2011 10:49AM

    Way to take advantage of the opportunity! Great choice.
Have a wonderful weekend.
Love,
Nancy

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Dear Mr. President...........

Thursday, March 31, 2011

I own you an apology. You have much more influence, control and power than I imagined. As a matter of fact, from what I understand, you have more power than any president in history.

I was eating dinner at the hotel tonight, alone and there was a table of four next to me. (Yes, I eaves dropped. I was bored!!!!) All four people had just returned from vacation and according to them they werenít able to do any of the things they wanted with their grandchildren because you have removed all of the funding.
One couple wanted to take their grandkids on a boat trip in the Everglades to see alligators and such but the trips had been cancelled because ďObama cut the funding.Ē The other couple had wanted to get geo-thermal heating system and the price had gone back up becauseÖÖÖÖ.. ďObama removed the incentives.Ē They were stuck buying a normal old furnace. It was your fault Mr. President!! They said if Donald Trump were president heíd fire everyone that ďdidnít do right.Ē This discussion went on for about twenty minutes and you had a direct bearing on all the woes of the world, all by yourself.

So I was wonderingÖÖÖÖ Could I blame being overweight and my poor eating habits on you? Forget the fact they existed long before you took office. It would be really convenient if I didnít have to take responsibility for myself and my actions. If I grabbed a cookie, why it would be your fault. A two pound gain? That no good president!!! It would make life a lot easier. I'd be responsible for nothing!!!

Okay calm down. Itís my attempt at satire. But ya know, it makes about as much sense as what those people sitting next to me were saying.

  
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DUTCHIEKIWI 4/6/2011 11:16PM

    Can I blame him too...? Even though I live in Aussie??

I'm sure it was HIS fault that I drank too much last weekend... I'm sure it was!!!

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MEAGANNAOMI 4/5/2011 10:57PM

    ROFLMAO!! This was like cake w/ icing.. chocolate even! *swoons*

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TINNATEE 4/5/2011 12:00PM

    I love this blog! You are so right. I personally dont like this president, but he doesnt have anything to do with alot of the stuff he gets blamed for. As did Bush, I mean really, even Hurricane Katrina was blamed on him! Stupididty! What happened to people taking care of themselves and taking the responsibility for their actions. Just like the extra weight I am carrying around - I can only turn that finger around and point it at myself!

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CUPCAKE2CARROTS 4/5/2011 10:53AM

    LOL Love it.... You are a fantastic writer.... I truly love reading your blogs.

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LJCANNON 4/4/2011 9:12PM

    I have heard those same conversations!! It never occurred to me that the President was responsible for the consequences of all my Bad Decisions!!
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LAURIE-RN 4/4/2011 12:13PM

    I like this!

Laurie

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LYNMEINDERS 4/3/2011 11:00PM

    brilliant Blog john as usual....love reading what you write

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DANCINCAJUN1 4/2/2011 10:04PM

    absolutely fantastic writing .... thank you

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EGR2BEME 4/2/2011 9:36AM

    Here Here!!! Great blog!

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PGNBRI 4/1/2011 3:37PM

    emoticon LOL

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LUVMYK9S 4/1/2011 1:42PM

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Some people just have to someone else to blame - the president always seems a likely target!

Thanks for giving me a smile on an otherwise uneventful Friday!



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BRANDI.FEY 4/1/2011 12:22PM

    Lol. Too funny!

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MONICASMS3 4/1/2011 12:14PM

    LOVED IT....MADE MY DAY TOO !!

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GIRANIMAL 4/1/2011 11:14AM

    I like feisty John! emoticon

I used to blame my boyfriend for the way he cooks and how good his food is, and for our tendency to fix crabbiness with food. It's way more plausible yet still ridiculous.

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SILLYHP1953 4/1/2011 10:48AM

    You did good with the satire...I can blame nobody but me for what I put in my mouth. BUT...no, I'm not going into politics. But...I really could talk about farmers, and war, and corruption. I bet there are lots of political teams on sparkpeople. I'm really not political, I should be much more than I am, I should probably be an activist, we all should be.
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    You made my day! emoticon

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 4/1/2011 9:37AM

    LOL I feel this way too. Not just this president but many others. Why are we so quick to shift the blame onto someone else? I'm guilty, I do it too. Ugh!

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NASFKAB 4/1/2011 5:19AM

  Great post I have to agree with you.

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    Great post! I agree. emoticon

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MARTHA503 4/1/2011 1:58AM

    You got me laughing! I'd love to not have any responsibility, blame everything on someone else! You informed and entertained! Good for you!

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EDWINA172 3/31/2011 10:24PM

    Love this. There is so much that I'd like to say, but I really don't like to discuss politics. We're all entitled to our opinions. I do have a problem with negative people and those who do not accept personal responsibilty. They are emotional toddlers. I don't post negative status', I "hide" negative family and friends' on facebook. (wish I could de-"friend" them, but that would start a war within the family). Emotions, feelings and attitudes are contagious. I do not want to be guilty of spreading any negative disease. Each post has a ripple. I want my ripples to be positive. I guess I believe in Karma. Thanks for the giggles John.

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LYNMEINDERS 3/31/2011 10:11PM

    Love it....totally love it.....would be great if we could lay blame but we can't....well....not fairly anyway.....
Ownership....here I come.....

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ALLISON145 3/31/2011 9:13PM

    I totally blame Obama for my butt. Why didn't I realize where the blame should lie before?? LOL!

-Allison

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GEEMAWEST 3/31/2011 8:37PM

    Too Funny, I was about to write about how you've been a bit touchy these last few days when I saw what you wrote.

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WATERMELLEN 3/31/2011 8:20PM

    As an "outsider" Canajun gotta say: Obama appears to me to be the very best Prez you've had for a very very long time. (I know, I know: I'm not entitled to an opinion . . . !!)

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CARTOONB 3/31/2011 8:09PM

    Oooooh! I like this game! Can I blame my kids' sassiness on the president too?

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MIBELLALUNA 3/31/2011 8:06PM

    Oh...trying hard to bite my tongue... I'm fearful of broaching politics here, but I HEAR YOU on this one! Oh, wait, it IS kind of his fault because his wife is trying to 'tell our kids what to do' by moving and eating healthier so we are rebelling like children, so we gained 2lbs. I swear, THAT blow back on that issue stunned even me. People are complaining that Michelle wants American kids not to be obese....color me dumbfounded....

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MYOWNHERO 3/31/2011 8:01PM

    hear hear!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/31/2011 7:56PM

    ROFLMBO!! Hilarious!! It just goes to prove how ignorant most people are about how our government operates. Most people don't have a clue what the 3 branches of government are or what they do. Most teens when questioned didn't even know who Dick Cheney was when he was vice president. But they all know who Ronald McDonald is. emoticon

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GETFIT2LIVE 3/31/2011 7:52PM

    Oh, John, you hit on one of my pet peeves here. It doesn't matter who is in office, some people insist on blaming 'the boss,' at whatever level, for all their problems. The lack of understanding how our government works (or doesn't in some cases) is amazing. OF COURSE it's the President's fault, he is in charge and therefore anything that goes wrong must be his fault.

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HONORINGGOD 3/31/2011 7:50PM

    i paid 3.69 a gallon for gas that is "mr presidents" fault.not your spark friend

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PICKLEDGINGER2 3/31/2011 7:42PM

  Well said.

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DOLLBABE56 3/31/2011 7:41PM

    Mood? What mood?

Great blog! Here here!

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JOHNTJ1 3/31/2011 7:39PM

    BTW

Has anyone else noticed I've been in a mood the past few days?

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............. And It Makes Me Mad

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

I stood in line at Walgreen's this evening for about twenty minutes waiting to pick up my blood pressure medication. That's not what made me mad.

Directly in front of me, in the long line was a young lady, who was ill. You could tell by the way she was standing and holding herself. I've felt that bad a time or two in my life and so have you, probably. You just want to take some medicine, curl up in bed and hope you get some relief. She handed the clerk her prescription and asked her to check the price. After a few seconds the clerk gave her an answer, which I couldnt maker out. The young lady answered. "I cant afford that I dont have insurance." She pulled her coat tight and walked away. The clerk rolled her eyes and said 'Whatever." Even that didnt make me mad. I thought it was a bit rude.

If I didnt have insurance my prescription would cost me two hundred dollars a month. I only pay thirty. If i didnt have health insurance I dont know what I'd due, maybe have a stroke and end up dead. It's not my decision. A pharmaceutical company decides who gets better and who doesnt. If you have a good job and lots of money or health insurance you stand a chance to beat your illness. If you dont, well I guess its back to the process of natural selection.

Please dont tell me about people taking responsibility for them selves. If you are a single mom, working two or three part time jobs with no insurance and you get sick but cant afford to pay for your prescription, you cant get better, which means you cant go to work, which means you may lose your job and then where are you?

This isnt a Democratic or Republican issue. It's not a religious issue it is a basic human dignity issue. When you stand shivering with fever in a Walgreen's and cant afford a prescription, there is a lot wrong with the society you live in.

Yes, there are people who cheat and take advantage of things. They all arent poor, homeless or unemployed. Many of them have six or seven figure incomes and display the same lack on integrity they accuse "those people" of having. This is about US, the human race.

When I got home I told Joan I probably should have paid for the girls prescription. She thought a minute and asked me if I planned to stay at Walgreen's all day and night helping people out. She's right. It would have only made me feel better about me. Right now, that would seem awfully selfish.

Okay John, you feel better now that you vented?

No

I hope you dont either

  
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UNLIKELY 4/5/2011 12:23PM

  @AZCHICA2006: That comment wasn't directed towards John, it was an answer to a previous comment post.

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MOMMYBYCHOICE 4/5/2011 7:58AM

    isn't it funny that no one ever suggest regulating the pharmaceutical companies??? I mean really - they charge per pill. Accutane 2.75 per pill, Viagra 5.65 per pill ( depends on locale as well) tylenol less then pennies per pill - unless you get it in the hospital....

I guess what I am saying is there are A LOT of things wrong with our health system.... insurance companies telling doctors how to practice medicine, needing medications but waiting for the ins co. to pre- approve it. needing surgery but having to get pre-approval, ( hope its not a cardiac cath you need)
maybe we should also look at the pharmaceutical and medical supply companies - I mean who police's them ? they charge what they want and we pay it I mean really an ace bandage cost 8.99 over the counter.




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AZCHICA2006 4/5/2011 6:55AM

    Who said this young lady had no education? Perhaps she was in school and the campus doesn't have a student health center where she could go for prescriptions. Even the one at my University charged for prescriptions...I was lucky enough to still be covered under my parent's health insurance and normally did not have to pay, or if I did it was a small deductible.

The point of the blog was that the cost of health care is too high in America and that the writer felt bad for the girl because she was obviously sick but couldn't afford the treatment. This happens everyday with the elderly.

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EGR2BEME 4/2/2011 9:47AM

    I do not feel better! There is so much I could say on this topic...but others have already commented and said it so eloquently!

So my only comment is: "John for President"!!

So happy I came across your Spark Page and watched your video blog and have added you as a friend so that I have the opportunity to read your words of wisdom.

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EGR2BEME 4/2/2011 9:40AM

    I do not feel better! There is so much I could say on this topic...but others have already commented and said it so eloquently!

So my only comment is: "John for President"!!

So happy I came across your Spark Page and watched your video blog and have added you as a friend so that I have the opportunity to read your words of wisdom.

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UNLIKELY 4/1/2011 2:36PM

  How much happier would we be as a people if we knew that regardless of our financial situation we could still have our health taken care of. I know I would be. Not having to worry that MY personal illness was going to ruin my whole family and their welfare. Why is it in countries like Canada and France they have health care for everyone even visitors. They are allowed to take a year of PAID leave when they have their children and the government even sends them people to help the new mother with housework. I know I had to leave my son three months after I had him because I had to go back to work and I DID GO TO COLLEGE. Just because you graduate from school does not guarantee you a swank job and decent health insurance. In a country where we are supposedly so rich why can't we afford to take care of ourselves. Education and basic health are given to those who can afford it and it makes me sick. It is our job in this life to support one another and we should find a way to make this happen.

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LISA01605 4/1/2011 1:39PM

    Universal health care is definitely a hot topic Personally I am for it but I can see how others might not be. I think a good first step would be to make health insurance, and all medical services, non profit organizations. I am not saying doctors etc. don't deserve to make a living, I am saying insurance companies and hospitals shouldn't be working to make profit and answering to shareholders. They should be doing what is in the interest of the patient. I think too often money clouds their brains. Everybody needs to eat and I get that but some of it is pure greed.

Sometimes having insurance isn't even the answer. My dad works hard for the US postal service and has for over 30 years and he has what he thought was good insurance. When my mom was sick last year the insurance company deemed her healthy enough to go home from the hospital AGAINST the doctor's advice. My dad tried to appeal but the insurance company would not back down. My parents couldn't afford to pay the hospital for her to stay longer so she had to go home- barely able to walk. When she did get home she fell on the floor and they had to have the fire department come over to pick her up. Everyone who saw her said they couldn't believe she was released from the hospital. She has since gotten better (it's been about 6 months) but every step of the way the insurance company put up a fight. They would pay for a Physical therapist to come by the house 3x a week and a visiting nurse to come by 3x a week but would not let her stay in a hospital or rehab, where she really needed to be.

The point of my story is sometimes you can work hard for a living and have insurance and still not be protected. Something needs to change.

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IMTCDZ 3/31/2011 8:29PM

  Good blog - definitely hot topic. I believe health care should be a basic human right. What makes me sad is many people that I know (relatives, friends and people I go to church with) refuse to believe there's a problem because it hasn't touched them yet. They're judgemental and want to believe it's mostly the fault of the person who has no insurance. They like to believe they won't be affected because they've made such good life choices. They say the uninsured can go to the ER, there's clinics, they can get on Medicaid but I say there are too many people that fall between the cracks. The woman's comment to this blog about her sister-in-law having cancer and no insurance even though she's working 3 jobs. What is that!!!! It makes me sad and angry that in this country that we haven't cared enough to take care of this problem.

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DIASTER 3/31/2011 6:05PM

  Most counties have a free clinic the clerk could have referred her there, or suggested Wallmart with their $4.00 prescriptions. What a shame that here in the USA we have people that have to forgo meds when they are really sick. Sigh====

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VISHYT 3/31/2011 3:39PM

    I live in a country where you don't need health insurance. We have a system that provides for people, and I consider myself fortunate. Good health is a basic human right. Poverty is not a chosen affliction, and education does NOT fix it. (Note to others reading this: I'm a teacher, please don't lecture me on educational sociology, unless you want to read research papers PROVING my perspective.)

I really feel for people who can't afford medicine or health care, and I feel for you, being caught up in a system where the pooror are not catered to and are trapped in that situation. The best anyone can do is vote, lobby for change, and discuss it like you have here. I sincerely hope that the person you saw is helped, or able to find other avenues for assistance. While praying might make people feel better, I believe God put the job of compassion in our hands. Helping one person in one random act of kindness is perhaps all you can do sometimes, but it's enough for that moment.

Thanks so much for sharing this! It's certainly got me thinking.

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MARCYNA 3/31/2011 3:15PM

    You can still pray for her. The Lord can use your prayers in mysterious ways, heal her or let her find another solution.
We have a public health system here in my country and if you're poor you don't have to pay , only rich people have to pay...even if sometimes people cheat to pay less, and there are faults in the system, I am so happy of this system, I find it very useful. Even the poorest can afford the most expensive cures. emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 3/31/2011 2:42PM

    Oh man, this one's a hot topic! I'm glad you vented, partly because it will also give others a chance to sound off, no matter where they fall in this debate. And talking about it is the only way it's going to get better.

I agree that there are plenty of unknowns about this girl's circumstances. I too tend to believe though that no matter what they are, basic humanity is still a major issue here.

I have neighbors who are clear abusers of the system. They are not monsters, but they are certainly disingenuous. And I feel sad that their kids/grandkids are learning the same lack of integrity. I am sometimes angry and feel taken advantage of that I am paying for her antidepressants so she can wash them down with a daily 12 pack of Ice House in front of her house. (These are not assumptions; I witness the beer drinking and she makes no pretense about it and her welfare collection.)

However, my mother worked hard most of her life. She was a laborer, then a stay-at-home mom who was left high and dry when my stepfather left her for another woman. After so many yeas off work she had few job skills and less experience and was lucky to get local minimum wage jobs. She had health coverage then, but it was not good. When she became both sick and unemployed (though not a dead-beat - she cared for her ailing father full time until he died), she relied on the county for medical care. She died before they could get her into the proper doctors.

I am not exaggerating when I say that system is so overwhelmed that we were receiving reminder phone calls two months after she died for an appointment with a rheumatologist, for which she had to wait well over six months, at the SAME HOSPITAL where she died. Really? I have to call you and tell you that the patient you were expecting died under your own roof waiting to see you? Awesome.

So all I'm saying is that option is broken too. And generic drugs are not always available in my experience. And besides that, shouldn't our health care system provide more preventive medicine so profit-making drugs are not the only option anyway? And what if you dare to choose self-employment? That should be punished by health care plans that are nowhere near as regulated as employer plans and can basically rip you off?

I could go on and on about this issue, but I will show SOME restraint, for Pete's sake. emoticon

I agree with dear Joan that you or I or any of us cannot personally help everyone. I also agree with TRIPLE_EMME that we need a shift in consciousness toward better humanity.

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CMBELISLE 3/31/2011 1:31PM

    I may piss off some people with my response here, but I'm on the fence on this one as there are ways for this girl to get the medicine she needs without having to pay so much for it AND if she grew up in the US, she has had the same educational opportunities as everyone else. Of course, there are LOTS of circumstances we do not know here.

I've been in situations where I couldn't afford my medicine, so I talked to my doctor about it - he gave me free samples or picked medications available as generics that may cost as little as four dollars. Who wrote the prescription? It had to have come from a doctor - didn't she have to pay him?

Pharmaceutical companies also have programs for low income individuals to get the medications they need - not easy, but what is? I know they exist because I've had to do some research on them. Furthermore, what did it cost for them to develop the medication? Should the pharmaceutical company give it away? Should a doctor be forced to work for free after paying for medical school? Do you have any idea how much malpractice insurance costs? Pharmaceutical companies have to buy insurance too. Would you work for free?

Some people choose to not have medical insurance because they can't afford the cost their employer passes along to them or for personal reasons. They work out payment plans with their doctors and find ways to pay for their medications. My auto insurance company has a complimentary prescription drug program to get medications at a discount.

So, while the girls' situation seems dire and may be, it is just as possible that it is not. She may have chosen to be in her situation - quit school, didn't go to college, etc. In the end, it is neither my responsibility nor the government's to make sure this girl has the ability to afford medical care. However, I may choose to donate to an organization that can help people in dire situations.

And one more thing, the person at the pharmacy was rude. The pharmacy employees could have done more to help, but then again, there was long line with other (paying) customers who had been waiting as long as 20 minutes.

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GODDESSELLIE07 3/31/2011 10:41AM

    I agree. Walgreens actually has a prescription program where you can sign up for maybe $20/year and it really cuts down the cost of prescriptions. I wish the clerk could have told this person that rather than being rude. I used it when my insurance refused to cover my medicine... it ended up costing me around $10 per month rather than around $30.

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LUVMYK9S 3/31/2011 10:29AM

    I agree with you John, your concerns are valid, but like others have said, what can we do as individuals? My sister in law was diagnosed with breast cancer 8 years ago, at the time her treatment was covered through her husband's health plan. She is now a single Mom who is also caring for her father who recently had a stroke, she is working three jobs and no longer has any health coverage (her ex husband dropped her from the health plan when they split). Her cancer is no longer in remission and she cannot afford treatment. Because she is employed she does not qualify for any type of government assistance.

It makes me mad too ...

(BTW, Walgreens does have a prescription savings plan, I don't know if it would have made any difference in this specific instance ...)



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SPARKENISTA 3/31/2011 10:14AM

    You know what? I would go online and email the complaint to the executives of Walgreens. I would let them know the time and the store so that they can track down the clerk or pharmacist who committed this atrocity.

The Sparkers, above, who made the point that there is probably a generic drug that would produce similar results are correct. In any case, the clerk should have demonstrated some initiative, sensitivity and humanity in exploring options, calling over the pharmacist, speaking to the physician and involving the manager. I understand that the woman herself was ill and not able or willing to advocate for herself but the staff should have.

My blogs last week are about a coaching client who called me mid-week, was very sick, and asked me to find her a doctor. Is that my job? Not technically. But I did not let her off the phone until I found someone. When she saw him that day, he called for an ambulance to admit her to the hospital with double pneumonia. He later told her she was one step away from a resperator. Now, she's fine, BTW--after seven days in the hospital.

If she had had an antibiotic sooner this could probably have been averted. But--she doesn't have insurance, and didn't want to see a doctor. The woman you saw may have sought help before a hospitalization was necessary. This is the fault of the pharmacy. Case closed. You should definitely email Walgreens.

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TRIPLE_EMME 3/31/2011 9:42AM

    I'm glad that you have voiced your concern over this issue. People need to be aware.

Although, this is one of many issues of inequity in basic needs that people face.

What can we do?!!!

There is plenty that we can do. We, as people of this Earth, need to start reevaluating our priorities and making a conscious shift to living in a manner that truly resonates with love for each other, other species that inhabit this planet and Mother Earth, herself.

Just my two cents!

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WIZINTN 3/31/2011 9:03AM

    I'm glad you wrote it, John. Maybe we can hope that, if enough of us witness for those who have no voice, compassion and common sense will supercede greed and hardheartedness.
Namaste


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SILLYHP1953 3/31/2011 9:01AM

    What can we do? Would calling Walgreen's help? If there was a way for the woman to get a cheaper generic drug then the clerk should have offered it. Does Walgreen's have a policy in place? If all of us were willing to help then you wouldn't have to stay in Walgreens by yourself helping everyone. I'm getting ready to go off...as in if we took care of our own people in our own country before trying to take over the world then we'd be better off. It is all so sad and makes me feel so helpless, kind of like that woman felt, only she felt worse because I do have health insurance.

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ZURDTA- 3/31/2011 8:38AM

    This is where I am so grateful that here in Britain we have a National Health Service. When I was a poor single parent I got my meds for free... now I am working and on the up I pay into the system, for those who are not so fortunate right now, and also to subsidise the meds I need regularly to keep me alive.

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MYGOLDENBOYS3 3/31/2011 7:15AM

    The clerk was rude and the poor young woman was humiliated by having to turn around and leave without her medicine. If it was an antibiotic, then she will only get worse without it. Sad. emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 3/31/2011 3:53AM

    the societies we live in have lost integrity and also values...the pendulum needs to swing back towards the middle....

I know how you feel and I love what your Joan said to you....my hubby has said simular to me as well....

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XENA1956 3/31/2011 12:16AM

    That is too bad. She should have ask for a substitute if one was available because Walgreens does have cheaper drugs that you can get by being on their $4 a month plan. All she would have had to do was fill out the paperwork. I know she was sick and mostly just wanted to be home, in bed. You have a kind heart, much more than that clerk did. emoticon emoticon

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DAWNEBLUNDA 3/30/2011 11:44PM

    i totally agree. Its ridiculous. And, it infuriates me that the people making the decisions to deny other people basic health care are the very ones who have some of the best health care available in this country. Paid for by you and me. Too bad they can't walk a mile in that poor woman's shoes. emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/30/2011 11:16PM

    You are I are in total agreement about this John!! There is really no reason for this to ever happen.

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GEEMAWEST 3/30/2011 9:39PM

    Many years ago I was in the position of not being able to afford a prescription that I desperately needed for strep throat. It was very humiliating. When I told the pharmacist, she informed me that the doctor had prescribed me a new and very costly antibiotic. She also told me that a much cheaper generic antibiotic would probably do the same trick and she proceeded to call my doctor who agreed to the change in prescription. I'm pretty sure that the doctor was getting a kickback from prescribing the more expensive drug.

There is something terribly wrong with our health care system.

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CINDY_LOU24 3/30/2011 9:31PM

    I don't have health insurance either. I have a part time job because I can't seem to find someone to hire me full time. And I have pre-existing conditions, so none of the private insurance companies will touch me. Hopefully, I stay healthy, otherwise, I will be like that poor girl at Walgreens...

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SKINNYMISSKASEY 3/30/2011 9:30PM

    I completely agree. My coworker told me one time that she had a lady pay for her medicine because she didn't have the money to get it all at one time. This is the same co-worker who pays over $500 a month for insurance for 2 adults.

I myself do not have insurance. I possibly could have it if I needed it, but the only medication I take at the moment is my depo shot which is about $60 4x a year. I have a customer at work that told me his medicine would cost over $2000 if he didn't have medicaid. It's very, very sad that it comes down to medicine being that expensive.

Thankfully, the doctor I go to has a income program and it reduces my cost to see her to about $25 instead of $150 a visit. I did have to go to the emergency room before and got help with that (I am on a low income but I don't have a husband or children.).

But for now, it's enough I guess.

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BLUEEYESXOXO 3/30/2011 9:12PM

    I completely understand this. Our system is corrupt, it seems they will help the people who abuse more often then they will help the people who truly need it. Hopefully one day, we as human beings can all be equal. A girl can dream, right?

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MADZOE 3/30/2011 9:07PM

    You are so right!

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TARANITUP 3/30/2011 9:04PM

    That's a shame :(

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REJ7777 3/30/2011 8:59PM

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HDHAWK 3/30/2011 8:54PM

    I'm so thankful for my insurance every month when I fill my prescriptions for my high cholesterol. My dad died at 45 of a heart attack (as other family members have) so I know what the outcome would be if I couldn't buy them. I had the same thought as you...pay for her prescription. Joan gave me a new way of looking at the situation.

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GETFIT2LIVE 3/30/2011 8:47PM

    I get angry about it, too, but I don't have any solutions. The system is broken, that's for sure.

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NASFKAB 3/30/2011 8:26PM

  This issue is something that makes me mad too. More at those rich who cheat on their taxes using loopholes. You cant stand all day helping out but something has to be done. Wish I knew what???????????????????????

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KT-NICHOLS-13 3/30/2011 8:18PM

    Something is broken ...
I'm not sure I know how to fix it and I darn sure those we put in charge won't, can't or don't know how to fix it.


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THECRAZYMANGO 3/30/2011 8:17PM

    I understand your frustration 100%! I have no health insurance and it is scary as it is just getting worse with healthcare. I guess the part that is really scary is that if I ever got majorly sick/injuried, I couldn't take care of myself! emoticon

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A Manifesto of Sorts: I'll Always Be What I Be

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Every morning, when I look in the mirror itís always the same me. I may change the way I style my hair or its coloring. I may shave my beard and only grow back a mustache, trade my glasses for contact lenses but when I look really hard itís still John.

I would rob a bank for sweets. Serve me anything with bread in it or around it and Iíll knock you away from the table. Put me in a cheese shop and Iím in heaven and you can make the experience even more of a pleasure if I have a good cold stein of beer in my hand. I donít mean lite beer either!!! I have a foolish belief that if I sweat enough I can counteract my food addictions and that if I donít get on the scale I wonít gain any weight. I could go on and on but you get my point.

Iím no scientist but it many ways you and I were hard wired at birth. The tendencies I have physical and emotional are what make me the adorable person I have become. (Sorta) In short,Ē I is what I is.Ē It doesnít mean I allow those things to run amok in my life, it means I acknowledge they are present and deal with them, honestly and openly. It means I acknowledge, often very painfully that I am always going to have to run like He^^ when I see or smell a donut shop. It means that I may have to talk myself to the gym every lousy day of the week because I know I make excuses not to go work out. I canít surgically alter my psyche. Itís how I was born.

However, when I look in the mirror I see so much more. I see a guy who has some very special people in his life, both real and virtual who are here to help him when he begins to give in to those cravings and desires. They are the folks he hangs with. They accept him good or bad for who he is.

I know I am worth the agony and yeah friend you know as well as I do itís agony, of walking through a dietary mind field every day and asking yourself ďIf Iím not on a diet, why the He^^ does it feel like I am on one.Ē Itís looking in the mirror and counting the things Iíve accomplished in my life and know the depth and emotion they bring me far outweigh my addictions.

I know that just like anyone ever created in the totality of history that I deserve happiness and health and prosperity no matter what my parents, ex-girlfriends, co-workers or anyone else who spews negativity ever told me. No matter how heinous I believe my past actions may have been, right now, in the here and now, I deserve all the good things everyone else does.

When I look in the mirror, I believe what I see, the things Iím proud of and the things I need to work upon. After I post this Iíll make a smoothie with frozen fruit, frozen bananas, cinnamon and fresh spinach. I really want a plate of pancakes, greasy eggs and bacon. Iíll always want that. Iím not going to punish myself. Today Iíll make the choice to inhale the smoothie and head for my gym. I canít tell you what Iíll do tomorrow. I just may make up that plate of pancakes. I probably wonít, but if I do, when I look in my mirror later on that day, I know Iíll still be loved by you and by me. You donít love me because of what I eat or donít eat; you love me for my heart and soul, just like I love you for the very same reasons. There are times Iíll slip and fall and I trust you wonít lose the look of encouragement you always give me. I promise you from the bottom of my heart, I wonít ever stop encouraging, and supporting you.

  
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LAWRALOO 4/1/2011 3:57PM

    I firmly believe the word diet is a four letter word, but you're right...if I'm not on a diet, why do I feel like I am? lol

I love your honesty. It makes me remind myself I'm not perfect, nor will I ever be...and really...do I want to be? If I were...what would I have to work towards?



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GIRANIMAL 3/31/2011 2:54PM

    I fell on a dietary landmine Saturday. Frozen pizza, four (non-light) beers, far too much cheese and caramel popcorn and a cupcake that seemed like heaven but must not have been because dear BF looked at me peculiarly and said, "Honey, they are not that good," when I lamented wanting a second. And he's a bigger chocolate fiend than I am. Talk about perspective. Suddenly I realized that I do actually binge now and again, and that it was a probably subconscious middle finger to all the new changes my chiropractor has suggested for me that I KNOW are good for me.

So I felt pretty crappy Sunday, both from the beer and the regret of my loss on control.

But it helped teach me that sugar really is a trigger for me. So I finally switched this week to stevia in my 6:30 a.m. coffee. And you know what? I can feel the difference in my brain after just two days.

So Monday I started the new regimen - with a lot of the same resentment you have for the gym and doughnut shops - and knew that my dear BF and you guys still love me. And that it was OK. Because I am not ACTUALLY what I eat, as great a metaphor as that is.

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TRACEY5280 3/31/2011 1:23PM

    As we won't stop supporting and encouraging you. I find if I can steer clear of my addictions for a while - alcohol, chocolate, bread - I'm ok. I seem to want them just a bit less. It's that steering clear!

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LYNMEINDERS 3/31/2011 3:49AM

    The clean your plate club was paramount when i was growing up so something got really rewired or screwed up for me along the line....lol...

John...I just love reading your blogs...there is so many motivating and encouraging things for me to think about in them...
thankyou

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MYSTERY4EVER 3/30/2011 10:55PM

    I don't know if we are hard wired, but we are certainly acculturated. "Clean your plate." "I'll be hurt if you don't eat this." And on and on. Food as acceptance. It is a struggle to hear new messages, but I am trying and from your blogs it seems that you are trying too. That is all we can do. Try and pick ourselves up and try again. Great blog.

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HDHAWK 3/30/2011 7:27PM

    You and I seem to have the same types of foods we need to avoid!

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PGNBRI 3/30/2011 6:33PM

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/30/2011 2:58PM

    I fell yesterday and landed on a landmine but just like you and everyone else who makes it in this diet war I'm right back here today.

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CARTOONB 3/30/2011 2:36PM

    I'll here to catch you, should you fall. And to kick you in the butt to get you moving again.

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KSGROTHE 3/30/2011 1:49PM

    This is a great and timely blog for me. I can relate to so much of it, and I need to read and reread the next to last paragraph, I think.
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- Karen

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REJ7777 3/30/2011 1:31PM

    I love your blogs, because you're so honest about your struggles. I can relate to them. Your blogs usually make me smile and challenge me to *work my plan* in spite of the struggles.

"The tendencies I have physical and emotional are what make me the adorable person I have become. " I agree. emoticon

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SILLYHP1953 3/30/2011 1:13PM

    So...we accept the good, the bad, and the ugly and love ourselves anyway. You have a much better way of saying that, making it sound like I can do it. And that smoothie was sounding good until you added spinach. I like spinach, I just wasn't expecting that after all the fruit. Does a regular blender work for all that? I hate to admit it, but I've never made a smoothie. I think it might be time.

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GETFIT2LIVE 3/30/2011 1:13PM

    Yes, we do seem to be hard wired from birth; I'll always be a chocolate lover (the only time my mom craved chocolate was when she was pregnant with me, so it's from BEFORE birth with me!); however, I'm learning how to keep it from pulling me into See's every time I walk by. This is a long journey with lots of ups and downs, but we are worth the effort. You are loved--period, no strings attached. Knowing that helps me keep plugging along, and I hope it does the same for you.

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BRIGET66 3/30/2011 1:00PM

    John,
You look in your mirror and see John. Today, I read your blog and saw me. Thanks for saying what I can't and for motivating me anew every time I read you.
As always, your Blog was great. Almost as great as YOU!

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KELLY40222 3/30/2011 12:35PM

    I definitely agree that we are hard wired from birth! There are days when I truly feel like I am fighting against nature when my craving are so ravenous. Thank you for the great blog!

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LINDAJ0621 3/30/2011 12:16PM

    Another great blog, John! You hit home with so much you have to say and express yourself in ways I wish I could. I know I will also have to stuggle each and every day with this addiction of mine. My hope is I will win on more days than I lose!!! Just be there for me (virtually) when I can't resist those frozen Margharita's this summer!!!

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TIME4AFITME 3/30/2011 11:59AM

    What a great blog! Thank you so much.

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ALLISON145 3/30/2011 11:50AM

    Great blog. I have recently admitted that I feel like I'm dieting too. I just do. If I ever figure out how to change my psyche I'll let you know! I'm definitely a sweets girl for now though. Yum!

Hugs!
-Allison

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EMTFF376 3/30/2011 11:32AM

    very much looking forward to this weekend...maybe a run and a beer instead of a run and a salad. :)

Hugs,
Janette


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GEEMAWEST 3/30/2011 9:36AM

    I love you for being you. And I will love you more if you take me to the cheese shop with you.
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MARCYNA 3/30/2011 9:13AM

    Very true,,,and, by the way, your addictions are all mine - plus one or two I cannot talk of in public, too embarassing emoticon emoticon emoticon
hugs hugs hugs

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MOMGABE 3/30/2011 8:54AM

    Great blog, John. I too believe that certain foods are my drug of choice. I can acknowledge my addiction and learn to live with it or I can let it control me. I'm in the fight today.

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MSSUNBUG 3/30/2011 8:24AM

    Not surprisingly, this resonates this morning. :-)

Thanks for posting this.

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NJMATTICE 3/30/2011 8:06AM

    I like your version of the "Popeye Thesis". ("I am what I am and that's all thats I am, I'm Popeye the Sailor Man TOOT TOOT") Knowing yourself and getting in line with what you truly want outta your unique (yet, very easily related to)experience. Go get 'em Popeye! (John) Enjoy that energy boosting smoothie and quality time with the "Missus" at the gym. Have a great day. You are off to a great start. Thanks for the thoughts!
Love,
Nancy
TOOT TOOT!

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WIGIME 3/30/2011 7:43AM

    Thanks so much for this Blog John, you have really touched my heart.

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OUTDOORSDC 3/30/2011 7:28AM

    So, so true. Thanks for the hope this morning, John.

From: Another Emotional Eater

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MYGOLDENBOYS3 3/30/2011 7:13AM

    Thanks John. Good blog...and I, too, is what I is. Long journey and one that must be thought about every day. None of us is perfect and it is good to know that you will keep on caring!
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NASFKAB 3/30/2011 7:04AM

  We are always for you. Keep it up. Its tough but that's how it has to be most of the time

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