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What If..............

Tuesday, March 08, 2011

….I woke up this morning with the same expectation for my day that a child has on Christmas morning.

….I couldn’t wait to leave the house because I was so excited about the new people I was going to meet and the new things I was going to learn

….I smiled all the time

….I told people I was happy

….I began each day in awe and with profound and reverent recognition of my Creator and all He has done for me, all He has taught me and how very much He loves me.

….I stopped the first person I met this morning and in a very sincere manner told them something they had done, anything they had done, had meant something very important to me at a time in my life when I really needed it.

….The people in my life knew they really mattered because I told them so.

….I took the time to encourage a new Sparker, maybe through a comment of encouragement or support. Fifteen months ago, some very special people took the time to welcome me, check up on me and show they cared. It’s the reason I’m here.

….I didn’t worry what people thought about me, my ideas and my beliefs.

….I made a new friend today

….I stood my ground and didn’t bow to the pressure when someone offered me a box of Girl Scout cookies.

…. I did it with a smile and a “thank you.”

You probably could add to this list if you’d like. I’m going to go now. There is a whole great big world out there waiting for me to explore, enjoy and appreciate. Part of the reason is because you are in that world.

Be blessed this Tuesday.

  
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GIRANIMAL 3/11/2011 8:00PM

    What if John stopped sharing his insights big and small in his blog space?

His Spark Friends would be totally bummed!

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ELIZABETH525 3/11/2011 8:17AM

    If you did these things, your life would be alot less stressful. when you look at the positives in life rather than the negatives, you will always see more positives and the negatives won't seem so bad.

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DOLLBABE56 3/11/2011 7:13AM

    Wouldn't that be something .........

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MIBELLALUNA 3/10/2011 8:07PM

    That would be great wouldn't it? I backed myself into a corner on this issue. People tend to scare me sometimes! (as I probably do them! :)

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MARCYNA 3/10/2011 12:44PM

    Wow!!!!What a blessing to have met you, I always learn something encouraging and awesome emoticon

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DGILBRIDE1949 3/10/2011 11:43AM

    Good words to live by.......every day. Thanks! emoticon

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LINDAJ0621 3/10/2011 8:35AM

    I really like the message here. Sometimes, I need to be reminded that my attitude determines the outcome of my day.
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TRIPLE_EMME 3/9/2011 10:48AM

    What a GREAT list!

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NANNAMOM60 3/9/2011 6:12AM

    Good plan. I try to look at yesterday as in the books while today's page is in the works and tomorrow is yet to be written. What I learned yesterday and today helps write tommorrow's book. Have a blessed day.


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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/8/2011 10:19PM

    You know, this sounds like me on most days. I have a great life. I have it made. emoticon

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CARTOONB 3/8/2011 9:52PM

    That is a great list! Hmmmm....

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JUNEAU2010 3/8/2011 9:11PM

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WIZINTN 3/8/2011 6:04PM

    Thanks, John.
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LYNMEINDERS 3/8/2011 5:32PM

    Awesome blog...love it....

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MKPRINCESS007 3/8/2011 5:10PM

    That's right, my friend! Live joyfully and wonderfully! :)

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ANEPANALIPTI 3/8/2011 4:56PM

    Beautiful. I hope its a great one for you John... I had some of these thoughts today...

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GOANNA2 3/8/2011 4:47PM

    I am smiling. Top of the morning to you too.
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BRIGET66 3/8/2011 4:33PM

    I love reading your blogs John! What a great spirit you have...what a great SPARK you have!!
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AZCUPCAKE 3/8/2011 3:00PM

    Thank you, John. I feel blessed every time I read your uplifting words and am renewed and inspired to KEEP GOING on this path that is sometimes just one weird journey! I will take a deep breath and look at all of the things that are beautiful on this sunny Tuesday! emoticon

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TERSIEFROG 3/8/2011 12:40PM

    this absolutely made me smile today! thank you for sharing and I hope many of your personal "what ifs" happen for you today ... and I will aim for some of the same because they're so beautiful! Have an amazing Tuesday!

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BROWNIE10181 3/8/2011 10:06AM

  John,
I almost did not click on this today. However I am so happy that I did. I wish we were neighbors so we could hang out and you could encourage me each and everyday. I will be checking in with you each and every day.

Again thank you,


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LINDAJ0621 3/8/2011 9:30AM

    Very uplifting message, John. Thank you for helping me to make this a beautiful day!

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JAE_HENNINGTON 3/8/2011 9:14AM

  yea John, I live my life everyday with the what if's

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MADKAPKID 3/8/2011 9:01AM

    Each day is an adventure waiting to happen. Enjoy it fully. Have a joy filled day, Karen emoticon

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LILIVW 3/8/2011 8:29AM

    Great reminders of the possibilities. I am going to make this a great day. Thanks!

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MISSROCKABILLY 3/8/2011 8:26AM

    Love this, John! Thanks so much for sharing this today, it is just what I needed to read this morning!
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MUSTANG_SALLY2 3/8/2011 8:14AM

    I am working on the attitude shift. I need to be more positive. Thanks for this reminder John!

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MSSUNBUG 3/8/2011 7:53AM

    What a beautiful blog, John. Thanks for a shift in attitude early in the day. Just what I needed. Blessings wished back to you, friend.

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STARLIGHT615 3/8/2011 7:52AM

    Great blog!

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Where's My Energy --- Looking At My Life

Monday, March 07, 2011

The scariest part of my day comes when I find myself with nothing to do. There is a blank space on the calendar, the phone doesn’t ring, and no one knocks on the door. There is no b log to write, no seminar to conduct, no client to assist. It is simply quiet and I am left looking at me. We’ve been taught, conditioned, use whatever word that suits you, that our worth and value are determined by how much activity goes on during the course of our day. “An idle mind is the devils work shop,” and all that other hubris. Words like “stressed” or “worn out” are used as labels to evaluate the pecking order in our world.

I have tried and failed many times in my life to manage my health. It always seems that one area or the other is lacking and I always feel slightly off center. A good friend blogged the other day about abusing food when she was tired. I had to raise my hand and join that group of people. When I put ten pounds of sugar in a five pound sack it usually means I run out of gas earlier in the day then I’d like and I don’t really care what goes in my mouth. Usually it’s something, quick, convenient and not in my own best interest. But, hey, I’m a busy guy!!! I have things to do. I have to go-go-go!!! Right?

I was at the gym the other morning when I had one of these “Ah-Ha Moments.” I was impatient. I needed to get going, get things done and the people using the equipment I needed were not cooperating with me at all. Suddenly, this little voice inside my head “Where are you in such a hurry to get to, John?” I’ll cut to the chase. The answer was nowhere. Oh, I had things to do that day, but I was hell-bent upon getting them all done in an hour. I was in a hurry and the more I hurried the more tense I became. It’s a vicious cycle most days. Being honest with myself means I have to look at how I manage my life, say good-bye to my excuses, and learn to manage my energy. It means I need to be okay with not being active and realize it is indeed a healthy practice and not some sign that I am some sort of slacker.

On top of being really good looking I also read minds. Some of you reading this are saying, “Yeah, but he doesn’t know what my life is like. He doesn’t know how really busy I am!!” I’ll issue a bit of a challenge then. Sit down with a piece of paper and ask yourself how much of your “busyness” is necessary and how much of it is created to keep you from really getting a handle on you? The first time I did it I crumpled up the paper, and threw it in the garbage. Everything I did was necessary!!!! Well, I’ll clue ya in on something. You can throw the paper away but you can’t throw the thought or intention away.

What I came to realize is I put all my worth and value in being active. If I couldn’t be liked or loved for looking good I’d be liked and loved for being a whirling dervish. I never saw that I was loved, respected and appreciated for who I was. I only learned it when I created time in my day for silence and balance and some days simply sitting and staring out my kitchen windows. I’m not suggesting you quit your job and abandon your family. I’m saying that when you look at those activities that keep you and me from looking at ourselves simply remove a few and use the time to improve yourself.

My favorite quote in the Bible goes something like this: “No person can serve two masters. They will love one and hate the other.” I can’t pursue a path to a healthier life as long as I leave room for unhealthy activity.

Have a great Monday.

  
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SILLYHP1953 3/18/2011 9:57PM

    I'm really enjoying reading all your blogs tonight, the ones since Feb 25th when I started getting behind. It's a nice ending to my evening. Thanks, again.

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WALKNLOVE 3/11/2011 7:05AM

    Especially loved the last part....TRUE, so very true. How is it I can do good all day & then at night blow it....and for what exactly? Continueing to struggle, but never giving up!

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MARCYNA 3/10/2011 12:50PM

    Busyness is one of my greatest obstacles as it is associated to feeling guilty for doing nothing, even if my energy levels are sometimes very low, Finding quiet time with myself is so comforting at times, thanks for reminding me.
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SMOCKON 3/10/2011 9:14AM

    I am bristling with resistance to this idea. That usually signals it's a good idea but I don't want to hear it because it means changing. Any suggestions for paring down the activity in my life?

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AZCUPCAKE 3/8/2011 3:02PM

    emoticon Wow. I am always amazed and inspired by your insights. You really know what makes people tick. Thank you for this!

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LOSNIT 3/8/2011 9:35AM

  Being mindful of the moments in life. Very good. Thanks.

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MSSUNBUG 3/8/2011 8:08AM

    This idea of slowing down resonates a lot with me right now. So much of this journey has to do with slowing down, with being patient, with allowing things to unfold in a timeline we don't get to decide. Fallow times are uncomfortable for me as well; and like you, I've always found them to be the biggest teacher. My worth is not measured by the things I do--but by the way I approach doing whatever thing I do, which is a much more delicate, difficult, nebulous (read: UNCOMFORTABLE) thing.

Anyway, this is one of the many reasons I took up a regular meditation practice--to learn what it feels like to just be, to allow things to pass over and through me without feeling I need to act on them. This blog was a great reminder of that.

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CARTOONB 3/7/2011 9:11PM

    Good point. I'll put it on my to-do list. emoticon

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JUNEAU2010 3/7/2011 8:53PM

    Great food for thought. I am still thinking...!

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GOANNA2 3/7/2011 4:18PM

    Great blog again John.
Reminds me when I was a lot younger and racing
to get all the housework done in one go and my
elderly neighbour told me" So what if my windows
don't get done, they'll still be there when I'm dead
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NANNAMOM60 3/7/2011 3:20PM

    Early morning around 4:45AM is time for myself. I go on line and visit with my Spark Friends

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/7/2011 1:42PM

    Great blog, John. I fight this concept on a daily basis. I'm really not all that busy any more but years of being one of the busiest people on the planet - when I worked 14 hours a day doing mobile trauma/Coronary Care/Intensive Care/ and Dialysis - wired my permanently adrenalin-infused brain to think I'm still busy. I always think I'm behind when really if I don't get something done no one notices. LOL. Old habits are hard to break.

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REJ7777 3/7/2011 1:35PM

    Another great blog to stimulate reflection! emoticon

I only learned to slow down after my heart attack. Before that, I was much too important and busy! Somehow, people at the office survived without me for several weeks. emoticon Now I work fewer hours, and I have time and energy left over to take care of my health. People have more realistic expectations of what I can do, and most of all, so do I. emoticon emoticon

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GEEMAWEST 3/7/2011 12:35PM

    Spot on, John! I have such a hard time just being still. I always feel like I need to be doing something, that the world will pass me by if I don't get 'things' done.

In fact, as soon as I woke up this morning I started stressing out because I couldn't figure out how I was going to get everything done today that I need to do.

Thanks for some great words of wisdom. You really gave me something to thing about. Darn you, I really don't have time for this. LOL

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SHELLYFOX 3/7/2011 11:46AM

    I really identify with the subject of your blog. Very good, and thought provoking!

PS: I'm one that abuses food when I'm tired, especially in the evenings...I'm training myself to just go to bed! :~)

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MADKAPKID 3/7/2011 10:51AM

    Happy Monday John. Your blog gives me much to think about today. Thank you and have a joy filled day, Karen

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LESA2.0 3/7/2011 10:20AM

    You are so right about how society values worth. I was always looked upon as being the "lazy" one in my family growing up because I liked to daydream and read and do other physically sedentary activities. My mind was (and is) always busy, though. I've always worked hard when I'm at school or at work, but I will never be one of those perpetually busy and over-scheduled people. I like to spend time just staring out the window and thinking. Taking the time to just be still and in the moment is very important. Thanks for your thoughtful blog.

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JUDIL62 3/7/2011 10:18AM

    so true!

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WANDAH3 3/7/2011 9:37AM

    Have a lovely "Mindful Monday" John. Thank you for the awesome blog. Great words to reflect upon.

Hugs,
Wanda

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GREENCAT1 3/7/2011 9:37AM

    I have made these same observations about myself. It feels easier to be crazy busy that too face the feelings that come up during stillness.


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HDHAWK 3/7/2011 9:30AM

    Are you sure you aren't my long lost twin brother. I feel the same way! If I'm not busy every second that's when I usually turn to food. I don't know what to do with down time.

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NJMATTICE 3/7/2011 8:34AM

    Happy Monday to you too, John. Thanks for the thoughtful reflection.
Love,
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DOLLBABE56 3/7/2011 8:34AM

    Very true John. It's easy to fall into the "too busy" trap. I've been experiencing this a lot lately. Good advice.

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Me and My Scale or Honesty Part Two

Friday, March 04, 2011


Availible on youtube @
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NN54Figt5
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MSSUNBUG 3/8/2011 8:01AM

    I've had a roller coaster relationship with the scale myself! You're right--it's a report card, but it's also a bit fickle. It takes so little to throw it off! I found that a month-to-month (rather than week-to-week) report was fine for me--and kept me "honest" for the month.

My "issue" with the scale is that my reliance on it interfered with my ability to tune in to my body and that inner voice which is WELL AWARE of how well or not well I'm doing with my eating and exercise. Using it as a tool, a teacher, as information is a good thing--but for me, not at the expense of honoring and HEARING that voice that knows you've done right (no matter whether the scale agrees or not).



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BRIGET66 3/7/2011 6:26PM

    Well John...I had to laugh when I listened to your blog because the same thing happened to me. I don't know how many times I (like you) thought I was doing Amazingly, eating well, exercising more days than I didn't only to hop on the scale and find out I'd GAINED 2 lbs. Or the opposite, I'd fall of the wagon so to speak, eat WAY over my calories "allowed", veg in front of the t.v. and LOSE 3 lbs! (And more than once I might add!) Since joining Spark People I've actually gained 6 lbs! I started off doing really really good, had that motivation...worked out, tried to keep under the calories allowed for the day. Then I kinda slacked for 3 days, ate too much and didn't get in any workouts. Right now, the scale is NOT my friend!! But it's okay...this time I'm not giving up, I'm just gonna accept that I'm gonna mess up once in a while. take it one day at a time and keep on reading all these wonderful posts.
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VICKI-N-FLA 3/6/2011 6:22PM

    I really liked what you had to say and I think I'm going to adopt the idea of treating the scale like a report card. Your blog really got me to thinking so thank you for that. emoticon

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LINDAJ0621 3/6/2011 2:58PM

    Well, that explains it! I was always an over-achiever in school..worked hard for those A's! Now, I know the scale is my report card, maybe that will motivate me to earn those A's again. Thanks!

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DOLLIE6 3/6/2011 12:27PM

    Thanks John for being there.

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AKATUJE 3/5/2011 5:08AM

    emoticon for yet another great blog!!! My scale and i have had a love hate relationship, but of late i have realized that it really gives me feedback on what i am doing. It really is my report card on this journey!!! These days i treat it with respect, after all, it is only telling me whether what i have been up to is beneficial for my journey or not.

But i gatta say, i love the "last minute" results!!! And that is probably the reason i am not yet at goal.

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BETHSTL 3/4/2011 9:38PM

    Hi John! Love the Bluegrass music :)

That's a great idea to think about your scale being your report card. Never thought of it that way. Thanks for sharing your ideas with us!

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SNOWANGELDIVA 3/4/2011 9:28PM

    I LOVE banjos!...Blue Grass, hard to dance to, but, luv its energy.

You have a radio announcer/teacher voice; clear, rich, and easy to follow ...vlogging works on you!

Scale=Report Card...this works for me too.
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REJ7777 3/4/2011 7:23PM

    I find that my scale is a tool that gives me valuable feedback, just like my pedometer. emoticon

Have a great weekend!

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WOULDBESLIM 3/4/2011 6:07PM

  Hi

Well thank you for your honesty in sharing this. When I get on my scales and notice what is happening, I have taken to using three questions which hopefully make a positive difference to my goals.

1. What did I do well ?
2. What could I have done better?
3. What is one small thing that next week I can do differently which will most help?

Keep on keeping on - the rest of us and with you in this

best wishes

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KELLY40222 3/4/2011 10:23AM

    Happy Friday John! I tend to think of my scale as more of a parole officer. If I slip up I make sure to get right back on track, since I have to report in to the officer!

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JUDIL62 3/4/2011 10:18AM

    Thank you John. I posted a blog response to your blog....check it out:

http://www.sparkpeople.
com/mypage_public_journal_indiv
idual.asp?blog_id=4065671

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EMTFF376 3/4/2011 9:14AM

    Hi John!

Thanks for the video blog.

I used to use the scale as a diagnostic tool, then decided to go to the "clothes fit" method once I got to my goal and was exercising on a very regular basis. I used to tell people, don't worry about the number. Well, at this stage in my game, that number matters. It is a good measuring stick, but it shouldn't rule your life. I have to remember that when I gain muscle, I gain weight and that's okay.

Have a great Friday and weekend!
Big hugs from your WV pal,
Janette


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Anthem 5k Photo

Thursday, March 03, 2011

Someone snapped this photo of me Saturday and found my email address via bib number and sent it my way. Just thought I'd share.......

My immediate reaction is I need running shorts that fit, LOL

  
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SILLYHP1953 3/18/2011 9:40PM

    One of theses days I'm going to have a big number on my chest...you inspire me.

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    I like this boy in the picture emoticon

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IFDEEVARUNS2 3/8/2011 11:23AM

    emoticon Job well done!

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SPMCCANN 3/6/2011 1:42PM

  Well done John. That took courage.
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow". ~Mary Anne Radmacher


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JUNEMOLLY1 3/6/2011 2:09AM

  Congratulations - you cannot fAIL now - I am taking a leaf out of your book John - emoticon

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KAT573 3/5/2011 1:08PM

    NEAT! Looks just fine and dandy to me! Good job! emoticon

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GREENCAT1 3/5/2011 9:44AM

    Great photo John!

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GEEMAWEST 3/4/2011 8:32PM

    Love it!!

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THAT is my runner friend in that picture!!!

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WALKNLOVE 3/4/2011 8:57AM

    Good JOB!

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CARTOONB 3/3/2011 11:54PM

    You look like a runner! Huh...a runner AND a tucker! You are going places!

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DOLLBABE56 3/3/2011 10:02PM

    Wow, you look great!!! Way to go John. :)

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DOLLBABE56 3/3/2011 10:02PM

    Wow, you look great!!! Way to go John. :)

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DOLLBABE56 3/3/2011 10:01PM

    Wow, you look great!!! Way to go John. :)

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DOLLBABE56 3/3/2011 10:01PM

    Wow, you look great!!! Way to go John. :)

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DOLLBABE56 3/3/2011 10:01PM

    Wow, you look great!!! Way to go John. :)

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DOLLBABE56 3/3/2011 10:01PM

    Wow, you look great!!! Way to go John. :)

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DOLLBABE56 3/3/2011 10:01PM

    Wow, you look great!!! Way to go John. :)

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DOLLBABE56 3/3/2011 10:01PM

    Wow, you look great!!! Way to go John. :)

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DOLLBABE56 3/3/2011 10:01PM

    Wow, you look great!!! Way to go John. :)

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DOLLBABE56 3/3/2011 10:01PM

    Wow, you look great!!! Way to go John. :)

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BLUEEYESXOXO 3/3/2011 9:31PM

    Looking strong! :) emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/3/2011 9:22PM

    You are looking really good but I agree that a guy who has lost this much weight deserves some new exercise duds.

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LILIVW 3/3/2011 8:04PM

    Great picture!

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MKPRINCESS007 3/3/2011 7:28PM

    You look so amazing! I am so proud of you! Running a 5K is amazing enough, but in the cold takes an extra special person! Go YOU!

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MSSUNBUG 3/3/2011 7:24PM

    You look strong!

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GRACENFAITH 3/3/2011 4:07PM

    Congrats, you look your having fun! What an inspiration to others!
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WISEONE68 3/3/2011 3:30PM

    Lookin' GREAT!! WooHoo!!! emoticon

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SWEETNEENI 3/3/2011 2:33PM

    YAY FOR BIG RUNNING SHORTS!!! And the awesome guy wearing them!!! emoticon emoticon

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SAMDJS 3/3/2011 2:05PM

    That picture is A-W-E-S-O-M-E!!!!! Way to go!

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LUVMYK9S 3/3/2011 2:03PM

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Great pic! Thanks for sharing! It does look COLD though ... great perseverance to keep going when its that cold and in baggy shorts no less!

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KELLY40222 3/3/2011 1:31PM

    Way to go John!

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GIRANIMAL 3/3/2011 1:29PM

    I love it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Except, man, it looks cold. (I believe you mentioned that it was.) Bonus points for you for sheer determination.

Ha ha -- maybe you're going to help baggy pants make another comeback! That would be kinda awesome. If I remember my high school days correctly, super-baggy pants make one's waist look smaller. emoticon

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PRINCESSNURSE 3/3/2011 1:26PM

    I LOVE IT!

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GETFIT2LIVE 3/3/2011 1:02PM

    LOL--great action shot, even if the shorts are a bit baggy!

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Being Honest With Myself

Thursday, March 03, 2011

If I told you I found the secret to success and happiness; if I told you that you could wrap up all of your self-help books and sell them at the book and music exchange; if I told you that you never had to track your food or exercise, ever again you wouldn’t believe me, would you? You’d be anticipating that now famous line “But wait there’s more……” Well, friends I found it, quite by accident, but I found it and it’s as plain as the nose on my face. It’s called honesty, more specifically being honest with myself. I can be honest with and about you until the cows come home. I can be supportive and loving and all that cool stuff but until I am honest with myself about who and what I am and how far I need to travel, then it’s just a really nice exercise.

BTW: Honesty does not mean beating yourself up. It’s why we are afraid to examine it. Some brilliant person many eons ago took the basic principle of physics and applied it to everything in God’s creation: “For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.” We’ve taken that maxim and engraved it upon our souls altering it to mean “For every fault there should be an equal amount of guilt, pain and frustration and oh BTW I’ll never into my dream outfit!!!”

So let me be honest

I abuse food. It’s my drug of choice. Everything I have learned in the past fifty seven years tells me what is good for my body and what will ultimately harm it. I choose to ignore those warnings. I’d rather dwell on how difficult it is and give myself a pass. My grocery store has two entrances. The first leads you right into the produce and health food departments. That’s where all the good stuff is. The second entrance barely allows you the opportunity to catch your breath when you are accosted by a display of cookies, cakes donuts, pies or candy, depending on the time of week or the season. I know when I walk through door two I am most likely going to grab something that isn’t good for me. It may taste good. It may provide some gastric pleasure, but when I step on the scale every Thursday I really shouldn’t be too surprised when the needle doesn’t move, should I? If I walk through door number one I am more likely to get a more positive result. Door two tastes better but door one gives me a long term result…… one I am looking for.

Honesty drives everything about us. Only I know when I’m not telling you the truth but in short order it begins to show. When I am not honest with myself I get results because I can adjust the way I live to help me reach my goals and objectives. When I tell myself “it’s okay to cheat,” then as my trainer told me once when I wouldn’t hold a plank correctly, “The only person you are cheating is yourself, John.” Amen.

You don’t need to take a billboard out on the interstate and advertise your flaws. Find out what’s holding you back and come up with a plan to deal with it. Pat yourself on the back for being brilliant enough to think of it. Honesty has nothing to do with guilt. It has everything to do with seeing how far you’ve come and realizing how far you have to go. We treat it as a sad occasion but really, isn’t it a cause to celebrate? You’ve found the secret of your success.

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

FITPT4LIFE 9/8/2011 3:33PM

    I too am an addict to food working on being more honest with myself. I guess we all are, obviously. Thanks for reminding us of the greater task at hand, being honest with ourselves.

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ROSADELDESIERTO 8/1/2011 5:05PM

    Thanks for sharing, it really touched my heart and made me put into action my own honesty. emoticon

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SUPERSYLPH 6/29/2011 9:37AM

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GRANDMABABA 5/28/2011 8:10AM

    Thank you for reminding me of my own biggest downfall...opportunity.

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DELIALOLO89 5/24/2011 12:27PM

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RUTHE_51 5/15/2011 2:02PM

    I loved your blog. I am really at a point of being totally honest with myself so that I can keep off the weight I have lost and finish losing what is left to lose. Excellent blog!!

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EUNIQ3 5/12/2011 12:45PM

    This is sooo true!! And I think once you are honest with yourself then everything else seems easy!! It's just the honesty thing that keeps us from moving forward

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OKGOATGAL 4/24/2011 8:47PM

  GOOD post! so true. honesty with yourself can make a huge difference!

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ANNI101 4/20/2011 3:37PM

  Love this post, John. It made me realize I wasn't being honest with myself about my efforts. Deciding to take an honest look at what I'm doing made me finally decide to take the time to use the nutrition trackers. And now I see where I was getting off track and what I need to do to reach my goals. I'm on a good streak now -- thanks John!

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GETUPAGAIN 4/20/2011 12:43PM

  Thank you. This will be my focus for the next while until I really "get it'.

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FARMERGIRL63 4/9/2011 12:10PM

  Yes John I hear you and know exactly where you are
coming from. When it comes to feeling better about
yourself, only you can do it nobody else can do it
for you as I have been told.

But as far as my eating habits go, I am not a big
sweet eater and never have been, but I do enjoy
the other side of foods and that is the salty stuff
that appeals to me and at times that can be just
as harmful as the sweets can. So I cut back on that
as well.

But my biggest problem was that it wasn't what I
was eating that harmed me, it was the point that I
always wanted to snack or eat before going to bed and
I was told that is not good either.

But look to the positive side of things and you will
succeed. I wish you the best in whichever path you
take to a healthier life.

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BOYDCJ4477 4/7/2011 3:00PM

    So true! emoticon

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GOLIGHTLY7 4/7/2011 7:21AM

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BLEWISFLA 4/6/2011 2:07PM

    This is so true. Thanks for sharing. In order to recover, I must be honest with myself and it is simple but not easy! emoticon

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MCONDIE22 4/5/2011 10:36AM

  Thank you for being brave and putting yourself out there. This rings true for me. That is why I will take this to heart. There is no better time to change then now.

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JANALE 4/4/2011 11:32AM

  Good Job! Well Said! Now to apply in my own life!! Thank YOU! emoticon

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SWTTXHUNNY 4/4/2011 9:45AM

    Good blog. People naturally beat themselves up on their flaws, especially women. It's getting over the negative thoughts and concentrating on our inner beauty, special qualities, and building our self esteem that we find the courage to overcome our obstacles. I like the sitting down and writing things out. That way you visually can see your qualities and reasons why you're wanting to make changes. God made each one of special w/ flaws and we need to embrace that. :)

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NOTINTH 4/1/2011 6:39AM

  Just started two days ago on this site and wow, John I think you hit it on the head for me! This helped greatly! hmmmmmm, I will now have to go back and add the extra tater tots to my nutrition plan for yesterday... Bah! But in the end, what you say is true! I am only cheating myself! Thank you for your honesty and willingness to share!

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SHRUTI_SARAOGI1 3/31/2011 10:19AM

    Wow, John! Your blog is just wow! I mean it says so many things in so little words. The sentence were you say - " "The only person you are cheating is yourself, John." brings one face to face with reality because when I am feeling down even I feel that I can let go for just a day and that day more often that not turns into three days! It's bad, it really is. Just today I was convincing my sister to go out and have pizza (yes, it's one of those days and I just ate out yesterday!) but right now I am sitting and eating a bowl of watermelon. Thanks for the blog. It really gives me something to think about!

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JBAERGEN 3/31/2011 10:07AM

  Thanks for your bravery! emoticon

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HONEYBEEZ 3/31/2011 8:45AM

    Thank you so much for sharing this blog....I've struggled with "drug" (food) abuse for too many years, but still have allowed myself the luxury of denial. I needed to see this...not so that I can self-flagellate (beat myself up), but so that I can move on. I'm tired of being stuck in this rut.
Again, thanks.

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KRIMMI515 3/30/2011 10:44AM

  I agree with what you have to say. I am realizing that making changes is an everyday thing that needs to be accepted as part of life. Yes, we all have choices. Trusting yourself to make the right decision and standing by the decision to validate yourself and be honest with yourself is the hard part. It is easier to do things that others say is right for us, than following through with what we say is right for us. Thank you for your words.

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HONEYBEEBUZ 3/29/2011 10:10PM

    Must say this is right on.. when we try and fool ourselves.. we fool a fool. LOL

I am personally tired of just ignoring the facts... I am totally involved now in my new healthier lifestyle. Always searching for ways to make my daily eating lifestyle better and more delicious!

Sparkle On all!
Debbie

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RJFERRARO315 3/29/2011 11:19AM

    It's so hard to be honest with ourselves. I struggle with this daily. Thanks for sharing your insight.

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BISSA7 3/28/2011 8:28PM

    that's so true! honesty is truly underrated. it's so much easier and more comfortable to lie to ourselves about these things or willfully ignore what we're doing.

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HEALTH4MICHELLE 3/28/2011 7:24PM

    Thank you for posting this! I am trying very hard to be honest with myself and it's nice that I'm not alone.

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WFOUCART 3/28/2011 6:04PM

    I have lost weight but have just started to peel layers off to become more honest with myself about my life and my goals. Without the honesty and the self-confidence to go with it, everything in my life will never be fully back in my control. I hope that the many people that are in this community can also become introspective and use the information for their future success in all aspects of their life.

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MAYBER 3/27/2011 4:46PM

    Thank you so much for sharing your views on honesty
It is what many of us avoid and especially the honesty with self
Am the only one who has to face myself each day in the mirror and on the scale
For the most part am honest with myself and where I am headed because this time am doing it for myself and not for someone else or some special occassion
One day at a time
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VIRGO_QUEEN 3/27/2011 10:47AM

    I love this blog! To me, when I'm being honest to myself, I do look at my self with guilt; i feel guilty for letting my self get to this size and guilty for failing to do something about it. But like you said, the fact that I log onto spark everyday is a cause for celebration. Thanks for posting this!

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RKAPETAN 3/26/2011 1:07PM

  I really liked what you had to say. Especially the part about about not taking on the guilt, but celebrating the "aha" moment of recognizing you can't fool yourself!

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KOSMOS123 3/25/2011 10:09PM

  Thanks for your words of wisdom. I have been struggling with this very problem lately and your blog really hit the nail on the head with me. Honesty is hard for me as is celebrating my victories however small. Hang in there and keep blogging.

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ANDI44 3/25/2011 12:28PM

  Thanks for your inspiring words, John. emoticon Best of luck to you....I'm sure you will be successful!

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WILL-BE-THIN 3/25/2011 10:54AM

    So very very very true!!! Thank you for reminding me!! I too can tell others what to do and that THEY have to be honest about THEIR food and exercise, BUT it's ME that has to help ME!!! Best of luck on your journey and thanks again!!

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CLWALDRO 3/25/2011 6:38AM

    Honesty can set us free because we are able to deal with true reality not some fiction we have created in our mind as being the truth. My father once said that" if you are honest then you do not need to remember all the lies you have told". I think this works with ourselves as well. If we are honest about who we are and where we are we can make changes that really last not try to keep lying to support the fantasy we have created and think is reality.
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SUSHIMAMA1 3/25/2011 3:54AM

    so true!!!!

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NANCYGORDANIER1 3/24/2011 2:08PM

  John, you have hit the nail right on the head! I wish you had told me this a year ago. I spent most of 2010 and the beginning of 2011 feeling disappointed and confused as to how to proceed. A few weeks ago, it suddenly came to me that I was not fooling me. I quit smoking and started strictly watching my diet on the same day. To date, I have been a nonsmoker for 2 weeks and have lost 10 pounds. Okay, I do have to keep making myself accountable, but I expect to lose the additional 50 pounds this year! Thanks for the insight and moral support.

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THORNSANDALL 3/24/2011 12:09PM

    Awesome blog

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GRACENFAITH 3/24/2011 12:00PM

    What an inSPIRITation! Another reason, I know I am blessed to know via the web. Thanks! Have an amazingly blessed Thursday!
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COWGIRLNM 3/24/2011 11:24AM

  THANK YOU!!

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EVERGLAD 3/24/2011 10:54AM

    Thank you! You are wonderful and on top of that you are right. My mom taught me to always be honest, but when a person goes through a hellish time they don't always think straight. It seems that is when we get into trouble. Dark traumatic terrifying horrible situations make for out of control behavior. The light at the end of the dark tunnel is when coping, awareness and truth is revealed. I agree absolutely that guilt should never be involved in the process. I hope each and everyone of us has that awesome moment of epiphany.

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ALPINESUMMIT 3/23/2011 11:48PM

  Thank you John for your honestly. You've only confirmed what many of us, who are trying to get on the right path, already know. Get real with yourself and the rest will follow. Stay strong.

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COFFEE_MEL 3/23/2011 10:14PM

  Honesty is an universal truth, but it can be really hard to get all the way there. Thanks for your words and your story! Now I know that honesty is step 1 and the most important one. Good luck with everything!!! emoticon

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QUINCIFARI 3/23/2011 10:13PM

    Excellent post!!! We all have to make choices, most importantly for ourselves and be honest about it. If you're not getting the results you want and not paying attention...you can't blame anyone but yourself.

Thank you for your honesty!! Being honest with ourselves is the biggest step :)

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LILMSHAPPY74 3/23/2011 9:39PM

    I think you said it best.....Being honest with ourselves is the real beginning....Thank you for the story :)

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EIFERT2 3/23/2011 5:03PM

  I am not one to blog; however, I could hear my own voice in your words. So many times I have chosen the wrong path and later am remorseful; however, by that time I have sabotaged myself. Etch time I eat what I know isn't healthy for me I tell myself I will eat this this time and that will be last. Etch time I am lying to myself. I want it to be the truth, I even pray it will be the truth; alas, I go right ahead and make the wrong choice the next time too.

I wish you good fortune as you go through door #1!

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BRUINSFAN17 3/23/2011 5:02PM

    This was exactly what I need to read today, being honest with myself. Thank you for your insight! Best of luck on your weight loss journey!

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MYRNA929 3/23/2011 4:44PM

    I'm with you! liked your post

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KELLYTHEFIT0710 3/23/2011 3:45PM

    Thank you for sharing your awakening! I need to hear about getting honest and I appreciate your insight. Good luck on your journey! emoticon

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HULACRICKET 3/23/2011 2:58PM

  You said it all and you said it very well. Thank you for putting it very simply. Now the ball is in my court to make it work simply!

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CONNTESSA 3/23/2011 1:58PM

  Thank you for your story,Its refreshing to know that it never to late to get it right.

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