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Sunday, March 13, 2011

They are often over looked, taken for granted, remembered occasionally with an email, a card or a prayer. They exist in the back ground, like pleasant music, we know they are there but don’t often feel the need to acknowledge them. They cause us to laugh, to smile. They move us to tears with their unselfish acts of kindness and thoughtfulness. They are often the glue that binds the rest of our lives together. We share our deep dark secrets with them because we know they won’t ever judge us. They are our BFF’s, our pals, our buddies, our friends and they are a very important part of our journey.

Health is a balancing act. It not only requires that we pay close attention to the physical factors, but that we begin to undergo and emotional transformation inside of ourselves that opens me up to the world and allows it to not only see my beauty, my splendor, my foibles and flaws but causes me to allow you, my friend to love me and to honor me. Yup, most of us are really good at giving friendship. We can rush to the rescue of every disaster known to person kind and be ready to eagerly assist. Let the tables turn and it’s a horse of a different flavor, so to speak.

I have learned it is easy for me to give and darn near impossible for me to take. Some place, in the maze of confusion that often resembles my thought process, I have come to believe that I should give, give, give and that if my score card tallies up correctly at the end of it all I’ll get some sort of eternal reward. Givers are noble and takers, well takers, they are just slackers, weak people, not much back bone……. All that rot. It’s how most of us were raised. God loves a cheerful giver………..

I read somewhere, recently that the single largest act of vanity occurs within me when I do not acknowledge your out stretched hand. I shake my head and turn away. I can handle it myself!!! If I acknowledge your affection it means I am weak.

All of this laughable because real health is a balancing act between our body, our minds and our souls. When I accept you as my friend I am asked to do something we have a hard time with – trust you. I have to believe you are going to love me, care for me and even though it means you may have to get upset with me from time to time, have my best interest at heart.

I cannot be a friend unless I allow you to be mine. The wisdom you send me daily is the wisdom that fortifies me and makes me want to continue this journey. I have learned many things in my time here at Spark but the most valuable asset I have is you my friend.

  
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SILLYHP1953 3/20/2011 6:57PM

    Your straight-forward honest comments are as welcome as the spring!

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LYNMEINDERS 3/14/2011 10:38PM

    Thankyou so so much for your blogs.....
They are so uplifting and also remind us of what is important in life.....
Thanks heaps....

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COVEREDNPRAYING 3/14/2011 9:43AM

    Two years ago my husband and I had to graciously learn how to accept gifts from others. We had to, literally, live off the charity of others for a year and for two months of that I had to learn how to accept others mowing my grass, taking care of my children, etc. It is amazing how much easier it is to receive once you realize those people are God's hands. He provides the means, they are just the messengers. Having an amazing church to reach out to you helps immensely as well.

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DOLLBABE56 3/14/2011 9:27AM

    You are, as always, a blessing.

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HONORINGGOD 3/13/2011 10:09PM

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LINDAJ0621 3/13/2011 3:21PM

    Another great blog. Thank you!

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TRIPLE_EMME 3/13/2011 2:54PM

    Another great blog!

Thank you!

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MADKAPKID 3/13/2011 2:38PM

    John, I look forward to reading OR listening to your blogs. You have a no nonsense, common sense approach to life that I identify with. Have a joy filled day, Karen

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/13/2011 2:07PM

    I have found that there are a lot more takers in the world than givers and sometimes givers can't be trusted as their motives are suspect. I applaud true givers who expect nothing in return. My true friends would fall into that category. They make the world a better place but there are far too many people who have never said a thank you, nor acknowledged those who help them. They assume this as their birthright. Gimme, gimme, gimme. Not a good thing.

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JRZG8R 3/13/2011 2:05PM

    This is so true. Great blog. Thanks.

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GEEMAWEST 3/13/2011 1:55PM

    So very true.
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SARAWALKS 3/13/2011 1:34PM

    Yes, so true. It helps to remember that when you accept something from someone else, you are giving them the chance to be a giver...and that is good for both of you. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MYOWNHERO 3/13/2011 12:43PM

    So so so true!

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NANNAMOM60 3/13/2011 12:08PM

    You are right. If you are not willing to give of yourself than how do you expect a friend to be able to give to you.

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GIRANIMAL 3/13/2011 11:05AM

    Another gem! I still struggle with "taking" too. A lot, actually. Here are two tiny tricks I've been blessed with over the years:

I'm a word nerd, so for me, semantics help. I use the word "receive," rather than "take." The principle is the same, but "take" has garnered itself such a negative connotation. But receiving, well...that takes grace.

That brings me to number two. And old friend once told me that her Buddhism teacher or some such enlightened person explained to her that receiving grants others the gift of being ABLE to give. So you're really giving in your "taking!"

How's that for grace, huh? We really are all connected.

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WATERMELLEN 3/13/2011 10:57AM

    Interdependence, not independence: yeah!!

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ALLISON145 3/13/2011 10:41AM

    This is beautifully written and so true!

-Allison

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LILIVW 3/13/2011 10:25AM

    I enjoy reading your blogs because you are honest and so real. I also appreciate your gratitude in God and life. You seem to find the silver lining and as a result are able to uplift myself and others through your blogs. Thanks!

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EMTFF376 3/13/2011 10:13AM

    Your right (once again!), John. We have to trust and let people in. I appreciate your friendship and hope to give you a real big hug real soon!

have a great one today and let me know about the first Saturday in April,
Janette


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ANEPANALIPTI 3/13/2011 9:46AM

    How funny that in my vlog today I quoted you giving me this exact advice!!!!!

(we can do it)

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HDHAWK 3/13/2011 9:43AM

    I'm very guilty of this John. My new hubby has taught me a lot about accepting his help (even though he usually has to precede it with "I know you can do this on your own, but..."). It's not such a bad thing to accept help from others, but it sure takes some practice. As usual, you read my mind.

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Sharing A Burden

Friday, March 11, 2011


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CARTOONB 3/14/2011 11:07PM

    I never noticed the blinds in the background. Hmmmm.....

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GEEMAWEST 3/13/2011 2:07PM

    Great message, John. Just what I needed to hear.
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GIRANIMAL 3/13/2011 10:57AM

    I already knew this, but I'm so blessed to be your friend, seeing how much you care. I've been compelled to leave potentially crossing-a-line messages on barely-friends' pages in response to such situations too, so I felt like I really understood your struggle and discomfort about all this.

I hope your friend hears this and heeds your wise message! It was helpful to me too. I've been slowly coming to terms with the idea that 135 might be as low as my body is willing to go even though I can still see the areas that are less than trim. And so be it if that's part of my journey.



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NANNAMOM60 3/13/2011 6:33AM

    Thank you for caring so much. I have down this road so many times. This is my third attempt to lose the weight. This time I am with loving friends. I find that my Sundays are my reflection days. I am glad I waited to listen to your blog. I am ready to go on an adjusted journey. I hit the plateau and I am ready to go on.

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MARCYNA 3/12/2011 11:51AM

    John, I am totally into this. I am sometimes wondering why my body has stopped losing weight, no answer.
I am trying to adjust to reality. The man I loved will never look at me anymore and I will never get down to 48.
But I'm still trying to get down to 52 and to be as happy. This is the most honest comment I can give to you, even if it hurts...sorry for this SP friend hope she/he will find a way out. emoticon

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DIASTER 3/11/2011 6:38PM

  Oh my think your message hit a lot of us today, a lot to think about, again thank you

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LYNMEINDERS 3/11/2011 4:53PM

    Awesome...thankyou so very much....
I found this very inspiring to keep walking my walk and not be looking for it to be like someone elses....or for my results to be like someone else.....

Thankyou again....

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SNOWANGELDIVA 3/11/2011 3:07PM

    It's so true I get into that thinkign that i have to do somethign about it, now...no, YESTERDAY. Then I rebound abuse with binge, or emotional eating when it doesn't work instantaniously. It's great to get perspective. Anything worth having is worth working for.
Well said, "Walk your own journey."

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BRIGET66 3/11/2011 2:50PM

    Hey again there John!
I may not be the one you were referring to but it sure could have been me. It hit home, as soon as you started talking. And while I'm still new here, and while I just really started the fact that I stalled as soon as I joined really didn't please me too much. But I picked myself up, decided to start over and I've been doing better now that I got a little bit more serious, a bit more in control. But thanks for the words that tho they were directed at another seemed aimed today at me. You're a great motivator John!



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MINENA1 3/11/2011 2:22PM

    This was a wonderful message, John. GREAT GREAT blog!!!! emoticon

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GRACENFAITH 3/11/2011 1:04PM

    I don't know why, but all I can see is a 1. Looking at others comments I do know I will continue to keep you in my prayers. Have a blessed Friday afternoon:) I try to always keep in mind...one day at a time, sometimes one moment at at time, and always one prayer at a time.
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MYSTERYROSE74 3/11/2011 12:45PM

    Great vlog John! I used to slip into that mindset, of comparing myself to others. I know I'm not going to do a mile as fast as most people. The important thing is I DO the mile. If it takes me longer, so be it. I'm OK with that now. It took me a while, but I finally got it. emoticon

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KT-NICHOLS-13 3/11/2011 12:26PM

    "Walk your own journey" ... powerful message.

You're a good friend John. God Bless! KT

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ANEPANALIPTI 3/11/2011 11:44AM

    you are the wisest person i know.

i love the way you said that: when you panic, you lose touch with common sense and reality.

absolutely, that is what happens when I binge eat.

agree with you 100% on walk your own journey.. i compare myself only to myself and am so proud and happy for other people when they reach THEIR goals. you're right, we have OURS they have THEIRS.

when are we talking on skype!?!? you name the time/date.

you're so awesome.

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HDHAWK 3/11/2011 11:37AM

    I hope your friend can hang in there no matter how long it takes. I am learning to be more patient. I know I'll get results eventually if I keep following my plan. Yes, I want to be at goal yesterday, but most of the time my choices have made the trip longer. (PS your office is fine, but best not to argue). emoticon

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CHILDOFGOD4LIFE 3/11/2011 11:31AM

    Dear John, I want to thank you for your willingness to share your emotions with all of us on sparkpeople. You are a sparkfriend of mine, but I know that you and my good friend HONORINGGOD have shared much over the course of time.

Sitting here listening to you talk, I cannot only sympathize with you. I can empathize with you, also. I have had those same feelings this whole winter. I know we both know that we CAN and WILL get out of this rut. We have to, if we want to live.

John, I will be praying for you and ask you to pray for me. We do have a loving Father who IS on our side!! With Him at the helm, all things are possible!!!

Carol from Snow covered NE Ohio


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MADKAPKID 3/11/2011 11:26AM

    John, this is a very good blog. I understand just what you are saying. Your message is "right on" and I hope many people get to see this! Have a joy filled day, Karen

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FITB4-40 3/11/2011 11:24AM

    Your friend is lucky to have you and your message is one we can all benefit from hearing.

Thanks
~Christy

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 3/11/2011 11:15AM

    Amen John!

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What If..............

Tuesday, March 08, 2011

….I woke up this morning with the same expectation for my day that a child has on Christmas morning.

….I couldn’t wait to leave the house because I was so excited about the new people I was going to meet and the new things I was going to learn

….I smiled all the time

….I told people I was happy

….I began each day in awe and with profound and reverent recognition of my Creator and all He has done for me, all He has taught me and how very much He loves me.

….I stopped the first person I met this morning and in a very sincere manner told them something they had done, anything they had done, had meant something very important to me at a time in my life when I really needed it.

….The people in my life knew they really mattered because I told them so.

….I took the time to encourage a new Sparker, maybe through a comment of encouragement or support. Fifteen months ago, some very special people took the time to welcome me, check up on me and show they cared. It’s the reason I’m here.

….I didn’t worry what people thought about me, my ideas and my beliefs.

….I made a new friend today

….I stood my ground and didn’t bow to the pressure when someone offered me a box of Girl Scout cookies.

…. I did it with a smile and a “thank you.”

You probably could add to this list if you’d like. I’m going to go now. There is a whole great big world out there waiting for me to explore, enjoy and appreciate. Part of the reason is because you are in that world.

Be blessed this Tuesday.

  
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GIRANIMAL 3/11/2011 8:00PM

    What if John stopped sharing his insights big and small in his blog space?

His Spark Friends would be totally bummed!

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ELIZABETH525 3/11/2011 8:17AM

    If you did these things, your life would be alot less stressful. when you look at the positives in life rather than the negatives, you will always see more positives and the negatives won't seem so bad.

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DOLLBABE56 3/11/2011 7:13AM

    Wouldn't that be something .........

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MIBELLALUNA 3/10/2011 8:07PM

    That would be great wouldn't it? I backed myself into a corner on this issue. People tend to scare me sometimes! (as I probably do them! :)

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MARCYNA 3/10/2011 12:44PM

    Wow!!!!What a blessing to have met you, I always learn something encouraging and awesome emoticon

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DGILBRIDE1949 3/10/2011 11:43AM

    Good words to live by.......every day. Thanks! emoticon

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LINDAJ0621 3/10/2011 8:35AM

    I really like the message here. Sometimes, I need to be reminded that my attitude determines the outcome of my day.
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TRIPLE_EMME 3/9/2011 10:48AM

    What a GREAT list!

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NANNAMOM60 3/9/2011 6:12AM

    Good plan. I try to look at yesterday as in the books while today's page is in the works and tomorrow is yet to be written. What I learned yesterday and today helps write tommorrow's book. Have a blessed day.


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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/8/2011 10:19PM

    You know, this sounds like me on most days. I have a great life. I have it made. emoticon

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CARTOONB 3/8/2011 9:52PM

    That is a great list! Hmmmm....

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WIZINTN 3/8/2011 6:04PM

    Thanks, John.
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LYNMEINDERS 3/8/2011 5:32PM

    Awesome blog...love it....

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MKPRINCESS007 3/8/2011 5:10PM

    That's right, my friend! Live joyfully and wonderfully! :)

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ANEPANALIPTI 3/8/2011 4:56PM

    Beautiful. I hope its a great one for you John... I had some of these thoughts today...

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GOANNA2 3/8/2011 4:47PM

    I am smiling. Top of the morning to you too.
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BRIGET66 3/8/2011 4:33PM

    I love reading your blogs John! What a great spirit you have...what a great SPARK you have!!
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AZCUPCAKE 3/8/2011 3:00PM

    Thank you, John. I feel blessed every time I read your uplifting words and am renewed and inspired to KEEP GOING on this path that is sometimes just one weird journey! I will take a deep breath and look at all of the things that are beautiful on this sunny Tuesday! emoticon

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TERSIEFROG 3/8/2011 12:40PM

    this absolutely made me smile today! thank you for sharing and I hope many of your personal "what ifs" happen for you today ... and I will aim for some of the same because they're so beautiful! Have an amazing Tuesday!

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BROWNIE10181 3/8/2011 10:06AM

  John,
I almost did not click on this today. However I am so happy that I did. I wish we were neighbors so we could hang out and you could encourage me each and everyday. I will be checking in with you each and every day.

Again thank you,


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LINDAJ0621 3/8/2011 9:30AM

    Very uplifting message, John. Thank you for helping me to make this a beautiful day!

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JAE_HENNINGTON 3/8/2011 9:14AM

  yea John, I live my life everyday with the what if's

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MADKAPKID 3/8/2011 9:01AM

    Each day is an adventure waiting to happen. Enjoy it fully. Have a joy filled day, Karen emoticon

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LILIVW 3/8/2011 8:29AM

    Great reminders of the possibilities. I am going to make this a great day. Thanks!

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MISSROCKABILLY 3/8/2011 8:26AM

    Love this, John! Thanks so much for sharing this today, it is just what I needed to read this morning!
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MUSTANG_SALLY2 3/8/2011 8:14AM

    I am working on the attitude shift. I need to be more positive. Thanks for this reminder John!

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MSSUNBUG 3/8/2011 7:53AM

    What a beautiful blog, John. Thanks for a shift in attitude early in the day. Just what I needed. Blessings wished back to you, friend.

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STARLIGHT615 3/8/2011 7:52AM

    Great blog!

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Where's My Energy --- Looking At My Life

Monday, March 07, 2011

The scariest part of my day comes when I find myself with nothing to do. There is a blank space on the calendar, the phone doesn’t ring, and no one knocks on the door. There is no b log to write, no seminar to conduct, no client to assist. It is simply quiet and I am left looking at me. We’ve been taught, conditioned, use whatever word that suits you, that our worth and value are determined by how much activity goes on during the course of our day. “An idle mind is the devils work shop,” and all that other hubris. Words like “stressed” or “worn out” are used as labels to evaluate the pecking order in our world.

I have tried and failed many times in my life to manage my health. It always seems that one area or the other is lacking and I always feel slightly off center. A good friend blogged the other day about abusing food when she was tired. I had to raise my hand and join that group of people. When I put ten pounds of sugar in a five pound sack it usually means I run out of gas earlier in the day then I’d like and I don’t really care what goes in my mouth. Usually it’s something, quick, convenient and not in my own best interest. But, hey, I’m a busy guy!!! I have things to do. I have to go-go-go!!! Right?

I was at the gym the other morning when I had one of these “Ah-Ha Moments.” I was impatient. I needed to get going, get things done and the people using the equipment I needed were not cooperating with me at all. Suddenly, this little voice inside my head “Where are you in such a hurry to get to, John?” I’ll cut to the chase. The answer was nowhere. Oh, I had things to do that day, but I was hell-bent upon getting them all done in an hour. I was in a hurry and the more I hurried the more tense I became. It’s a vicious cycle most days. Being honest with myself means I have to look at how I manage my life, say good-bye to my excuses, and learn to manage my energy. It means I need to be okay with not being active and realize it is indeed a healthy practice and not some sign that I am some sort of slacker.

On top of being really good looking I also read minds. Some of you reading this are saying, “Yeah, but he doesn’t know what my life is like. He doesn’t know how really busy I am!!” I’ll issue a bit of a challenge then. Sit down with a piece of paper and ask yourself how much of your “busyness” is necessary and how much of it is created to keep you from really getting a handle on you? The first time I did it I crumpled up the paper, and threw it in the garbage. Everything I did was necessary!!!! Well, I’ll clue ya in on something. You can throw the paper away but you can’t throw the thought or intention away.

What I came to realize is I put all my worth and value in being active. If I couldn’t be liked or loved for looking good I’d be liked and loved for being a whirling dervish. I never saw that I was loved, respected and appreciated for who I was. I only learned it when I created time in my day for silence and balance and some days simply sitting and staring out my kitchen windows. I’m not suggesting you quit your job and abandon your family. I’m saying that when you look at those activities that keep you and me from looking at ourselves simply remove a few and use the time to improve yourself.

My favorite quote in the Bible goes something like this: “No person can serve two masters. They will love one and hate the other.” I can’t pursue a path to a healthier life as long as I leave room for unhealthy activity.

Have a great Monday.

  
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SILLYHP1953 3/18/2011 9:57PM

    I'm really enjoying reading all your blogs tonight, the ones since Feb 25th when I started getting behind. It's a nice ending to my evening. Thanks, again.

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WALKNLOVE 3/11/2011 7:05AM

    Especially loved the last part....TRUE, so very true. How is it I can do good all day & then at night blow it....and for what exactly? Continueing to struggle, but never giving up!

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MARCYNA 3/10/2011 12:50PM

    Busyness is one of my greatest obstacles as it is associated to feeling guilty for doing nothing, even if my energy levels are sometimes very low, Finding quiet time with myself is so comforting at times, thanks for reminding me.
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SMOCKON 3/10/2011 9:14AM

    I am bristling with resistance to this idea. That usually signals it's a good idea but I don't want to hear it because it means changing. Any suggestions for paring down the activity in my life?

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AZCUPCAKE 3/8/2011 3:02PM

    emoticon Wow. I am always amazed and inspired by your insights. You really know what makes people tick. Thank you for this!

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LOSNIT 3/8/2011 9:35AM

  Being mindful of the moments in life. Very good. Thanks.

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MSSUNBUG 3/8/2011 8:08AM

    This idea of slowing down resonates a lot with me right now. So much of this journey has to do with slowing down, with being patient, with allowing things to unfold in a timeline we don't get to decide. Fallow times are uncomfortable for me as well; and like you, I've always found them to be the biggest teacher. My worth is not measured by the things I do--but by the way I approach doing whatever thing I do, which is a much more delicate, difficult, nebulous (read: UNCOMFORTABLE) thing.

Anyway, this is one of the many reasons I took up a regular meditation practice--to learn what it feels like to just be, to allow things to pass over and through me without feeling I need to act on them. This blog was a great reminder of that.

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CARTOONB 3/7/2011 9:11PM

    Good point. I'll put it on my to-do list. emoticon

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JUNEAU2010 3/7/2011 8:53PM

    Great food for thought. I am still thinking...!

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GOANNA2 3/7/2011 4:18PM

    Great blog again John.
Reminds me when I was a lot younger and racing
to get all the housework done in one go and my
elderly neighbour told me" So what if my windows
don't get done, they'll still be there when I'm dead
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NANNAMOM60 3/7/2011 3:20PM

    Early morning around 4:45AM is time for myself. I go on line and visit with my Spark Friends

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/7/2011 1:42PM

    Great blog, John. I fight this concept on a daily basis. I'm really not all that busy any more but years of being one of the busiest people on the planet - when I worked 14 hours a day doing mobile trauma/Coronary Care/Intensive Care/ and Dialysis - wired my permanently adrenalin-infused brain to think I'm still busy. I always think I'm behind when really if I don't get something done no one notices. LOL. Old habits are hard to break.

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REJ7777 3/7/2011 1:35PM

    Another great blog to stimulate reflection! emoticon

I only learned to slow down after my heart attack. Before that, I was much too important and busy! Somehow, people at the office survived without me for several weeks. emoticon Now I work fewer hours, and I have time and energy left over to take care of my health. People have more realistic expectations of what I can do, and most of all, so do I. emoticon emoticon

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GEEMAWEST 3/7/2011 12:35PM

    Spot on, John! I have such a hard time just being still. I always feel like I need to be doing something, that the world will pass me by if I don't get 'things' done.

In fact, as soon as I woke up this morning I started stressing out because I couldn't figure out how I was going to get everything done today that I need to do.

Thanks for some great words of wisdom. You really gave me something to thing about. Darn you, I really don't have time for this. LOL

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SHELLYFOX 3/7/2011 11:46AM

    I really identify with the subject of your blog. Very good, and thought provoking!

PS: I'm one that abuses food when I'm tired, especially in the evenings...I'm training myself to just go to bed! :~)

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MADKAPKID 3/7/2011 10:51AM

    Happy Monday John. Your blog gives me much to think about today. Thank you and have a joy filled day, Karen

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LESA2.0 3/7/2011 10:20AM

    You are so right about how society values worth. I was always looked upon as being the "lazy" one in my family growing up because I liked to daydream and read and do other physically sedentary activities. My mind was (and is) always busy, though. I've always worked hard when I'm at school or at work, but I will never be one of those perpetually busy and over-scheduled people. I like to spend time just staring out the window and thinking. Taking the time to just be still and in the moment is very important. Thanks for your thoughtful blog.

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JUDIL62 3/7/2011 10:18AM

    so true!

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WANDAH3 3/7/2011 9:37AM

    Have a lovely "Mindful Monday" John. Thank you for the awesome blog. Great words to reflect upon.

Hugs,
Wanda

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GREENCAT1 3/7/2011 9:37AM

    I have made these same observations about myself. It feels easier to be crazy busy that too face the feelings that come up during stillness.


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HDHAWK 3/7/2011 9:30AM

    Are you sure you aren't my long lost twin brother. I feel the same way! If I'm not busy every second that's when I usually turn to food. I don't know what to do with down time.

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JEANETTEY1 3/7/2011 8:47AM

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NJMATTICE 3/7/2011 8:34AM

    Happy Monday to you too, John. Thanks for the thoughtful reflection.
Love,
Nancy

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DOLLBABE56 3/7/2011 8:34AM

    Very true John. It's easy to fall into the "too busy" trap. I've been experiencing this a lot lately. Good advice.

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Me and My Scale or Honesty Part Two

Friday, March 04, 2011

Availible on youtube @
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NN54Figt5
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MSSUNBUG 3/8/2011 8:01AM

    I've had a roller coaster relationship with the scale myself! You're right--it's a report card, but it's also a bit fickle. It takes so little to throw it off! I found that a month-to-month (rather than week-to-week) report was fine for me--and kept me "honest" for the month.

My "issue" with the scale is that my reliance on it interfered with my ability to tune in to my body and that inner voice which is WELL AWARE of how well or not well I'm doing with my eating and exercise. Using it as a tool, a teacher, as information is a good thing--but for me, not at the expense of honoring and HEARING that voice that knows you've done right (no matter whether the scale agrees or not).



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BRIGET66 3/7/2011 6:26PM

    Well John...I had to laugh when I listened to your blog because the same thing happened to me. I don't know how many times I (like you) thought I was doing Amazingly, eating well, exercising more days than I didn't only to hop on the scale and find out I'd GAINED 2 lbs. Or the opposite, I'd fall of the wagon so to speak, eat WAY over my calories "allowed", veg in front of the t.v. and LOSE 3 lbs! (And more than once I might add!) Since joining Spark People I've actually gained 6 lbs! I started off doing really really good, had that motivation...worked out, tried to keep under the calories allowed for the day. Then I kinda slacked for 3 days, ate too much and didn't get in any workouts. Right now, the scale is NOT my friend!! But it's okay...this time I'm not giving up, I'm just gonna accept that I'm gonna mess up once in a while. take it one day at a time and keep on reading all these wonderful posts.
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VICKI-N-FLA 3/6/2011 6:22PM

    I really liked what you had to say and I think I'm going to adopt the idea of treating the scale like a report card. Your blog really got me to thinking so thank you for that. emoticon

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LINDAJ0621 3/6/2011 2:58PM

    Well, that explains it! I was always an over-achiever in school..worked hard for those A's! Now, I know the scale is my report card, maybe that will motivate me to earn those A's again. Thanks!

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DOLLIE6 3/6/2011 12:27PM

    Thanks John for being there.

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AKATUJE 3/5/2011 5:08AM

    emoticon for yet another great blog!!! My scale and i have had a love hate relationship, but of late i have realized that it really gives me feedback on what i am doing. It really is my report card on this journey!!! These days i treat it with respect, after all, it is only telling me whether what i have been up to is beneficial for my journey or not.

But i gatta say, i love the "last minute" results!!! And that is probably the reason i am not yet at goal.

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BETHSTL 3/4/2011 9:38PM

    Hi John! Love the Bluegrass music :)

That's a great idea to think about your scale being your report card. Never thought of it that way. Thanks for sharing your ideas with us!

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SNOWANGELDIVA 3/4/2011 9:28PM

    I LOVE banjos!...Blue Grass, hard to dance to, but, luv its energy.

You have a radio announcer/teacher voice; clear, rich, and easy to follow ...vlogging works on you!

Scale=Report Card...this works for me too.
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REJ7777 3/4/2011 7:23PM

    I find that my scale is a tool that gives me valuable feedback, just like my pedometer. emoticon

Have a great weekend!

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WOULDBESLIM 3/4/2011 6:07PM

  Hi

Well thank you for your honesty in sharing this. When I get on my scales and notice what is happening, I have taken to using three questions which hopefully make a positive difference to my goals.

1. What did I do well ?
2. What could I have done better?
3. What is one small thing that next week I can do differently which will most help?

Keep on keeping on - the rest of us and with you in this

best wishes

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KELLY40222 3/4/2011 10:23AM

    Happy Friday John! I tend to think of my scale as more of a parole officer. If I slip up I make sure to get right back on track, since I have to report in to the officer!

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JUDIL62 3/4/2011 10:18AM

    Thank you John. I posted a blog response to your blog....check it out:

http://www.sparkpeople.
com/mypage_public_journal_indiv
idual.asp?blog_id=4065671

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EMTFF376 3/4/2011 9:14AM

    Hi John!

Thanks for the video blog.

I used to use the scale as a diagnostic tool, then decided to go to the "clothes fit" method once I got to my goal and was exercising on a very regular basis. I used to tell people, don't worry about the number. Well, at this stage in my game, that number matters. It is a good measuring stick, but it shouldn't rule your life. I have to remember that when I gain muscle, I gain weight and that's okay.

Have a great Friday and weekend!
Big hugs from your WV pal,
Janette


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