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An Ode (Sorta) To February

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

I owe February an apology. I will admit that for the longest time I have hated and despised her. She is mostly cold, gray and uncaring. She offers little sunshine and no solace. The one day she does offer a sliver of hope is designed around binging on sugar!!! I do not like her. January always brings hope. Itís a new year, a new me, a new chance to set right all the past wrongs and to emerge on the other side tall and victorious. February reminds me that usually by its second week I have forgotten all the joy and enthusiasm of January and nudges me into some sort of mild depression.

February deceives me. She tells me that soon will come March and April and May and if I just hang on my mood and my activity level and my weight will all move towards some positive and livable place. At my most positive, February is simply a month to hang on.

No, we are not going to hold hands and leap off a bridge. As I said, I owe her an apology.

I had a really crummy morning meditation. I could not focus and I could not feel anything very positive towards my day except a lot of dull, negative feelings that ended up in me feeling like I wanted to throw my hands up in the air and just say the heck with it. (My invective there would have been much stronger but this being a family web site and allÖ..) A friend of mine calls them mental monkeys. They are the crazy little thoughts that hop around your head like the monkeys swinging on the ropes at the zoo and keep you from concentrating on your thought and goals. Someone must have forgotten to feed them last night.

I ended my meditation with a sardonic ďGee that really helped.Ē I walked upstairs to cook breakfast and I looked out the kitchen window. Thatís when I discovered the value February had for me. She places all that dullness, grayness and inability to get terribly enthused about anything in front of me as a challenge. She dares me to keep moving forward and to do the things that I know are effective and the things that work well for me. They are the things that will make and keep me healthy. No matter how much I feel like giving in, February chides me, pushes me an d sticks her tongue out at me to dare me to do otherwise.
So I will head to the gym. I will eat within my calorie levels today and I will take time for myself to uncover and deal with the negative swirl thatís inside my head. I wonít do it joyfully; I will not declare triumph or pat myself on the back. It is routine and many days of routine are well worth the long term success I will feel as I move ever closer to my goals.

Thank you February. I forgive you.

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GIRANIMAL 2/22/2011 10:47PM

    Wow, if you can forgive February, so should I! It would be a lot easier if she would hurry the heck up, though. emoticon

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CARTOONB 2/22/2011 10:41PM

    At least she is the shortest month!

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JUNEAU2010 2/22/2011 9:47PM

    My dad died in February 6 years ago. Even with that life changing event, I refuse to allow a day, a month or weather govern my day. The opportunity to be alive, to experience the day, good or bad or even indifferent, is worth more than being six feet under.

There are other things that derail me mentally and emotionally, but weather is not one of them. Disclaimer, as they say, I am in northern California. (But I have lived in parts of the US that do have 4 distinct seasons, so I am not without experience with high heat in summer and ice/snow/rain for months on end in winter.)

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REJ7777 2/22/2011 9:27PM

    Your blog sure reflects how I feel about February! And yet, you're right that it's a good place to work our "commitment" muscles. February will NOT defeat us! And if we can beat February, think of what we can do during the rest of the year!

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ANEPANALIPTI 2/22/2011 4:03PM

    emoticon loved it through and through. i love the way you renew your commitment every day.

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MARCYNA 2/22/2011 2:24PM

    Your feeling about February are quite interesting, curiously you call it 'her', as if it were a woman......
Anyway I was born in February and I have always liked this month- yes, it's a challenge. If you survive February, you can survive everything. Even a dull, grey morning can be a challenge for you, embrace it emoticon

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BECCALYNN75 2/22/2011 12:11PM

    I have a similar feeling about February, but to remind myself it gets better I like the song the Rose. Especially this last verse:

Just remember, in the winter
Far beneath the bitter snows
Lies the seed, that with the sun's love
In the spring, becomes the rose

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LUCYSRAIN 2/22/2011 11:19AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Triumph over tribulation!

We just keep walking the walk, moving forward to nicer days..

Great Blog John

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COOP9002 2/22/2011 10:57AM

    Oh the challenges of staying on track. Thanks for sharing.

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MSSUNBUG 2/22/2011 10:02AM


You said: " No matter how much I feel like giving in, February chides me, pushes me and sticks her tongue out at me to dare me to do otherwise." I needed this perspective today.

I've long said that while it's the shortest month of the year, Feb always feels like the longest. It is cold, unforgiving, bitter, and quiet. It has always been, for me much like you, a month to survive or get through. This year has been a little different, mostly because I was prepared and ready to MAKE it different than in years past. I like this idea of the month as a challenge though, as a sort of "hard-a$$ed" trainer, determined to help me push past my limits.

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SILLYHP1953 2/22/2011 9:58AM

    I had those same monkeys jumping around this morning, too! Also had the same feelings about February!! You expressed my feelings much better, and she does need an apology. I think we're supposed to be hibernating in February!!

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GEEMAWEST 2/22/2011 9:46AM

    "Mental Monkey's" - I love that! It describes those crazy negative thoughts so well.

I'm glad you can forgive February, I'm not quite there yet.

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HDHAWK 2/22/2011 9:37AM

    What a great blog! You really captured the month. I do have a birthday in February, but even those aren't that exciting at my age. emoticon

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MKPRINCESS007 2/22/2011 9:06AM

    I am not a fan of February either........thank goodness it is a short month! lol

Other than that, well, sometimes it isn't sunshine and roses. We have those negative thoughts and they want to swirl and dance, no matter what we do. On those days, I focus on the simple and mundane. How great my coffee tastes. I fake a smile to someone I am close to, and they smile back and then I feel a real smile come. I pet my goofy dog.

Take each moment at a will turn around.

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CICI510 2/22/2011 8:33AM

    Awesome blog and true on so many levels!

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Moving Forward

Monday, February 21, 2011

I have learned a lot in the past year or so and not all of it has to do with calories, exercise and weight loss. In my pre-Spark days the slightest set back would have given me justification to hole up with an array of bad foods and allow them to soothe my damaged ego. That doesnít happen anymore. I still have set backs, and misperceptions about this journey abound. I stopped counting how many times a day I get discouraged and just want to delete my account, but I donít. I donít give up. I consciously put one foot in front of the other and lift my head up and continue to do the things that have brought me success in the past. I smile because I know all of the icky sticky stuff that I have to deal with is just one more thing that helps me learn a bit more about being healthy.

I spent over eighteen hours in the car between early Friday morning and yesterday afternoon. I was and still am worn out. In a few minutes I have to leave to do some training and the rest of my week is just as full as today is. I didnít really get a chance to have fun at my momís surprise birthday party. I was too tired. It was good to see everyone, there was no real drama. I never got a chance to relax.

The inevitable occurred late Friday night and early Saturday morning. Any time I do not get enough rest or try to cram ten pounds of sugar in a five pound sack I have a massive anxiety attack. I woke up around midnight with that nasty little voice inside of me going ďWeíre Baaaaaaack!!Ē That little voice speaks for every fear, failure and set back I have ever had in my life or believe I am ever going to have in my life. Itís followed by the kind of sleep you have when you are exhausted. You wake up feeling whipped.

It was a bad weekend. Every time I turned around there was a carb or bag of sugar staring at me. In the ideal world I would have stuck my hand out and refused while munching on a carrot or two. I didnít gorge myself but I didnít really track what I ate either. I wish I had a week to recover from the last two days.

Iím not writing this to garner sympathy or even support. Iím writing this because if you are reading it you experience similar things. What I have learned is to keep moving forward no matter how strong the wind is blowing in your face. Donít give up!!! Donít ever give up. There are all kinds of setbacks and even massive failures but I have learned they make the victories that much sweeter to savor. There are a million success stories and as add executives are want to do they publish only the high lights of someoneís journey, the ďinspirational stuff.Ē Who wants to read about hard work and suffering?

Simply put you and I are heroes. We get out of bed every day, throw a plea towards the heavens and begin our lives. We deal with things on a daily basis that test our courage and resolve. What I have learned is to put one foot in front of the other and move forward.

There are no massive victories just small painful ones and I am learning that if I need to be inspired all I need to do is to go look in the mirror. A good week isnít when I lose five pounds; itís when I lose four ounces and get up the next day ready to start over and move one step closer towards my goals.

Yeah, it was a bad weekend, but I turn the page this morning, I move forward. Would you like to join me?

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JHOWARD14 3/7/2011 8:07AM

    You are such an inspirational blogger. I too would be set back and would burrow in to my hole away from my skinny friends and pretend like I wasn't ever trying. To understand that every day is a struggle can seem overwhelming..but to see that every day is a struggle that we make it through and succeed in is so much more inspiring. Its hard to remember during the day to day that little battles matter more than the one big goal that I have set in front of myself. Those little battles are what would have put me on the sideline earlier so each and every one I pass is like a great win for me. Thanks so much for the reminder..reading this was a great start to my week!

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MISTYLEE410 2/27/2011 4:35PM

    Thank you for this blog!! I really needed to read this and reset my own mind to start each day fresh!! Thanks again for another fantastic blog!!

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UNLIKELY 2/25/2011 9:23AM

  Currently I have the food setback everyday. I'm working on it though!

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GIRANIMAL 2/22/2011 10:43PM

    I'm joining!

I had an abysmal week of workouts and then a so-so weekend with food. But today I am back at it, and everything's all good.

You are indeed a hero for the HUGE change that is relaxing a little, giving into a cookie or three, but not eating the whole darn bag. That's the kind of progress that counts!

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MSSUNBUG 2/22/2011 9:54AM

    Struggle happened all the way down the scale for me and continues to happen now as I work towards balance and maintenance. Making peace with it and rebounding from it are the best things you can do! No muscle needs more strength and training than the rebound muscle. :-)

I love this idea of being your own inspiration, of being your own hero. What a beautiful way to think of it.

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DOLLBABE56 2/22/2011 7:38AM

    Hey John, we are all human. Yes, even me (believe it or not). It may take a double take in the mirror sometimes, but I know that my friends help me to keep going. I visit the old mirror often only to find I'm not seeing anything, but if I look long enough I do inevitably see the progress I've made - be it ever so small.

Good blog buddy.

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ANEPANALIPTI 2/22/2011 7:12AM

    I am in!!

Love you John,


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DGILBRIDE1949 2/22/2011 6:54AM

    Good points brought up, John.
These little voices inside our heads (ego) are never going to let us rest; they will not go away.
Every day we have choices. At the grocery store we face our biggest challenge, social events are another. It's all about food, and that's why we are here at SP.
When we start to feel guilty about what we eat, then we start to heal ourselves. We can tell those little voices to go away because we have a voice too.
You are doing fine.

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WALKNLOVE 2/22/2011 6:27AM

    I am with you!!!!!! :)

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GETFIT2LIVE 2/22/2011 12:43AM

    It's one day at a time, one step at a time, sometimes even one hour or one minute at a time. We face days where everything goes great and we're on top of the world, but more often than not we're down in the trenches, slogging it out without seeing the progress we so wish for. You are one of my heroes here, John; you share both your victories and your struggles, and that helps us know we are not alone. Somehow that knowledge gives us what we need to keep moving forward, no matter how slowly.

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GEEMAWEST 2/22/2011 12:20AM

    I'm right there with you!! Please don't leave me behind!

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TRACEY5280 2/21/2011 10:13PM

    Isn't it something that just when you think "the heck with it" you read something like your blog and it's so very timely. The weight keeps inching back up but, you're right, this time it is different and I refuse to quit. It's just frustrating that it still seems like a diet rather than a lifestyle change. That hasn't quite clicked, but it will. Thank you for your consistency in sharing. It helps.

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HDHAWK 2/21/2011 7:47PM

    I'm in! I had a similar weekend after a stellar week and had to fight the "I blew it" thoughts running through my head. Here we go!

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CARTOONB 2/21/2011 6:07PM

    Let's go!

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TRIPLE_EMME 2/21/2011 4:58PM

    I'm glad that you are continuing to move forward.

Me, too!

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    We are winners because we don't give up. Winning is often hard. There are rough patches like this weekend. I spend a lot of time in rough patches but I won't give up either. We are in this for the long haul.

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MARCYNA 2/21/2011 2:48PM

    It really challenges me all the time,,,,I was thinking, it's so hard for me not to go back to sugary food to solve my emotional states...but this is my fight.
Maybe other people have different weaknesses . Will we ever win?????
Together WE CAN emoticon

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NJMATTICE 2/21/2011 2:30PM

    Happy Monday, John!

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REJ7777 2/21/2011 2:01PM

    Yes, I will join you! One step in front of the other all the way to goal, and maintenance after that. emoticon As you wrote, what's different about this time is that we're not giving up! emoticon emoticon

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REJ7777 2/21/2011 2:01PM

    Oops! double post. emoticon

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 2/21/2011 1:31PM

    One of the reasons I love to read your blog is because you talk about things I struggle with too and it's nice to know you are out there. I'm proud of you John.

I'm glad you went to see your family but it sounds like it's the same kind of visit I get when I go to seem my family of origin. Busy, tiring, stressful and tempting. I'm glad you made it thru and hope that you can rest around all the busy scheduled things this week.

Don't forget to take care of yourself.

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HLPRATT 2/21/2011 11:23AM

    Something about going home can really bring out alot of issues. Since sparking I've noticed that my family constantly puts food in their mouths- and so do I when I'm home. Also something about my husband being at home with me ratchets up my anxiety.

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SMOCKON 2/21/2011 11:05AM

    If we work hard, we still MIGHT not lose weight by next month. If we don't do anything at all, it's CERTAIN that we will be in the same shape next month, right?

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AZCUPCAKE 2/21/2011 10:38AM

    You don't have to even ask, John! Some days when the going gets tough, I have to tie myself down to a wooden chair to keep from going to the store and drowning my sorrows in a 5-lb. bag of Skittles. The small battles are sometimes the hardest won, and you are right: Just keep walking FORWARD. If that means a few steps backwards now and then, we are still going towards the light, not away from it! Hope you have a successful, satisfying week - thank you for your words of encouragement and wisdom. emoticon

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MKPRINCESS007 2/21/2011 10:38AM

    I can't believe you said the D word! Don't you dare, man! We will hunt you down! :)

That business out of the way, yes, I am with you. Because if you knew how many times I fall down and get back up again, you might be shocked. Lately, it has been alot. I did my little "hide from spark and live in denial". It didn't do a darn thing. So, weather is breaking and I am back to walking. I am getting a dance game for Xbox. I am going to start kettlebells. Eating...I am striving for 80/20. We gotta live, John. We only have one go around. You might as well be happy.


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LUCYSRAIN 2/21/2011 9:33AM

    Excellent John!

And it's the beginning of a brand new week emoticon

There's something you wrote that really impacted me....

"A good week isn't when I loose 5 pounds; it's when I loose 4 ounces and get up the next day ready to start over and move one step closer to my goals"

May have to post that on my bathroom mirror emoticon

Have a Great Day!

Debbie emoticon

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EMTFF376 2/21/2011 9:20AM

    I need to turn the page too. I'm glad we're doing it together, John.

Big hugs on this dreary Monday morning,

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SILLYHP1953 2/21/2011 9:08AM

    I do keep trying...usually I think that isn't such a big deal because I'm not seeing much success. But after reading your blog you've helped me see that to keep trying is a kind of success in itself.

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WATERMELLEN 2/21/2011 8:41AM

    Yes, I'm joining you.

And -- don't you be deleting your account without notice, OK? We would miss you. Too much.

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CINDYLUFUS 2/21/2011 8:11AM

    Thank you for your honest approach....I so relate to this. Nothing about this journey is easy, and no one ever said it would be. But God is always faithful, He will never fail you!

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GREENCAT1 2/21/2011 7:59AM

    I would like to join you! I feel successful when I keep going after GAINING 4 ounces! It is hard when THOSE weekends happen and getting on the scale is such an act of courage. Have a good week!

Cathy emoticon

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An Admission

Thursday, February 17, 2011

I have to admit something to you and I hope it doesnt change the way you feel about me, but if it does, well so be it.

I cant get in to tofu. I cant. It has no taste. Please oh please do not tell me to bake, broil barbecue or stir fry it with every imaginable fruit and vegetable God created. It has no taste and it reminds me of the times in high school when I would be the unlucky kid to get the carton of milk that got all cheesy. I cannot climb on the tofu bandwagon.

I love veggies and fruit and fish and chicken. I had to give up turkey because as I approach the middle of middle age turkey produces an effect on me that causes Joan to go sleep on the couch and mutter things that arent repeatable here on a family web site. Gobble, gobble.

I'm sure there are people who cant get in to egg plant or brussel sprouts or some other food. I stand arm and arm with them and respect their right to lift their nose in mild disdain when it passes over their plate. Just allow me the right to not want to become intimate with something I cant barely stand to look at. Do not judge me!!!

There I feel better.

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GIRANIMAL 2/22/2011 10:38PM

    Yeaaaaah, I have to say, I have had very few experiences with tofu that I have actually enjoyed. I don't exactly hate it -- but I DETEST celery! Vile, awful plant. I can detect it anything and pick the tiniest pieces out of everything. And the BF? Eggplant. See? You're not alone!

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MSSUNBUG 2/22/2011 9:49AM

    This made me chuckle. :-) There are foods I just can't get on board with too. Tofu is NOT one of them. I'm a firm believer that it's worth honoring those senses with food and not forcing. Some of the foods that I can't get on board with turn out to aggrevate certain medical issues I have or have had--and if/when those medical issues aren't, well, an issue, the food no longer becomes intolerable. I think these bodies know a lot and use those cravings to give us powerful messages!

So I say lay off the tofu--with pride and vigor! :-)

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CHRISTURTLE 2/21/2011 3:30PM

    Please, please, please, can I have everyone who doesn't like tofu's shares? I absolutely love the stuff, can't get enough. I'm willing to share all the meat I don't eat in exchange for tofu, ok?

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AZCUPCAKE 2/21/2011 10:34AM

    How could I judge YOU about the same food that gives ME the heebie-jeebies??! You made me laugh out loud with this blog of yours! Everyone I know tells me that tofu takes on the flavor of whatever it is cooked/served with - BALONEY! And speaking of that, I don't much like baloney, either.... emoticon

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ACIMPEGGY 2/18/2011 8:54PM

    Funny, John!!! Great blog!

There are foods like this for 'all' of us!

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SILLYHP1953 2/18/2011 4:49PM

    I'm in the band wagon with you...I've only even tried it one time, though....

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DOLLBABE56 2/18/2011 7:19AM

    No worries... not a big fan either. But then again, I haven't tried it often. And now I'm not even supposed to eat it. oh. darn. {hugs}

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STEELKICKIN 2/17/2011 11:35PM

    What about coating it in chocolate??

Okay. I can't be your friend anymore. Sheesh!!!!

(Just kidding! I can't stand the stuff either!)

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REJ7777 2/17/2011 11:32PM

    emoticon As if not liking tofu could change the way people feel about you. emoticon I DO like tofu, does that change the way you feel about ME? emoticon

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CARTOONB 2/17/2011 10:36PM

    Don't knock it til you've tried it. If you've tried it, knock it all you want! I still love you John, despite your tofu aversion.

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JUNEAU2010 2/17/2011 8:29PM

    I can eat it, but not every day. My will-not-touch food is liver

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BRYLIA 2/17/2011 6:02PM

    Haha I am so with you on this one...Not a fan of Tofu myself.

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HDHAWK 2/17/2011 5:51PM

    We still love you John! I can't stand the stuff either and I've tried!

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MKPRINCESS007 2/17/2011 4:26PM

    This chick luvs and respects matter what food you hate. I think we should start a team "Anti-Tofu", because I HATE it as well.LOL ( or am I?) NO, seriously, just kidding.

Life is too short to eat something you hate. :)

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GETFIT2LIVE 2/17/2011 12:53PM

    LOL! There are worse things in life to have to admit to. I can't say it's one of my favorite thing to eat, but I can tolerate it in things like, oh, miso soup when I'm eating out. You are not likely to find it in my fridge, though--never have been brave enough to try cooking with it! And yes, I do still love you, John!

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REBECCAMA 2/17/2011 12:01PM

  I hate tofu, Brussels sprouts, and eggplant. I don't think getting healthy means you have to like those things. :-)

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IMJUSTDUCKIE 2/17/2011 10:53AM


LMAO!!! I won't even try it, so you get TONS of KUDDOS from me for even attempting find more than one way to like it. :)

P.s. Please add TURNIPS to you list of veggis of distain...

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GEEMAWEST 2/17/2011 10:31AM

    I still love and respect you, John. emoticon

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ANEPANALIPTI 2/17/2011 10:29AM

    I'm going to say it's all about the marinade!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!! :-D (and making sure you press it for long enough to get all the water out)

Also, do you like pad thai? MMMMMMMMMMMMM.

LOL you're too funny, I loved your admission.

emoticon still love you even though you don't like tofu. :P


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MARCYNA 2/17/2011 10:05AM

    How could I???I can't stand liver and abandoned WW as they wanted me to eat it, how disgusting.
Can you use cottage cheese or 0% greek yogurt instead of tofu???
Funny blog, thanks emoticon

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CINDYLUFUS 2/17/2011 9:43AM

    I am with you on the tofu.....the texture and blah taste...UGH! I was at a restaurant for Valentine's day and the parents were trying to pass off to a 3 year old that his bowl of tofu was "cheese". Poor little guy had the WORST look on his face! He refused to eat it....had more fun playing in it and squishing it between his fingers!

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GOANNA2 2/17/2011 9:27AM

    I used to use it but since I have read it is no good for
hypothyroids, I don't eat it anymore.

I used to marinate it in sweet chili sauce and tasted pretty good.

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EMTFF376 2/17/2011 8:53AM

    I can't really either... I am a texture person and it reminds me of tasteless scrambled eggs. BLEH.

Have a great Thursday, John!

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Thinking, Feeling, Believing

Wednesday, February 16, 2011


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HDHAWK 2/18/2011 9:42PM

    Believing is the hardest part. I see those "other" people transforming their bodies, but do I really believe I can be like those "other" people and reach my goals? I'm trying hard to get there. Thank you!

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LADYBIRD82 2/18/2011 2:10PM

    This was a great blog. I love when I get something out of a blog, and with this one I really took something home. Thank you. emoticon

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WISEONE68 2/18/2011 9:24AM

    This made me wonder WHY we try so hard to hide the God-given feelings that we have.
God gave us feelings for we could feel happy and praise Him; so we could mourn and seek comfort from Him; so we could love each other and have a picture of heaven on earth.
But, in our fallen, broken world, we have turned all this around to "thinking" because WE think we know better than God.

I feel that you have brought up a great point, and I thank you that you had the heart to share it with us!!

thanks, Friend. You ROCK!! emoticon

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DOLLBABE56 2/18/2011 9:13AM

    Spot on! As I listened to this blog, I tried "believing" instead of "feeling". Different mindset got different results. You are so right - believing is empowerment.

Good blog John!

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JUST2SWEET 2/17/2011 1:44PM

    Thanks for sharing!

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ANEPANALIPTI 2/17/2011 10:30AM

    JUST. WOW.

GOSH! All your vlogs should go on DVD and all your blogs on audio tape.


but seriously, thank you for sharing your wisdom with us, emoticon



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EMTFF376 2/17/2011 9:05AM

    I loved your last comment. It made me laugh out loud!

Thank you, as always, for sharing your life with me, John. It makes me feel like "I'm not the only one"... lots of times. It is comforting.

Big hugs,

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SILLYHP1953 2/16/2011 8:58PM

    I never in a million years thought I'd meet people like you when I joined up to lose some weight. I'm in a state of amazement every day on here. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and journey.

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 2/16/2011 7:36PM

    Wow! This really gives me something to think about. Thanks John!

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GIRANIMAL 2/16/2011 5:57PM

    Hmmmm...I'm really gonna have to chew on this one! So far, here's where I'm at: I always thought The Little Engine That Could was just a little off the mark! And how do I know? "I think I can" is a punchy battle cry I can easily get behind. But "I believe I can" --whoa. That makes me squirm with unease. And that's usually calling my attention to something for good reason.

Oh, looky that. I got to that by feeling it out, not thinking it out. emoticon

Another great one, John! Thanks as always for sharing your insight and making it a little easier for the rest of us to uncover those little nuggets of wisdom for ourselves.

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JPRICE217 2/16/2011 4:41PM

    Thank you John a eye opener as always

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GOANNA2 2/16/2011 4:03PM

    Thanks John, I needed to hear that this morning.
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REJ7777 2/16/2011 1:50PM

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MARCYNA 2/16/2011 12:48PM

    Hi John, I like your dark blue polo shirt, sorry if I start my comments aying something so silly. Second thing I want you to know, I was feeling totally disppointed with myself today i.e. seeing myself as a failure....and I guess your blog is helping me out of these self-destructive feelings.
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GETFIT2LIVE 2/16/2011 9:02AM

    Well said, John.

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From Point A to Point B

Monday, February 14, 2011

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BLESSEDWIFEMOM 2/17/2011 11:08AM

    You are wonderful!! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.

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GIRANIMAL 2/16/2011 5:42PM

    Synchronicity indeed! I know that exactly what I need is to slow down and rediscover the journey, but I find it nearly impossible to practice. Some days it's even like I've forgotten how. But when I really stop to think about it, what is my Point B? A size 6? Better fitness? Divorcing my scale and nutrition tracker? What do those even mean, really, in the grand ol' scheme of life?! Those are just goals.

They should mean I am healthier and more whole, for I can enjoy the journey. A-ha.

I sure wish I could just borrow your little voice -- it's so darn wise! emoticon

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MINENA1 2/16/2011 12:09PM

    LOVED it!! Thank you!!!

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USFBULL 2/15/2011 11:35PM

    Guess I'm not the only one reflecting today,
Good to have destinations so we can appreciate the journey. Spark friend emoticon

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CARTOONB 2/15/2011 11:17PM

    Hmmmm...enjoy the journey. I don't know if I can. I'll try...but I really like checking off my boxes.

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SILLYHP1953 2/15/2011 9:31PM

    Alright, I'm ready to slow down and smell those roses.
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GOANNA2 2/14/2011 4:15PM

    Great blog. emoticon
I hope you and Joan have a great Valentine's Day.

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RICKEYEA 2/14/2011 12:08PM

    This is an awesome post! I used to say to myself "life is a journey not a destination" and one day I stopped. This post brings me back to that quote and my past journey. When thinking about this weight loss journey I often get caught up with the end result, opposed to all of the living I should be doing throughout the process. I forgot or maybe I never realized that the process is supposed to be the best part! emoticon

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GEEMAWEST 2/14/2011 11:35AM

    This is such a perfect blog for me. I am a point A to point B kind of person, too. I often make lists of things that I need to do during the day just so I can check them off. DH on the other hand is a 'fly by the seat of his pants' kind of guy. Sometimes it can make me crazy but then on the other hand I know I make him crazy because I can be so stuck in my ways.

My goal today is to enjoy the day and just be in the moment. Grandkids are here, could be interesting. LOL

Thanks John!

Love, Cheryl

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EMTFF376 2/14/2011 9:41AM

    Funny, instead of "looking at the scrapbook", my husband and I have our pictures scrolling through our screensavers on our laptops. We will watch them together and tell each other stories of our lives prior to meeting each other.

He tells me about Desert Storm and Iraqi Freedom... working for TV news and now the hospital. I tell him about hiking through Yosemite on the John Muir Trail, rock climbing at Coopers or whatever else pops onto the screen.

Then pictures of us pop up and we'll laugh or smile and not have to say a word. :)

We've only been married a little over 7 months... we still have a lot of memories to make.

I love the journey and all the facets about it.

Have a great Monday, John.

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ANEPANALIPTI 2/14/2011 9:25AM

    I agree about the in sync thing!!!!!!!! Sorry about the cold and dark.... :-( Doesn't exist in Greece, lol. But metaphorically I completely and totally get what you're saying.

YOURE EXACTLY RIGHT!!! OMG WOW- that IS what we remember...... the stuff on the way, gosh john, how you have affected me a million ways!

This really really struck me. I hear things a hundred times but they CLICK for me when you say them the way you say them!!!


I hope you and Joan have a WONDERFUL Valentine's day!!!


ps. what date is your birthday? Pisces?

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