Friday, February 12, 2010
I ran into my friend Angus at the grocery last night. We hadn't talked in close to six months. Angus is the youth minister at one of our local churches and the most unassuming down to earth ministers I have ever met. (That's a lot for a Catholic to say about a Southern Baptist, trust me!!) A few years back Angus was going to leave our city because he had received an offer to become a youth minister at a larger church in another state. He had accepted the offer. A week before he and his family were supposed to depart he took three of his four children camping with some close friends. His wife and his daughter remained home to pack. On Saturday evening his wife went to bed and never woke up. They were high school sweethearts. Like everyone who knew him I went to the funeral and said "all the right stuff." The place was packed.
I didnt see Angus again for a few months. When you dont know what to say you tend to avoid people and they avoid you and then you both avoid being awkward. I do recall what he said to me, though. He told me he was grateful for all the support during and immediately after the funeral. He wished some of those people were still in touch. He told me then, that it was "now" that he needed friends when everything seemed so gray and he felt so alone.
I thought of Angus this morning or rather his situation. I "huddled" with some of my Spark Teams and happened to read the blog of a person who had, well they had given up. Tired of exercising, tired of being a slave to the scale, just plain old tired and would rather be obese, because at least they could get some peace. The person felt guilty because they had just given up and was really looking for some support, someone in their gray day to rally around them and say "Hang in there, we are all with you."
Before today I didnt know this person from Adam. Wasn't one of my buddies or network. What I told them was that I felt miserable and sore this morning and was about to say I wasn't going to work out. After I read what they wrote, in their misery and agony they motivated me to at least walk for an hour today and hopefully some of the cramps in my legs will subside. I hope in a way I let them know there is someone out here for them. I encouraged them and told them there were millions of people just like them. We ALL understood their plight.
So here is my challenge to you this bright and beautiful Friday morning:
Take some extra time today if you can and look for a Spark Person you do not know that may be struggling and just share part of yourself. It's easy to support friends and buddies who think like we do.
Maybe, just maybe, me and you can be the big difference in someone elses life and sanity today.