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Working With My Running Coach Session One

Wednesday, February 02, 2011


Availible on YouTube@ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u2w0bGGZtxw

  
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SILLYHP1953 2/6/2011 1:32PM

    That was SO interesting! I had no idea of any of that, but I am not, nor ever have been, a runner. But I have been trying to run a minute or so here and there while I walk on the treadmill, so I'm following your running training with interest.
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CARTOONB 2/3/2011 10:46PM

    Sounds cool! A lot of work, but I like it! Hope it helps you be a better runner!

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KELLY40222 2/3/2011 11:26AM

    I had no clue your pelvis had to be just so. I can't wait to hear about your next run meeting.

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GIRANIMAL 2/2/2011 5:35PM

    Sounds like a great experience, John! I'm so glad you're getting help with this. Both my feet are pronated too - I wear down the outside edges of the heels of my shoes all the time. And I'm not a runner, but I do know firsthand, with a back injury, the value of core strength! Anyway, thanks for the shout-out. We survived here in Chicago! But I expect that tomorrow I will feel the way you do after all the shoveling. emoticon

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GOANNA2 2/2/2011 3:28PM

    Sounds like a great workout.
Thanks for thinking of us here in Queensland.
The cyclone was a category 5 and has had done
much damage.

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ANEPANALIPTI 2/2/2011 2:34PM

    LOL macarena... It's so cool that you did this!!!!! Your running is going to be so improved!!!! I hope you're having a good day! :)

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SARAWALKS 2/2/2011 10:48AM

    VERY interesting! As someone who's worked with singers for a long time on posture and stance and movement (which is very important to good singing), these comments make lots of sense to me. I've often been grateful for that training as I've become more physically active as a walker & runner.
The "activate the core" thing is probably crucial to the pelvic tilt thing too - and boy does it work on that belly fat!
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EMTFF376 2/2/2011 10:45AM

    Thanks for the blog, John! Its nice to know I'm not alone in my running woes... I pronate one leg more than the other as well. Still looking forward to running with you when you come to WV. I bet you can show me a thing or two after working with your coach.

Have a great day!
Janette


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KITTYKELLY1 2/2/2011 9:13AM

  How inspiring this blog was to my son who is working hard with a physical therapist/personal trainer. He is glad that he is not alone in working so hard.

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ROGUE_RUNNER 2/2/2011 9:05AM

    Awe!! I missed you! So great to see your face!

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HDHAWK 2/2/2011 8:42AM

    Sounds like you got a lot accomplished! Who knew there was so much to know. We're snowed in here too, so I'm hitting the gym and then hitting the "to do" list. I plan to take a little time to relax as well. Have a great day!

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HDHAWK 2/2/2011 8:42AM

    Sounds like you got a lot accomplished! Who knew there was so much to know. We're snowed in here too, so I'm hitting the gym and then hitting the "to do" list. I plan to take a little time to relax as well. Have a great day!
Oops, not sure why there is a double post.

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Getting It Backwards.... Sorta

Tuesday, February 01, 2011

I participatded in a weekly discussion group last night on spirituality. It was my turn to go last this week because I went first the week before. I had a good hour to soak in other peopleís ideas and opinions. I noticed something as each person spoke. They all began by apologizing for some alleged fatal flaw inside of them. As I listened I realized I do that too. Iíll use humor. Iíll talk about my weight, my age, my lack of hair, something mildly to moderately negative and go on from there. Iíll let you know Iím clumsy, not very mechanically inclined or donít often ďget thingsĒ right away. I almost had to leave the group because I was going to break out laughing. Given everything that is supposedly wrong with me why would anyone want to be my friend? But I continue to do it.

Somewhere inside I use this sacrosanct notion that to be self-deprecating is to engender humility. If I minimize my goodness and maximize my faults I am earning a place in heaven. After all, no one likes someone bragging on themselves all the time do they? My grandfather always told me that if you are telling the truth you are not bragging.

Itís uncomfortable isnít it? Itís hard to stick your hand out and say ďHi Iím John. Iím amazingly intelligent, witty, charming and I have an exceptional singing voice. Did you know I won a karaoke contest once? I am a good writer, a good cook and my wife thinks Iím just swell.Ē We donít process our lives in those terms even though everything I just told you is Gods honest truth. Itís just best I keep all that stuff for myself and wait until you tell me how great I am and then I can tell you that Iím not. Madness!!!

I bring this up because I often find myself staring up at the steep mountain that is my goals and objectives and begin believing Iím not ever going to make it. I look at everything thatís wrong with me and find excuses to give up. But if I look at that steep hill and I begin to look at all the amazing tools inside of me I have at my disposal to not only reach those goals but exceed them, well maybe the mountain isnít so steep. I see this happen to people who reach a goal they struggled long and hard for and begin to believe they do not deserve the success they have achieved. Itís like it all was a mistake. Quickly they revert and well you know the rest.

I challenge myself each day to find something unique and special about myself so that when the road gets rocky I have something to hold on to and remind myself that there is more value in me than I realize. Maybe it will help you too.

Just sayinÖÖ.

  
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ANEPANALIPTI 2/2/2011 2:36PM

    Absolutely loved this blog.

I didn't know you won a karaoke contest!

"amazing tools inside of me"

Especially loved this, copying it down:
"I challenge myself each day to find something unique and special about myself so that when the road gets rocky I have something to hold on to and remind myself that there is more value in me than I realize. Maybe it will help you too. "



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GIRANIMAL 2/2/2011 3:17AM

    Oh, man, I am so guilty of this! I have been working on not knee-jerk denying compliments -- or at least I was awhile back -- but it is very ingrained and quite hard. It also, sadly, is because I have learned not to believe them. Can't possibly be all those years of saying, "Oh no. Are you kidding? I'm actually (insert mildly negative opposite here)." Right? emoticon Thanks for yet another amazingly insightful reminder. Accentuate the positive - got it!

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JUNEAU2010 2/1/2011 9:14PM

    One of my "other"goals is to uplift me daily. Some days, that's hard to do, but it does make for a great start to the day!

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ACIMPEGGY 2/1/2011 7:31PM

    At this point, when I see a fault in myself, I know it's only ego trying to pound me down.

"I am Spirit, complete, healed and whole, shining in the light of His love..." But, boy, that ego can really be persistent at times! I am reminded of that every day I go to work in my challenging new job....

As your spiritual growth grows, your self-esteem will increase...and you won't be afraid to share your worth. In moderation, of course. You don't want to overwhelm anyone. emoticon emoticon

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SILLYHP1953 2/1/2011 7:11PM

    I have been trying to train myself to see the positive first, but it was always so easy my whole life to see the negative. I'm getting better. Thanks for sharing.

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HDHAWK 2/1/2011 3:50PM

    I do the same thing all the time. Ah, so much to work on; the fine line between bragging and stating your good qualities. It's a tough one!

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GOANNA2 2/1/2011 3:45PM

    You hit the nail on the head and I thoroughly enjoyed reading
your blog. I have a tendency to compare myself to others, but
'I should be concentrating on what I have been able to achieve.
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CATHERINEL66 2/1/2011 3:45PM

    I am laughing at this -- "Hi I'm Catherine, and I'm lovely, charming and brilliant. May I offer you my amazing insights?". LOL, while I value my own opinion, I do seem to have to convince others to do the same. :)



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EMTFF376 2/1/2011 1:42PM

    ps... your "singing voice" reminded me to dust off the mandolin and get back to it... (I only sing in the car and shower when no one's around... LOL)


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EMTFF376 2/1/2011 1:39PM

    I've missed reading your blogs. After reading this one, I remember why even more so now.

Once again, you hit the nail on the head.

have a great Tuesday!
Hugs,
Janette

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SARAWALKS 2/1/2011 1:00PM

    I was reared to hide my strengths and I learned in grade 3 that it was indeed a good idea to pretend to be dumb at something, since I was unmercifully teased for skipping a grade, due to my precocious reading skills. So I was dumb at math and bad at sports -- which even then didn't help my popularity, so I might as well not have bothered! (I actually really was bad at math but have in later life discovered that I'm fairly athletic, once I bother to put down the book...)

I think this is endemic in American society - just look at all the praise given to people in public life who are arrogant in their ignorance. But I don't think it's good and I don't think it's humble. In fact there's a funny kind of reverse pride in being "just an average guy/girl" - as if that were better than having an unusual interest or skill.

Not that I have anything at all against "ordinary people." In fact, I'm not sure I've ever met one. Most people are extraordinary in some way. Why do we have issues with this?

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GEEMAWEST 2/1/2011 11:47AM

    Ouch! You got me right where it hurts.

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MARCYNA 2/1/2011 11:30AM

    People around me tend to see my defects but I try to concentrate on qualities if I want to proceed in my journey & reach goals. I don't think humility is concerned , it's rather trying to be practical, even a Ferrari has weak points...still, it wins F1 races!!!! emoticon

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JAE_HENNINGTON 2/1/2011 9:48AM

  this is something I have been dealing with. I have been told that I am co=dependant. There are many definations for the disorder and the symptoms are endless. One of the traits though is that yoou don't have a strong sense of self. It seems I have in the past tried to mold myself into something I thought others wanted me to be...Your blog struck a chord with me as I am trying to define myself..find my core values the things that don't change.. I have been struggling with my faith lately.. I know what it means to me and what it does not mean to me.. I find myself almose apologizing when I share my faith with others..thank you for your insights. You have given me something to think about. as always..great blog

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Perseverance

Monday, January 31, 2011

Perseverance.

I do not believe in coincidence, not at all. I could sit here all morning and talk to you about the right thing happening at the right time and everything falling into place. Itís really not surprising. Positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative. Itís why I am so big on who I hang with. I take a lot of heat from people for living like that and I have far fewer friends than many but I have learned that toxicity only slows you down and ultimately can keep you from reaching your goals. Before you say what you may be thinking itís not a judgment thing. I respect everyoneís right to live their lives as they choose, believe what they choose to believe etc. If it retards my journey or poisons my soul I take a quick step back and move on. Live and let live is a healthy motto.

I digress

Tuesday night I was prepared to head for the gym and a brisk two mile run. I had been traveling most of the day and was wishing at that point I had eight arms and legs, sorta like an octopus. I was slipping my coat on and reading a blog response form PRINCESSNURSE. She wrote three words at the top of her response ď Perseverance, perseverance, perseverance. Ē I had no idea how glad Iíd be to read those words.

I had a terrible run, coupled with the fact that my left knee started hurting again and both my feet felt like they had been run over by a truck. I stepped running after roughly seventh tenths of a mile. I looked like someone hit me over the head. I walked for a bit, tried running again with the same result. One of the kids told me later Joan told them she had never seen me so discouraged in the thirty seven years we have been married.

Perseverance.

I got up Wednesday and hit the elliptical for forty five minutes to the point where there was a puddle of sweat all around me. If nothing else it released a lot of tension and energy. I called the ortho doctor and he squeezed me in. I didnít like what he said. ďI really canít find anything wrong, John.Ē He went on to say we could run all sorts of tests but he doubted theyíd show anything different.

Perseverance.

One of my clients called to cancel so I took a long walk. I gotta tell you there were more than a few tears shed during that walk. I wasnít angry, wasnít cursing my fate or the heavens, I was at a loss. A lot of who I am has become tied up in running and I enjoy it so much and to think that I couldnít run anymore Ö..

Perseverance.

Somewhere during this long ďOh poor meĒ walk a light went on. ďWhat about Jaime?Ē Jaime and her husband run a gym for high powered athletes, mostly in high school and college. Jaime is the trainer for two local college volleyball and soccer teams. She has a MS in kinesiology. Her husband Robert is a fire fighter. I got in the car and went to see her and spilled out my tale of woe. To make a short story long Jaime told me I probably wasnít running right and that what she could do is break down my run through video tape and computer and having me run on this tread mill that looked like it was a mile long and surrounded by huge mirrors on three sides. Once she broke it down sheíd reconstruct it so I wouldnít be in pain. We argued about price Ė she didnít want to charge me Ė and settled on ten dollars for a half hour session. She told me Iíd probably need about six sessions. I start tomorrow morning. She didnít want me running for a week before our first session.

Perseverance or as my grandma said ďEverything happens for a reason, everything works out in the end and if it hasnít worked out then itís not the end.Ē

Thank you PRINCESSNURSE for being in the right place at the right time

  
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GIRANIMAL 2/2/2011 3:31AM

    So glad you tuned in and found the answer to your predicament! I was thinking while reading this that a Spark Friend of mine had this problem until she had her form and such corrected by a personal trainer and I was trying to remember the details so I could suggest it to you...and voila! Of course you'd already figured it out yourself! You're so darn smart like that.

Take the gift of the discounted price from a friend with grace. You're worth it and you deserve it.

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SILLYHP1953 2/1/2011 7:16PM

    I absolutely love what your grandmother said "Everything happens for a reason, everything works out in the end and if it hasnít worked out then itís not the end.Ē You must take after her!

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AZCUPCAKE 2/1/2011 10:59AM

    I give you a lot of credit for seeking assistance as soon as you did, and not waiting for a blue moon to appear in the sky! So many times it is easier to sit around kicking at the curb and saying negative things to ourselves that don't get us anywhere. That unhealthy behavior gets us nowhere, and can go on for months/years!! You did the right thing, and I am proud of you! I am anxious to hear how Jaime "decodes" your running style/stride! Hope the rest of your week goes well! emoticon

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CARTOONB 1/31/2011 10:48PM

    How very cool! I love the idea of a running diagnostic. Part of me thinks that if I ran right I'd enjoy it more. Let us know how it goes!

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JUNEAU2010 1/31/2011 10:25PM

    Next time you have someone refuse to let you pay them, ask them to name a charity (or choose one yourself) and make a donation in their name - kind of "paying it forward". I did that last year when someone insisted on paying me for something that I do for no charge. I told her I would take the cash only if she would let me put it towards the charity walk I did in November. It was a win-win. I often donate to the local food shelter in these circumstances, too.

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JEANHOW 1/31/2011 9:51PM

    Good for you hon. When I went to physical therapy after my fall my therapist said...you have to get rid of your shoes...I looked at them, didn't think anything was wrong with them...but I did like she said, went over to Kohl's and picked up a pair of New Balance...sure enough...the issues with my ankle and legs started to get better and I walked better without pain.

Sometimes..you just have to keep an open mind....

Keep up the great work!

Your new SP friend, Jean

Remember YOU ARE AMAZING & AWESOME!

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/31/2011 7:34PM

    Yup, things have a way of working out for the best. It's not always our plan, but we adjust and make new strides.

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LET'S ROCK 2011 TOGETHER ~!

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HDHAWK 1/31/2011 6:17PM

    Excellent blog! I'm glad you found a way to figure out what it going on with your knee. I hope you get the answers you need!

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GOANNA2 1/31/2011 4:25PM

    Thank you John. I needede this too.
I don't run, but I love walking and my
knee has been playing up and I was ready to
say that's it.

Now I know it has to do with perseverence.
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WORKINGSTIFF 1/31/2011 3:34PM

    John!

Man-great minds thinking alike today!

My blog today is about working smarter, not harder. All about getting the information we need...just as you did when seeking out information about your knee/running.

We both said much the same thing in a different way.

Sounds like you'll be working smarter and harder with your friend's guidance and help. With the knowledge can come the power. Keep on going!

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MARCYNA 1/31/2011 2:44PM

    I believe in hardship being there for our personal best.
I'm sure you will discover a better way of running, and you will open a new road for yourself & others...Keeping you in my prayers...you deserve it emoticon
PS I do not want to be inspirational, just be there whenever you need it.

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DANCING4UJESUS 1/31/2011 1:26PM

    Thank you for the blog I needed to hear that. I have been trying to stay on track and there are alot of personal outside issues interferring but this gave me the spark to keep on going. emoticon

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GETFIT2LIVE 1/31/2011 12:49PM

    How wonderful to have someone who can help you like that! I hope she is able to see what's going wrong and can point you in the right direction to correct things. Yay! I'll look forward to hearing how it goes.

Perseverance really is a key on this journey in so many ways.

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CATHERINEL66 1/31/2011 12:35PM

    Oh this running diagnostic sounds like EXACTLY what you need! Congrats on getting this set up! I can't wait to hear her input!

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PRINCESSNURSE 1/31/2011 12:27PM

    I am glad to have helped! God always puts the answer to our problems in our path if we just pay attention. I have no doubt you will return the favor to me someday--that is what spark is all about :-)

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SARAWALKS 1/31/2011 10:29AM

    Oh how wonderful! God always sends the right people and the right thing when you need it.
I think it's so important to have proper running form but not so easy to change your form and it is great that there is a way to do that!
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WISEONE68 1/31/2011 8:59AM

    And, THANK YOU, John...for the right blog at the right time. I, too am struggling...have been for awhile with this "back issue"...and, it is hard sometimes to deal with the pain and work on through.
But, with perseverance comes great reward...and, I keep my hope in that (The joy of the Lord is my strength!!).

Bless you, Friend...I pray for some practical results to these tests and that you will come out at "the end" where everything has worked out. (I love your grandma's quote!!!)

Be well!!

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Why You Are My Friend

Saturday, January 29, 2011

The only thing I can figure out is that my appointment with God, His angels and His saints occurs between four and six am. I never get amazing insights during the day. It is only for a host a reasons that when I wake up that early, lie in bed letting my head clear that the trumpets sound. This morning Rocky and Mallory decided they were going to play with each other. This involved the one of my socks. They quickly became bored with each other and decided, on their own, that I should join in the fun. This is also code for "Put us outside John."

I crawled back into bed and tried to fall back to sleep. Fat chance of that!! So I do what I always do, I started to think. Joan tells me this is usually dangerous to do because sometimes I get so deep I confuse myself and then she has to help me sort it all out. She does a good job with that.

Anyways........

I started thinking about all my friends. I dont differentiate between physical friends and virtual friends. A friend is a friend. I may not be able to knock on your door to ask you if your internet is working or watch a football game with you but I dont separate.

Anyways.......

I started a parade of people in my minds asking myself why they are my friends. The answer was simply this "I dont know!!" There are some givens, for sure, but mostly you are my friend because you are you and that is so very cool to me. Simply put you are in my life in one manner, shape or form simply because you exist.

What a great way to start your day.

  
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GIRANIMAL 2/2/2011 3:25AM

    Thank you for being my friend!

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JAE_HENNINGTON 2/1/2011 9:52AM

  Well there are many reasons why I like you. I identify with what you write. To me you are real...and you care...about yourself. your family, your God. and just people..I believe in auras... you have a nice one...

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JEANHOW 1/31/2011 9:55PM

    I added you as a friend because you inspire inspiration, reflection, wisdom, humor, and positive energy. We are all here for a reason...both teacher and student in life...by being friends here..we are all blessed. :)

Thank you for making my life even more special because you touched it, even for a moment of your existence in it...

Friendship has no price on it.... a treasure that is priceless.

Jean

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WATERMELLEN 1/30/2011 7:57PM

    We just are, indeed!!

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ANEPANALIPTI 1/30/2011 11:05AM

    :-) Thanks for being my friend and always being you.

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GOANNA2 1/30/2011 10:36AM

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MARCYNA 1/30/2011 10:28AM

    It's a mystery; but to decide if I am a good friend, a good start is the parable of the Samaritan emoticon

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CHRISTINECAN 1/30/2011 8:31AM

    This is very zen; sometimes the deepest meditation is simply that something is, not why it is.

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TEENY_BIKINI 1/30/2011 6:19AM

    Hm....

This is the first blog I've read today and it was well worth it. I don't know if I've heard it summed up in that way before, but I like it.

You clearly rock! Thank you for being you.





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MKPRINCESS007 1/30/2011 1:06AM

    Right back at 'cha! You are my friend because:
1) you are kind
2) you are supportive
3) you are insightful
4) you are deep
5) you are smart
6) you are groovy
7) you are a rockstar!
8) you are John!

'Nuff said! :)

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/29/2011 9:25PM

    and I'm so glad you are in my world JohnT

LET'S ROCK 2011 TOGETHER ~!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 1/29/2011 7:11PM

    One doesn't always know why someone strikes a chord, does one? I know just what you mean; some of my virtual friends are almost more real than my 'in-your-face' friends in that I know them better!

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DUTCHIEKIWI 1/29/2011 6:36PM

    I am your friend because:

You are you and you're good at it....


Dutchie

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SARAWALKS 1/29/2011 6:32PM

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/29/2011 4:45PM

    You can never have too many friends. LOL.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/29/2011 4:45PM

    You can never have too many friends. LOL.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/29/2011 4:45PM

    You can never have too many friends. LOL.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/29/2011 4:45PM

    You can never have too many friends. LOL.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/29/2011 4:45PM

    You can never have too many friends. LOL.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/29/2011 4:45PM

    You can never have too many friends. LOL.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/29/2011 4:45PM

    You can never have too many friends. LOL.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/29/2011 4:45PM

    You can never have too many friends. LOL.

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JRZG8R 1/29/2011 3:48PM

    I made you a friend because I saw one of your vlogs and did not want to miss the good stuff you have to say.

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SILLYHP1953 1/29/2011 2:02PM

    You sorted that out all by yourself...I cannot differentiate between the friends on here and the ones I didn't meet on here. In fact, I think I'm closer to some on here because on here we are all trying to better ourselves.

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TIME4AFITME 1/29/2011 1:44PM

    I am glad to be included as one of your friends. Thx for the blog!

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KELLY40222 1/29/2011 11:17AM

    You are a great friend John! Such a sweet blog!
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_AIYANNA_ 1/29/2011 10:11AM

    I'm proud to call you my friend and honoured that you consider me to be one of yours.

Take care :)

Hugs xxx

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AZCUPCAKE 1/29/2011 10:08AM

    I can tell you why you are a good friend to me: Because you care, and it shows! You care about every human being you encounter. It shows! You have a heart of gold. It shows! You put people before things. It shows! The sadness AND happiness you experience on an everyday basis is evident in your writings that benefit all of your friends. It shows!! I could go on and on. You make the world a better place every day you lace up your shoes and head out the door (or add another blog to your SparkPage), and I thank you for that. Yes, I definitely know why I call you my friend! emoticon

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HDHAWK 1/29/2011 9:10AM

    I'm sure glad to count you as one of my friends!

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JPRICE217 1/29/2011 8:55AM

    John you are my freind you are so insightful and helpful thak you for being you and my friend

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REJ7777 1/29/2011 8:54AM

    Have a Sparking day, my friend! emoticon

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I Am Learning To Love

Friday, January 28, 2011

I hope this makes as much sense when you read it as it does in my head when as I am writing it.

We are the most well intentioned people in the world here at Spark. We are supportive, encouraging and helpful. If I ever need advice on anything all I have to do is post a blog asking a question and within an hourÖÖÖ. POOF I am getting all kinds of valuable advice from all different points of view. I learn things too, like how you really shouldnít post a comment on a team message board that was meant to instruct and inspire rather than provoke discussion. LOL

With all of that in mind I received a Spark Mail from a friend who was having a rough go of it. I have been there and done that and I know sometimes there just arenít words to ease the pain. If I was sitting across the table from them it would be easyÖÖÖ. GREAT BIG HUG. But alas the hug emoticon looks like a narcoleptic zombie to me when Iím in a great mood so I can quite imagine what it feels like when your lower lip is bouncing off the pavement. It IS reassuring to know I am loved and some days that gets me through and keeps me from holding every donut in creation hostage.

I try to be supportive. Thank goodness for my guardian angel, spirit guide or whatever you choose to call the other world support that floats within you and without you. Because I was getting ready to tell my friend what a great source of inspiration and motivation they were to me personally and itís as if my angel grabbed my hands off the key boards, took her halo and throttled me because I was suddenly hit with the thought that being told how inspiring you are when you canít seem to muster up the energy and effort to feel good about yourself may be the last thing you need to hear I know that sounds a bit cold but stop and think about carrying all your woes and worries and then being told you have to carry around the burden of being an inspiration to people. I wonít give someone else that responsibility for me and my journey. Love me, cheer, for me and support my choices but its selfish to say you motivate me because that implies if you ever stop Iíll fall off the face of the earth.

During my meditation period yesterday I was made privy to a beautiful vision. It was if I was in a balcony and I was looking down on a whole sea of heads. They were all the same shape, and height. They were equal. A voice inside of me said: ĎNo one is loved greater or lesser than anyone else. Love is love. There are no degrees of love. Love is not earned it is a gift. Be loved John and when you learn to be loved, then love.Ē Okay, maybe Iím slow that it took almost 58 years for me to learn this concept.

Thatís when it became clear to me. We all stand side by side, equal, loved and loving. None of us is better, worse or any other modifier you may choose to use. Quite simply we are loved.

  
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GIRANIMAL 2/2/2011 3:22AM

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Seriously, though...you just plain rock. I am honored to call you my friend.

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RACINGSLUG 1/30/2011 12:23PM

    Just another perspective... I've long believed that ''feeling'' love is rather beside the point... love at its foundation is action. This makes it easier for me both to love myself and to love others because you don't have to feel any certain way, all you have to do is act in love. This is what sustains my marriage, and I'm not saying the loving feelings aren't there too - they certainly are and I'm fortunate to feel like a giddy school girl after 9 years with my beloved - but feelings aren't a prerequisite for loving action. They say you can't love anyone truly until you love yourself... I'd say the opposite is true. Learning how to love others taught me how to love myself. And it's not a zero sum game. Usually the best indication that I'm loving myself is how I'm treating other people and vice-versa.

Your meditation was touching on what I feel is an important universal truth - how we are all interconnected and part of one another. I think once we are able to love someone else and see it also as self-love, and see self-love as loving others, when there are no distinctions any more, that is enlightenment.

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MARCYNA 1/30/2011 10:24AM

    John, I think you are one of those persons I really feel like loving, without any effort. I think we ALLOW it to happen, even if the process is so mysterious we'll only understand it in heaven emoticon emoticon

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JPRICE217 1/30/2011 9:35AM

    Great blog once more. Well said

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DUTCHIEKIWI 1/29/2011 6:58PM

    Without wanting to make you feel like you would be in any way or shape accountable for my wellbeing or my successes on this journey I just have to tell you, you DO inspire me, as much as I know you are a vulnerable human being as well as someone that can make my day. Your words make me think, your mind helps me develop mine... don't feel you have to achieve this every time you write or are sparking around but just by being you, the good and the bad and the ugly days.... you make me want to be a better person, and there is nothing wrong with that!!

Now, Love.....

Love is great feeling, and comes in many different ways.

During my spark journey I have changed the way I perceive and give love. I have noticed it frightens some of my friends that haven't developed as much as I have in that particular area.

I have loved, and I have lost... lost too many times and I have learned that in order to make sure the very people I might lose are aware of my appreciation and love for them I need to "show" it.

Right now, I am loving showing it, I wear my heart on my sleeve and scares the living daylights out of some people and friends around me.

I don't care... this is me.... This is who I am.

Call me full on, call me honest, call me blunt but whenever you need a helping hand, a soul that cares,

that is when you can call on me.

Dutchie

xoxox

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ANEPANALIPTI 1/29/2011 4:48AM

    PROFOUND.

GREAT conclusion!!

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NCHOPEFUL 1/29/2011 12:59AM

    well i LOVE this blog! :~)

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GEEMAWEST 1/28/2011 11:18PM

    WOW! Good point, John. I love you but I don't expect you to inspire me or motivate me. That's my problem, not yours. But it nice when I read something that you wrote that works for me.
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HONORINGGOD 1/28/2011 10:59PM

    "love your blogs "

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/28/2011 10:22PM

    Amen, Mista.

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JUNEAU2010 1/28/2011 10:20PM

    Well said!

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FLARE13 1/28/2011 10:16PM

    Great blog. Thanks

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