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These Three Things........

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

It snowed last night. It was the soft powdery kind of snow that is easy to dust off your car and sidewalk. It means an extra fifteen to twenty minutes to get ready and after all, who isnít rushed most mornings to begin with? I took the garbage out and decided now was as good of time as any to dust off the car. I like early mornings, they have this sacred feeling to me. The world hasnít started moving yet, everything is quiet and I think clearer. I finished my car and spied my neighbors van. I walked over and dusted off both their cars and then went across the street and did theirs. This story would sound very poignant if those people were elderly or infirmed and couldnít do it themselves. By my calculations they are fifteen to twenty years younger than I am. But thatís not why I did it.

While I was brushing off my own car I started thinking about how awfully wrapped up in my own little world I can get. I become so consumed with John that I become myopic. There is only MY world, MY journey and MY health. Donít stand in front of me too long or youíll get run over. One of my Spark Heroes wrote a few weeks back that they became healthy when they stopped obsessing on being healthy. Iím over simplifying here but you get the point. I donít, and shouldnít kneel before the scale or the calorie counter and worship or adore it. If I become so obsessed with me, what I look like what size I wear and how far I can run, well in the end Iím just a skinny person who is unhappy. When I take the gift Iíve been given and even if itís in a very small way, share it with other people, then my journey becomes easier and brighter. Itís not all about me. It is, but it isnít. I have been given a gift and I am empowered to share that gift with everyone I meet.

So I walked over and brushed off Paul and Carries car and then Imeldaís. Maybe, when they looked out and saw that some snow gremlin saved those fifteen minutes today they could finish their cup of coffee and have that conversation they have been meaning to have. They might be able to finish their cross word puzzle and it just might make a snowy day seem sunny. I donít know and I donít care. I did it freely and I did it because it meant someone elseís day was lighter and easier to bear. It wasnít a huge thing and most likely theyíll never know.

I have seen such small acts restore peopleís faith in themselves and the world. I have watched people summon the resolve to make it one more day because of a small random act of kindness. So today I am going to commit three and I ask you to join me. It doesnít count if you plan ahead, LOL. When the opportunity presents itself do something for somebody and it would be even nicer if they never knew who did it. Itís as much a part of this journey as the fruits and veggies. Call it a good deed, call it what you will, I promise you will feel better about you when you do.

  
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MARCYNA 1/14/2011 2:42AM

    This blog deeply resonates with ma as it mirrors what I've been trying to do recently.. I do agree with you & commit myself to doing something for someone. Every day.
I do not want to end up skinny & unhappy.
I want to be happy whatever my weight, and I also want YOU to be happy...healthy will come as a consequence of happiness. emoticon

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CATHERINEL66 1/13/2011 11:43PM

    This was very sweet, John. Let me know if you start wanting to "pay forward" the vacumming next (I'm happy to provide you with that opportunity), LOL!

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GIRANIMAL 1/13/2011 5:53PM

    I love this! The other day at Trader Joe's, as I was leaving, I noticed my cashier did an exceptionally careful bagging job -- it was a single bag and full but not too heavy, and neither my bagels nor my bananas were squished!

I was shopping on a lunch break and was hurried, of course (talk about "my own little world!"), but I went back, waited for him to finish with the customer who'd been behind me and then praised the care he took bagging my groceries and thanked him, relating how often I get squished bread and produce at other stores. He looked surprised, and that made me extra glad I took the time.

I try to remember the quote that goes something like, "Always be kinder than is necessary. Everyone is battling something." I am sure I forget more often than not, but I think it's important to work on it, and I am. Thanks for the reminder!

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SMOCKON 1/12/2011 12:32PM

    Wonder how many calories you burned doing that? It helped John, too! emoticon

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SILLYHP1953 1/11/2011 7:38PM

    What goes around comes around. Your story reminded me of something Mother Teresa said "In this life we cannot do great things, we can only do small things with great love".
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ZURDTA- 1/11/2011 2:26PM

    Nice... definitely something I try to do too (not clear snow, just do something a little thoughtful for someone else, for no reason at all) it gives me a glow too.

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BECKYQUIGLEY 1/11/2011 10:31AM

    What a wonderful challenge for all of us! And how kind of you to help your neighbors! Have a wonderful day!

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NJMATTICE 1/11/2011 10:19AM

    Secret Santa! Way to keep that Christmas Spirit going.
Love,
Nancy
(Happy New Year!)

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HLPRATT 1/11/2011 9:30AM

    I liked this whole idea John. Whenever anyone does something unexpected and nice for me, I so suprised and touched. It will challenge me to think of ways to pass this on to others

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HDHAWK 1/11/2011 9:16AM

    Very nice John and they will appreciate it I'm sure. We've got 6-8 in. of the fluffy stuff here with 1-2 more to come...and then the wind. That always makes it fun. I'm glad I live much closer to my school now. Thanks for motivating us to do some random acts of kindness today.

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FREDIA2 1/11/2011 9:05AM

    How thoughtful and insightful you are!! I loved the part of taking the gifts we have been given... emoticon

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KATJAMN 1/11/2011 9:04AM

    My daily prayer includes me asking God to make me a blessing.. you John are a blessing,I am sure to your neighbors, but definilty to me.
If I see an opportunity today, I will grab it and I will think of you while I do it.
Thank you for sharing this mornning. You ROCK!!!

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WORKINGSTIFF 1/11/2011 8:59AM

    Random acts of kindness are never wasted acts...

I've always told my sons to notice this "phenomenon:" If you let someone out or let them merge ahead of you in traffic, that person tends to let someone out or over as well.

Random acts of kindness can work that way as well. It reminds me of the insurance commercial where one person does a deed for someone else (like stopping them from stepping off the curb in front of an on-coming car). That person then performs a kindness for the next person, and so on and so on...

What a world we could create if we all did this.



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EMTFF376 1/11/2011 8:48AM

    In my opinion, there are certain things that you have to be "selfish" about...it is YOUR health. No one can do anything about it, but you. Sometimes you have to take time away from other important things to focus on it. My ex-husband used to tell me I was selfish because I would go to the gym or go for a run (and I'm not talking hours... maybe 30 minutes tops). To try to put a positive spin I would offer up "well, you could go with me and keep me company" and he would roll his eyes, mumble something hurtful under his breath and walk away. By his standards, I was selfish... but I when I say it in our contexts, John, it is not meant in a negative way. All of us trying to get to better health have to be a little selfish.

However, HOWEVER, there are always those few minutes out of the day when we have a choice - to do something kind for someone else or take that time for ourselves. I stopped the other day because the woman behind me in line at the bank had a to-go drink in her hand and the lid wasn't quite all the way on. She was dressed very nicely and if her luck was like mine I knew where that drink was headed. I told her about the lid, she just looked at me funny, set the drink down on the table and fixed it. I would not have had the courage to tell someone 8 years ago that. They were a stranger, they would make fun of me, etc.

Also, I was at the grocery store and I try to live by the philosophy of only buying what I can carry in my hands. Well, as I was headed to the register, with quite an armload, I saw my favorite lip balm on clearance. I went to pick one up and knocked another on the floor. I was juggling my groceries and I heard a voice say, "don't worry. I'll get it". Another patron had stopped to help me. I gave her a great big smile and said "thank you so much. have a great day!". I guess what goes around, comes around. :)

Thank you, John. The next time I go outside and see that my car has been cleared, I will know you had something to do with it. :)

Hugs,
Janette

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OZARKMARY 1/11/2011 8:43AM

    Feels good to do unexpected nice things for people that don't expect it. emoticon

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CICI510 1/11/2011 8:41AM

    There need to be more YOU's in the world. :)

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KAT573 1/11/2011 8:40AM

    allRIGHT! I am with you on that! From the inside OUT and back again.
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IFDEEVARUNS2 1/11/2011 8:28AM

    What a lovely gesture! emoticon

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Just A Few Thoughts and Ideas

Monday, January 10, 2011

Despite my best positive efforts, right mindedness and attracting all that is good and holy into my being, the virus of the week and its companion, a sinus infection laid me low yesterday. I felt so bad that I didnít even feel guilty about not going to the gym. At the same time I am not a lay in bed sort of person. My mind is always working on something and I canít just lay there!!! So I sat in the big over stuffed arm chair in the living room and read. I wasnít in the mood for anything pithy or deep. I read magazines. I walked away with a few tools Iíd like to share with you; stuff that I know will help me reach some of my goals. So I thought Iíd share since my head is so darned congested that no deep and meaningful thought will find its way through.

First an article from Family Circle. (Yes you read right, Family Circle) There is a web site called HabitForge.com. It suggests that it takes twenty one days to change a habit. You go to the web site, enter a behavior and your email address and each day you get an email asking you if you met your daily goal. I decided to choose junk food. (For whatever reason I have developed a weakness for it recently, especially Cheetos and fries.) When I reach my daily goal it adds to my total. Should I stumble and fall, it resets my counter. The supposition is that once I reach twenty one days of consistent behavior I wonít be inhaling Cheetos. Iíll keep ya posted on that one.

Next up was the big kick off for 2011 in Cooking Light. I love this magazine!! The kids get it for me each year for Fatherís Day. The recipes are great, very tasty, and each recipe has the nutritional information at the bottom. They supply you with a shopping list for each recipe which I find really handy. This yearís program is calledĒ Cooking Lights 12 Healthy Habits Program.Ē Each month they will introduce a healthy habit. Januaryís is Eat More Vegetables and Fruit. I know this isnít a news flash to us Sparkers but sometimes guys; I get my fill of veggies. The link I followed to get to their web site gave me all sorts of ideas to spice up my veggies without drenching them in cheese and animal fats. You can look at that article and much more at http://www.cookinglight.com/healthy-living
/healthy-habits/12-healthy-habits-prog
ram-00412000069701/.

Finally, I read an article in our local newspaper about a personal trainer here in KY who has created an online, virtual gym. She has a library of her personal training workouts for clients plus she does live video classes during the week. I thought this was really great. She charges 29.99 per month. I love this concept. As a business traveler I can use the motivation while on the road. Her name is Dawn Bland and you can check her web site out at www.dawnbland.com. Great thing about this process --- No Adds.

So thatís my wisdom for today. Iím not feeling much better but on the bright side there are still more magazines to read.

  
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MSSUNBUG 1/11/2011 12:08PM

    I hope you feel better soon, John. I'm glad you're getting in some reading and finding some useful tools.

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CARTOONB 1/10/2011 11:16PM

    Sorry that you don't feel well. Hope you get better before you run out of magazines!

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SILLYHP1953 1/10/2011 6:47PM

    It is just no fun at all feeling sick, but you did manage to make some use out of having to rest. I hadn't heard of Cooking Light before, or had forgotten if I had, so may have to check that out. Sounds like a good Mothers Day present, too! Hope you feel better really soon. Check out Coach Nicole's fitness videos on here before you spend that money on Dawn Bland.
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HDHAWK 1/10/2011 6:31PM

    These are great John! Feel better soonest!

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/10/2011 5:58PM

    Thanks, John, I'm going to the 2 sites as soon as I post this.
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MONTANA_ED 1/10/2011 3:39PM

    How funny - I was just reading the Cooking Light magazine this morning! My GF left it for me and I was reading the article that you were talking about.

You and I are bit alike. I'm a bit down with some kind of bug myself today and I'll be darned if I will just lay in bed. Heck, I've even managed to get some work emails taken care of. No - I'm not type 1 - I'm a computer dude.
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Hope you get better soon!



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MARCYNA 1/10/2011 3:24PM

    You never waste time!!!Hope you are feeling already better, my main motivation grows out of relationship with inspiring people like you.

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GIRANIMAL 1/10/2011 12:30PM

    I also love Cooking Light, though I am not a subscriber. I want to be, but I have to be able to give up something first! I currently subscribe to Every Day With Rachael Ray, Cook's Illustrated, Natural Health, Natural Solutions...YIKES.

Thanks for sharing, and feel better soon, my friend! Do you do steam treatments for those pesky sinuses? It helps me when I am sick.

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WISEONE68 1/10/2011 11:59AM

    John,
One of my "delights" is reading magazines. Mostly ones that have "health" issues as part of them (Women's Day, Women's World, Family Circle, Fitness, etc.), but I read People and Us sometimes, too.
I do the same, as I read and article that I like, I tear it out and add it to my "tool box." I keep the articles, workouts, inspirational stories, etc. in a box and refer to it when I need "something" extra. And, I usually find it--a recipe, a new exercise routine, a story of someone else's success that spurs me on.
FEEL BETTER, Friend, and thank for sharing your insights from your reading!!

Blessings and peace,
Erika

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GO-LOEW 1/10/2011 11:38AM

    First let me say that I am sorry that you didn't feel well yesterday and I am glad that you aren't a guy who stays in bed and whimpers when feeling bad because that got up and reading and then you posted for us all. Thank you so much for reporting on your reading.

I am going to go to the habit thing and insert a couple habits I have that could use changing...specifically sitting in my chair instead of walking, or picking up those hand weights I just bought, or blowing up the body ball I just bought, and using these items, or any of the other things I could do.

Have a great day.

Merry

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GETFIT2LIVE 1/10/2011 11:34AM

    Sometimes a nice comfy chair and a stack of magazines are the best option; I love Family Circle and Cooking Light, some good info in the first and definitely wonderful recipes in the second. Thanks for the info on HabitForge.com and the virtual trainer, too. It reminded me that I have access to a 'virtual trainer' that I haven't been using in awhile. Hope you feel better soon!

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KAT573 1/10/2011 11:05AM

    THANK you for sharing; Cooking Light was one of the main sources for the original SparkRecipes online here and that is how I found out about it. It IS a wonderful mag and that tool sounds wonderful too! I have the same issue with vegetables; thing is I have had to accept that the prep, which takes most of the time and the most time of all, has to be accepted, and has been a challenge of sorts to integrate into the day consistently, and weekly. So I continue with that. One thing I am doing is making up batches of Greek and Cajun spices; have to do it, the commercial ones cost too much, and add in salt which is a no no for us.

The FAMILY CIRCLE is a great mag too; I don't subscribe to any but I do read em at the library. love the idea of HabitForge; only thing is, I have heard, more frequently from different sources, that it takes 6 weeks to change a habit. I tend to agree HOWEVER, my weak point would be CHEETOS too, cause I won't share em with ANYone....and I used to get the BIG bag. LOL.....so, I began to, when tempted, and in the process of grabbing that bag, turn it over, and read every word of the number of servings and the calories and fats per serving, and serving SIZE....then multiply them...that has worked as a mindful deterrant. I don't crave them near as much as I did initially so I think you will find it works, over all, and if one of those cravings hits as they do infrequently, I grab a smaller bag, turn it over, knowing I will eat it all, I do the SAME thing, and then, if it is not the smallest, I try to find one that is, and accept I have to add it into my total and LOOK at my day's end report. Very effective for me. Hope you find what works for you!
Thanks again, John.
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KELLY40222 1/10/2011 11:00AM

    Thanks for sharing. I will definitely look at the Family Circle article. I hope you feel better soon!

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TIME4AFITME 1/10/2011 10:49AM

    Feel better soon and thx for sharing. I will have to check those out!

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There Are No "Little Words."

Sunday, January 09, 2011

Since Iíve known her she has probably sent me more than one hundred emails. It was just yesterday though that I noticed those words at the bottom of the page.

ďThank you for all you do to make this world a better place to live. ď

Maybe Iíve become a bit jaded as I grow older. I look at those closings as throw away lines. I put them in the same category as ďHave a nice day!!Ē I donít doubt their sincerity; Iíve become sensitized to them. Maybe the planets were aligned properly or maybe the Holy Spirit decided we were going to have class on Saturday morning, but my friends closing stuck with me all day. I go motoring through this world so self-consumed that I lose track of the effort other people put forth in their daily lives that make my life better and this world more comfy. It wasnít until I got to the gym that its full impact struck me.

We have a new fitness instructor, a very young lady right out of college. She works Saturdays, Sundays and cleans the equipment and make sure itís lubricated. I watched her yesterday and the thought entered my head that her very small act, the cleaning and polishing made my world better. It assures the equipment is in working order

What about me? I laughed a bit inside. I donít often see myself making this world a better place to live in. But I do, I really do, and so do you! If I really believe I am worth all the effort I put into myself and I deserve to be healthy and happy and successful in my life then surely I am making this world a better place to live in. I have to, simply by the fact I exist and I am this chubby little ball of positive energy hurtling through the cosmos spreading peace and joy. But I donít see myself that way. I can see you making a difference but not me. I just see my faults. I am self-deprecating. I get very uncomfortable when you are nice to me. I see myself not as an asset but simply as doing this stuff so I can pay some ancient debt for being a fat doofus!

Before I went to bed last night I realized that I do make this world a better place to live in. Maybe itís not on a grand and global scale. Maybe some days itís nothing more than a squeeze of the arm or a smile, but my being here makes the world a better place. My friend DUTCHIEKIWI shared her holiday Spark blog with me yesterday. What struck me so deeply were the beautiful pictures of her, her husband and kids all smiling and having a great time and you could tell they enjoyed each otherís company. It was like she bottled some sunshine and sent it my way. It made my world a better place. I could almost feel the hug leaping off the page. I sit here this morning drinking tea and doing some sort of tribal dance to whisk away the sinus infection thatís going to send me to immediate care here in a bit. Those beautiful pictures made all the difference in the world. She made my world a better place to live in.

ďThank you for all you do to make this world a better place to live. ď

The impact of those words my friend sent wonít be lost on me again. I impact your life and you impact mine and while we may never sit down and eat a salad with low fat dressing together we are bound by this wonderful desire to leave this place better than we found it.

ďThank you for all you do to make MY world a better place to live. ď

  
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ELIZABETH525 1/10/2011 1:57PM

    Oh but you certainly do have a very big impact on people. For me, you put off this calming effect really. Just remember you are everything to someone ( plenty of someones I am sure! )


Every interaction causes a chain reaction!

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JPRICE217 1/10/2011 7:35AM

    John you do make a differenc in many many peoples life every day I am one of them!!!! thank you.

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STEELKICKIN 1/9/2011 8:52PM

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Whether we know or not, John, an impact is made daily on those around us by our actions. I'm sure you've made more of a difference than you could possibly know.

God bless.

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GEEMAWEST 1/9/2011 8:35PM

    We are so much alike. I can always see how other people make this world a better place but it's really hard for me to see how I make it a better place.

Why are we so hard on ourselves? I have some ideas and am constantly working on trying to make myself a better person. Maybe I haven't done such a bad job of it after all.

Thanks John, I needed this. Hope you feel better very soon.

Love, Cheryl

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SILLYHP1953 1/9/2011 8:15PM

    Thanks for the reminder of how many people make our world a better place, and our own part in it.
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TEDYBEAR2838 1/9/2011 4:36PM

    You certainly make OUR world a better place too, John.

I am SO WITH YOU on this Journey.

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There are so many uncertainties out there, but we just have to keep heading toward our destination. It will play itself out the way it should

Let's just enjoy it.

LET'S ROCK 2011!~

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CARTOONB 1/9/2011 12:57PM

    Thank you.

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ROX2013 1/9/2011 12:55PM

    I have learned the hard way to really mean what I say to others! Sometimes it is just have a nice day or thank you! Recently I thanked a store clerk who was working in the middle of the "oh it is going to snow and ice over" time we had here last week, I thanked her for working on should a miserable day and to drive safely. The smile on her face made my day! Litter words or gestures bring big rewards!! emoticon

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JUNEAU2010 1/9/2011 11:08AM

    We touch each other's lives in many ways, great and small. I am richer for those interactions and diminished when one leaves...

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GO-LOEW 1/9/2011 10:20AM

    You make my world a better place with your small comments on my activities. It is so nice to know that someone is paying attention to me.

My kitty just ran through the room, her little bell jingling. It put a smile on my face. I think many of the small gestures we make to fellow Sparkers, family, friends, or strangers we meet during our day are similar to the kitty's entertainments. She is totally unaware of her positive impact on me. She is just being herself. I think that is all we each need to be.....ourselves expressing ourselves in the world and we do indeed make the world a better place for others.

Have a happy day (once you get your sinsuses fixed up).

Merry

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MARCYNA 1/9/2011 9:08AM

    emoticon emoticonYou are important to me and your words have an impact on my way of living, plus I think you're adorable.
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HONORINGGOD 1/9/2011 9:04AM

    amen we are fearfully &wonderfully made but why ?to show God's glory as we interact with one another . so today i thank God for you&spaark people for making my world a better place to live.

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HDHAWK 1/9/2011 9:04AM

    All those little words and gestures do make this world a better place. I'm glad you're part of mine!

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HLPRATT 1/9/2011 8:58AM

    So many people make this world a better place in their own quiet way. And sometimes we just notice big grand gestures. What a shame.

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 1/9/2011 8:33AM

    I enjoyed this John. You do touch so many with your words, even if we don't always tell you. So, I echo your friend's sentiment.

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JESPAH 1/9/2011 8:18AM

    The world is composed of little thing, of small gestures and little whiles. Grand gestures are made up of smaller ones just as surely as galaxies are, at bottom, made up of atoms and quarks.

You are right -- there are no small things.

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Finding Peace In Difficulty

Saturday, January 08, 2011

Yesterday was my last chance to get a fitness class in for the week. I had intended to go to yoga Monday night and Joan reminded me we had a commitment. Wednesday I was planning on attending Upper Body Blast at three thirty. I got really excited. So did the client that called at three needing my help. Yesterday was going to be different!! I had a client visit in the morning. It was a two hour car ride each way, so I got up at five, showered, meditated, ate breakfast and headed out. I planned on being with them until noon and then a two hour car ride home put me back here at around two. Plenty of time for Lower Body blast at three thirty. (Thatís in the ideal world where I have a full head of hair.) The client had a laundry list. I didnít leave until around three. I donít need to detail the rest.

Last night I was one depressed John. I was looking forward to those classes and they didnít work out. The more I thought about it the more I realized I could do one of two things: I could stew in my own juices all weekend, get a mask and a gun, rob a bakery and soothe my anger, or I could look for a way to make peace with all of this because as the clean version of the old saying goes ďStuff happens.Ē

I have no control over the past and little control over the future but the present, right in front of me, is within my grasp. My schedule for the next two weeks is worse than this past week. There will be no chance to do any of the three classes I am interested in until roughly February 1. But what can I do? First I came to terms that my job is really nontraditional. Itís not nine to five, itís not always Monday through Friday, and as my loving wife will tell you it can be awfully difficult to make plans unless you put them on the calendar three months in advance. Thatís the life I decided to live. I love it and my work and Iíve been successful at it. However, it often gets in the way of my health journey. Itís hard for me to get a routine in place.

Light bulb!!!

I went to Target, found a nice calendar that I could carry around as well as a black pen and a red pen. When I returned home I copied my schedule for next week using the black ink. Next, I took the red pen and worked out an exercise schedule. I left some room to move things around should my schedule change. It gave me a chance to think about how Iím going to exercise the two days Iím in West Virginia next week. I found some peace. I realized that Saturdays and Sundays for the next six weeks are going to be dull, dreary and with little to do. Sitting right up the block is my gym and while I may have to nip and trim on my week day workouts I will have all Saturday and Sunday to get in a few good workouts. It sure beats the snot out of sitting on the couch and repeating ďDonít eat the cookies, donít eat the cookies.Ē I found some peace.

If someone told you this journey isnít difficult they lied to you. Itís challenging, difficult and often full of self-doubt and pain. Just ask anyone who has reached their goal. What I have found from following those people is that amidst the tempest in the tea pot, they found some peace and that peace helped them cope with the difficulties. I learned this past week that you canít sit around cryiní about what didnít happen. Go look at yourself in the mirror, smile and ask yourself ďWhat can I do today?Ē I did.

Iím headed to the gym. The past is well its past, LOL

  
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WALKNLOVE 1/12/2011 7:11AM

    Instead on donning your mask & becoming "Twinkie Killer" (haha), I am glad you chose to make a positive change. My husband always says, you can be part of the problem, or part of the solution. I am glad you chose "solution". John, put on the whole armor of Christ & your "Superman" clothes & be all God has called you to be! You know, to God, you are superman, because with Christ living inside of you, you can do all sorts of things you otherwise would not be able to do! Have a great day and thanks for the reflections!

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MARCYNA 1/10/2011 4:11AM

    Lovely lovely blog. It deeply resonated with me. You're focusing on your victories not on your losses, you deserve A++++++ emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SILLYHP1953 1/9/2011 8:12PM

    Have you checked out sparkpeople's exercise videos? There are MANY 10 minute fitness ones that really give you a workout. Some of them you don't need any equipment, some you need some hand weights and/or a chair, and some use the ball. But they made a real difference in my stamina and fitness when I was doing them regularly (the 28-day bootcamp) and it's pretty easy to fit in 10 minutes here and there, especially when you don't have to leave the house.
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GO-LOEW 1/9/2011 10:27AM

    You have a good plan going. What kind of work do you do?

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/8/2011 9:46PM

    You definitely have it going on!

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LET'S ROCK 2011~!

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GANASSI 1/8/2011 8:26PM

    I know what it's like to have irregular work hours: I'm a musician and it seems like it's feast or famine for me. I don't even have two days that are the same, let alone 2 weeks.

Since "mastering" the exercise part of SP (or rather embracing it), I wake up every morning and try to find a window of time to exercise (or better yet, plan it the night before). Some days it's possible, some not. I changed my goal from a certain amount of exercise every day or number of times a week (which I originally thought was reasonable - but then found this applied only to those with regular lives) to a certain amount every week, to be done as *I* can fit it in. Today I took a look at the past week and realized, "Zoiks, I have to burn almost 600 calories today - and I guess and that will take care of the 75 minutes..."

I'm grateful for the weeks I AM able to find gym time - just as I'm grateful for work. The couch is no place for me! Nor for you, it seems!

Keep up the good work - you'll enjoy those classes at the gym all the more when you finally get to them.

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RACINGSLUG 1/8/2011 3:46PM

    I love it when the story has a happy ending! Our attitude will make or break so much of our experience and our success. I'm glad you chose to keep going despite the setbacks.

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GETFIT2LIVE 1/8/2011 1:57PM

    Great solution, John! Stuff happens; life gets in the way of our plans sometimes, so finding ways to roll with the punches and still keep pressing towards our goals is all part of the process. Hope you thoroughly enjoy your gym time. How far you have come! If someone had told you a year or so ago that you'd be depressed over not being able to go to a fitness class all week, would you have believed them?

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JUNEAU2010 1/8/2011 1:03PM

    Life happens! Rejoice in those differently opening doors.

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STEELKICKIN 1/8/2011 11:35AM

    That's the ticket! What's that prayer?

God, grant us the...
Serenity to accept things we cannot change,
Courage to change the things we can, and the
Wisdom to know the difference.
Patience for the things that take time;
Appreciation for all that we have, and
Tolerance for those with different struggles.
Freedom to live beyond the limitations of our past ways; the
Ability to feel your love for us and our love for each other and the
Strength to get up and try again even when we feel it is hopeless.

It looks like you've found that serenity. Now take it and run with it.
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THOMS1 1/8/2011 11:30AM

    Yes, it's a real struggle everyday. Most days I can get my workout in with no problem but, then comes the week where I hear "Mom can you watch your grandson for a couple of days this week" of course I'm happy to do it but, it does interfere with our daily lives. Have a great week and I hope your successful getting your workouts in. emoticon

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CARTOONB 1/8/2011 11:04AM

    Robbing a bakery is a little extreme, but I get where you're coming from. Good job figuring out an exercise schedule that should work for you. BTW, I really like crullers. emoticon

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TIME4AFITME 1/8/2011 10:43AM

    Nice insight . Thank you so much as always!

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CBLANK20091 1/8/2011 10:05AM

  Once again, thank you so much for the kick in the butt I so richly deserve!
I always find so much motivation and wisdome from your blogs.
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CAHUNO2 1/8/2011 9:32AM

    oh John you are good!! Just the words I need. I am still fighting the Shingles pain (for almost 10 weeks now) and yesterday was one frustrating day and I came home from the new Dr.s and ATE! I hit SP this AM and can't stop thinking of food. But You are right - I can control today and I need PEACE. I've been calling it stress but I LOVE your word so much better! Thank You!! I will now look in my mirror and ask for peace.

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HDHAWK 1/8/2011 9:29AM

    You got it John! I've been thinking about getting my calender out for that very reason, but haven't done it yet. Stop thinking, start doing. I'm getting a student teacher on Tues. which will take more of "my" time so I need to lay out a plan. emoticon

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GREENCAT1 1/8/2011 8:51AM

    Nice insight as usual John!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 1/8/2011 8:49AM

    You got it: it's a constant struggle, but well worth it. Enjoy the gym! Me, I'm heading out for a run, praying that I experience no major pain.

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Twelve Things You Should Know

Thursday, January 06, 2011

My baby sister recently turned fifty and she sent me this email earlier this morning. I am not sure of the source and neither was she but I think it's some pretty good advice.


"For a lark yesterday, I tweeted 12 things that I wish I had known when I was 25. Maybe they'll help a 25 year-old person you know. Or you!

1.) So I'm 50 today, and I'm going to tweet what I wish I knew at 25. First up: Stop worrying so much! It's useless.

2.) Being a saint means being yourself. Stop trying to be someone else and just be your best self. Saves you heartache.

3.) There's no right way to pray, any more than there's a right way to be a friend. What's best is what works best for you.

4.) Remember 3 things and save yourself lots of unneeded heartache: You're not God. This ain't heaven. Don't act like a jerk.

5.) Your deepest, most heartfelt, desires are God's desires for you. And vice versa. Listen. And follow them.

6.) Within you is the idea of your best self. Act as if you were that person and you will become that person, with God's grace.

7.) Don't worry too much about the worst that can happen. Even if it happens, God is with you, and you can handle it. Really.

8.) You can't force people to approve of you, agree with you, be impressed with you, love you or even like you. Stop trying!

9.) When we compare, we are usually imagining someone else's life falsely. So our real-life loses out. Ie, Compare and despair.

10.) Even when you finally realized the right thing, or the Christian thing, to do, it can still be hard to do. Do it anyway.

11.) Seven things to say frequently: I love you. Thank you. Thank you, God. Forgive me. I'm so happy for you! Why not? Yes.

12.) Final 50 y.o. lesson: Peace and joy come after asking God to free you--from anything that keeps you from being loving and compassionate."

Hope you have a great day.

  
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STEELKICKIN 1/7/2011 10:53PM

    I think we would all be better off if we just remembered to do these things....most definitely, the headaches would be gone, the sadness and anxiety removed from our hearts and our shoulders would be freed from incredible weight. Amen, John, thank you and thanks for your sister for sharing these awesome words of wisdom.

God bless you and many hugs from me to you...
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MSSUNBUG 1/7/2011 10:11PM

    Amen! These are great!

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ANEPANALIPTI 1/7/2011 9:05PM

    WOW these are REALLY powerful!!! THANKS!!!!!

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MYOWNHERO 1/7/2011 5:05PM

    Your baby sister sure is smart! Happy birthday to her and thanks for sharing.

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CARTOONB 1/6/2011 9:57PM

    Oh...to go back and live with what I know now! And I'll probably be saying that again in the next ten years. Or even next year.

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/6/2011 9:40PM

    Great advice John.

Let's ROCK 2011!

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TIME4AFITME 1/6/2011 7:14PM

    Thank you for sharing. That is great I am going to keep a copy of that. Good to read at any age

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SILLYHP1953 1/6/2011 1:45PM

    How wonderful it would have been to have my 50 year old self come talk to me when I was 25, or better yet, 18. But would I have listened?

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IMREADY77 1/6/2011 11:51AM

    Wow! Thanks so much for sharing. I've learned allot from you, just from that blog. That's a real blessing to me. Thanks once again! emoticon

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KAT573 1/6/2011 11:06AM

    THANK you for sharing that! I especially love and have come to realize 7-12 and I am so GRATEFUL that I have! I am going to pass this on, if you don't mind, after I print it out!
HUGS

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2WHEELEDSHARON 1/6/2011 10:53AM

    How beautiful. The one about how our deepest desires are God's desires for us makes me remember that everyone is doing their best even if I don't think so!

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JAE_HENNINGTON 1/6/2011 10:31AM

  great wisdom...thanks for taking the time to post..Now if I can just remember these things myself

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EMTFF376 1/6/2011 9:57AM

    Holy cow. I turn 35 in a couple weeks and I should rewrite these on that day (with proper citation). The sooner we can live by these, the better... ESPECIALLY #1! I am a horrible worrier.

Thank you so much for sharing these. It seems to have come at a perfect moment in my life.

Hugs,
Janette


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GETFIT2LIVE 1/6/2011 9:24AM

    Wisdom seems to run in the family, John! Great list; thank you for sharing it, and thank your sister for us all!

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LIFEISSWEET2 1/6/2011 9:10AM

    Thank you for this great blog!

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KATHRYN1955 1/6/2011 9:01AM

    Thanks, John for this list. I have just copied it out and am going to go over it more slowly. I especially like #12.
Take care,
Kathy
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CAHUNO2 1/6/2011 9:01AM

    Great things to remember!! Several I need to think of each day. emoticon

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HOT4FITNESS 1/6/2011 8:58AM

    Thanks for sharing!

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CBRED1628 1/6/2011 8:53AM

  Thanks. I also favor number 8. Good advise for anyone at any age. :)

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MARCYNA 1/6/2011 8:39AM

    Hey, that's great----Particularly # 8 I have to learn by heart and repeat so many times to me....thanks to sis & you emoticon emoticon

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