Saturday, January 08, 2011
Yesterday was my last chance to get a fitness class in for the week. I had intended to go to yoga Monday night and Joan reminded me we had a commitment. Wednesday I was planning on attending Upper Body Blast at three thirty. I got really excited. So did the client that called at three needing my help. Yesterday was going to be different!! I had a client visit in the morning. It was a two hour car ride each way, so I got up at five, showered, meditated, ate breakfast and headed out. I planned on being with them until noon and then a two hour car ride home put me back here at around two. Plenty of time for Lower Body blast at three thirty. (Thatís in the ideal world where I have a full head of hair.) The client had a laundry list. I didnít leave until around three. I donít need to detail the rest.
Last night I was one depressed John. I was looking forward to those classes and they didnít work out. The more I thought about it the more I realized I could do one of two things: I could stew in my own juices all weekend, get a mask and a gun, rob a bakery and soothe my anger, or I could look for a way to make peace with all of this because as the clean version of the old saying goes ďStuff happens.Ē
I have no control over the past and little control over the future but the present, right in front of me, is within my grasp. My schedule for the next two weeks is worse than this past week. There will be no chance to do any of the three classes I am interested in until roughly February 1. But what can I do? First I came to terms that my job is really nontraditional. Itís not nine to five, itís not always Monday through Friday, and as my loving wife will tell you it can be awfully difficult to make plans unless you put them on the calendar three months in advance. Thatís the life I decided to live. I love it and my work and Iíve been successful at it. However, it often gets in the way of my health journey. Itís hard for me to get a routine in place.
I went to Target, found a nice calendar that I could carry around as well as a black pen and a red pen. When I returned home I copied my schedule for next week using the black ink. Next, I took the red pen and worked out an exercise schedule. I left some room to move things around should my schedule change. It gave me a chance to think about how Iím going to exercise the two days Iím in West Virginia next week. I found some peace. I realized that Saturdays and Sundays for the next six weeks are going to be dull, dreary and with little to do. Sitting right up the block is my gym and while I may have to nip and trim on my week day workouts I will have all Saturday and Sunday to get in a few good workouts. It sure beats the snot out of sitting on the couch and repeating ďDonít eat the cookies, donít eat the cookies.Ē I found some peace.
If someone told you this journey isnít difficult they lied to you. Itís challenging, difficult and often full of self-doubt and pain. Just ask anyone who has reached their goal. What I have found from following those people is that amidst the tempest in the tea pot, they found some peace and that peace helped them cope with the difficulties. I learned this past week that you canít sit around cryiní about what didnít happen. Go look at yourself in the mirror, smile and ask yourself ďWhat can I do today?Ē I did.
Iím headed to the gym. The past is well its past, LOL
Thursday, January 06, 2011
My baby sister recently turned fifty and she sent me this email earlier this morning. I am not sure of the source and neither was she but I think it's some pretty good advice.
"For a lark yesterday, I tweeted 12 things that I wish I had known when I was 25. Maybe they'll help a 25 year-old person you know. Or you!
1.) So I'm 50 today, and I'm going to tweet what I wish I knew at 25. First up: Stop worrying so much! It's useless.
2.) Being a saint means being yourself. Stop trying to be someone else and just be your best self. Saves you heartache.
3.) There's no right way to pray, any more than there's a right way to be a friend. What's best is what works best for you.
4.) Remember 3 things and save yourself lots of unneeded heartache: You're not God. This ain't heaven. Don't act like a jerk.
5.) Your deepest, most heartfelt, desires are God's desires for you. And vice versa. Listen. And follow them.
6.) Within you is the idea of your best self. Act as if you were that person and you will become that person, with God's grace.
7.) Don't worry too much about the worst that can happen. Even if it happens, God is with you, and you can handle it. Really.
8.) You can't force people to approve of you, agree with you, be impressed with you, love you or even like you. Stop trying!
9.) When we compare, we are usually imagining someone else's life falsely. So our real-life loses out. Ie, Compare and despair.
10.) Even when you finally realized the right thing, or the Christian thing, to do, it can still be hard to do. Do it anyway.
11.) Seven things to say frequently: I love you. Thank you. Thank you, God. Forgive me. I'm so happy for you! Why not? Yes.
12.) Final 50 y.o. lesson: Peace and joy come after asking God to free you--from anything that keeps you from being loving and compassionate."
Hope you have a great day.
Wednesday, January 05, 2011
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Wednesday, January 05, 2011
The more I share, the more I grow. The more I grow the more capable I become. To me, it's never been about getting, it's been about giving. A month or so ago I completed a process that will allow me to be a professional Life Coach. Took the necessary classes, passed the tests, etc. I have one requirement left to fulfill and I believe it's a good one. I am required to do Life Coaching with three people for free. In return those people can write a testimonial. These three people should not be friends or family.
The process involves evaluating yourself in five key life areas, choosing up to three of those areas you'd like to improve in, having a vision statement created for you and then setting a series of goals and objectives to reach those improvements. This is not therapy. As one of my instructors said "Therapy looks backwards coaching looks forward."
It's a great time of year to do something like this. So, I am offering three people the opportunity to work with me for approximately 5 - 7 hours in accomplishing the above tasks. When you are finished you will have a pretty clear cut set of goals to move forward with and I'll complete my certification.
What's required of you?
You must have a sincere desire to improve yourself. I'm like a personal trainer only I deal with the mind, heart and soul, so to speak.
You will have to verbally communicate with me either on the telephone or through video chatting. I prefer to use Skype for video chatting so if you are interested and not in the USA its not a huge obstacle.
Anything you and I talk about remains confidential. You might be contacted by the certification group just to verify I went through the initial process. There are no strings attached to this and I'm not selling anything. You would be helping me as much as I might be helping you. Actually I can't take too much credit for this blog it was Joan's idea. She thought it would be a good way of giving back to all who have helped me.
If you are interested send me a Spark Mail and I'll give you further details.
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